Reframing it helps. Instead of "I have to shower and clean the house." It becomes "I deserve to be clean and have a clean home."

I never knew showering was freaking difficult until I got my diagnosis

I have trouble brushing my teeth everyday, sometimes I go weeks. It's fucking tiring

My hygiene problem started when my mother's health detriorated bec of breast cancer. I've lived with my parents and was her caregiver until she died. During her final weeks in the hospital, I went on days without bathing, brushing my teeth and sometimes missing my meals. I never wanted to leave her back then bec I knew those were her last days. I still have some days when I find it difficult to even get out of bed after she died.

Jake is lucky to have support from family/friends!

What if you live by yourself and have no friends or family to support or encourage you? Not everyone has that in their life.

I can relate to Jake. Thanks so much for making this video. Now I know it’s because of my mental health. I created a hygiene goal now.

Growing up in foster care this was always a big issue that I saw handled in a variety of ways. I saw staff tell girls that were depressed to go get back in the shower because they hadn't taken long enough showers. I met people where their trauma surrounded the very thing they needed to do to keep up their daily hygiene and so they avoided it altogether. If you were raped everyday in the shower by someone in or out of your home and no matter how much soap you lathered or how hard you scrubbed you never felt clean because what they did to you was that disgusting you wouldn't ever want to shower either.

i go weeks without brushing my teeth. i’m trying to get back into it, little by little, as my gums are receding and it has made me intensely paranoid, which increases the depression. it feels like an endless loop. when i mention it to my father, he boils it down to laziness. my mother sees it for what it really is.. a form of self-harm and self-neglect. whilst it’s not ideal, my mum knows why it happens. when i leave for uni, i’m going to make it my goal to care for myself as much as possible.

Just like some of the people here in the comments section, I heavily relate to this thing where even just by doing anything drains and gets me demotivated to the point that it terribly affected my relationships in general, and also my grades in school. Eventually, I decided to start working on it (I established a routine and made time to take care of my physical and mental health) even though I wasn't feeling like doing any of that one bit. It's a tough path but... still, I just had to do it. I totally agree with this phrase: “Just do it.” It works all the time for me. And whenever I hesitate on doing something important, I use this 5-second rule that I heard from a podcast one time wherein if you have something that you know that needs to be done but you're hesitating, try counting down from 5 and by the time you're done counting, you should've decided whether or not to do it. It's not necessarily applicable to everything since it also depends on the situation, but anyway, I still hope someone will take my word for it and try it for themselves. Don't expect that we'll get better immediately. Although I might say that *doing* things instead of *thinking* about them helps in elevating _this_ feeling, I'd also add that not feeling any changes soon after trying this sort of change is not immediate. It takes time...and as someone who's still experiencing it and realized something about this ongoing journey, I also wanted to share this article with y'all: aeon.co/essays/the-voice-of-sadness-is-censored-as-sick-what-if-its-sane

"You'll feel better once you have a shower". Usually after I shower I feel worse. That clamminess afterwards is so uncomfortable.

Bc when you’re struggling mentally, the last thing you care about is hygiene. It’s so much work and having the water hit your body is something you definitely don’t want to do when you’re mentally struggling - Last thing you want to do is shiver when you’re struggling mentally.

"You'll feel good after having a shower" literally feel no different.

I have to force myself to get in the shower. I never used to be like this and then I lost my job and BAM depression hit me like a fucking train. I've always had generalized anxiety and a bit of depression but nothing like I have now. For some reason being in the shower almost gives me a panic attack

Support systems? The absence of such and any positive reinforcement compound the beliefs I harbor which feed this cycle of depression. I can't ask for help or confess anything to the people on my life. I told my sister I hadn't showered in a month, her response was 'eww'. I've been 'little big sis' our entire lives, I lotioned her feet when she was too 'disturbed' to do so, and I was responsible, clean, encouraging and consistent for decades while she only played video games . . . Now that the tables have turned, I mostly recieve ridicule and nagging from her, from them both. My grandma only ever declares 'there's something wrong with you!' instead of ever asking 'what's wrong, what's bothering you and how can I help?' . . . The people in my life refuse to express compassion towards me, though they'll jump through hoops to 'please' and 'impress' others. Makes my presence feel even more futile and unbearable. At this point, I WANT SO BADLY to be able to be well again, but without incentive, with only solitude and myself on my side, what's the point???

