A big salute to the father’s raising children on their own . I give credit to where it’s due. I use to go to school with a girl who’s father raised her on his own he was a great man to her . I never heard her speak of her my mom it was always “ my dad “ . Coming from a two parent home I never understood the single parent thing until now . I’m a single parent of two young toddlers no it’s not a easy thing and single mothers do get a lot of praise but I’m here to tell all of the men raising their kids single or married you all are really kings and continue to claim your thorn God bless .

I made mistakes and my daughters mother kidnapped her away. For 10 years I spent everyday living for the hope I would get the chance to have her in my life again. Becoming the best version of myself I could for her. And, now I am taking over full custody after having primary custody for a year. Don't ever give up hope!

This made me cry. My boy was 5 when his mother left us, now he is 12. Its 7 yrs of living in emergency mode for me, i just hope and pray that all the beautiful kids of this world be safe and happy, there is nothing more precious than them

I'm a proud single dad and my kid is always with me.Thank God!

my 22 yr old son is raising his 19 mo. the mom is gone away. he has full support from his parents but we all work, so he takes her to sitter goes to wrk, picks her up after n cares for her, puts her to bed n does this 5 days a week, on weekends he has no sitter so he doesnt go out w friends, he has none! he keeps her all weekend. so he is mom n dad both. He is doing an amazing job n i could not be more proud of him. but he does get down sometimes, so please pray for him. He is just the best 22 yr old mom n dad ever!! n his baby girl loves her dada!!!

My wife died. The reality is this for me is a better situation than seeing my kids being introduced to daddy number 2. I am right here.

My daughter is 6 and I have been a single dad for 4 years now. I have half custody and my ex and and I don't see eye to eye on anything. Her house is do whatever you want, go to bed late, eat junk food and my house is structured and focused on development. Needless to say, my daughter prefers her mom's house. Aside from that, the toughest thing I work through is my own self identity . My life revolves around my daughter and providing for her. I don't even find pleasure in things I use to be attracted to, like traveling and dating, sports, etc. When I don't have my daughter I come home, sit down and don't know what to do with myself and most of the time I just go work. Your video really resonated with me on several points.

Just a reminder: there's a big difference between a single father who is raising his children full time, and a dad who only has his kids on the weekend and just happens to be single.

I did it for 5 years with a 7 year old and a 15 year old , both daughters . It was a hard time ! I had full custody

I’m a single dad but I couldn’t feel less like a dad. My daughter was born last October and the mom and I were never together, more or less a one night stand. She’s keeping me from my daughter every way she can and it’s been well over half a year since I’ve seen my daughter. I’m going through the legal process now of trying to get into her life and it’s honestly taking it’s toll. I have no one to vent to about it that truly understands because my parents were together the majority of my life. And while I feel I know what I like and who I am without her it’s the fact I don’t know the person I can be with my daughter. I feel like I’m missing her grow up and time is flying. Just needed a vent. Don’t know how else to get it out

I have so much respect to single dad's , my dad has been one for 10 years of my oldest sister. Then he met my mum who put my other sister and me on the world . However she constantly went on 'vacation' fooled around and didn't even want us. My dad taught me even all the girl stuff I needed to know and used to brush my hair . My mum had a hairdresser cut it all off . Because of her I wore ridiculous clothes on one school photo and bullying got worse. Dad was furious and so he chose and bought us clothing instead. Single fathers and those with an emotionally abusive spouse are in my eyes God given .. they're always there when you need a hug and someone to talk to. Sending much love to every single one of you guys.

Sort of going through this minus a couple differences. Luckily for me I have my beautiful daughter in my life fulltime as her mother passed in October 2020 due to drug addiction. Everything this man has said rings true minus the situation of losing children in a custody battle. Stay strong dads , our children need us in their lives no matter what. Dont let you other ex rule your life as well as your children's. Do the right thing and the truth shall prevail. Sending good vibes to any single father watching this today , feeling lost and uncertain of the future!

Being a single father of a girl child is tough. Been 5 years now and don't know how many its gonna to be. Sometimes it's the best feeling and on the other hand - "Why Me?" I haven't lost hope but don't know how long I will be able to pull this off...

Broke up with the mother of son today. I needed to hear this

If you’re here , you’re a strong and hard working father💪remember that brother

Made me tear up instantly.. exactly me right now..

