Why are people so obsessed with calling women mommy, I always found it weird and gross. They also always use it in a rude way and wrong times.

why is it always mitski? she has the most inconsiderate fans

the tiktokification of mitski is my 13th reason

MITSKI needs to make all her shows 18+ because why are there literal children at a mitski show….

I can’t imagine being lucky enough to finally see Mitski perform and then make it all about my own cringy self. How embarrassing and self obsessed

mitski's going to have a washing machine heart attack oh my god

I’m old enough to remember the 1970s, and people being pieces of shit at concerts is nothing new, so it’s not your generation - any more than it’s millennials, or gen x, or baby boomers, or the silent generation, or the g.i. generation, or the lost generation, going back to the beginning of time. But what DOES seem new is that there’s a sizable contingent of people who are demanding a RIGHT to be a piece of shit at concerts, i.e. “I paid for this, so I’m entitled to yell, sing along off-key at a Broadway show, throw a hammer at a singer, noisily eat a four-course meal in the movie theater, answer my phone while sitting in the balcony at an opera, set fires,” etc., etc., and it’s bizarre; before, when people behaved like shits at shows, the other people surrounding them would complain, and then the shit would either settle down or be escorted out by security … but now there seems to be this increasing attitude - I’ll call it “The Market Attitude” - in which people think social norms are secondary to their having “bought” something, that they don’t have to behave because their having spent money means they can do WHATEVER THEY WANT, and because there’s this shitty conservative movement spending billions of propaganda dollars to encourage exactly that attitude, a number of people who should act as enforcers - other audience members, security, the piece of shit’s cohorts - question whether or not they even have the right to intervene, and instead hang back, or even emulate the shitty behavior to “fit in” and not be the “party-pooper.” Anyway, sorry for the long post, and that’s really awful about the hammer. I would’ve demanded security arrest the assailant, and then I would’ve walked off the stage, but I suppose if you’re still getting started then these may not be options. And I’ve not performed in ages - I was never anyone, as it were, but in a sense I’m glad not to be up there today. But please keep at it! There’s nothing like nailing a performance and feeling the waves of love from the audience. :-)

Mitski needs to do what Bjork does and perform only in rare artistic occassions. If people wanna act up and not appreciate art, then they don’t need to be at her concerts. I’m fine with her doing a whole virtual concert series.

How are ppl laughing at her performing??? If I saw her performing I'd sob 🤩😭

I saw Mitski on the Be The Cowboy tour, and at some point between songs someone said "WILL YOU ADOPT ME??" Her response: "I appreciate your support, but I am wearing in-ear monitors and cannot hear you ☺️" The way she circumvented that behavior while still acknowledging that it comes from a place of admiration has stuck with me to this day

my friends went to one of her concerts and someone yelled “mother is mothering” and everyone in the crowd boo’d that person bc how cringe they were 😭

Is it because so many young people avoid vulnerability now? Everything is cringe to them? Even enjoying music you LIKE is cringe now??

the moment at your show with the person throwing a hammer and then a bunch of people laugh is so unbelievably awful, that clip made me just freeze in shock

Bro the hammer thing is insane, people genuinely have no public skills whatsoever that’s actual assault edit: i’ve been fooled fr

i think its also.. privilege? i live in one of those countries who only gets like (subjectively) a couple good artists coming to tour a year, usually the tickets are $150-350 nzd (200 usd = 330 nzd for example) so the opportunities are slim and i see so SO many americans taking their concert culture for granted. I think it resulted in exactly what dev mentioned- its not enough to just be apart of the crowd anymore. people who have been to too many concerts are getting bored and with tiktok they realize they can get attention so easily. the novelty of concerts must wear off if your able to be going to them all the time? idk, just my perspective

People talking and not shutting the FUCK up at festivals has been killing me recently. Like talking and laughing so goddamn loudly that I can barely hear the music anymore and those speakers are LOUD.

I can’t believe someone threw a fucking hammer at you, that’s literally insane behavior and they should face serious consequences. I hate going to shows these days cause of the incredible amount of people like that

No sorry I saw Mitski and it was the worst crowed of people I’ve ever been in. They were so disrespectful toward not just Mitski but fans who just wanted to enjoy her music.

