I can’t remember this song being that deep..

To my mom, who I lost to cancer in 2016. I know I was 26 so an adult, but inside I was still very much a child. And to my grandmother, who died 2 weeks after her. I miss you both. It's a deep wound that will never totally heal. We just learn to live with it.

2024 anyone?

I listened to this song on repeat in 2019, falling apart after losing my husband to an addiction. We were both addicted but I chose to get sober, though I begged him to stop he didn't. We soon grew apart, I felt every pain. There was no changing him there was only fighting. Soon the fighting became a fight to save my life. So many times I wanted to relapse just to be closer to him. I watched us turn into people I didn't recognize, he went missing and only his skeletal remains were found. Five years later, I'm still sober. I come back here to read the comments and hope to read stories with happy endings. Keep fighting, life is worth the living. God bless. 🛐🙏🏽💟

My son killed himself almost 7 months ago. He battled depression and anxiety for over half his life. He was in counseling with both a psychiatrist and psychologist. He turned 20 the day before. Please know that there are sadly some things that you cannot change. Take care and talk to others. Suicide is a horrible way to lose someone. It is so hard not to second guess everything. He clearly had friends that love him as you do. The memories and love will be with you always. I hope you find comfort in that fact. I’m going to listen to the song and release some sorrow before I have a friend come over. Read all the words in the video. And follow them.

I know: At the very moment I'm writing these sentences, there are already 82,012 comments to this video. I might be too late, because no one ever will read this. But I have to do this. For my brother. 13 years ago, I was 17, my oldest brother just got 30. (Disclaimer: I was always the little brother, of course. Always too young to hang out with the friends of my older "cooler" brothers.) But when I got 16/17 he accepted me as a real man. Brother. "semi-mature"-guy. From 2005 to 2007 we did a lot of things together. He invited me to his home. When he did this the first time, it was one of the proudest moments of my life. Hanging out with the real dudes. Wow. You can't imagine how proud I felt. :) In 2007 my brother had to go the doctor. He had breathing problems. Long story short: He was diagnosed with lung cancer. Incurable. His lung cancer was so "rare", even doctors from the US (Hopkins Medicine School? I'm not really sure) wanted to analyze his illness. (I swear: This is no bragging. This is just the truth and extremely sad.) He knew that he will die. We all knew. In the last months he made the best out of it. We both did. We played a lot of guitar and sang together. And so the circle is complete. :) The last song we played together was this one here. We both sang. And I played the guitar. I think we did it roundabout 25 times. We stopped because we had to smoke. Yeah, he had lung cancer. He shouldn't smoke of course. But in his last days he didn't care. Nevertheless, after the last repetition of the song and when we smoked the last cigarrette: I cried as fuck. He didn't. He was so strong and happy that we shared these last "drunken moments" together. We made the best of these last days. And now: After 13 years I can finally write about it. I love you, my brother. And I will never forget you. I promise. Jani, mach's gut. Ich liebe dich. Please folks, I don't need a like/thumbsup/whatever. But please dot it for my brother. So that maybe some other people will read this and give a little smile to my brother in heaven. Love you! And: Thank you, The Fray! (Sorry: I'm not a native speaker. Here are definitely a lot of grammar/vocabulary fails in the text.)

I'm not sure whats worse...the fact that the world feels empty without you....or the fact that I know I will never accept that you're no longer in this world.

Stop asking "who's listening" or "still listening", we never stopped listening

It's really depressing to see how many sad people there are around the world :( I hope everyone finds his happiness soon

"It's a beautiful day to save lives." -Derek Shepherd

Lyrics: Step one, you say we need to talk He walks, you say sit down, it's just a talk He smiles politely back at you You stare politely right on through Some sort of window to your right As he goes left, and you stay right Between the lines of fear and blame You begin to wonder why you came Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life Let him know that you know best 'Cause after all, you do know best Try to slip past his defense Without granting innocence Lay down a list of what is wrong The things you've told him all along And pray to God he hears you And I pray to God he hears you And where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life As he begins to raise his voice You lower yours and grant him one last choice Drive until you lose the road Or break with the ones you've followed He will do one of two things He will admit to everything Or he'll say he's just not the same And you'll begin to wonder why you came Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life How to save a life How to save a life Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life How to save a life How to save a life

My father passed away two months ago, and today is the first time I cried. Something about this song just hit me

The more you grow up the more you understand the lyrics of sad songs.

