imagine being excited for finally getting invited to a date and then it turns out that you’re just a social experiment

My crush: How u doin? Me (trying to be seductive): No

Everyone wants to MEET the right person, but very few want to do the very hard work of BEING the right person.

"Don´t change a thing, you´re perfect as you are, and my job is to help the world to recognise the perfection that I see".

he needs to do audio books

"Life is a seduction game" I'm doomed.

"dr. persaud, i don't need prozac... i need a boyfriend!" i'm feeling attacked

Tips for Seduction 1. Based on social psychology experiment, being disagreeable then switching halfway through to being agreeable makes you more attractive to the other person. An artificial "warm up" is created 2. Attention, interest, and maintenance. Different skills are necessary for each phase. Attention being am initial spark, interest being a focus on short term charms, and maintenance being long term commitment and patience. 3. Appealing to bolster their weaknesses into strengths. Finding an unmet need, and fulfilling it.

Insane charisma. Sound like he was reading on a promptor, so well prepared and competent! I wish i could do speech like this

Filling the unmet need is the key to being a salesman.

Bro rizzed up the whole audience

"The problem with the modern world, tinder and aps is that we are losing our skills of seduction." Love it! With the hook up culture we just forgets that seduction takes time.

"Fill the unmet need." Wonderful, what a wise statement!

I met a girl, found out she needed another guy, I then focused all my efforts to help her get that guy. And she did. Am I doing this right?

LOVE LOVE LOVE this. Just had a client send this to me and I could not agree more with your message about Casanova. Women and people in general want to be seen for who they ARE not who they could be with little fixes. Totally seductive and true. Great job

There is a theory of Love that says that we are attracted to someone who is strong where we are weak--and they can do what we cannot, and weak where we are strong--so we can do what they cannot. There needs to be some common interests that both are good at, or/and both are bad at, but it is this counter-match ("opposites attract") that makes the Love. In effect, what it does is make two incompetent part people into one competent whole couple. This is another variation of Dr. Persaud's concept of "fill the unmet need". You are meeting the need of your partner that they cannot meet themselves, and in return, they do the same for you

Reminds me of why people like people who 'play hard to get', it's because being able to see that change/impact that happens is seductive... when that person finally 'warms up'

The speaker states at the end, "...isn't it possible that leaving you wanting more is kind of a seduction?" So I'm guessing you have to go to his clinic to get more...

Robert Greene's book "Art of Seduction" took me to another level in communication

Dr. Raj Persaud, Amazing orator, not a single em or er in the whole speach, and so knowledgeable, a little humour. He seduced the audience.

What an ending! (Spoiler alert!) "I apologize I've run out of time so I won't be able to answer those questions. But, is it possible that leaving you, wanting more is kind of a seduction?" Great ending!

That is exactly how 20 years ago my future husband seduced me! He saw my need and met it! I came home from work to find the first thing he ever gave me sitting in my living room, He had bought me a washing machine!!! Mine was broken and I was washing by hand for three people after work every day. (One was a three year old, lots of laundry! And my room mate who was sick.)We just celebrated our 19th Anniversary!

Thanks EJ for the summary. Below is your summary with timestamps Tips for Seduction 1. 5:56 Based on social psychology experiment, being disagreeable then switching halfway through to being agreeable makes you more attractive to the other person. An artificial "warm up" is created 2. 9:09 Attention, interest, and maintenance. Different skills are necessary for each phase. Attention being am initial spark, interest being a focus on short term charms, and maintenance being long term commitment and patience. 3. 10:55 Appealing to bolster their weaknesses into strengths. Finding an unmet need, and fulfilling it.

That was one of the most eloquent speeches Ive ever heard. No pauses no uhms and ahs. Amazing.

I guess in order for seduction to be good (and ethical) it must be genuine and kind or else it's nothing more than a meaningless game.

I really like this guy, how he goes about seduction and separates the erotic side from the psychological part. Many people think automatically of seduction being erotic which if that's all your focused on, you're just screwing yourself and setting yourself up for failure. But by following his suit, it goes into the proper way to do it, very great episode!

My God he's brilliant. That's exactly how my husband seduced me ; he found my unmet needs and fill them better than anyone ever before. Thank you for this terrific presentation.

He made absolute sense to me. His delivery was impeccable, understandable and relatable. No speech impediment or play but how easily that can translate to modern day emotional or even physical needs that need to be met and filled more then ever... yes 👏🏼👏🏼 wonderful hope he makes more videos.

I watched this because my name is almost the same as this man.

awesome, he's a class speaker, well-paced, very intelligent and his voice is so soothing lol. I'm seduced :)

Am I the only one who thinks a girl would be creeped out if you wrote an entire play for her after meeting her once?

