Spot on. It's like walking through a haunted house, having no idea that it's a haunted house.

"Punching bag on call" truly, truly

'What are you talking about?',their favourite gaslighting phrase when side stepping reality.

Your light blinds their darkness - they believe they are god and you are showing them reality

Now that ive realized the monster my husband is, i now know why i could always feel a level of resentment coming from him. He never loved me, he hated me the entire 12 years

Right. Because you exist, and have the audacity to not be them.

When you said they’re mad you’re an autonomous human being, it’s because they’re not. Narcissists are inherently codependent, they need to constantly be feeding off others’ energy, because their own energy is so low and negative. They are inherently and overwhelmingly envious of real people with real emotions.

I started to notice he would lag behind me in the grocery store. I just started to walk ahead to complete the task. One time I looked up and caught him starring at me but the look on his face was pure disdain and hate. In the beginning he used to say don't take it personal. I would respond but Im a person! Here I am 8 yrs later engagement off and I am so proud of myself. I don't have 8 more to waste😊

Once I quit trying to suppress my rage from their abuse, instead I went full amplification of rage, actively fed that rage and showed them how nasty I can get. The next day she attempted to pick a fight again and collapsed shaking all over in an anxiety attack. My reactions were no longer entertaining, I made them a threat. They were abusing me for entertainment.

After 4 years of confusion and sickness of how he treating me I am now free and enjoying my life and with my kids

Girl I don't think they are ever close to anyone

Narcissist are actors playing a role .

40 yrs w a narc is so confusing .., going from buying you a brand new car and spending 50 k on buying me porcelain veneers .. and then trying to turn are 27 yr old daughter against you w parental alienation by saying I’m a cheater .. he’s been exposed by his own daughter , he’s the cheater . She found court documents w him paying a supplies back rent of 3 k .😵‍💫

No effort by them either tells you a lot

They r jealous of you. Especially if u can do better in something then them. You r a threat to their ego.

The first reason -- "because you're an autonomous human being" -- helps me understand why my narc female parent and narc ex-husband went into a rage whenever they caught me reading a book. They would actually scream, "READING again!" as though it were some horrible vice. Makes sense now -- I was reading someone else's story, not the self-aggrandizing one they had scripted for themselves.

They are sick and there's nothing anyone can do about it.

I used to cringe when I got a compliment because I stole the comment from the narcissist. When we had children I had no part in it. The kids just appeared as gifts that show what a great parent the narcissist is. The constant boredom is a real danger, and it can result in cheating. No such luck for me because the narcissist hates women.

Early in the relationship was the very first time I was aware of the ex Narc’s contempt for me. I was befuddled by the entire shift of negative energy and his nerve to display such crappy behavior. Of course it was downhill from there …. I wanted out and I finally opted out.

They get mad when you go off script, but they didn't even give you the script, not that you asked for it.

Key phrase. "You're (Supposed) to".

My ex-wife had always held me in contempt and I decided to live up to her assessment of me.

His favourite gaslight phrase is " what is your problem?" Because your boundaries are too strong

I totally feel your first point - with my narc, I had always played the character as the low-in-confidence, yet goofy sidekick, and everything was hunky-dory. But when I started taking steps to grow myself into a better version of myself, he started having issues with me doing it, to the point, where he would either try to stop me doing it (he was my "best friend"/co-worker, by the way), or to insult, devalue and browbeat me into a place of low confidence, all because he was afraid of losing his spot as the big man on campus. It took me quite a while to get over his betrayal, because I had asked a question, why would he do me like that? I realise now, because he was never a friend to begin with - he was the overlord, the main character of the story, and to him, I was nothing more than a minion.....

great talking points. but the uno reverse card any victim will play on themselves is taking the bait of regulating the narcissist emotions. the victims automatically becomes their servant, a peasant, nanny theor care taker, their garbage collector. amd the potential victims will be looked down upon and be treated as such. while the narc go out seeking new supply leaving their victim to wallow in pain, self disgust, pity, sad, hopeless, helpless, suicidal, pain, sorrow, low self of worth/esteem, void. these are the true inner core of a narcissist.

Yeah. Try the subject of Free Will, and the rage is abundant.

The script part is so on point!! Everything she explains is exactly what they do. I pray yall heal and get set free 💕

My narcissistic dad hates me because I won't put up with his b.s.!

I see you met my mother!!!!

On the other end of not being to help I was able to help with all problems that envy kicks in and they hate you .Why?Because you are above or on the same level now and they are not having that.

