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yes mr.cook! i am a 17 year old girl and sadly i fell into the trap, i thought my worth was found in how much skin i showed. By His grace, He found me when i was 15 and showed me how He is worth more than boys and how my body is meant to glorify Him and Him alone. There is hope for young girls and boys and that is in Christ alone. Thank Jesus!

“A beautiful woman who lacks discretion is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout.”(Proverbs 11:22 I love this proverb it is so true.)The bottom line is the ways of the world lead to emptiness. I love Proverbs 31 🙌🏻✝️☀️

Hit the nail on the head. I was a product of the late nineties, early 2000’s. Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera, MTV, cosmopolitan mag. I look back now thinking where was my parents?. They were working. MTV raised me. I had no clue who I was. Became so sexualized and promiscuous. It’s heartbreaking all the lies and deception I experienced. I thank God for saving me and transforming my life so I can raise my girls to know their true worth and value. 🙌🏻

They look at it as “women-empowerment” and “freedom” when really it’s, “self-degradation” and “bondage”. We have to call it for what it really is in society, but people are so deceived.

"The world or the Word." "Are you going to believe the lies of the world or the truth of God's Word?" Excellent show. Needed to be said.

The new wave of girls transitioning or considering themselves as asexual IS the current worldly pushback against the pornification of women. And this pushback comes with hurt and rage against the way things have progressed since the Kardashians rose to fame. I completely understand that pain, and I pray for the young girls who don’t have a biblical role model in their life to steer them to the truth-that Jesus loves them and values them, as women, as beautiful, but not in a perverted way.

The biggest mistake my parents made, was overly sheltering me instead of teaching me about the traps of the world. If any young girls read this, DON’T FALL FOR IT. You’re promised freedom, self-love, confidence, absolutely none of it is true. Living this way will only bring you pain and emptiness. Even the people on social media who seem so happy and like they’ve got it all, it’s a complete fabrication. Money is not worth losing your mental, physical, and spiritual health.

I am and have been a counselor since 1985, and I work primarily with teens and young adults . This is a very important topic. Becket is exactly right : social media is Satan’s masterpiece . One of the things I routinely recommend is girls stay off of social media , it breeds dissatisfaction with self and ensnares girls into a world of objectification and self - hatred . I find they are relieved and spend the time once spent on flicking through images pursuing interests and building skills . We do knitting groups , some girls are now pursuing wood working , hiking , painting , gardening , and other hands- on, creative pursuits . Excellent topic - and Becket addresses it well.

What baffles me is how many MOTHERS are allowing their daughters to walk out of the house pantless...and who actually post photos of their daughters on their on social media. It's a pride thing for them- like "look how hot my daughter is" and it's not only disturbing, but damaging. Funny how the women fall easily and hard- just like Eve and that apple.

If we understood how deep, how intense and deviant the Devil’s hate for us is we would RUN to Jesus. Oh what a mighty Savior He is, how can people live and be “happy” without Him 😔

Porn is the biggest problem of the internet age. Social media takes spot #2. Whether from a secular perspective or a Christian one, I think this remains true.

I work in a young person's homeless unit. The over-sexualised talk and behaviour they pick up from social media horrified me. Their lives are way over-sexualised and they dress to reveal even when going about the unit or to the local shop. Their sexual lifestyles are boundless and they are emulating the lifestyles and attitudes of these godless celebrities. The Bible says, as in the days of Noah and Lot so shall it be in the days of the coming of the Son of man. We're in those days as we speak.

I have a six- and an eight-year-old daughter and I've already told them as long as they are living in my house they will not be allowed to have social media because of how toxic it is, especially for young girls.

It makes one think “ Where are the fathers of these girls?” What happened to our men to let their daughters become this way ?

This isn't just in USA. This is happening in the UK too, and probably most western countries. The problem is is that people don't realise just how sexual these pictures are, they don't see the faults. It's also causing men to see women more as sexual objects rather than people, which is ironic as the feminism movement often promotes these pornographic images, yet these images often increases the sexual objectification of women.