Teachers: “get in groups of 3” The 4th homie:

I lost a friend yesterday. Didn't see it coming. I wish I was there when he needed me. He always was for me.

I once lost someone I was sure I couldn’t live without. If you’re reading this please tell her,him,them that you love them . One day you will have to live without them or you will get lucky and pass away before them and anyway it goes you lose. Love them ,hold them , cherish every waking moment you have with them as long as you can . Good luck out there …

Praying for my brother right now hoping he will survive cancer 😞

I'm only 17 and this January I lost my dad from a drug overdose. I never knew he was doing drugs this was so sudden but he was the kindest dad ever, I guess he just had some problems, I love you dad I'll stay strong for you. EDIT: It's been three years since I posted this and the support and attention on this comment has been unreal everyone. I'm in a lot better of a place now than where I was back then, time is definitely one the best medicines. It'll always hurt to think about, but having good people in your life really is key. Keep going and don't give up, even if it seems that all hope is lost because things will eventually get better, which everyone's immense positivity help me realize. I can't thank anyone who left a kind comment enough for the sincere words, you guys have no idea what that meant to me I never expected this much attention. Thank you all so much and continue to stay strong!

Its April 2024, let's see how many legends are listening to this incredible song😉

💜2024 And this gem continues to shine 💖💎🔥

Why does this song hit differently 10 years later

"It's a beatiful day to save lives" Derek Christopher Shepherd. Miss that guy.

Every time I hear this song, it reminds me of when I was younger & my mom would always sing it word for word. I never really understood why it meant so much to her, but at the time… her best friend & coworker (Rhonda) she drove to work with EVERY SINGLE DAY got diagnosed with like a severe disease or cancer & was told she only has a few months to live. So my mom & her went on a cruise & they traveled a bit together before her untimely passing. It’s bittersweet cause now as a 27 year old I understand it more. I lost my best friend when I was 21 & my grandma when I was 25. I’ve lost over 7 friends unfortunately & this song just reminds me of all of them. It probably has nothing to do with anything I’m talking about or relates at all. But it cool how music is like a lil Time Machine & I can genuinely go back for a brief moment to remember when times were simpler. It’s funny how it somehow correlates to now every time.

Who’s here in April 2024

Every year i came back And every year this song hits harder.

The older we got the more we realized how deep the meaning of this song was.

10代の頃、大切な友達を自死で失いました。毎日悲しくて喪失感や悲しみを乗り越えられずにいました。 そんな時にこの曲を聴き、歌詞の意味を理解し、大粒の涙が止まらなかった。当時の自分の心境に寄り添ってくれた大切な曲です、私はこの曲に本当に救われました。 私自身も薬物中毒と鬱に苦しみました、いろんな心境とこの曲の歌詞がリンクします。素晴らしい曲、ずっと聞いています✨

Anyone who has lost a loved one to suicide or self harm, we all come back to this song and we will spread the message.

We are all not in the same boat..we are in the same storm. Some have yachts, some have canoes, and some are drowning..be kind and help when you can.

I remember when my close friend killed himself. It was the toughest time in my life. He was only 12 at the time and his dad really abused him, and some days he would go without food. I remember getting told about it and feeling devastated, but I felt bad about myself, I couldn’t stop thinking about what I could have done to help him, and it has for the last few years. I’m currently 14 and there is not a day that doesn’t go by that I don’t think about him. I’ll always remember his smile, and the time we got caught drinking beers in my garage. I loved you Tom like brother. I remember reading his note that he left out on the table before he left. All it said was “it’s not your fault. I just wasn’t meant to be here. Just don’t get beat up over me. You’re all better off without me.” Reading that cracked my heart. I wanted to tell him how much he meant to me, and how he was the brightest thing in my life. This was always his favourite song and he always listened to it in the morning on the way to school. Tom, I just want to say that wherever you are, I hope you fit in there, and get the love you truly deserved.

