The most difficult thing about living in Sweden as an American- A loving tribute to dad.

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Ай бұрын

The biggest fear I have had since moving to Sweden has happened. My father passed away and I am going through the grieving process here in Sweden away from family. It was unexpected which makes it harder. This is something I was aware that could happen if I moved abroad. This video is a tribute and in loving memory to my Dad (February 1955- June 2024).

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@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

I want to give a shout out to the homeowner for doing CPR on my dad. I know as a nurse , this is a very traumatic experience to perform CPR. Dad died doing what he knew and loved… working hard. It was probably the best way he could have gone.

@pucktholinder3692 Ай бұрын

Beklagar sorgen. Tack för att du berättar om din pappa och dina fina minnen av honom. ❤

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

Tack för att du lyssnar

@CoNaana Ай бұрын

Sorry to hear about your loss, I hope you have someone to give you a hug.

@marcusdavidsson5726 Ай бұрын

Tråkigt att höra om din far. Sverige har väldigt bra villkor när det gäller ledighet i samband med närståendes bortgång. Kolla med HR vad som gäller. Troligen har du minst en dags betald ledighet och fler dagar utan ersättning.

@anderskronquist9750 Ай бұрын

So sorry about your dad. Thank you for the video and sharing with us.

@Majamaria2 Ай бұрын

I´m so sorry to hear about your loss. I think you have the right to take a couple of days of right away if you want to gather your thoughts. And I think you can change a few days of your vacation into paid days for "personal concerns", that way you can save your vacation days for later, or extend your holiday.

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

Thanks for the advice

@Jorge_i_Norge Ай бұрын

My mother is 81 and live in Argentina, and I am in Norway. My sisters are close to her and she is in good health, but the issue with distance in the back of my head all the time. I sorry for your lose.

@MrPalp Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I hope you will get through this well.

@mariannepilgaard2524 Ай бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss. What a shock when it is so unexpected.

@MrMvidz Ай бұрын

My wife experienced something similar, when her dad died on the other side of the world. Sorry about your loss 😥

@susannesamuelsson2930 Ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's hard to loose a parent or those once we love! Sending you warm hugs 🤗🥰 and lots of love ❤!

@BjornTyvik Ай бұрын

Sorry about your loss. Wise words from you today! Thank you. Take care!

@Mike-Stevens Ай бұрын

Hi B! I´m sorry for your loss it is not easy when you have a Atlantic ocean between your family and your self. But you are right that a you have to live the live you want. My husband have is older parents in USA and it is not easy to be there for them and knowing the get older and need help. But even if we have our own life we always have our memories of the love ones in our heart. 💖

@Aidan_Au Ай бұрын

I hope that your dad is at a better place. Tack again for sharing your journey in Sweden

@ActualCounterfactual Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing with us bro.... condolences to you + your family ... hope you are coping in your tribulations.... 😥

@erikjalefors9377 Ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss Brandon ! Keep fighting the good fight ❤

@stacis.803 Ай бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss.. 💔 this is one of my fears with living abroad.. I've already lost my dad, but my mom is still alive. You're right though.. if we sit around waiting for others to pass we lose out on our own life. I'm sure feelings will be very up and down especially with it being so sudden and recent, but I hope you remember to be kind to yourself. 🙏

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

Thanks for the kind words

@pamelaclark7213 Ай бұрын

Sending our prayers to you and your family

@MTimWeaver Ай бұрын

I’m very sorry about your father. I went through something similar in 1997, though not as extreme. I got a call one morning that my dad had passed back home. I live in another state, so I had to go home and help my step-mom deal with things. I’ve lived overseas and have a lot of friends who have (and some who still do), and know how difficult a situation like this is. My condolences to you and your family.

