INFJ are their own “blind” spot. INFJs can effortlessly figure out the other, but to figure out oneself can be a painful task

Anyone else feel guilty that they're watching this to get an ego boost

One of the only KZfaqrs who actually understood INFJs. Refreshing.

Frank James would be honored

I'm an INFJ and while watching this video, my "this is stupidity" alarm remained silent.

My husband is INFJ and I am INTP. 25 years of marriage has taught me to trust his judgment implicitly. He is an inspiring man of unfailing integrity and everyone adores him. In his late 40s he became a chaplain to the Royal Marines. Never has a man been more well-placed in a role. Royal Marines are not famous for loving chaplains but they are lining up at his door. I think INFJ makes beautiful characters.

Not to convince, Not to lead, Even not to guide. Just radiate.

Tired of you "INFJs" holding back and not accepting your greatness.... infjs are humble in character but courageous in action. infj people are wise beyond anything I've ever seen being able to see behind someones social mask and pick them apart like a scientist in record time. infj people have this unique psychic ability to predict situations based on current trends alone scary but good scary.... experienced adaptable patient sincere just justified honorable generous diplomatic tolerant and long-suffering is the"infj" I sincerely love y'all

Needed that ego boost

I used to go to therapy for my depression and at one point I was getting the therapist to tell me his story and why he became a therapist and what his bad habits were, felt like I was the therapist. I was giving him insight and ideas that even he was amazed. Such a weird yet funny experience 😂

Recently, someone told me that my quiet strength is to leave someone better than they were before, and wishing I would return. This was a disarming compliment, and was confirmation to my core value to love others well even if reciprocation or validation aren't present. Thank you for this video, Nathan. Take care.

HIGHLY attuned to other people's emotions. Sometimes I can't tell when my emotions are my own or someone else's. Mentioned this to my INTJ dad and he's like 😐 ".....that's a thing?"

with a disarming gracefulness... what beautiful poetry, really

INFJs compared to open waters: "They're just waves on a windy day", response "Nooooo, they are the tide that raise the sea, beware of the ones who lower it."

Great video! I would like to add something to the "The Empowerer" part. I think INFJs know that while their abilities to be someone else's empowerer come easily to them, it can be very difficult for them to be their own empowerers for several reasons. They might not believe the advice they give themselves or feel that the subjectivity behind it cannot warrant a good result etc... Sometimes they can be disheartened by that because they feel that they lack the type of support which they offer others. I think mature INFJs who have a high level of self awareness can try to include their own selves among those they empower. This would enable them to take that extra step to accept that they are able to give advice to themselves and believe the advice.

"Ni boils a person down to their essence, often in the form of an archetype". Yes, I like this. That's exactly how my desire to figure people out feels, once I can connect that feeling of "they are the type of person who..." with them, it's like suddenly I know who they are and what they'll do next.

It is confirmed that a Jane Austen quote makes anything better :)

The true art of mentor-ship, teaching or guiding is to make the student self-sufficient. Another word for this is "kindness". Mr Nathan, you are amazing

Your tricks have backfired Nathan, all that talk about INFJs not knowing their own emotions apart from others have made me resistant to that emotionally manipulative intro haha! It's honestly very nice to see someone who acctually more or less understand INFJs on this level :)

I am a INFJ and I am married to an INTP, and I must say, out of all the personality types out there I feel the INTP understands the INFJ best. Excellent video as always!

I’m an INFJ and all of this is very true. Especially how we influence others subtly and being so empathic that we literally feel the other persons emotions. We see opposing views and opinions and still fully understand the other persons perspective and intent. Love your videos. My INTJ best friend even feels your videos are dead on, which is quite a compliment coming from an INTJ as you know lol.

Nathan: says "triumvirate" Me: *clicks like

Reluctant counselor 🙋🏾‍♂️

INFJ here. I so appreciate you Nathan. I feel like INFJs and INTJs are first cousins who truly get each other.