Yes when you stop showering or wearing the same clothes for more than two days you have to question if something wrong with me . Hygiene should never be neglected

I find my lack of hygiene as result of my depression and lack of confidence in my looks. Sometimes I do feel like it doesn't matter because nobody really finds me attractive

Thank you for making this video! :) Ive had really bad mental health since i was about 10. For 8 years, I hadn't brushed my teeth regularly (more than a week at a time). My teeth didnt look that bad so I never bothered. Recently, ive tried to keep brushing my teeth alot more! sometimes i forget or am not motivated to do so, but i do try :) i hope i can one day brush my teeth like its normal :) When i got back to brushing, the mint toothpaste was really painful and strong, so here are some things i did if you also have this problem! :) - Using mouthwash and diluting it down (makes the mint less strong) - Chewing gum (not strong gum tho) - Using spearmint wherever possible (its sweeter and not as strong!) I hope this helps someone! never give up, no matter how bad it seems. But also dont feel bad about yourself for neglecting self care, sometimes other things take priority, even if its just making yourself feel safe and calm

Been dealing with this on and off since I was in middle school 22 now. I keep ruminating on what I believe is the “cause” never focused on getting over until now.

I had and still have crippling anxiety and depressive for most of my life my teeth are all bad and decayed from lack of brushing.i smelld and didn't like getting out of bed let alone change my bedsheets and clothes I'm still struggling and don't see any point.take care if yourself xx

My mental health does the opposite of this video, I have a phobia of smelling bad so that mixed with anxiety makes me shower twice a day, also go through a hell of a load of deodorant, aftershave and breath spray

This is very simplistic. Yes poor self care and hygeine are related but it goes very, very deep. I will try to practice better hygeine because I know it creeps people out , but my issues are so very deep to the core of being that being like other people will possibly never be possible. I can pull off looking out together from time to time but I have a deep self hatred and self punishment/ complex the drives me to disrespect myself in a myriad of ways. I have so much empathy for street people and slobs in general as I guess I am one. I see myself as worthy of caring for myself but this core wound keeps me punishing myself.... It's very sad. As a side note, both my parents were in mental hospital and my mother was in a hateful cult. She abused us severely to the point of being commited to psyche hospital. She drove Dad to insanity and tortured us kids ... Unbelievable abuse

I've been like this since I was a kid

I love how Jacobs mommy is black. I love that their are normalising that

Who wants to be my personal hygine buddy?

i have alot of hygiene related problems bc my god foresaken parents only allow me to shower like 3-4 times a week and i hardly have any clothes that i get to wear so theyre almost always dirty and sweaty n shit, not to mention i do physical exercise every day aswell. not a single day has passed where i dont feel like a swamp monster smh

I am alone in life, but I still didn't neglect myself, I just perform my hygiene routines just to keep my morale up with myself. Don't underestimste the power of hygiene. Brush your teeth, Shower, Clean your shit up.

tbh most of these videos are superficial, but this one is really cute and the voices are soothing. Thanks and great animation

I find showering to be exhausting and the sensory aspects are extremely uncomfortable and overwhelming. It also elevates my blood pressure badly. I have had depression all my life but this didn't become a problem until later. If I do shower I have to wait until I'm up for several hours or I just can't handle it. I always feel exhausted and sick when I wake up. Showering on top of that is just too much. I just hate having this problem. I hate feeling dirty. It's also really embarrassing and keeps me from being around people. Is there anyone here who relates to this sensory/sick/exhaustion reaction?

I'm having the same problems as the fictional character in this video. So, I'll follow up on the advice and see if it'll help. But, I feel it's going to be a rough start to get out of my self imposed isolation from my family, by staying in my room most of my at home hours. The pandemic isn't helping either.

I needed this

This was meaningful!

I'm depressed I hate to put this out there but I had depression all my life even when I was little it just got really bad after 9th grade and this covid lost my grandpa to suicide and im addicted to drugs like weed to get by I have a narcissist mother who lies and lies

I like the idea of setting alarms for taking a shower.

Apparently the fact that I don’t shower that much means that I’m depressed. But im pretty sure im just to lazy to do anything

Huh. This video makes it seem like everyone has someone to help them. What about when you are completely alone in the world with nowhere to turn and no mum to encourage you and no Trevor to take you to work?

What if you have no loved ones or friends?

I have to start over day 1:

Now I feel very well ✨

Leave it to me to wait until theres a loud thunder heavy rain to decide its time for a shower but ive let it go two days too long already and im already in that gotta get r done mode

The link between hygiene and mental health is significant. Maintaining a clean environment can reduce stress and promote a sense of well-being. Using Sterloc disinfectant helps keep your surroundings germ-free, contributing to a healthier, more positive mindset. Regularly disinfecting your space can have a profound impact on both your physical and mental health.

