This sounds AMAZING, if you have supportive parents. Not everyone has that privilege….

I told my son that and he listened. He's doing well on his own now. One other thing I told him is NEVER tell anybody how much money he has saved. NO ONE.

Sometimes we NEED space. It's not always a broke or rich thing.

Wrong. I’m celibate and sober and staying with my mother or anyone else is driving me crazy. I’m moving out again for the sake of my mental health. Most grown women cannot live together. Move out for the sake of your emotional and mental well being. The money will come!

I left home at 18 to join the military and that was the best decision I made. Everyone isn’t thinking about smoking weed and having sex just because they want their own place. 🤦🏽‍♀️

Older ppl need to realize us young folks deal with a different breed of parents. I be broke dealing with my parents and they don't pay you back or even come in clutch as much. I'll take apartment for 1.5k any day over depression cause by family.

The people who are moving out are people who are emotionally mature enough to understand that life will always be hard.

“The only reason you wanna move is smoke weed and have sex” no parents can be intrusive something as simple as freedom to sleep on a Saturday is reason enough, different times call for different advice Aunty. You ever lived with a drug addicted parent I’ve seen it’s not pretty. Some people’s home life is a living hell.

CONFIRMATION. About to start my nursing career and I’m really into saving my coins. Thought about moving out but my mom said to stay home, save my money and wait to move out. Thank you! Confirmation!!

Please listen to this!!!! If circumstances allow it, stay home!!! I wish I could’ve gone home and saved a lot more.

I moved because my mother's boyfriend was her priority. I felt invisible. I don't ever want my children to feel that way.

If I never moved out I wouldn’t have learned how to budget my finances, be self-reliant, develop a hustle at all costs mentality… still would have been comfortable and broke even though I was living rent free.

Some people are living with parents that are gobbling up their checks and financially abusing them. So its not always an option

Don’t stay in a house of emotionally and physically abusive parents just to save money.

I’d rather be broke and smoke in my house that’s paid every month than watch my mental health deteriorate from my home environment. Thanks tho

lmaooo some people actually have toxic parents with environments that hurt more than they help. she thought she ate this one

Moved out at 17, NEVER looked back. Having your own space is the best feeling in the world.

I am asian. In our culture children leave the home when they are getting married or if school and work is far from home. But as for me, growing up being physically and verbally abused by my own depressive mother is a lot. I suffered from so much trauma as a child. Whenever my mother would be lost in her mental state, I was beaten up, pointed knives at. I go to school full of bruises almost daily. So when i got the opportunity to study far away i did my best to escape her. After graduating i came back again then she just still do the same thing and she doesn't want me their since i have no job and she is not getting anything from me so i did my best to find and job then when i did, i started supporting my youngest brother to college and at the same time support my parents since they don't have jobs already that time. I thought that will make her happy but No. The abuse kept going and more pressure so decided to move away since I can already support myself. Since then had been better. Unfortunately the impact of the trauma hits me already. I now suffer from anxiety and depression. But the only way i feel safe is away from her. I forgave her but the results of what she did to me was something that i will have to take for maybe the rest of my life. Now, I'm living a better life. I am able to provide for myself and for many years have provided for my family too while away from them. I was able to achieve so many things. I am financially stable and living a healthier life. All hardwork paid off.

This response is not it. This is speaking from a place of privilege that everyone can just stay home. Some people don’t have parents or have very toxic parents. I would rather my mental be together in my own spot than putting up with someone yelling every night.

Hard to save up when your parents are still making you pay for shit while telling you to stay put and save up money. I might as well be out on my own

I moved out! Was the best decision ever. Parents want to live through there kids and they want you to do what they want you to do. And it can be toxic. I really grew as a person once I left. And I don’t need them

On the contrary, If you live in an abusive household, broke or not, leave!

My awesone son lived with me until 28, he had a beat up Ford runner that he loved n used it until it quit on him. Bought a new car n just bought his own home. Comes by the house often as he loves leftover food n knows he could find some at home. My daughter is 20 n I don't see her leaving any time soon n I don't mind it cauz she's an awesome kid! My middle son is married with a son n moved near me as they love to visit often. I feel blessed 🙌

Not all of us have anyone left to live with. My entire family is either dead or locked up at this point. I'm 100% on my own now with no help from anyone. 😖

I can't be staying in a toxic environment.