There was this new girl hired at our workplace yesterday. I didn't hear her say a word when i saw her - she was only listening what to do. But then there was this one moment when she spoke to tell her opinion. At that very moment my mind was like: "OH, she is that type of person, good to know". It took me literally seconds to know her character: I felt that she was stressed but she was hiding it under fake confidence. It's good though, because she made good first impression on everybody. I could feel she felt lost though. She will fit in, but she need good guidance. Any form of negative critique would make her question why she decided to work here. If the co-workers will be supportive she will feel good here. That's all she really needs. Yes I'm an INFJ. Don't judge the book by the cover" they say. But I did not judge her by her look though. I judged by her emotions and behaviour, her expression, the "vibe" she gave, how she respond, react.

"Human Whisperers," love it Nathan! -NFJ 💕🤣

Instantaneous understanding of others and their struggles, and then benevolent and gentle “reprogramming” begins. Intense drive to enlighten others to their own power and potential. In purest form, no ulterior motive whatsoever.

I've struggled a lot with my own personality, I'm so focused on understanding other people my whole life I've never really bothered looking at myself. People tell me "you are in more control than you think". Yeah, tell me that. Not only now am I trying to understand others, I'm also trying to understand myself. This involves stupid amounts of self-reflection. I'm in constant analysis of my own behaviour. Now I just don't know what option is really mine or whether it was subconsciously influenced by something else. After all, we are just an amalgamation of all our experiences and the people we've met on the way; as are they.

"Human Whisperer" -- I like that. AsuraPsych has touched upon this about INFJs as well. There is a stunning beauty in being able to help others in such a way to access an insightfulness about themselves; often, those we help may not even recall WHO it was that helped them. The subtle beauty of being invisible. Now as for mutual relationships/friendships, it is a bit different. It's good to see but also be seen. I still think it's wonderful to understand more than to be understood. For it is in giving that one receives and it is in losing one's life that it is found. (Obviously, use wisdom with this and don't be a doormat. Shining one's light is empowering to others; our example is most impactful)

INFJ's are also typically what is known as a HSP (hyper sensitive person) and I'd love to see you do a video that incorporates the science behind HSP's and INFJ's/empathic people. Mirror neurons play a big part in this!

As an INFJ, I enjoy your understanding of the INFJ, and your candid humor about us. You are spot on with “soft power.” Once at a dinner party, an astute businessman, (a self-made Billionaire,) casually observed as he said to me, “Yes...you are the consummate Velvet Hammer.” It remains my favorite compliment.

One thing I’ve always noticed and always appreciated is that when I meet someone and I hear how they talk or watch what they do, I immediately compare that to a character on a tv show or to someone I’ve met who acts just like that and it tells me who I want to be around who I should just stay silent around.

Thank you for empowering the empowerer :)

(INFP) I'm in love with an INFJ. Oddly enough, I have nothing to seek her council for. Perhaps I've done enough self work to not warrant needing it. It gives her room to breath and just be. Something I doubt she is allowed the luxury to feel during the course of her regular life. I can see her staring off distantly between sentences and thoughts at times, then returning with waves of insight and a path forward! I allow her to think out loud without judgment and in turn she allows me to be passively validated. Imagine that, two introverts appreciating each other non directly. As an INFP, I've accepted my lot in life. This is the IDEALIZED version of a partner I have/will ever come across in life. Even though (as a healthy INFP) know this is not the truth necessarily, I'd be damned if it wouldn't be one of pinnacles of life if it didn't come to fruition. Lu/Nathan, thank you for allowing us the space to rant. - P

To make the student self sufficient, for them not to need me, is the exact goal for me, the ultimate ideal. How are you so perfect at these summarizations?

I like hearing about how awesome I am!

"The Empowerers", I like that a lot. I think that fits the way I operate best. I often try to help people find who they truly are and make them reach the potential I see in them. I love to see them get on a roll and start making some real accomplishments in their life that make them feel empowered. It doesn't happen as often as I would like but I have helped some people make some real leaps. Excellent way of explaining that my brother. 👍🕊️🌌🤙

As an INFJ, I am so amazed at the insight you wield. I am older, and so I understand myself and how I work and how I find myself guiding, or rather, how others come to me for guidance. I find it mind boggling that you can speak so precisely on such matters. Amazing content and channel. Always a joy to see a new video show up from you.