As a 21-year-old single dad, this hit home. I see him 2 days a week and constantly feel like it's not good enough and that I'm not good enough. I feel like a failure so even when he is here I spend my days in a depressed state

I’m going through the same thing brother!! I’m trying to take the leap the best I can!! I have soul custody of my “irish twins” boy and girl for three years now!! They are 5 and 6! It’s so mentally hard! But then again so rewarding!! Which I knew you bud!!

Started the single dad last week. I’ve been feeling all of this.

Shit.. im in a toxic broken marriage trying to prepare to walk away and this is making me even more empty.

I have listened to your video over and over again for hours now because it’s hit me so hard! The first 30 seconds actually made me break down because it’s exactly how I feel! This video is exactly how I’ve been feeling and what I’ve been going through for the past year and a half!

I’m going through this with a spouse who was unfaithful. While I’m trying to cope with not seeing my son who I consider to me my world she is telling lies about me to family and friends who unfortunately believe her without asking me anything. She is making me out like I am a bad father and I don’t tell anyone the truth about her because I don’t want to put my 6 year old son in any stressful situations. I’m struggling hard with only seeing him for a night a week while she , The lier , the cheater , the evil gets to have all these memories with him . I’m lost! 🤦🏻‍♂️

This is a space for single dads. Huge props to you all for doing it every day. Remember to take time for yourself if you can

Went thrue everything you just talked about. I regained full custody of my precious daughter 2 days ago. We live in a world where the loser can win and the winner can lose so badly. Dont ever give up hope.

I’m a single dad of five kids trying to sort out the mess of a situation after divorce. I’ve got sole custody of them and I have had to take time off work to take care of them. I’ve managed to make a bunch of progress, climbing 30 K out of debt, no longer having to visit the food bank after we were financially devastated. The difficult thing is trying to get back into a routine that works, trying to get back to work and figure out a way to take care of the little ones when I can’t be home for them. It’s difficult to because I find as a man you get very little sympathy. Most people are like well you know it’s your fault for choosing her. I’ve had to deal with the pain of the person I once loved and thought I knew turned out only to be a façade of who she really was. Life is better now, and we are getting back on track however the logistics of trying to maintain work and caring for the kids all at the same time is Massive.

I am single parent (father)raising my son since he was 2 yrs now he is 3.5 yrs.i always want his happiness 😊😊

You adjust to it. I was a single dad then the mom came back and the court gave her a couple of overnights. I do fine being single dad of 2 children. It's not that hard.

Newly single Dad of twin 5 year old boys. Lifes not turned out like I expected. But im raising 2 future Kings so I need to be a King myself

I would never hatefully take custody from my ex wife. Like others who hate women and children might.

You stay strong and be MEN brothers. You carry that damn burden....no matter how hard or unfair. Why? Your kids will carry it if you won't. They will blame themselves and hate themselves. The system is garbage yes, and unfair...but your sons and daughters, they are caught in the trap....often a helpless trap that ignores their quiet little voices. Do all you can to help them. Don't worry about your ex-wife. Yep, she moved on (they ALL do with little to no consequence), she is irrelevant. It's the kids. THEY didn't want you to go...THEY don't understand why mommy is trying to replace you. They have no clue why they can't can't see you....it's her. It's not their fault...do what you can kings. Just DON'T GIVE UP.

My wife of 16 years and 48 days officially divorced me on July 20th. I’ve been on my own for about 3 weeks now. I did not want the divorce. I did not cheat but I did not love her as good as I should have. I had depression up until 2 years ago when she filed on me. She would cry asking me to get help and it never registered in my brain. Not until something drastic changed my life. I hate myself for it everyday and feel sad even when I have my girls with me. I can’t stop thinking of my ex wife. Crazy thing is, is that the last months together we finally got our marriage right. We were showing love and respect and putting the other first. It was all so natural. So much so that she wasn’t sure she wanted me to move out. Now that I’m out she is more standoffish. She says she is happy. I know I’m not. And not sure if and when I will be. I’m mentally exhausted by the end of the day and the pain is so bad. I would not wish this on anyone. Trying to stay strong but I question myself sometimes on how long I can maintain this. Just keep trying to be the best dad for my girls and remind myself it will be worse for them if I was not here.