As a dancer I have seen so many weird dance performances that look so funny yet nobody laughs. I saw a contemporary dance performance of a woman breaking out of a trash bag on an empty stage, collapsing to the ground then laying still for 10 minutes as the performance happened around her on the ground. Funniest thing I've seen in my life. Still the room was silent other than applause. Even if you pay to see a performance there are still people in the room with you that don't want to hear your ignorant quips and catcalls period. If you want to make fun of a performance do it at home and not in front of the artist. You are not the main character.

Mitski and her deeply personal music are such a gift this is so frustrating :/

I saw mitski 3 days ago and it was absolutely one of the best nights of my life, and getting a ticket was so hard, but these annoying ass teen girls would not stop screaming 'MOTHER!!!" and HAVE MY BABIES!!!" between some of her most captivating and vulernable songs. At some concerts, this might be the vibe, if the artist encourages that behavior or finds it funny or sweet e.t.c, but Mitski has clearly stated before that this makes her uncomfortable. Also, the people that make fun of her performances need to get a life!!!! These people are not who she makes music for, and she isn't some boring ass pop artist who is gonna tailor her shows to fit the "masses." She is so fucking talented and this makes me so sad to see.

I'm so sorry that happened with the hammer. That's so fucked up fr, you could've been really hurt. Glad you are okay and continue to talk about concert etiquette,, this stuff is not okay, there's such an overwhelming lack of respect edit,,,, the new video lmaoooo, I'll think twice before earnestly caring about someone's wellbeing now 😭😭

Mitski asking her terminally online fans to put their phone downs even just for a second is soo funny to me bc like I don't even know how she can fix that problem. That's her audience its no wonder why they have no ability to read the room or actively try to disrupt the vibe for the sake of "content".

People bully live artists so bad. I don’t understand how you can mentally justify acting like that towards someone who is giving their all to perform for you, especially for shows you intentionally paid to attend.

If I heard people laughing or cat calling her during First Love/Late Spring at her actual concert I’d literally freak out cause that’s my favorite Mitski song that I cry to

literally saw her two days ago in durham, was a really great crowd that was pretty respectful, thank GOD. i didn’t realize it had been this bad at other shows. i’ve been a fan of hers since 2016 and it’s been. man. such a hard time to see her blow up and ppl being SO FUCKING RUDE. esp when she’s become so dedicated to making the show an incredible art experience

8:29 you would think it's only younger fans that would scream like that at artists but when i saw yaeji last year there was a full grown man who would not stop screaming "MOMMY!!" at her between every single song. so not only was it grating and uncomfortable it was also incredibly embarrassing to witness someone probably in their 30s act like a literal baby

I feel so bad for her .. imagine pouring your heart out into songs for people to act like children. paying no attention to the lyrics just acting like she's a prop for their entertainment. people need to get their shit together before she quits

There's a really bizarre lack of consideration for other people's general well-being that's already bad enough on its own, but manages to be even more fucked up when coming from people who are literally paying to see someone perform. Why go through the trouble if they genuinely could not care less about the experience? Why waste the time & money of everyone there, including themselves? I truly do not understand

this new era of shtty fans and crowds is so so sad. ive only just started to be able to afford to go to live shows, something my ma loved doing at my age. i want to experience what she did but its so hard to enjoy yourself amd connect with the artist on stage when people are literally trying to connect hammers to their heads like cmon people

dude i would KILL to see mitski live this makes me soo mad 😭😭😭 how are they that ungrateful and disrespectful. i would never want to perform again if i was her

I could talk about this for ages. i used to love mitski so so much. i saw her in 2016, 2017 and 2018 in smaller venues and it was so intimate and beautiful even at the first two shows when she didn't have dance routines yet. but when I saw her again in 2022 the crowd had changed so much, there were so many people trying to be the funniest person in the crowd, holding up signs on their phones or yelling things out. catcalling mitski, calling her mommy, screaming so loud when her dance had a move that could be read as sexual. and everyone filming every second. it broke my heart, I felt like noone was actually listening to her in any way. her words, her music, what her movement was saying, was lost on them. I could barely hear her singing over the crowd too. I don't want to blame a younger crowd either, but it was a younger crowd who had heard of her from tiktok. and I also think it could have been their first concert after covid so they didn't know how to act. i don't think they were even old enough to really be reading into her lyrics or her stage movement. in some songs i was seeing her portray a story of a woman objectified and the crowd was screaming at her and catcalling her. it was shocking :(