Reading these comments got me in tears. Peace and love to you all

I was a suicidal person before. I finally found hope, peace, and JOY in JESUS CHRIST! Depression sometimes still kicks in, but JESUS Gives me hope, not only in this LIFE, but also in the next life. 💗💗

my wife died 2 months ago, after a hard year with endless hospital visits, chemo therapys, operations, everything. she was only 30 years old. I love her so much and miss her every day. still dont know how to handle it, when the woman you love more than anything else die in your arms. everyone please stay safe and healthy.

Yes.

Suicide only passes your pain to others. stay strong 💪 you got this

2028 anyone???

I'm a psychologist who works mainly with teenagers with severe behavioural, emotional, and addiction issues. The lines about 'staring right on through' and 'pray to god he hears you' always hit hardest for me. Kids with a life of trauma; their whole perception of reality is warped. Whatever you say, they hear it differently. Whatever you point out, they'll have an excuse. The more you push, the harder they lash out. Some will become violent, some will act dumb and distract, some will cry, some just stare numbly at you and those are the hardest because they are the ones who learned nothing they do has power and they've given up. It can take years to get to the point that they trust you enough to even hear the words you say and believe them. I had one former client bring me a shotgun shell and tell me it was the one they were going to use to kill themselves after a really bad day. I didn't know it, but the thing that stopped them was me asking them to give themselves 24 hours before making any decisions. I keep that shell on my desk as a reminder that sometimes I can make a difference because too often I can't.

I was a teenage in middle school when this song came out! Now (2020) I have a wife and kids. TIME MOVES FAST ENJOY IT WHILE YOU CAN STILL BREATHE.

I’ve prayed to God so hard to die!! He keeps me here and makes me dream! I’ve actually quit praying to die now I pray to keep me strong so I can keep going!! It’s rough but I do it everyday!! Thank God for unanswered prayers!!

Life is hard. But you cannot let hardships hurt you or others. Things get better, way better, the smell of nice rain, the feeling of hope, kindness to others, no matter how hard it gets you will make it trust me your way stronger then what your going through trust me, have a good one and stay on top❤️

I'm not depressed. I just liked this song for years.

"the second you start blaming yourself for people's deaths, there's no coming back"

Who is listening to this masterpiece 2024? Amazing!

2024 anyone march❤?

My sister died on Thursday after a very long and difficult illness, this has been very therapeutic

"It's a beautiful day to save lives people" ~Derek Shepard

The Fray will never ever be the same without Isaac Slade. This song is indeed a true masterpiece. ❤

“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” -Audrey Hepburn

My grandma died recently. She was the only family left in my life. My father and mother died when I was a baby. Mother from cancer and father from a car accident. Grandma raised me and helped me go through the struggles of not having parents. Her dying left me feeling so empty. This song always brings me to tears. :'(

Id just like to stop everyone for a moment to leave you with this thought.. do you see all these connections in the comments? All of us have lost someone, and all of us are sharing, being sympathetic and expressing, relating to one another. The world doesnt have to be as cold as it is, if we simply remember were all living with our own stories, stories we dont know. Peace be with you on your journey. Peace. Love. Positivity. ❤️

Substance abuse is real. I was a meth addict. Went to prison for 5 years. I'm clean from meth since 2010. Now Im battling being a alcoholic. Please don't ever feel like you haven't done enough. If I'm not ready I'm not going to change. I do feel and see the.love snd my family and friends but I'm not ready to surrender. We love you for your courage to help but we dont have the courage to stop. God Bless us all.

People don't die from suicide they die from sadness

I lost my brother last February this year. He was just 15. I woke up and went home to his lifeless body. He took his own life. I can still remember how I fell down to my knees as soon as I heard that it was all real, screaming for help trying to digest the fact that he's gone, forever. Suddenly, it was all blurry. It's the pain in your heart that you can literally feel physically. I can cry for his name, but I can't utter any words no more. I can't describe how devastating that situation was. The only thing I know is that my tears keep on streaming down my face nonstop but I didn't care, I just want him to wake up. To tell me that he's fine. That he will stay by my side. That he won't leave us for that reason. It's unbearable. It made breathing a very tough thing to do. To anybody who's reading this, just a reminder in case your mind is playing tricks on you today: You matter. You're important. You are loved. And your presence on this earth makes a difference whether you see it or not.