Thank you for making this video. I'm in my 40's and seeing how self obsessed younger girls are is disturbing. A few years ago when I was at the gym there was a women in her 20's in her spandex and sports bra draping herself over a machine and taking a photo with the same duck face they all use. I was on the treadmill thinking please put on a shirt and stop putting on a show for the men working out. It's about self respect and dignity. I don't know if these young women realize they look like they're for sale. I want to go to them and say "honey you're worth more than this"

As a previous church youth teacher, this issue has grieved me. Christian moms are doing it too. (There, I said it.) It fills my heart to know you are speaking truth to so many people, Becket! You are strong and courageous and a godly example to brothers and sisters in Christ. Thank you!

Great talk. I'm a 56 year old lady and am always surprised by the older models and performers behaving like teenagers. It's so embarrassing.

And it is crazy that they fight against sexism, that women shouldn't be sex objects but they are sexualizing themselves... I'm very careful when I post pictures on social media. I'm posting less year by year though. Great video, Becket! It is a great topic. I see young girls at church with mini-skirts and mini-dresses, I think the parents need to address this topic more often with their kids.

I have friends who can’t find decent clothes for their girls. I think someone needs to fill the void and make cute, pretty and modest clothing for young women. A designer’s eye is needed. Right now it’s a sad state of affairs.

“Social media is Satan’s masterpiece” is the perfect description

Thank you for covering this topic, Becket. Sorry in advance for the long comment, but this topic is important to me. I was a teenage girl in the late '90s, and I remember seeing porn become mainstream around that time. It went from being a dirty secret to something that made you cool. Porn stars became big names. Pamela Anderson was everywhere. Adult novelty shops started popping up in regular towns, but instead of being places where you'd want to hide your face, women started shopping at them for bachelorette parties and toys. Billie Eilish appeared on Howard Stern earlier this week to talk about how destructive porn has been to her mind, but ironically it was Howard Stern who had a lot to do with the pornification of girls in the '90s. He made it seem normal to flash and walk around naked for attention and free t-shirts. Then came the disgusting Girls Gone Wild phenomenon. All of this is nothing new, it's just a lot easier to do now with Instagram and OnlyFans, not to mention all the instant likes and dopamine hits. And now women my age have teenage daughters and no clue how to mother them properly. I have a friend at work who poses in suggestive pictures with her daughter and posts them to Facebook. I've seen FATHERS post their daughters' senior portraits where the girls' butts are popped out and we're supposed to think it's cute. And these are so-called church people. There is no more sweetness and innocence in being a young lady. Girls have been brainwashed for decades now to be sexy and nothing else. And I thought feminism was supposed to stop the objectification of women. What a sick culture we have created.

20 years ago, my eyes were opened to this disturbing trend. We then decided to homeschool for two main reasons (and loads of additional reasons): 1. I did not trust most adults in charge of children (pedophiles choose schools and churches for a reason). 2. I did not want my daughter to become obsessed with or dismayed with herself or be objectified. Our kids are grown. They are confident, caring, and generally happy people who have chosen to follow Jesus as independent adults. I thank God that neither was touched inappropriately by anyone. Our daughter is a fashion design major, yet has never dieted nor been especially drawn to "sexualized" styles. I consider the homeschooling experiment successful for many reasons, but those two mattered a lot to me. I love that my fashionable daughter doesn't even know what she weighs and is the same person in heels and dramatic dresses as she is with no makeup and sweatshirts. I wish I could say the same for myself at her age. Many of my friends' daughters seem traumatized by their school experiences with boys, peer pressure, and mean girls. It's a shark tank.

What most American Christians don't get is that as the world gets worse you should be getting more and more distant from it. It's not enough to be "Not as bad as the rest of the world." Being a Christian doesn't mean just being 10 years behind the times. They're living like atheists and pagans - just getting there slightly slower.