This is me right now, the fear of the unknown. Same situation as you brother, everyday i told myself why do this happens to me. But we have to man it up for our daughter. We have to be strong amidts the strom and face it. We have to be a father.

Wowwww.. Jeeze, You spoke such absolute truth, awareness - almost as though you were telling my own very story.. Very much appreciated - Heavvy applause.

I really needed this.

I'm a 24 year old single father with a 5 year old daughter i have no idea where the mom left to . I ve been depressed since I was 13 but now the depression is much worse since I've just recently became a single father life is heavy dude 😕

Yes, it is hard to be a single parent, especially when you have no help from anyone. I am a single father to my 11 months old daughter and no matter how hard I try, it is not at all easy to find a job from home. Through all this hardship that I go through when I look at her, I know that it is worth it.

LEMME JUST WIPE THESE TEARS.....thank you. i needed this today on christmas eve, Kings stay strong.

I have full custody of my daughter. She hates to see me leave and go to work. It hurts me the most. So I’m starting my own business. Problem solved….

Be true to yourself. There is a good father inside despite all the flaws. It is inherent. Learn your own truth. Be Daddy.

This seriously made me cry, as a single father this really hit me..

Man this hits hard. I’m weeping. I’m a recovering alcoholic rebuilding my life and trying to be the best dad I can be. The mother of my son is the love of my life and knowing I’ll have to miss out on vacations, some holidays, and all that other good stuff is heart wrenching. Being around my son makes all those sad thoughts melt away. I can only hope I can learn to cope and ‘get over it’ with time.

Just the other day I saw an article reading that Single Fathers are always praised and mothers are shamed. When?! All I see is how single mothers are amazing, which they are, but hardly anything on fathers. Some of them even gave Fathers Day to mothers…

Just became a single dad I could do get to see them every day for 3 hours but it got to work two part-time jobs that don't pay anything and you do just lose your identity when they leave you got nothing left and they're there they're great

I feel you on the loneliness and the lack of support and the judgement from others. I am going through a divorce, there is no one in the world I can mention it to, my family has been shaming me, I do not feel safe around my very family. So I workout, pray, and build my company. Luckily I don't have any kids at the moment but this experience made me realize. there is a crazy world out there, and you gotta be careful about how you approach life. I send you all the love in the world, brother. Stay strong.

I was a single dad of 2 rambunctious boys. I got sole custody in 97, when they were 2 & 4yrs old. It was tough and i was a solo longhaul trucker. Running SC to CA and back, nearly 3 times a month. Hiring a nanny was expensive but they went w/me in summer. It was hard on me and I pay for it physically now. But wouldn't change a thing, if i had it to do over. Being their dad kept me focused and made a better man of me.

I may not be a single dad or a man at all or a parent for that matter I'm actually not even an adult but to all you single dads out there working hard for your child/children. I wish you the best because I know my father figure is the best man I've ever had the blessing to be around and to learn from.

First of all i salute ur decision being a single dad its never be easy.. i must believe u did great job be postive and control ur emotions make a plan how kids are grown.. its a journey how they build up with ur love and affectionate..

2 years later just hit me so hard I don't know what to say this made me feel so bad about myself but I'm so grateful of what I have I don't know if you guys understand what I am coming from everything that I have been through I just want to be the best single dad where I've come from and I don't know it just makes me feel so much more powerful from this message this message has made me feel so much more positive and being a single dad I just want to make my son's life more positive from what I have endured thank you

Thank you. I needed this tonight 👑

The sad thing is, that this only has 5000 views and 30 comments. Men go through the same struggles and have the same feelings as women. But the difference is that society says we can't show it, and it's so f***** up as a single father myself to look at this video and realize that this is the only way that I can get emotional. I can't even talk to my friends about this because of the judgment

Got sole custody of my two kids boy and a girl my daughter was a victim of a child abuse while with her mom and new boyfriend.. my kids are Native American so they're protected by the Indian Child Welfare Act therefore I had to fight the tribe for sole custody...I did and won...God is great but but as an ex street guy who's been thru a lot it's by far the biggest and hardest responsibility I have ever had and I thank God everyday for having the privilege of being in these guys life...I wouldn't trade it for anything

This hit me so hard . Im deployed right now and as soon as I deployed it feels like my wife just used it to leave me . I question my self worth. I want to end my life cause i feel like a constant disappointment. To my wife , my daughter , my friends and just me. Ive tried to be a good husband and a good father but everyone shits on me . I just avcept it and laugh it off but deep inside i want to curl into a ball and leave society. It feels as if I have 0 self worth. My daughter was my purpose for living and now that im deployed im detached for my only reason living. I hope i can move on with this and be proud of who i am in a few months but rn i just wanna end it all. At the end of the day who loves and appreciates a single father ?