I know there's a lot of comments about deaths and how they've impacted people, but I wanna flip it around, try and give some smiles. Its not a long story but recently I saved my bf from suicide, and its probably the best thing I've done in my life, not cause I get to have a bf but because I managed to save someone's life, that's not something you experience everyday (depending on your job). Unfortunately there's a lot who can't say the same for people they've lost, but you need to keep your head high and keep going forward, people truly die when they're forgotten, they may be gone but you can carry forward who they were and what they stood for, its the best any of us can do, but its better than losing hope, you need to stay positive in this world, or you'll lose yourself. I know a lot of that is cliche but someone out there might've needed to hear it ❤, stay safe

Xxxtentacion was my cousin, we were really close he used to love this song when we were younger he showed me this master piece. I will always cherish that moment I love you all

7 years Christian. 7 years since you took your life. 7 years since I've seen you. I would have stayed up with you all night if I knew the signs that were in front of my face. I miss you so much and I will see you when He let's me. High school wasn't the same without you and I will never forget you. I love and miss you so much Christian

I lost my daughter when this song came out, it played on the radio ,while leaving the hospital with empty arms ..this song has always brought me to my knees

Fray, when this came out I was homeless, on drugs, and in jail. Now I have a good job, a husband, and I’m healthy. This song and “Clover Cage - Miraculous” are the two songs that helped with my depression. I just want everyone to know that things will get better. We are in this together. I love you ❤😊

Jesus loves you all

If you're reading this, you're alive and I'm happy that you are if your reading this, you are alive. you are an amazing unique person and i’m proud of you.

almost 10 years ago, when i was still a teenager in highschool, being bullied by classmates was part of a usual day so i would make myself small and silent. All of this made a depressive teenager and it was getting darker as it went. I was losing interest in going to school. One day out of no where two people came and sat next to me (where i would always go during breaks) they sat next to me and lightly tried to engage a conversation, not wanting to engage i would continue reading. so they sat next to me and continued talking together. everyday they came and sat at the same spot, next to me, and they would talk together. After some time i slowly started talking to them, and in no time i had made new friends and my days were starting to become brighter. By doing this simple action they might have actually saved a life! one of the two became a very good friend. I am glad she was there for me, and to this day she does not know how her actions affected me in a positive way.

All I wish for right now is strength for all those who has something heavy going on. You're life is worth fighting for. I hope you choose to love your self when no one does.

some call it depression, I call it seeing the truth, something I can't ignore

This song is proof that music is life-changing/ life- saving.

RIP Adobe Flash Player. Everyone's childhood best friend.

Some battles are meant to be fought with someone, don’t be afraid to reach out

2024 this song still breaking my heart...If we only knew how much we needed to be there...God rest you cuz I miss you always 💔

this song never fails to give me chills

My best friend killed himself a week ago. He was only 17. I'll always regret that I couldn’t give him a hug and make him know how much he meant to me. If only I had seen what was in front of my face

RIP to my best friend Sammy🕊️ i love you........fly with the angels 🥺❤️you'll be remembered.....29.04.24......Chao and Steph 😊

⚠️your life is very important some of you guys dont even realize how important to someone you could be the most important person in the world to someone but you wont be able to see that because you dont think your important even tho you are everyone had importance and we all have purpose even if you dont know yours yet. remember you didnt come this far just to come this far❤⚠️

LYRICS Step one, you say we need to talk He walks, you say sit down, it's just a talk He smiles politely back at you You stare politely right on through Some sort of window to your right As he goes left, and you stay right Between the lines of fear and blame You begin to wonder why you came Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life Let him know that you know best 'Cause after all, you do know best Try to slip past his defense Without granting innocence Lay down a list of what is wrong The things you've told him all along And pray to God he hears you And I pray to God he hears you And where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life As he begins to raise his voice You lower yours and grant him one last choice Drive until you lose the road Or break with the ones you've followed He will do one of two things He will admit to everything Or he'll say he's just not the same And you'll begin to wonder why you came Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life How to save a life How to save a life Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life How to save a life How to save a life

This song goes to my friend and boss, Hugo, i hope you're okay in heaven. Covid-19 took his life, I miss you buddy!