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing your experience 🫂

@lindasimson7790 Ай бұрын

Sorry gory your loss Brandon, think of the happy memories with your dad, huge hugs to you, love from Scotland xxxx❤❤

@lindasimson7790 Ай бұрын

For

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

Thanks 🙏🏻

@charleshultquist9233 Ай бұрын

So sorry for your loss. I know Vombsjön, jätte vackert där. I'm also an expat. Lived and studied in Lund for years....up in Småland now. I have family back home but haven't been there since before covid.

@charleshultquist9233 Ай бұрын

as a side note....I was also born in February 1955....rock on!

@fishlein Ай бұрын

I’m really sorry to hear this, be strong, do your best and make him proud. I lost my mom two weeks ago as well.

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

So sorry for your loss 😢

@fishlein Ай бұрын

@@becurious2000 thank you sir

@annikaahlenbring4276 Ай бұрын

Beklagar sorgen. Så många fina och kloka tankar du delade med dig i filmen. Tar med mig dina ord!

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

Tack för att du lyssnar till filmen 🙏🏻

@Thunderheartwoman76 Ай бұрын

i am so sorry for your loss

@jjohanesson9139 28 күн бұрын

I'm sorry for your loss.

@makinmischief Ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss 🫶

@ann-louiseallert2498 Ай бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss! I believe we honour our parents by living the life they gave us the best way we can. And with our memories we keep them with us. I always feel that my lost loved ones still keep an eye on me. Take good care of yourself.

@cmmcmaster8813 Ай бұрын

Really sorry about your dad Brandon. It was a shock to all of us here at home. We only get one go around in life, looks like your living it to its fullest. Looking forward to seeing you when you get home Brandon, love ya buddy😂😂.

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

Thanks love ya too

@HannaSahlman Ай бұрын

I am sorry for you loss.

@Egonibacken Ай бұрын

Beklagar sorgen! Ditt inslag är rörande, ärligt och vackert!!

@jazze63 16 күн бұрын

OMG! I cant imagine being so far away in a situation like this!! I am so sorry for you..🥺

@becurious2000 16 күн бұрын

Thanks. 🙏🏻 yea not easy at all

@juanap132 Ай бұрын

What a terrible shock for you and your family! I am so very sorry for your loss! Of course it's hard when something like this happens and even harder when you're far away in another country...

@datadrivendev Ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss, my condolences

@Er.L. Ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for you loss. Jag beklagar sorgen.

@supersmurf4884 Ай бұрын

Sorry for your loss.

@SirHubertthefirst Ай бұрын

So sorry for your loss.😘

@anneliherslof Ай бұрын

❤

@ane-louisestampe7939 Ай бұрын

My deepest condolences.

@thomascleo Ай бұрын

Much love to you❤❤❤

@nuxgl Ай бұрын

I'm sorry for your loss ! You made a beautiful tribute and thank you for sharing. I wish you all the best ! Gecondoleerd en sterkte ! PS: Talk to your employer or HR-person, maybe you can have some days off (If you want) which will not be taken from your vacation days. Where I live (NL) that's possible and I assume Sweden could be similar in that account.

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

Thanks I am hearing there is something similar here too. I’ll get with my boss next week about it

@katrinaspegren485 Ай бұрын

Många styrkekramar ❤

@eightsprites Ай бұрын

Sorry about your loss. It will be a hard year. It may take 6-24 months until you fully back to normal. It happens to all of us. This will change you in some ways, and that’s okey. Any feelings after a parents death are ok. Its all different for us all.

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

Thanks 🙏🏻

@olsa76 Ай бұрын

Beklagar sorgen! ❤

@iabergils Ай бұрын

Omg I am so sorry. That must be a complete nightmare. Losing a beloved family member unexpectedly is bad enough but then being so far away and everything as well... Do you have anyone to talk to or get a hug from, here? I hope you do. Personally I believe in a soul so I am sure he is with you here just as much as with your people in texas now but still ... And I know there's a strike and everything but I am still pretty sure they can't deny you a couple of days off if you loose a parent. If you feel you need it. Now I mean, even if you're not able to go back home right now.