Thank you! I went through everything you describe here. I have a lot left to do but I came through it stronger and full of gratitude. Thank you for showing me that I am not alone. Thank you for sharing.

You hit me right in those words. This hurts but I needed this. Thank you

I’m a single father of 3 and I’m now financially struggling so I was KZfaq solution i stumbled on this video and it helps me to know someone else has gone thru this and understands the way I am struggling the way my struggle effects my strength and mind set my fears thank you

I can't stop crying just missing my little girl

As a single father of a 2 and 3 year old I am devastated the mother cheated on me with her boss.. its ok she wanted to move on .. its been a year and my kids have always wlbeen with me .. she dint ask for them or care for them it was always me .. now she is filling for child support ... and the system will probably help her ..even now she's not taking the league.. how do I show court I am fit...

I'm a single dad. She keeps him. She is really difficult to talk and manage my sons time money and events. Man it sucks, specially when im actually trying to be active in my sons life.. the drive home after dropping him off. At least she gets nights and can cuddle him everyday. On my down days, it's just me. It does sucks for us the ones that are actually trying...

Being a single parent is always difficult but it becomes easy when you have your parents by your side.

Been pretty stressful, due to recent circumstances my daughter which is 8 years old is now living with me full time. I also work a full time job, this isn’t going to be easy. Any other fathers out there with similar situations?

In a bad spot right now and you’ve hit it All on the nose,made me break down a bit during this,thanks so much

this made me cry within the first few minutes so powerful

I needed to hear this. THANK YOU!

Thank you for this video. I really needed this.

Im a single father i have a two month baby it come with all kind of emotions mom got sick on Me went from bad to worse I miss her so much and if she can see our baby wow she would melt the baby name is miracle companion butler

Man this really hurts.. it brings us tears to my eyes when the relationship ended I felt so bad I lost my job and I felt so lost. I still feel empty and useless..I really there is light at the end of the tunnel because man this is really hard 😢

Man I totally relate. Being a single dad is the hardest thing in life. So many highs and lows. We started our own channel to have something fun to do together and give us a reason to "adventure." Stoked I just found your channel. Looking forward to checking out your videos.

Ya stumble on this broke me down real bad was tough…My kids mom was something from diff planet.Still dealing but thank you

Be strong's DADS! You CAN do it. 🌟🥇you already are! Even if you don't know what you're doing, take it one day at a time💖

Not all of us end up being left. We become the ones who leave because they've grown fed up with violence and abuse. The anger and damage to our belongings becomes too much. I don't want my 3 year old son to keep growing up in a home where he witnesses his mother talk to his father like trash, kick and break belongings (including our son's toys) etc. The breaking point for me was when she spat in my face last night and said I wasn't worth respecting. This morning she cancelled her payments of our son's daycare and said she didn't care what happened to his education. I figured out how I can budget for it on top of all the other bills. Last night I anonymously called the cops and today they came around investigating. I told them how she spat in my face, broke the new range hood (I hadn't installed it yet), threw a container of oily food all over the bedroom floor (destroying my uni papers and books) and destroyed my son's toy supermarket. It's a breach of avo because she has one in place against her. 2nd one in 2 years. I haven't told her that I informed the police of the damage. I just made up the story that the neighbours reported it. Police believe so too. I didn't want to risk having more of my belongings damaged. I'm considering moving more stuff to my parents' home to protect it.

Here's a sadder thought. Having a Daughter. Enjoy the memories your making with her now, be the best father she'd want to share the world to and always show that she will always have your support because one day she is going to be throttled like a ragdoll in heat when she meets the love of her life. So when time comes you can always look back at better days.