"The world will lie to you for the rest of your NATURAL life"; emphasis on 'natural'. I'm reminded of a line from the movie-'The African Queen'-starring Humphrey Bogart and Katharine Hepburn, in which Ms. Hepburn played a Christian missionary. In one scene, she says to the Humphrey Bogart character: "Mr. Olcott, nature is what we're put in this world to overcome." Perhaps one of the last times someone in Hollywood told the God's honest truth in public and didn't lose their job over it! What a great opening line for your segment this week, Becket! May He continue to bless you, Amen.

This started in the 1990s. my girls were young, and I saw all the clothing for girls for tweens at that time were essentially what prostitutes wore, which carried into the 2000s when they were teens. We preached modesty, and our worth is found in Christ. One daughter walked away from the Lord (Long story, but the short of it is she got spiritually abused in church), and my other daughter follows the Lord, and dresses modestly, out of choice. I often said, "if you dress like a prostitute, look like a prostitute, and act like a prostitute, you will BE TREATED LIKE A PROSTITUTE." This also makes it easier for human trafficking for sex, because the girls are advertising themselves as for sale (yet, I know that is NOT what they intended).

When I was a child my biggest influencers were my parents that were good Christian role models. I am so sad for this generation that their biggest influencers are terrible.

I comment on 99.9% of women's posts as "kardashianism at its deepest desire". The desire to be desirable by most women has completely disgusted me especially with females under 25. More so, with females under 45! Social media promotes promiscuous behavior and weak minds accept it! Thank you for sharing, a great vlog!

I remember wanting to be like these popular girls, have sexy photos and date all the handsome guys (used to think it was about time we girls did what boys always got away with doing) and of course this was a ridiculous and stupid mistake. If only i knew how regret would hurt even though I’ve been adopted into God’s family and enjoy peace with my Heavenly Father, my Saviour and the precious Holy Spirit who comforts me every time. It’s just one of those things - we may well do what we want but are we prepared for the consequences? I think not. We’d save so much heartache if only we’d listened to godly people from a young age. That being sad, I consider that having sinned much I now love much because I know how much my God has forgiven me though I would still have preferred loving much without having sinned so much… Praise God for ambassadors like you, Becket. We all have a part to play and I’m so thankful at how God is using you - please keep the faith and stay humble. x

I’m so glad you talked about this! When this narcissistic selfie trend started it just seemed so weird & creepy & knew it was going to lead to a very dark & destructive ending, & here we are.

Thank you Mr Cook for addressing this issue . I believe it is so important for men to talk about this in our society, men like you who speak so gently and respectfully, yet directly and truthfully.

In 1996, when it was called the “web” I told my husband that satan was gearing up for something big. Little did I know that it would be an evil masterpiece. To see what teens are wearing shocks me. They just don’t understand.

It is alarming and Christian parenting is soooo important so that girls understand what it means to honor God with their bodies.

"The social media thing is Satan's masterpiece." Nailed it, Becket! 💥 This pornification of young girls breaks my heart. Thank you for thoughtfully discussing this topic and always pointing people back to God's Word and Jesus! 💕

Sad, because these girls making all this money now, will not be able to take any of it into the afterlife.