As an INFJ, I looove this video! And it’s sooo true. TYSM

My older sis is an INFJ and I definitely see her as that reluctant counsellor 😂😂😂 Love these vids and I'll definitely get her to subscribe tho 👌🏾👌🏾

Feeling the Fe "vibe" is just something that happens; there's no helping it (automatic). But the preference (at least for me) is to spend more time and attention in analyzing (Ti). I personally resonate with third function being my preferred (compared to second), but the second function serves as the "authority" (responsibility) that keeps the third function "in check"

You know, this somewhat make sense. I've had conversations with people where I would share my views on a topic and later, I will hear those very same people (during other conversations) talk as if that was originally their thought process/belief. This has always mystified me and leaves me feeling a little underappreciated...so it helps knowing that they are not doing this consciously!

I sent this to my son because he is the most amazing INFJ I have ever met, our whole family goes to him for advice, he is very wise.

2.28. The best thing I heard you say about INFjs. This is 100% "me", and what I want for people. They shouldn't need me or anyone else "long term". Just a "guide", empowerer (my own word in this particular comment!) indeed.

A box full of thank you cards from individuals that were once part of my life's journey, helped them figure out their problems during that time and letting them continue (setting them free) on in their life's journey.. The card of appreciation usually comes much later as a surprise after their realization of what happened and how a difference was made in their life..

I have seriously struggled finding the right way forwards, Teacher, Leader, Educator, Instructor etc. NO, Guide. I did discover this recently, but you have solidified this. it feels incredibly right. very true and resonates in a very specific way. Much appreciated

Life is all about finding the essence of things and what makes them great. From the skyscrapers to the tiniest organism it all seems like a sympathy constantly playing the world around me.

I am an infj girl & my main problem which I'm continuously trying how to cope with it ,is- Nobody even my mom dad understand why I talk with myself 😑They think I'm kind of become mad/or having mental issues. 😒 I hope I don't have to mention it to any infj freind . It's just so simple & so inevitable that I don't even know how to explain this why it happens !! But it happens form my childhood. I feel terrible if someone misunderstands me , specially when it's my Dad /my mom .😥😢

It’s actually got to do with your character. That is the most essential and important thing to one’s life next to who you truly are.

Reluctant counselor is very accurate. Well done.

Nate appreciation comment: I like the combination of hair and shirt. And it was already time you made an INFJ video. Despite having several out there, it is much better when you make them, since you always do a great job on pleasing my Ni-Ti-Fe with extremely logical insights on people patterns. Some would say it is the Genius of Nathan.

Nathan! U really understand us INFJs too well. Amazing work :)🌹...

INFJ here. People think I spew words of wisdom every single time I open my mouth. They don't know that I talk to myself and "rehearse" my conversations ahead of time.

2:20 "Build a man a fire and he'll be warm for a day. Set a man on fire and he'll be warm for the rest of his life". -Terry Pratchett

Hope to see more on INFJ man. You are very insightful on "us", unlike most, in a special way. I could have hours of discussions with you on these matters, and probably more if you were a fellow Swede.

late to the party but recently discovered your channel and binge watching. Excellent content, keep it up. I am working on maturing my INFJ strengths and proclivities. What I have found to be very helpful in balancing is: 1 - not internalizing and feeling responsible for everyone's feelings (this does not apply to my friends and family, the important relationships). I mean my barber telling me everything that is going on while they cut my hard. This has been really hard but very liberating and powerful on days I get it right. I don't stop empathizing or caring about others. I just stop feeling responsible for everyone's feelings in the room. I still listen, consult, and help to the best of my abilities but now I don't spend an hour helping someone then another hour ruminating and stressing on their negative feelings and how I should've done this or that differently. 2 - just getting started with stuff and not being a perfectionist. I don't know everything and have everything planned to study or develop a new talent. I know enough to get started and will learn along the way. This is really hard for me.