One of my BIGGEST dreams is to go to a mitski concert. I cannot believe people would pay so much money to see Mitski and then just disrespect her make her feel super uncomfortable

The cat girl, probably: "I paid to come here and meow!" Everyone: "We did not pay to listen to it"

tiktok has 100% effected the way people treat concerts and artists but i def agree that its important to note that people have always been shitty to openers, its a big problem and its not new!! back in 96 placebo opened for weezer and were pelted with COINS. they were used to poor treatment because of brian's crossdressing and the heavy queer themes in their music but its insane to me that someone who cares enough about a band to go to their show can treat the opener like shit as if the headliner didnt choose them! it makes me so sad how at every show ive seen 80% of seats will be empty during the openers, people talk over them, ignore them, just generally show no respect for them. i dont trust people who skip the openers for no reason. have some decency.

A HAMMER??????????? that would be my final straw, i’d walk off the stage fr. i’m so sorry….luckily you were not physically hurt, but oh my god. actually traumatizing

a hammer??? horrifying so sorry dev:(

i was convinced that the hammer was rubber. I'm sure others were too at first, I just can't believe people would laugh at that if they thought it was real. it's messed up. so sorry that happened to you.

Crazy how if you throw a hammer at someone in public you'd probs be arrested but if you throw one at a performer on stage it's apparently a joke now?? Sorry to hear that happened to you and hope you can come to the UK soon!!

I was at an Orlando show! her saying "im not your mother" was the biggest slay bc those girls were being so annoying !!

i’m a casual mitski listener but i’ve heard about people being fuckin weird at her shows. how hard can it be to just treat an artist with kindness and respect, really?

im seeing her in March, praying to god that people like this dont attend because ill probably hurt somebody

So i went to see Mitski last Saturday in Durham NC… the KIDS behind us were annoyingly chatty the whole time, laughing at her moves, just being rude… also people were SO MEAN about the opener saying he was horrible. Let’s respect our artists!!!

A HAMMER?! WTF is actually wrong with people?? That's so messed up and I'm glad you're not physically hurt.

Nah if I heard someone meowing at my concert, I’d take down all my songs n go into hiding🫡

People like that at concerts need to be treated as hecklers and get removed by security. It’s impossible to enjoy yourself and the artist you’ve come to see :/ So incredibly frustrating

i love mitski so much. she is such a thoughtful and grounded person. her music and her presence, her interviews, they're all very comforting. and it's so painful to see people who don't respect her at all buying up her tickets just to talk, and laugh or yell at her the whole time. i understand this is really common with concerts, and it's great for concerts that are meant for it, but mitski's music, her concerts/tours, are so much of an experience 😭😭 i'm the opposite of one of those people that gets mad when their favorite song goes viral, but i think some people just can't connect with mitski's music the way she intended when she wrote the song. if those people want to see mitski live just to hear the one song they know, then that's awesome! don't be laughing at her thoughtful, artful performance because you think it's weird 😭😭

night 2 in Orlando somebody was meowing and people would yell during quiet parts. right before she started singing 'the frost' somebody yelled something which sounded like "have my children" and Mitski was so obviously bothered she furrowed her brows for a sec

I went to see Melendez Martinez the other day and omfg the crowd was the worst I’ve ever seen. Only 3 girls were kind to me, shout out to them

that person who threw the hammer should be charged. hope they're found out

I was at mitski and there was a group of girls behind us that just screamed MITSKI WE LOVE YOU OMG MITSKI THROUGH THE ENTIRE CONCERT. Overall they made it horrible. Please don't shriek and actually enjoy whats happening instead of your own shrill voice.

main character syndrome

literally sat across from someone screaming "mommy" at her during the laurel hell tour. I gave them the nastiest look I could manage but I wish I told them to shut the fuck up. Seeing her again next month so maybe I will if I see it happen again.

People don't understand that theater is a performance anymore. Silence is the build up and they ruin it with MOTHER IS MOTHERING!