If the environment ain’t right, then ultimately you are left with no choice but to bounce for the safety and mental HEALTH

Not everyone has good parents and tbh it’s better to be broke in a healthy environment than rich in a toxic one. Classic case of an older woman forgetting what it was like.

Her ability to talk condescendily is unmatched. Many young adults move out to have a private peaceful life. Its a good way to get into “the real world” and great way to build credit. That being said, young adults shouldn’t move out until they have a stable income.

The amount of shaming that is unleashed for "staying home" is why most "broke" people have a desire to move out. In my opinion. I could be wrong.

Wait what? People move out because they want their space. Able to cook, able to use the bathroom in peace, not worrying about people making mess or stealing your shit. Not everyone enjoys fucking and smoking, they worry about their peace of mind.

At a certain point you need to man or woman up and move out. I don’t think there’s really an issue moving back with parent if you really need the help.. but if you’re just comfortable there.. that’s a huge problem

Sometimes moving out young is for your mental and emotional well being…sometimes staying home means living in a toxic environment and not all parents ate supportive

My friends always ask me “ when your son moving out”. He’s 22 btw. The answer is when he can afford to not move back in. Just cuz they turn 18-20 whatever does not mean get out. Get yourself together financially.

I tried to tell my daughter this! It's NOT about the negative. It's about building wealth.

My mother is so overwhelming and toxic. Some people need to get out asap and never look back

No girl that why YOU wanted to move out 💀

I told my son this yesterday; “ I’m not gonna be one of those parents that kicks you out. I will however enforce some habits that’ll have you saving up for your own house, business or overall financial stability. Whichever one you choose.”

Well it’s not always the case. Sometimes the home situation isn’t worth it. It’s nice to stay home but not in toxic environments.

But you HAVE TO MOVE OUT if your parents are being "overprotective" (aka controlling) and won't let you do shit no matter how responsible you are. I'm so tired of being treated like a kid in this house and always under surveillance even though I'm a fucking 24 y/o adult. Too bad I'm still broke and in the process of saving money. I can't wait to move out from this hellhole. I need to be free. I'm human too.

This only works when you have great parents that understand you, are willing to listen to you/understand you and are going to support you the best they can(including financially),... parents who will not burden you emotionally, spiritually or financially. Only few young adults/teens have this privilege these days.

Facts! I went back home at 28. I was able to make a career change and pay off all my debt. Savings and 401k is sitting nice. I told myself I am not leaving until I get a husband. Well I’m getting married at the end of the year. I’ll be leaving then! I’m 35 no kids.

Preach!! If this is an option for you, do it! It’s different for millennials these days. We’re up against unprecedented odds. It’s vital that we give ourselves a real chance to “get it right” by staying home and saving if possible. I’m 34 and it worked for me. I went back to school, got rid of my social media, I quit smoking, started a business, I’m purchasing my first multi-family property this year, and preparing to start law school next year. Do what’s best for you!

This does not apply if you have toxic abusive parents or family. I'd rather live alone than be miserable because I chose to stay (like me, it's hard to heal and grow when you stay with people who constantly put you down and make a deal out of small things) .

I left home at 17 folks are too grown to be dealing with someone else’s rules period

But earn your keep at home.... clean, cook meals, do chores, run errands, do yard work or whatever is helpful for your family - no freeloading couch potato or gamer all night and sleep all day nonsense....or if you're working, pay a minimal amount of rent to be responsible...if you're in school, focus on getting good grades and do what you're able to help out...

This sounds good but I definitely saved more money by moving out. My family was always looking to me to bail them out financially and that kept draining my savings. I moved out and got 2 roommates. Then I was finally able to "stack my money".

I moved when I was 23. I needed my own space . My mom would actually be happy if I moved back but no way LOL. I’m 27 now .

This is such a one track mind of thinking tho. Like I need to move out in less than a month because I live so far from my school and I’m there every single day, my family is constantly breathing down my neck that it’s just toxic at this point, and I’m literally 21! I need out ASAP! It’s not always a matter of want, but a NEED!! I don’t know how I’m gonna make it work, but I’m trusting God and getting it done! I’ve already been approved for my apartment!!! 🙌🏼🙏🏼

“You need to keep your draws on until you get some money” rules for life.