Man im super sensitive to everything physically, mentally, and spiritually

As an INFJ, I agree, we can feel other peoples deelings. But funnily enough, when I was depressed and emotionaly detached, and going thru internship in psych department, I exhausted the manic bipolar patient I was interviewing to the point of him giving up talking to me.🤣

Well put my friend. To help this channel out since I am already a subscriber, I took the liberty of giving this video two views . 😜

I’m an INFJ and we are like that one friend who gives relationship advice but doesn’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend

Please make a video about The wisdom of the ISFJ, as a young INFJ who has an ISFJ Mother I can tell that ISFJ's are more analytical and wise than they appear , her influence made me develope my empathy a lot.

Am infj from india, subscribed as soon as i saw the Gandhi quoting" true power does not come from physical capacity but an indominable will" 😂

It's hard for me to know if I am really good at counselling or guiding others because it is rare that I am close enough to anyone for them to rely on or come to me for help. That said I remember my French teacher telling me when I was graduating that I have a 'quiet confidence', and I think that aligns with what is said here

I have definitely used “indomitable spirit” in a bio or two. There is a sense that no one can get the best of me. The best is always yet to come and, hell, I don’t even know what that looks like for me! I curate my words very consciously as I understand the implications of the messages we send using our words. I make sure that I am sincere, genuine, and giving my full attention when talking to someone. I like to make them feel like a whole person when I interact with them. They are not just dots on paper, they are multifaceted multidimensional human BEINGS. People are not cardboard cutouts, there is always a depth and a projection and the current circumstances to account for. I try to treat everyone personally as I cannot ever see them as less. I am patient with new employees taking my order, I am accommodating toward those with disabilities; I have an almost obligation to offer assistance to someone who needs immediate help. I customize my interactions to be as perfectly tailored to the other person or the atmosphere/spirit of something. Of course this leaves me feeling a sense of no identity. I have to make conscious effort to take time to myself and do what I enjoy. There is conscious effort in separating my feelings from others’ and also what hobbies and things I derive pleasure or pain from. I want to know myself and turn myself inside out. All along the way this gives me insights into others and how to treat other people. I also feel like I guide people to their best selves and I often feel like I’m the “conscience” of other people. I’m asked for advice during moral dilemmas and people want to know what I would do. I have learned to point things back toward them so as you say, I empower them and diminish any reliance on me. I often have people enter my life when they are undergoing life altering circumstances or difficult life transitions. We somehow lose contact when they’ve gone through it or learned coping strategies. Most of my life centers around helping people become their best selves as I have been through a lot of adversity and somehow overcome it in a way that seems to inspire others. I don’t know what I’ve done differently, nor do I feel like I deserve the amount of praise or admiration I get. I genuinely like to see people happy and thriving. My Personal life is much different though, as I often make do with what I have and rarely attempt to improve things. Hoping to find a balance soon, but perhaps I’m meant to navigate life’s storms so that I can offer shelter to others when it’s their turn. Love, infj female

I haven't forgotten how i love this channel❤

This is such a good video. Thank you.

This is awesome! I really don’t hear this that often.

Great video, thank you! 🌟

This is a wonderful video and your expressions are so beautiful ❤ you truly understand us ! And we get overjoyed when we find people who understand us on such a deep level ! Thank you Nathan

You are so awesome to learn to know Infj and for demonstrating it 😎

As always: great content. Please keep it up!

Great video there is no better way to explain infj Beautifully and brilliantly done my friend

Love this video! Thank you for making it,and could you please make more?

You make me chuckle... can't not hit the like button. Nice one fella, your a top bloke.

Great analysis! 👌🏻

We also take into consideration how every people feel about certain situations instead of just our own.

Yes, I noticed your neglection. You better make ten INFJ videos in a row now.

Once you have honed the skills of quietly manipulating people, you become excruciatingly aware of your capacity for evil- and have to constantly and consciously control it.

Perfect Nathan, thank you 🥰

Loved this!!! Wanted more!

Your videos are amazing and your literally the best person to describe the personality types especially INFJs And when you said we like to empower people and best way is to make them “self sufficient” thats 100% true. I believe that strongly, best way to make lasting change in people therefore the world is to empower them to be self sufficient and self aware.

Awesome video Nathan, as always. Very accurate

Brilliance. This is a good one, good work Sir!!

Loved this vid!! Would definitely like to see more!!