I have bipolar and bpd, I absolutely love mitskis music and I respect her immensely as a person. She has issues with her mother, she experienced loneliness and bullying, she has that inner gut wrenching feeling where you so desperately want to be loved and even though you are, you still feel you're not. I just absolutely love her music and relate to it, I dont understand how people can be so rude and disrespectful. Has no one actually sat down and read the lyrics away from the song? They're wonderfully deep and so meaningful. Towards the end of the video you mentioned how it could be that people are so used to their videos on tiktok being about them that it isn't enough to be an audience member anymore. Well, there's a saying that sums this up really well and is something that quite alot of celebrities sadly live by. "Any attention, is good attention". Meaning, doing anything for attention, even something people don't like or gets negative attention, is good because you still got peoples attention. If you ask me, it's pathetic and speaks volumes about how lonely they feel

When Prince Royce opened for Ariana Grande the audience was super respectful and just vibed. I feel so bad for openers that get treated like shit. They deserve better.

I saw mitski during the Laurel Hell tour, and i remember this one time (and we were watching from right above the pit) someome in the 2nd/3rd row had their flash on. Like that would've been right in her face?? It was a pretty small venue too so she had to stop for a bit after the 2nd song and politely told them to turn it off (luckily that was our only "incident") its just so strange to see the complete lack of self awareness in her shows

this happens because internet pop stans fail to realize there's a difference between real life and their twitter profile

She's a performance artist! Just saw her tonight! No one can tell a story with her body like she can! Toronto was in awe and respectful! People hollered "I love You" but that was it.

The scariest part of this is that a lot of these kids yelling at concerts are part of the “Alt” Scene on TikTok, if they’re disrespectful at certain rock or metal shows someone actually might beat the shit out of them

stop being freaks at mitski concert D:

I’ve really noticed that the really wild people are teens to mid 30s tbh. I saw Lana Del Rey on her 2023 tour and the crowd was def across that range and they were totally unhinged.

Not to mention the meanings behind her songs??? Like dude, it’s not some silly thing you should be yelling meow at. It’s her pouring her damn heart out on stage

A HAMMER??? THAT'S SO DANGEROUS! I'M GLAD YOU ARE OK!

People did this to Yebba when she opened for John Mayer and if I’m being honest, her performance is now one of my core memories. It was experimental and beautiful, something I don’t know if I’ll ever experience again. I was so upset people were talking over it because I wanted nothing more than to live in that moment for as long as I could.

i have tickets to this tour and i'm PRAYING the crowd is respectful. it's so annoying that it's so hard to go to concerts, the tickets are already expensive as hell why can't people just be normal

i hate the "tiktok-ification" of smaller artists today. i love mitski's music, and my love mine all mine is my favourite song of hers, but tiktok has stripped it of what made it special when i first heard it (before it became just a trend). it makes me really sad for artists like mitski who have a deep love for their craft.

HAPPY LITTLE DAY! TODAY! NOW! (but fr mitski is such a wonderful artist and deserves better treatment, especially with the topics of her songs and how beautiful and beautifully made they are, i hope this tour goes better for her and her rude fans learn how to treat an artist with basic respect and love 💕 i cccant beleive that someone HHHAMERED YOU (i see you blackjack jones.) ummm angways stream give mama a hug)

I cant find my keys anywhere.

It's sad to hear how disrespectful people are to openers. I went to my first concert in January to see Melanie, Upsahl was the opener and I had never heard of her before but honestly I was just vibing and found a new artist I liked 😭 it's sad people won't give a chance to the openers. I was there for Melanie of course but more importantly to just have fun in general

I saw mitski last week and someone near me was like “she’s so weird” :/ This was my second concert of hers and the crowd was so much different. No one was singing either. She swayed and did the “i love you” hand sign and no one did it back, which you would expect people to. She is an artist that means so much to me and her performances stick with me. The first crowd appreciated her so much more than this crowd did imo. She deserves to have crowds who will give her the love and support that she deserves. Not to write think pieces or anything, but I just wish for better.