Battling with depression & anxiety. getting help ❤ this song it got me thru some hard times. 2024

I hope someone on my family notices how hard to deal what I'm dealing with. I've been fighting for 5years with this and its getting hard

This is empathy 101. If a depressed person is suicidal it is never because he/she wants to die. Its just that living is to hard in his/her perspective. The art in saving someone is in showing them alternatives while starting from their perspective.

Heres the lyrics: Step one, you say we need to talk He walks, you say sit down, it's just a talk He smiles politely back at you You stare politely right on through Some sort of window to your right As he goes left, and you stay right Between the lines of fear and blame You begin to wonder why you came Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life Let him know that you know best 'Cause after all, you do know best Try to slip past his defense Without granting innocence Lay down a list of what is wrong The things you've told him all along And pray to God he hears you And I pray to God he hears you And where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life As he begins to raise his voice You lower yours and grant him one last choice Drive until you lose the road Or break with the ones you've followed He will do one of two things He will admit to everything Or he'll say he's just not the same And you'll begin to wonder why you came Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life How to save a life How to save a life Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life Where did I go wrong? I lost a friend Somewhere along in the bitterness And I would have stayed up with you all night Had I known how to save a life How to save a life How to save a life

When you lose someone you love more than anyone else, you lose a piece of yourself too

Omg. I've loved this song for years, and tonight I just got what the song means as I'm listening to it and it's speaking to me about forgiving a person I'm dating. So beautifully done you guys. The words of this song are universal and transcendent. Forgive, talk, open up, love, release... They're in the video. EXCELLENT!!

"It´s a beautiful day to save lives"

Lost one of my best friends to suicide 7 years ago. This song came out when we were in high school, and it reminds me of the good times we spent together. I unintentionally come back here once a year to reminisce, usually after midnight, when everything is quiet. Today is one of these days. Luis, wherever you are, I miss you man. I know life was a burden to you, but you are still alive in our thoughts. RIP

When I went thru depression & heavy drinking, I use to listen to this song to aid my ill behavior, but now it's a song of happiness for me since I've been in therapy !!! Check on your loved ones, bcuz you'll never know when you can save a life 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿!!!

i used to listen to this song around 2014 when i was a depressed teenager, and by the time i turned 18 i didn't even remember it's existance. i had a cousin who commited suicide in 2020. today i randomly remembered about this song and i am now watching this video on repeat and singing along while crying and i just miss him so much

You spend your childhood wanting to grow up, and you spend your adulthood wishing you were a child again

So... who else just randomly decided to start listening to old songs again?

2024 anyone?😊

Bottom line is you never know what’s going on behind closed doors with certain or most people always try to make life for people love care and cherish even in so little time at some point we’re all on the virge I’m doing something to ourselves or other people all because the life we had or how we’ve been treated most of our lives so just try to do your best with yourself other people

The saddest part of life is when the person who gave you the best memories becomes a memory

Reading all these comments with the song in the background really hits different...

My old man told me, this is when I was a kid you gotta keep your head up son. Always remember we all love you. Everyone is supportive and you always need someone when you're feeling down. So when I'm feeling flat I'll listen to this song. How to save a life its true. Never alone. 😊

I got the news today that I lost a friend. I didn't reply to their last text. I'm broken. This song hits different in 2024 when we're all grown and been thru sh*t

Everything was so much better when I was a kid

"It's a beautiful night to save lives, people. Let's have some fun."

Pray to God for Frey's lead singer Hope he knows Jesus

i remember hearing this at 10 and thinking of my mom and breaking down; now i’m 20 and i don’t think of her often or have a good memory, but tonight, i’m remembering her and the little girl that lost her mom to addiction. and im crying a lot

Hi everyone, Following my post 10 months ago. I would like to say I've beaten the cancer for the moment, following the forequarter amputation in February :) Thank you all for your prayers as they were what kept me strong and gave me the stamina to go on in life :) Love you all ❤️

This goes out to my best friend Jordan who lost his battle to depression and took his life last summer

If I would’ve just stayed when you asked man… I never saw it coming that night. I miss you all the time brother. Rest easy, I know you were hurting and the hurts gone

This song reminds me of an old friend who died of an overdose while we were on the outs. I often wonder if he'd still be here had I made different choices. The ones who pass on are released from pain, but we are left behind to live with the guilt.

"The second you start blaming yourself for other people's deaths...there's no coming back." "Yeah...you're right."