For me it was very powerful " you can choose to don't play the game but just be aware everyone else is doing" . So this is it. You may refuse to follow the patterns but they will always be there no matter what ! very wise!!! loved it and made a lot of notes

I just want to meet someone who acknowledges that this is how the majority of society operates, and breaks that cycle. It seems to be such an obviously futile method of obtaining happiness, and if we can step past this would achieve something much more valuable.

*sijuicing*

i realy need to do something else but i can't leave because of his voice and how he's speaking.

Possibly the best speaker I've seen on TEDx till date. Bravo!

BRUH! this man is dripping with swag, his prose flames all other ted talks.

This guys is an amazing speakers. He's so eloquent

1. First disagree than agree -other person will think they have an impact on you and that you've warmed up 2. Attention, interest, maintenance 3. Fill the unmed need -in a way it's never been filled before

Attention, interest, maintenance Discovering the unmet need Filling the unmet need ... He got my attention via the title, he peaked my interest via giving me value, and now I DESIRE to know HOW thus making him the source. He will in a sense teach me how to maintain my ability to be successfully seductive.

That delivery was smooth. Bang on with the "unmet needs"

Superb Doctor . What an eloquent lecture and delivered with wit and yet full of critical information. Thanks

That was very deep but I agree with him, if you want something whether it's about someone you like or material things that you want to achieve in life, you really have to give first or make an offer before it is given to you and that's how seduction works, it really works like magic.

Basically isn't (for most people) being accepted the greatest need we have? Cassanova's move does just that, he accepts her despite a flaw she sees in herself. Someone accepting you regardless of your faults is one of the best feelings there is.

Wow. This is brilliant. This guy is brilliant. I've listened to quite a few lectures and talks on this ancient art, and most of the time, I'm bored to tears. Bringing us home to the old school, Raj. thank you.

One of the best teds I’ve watched. The way he ended with a form of seduction was brilliant!😍🥰🔥

the way he used the concept to lure us to how he will talk about seduction is sooo smooth

Much (if not all) of what he's saying is actually great advice to marketers. Brilliant talk!

This man's speech is brilliant, but speaking for myself I would rather be single for the rest of my life than building a facade and tricking a person who I love into thinking what I'm not. I value honesty.

Fill the unmet need in a way it's never been filled before ! Perfect speech, thank you!

Fantastic delivery - great points. Our technology is from a 'me first' perspective. Raj makes it clear that is what's keeping us alone.

So in conclusion, we have 2 key points here: 1. About the experience of "half-day of rejection & half-day of agreement", it says that if you express like they have made an impact on you, then you get a bonus point! 2. About the story of the play with no word "R", it says that if you can figure out and satisfy their unmet needs (also let them see that they're perfect as the way they are), then you get another bonus point. Am I missing anything? By the way, this is a wonderful clip. Thanks TedTalk

Brilliant - I read the title and immediately thought “TED wouldn’t ask a “pick-up-artist to speak... would they?” I had to find out for myself. The final point “Find The Un-Met Need” is something that I think is profoundly important in our society today and if everyone took this on as their mantra, altruistically or not, the world would be a better place.

He speaks so nicely and eloquently. His accent is sharp as well. However, I did not like this talk on seduction.

Not only is his voice very soothing to me, but the points that he makes about the play that lacks words with the letter r in it are very deep and true.

Your mission is accomplished, Dr. Persaud. You've left me wanting more in a curious kind of way that makes me understand the power of 'Seduction' Thanks!

A brilliant ted talk truly ! Thank you doctor Persaud !

This man is my favorite ted speaker so far. The way he was able to convey such a complex message into a very simple idea, waw! Recently I’ve noticed With ted talks that they grab you by the title, and once you watch it, it’s a pointless talk. However this guy, really got into details and was able to clearly say his message. Waw I’m impressed

Hate it when people say it doesnt really matter about looks, I don't care how moral people think they are, it is basic human instinct to respond positively to things you like, and first impressions are 100% on looks, every day interactions are full of these first impressions and no meaningful growth can happen till after them. I lost 130 lbs and the difference in how people perceive me is staggering.

his eloquence was amazing and catching, plus the humour was just at the right time. what an amazing talk!

That was one of the best speeches I’ve ever heard

So much energy so much eloquence but a message that could be given in a minute

This is so brilliant I love this TED Talk and it translates to every relationship in your life and most definitely explains the bond that I have formed with my mate without realizing it I discovered and fulfilled his most basic unmet need.

Truly an incredible speech. You learn a lot, while you are moved by the message. pretty perfect speech!

very intelligent and amazing speech.

Can you do a TedTalk on how to let the words flow so well in a speech. One of the best TedTalks I've seen!