I went to Mitski's acoustic show for The Land Is Inhospitable and So Are We in LA a few months ago. Right after it came out, she played through the whole album as an acoustic set, just her and two others on stage, no set design, no dancing, just giving us the album. Between each song there was always a bit of dead air, just total silence while she prepped for the next song. Between first few songs, some people would whoop. There were weird little interruptions here and there, and I had seen her with Harry Styles so I was already preparing for an annoying crowd and a ruined show. Once, one girl shouted during the break, "I LOVE YOU, MITSKI!" And then, from across the theater, a deeper voice emerged from the darkness. "SHUT UP." It never happened again. Every time Mitski would end a song, we would clap politely for a few moments and then sit in complete silence as she changed over her guitar or set up for the next song. A whole theater just waiting quietly for the next song. Every time this happened, I felt tense. Surely it won't last. Someone is going to ruin this moment. But no one did. People were still, quiet, and respectful. Once Mitski had played through the whole album, she told the crowd that now she was going to play some old favorites, and invited us to sing along. So people did! It was so joyous! I think this concert experience will stay with me for the rest of my life. We, as a collective, decided that we would NOT be disturbing the others in the audience or ruining the atmosphere of an acoustic performance. We would NOT be yelling things out between songs. When we're invited to, THEN we'll let loose. It was the most civilized show I've ever been to. So I think things are getting better.

I’m going to see her with my boyfriend in April and I’ve already anticipated that I’m gonna cry because I love her music but if something like this happens I’m gonna cry for sad reasons instead. I’ve been in love with her music for like 5 years and she’s my favorite individual artist ever and I saved up my hard earned money at my minimum wage job (im 16) and I hope my show doesn’t get ruined like this. Luckily the Ryman Auditorium is smaller so this might not be an issue

i saw mitski back in summer 2016 which i'm realizing typing this out now is close to eight years ago now and it was one of the most emotional shows i had/have ever seen (and at the time i had seen literally far too many shows to count -- used to go to like a show a week and be very involved in the music scenes of the cities i'd lived in so it wasn't as though it was because of a lack of quantity/exposure to live music). this was in montreal, a city that was once the centre of the musical universe for me. it was a smaller venue that i'd been to a couple times already (i remember seeing my favourite band there and the singer-songwriter washing his hands beside me bc there wasn't a separate washroom for the musicians, just one tiny washroom for literally everyone), there were 30 people max and the average age i remember actually kind of being on the older side -- i was 23 and remember being among the youngest there. it's really weird to see what her fanbase has evolved into, or maybe for whatever reason (tiktok? lol?) her shows end up full of a lot of people who aren't actually fans and don't know or really care for/about her music that much?

Stan Culture is a double-edged sword: The positives of stan culture is the fact that you'd have an active and dedicated fanbase that are very supportive of your endeavors (the majority of the time) which allows you to gain traction but at the same time culture can produce some of the most unhinged people you've ever interacted with from being toxic to outsiders or genuine criticism as well as the fact that they can show affection in the most intrusive way possible as displayed in the TikTok video.

i went to her first show of the most recent tour in miami beach. luckily, only one or two people yelled i love you and a lot of people just told them to stop. the not recording thing wasn’t a problem. i was towards the back so i was able to see the phones and there weren’t that many especially in the pit! i did record a few songs in full like pink in the night and and i bet on losing dogs and little clips and pictures of other songs. i’m towards the younger side of the fan base, but i didn’t see very many

I went to two concerts last year and people were so disrespectful to the openers everyone was talking super loud and were on thier phones

So lucky I've had the chance to see Mitski twice, touring for Puberty 2 and then for Be The Cowboy. Both shows were in a smaller venue, and the crowd was very respectful. Everyone was just there to sing along and have a good time!

You said everything perfectly. People love to blame this behaviour on the new generation finding her on TikTok, but that’s not all it is. Most people don’t even consider the kind of concert they’re going to, they just hear about a big artist going on tour and think it’ll be something big and fun to go to. Mitski’s concerts are very VERY different from most others that people treat like a big party. That’s perfectly fine, but everyone else just can’t accept that.

im so glad you're on youtube because i had to delete tik tok cuz i got into an argument in a comment section and someone called me little bro and it almost pushed me over the edge

I feel like I saw her at just the right time for the Laurel Hell tour in Seattle. Lots of hype and excitement from a fan-packed house but still respect for her performances. I think some people screamed "I love you" a few times and it was the most excited/vocal crowd I've been in but it felt more like a community all excited to see/cheer for her. And people actually shut up during the songs.