Dam this lady sounds like she don’t believe in this generation. Sad story I’m 30 and got my shit together since I was 24, moved out when I was 18 and thanks to that now I make more than enough to pay a 2K rent and everything else.

I wish I'd listen to this as a young adult. I let people who had nothing to their names peer pressure me. And made me feel like I was less of an adult because I wasn't completely independent.

I stayed with my toxic parents during quarantine to stack up coins and yeah I do NOT recommend not worth it in any way if where you are living sacrifices your mental health.

I ended up living at home until I got married and my mother extended the mother in law suite to my husband and I to help us save in order to buy a house and now we have a beautiful home which we build a separate suite and are able to do air BnB in that section. Essentially the house pays for itself. Gotta move smart

I moved out at nineteen and that was the best thing for me. You can't be grown in other grown people house.

I moved out right after high school and pushed me to do better with my life because I didn’t have the net there to catch me … my parents were always there but being on my own help me thrive to do more

Get the cheapest apartment in the best neighborhood, sometimes you have to leave.

If you are going to live at home don't be obnoxious or disrespectful. Offer to pay a bill or buy groceries. Understand appropriateness and boundaries. These are just a few things that will keep the peace in the house. I know a woman that allowed her adult grandson to move in with her. He stopped speaking to her. No good morning, didn't want to answer questions or have casual conversation. It was a very awkward living situation.

Thank you for saying this. People think something is wrong with kids staying home with their parents. Our community really needs to understand the value in this helping each other build for the long term.

This lady is broke. She didn’t even explain how “the only people moving out are broke people” 😭

Was removed from my home by CPS as a teenager and spent my last year of high school couch surfing. Not everyone has the option of staying with their parents….Come on now, not everyone’s priority’s are smoking weed n having sex. Because lord knows this candy shop’s closed!!!!!

In the Caribbean we stay home as long as we want. The more children in the house the better . Just contribute in any way you can.

This whole idea that you need to separate yourself from your family at an extremely young (and still vulnerable) age, lose their support, and be an island who only communicates with Uncle Sam and coworkers is an illusion pushed by our handlers. People who live like that benefit them. People with no support group or family structure behind them are perfect. The same way an abusive lover isolates you is exactly what our handlers do. Unless you were raised in a toxic home, stay with your family. As much as you can. There's been a concerted effort to break up family into smaller and smaller units and to isolate people. Nowadays we consider a family as a husband a wife and some kids. A family used to be that, grandma's, grandpa's, uncle, aunts, etc. An entire village. We've been conditioned to separate ourselves from these people and to only focus on being obedient worker drones. Career career school degree work work work 40 hours. Nothing else matters. Thanks for this. More people need to hear this advice.

I’m not so much of a young adult, but been beyond ready to move out. Just tired of dealing with stuff at home. It’s been way past due for me. Just saving and stacking my money so when I make the move I don’t have to come back

This is how I feel about my children. My daughter can stay until she at least gets married my son maybe until 30. If they wanna leave that’s not a problem but I would rather they stay build credit and save and go to school if they choose to

Although this sounds good, I totally disagree especially when you’re surrounded by toxic relatives… every family isn’t the same

Speaking nothing but facts.. just had this convo with my 17 yr old son. He scared he's gonna get booted. I told him I loved him and he's welcome to stay in my home as long as he's working on himself. Such as college and working on achieving his career goals.

Exact reason why I loooove your channel! Wisdom💯💯💯💗

This is a very great message for those who are say teenagers that are so eager to move out before getting their situation straight . But if you’ve been with your peoples for 13+ years in same environment it’s time for you move out and force yourself to get your stuff together . Staying home with mommy not gone bring you motivation to become fully independent.

A lot of times it’s difficult for parents to see their kids as adults if their still living in their homes. It feels like high school. Sometimes moving out is necessary to maintain sanity (but it hurts the pockets)

Listen, and do what the Lord is telling you to do . Money is a tool, but it’s not the only tool. If he tells you to move, just move and he will supply what it is that you’ll need! 🙏🏾🙏🏾

Girl!!! You better tell it like it is❗❗❣❣ my 24yr old just moved back...that $900 rent in Texas for a tiny 1bdr was a bit much, plus utilities and ERCOT crap - game over! Smart move

She clearly is unaware of narcissistic abuse in families.