Literally just a month ago I was driving Uber, I absent mindly had some minors get into my car, not realizing they were minors until we were too far from their house to turn around. I figured it would be safer to just drop them off where they were going than try to take them back home and have them get upset and start an altercation in which they try call them police or deny giving me their home address (because uber keeps the pick up address a secret)… so I take them and realize the drop off spot is a wooded area… I was like umm girls where am I dropping you off, they proceeded to tell me that they were going to a party in the woods, and they and others do it all the time. I dropped them off because I figured I’ll just call the police and have them crash the party and take care of it. So they get out, one was dressed in shorts so short her whole bum was hanging out. They walked off into the woods at night to party with other highschoolers. They were younger than juniors because they were talking about a junior guy who sent nude pics to one of them! So I called the cops, cops never came to meet me after waiting an hour and a half, I drove back around and saw multiple groups of them coming out of the woods all dressed in clubbing clothes, all taking random Uber’s as minors! Just ubering wherever, minors do it ALL THE TIME! I drove back to the area I picked them up and tried to find the house they came out of because I wanted to tell their parents and I couldn’t place the house because I wasn’t paying attention when they got in. But did end up finding the house a week or so ago because I dropped someone off nearby and realized yes that’s the house, the whole neighborhood has private school signs and Christian private school signs in their lawns. The girls I dropped off even said they loved the station I was playing KSBJ (Houston’s Christian channel). These were Christian children, taking Uber’s at 9 to 11pm, unaccompanied, unaccounted for, going into the woods dressed like club hoes to party with classmates. The cops ended up calling me back hours later and told me they knew they were back there! That these kids do it all the time! But that they drove back there and didn’t find anyone but they did know they were taking Uber’s to and from to get to the location. This world is so vile and evil… it’s just tainting innocent children. Children who think they have to have sex appeal at 12/15/18!! It’s so heartbreaking. I used to think the same way… and it’s an even greater shame that these so called “Christian” parents give their children debit cards or access to their debit cards, that they go to sleep not even knowing where there children are!! If their young daughters are asleep in bed or out taking Uber’s across Houston! Another time I picked up three girls from a shopping center way out in the suburbs, I thought they were young students just off of a shift but then as they talked I quickly realized they were young minors in high school! It was 1 AM!!!!! There was no way I wasn’t going to get them home safe, they could have been abducted or assaulted by some sicko uber driver. I dropped all three girls off at various locations, the last one was alone by herself with me, and I just thought where are your parents. You could get hurt doing this. I also found out it WAS A SCHOOL NIGHT! HOW DO YOU NOT KNOW WHERE YOUR CHILD IS ON A SCHOOL NIGHT?! How absent and neglectful can you be? How deluded can you be to allow such insane freedom for young high school girls?! It was sickening.

I'm not even old (31) and I remember the time where all this sensual selfie trend wasn't around and I remember how girls weren't even that interested on how they looked; a pony tail and that's it. Or maybe there was a trend but more of a style, not a sensual/sexual invitation in every picture. What hurts is remembering how some girls were pretty simple in how they presented themselves and witnessing the change, the downfall; and knowing that the reason for that is something external, they're just buying into it.

Modesty and purity are attitudes of a heart that has yielded it's "sexual power" to the Lord. From that inner obedience, the outward modesty will show up in dress and decorum. We desperately need the Lord to change our hearts.

I'm a boomer and I remember when it was a big deal for a girl to get a nose job when she was 16 years old. The Kardashian/Jenner family has influenced young girls (and some young men) to get complete plastic surgery transformations costing hundreds of thousands of dollars. It's heartbreaking.

As a Christian woman in her twenties, I whoheartedly agree with you. Thanks for making this important video and speaking the truth in love!

I noticed that a lot of kids programming are all about being famous. The characters are singers, dancers, have podcasts, tv shows etc. This teaches kids to chase fame and attention from a very young age.

It started with Madonna, then Britney Spears, Jennifer Lopez, Christina Aguilera and Beyoncé, narcissists. They like to call it owning your sexuality from the patriarchy. They've been doing that since the 60's, hasn't worked out for them has it?

This is not only girls, but young mothers as well. My husband and I are young ourselves, but every Sunday without fail, a girl/woman (anywhere between 13-35 years of age) wears something that makes our eyes bug out. I don't mean this to demean these women, but I honestly think they're unaware of what they're doing or why they're doing it. They're being led by the internet, celebrities, and advertising.

The modeling industry and Victoria’s secrets has done major damage to women. You can’t ignore the magazine industry. Examples; Vogue, Seventeen magazine, cosmopolitan, etc

Thank you for saying this. My son, who is 18, has some beautiful girls as friends. They have almost all fallen prey to this. I continuously ask him “do their dads see these pictures!” It saddens me.

I have been seeing and saying this. I saw what Beyonce wore to an event and the media kept saying she looked so beautiful and I thought, she's naked. It's a dark world and our children need Jesus. I'm blessed to be a Sunday School teaching and sharing the word. I'm thankful for the parents that bring them. The world wants our children and we need to oppose this wholeheartedly with fasting, prayer and involvement. Thank you and may God continue to expand to channel and circle of influence. To God be the glory.