Father, siblings, husband and daughter. Daughter is the worst. A malignant narcissist/ psychopath. Abusive. Does things no one would ever believe. She has killed me. I just haven’t stopped breathing yet.

My narc brother watches my every move at family gatherings. When I arrive, how I enter the house, where I sit, when I speak, if I am the first to leave the room or table. It is all a problem. If I am the first to leave the dinner table or the room, it is a BIG scandal! I arrived to my mom’s house after him and he raged at me. I cannot finish a sentence without him raising his voice, cutting me off and saying something condensing. Often I need to stay quiet and be as invisible as possible when I go to family gatherings. Or just not go at all, which is my new preference. No contact.

They are lazy

I have never been able to form a relationship with opposite sex because I'm so traumatised, I inevitably have always gone for npfs or mentally ill people because all members of my family are npd, dad schizophrenic too, now I have become totally aware I'm pretty o old, life is tough but I make most of what I do have, I don't have people much but there is a LOT I DO HAVE, AND I AM 🎨 ARTIST WHICH I LOVE, ALWAYS BUSY CREATING! THANKS !

Great straight forward delivery of facts. I’ve had this very communication with myself after 16 years of marriage to a narcissist only to be discarded in the blink of an eye!

Good lord. My brother blames me for his life long drug addiction because he says he thought of me as a father and I abandoned him by joining the army. I am six years older than he. Yet my actual father who abandoned him because of drugs he is fine with. My narscisstic mother would pertend he didnt exist every time he did drugs. Now that he pretends that he no longer does drugs and I am no longer welcome in the family because I have just caused too much hurt to the family by deploying in the infantry. Because I wanted to make sure I was brave enough to die for a worthy cause. Like a family of my own. God, this video makes so much sense. My wife is zero contact with her family and I am zero contact with mine. Our holidays are centered around our three shared kids. Narcaissists always ruin a good time.

Nailed it. The most concise and insightful things I’ve heard in a while regarding narcissists and how/why the operate.

Your videos are literally always spot on and they resonate with me like nothing else. The fact that I relate so much is terrifying because it makes me wonder what did I go through that everything this woman says just clicks with me right away. Thanks for shedding light on this topic. I would love if you talked about the "belief' that people stop growing up at the age they're traumatized and whether it's real xx

OMFG I LOVE YOUR DIRECTOR ANALOGY! So much love from me to you. Thank you! Literally my ex vulnerable narcissist

Great Video as always. I know I made right the decision for pulling the the plug on my 15 year Toxic Narcissist Ex Girlfriend. Selfish to the Core. Insecure, Jealous, No Empathy for anyone but her Poor Victim Self. Always a Taker Never a Giver. So self entitled like you owe them something. And they are never satisficed with things that you do for them. 8 months of no contact. Since walking away from her. I'm pretty sure she was grooming some New Supply while I busy being way to good to her. Always poring yourself into this Black Hole of a person. BIG MISTAKE because your being Future Faked. Until you Expose them for who they are and then they run like Cowards. And your left holding the Bag saying how dis I end up being in this Nightmare. The last 2 years were Bad. Just using you taking you for Granted. Instead of her being some kind of Adult straight up and saying do you want to talk about our Situation. Let me just treat this Guy like my personal punching bag. Until I'm ready to discard him. because he is not going to be leaving me his PENSION. Scary. Go be with some new guy I'll the $$$$$$.

I just had to comment to tell you this, but I actually aspire to be a movie and television director and have directed about a dozen short projects to make my way. Narcissistic actors absolutely hate you as a director and I've worked with three narcissistic actors, one of them asked me to film an audition for him, he could not take direction at all or what's called "an adjustment" which is basically asking the actor to try the scene a different way from the way they interpret it, so you might say to them "try this scene as if it's an emergency and you really need help." that may not have anything to do with the dialogue of the scene itself, but it changes the performance (or at least it should) in a dramatic way. Narcissistic actors can't take adjustments, they can only play the scene the way they want, I use adjustments in the audition process to weed out difficult actors, because they will refuse to follow the adjustment. Another narcissistic actress I worked with, I asked her not to forget her cue because another actor was waiting on her cue to leave the room, she threw a tantrum in front of everyone and stomped out like a child. Another actor I worked with was suppose to show up at 5:30am for an on-location shoot, it was that early because the location is empty at that time, as the day progresses it gets filled with people, he showed up two hours late and then we couldn't film, he was boiling with rage until another actor suggested a different location that could work and we moved to that one. Surprisingly most actors are not that narcissistic, but when they are, they tend to be easy to spot because they're very overt.