I let my daughter live with me with the understanding that she was going to build her bank account and buy a home. Well, she bought her first home last year and is on her way to building her wealth. There is a stigma in the black community about living at home because a lot of parents don't set the proper expectations but allow their children to live at home and do nothing. We, as parents, must have productive discussions with our children about building wealth and this discussion needs to start at an early age.

Not everyone has this option, obviously. When I was at home, my mom took all of my money, making it impossible to save a crumb. But I definitely see your point.

Great advice. Living on your own and low key struggling is not the flex people think it is.

Great Word! If it doesn't apply to you keep swiping but those that it apply to....listen and say thank you. God bless your day.

I disagree with her. Many young folks do not want to leave home just to have sex and smoke weed. Some leave for circumstances beyond their control or they are ready to be independent. The bills tho...🤔🤔🤔

Ms. Lynn is so right!!! Stay home young adults. I stayed home for 3 years, then lived with my great aunt for 1.5 years and then I spread my wings and came west. It’s a journey, but stay home and help your parents as long as you can. It’s not easy out here. $1500 is crazy!!!! And for that kinda of money that landlord can keep that place. Started pay $499 for a one room in 2009, moved west and paid $499 base rent for a one bedroom in 2014. Now the rent is $914 in 2021. Working on buying a home right now. It takes time. Just be patient, stay home and save, pay off debt and start a side-hustle. It’s possible. Stay committed.

She could’ve said all that without the smoking and sex part honestly

Anyone 28 and younger please take this advice if you are able to. The exception is that if the home of your parents is so toxic that it's detrimental to your well being, then by all means move.

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 However, this only works when you have parents that understand what you are doing and dont rely on you to pay bills.

Great message, but the truth is also that some parents require their children to leave at 18. So, they may not always have a choice.

She does understand that are parents are the reason we wanna get a crib or

I'm moving because I'm a grown woman and it my life! America socks! Lol

The financial gospel was spoken here!! Stay put till you get your money right!

Dr. Lynn came in with the Friday facts!!

That's straight talk. Thank you.

Some people stay home and still broke it’s all about the mindset of the individual

Yeah, this sounds good in theory but many people will not mature into responsible adults until they are out on their own.

I am 16 years old and my home environment simply isn't for me. My mom and brother and insufferable. I love them but I absolutely HATE living with them. I am a Christian and I don't believe in sleeping with anyone before marriage nor do I believe in smoking, doing drugs, etc. I want to move out at 18 because of my mental health.

I absolutely LOVE you Lynn. I have seen wonders in my WEALTH building/maintenance since taking your courses and doing the homework diligently!!!

The way she put that was a put down. “Broke people.” Some people are really looking for advice, but not to be degraded.

I had to move. When you have financially illiterate parents you’re forced to share the burned of bills. I decided I’m only paying my own bills

This put me in my place on so many levels. Thank you 💕🧠

It’s no shame! I did that and happy I made that decision ❤️

She'll be the same woman laughing at a man living with his parents

Depends on the situation, some people need to move out to feel the pressure to get their lives in order

This vid appeared again on my feed and gurl not everyone wants to move out to do bad things, many of us want to move out to have some damn freedom.

😭😭I’m crying watching this..my reality

I stayed at home till I was 29 and met my husband .my friends had kids young and moved out young , they would ask why I haven't moved out yet and bragged about having their privacy and could come and go as they please. Baby I could come and go as I please and I was also financially stable when I moved out got married and had a way less stressful transition. With less of the struggle and I didn't care about their criticisms because while they have kids no husband and a ton of bills. I had 2 cars home cooked meals and only 3 bills cellphone, car insurance, and cable. I shopped when I wanted to got my hair and nails done when I wanted to and had a decent savings so my advice Is stay home and live safe and comfortable until you can live that same comfortable life on your own or you marry someone who can help you maintain the same comfort you have at home. Why struggle when you don't have to and don't let your most likely a little jealous friends shame you out of your comfort because they made the mistake of jumping into all those responsibilities alone to soon.