I praise the Lord for your ministry, for your willingness to speak the truth. Thank you!🔥

Christian women must recover/practice modesty at all times, including around the pool/beach. There has been a huge disconnect in this area in recent decades: many would know not to wear the equivalent of bra and underwear walking through the mall but seem to do so without thought when it comes to swimwear. "Onepiece" swimsuits have been touted as modest, but they are not!! Swimwear should cover buttocks/thighs and cover chests and midriffs appropriately. I say this as a woman...

It’s truly scary the direction our society is going. Not even to mention the plastic surgery, makeup, and photoshop 😩

Becket, once again you are not afraid to speak the truth to this generation. Keep on. You are not coming from a naive perspective. You are coming to this topic from the knowledge and history that you gained from being in Hollywood amongst many in the Hollywood machine. I pray that many will hear the message that you are sharing in truth and love.

The kingdom of darkness is strategic, it works slowly, gradually until it has normalized what was once unthinkable. Thankfully God can renew our minds and sensitize our hearts once again.

I, too, have witnessed this development over the past ten years. I'm working as a mental health professional with teenage girls and try to lead by example (modest clothing, little to no make up) and remind them how very precious they are just the way they are. At the end of the day they just want to be loved and feel accepted. Thanks for pointing this out, Becket 🙏♥️

First verse that popped in my mind when I watched this👇 "Noone can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money." -Matt 6:24 Anything, ANY THING, you place as higher than God, is idol worship. If you use it to gain prestige, followers, value, to avoid emotions such as sadness, anxiety, fear, boredom, it's an idol. Only God can fill you up. All else will lead to ruin, eventually.🇨🇦♥️

Many people call themselves Christian but you will know the tree by it's fruit keep your nieces in prayers 🙏🏾❤️

I hear ya!!!! I’m 52 yrs old and I see sooooo many classmates from high school posting sexual selfie’s & making their own videos of themselves! I can see if they’re selling a product or have a podcast with awesome content or information, but I’m like “What the what!?!?” How old are we??? They’re just posting crazy stuff. I just laugh! My gosh! Really?!? This culture and social media is indeed Satan’s playground! Great video Beck! I’m with ya! 👍

Also, spouses wanting their wives to look like them and have a body like them. It can be stressful and hurtful for women in general. Also, can one imagine the lust those women are causing to those who struggle with lust or porn and are trying to get freedom in Christ. GodBless you Brother😊

Great points. I’m watching a young lady who says she is a believer, follow the lies of the world. It is heartbreaking.

It is really interesting reading through all the comments and seeing the other side of this struggle. I am a man that struggles with porn addiction and objectifying women. It helps seeing how yall struggle with being objectified and finding your worth in your looks.

Love that you said the world is always going to lie to you. It's so sad and disturbing how far down the "rabbit hole" society has gone with normalizing young women posting sexually explicit photos, videos on social media. I feel Moms were doing that and now are raising daughters - YIKES!! All too often most don't have a strong faith to help show them it's not ok. Keep doing what you do. Thank you Beckett!!

So few tell the truth, you are very brave, dear Becket, thank you, women are not aware the devil hate them intensely, that is why he attacks them, you are doing a very important thing, thank tou!

Another good topic. It makes me so sad to see how far we've all fallen, but especially women. I mean, the fact that so many women today are aborting their precious babies and a homemaker is ridiculed and looked down upon. The most valuable God given gifts to have and raise children and make a home and family. I remember when I first started seeing sexualized pics of pregnancy. Pregnancy is beautiful, but to reveal your half naked body for the world to see, just doesn't seem appropriate to me. Take them for yourself and and your husband perhaps. It's just so sacred in my eyes. What is decency these days? I'm not sure.

BECKET!!! BRO!!! Well-Said!!! Thank You and God Bless!!! I never did nudity in my over 20 year career in the biz!!! Praise God for a mom and grandma who instilled morals into me....and prayed for me!!! Much Love....Cherie

I love hearing that you’re speaking truth to young people all over the country! May God continue to bless you as you continue to be His ambassador!