I divorced her. I wanted things to work and I tried again. And I’m alone in my apartment having just ended things again… why did I have to fall in love with a toxic person? When you said who am I without my kids and my friends? I realized that was a question I’ve never asked myself. Thank you. I have hope now… to search for that answer.

Hey bois, I felt the same pain my first week after my ex ran off with my kids, so I understand the initial impact, its life altering, demoralizing, and for some of us unfortunately it's the last straw... I was fortunate enough to be able to focus my pain and anger into letting my ADHD brain take over. That's right. I have mental health gifts! and I didn't even know it at the time, yet it allowed me to obsess over how I could get my life with my kids back! By the end of the next week I was in the solicitor generals office demanding a court date to protect my children's mental health and financial well being or they would have to arrest me to get me to leave ( multiple factors come into play for this ). By the next Monday I was self representing in front of the family court judge, that could only say. "despite the status quo, that the mother should have initial care of the children, until the court deems otherwise adherent to a lawful agreement or judgement. It would clearly be in the children's best interest that the father have interim day to day care until the mother has sufficiently proven to the court otherwise" Words spoken over 3 years, and now I have full custody and we are kicking ass as a little team of 3👍 main take away lawyers will drain you, read the laws, learn the basics, it shows the judge you care more than most rather than leave this most important situation to a stranger, and best part only costs you the time of work for court dates, while the ex is mounting massive legal fees everytime you e-mail their lawyer lol 👍 your welcome, best of luck bois

I’ve had my son alone since he was 2, his mother died at 34 years old, he has behavioral issues, it’s hard, he’s 11 now, I haven’t had a night alone or a sitter in 3 years, I finally found a job that will let me come in after I get him to school, I have no help with him at all

i am not alone... thank you brother.

I was a single father for the first 4 years of my daughters life. I lived with family this entire time so I had someone there and it was easy. I got a parenting plan so the mother could be in the moms life. I met a girl and fell in love. I Married her. I got my first house and life was good for a year at leased. One day I went to work and when I came home there where cops there so I was initially concerned, so I jumped out of my car and ran inside to see what my wife was doing to my surprise she had all of her things packed and she was loading them out into my carport. She wouldn’t talk to me or tell me what was going on at all I was completely lost and clueless as to what the situation was. She told me she was leaving and never coming back, my heart sank as I walked her walk away now keep in mind she had a baby when I got with her and I raised that little girl for two years of her life almost 3 actually. So for the first time in my life I’m all alone in my house and I have my five-year-old daughter every other week. I’ve been alone now for three weeks and it’s very hard. Some days I want to just end everything. And other days I have motivation and the urge to push on for the betterment of my life. But that feeling is rare most of the time I just feel like a zombie walking around just trying to accomplish simple goals cooking cleaning doing laundry etc. I have this urge and this feeling of despair like I’m gonna be alone for the rest of my life because how can I date again and put myself through this again. Things never seem to work in my favor I’m just a father who works a lot and comes home and does simple tasks around the house. It’s very scary sometimes and sometimes I just don’t know what to do with myself, I get really really depressed most days and I just don’t really wanna do anything but lay there and think about the past and things that I could’ve done differently. I know I have to look at the silver lining in things and I know that I have to push on for my daughter regardless of my situation. But my God let me tell you it is so hard.

I've been doing it for 12+ years and it's still hard saying goodbye after they visit. Im always wishing I had more time and they're almost adults now 😢

20 yrs old with two daughters thank you

... Being a single father isn't the only thing that hurts. It's also not having a supportive family myself. I tried dating to gain a connection. But that's not going to help. I just can't start dating and everything will be better. I walk away from dating, friends and any associates because I can't heal a "gunshot" with a bandaid. I am torn, damaged, and only have my boys. My boys only have me, they don't know any other family members. They don't know their names or mention them. So every day I put my cape on and remind them that we only have each other and we must be supportive of each other.

First what you need to do is ACCEPT the reality. It can take a lot of time but it needs to be done. In order to move forward in life you need to realize where you at. It is ok to fail. We must make mistakes to become better versions of ourselves.

Why would it be hard if that’s what you want? People have kids with the wrong people everyday and waste their lives away in obligation to stay together for the kids, something that only leads to resentment. How about being a kickass version of yourself and see your kids as much as you can. That’s just my perspective from mentorship.