“I loved her to the point of creation” as a playwright had me actually swooning

I am not very fond of these TED talks but this guy's speaking skills are beyond anyone I have ever seen. Taught me how to talk.

This video literally made my day. Wow. Pure. Genius.

One of the best lectures. I SWEAR A TEAR ALMOST AROUSED. This is man knows The Real Game🔥🔥🔥

wise words! i really was questioning the whole ‘seduction game ‘ but couldn’t find a way to answer it. glad i happen to slide upon this video.

One of the best Ted Talks I've ever seen. Thank you.

What this dude had to say was very interesting, but more importantly, I want this man to narrate every book that I read in the future.

To be serious: if you do everything she wants, you are selling yourself under your value. People don´t like men without integrity and own opinion. Sure, having too much opinion isn´t good either, but that´s beyond the point. It´s like a song: you want patterns and repeats, but it shouldn´t get boring. Playing hard to get, can inspire a challenge, but only if the other person is already interested. Also, people want to feel special, but that clashes with their desire to belong to a group and be understood. A beautiful woman won´t feel flattered by compliments on her beauty. She knows that already and she is used to fend off a lot of creeps because of it. I was once oblivious to the fact that someone was not just a model and singer, but a local celebrity. I just talked to her because we were both bored and soon enough I knew things about her, that should remain private. If you call a mediocre looking woman beautiful, she won´t believe you most of the time. Details matter. State, what you like, e.g. the way she dresses, how the colors match perfectly etc. Complimenting someone about style, or a skill they have worked hard for counts so much more than complimenting on having won the genetic lottery... Also, pointing out the value in an underappreciated task can be very well received too. For instance, having to work on Sunday for little pay sucks, but people like this keep the system running and at times can really save lives, or at least your plans for the evening, when you forgot to buy something on Saturday...

This guy is an absolute genius. Leaving us at a cliffhanger like that at the end! 😂

Wow!! He is good! I use to be a pick up artist and he made me remember something I stopped doing. Seduction is like torture but with plsause. He's good with his speech!

Absolutely effing brilliant. This is the EXACT essence of seduction

He just seducted me with his wit and charm, a great speaker with a terrific sense of timing.

one of the best speeches iv ever listened. profound and excellently delivered

This was incredible! Persaud is so well-spoken

I now realize how I unconsciously met my friend's unmet need. I approached her when she was new at the school, just when she needed someone to help her adjust.

He's a great speaker...if that's a seduction...I got seduced! :)

for god sakes, you're so eloquent and the speech is perfectly executed !!! I am super impressed. audible should hire you.

For the first time ever I applauded at the end of a talk. This is wonderful👏👏👏👏👏

Eloquent and polished presenter! The only problem is that I feel like I learned very little from him. The content of his talk reminds me of high school papers in which the students write the same information in several different ways, in order to meet the page count requirement.

At the beginning I was thinking "lol this guy could never seduce me" now I'm sitting here like damn... well played

Wow! I'm really impressed. This is probably the only Raj on the planet who has finally mastered proper pronunciation.

This is still great after 5 years. 👏🏼

Drinking game: Everytime he says "my clinic", take a shot

He was right. It is very complicated, now I see I don't have any hope. He just left us in the middle of the air falling down.

He even has a smart voice. I was so engaged in this video.

Nice video. I think it's a good sign for myself that I've always known this thing about if you want to give someone a good gift, something that will make them like you more, make it something which is personal for them, even better if it fills some of their needs

getting ready to get a quarantine boyfriend

I love this. I used to think I really was a master in the art of seduction on a personal and professional level. And to some degree I am, but now I know how to amplify my skills. I don’t want to use my charms for maleficent intent. I now know to focus more on an unmet need and allow the object (man, job, etc) of my desire to gravitate towards me.

performed incredibly well! what a speech! very inspiring how he is presenting.

What a brilliant smart eloquent man.... He can read restaurant menu and I will listen him for hours! Saying that though hearing a British accent on Indian man was puzzling at first.

I always live as my authentic self no matter where I am, who I'm with and this has even developed into a theory of my own. First thing to know is I'm Autistic, there's just as many good things about Autism as there is difficult. One of the good things is those of us Autistic are not so tied to social expectations, that we will not sacrifice our values for the sake of social acceptance. I've listened to lots of Autistic people and have developed the theory that authenticity is an unrecognised characteristic of Autism.

He keeps saying "My Clinic" "My Pycoractic Hospital" "My", "My", "My". That's ladies and gentlemen Psychological advertisement. When you think of a Psychological Clinic next time you will instantly remember that this guy has one and he sure knows what he is doing I can trust him so I can suggest him without having second thoughts. Hats off to you DR. Persaud.

That was SMOOTH. I should say I have never been impressed more. 👏

why do i love listening to this person so much?