I have to disagree with some points on the video. This trend of pornificating young women started with sexual revolution. Throughout the 90s, the entertainment industry sold the idea that women are liberated by being sexuality explicit. Anything showing modestly is seen as oppressive. I do agree that us women should find our identity in Christ not culture.

I just read: "If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin." I guess it is going to take a special kind of discernment to know what is darkness & what is light when the culture is constantly putting out skin in full display 😢 I'll add that a couple of my friends recently posted the 'hot firemen' calendars & I'm not even wanting to look at those. It feels like a cheapening & objectification of people--- real dear people. And a young Christian man I follow on twitter is praying for a godly & faithful girl to come along & be his wife. I wonder how hard it is to find someone like that today, and I pray for him. ...Thanks, Becket

My girls, both raised in a traditional/modern Indian/western family environment, in which all the women dressed modestly, think that wearing 'cropped' tops that show off their bellies, is completely 'normal'. I think this 'new normal' has been building up over many years, culminating in 'The Kardashian look'.

“In all our ways acknowledge Him and He shall make straight our paths.” To sell yourself for a like is so tempting because women just want to feel beautiful but in the end it leaves you feeling empty and cheap, and so the cycle continues. You are so right Becket” there are only two choices, the Spirit or the flesh, there is no other choice”. I have been sick with autoimmune disease for 15 years and I see that as a type of mercy because that is the path I would have been on, doing anything for the attention and love I didn’t get from my earthly father. The more I more I see the trap that women are falling for today the more I am thankful for how close the Lord has kept me using this illness which sounds so weird to say but it’s true.

All I see girls wear now are skin tight leggings, stretch jeans or short shorts. And the dresses even high school girls wear to prom are so revealing. They are skin tight, short, and or reveal a lot of skin.

Paul Hogan did a comedy sketch back in the 70's about how two women competed for a man's attention in a train compartment by each revealing slightly more flesh to the delight of the male occupant. Hoges was ahead of his time, strange how art imitates life.

Good, heartfelt message for girls and their parents Becket. You are the real deal. You are changing minds and mindsets. Let all you do glorify God and I believe that is what you are doing. A big THANK YOU from Arizona!

The world or the word! Good one, Beckett. I will add that middle aged women celebrities are getting all kinds of surgical procedures in order to hold on to the sexiness that gets attention. Madonna has recently been posting sexual pics, as if to say “ look at me, I’m still relevant as a sex symbol”. It’s clear she’s had work done to the face and body. To me, that’s bondage, not freedom.

This was a very accurate video, but there is one extra point I'd like to glue on. The impact that this pornification is having on young people does not stop with young women objectifying themselves online. This has a ripple effect. It's causing young men to expect that out of all their potential female partners (this goes hand in hand with the porn pandemic). It's causing the young women that *aren't* posting these images to nonetheless feel incredibly insecure and inadequate - even if they aren't pornifying themselves, their ideas of worth as a woman are still wrapped up in the larger mainstream culture of sex'd up women. To all the young men out there who are staying true to God, have faith that there *are* real, quality women out there. It is not an endless sea of thots, even if that's how it might sometimes feel. To all the young women out there who are staying true to God, have faith that there are good men who will truly value you for *who you are* and not for how little clothes you pose in on Instagram.

Thank you for speaking about this subject, Becket. As a Christian woman, I always felt “odd” so to speak with my friends because I have always tried to wear in a modest manner. Don’t get me wrong, I still like to wear fashionable clothes, but without having to show too much of my body to the rest of the world in order to be “trendy” and accepted.

“social media is the devil’s masterpiece”. Amen Becket, amen

Thankyou Becket. It breaks my heart even to go to the beach these days. So many young women are now wearing thongs like being naked is okay. I worry about my grand daughter and will probably share this video with my daughter. The best advice is what you gave at the end. The world will lie and lie and lie. We must make sure we can recognize the truth and stick with it .