If it makes you feel any better I went to her show last night And a girl started getting outta pocket and yelling “YES MOTHER! MOTHERING!!!!” And shit like that And bc Philly doesn’t play that shit like instantly EVERYONE in the theater goes “shut UP!!!!”

I feel like these fans need to be treated like kindergartners again whenever they go to her concerts cuz they can’t control their damn mouth

THANK YOU FOR POSTING THIS. I have been a mitski fan for over three years, and I have been through the terror of thinking she would never come back. I got to go to the laurel hell tour and the audience was already... interesting. Im really glad shes doing this tour, but i'll be very sad if she never tours again. But I couldn't blame her. Anyways, Laurel Hell best album, Stay Soft best song.

Dev, I am so fucking sorry someone threw a hammer at you. I am mortified that someone could do that, and I'm even more disgusted that people laughed. Your music is beautiful and artistic (just like you!,) and I hope this doesn't deter you from sharing your talent while going on tour. Wishing you the best ❤

Begging more artists to ban phones at shows ♡

crowds anywhere nowadays are so disrespectful, people can never behave at shows these days, i feel bad for mitski

I’m so glad I saw Mitski a couple times before Covid and all the kids who have had their brains broken decided to make concerts insufferable.

i may have joined the mistki train because of tiktok audios but I am not a tiktok crowd I REFUSEEE. i knew one or two songs before tt but now I'm a hardcore fan. cant wait to see her in September!!

Reminds me of a Radiohead show where someone was just yelling during a quiet moment and Thom Yorke - in the middle of a song - yells back “shut the fuck up, you’re not funny you just don’t get out much” before playing the rest of the song

I somehow avoid the worst concert crowds like I can't believe people act like at concerts. Especially Mitski, like what a chill artist who is genuinely making art to make art. Why are her fans this way? Seeing a disconnect between an artist's art and the fans is something I've noticed more lately. I'm a kpop Stan so I think of the LOONA tour where the fans were so weirdly rude to the idols and had these weird expectations that, as someone who also likes LOONA, was confusing because that energy has never been what the group put out to me. This feels like the same disconnect that makes me wonder why people even go to concerts or listen to artists when they really do not actually care or respect them. But I know this had to be a small amount of people doing this, so I feel bad for the others trying to respectfully watch an artist the like.

My favorite music artist is Alex G, and this has happened to him too I feel. He also went pretty viral on tiktok, and while im glad its brought new fans (and money) his way; I can't imagine how frustrating it is to deal with immature and disrespectful fans. Not just at concerts but in general. It's also sad because now people who didn't already like Alex G before the viral stuff,, don't give his music as much of a chance because it's "annoying tiktok music" I have had actual people tell me thats why they won't ever listen to him. :[ Btw I do agree that older fans and those not on tiktok cause issues too,, but yeah young immature fans and tiktokers seem to be the current big problem

it's insane how people can disrespect artists this much, especially when they are willingly *paying* and going to their shows. Don't go if you don't have the decency to show the artist you "love" any respect.

I'm going to a Mitski concert soon, I'm literally so upset to see this kind of behavior 😢 I hope people aren't acting like this when I go

i saw her on her last tour at cat’s cradle in carrboro, and i walked away so moved. i’d never seen a performance like it at the time and it was actually the concert that led me to stop filming so much at concerts before she even made that statement. she curated such an experience. she’s truly an artist and it sucks people are treating her like this

omg whoever threw that hammer deserves jail time fr cuz WHAT?? who literally in the right mind does that type stuf

the hammer.. wtf??? that's super dangerous my god

the fact that everyone saw your post about the hammer on instagram and laughed in the comments too, thinking it was a joke or something because you didn't react "scared" or whatever. like you're on stage, what are you meant to do? i'm sure anyone in your position would've tried to play it off. but i'm so glad you are okay and weren't badly hurt because it could've been so bad:(

I saw Mitski at her first concert this tour (1/26 in Miami) and the crowd was respectful and calm. There was one woman a couple rows behind me who yelled "I love you Tamino!" during his opening act and he said that he loved her more. My friends who saw her 1/27 had basically the same experience, we all had a fantastic time; I wish everyone else could have had the same experience.

One of my favorite artists but passing on her new tour because the fans were insufferable in 2021. She literally told them to stop yelling inappropriate things at her and they didn’t