This is me today. The breakup is rough. We'll get there

Also brushing teeth let me tell you something there are bullies that are mean af and then they have the nerve to have hygiene issues so yes they may get talked about after being a bully especially if they so called "gang bang" (people with the same names but not who's being referred to, if you don't eavesdrop then you won't get stories or situations mixed up) , then there are those who are dealing with harassment from so many different people on a daily basis at work, at home, and when they travel so they purposefully let some of their hygiene go to keep people away from them. First, everyone is supposed to be wearing a mask to help stop from contracting and dying from this deadly disease that we were told so many people died from called Coronavirus-19. The way I see it you should shower and brush teeth everyday, however, if these things are happening to you and you are not interested in being close to people or anything like that then feel free to smell however tf you want, and don't brush teeth no one should be that close to you anyways they want us all 6ft apart but I guess if people can't have their way and be all in your face and sit/stand/be close to you everyone will die or something. I was taught about bubble space early on, if I can reach out my hand and touch you we're too close. No one who is not my husband needs to be anywhere within my personal bubble space. If you are, I'm going to assume you like the smell of shit so don't talk shyt about the person you clearly like to see and be next to. And don't have other women and men bully them just because they are doing whatever they can to make themselves as unattractive as possible for you all so that you can stay away from them. Bad hygiene are clear indicators of disinterest in others so get the point and stay out their business and do what you can to stay clear of them. I have been sexually harrassed, human trafficked, and generally abused in one way or another most of my life the only person I care to be close to anyone except my husband so I don't care what you think, he thinks I smell and taste good af. ❤ P.S.- God bless you Pamela B. 🙂

loce it so much :) :)

I wish I had a *trevor* in my life who won't stab me in the back

Mental health patient how hygiene is on 💯 but my living space is not so great but I know exactly where everything is

I cant even work like this ? ..its all a mess ..i isolated my self completly..i Will not BE able to survive like this ..life changed Soo much soo fast that i just couldnt manage it 😓 Plus i dont even see a doctor ..i cant go to a shoop to buy clothes ..i dont see the point ..i use to love to go buy new clothes This is horrible ..i have no friends and Im ashemed of my self ..and if i cant work..things Will get really bad for me 😓..my famaly is strugling financialy alreeady we get food from a charaty once a week

If one works a job, cooks and takes care of their home, you will be able to sleep well. If you don’t have a routine, you’ll be lost.

Eu amo tomar banho, passar desodorante, creme rosto, perfume.....

✊😭 i'll improve

It's a simple formula when you are depressed your motivation takes a hit. You get lesser things done in a day. Usually things that are good for us

Can we post this in our page tackling about hygiene? We are a psych majors and I like to share this. ^^

I haven’t had a shower 🚿 for over a week so unmotivated feeling pangs of depression 😢

I experience this... It's hard

Showed this to my brother trying to show him my mdd depression effects my hygiene and he just kept saying it's being lazy

Day 1 relapsed

Can you guys help me please I shower almost every day I only skip 1 day on the weekends and I still smell And my breath is also bad too I have no idea why I brush 2x a day sometimes 3x a day use mouthwash and floss and still nothing helps I don’t know what to do I might need to see a doctor or something cuz no girls finna be with nobody who smells bra

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Me with autism: 🧍🏻

I encourage you to accept Jesus Christ Yeshua as your lord and saviour today right now and saviour today right now

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It's two weeks and I still dont care. I cant believe this is me

😂😂😂😂 im from Africa , in our schools we had to go with buckets and collect tap water to bathe , not to mention the water is cold , their is a line on the tap and another line in the bathroom, the water is limited so it drips really slow and then theres only a two hour window everyday yo bathe during the day , unless you accept bathing at night , we wore idntical uniforms all the time so......i never used to shower , needless to say I've had scents inhumanly , and i kinda learned to normalize this , for me , the sytem was fucked so i might as well be as fucked as it 😂😂😂😂😂, anyways im in campus now , we don't generally have washing machines lying around in Africa so you have to handwash clothes which sucks , anyways , I pretty much have to unlearn bad hygiene , i also have to force myself to hand wash two weeks worth of clothes knowing ppl don't do this shit in other parts of the world , be greatful for the life you live , shit is miserable out here

the question is..is that really how it work🤷

5 pounds for a bar of soap are you kidding me its only 50p for a bar of soap ive heard it all now you could even go to poundland and get 3 or for for under a pound they make a chairity OUT OF ANYTHING THESE DAYS

I have no support like Jacob

Can Jake's mom adopte me and Trevor be my friend

The voice sounds like it's both robot and human.

Feeling depressed and not showering for 4-5 days is AWFUL......You literately feel sick

If only there were actual friends that provided this imaginary support. As if.

Bdga

Where his white daddy at?