Thank you for addressing this! Before I was a Christ follower I totally based my worth on how sexually attractive I was. It leaves you empty, self absorbed, and sad. Christ truly brought me out of darkness and into the light. Thank you God 🙏 Lord, shine your light on the lies of this world in Jesus name we pray. Amen!

I agree 100%. We teach our daughter that purity is the most beautiful thing.

This is what makes finding a partner so difficult in my opinion. As a 25 year old man I see so few women who don't define themselves or find their value in the attention their body receives. This brings a shallowness that I don't know how to cope with

Feminist words: “don’t objectify women” Feminist actions: *wears see through yoga pants*

I said to someone that all this started in the 60s with the 'sexual revolution' and he said 'no, there were some stupid things that people got away with in the 20s,' and he was right although the sexual revolution was the pits, and it's just got worse

There’s a really good Canadian documentary called Sexy Inc. Hypersexualization of our children. Highly recommend it. This has been going on for awhile now. The difference is before the internet was widespread, most people didn’t have access to this kind of stuff. And television had certain rules that they have forgone now.

I have two daughters (almost 15 and almost 13). The stuff their peers have been doing absolutely worries me. I made sure my elder one attended a course on dealing with social media, and the consequences for later times, with college admissions and future work. Neither of them want to wear skirts, because of how short they have become. My younger one is practically a town boy. She won’t get caught dead in a short skirt. But it’s the other influences (anime, etc) which worry me. Please pray for them. When are you coming to speak here in Houston? I want my girls to listen to you speak.

Totally agree. Modesty is something that I have felt deeply convicted of during my walk with Jesus. I think a big problem is the culture, but also the fact that Christian girls are simply told “don’t wear x, y, z because it’s ‘inappropriate’”. The whole idea of something being inappropriate is so subjective and I think it’s SO important that Christian leaders communicate what scripture says. It goes so far beyond simply being “inappropriate”. The main idea is that our bodies and how they look is honestly irrelevant as Christians. The purpose of our bodies is to be a temple of the Holy Spirit. I don’t feel that as a young Christian girl I was taught these values and so when I was just told it was “inappropriate” I just took it as negative judgment and didn’t listen. I was constantly being complimented at school on my body and that’s where I put a LARGE amount of my self worth because I thought that’s where it was found. I wore skimpy clothes because I knew I’d get compliments and therefore feel validated. Simple as that. So thankful that Jesus has shattered those lies! I now know my identity is that I’m a daughter of God!

Bless you for addressing this difficult topic Becket. You have become like a father to the many watching and needing to hear this!

Thank you for this video. As a girl in her 20's i had time struggling with my self image, looking for validation of some sort from how much attention i get. I made mistakes but i cant go back in time. I hope this video was wakeup call to girls who went/ going through self love issues🥰

Such a good word. I often think of how heartbroken god must be watching all these girls just putting what’s meant for their husbands, out for everyone to see. Not only that, but making it so their only value comes from only how they look/appear, and having such low standards for themselves. God has been showing me over the last couple years how to see me how he sees me. Once I could see that my whole perspective changed on how I present myself and how I want others to see me. Praise god. 🙌

These are who I looked up to while growing up and I started to post risky photos for attention and praise in middle school and high school. In college I got saved and so quickly regretted ever posting anything with cleavage or a sexy facial expression. Makes me cringe to think about it. Those are deleted but they should have never been posted to begin with. My heart aches for young women who think they should post like that. It aches for old me. But Jesus redeems and renews!

It happens with men too. A lot of shirtless guys are pumping iron, showing of their chess muscles, arms and abs. It’s everywhere

Really thankful you spoke on this. Modesty has become so foreign and beauty so sexualized :/.

Yes, I used to post bikini pics on IG. I deeply regret it. I no longer even wear bikinis in real life at the beach because I'm in a different state of mind in life now. I just don't feel comfortable wearing what feels like my underwear in public on the beach. My friends think I'm crazy for feeling this way because it's totally normal to wear a bikini on the beach. And it IS normal, but I'm just gonna do what I'm comfortable with lol.

Thank You Becket. It's important to point out how darkness lies and sets bait for us. Many eyes and ears be opened!