I am a single dad of 3 boys. they been with me for 5 years now. I was told by some poeple want me to give up my kids and then i can have more thim for my job

Dam bro first 30 seconds, brought me to tears. So true bro! Messed up! I dont blame anyone but myself.

Mother tricked me into fatherhood which came with many challenges especially mentally… lucky it’s just me and me boy now

So well put, thank you for sharing brother!

Single dad with full custody, getting it was hell on earth but I wouldn't have it any other way. There are several things that I didn't anticipate after becoming one. Being unable to relate to anyone is really difficult, I know no other single fathers and you feel pretty isolated in the experience. The financial aspect of things can be tough sometimes, I make a good living but it's still tight with no support. You have no one telling you if you are doing good or bad and I often wonder if I am a good parent, and beat myself up pretty hard sometimes. Society treats you like a pariah, I don't get invited to anything, I get looked at weird in public with my daughter sometimes, and former friend's wives started to see me as some kind of a threat, to that I don't really have an explanation. The loss of friendships was something I wasn't prepared for, because I am single, I am kind of left out as everyone is married or partnered. I don't mean to mitigate other men's struggles not seeing their kids, been there, and its enough to make you want to quit altogether. These are just a few of the things I experienced after becoming a full-time dad. Respect to all the dads out there trying for their kids.

Thanks bro. I needed that talk 4 years ago though 😂 … still helpful though 👊

I am a single dad, my daughter saved my contact name as MOM 💟

Keep it up we need the word!

Man this absolutely hit home. I'm glad to see somebody sharing awareness about this. It's the hardest thing I've ever dealt with in my life. I still get to see my blood daughter 3-4 days a week, but the other two that I raised for four years from the time they were babies, I only see maybe once a month for a couple hours and my strongest bond was with the six year old girl. Everytime I get to see her and she leaves I end up just completely breaking down. I already know what it's like to start losing that deep connection.

I’m a single father of two boys 4&5 full custody there mother got on heavy drugs I have to say this the biggest challenge I had but I won’t give up

As a single dad who's lucky enough to be raising his own kids. I would advise any man who is at a point in life that he risks losing his kids: sacrifice it all pay what you need to pay, give her whatever needs to be given to keep the kids in your life for at least 50%. I kept the kids, that was about all I got to keep, 3years later, I've got everything back that I traded in and I have the kids. Fight like you have nothing to lose, cause you don't.. It's all or nothing, you will never fill the void of missing your kids, you will fill the void of missing your big house and shiny car. And don't worry, the best looking, big hearted loving women will line up at your door to be part of your life once word gets around what you did and why, promotions will present themselves the universe will bless you. People respect fighting men with a big heart and respect takes you a long long way.

Thank you so much for this TKC! You’re saving lives rather you know it or not. I mean this sincerely

Ugh I have my daughter full time it's hard as hell with everything in life that got affected by it. My ex left me 10 Months ago for someone younger and basically turned into a slag with all types of blokes. I got my heart broken while having to move back to mum's living on her sofa with my 14 month old daughter at that time. Now I still live at my mum's but I have a bedroom I share with my daughter, my mum looks after her while I work. Unfortunately I came to agreement with the ex for 50/50 . Unfortunately she hasn't had her overnight since November. My daughter has definitely developed massively since being with me full-time and is comfortable. But even still to this day her mothers house is terrible. When she was staying there or has been with her mother. It would put her out of routine or come back with horrible habits of hitting or biting.

I'm struggling today, more than usual. I have been seperated from my partner a year now. A whole year where I barely get to see my mini me. It's been so fkn hard.... I dont know what to do other than just try to make it through the day. Hoping to see better days.

MY LIFE. Right here. It hurts...

Very inspiring, I have been single Dad since last year I have a full custody of my 5 year boy. I was afraid at first place not anymore now.

Guys I’m so scared. I only have a few more months and she’ll give the world our child. She doesn’t want me around and I fear she won’t let me see him/her. I’m fighting so hard to support the two and I’m all alone. I have no clue what I’m doing I’m just a fucking kid.

My guy I don’t know you but I fucking love you. I needed to hear this so bad

No one left me and I didn’t leave anyone. My wife died of a heart condition and I’m the only one left to raise my kids. My youngest sister said if something happened to me she would finish raising my daughter.