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

Thanks for the support. Thankfully I made some good friends in Sweden and those at work have been very supportive as well.

@albertoberdecia2392 Ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. 2 Co 1:3, 4 May Jehovah comfort you in these difficult moment.

@MrKlacken Ай бұрын

Beklagar sorgen Brandon 😢

@ErKiiJanNe Ай бұрын

Beklagar sorgen och kramar från mej.

@Barbod1357 Ай бұрын

😢🖤

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

🥹

@stiglarsson8405 Ай бұрын

My condolences! In practise one is prepared.. but newer emotionaly! However.. pratical things.. in all places that have a "kollektivavtal" = collective agreement, one get minimum 2 days of payd leave, for attending "realatives funeral", its a broad spectrum of relatives, even ones spouses relatives! Its this.. that you mayby have learned.. one need to talk to the HR personel as soon as posible.. espeicialy about changing of plans!

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

Great information thanks

@stiglarsson8405 Ай бұрын

@@becurious2000 I do belive that you alredy got a grasp about Swedish thinking? In anyway those two days payd leave is part of your salary/your collective agreement! Becuse its set up in old time.. for people that lives in Sweden! Friday to travle, Saturday for meating relatives, Sunday for funeral, Monday for travle back home! In anyhow those four days dont gonna make it for you.. minimum a week, preferably two weeks? You thought that you would travle trou Europe this year..change of plans.. its still this, talk to your HR personel, your boss, your colleges! In anyway.. even if your HR personel get disturbed.. you dont get fired! Another thing, if one is a son or daughter, one need to atend "bouppteckningen".. I cant find any good translation to English/America.. " I enlighet med denna ordlista kan jag hitta att den rätta översättningen av bouppteckning är estate inventory eller estate inventory deed och översättningen av bouppteckningsförrättning är estate inventory proceedings eller drawing up of an estate inventory."! lawline.se/answers/juridiska-termer-pa-engelska Iallafall/anyhow as a son or daughter one supose to be at that meating, in some collective agreements, you can get two more payd days, in others one get "free days of"!

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

@@stiglarsson8405 wow! I really appreciate this information. This is very helpful. I was sent home yesterday as I had a panic attack and started having chest pain. The work situation is not sustainable currently with the nursing strike and people taking vaccinations. I was expected to do 4 days of work in 1 while the strike goes on and people are on vacation… on top of that , dad died. I broke down yesterday so they told me to go home and take care of myself. I am so worried about my colleagues and the patients. But it is what it is. The doctor wants me to call in sick at least a week as I am having off and on chest pain especially giving that might be what killed my dad at work. So I have Sjukanmälanält mig so I can recover.

@stiglarsson8405 Ай бұрын

@@becurious2000 I try to tell and interpret how it works in Sweden, in your case as an American! Its a bit different, we do have labor laws, thats minimum, but instead we have "collective agreement laws".. its those that regulate working conditions and minimal wage for every branch! Its more about minimal wage and how much benefits! However moste other in your situation would have a breakdown.. you is an experienced nurse, when your doctor tell you to call in sick.. you kinda know if its nececery or not! And get rid of that US hype.. I gonna go to my work even if its kill mee! Its rather US stereotypes.. if one call in sick one lose ones jobb.. if one work a whole life in the same company without any sick days, they gonna send some flowers to your funeral when you dies! Take your time and think more swedish.. you still probably have to use a big shunk of your payd vacation days to atend funeral and the rest.. you only have to talk to HR, your colleges !

@becurious2000 Ай бұрын

@@stiglarsson8405 ya know I was joking with a few here that I inherited my dad and his dads work ethic. Hopefully I don’t die in the job too. A little dark humor… but yea it’s a big adjustment for me. My dad took me to work since I was 8 years old so working hard is kind of built into me. I think the other issue is I worry about people… my colleagues and the patients… especially the patients. We have a shortage of healthcare professionals in Sweden which affects patient care. But this problem seems to be universal in all countries, not sure why that is.