Forgive me for comment-bombing, but I am listening again and thinking of things. You know, our oldest (daughter) had a moment, tried to post a provocative photo on FB (while a freshman in college). My mother called me up STAT, just about crazy that her granddaughter had posted such a photo. Calls immediately started flying, we had gentle & loving heart to heart (and the photo was vaporized). I probably sound like a hag to some, but you know...where are the grandmas, the moms? We owe it to our daughters to be better teachers to them. XOXO

Thank you for speaking out on this. We all need to hear this, young and old.

Great points, thank you. I see this as a part of how Narcissism has polluted our culture. The Narcissist commodifies others for their own consumption, and with enough conditioning, children and young adults will fall in step, as it gives them rewards of feeling acceptable and that they belong (a love substitute). The Narcissist is driven by the dysfunctional attitude of entitlement and is addicted to the rewards of their behaviour (Lundy Bancroft). Kim Kardashian, Paris Hilton and Madonna are probably all Narcissists (judging by the aggregate of their behaviours across time), so making money from themselves as sexualised commodities is par for the course. It's an easy way to get attention and emotional responses, which is the Narcissist's lifeblood, as per self-aware Narcissist sociopath HG Tudor. My mother, her father, & my sister are Narcissists, & their effect on me has deepened my perspective on this subject. When I was a child, I found the stories of Jesus interactions with women in the Bible to be compelling. I saw those women treated with dignity and respect, and the women felt safe with Jesus. This resonated with my little heart and mind, even though I couldn't articulate it until many years later. Children and young adults are very vulnerable. Few there are who have adults who love and protect them, and can mentor them as they need.

Beckett, Just hearing about some of the Billy Eilish comments regarding pornography. Please do a show regarding all of her comments ASAP. In fact, it’s such a huge problem that I think this is a series that you need to address from a new perspective, new author, new researcher, or new ministry from time to time, addressing how it hurts both males & females, children & families. I really think you could do a great service with a playlist of shows like that. It makes so much sense why Billy Eilish has had such body issues & used to cover her entire body in large shapeless clothes; she was trying to protect herself from perversion & sexual harassment. I think this pontification is also why there’s a several thousand % increase in the number of girls who seek out care to become trans men; they’re just trying to do the only thing they know how to do to stop the molestation &/sexual harassment from continuing. I’m allegedly in middle age I guess & I am still scared from several instances that happened to me & my friends or just me alone of boys or even grown, middle-aged men saying explicit things about my body or demanding I perform a sex acts on them & if you tell them to stop or leave you alone, even if you do it very nicely, you’re met with nasty name calling or threats of violence. In one particular, a group of us were 11-12 & were catcalled by a group of workmen who would’ve been in their 30s & 40s who demanded sex acts from us, but we were too young & innocent to even know what they were. I just imagine it must be thousands of times worse for girls today. They’re sitting in class with boys who are literally watching explicit, violent, hardcore porn & flashing the phone images at them & demanding those acts. Our girls & boys deserve a safer, healthier culture that the manure yard we’ve left them.

Thank You, I so appreciate you addressing this topic. I am going to share it with my daughter, she is starting to take more selfies, not inappropriate but I can see it's a slippery slope and the world wants to take away their innocence.

Hi Becket, This is great content and a must needed topic to bring to the light. Thank you!

Yes, much needed! I also wonder about the over 40 women posting these...a real indication of personal issues. Why do they crave this attention?

Great video. I'm a mom of 2 beautiful daughters. I didn't get to homeschool them except for about 4 years and I had no control over their media or internet at their dads so I had to focus on winning their heart and praying with and for them and put in a lot of Word. Anyway it was so sad to see the pornification of my girls. It started with miley cyrus and britney spears and it was so sad. My oldest is now in a relationship with Jesus! Yay! So She's in the process of sanctification and I love it. But my sweet youngest is still I would say in danger except for my blood covenant of rescue of my children. But you are exactly right. My daughter in law's youngest sister says she wants to be a sex worker and is already doing the sex selfies... so sad.