Absolutely love this video. Your understanding is very clear and you explain the infj personality so well ! ❤️

As an INTP I can appreciate the power of Ti and Fe. I think if I had Ti, Fe and Ni in my top 3 functions I could rule the world assuming my head didn't explode.

no matter how often i disapprove myself of an infj, these kinds of videos always convince me i actually am o_O

came here for the compliments. thanks!

Very good you reeled us in...you knew it would work and it has; I was already subscribed but now I’m paying more attention haha.

It worked, I've just subscribed 😁 This was excellent and I always enjoy your content by the way.

This is a great and concise video about the peculiarities of the INFJ. Thank you for making it so clear. Hope you have/make these kinds of videos for every type!

Ive always said as a parent our #1 job is to prepare our kids for the day we aren't there to teach them to stand on their own

Very nice video keep up the good work

Niceeee, thanks for letting me know what I'm capable of

Your channel is gunna be big man nice video brah

I recognize your cleverness in gaining subscribers by each type... It still works. Makes me giggle. Of course I was following Luanne (sorry if misspelling) a few years back anyway 😜

Ik this is an INFJ ego boost but as an ENTP,I need to humble myself real quick

Thanks, Nathan! I think a critical component of the INFJ personality to mention is the “prescience” of Ni (introverted intuition). The ability to foresee the future, is a mostly unconscious process. As a fully developed INFJ, Se (extraverted sensing) acts as the real time (conscious) “gumshoe detective,” perceiving almost every detail of physicality and nuance of intent. Now, it’s (Ni) about 80% accurate (No, I’m not always right, but ….). Oftentimes the “answer” is evident on the spot, but I’ve known Ti (introverted thinking, my 3rd function) to take days or even weeks of active cogitation, analysis, calculation, contrariness, counterfactual, listing, strategizing, obsessive rumination even, and all of a sudden … perhaps I get a clue or a reminder of the problem, say, while reading, or lying in bed, and … boom … there’s the answer (from Ni), seemingly out of thin air! “Aha!!” and, “Of course!!” I liken the Ni prescience as the equivalent of the mythological ancient Egyptian “all-seeing” Eye of Ra , or, the “Eye of Sauron” from 'LOTR.' Or another interpretation is my own appellation - “quantum MBTI” -- that is, the Eye of INFJ (outside time and space?!) can view past, present, and future events (simultaneously!) in terms of the ultra-smallest unit of spacetime, the Planck unit, where life experiences pass like the individual still frames of a movie reel. Or “quantum tunneling”, one of four theorized quantum events … this one where pre-existing spacetime, perhaps over billions of years (or eons!) burrows through the ‘brane’ or boundary zone between universes and through time and randomness, “tunnels” through to the “other side” and >BOOM< The Big Bang -- our universe was born. Out pops the (INFJ) answer! When composing an email to friends of acquaintances, as a goof, I’ll start off the sentence … “Eye want to tell you something …" The other aspect to this foreboding or premonition, happens consciously as the INFJ when “confronting” a future (dreaded?) social, job, or interactive relational event will “bake" the problem (with Ti), ahead of time and commence planning, and planning and more planning. Essentially what we are doing is “knowing the future” because we PLANNED it! Woe to anyone in proximity of an INFJ when things DON’T go exactly according to plan(!). Eye hope this helps understanding. My secret power, you know. And, because of this "mental recording” of events and comments, INFJs, should they decide to go dark and manipulative, have it ALL … “up here.” Enough to pick you apart, down to bare bone. Ray: “Never cross an INFJ.”

Once you started talking about "The Empowers" down to "Empath" is the only time I related. Not so much in the start of the video. I very much lead. I don't like to be in the spotlight when I lead, so I would eventually have little leaders everywhere to lead in my name, but, nonetheless, I lead because I believe that, even though you give the person a sense of guiding them, making them believe you are only a guide while you are actually leading them since they still need to be leaded in order to not get lost or else it is a waste of time. Hierarchy! Hierarchy!

as an infj imma make a damn good psychologist one day. but that day isn't today, because I'm so burnt out and I don't feel like myself or these powers very strongly at the moment. It's easy to be there for others until you feel like you have nothing left to give. but thank you for this video, it's a reminder that that part of me is still there even if somehow hidden right now haha