I have said this to you in past after watching your Videos and your channel. Your Knowledge and your Educational value that you bring to the table as to who these very disturbed people are. You described my Ex and my Relationshit with her to the T. You, yourself would have had to have been in the same exact hurtful situation. To really understand this at your Level of Experience with the Narcissist. You really do a Great Job.

Your Videos Are 100% Correct !!!!!!

Great video, one of my favorites on youtube, excellent and spot on explanations! Everything about the narcissist is fake in the sense that it’s all an act. It’s difficult for most people to actually realize this, until the discard. But they themselves don’t even know it’s fake. They never were able to be genuine, so they don’t even know what it means.

Thank you.

Bravo! You hit the narc nail on the head! Thank You So Much!

This is on point! The delusions and demands put on you AFTER all the love bombing and idealization is truly heartbreaking and disorienting. I lived in these shadows for many years before being finally discarded, without ever feeling that he truly acknowledged any of the disrespectful, and sometimes dehumanizing rages I endured- and was always blamed for. This disorder is serious, but the worst part is the damage they leave behind to those who loved them. Convinced that they were the victims, they move on to the next person of prey, and begin the cycle all over again. New supply will learn, but it will take time, as he is working beyond his capacity to hold onto this one and avoid being 68 and being alone. I wish she could save herself from the misery that surely waits.

Thank you for the comment about “ hate”. I never thought of it that way! So, so true! You are right on!!!

It’s terrifying I relate to everything every aspect

Narcissts hate those who are good and talented because they cant see anyone better than them

I saw my ex’s eyes go from red to white after he raged at me bc he didn’t have acess to his drug of choice he always looked happy and content in himself . He would always accuse me of being out to get him in reality he was always betraying me and he would drop subtile hints

Hi can you please enlighten us on the reasons why we are so isolated while with a narc? No friendships together

I challenged the lies

Uses abused & fused

Incredible insight! Thank you so much, you are wonderfully perceptive! ❤

Definitely spot and and you are really comforting. Thank you!

Thank You For Sharing This I WAS HORRIBLY ABUSED AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSED BY AN OVERT NARCISSISTS FOR OVER 8 YEARS I HAVE BECOME SEVERELY DEPRESSED.THIS PERSON WOULD GIVE ME MONTHS AND YEARS OF THE SILENT TREATMENT I BECAME SUICIDAL.I JUST NEVER KNEW THAT EVILNESS EXISTED LIKE THIS.I FINALLY FOUND THE COURAGE TO BLOCK DISCONNECT FROM THIS PERSON...MY QUESTION TO YOU IS HOW DO I STAY STRONG AND NOT UNBLOCK HIM...

Whats interesting is a narcissist cant exist without a empath yet they often sabatoge any relationship.. The biggest problem this world has is people in authority & power, medical, justice system, etc.. with no compassion or emotions that is really required!?

All true. They also hate you because you are everything they are not.

They run from the same script.

She was expecting me move her out off the getto n i disapeared Lol

Great explanation. They're massively immature, aren't they?

These youtube videos are very educational ❤

Thats y i disappeared They r demons

You tell this in a very memorable way. Thanks:)

Thanks for your wisdom, very helpful

This makes sense. My narc mother and siblings were doing this to me before I went no contact with them all 4 years ago. Best thing I ever did. I wish I had done it sooner. I went off the scapegoat script and their heads almost exploded. There was even a family mobbing that included violence. Can you do a video on the sg child of malignant narc mother who goes no contact after over 5 decades of being gaslit and pulled into her matrix. She turned family and friends against me. Now that I understand narcs, I realize she smear campaigned me from day 1. Due to me being colicky as a baby. These monsters are insane. What do you think happens to an 80 something narc who loses the supply she cultivated for over 50 years? Thank you.

Excellent. Thank you so much.

Superb commentary as always!

This is a learned behavior that can be UNLEARNED. 12/11/21❤️😇

How have got sooo well? Your sooo good at this.

So will put

You show them the reality about themselves , that is the reasen they are playing with you and try to harm you , it is real sick. behaviour.

Great job!

Very true

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gosh the "script writing "actually explains so so much.. that i was nothing but a "disappointment " but couldnt see for the life of me why...... was because i failed in the role i was given !!!!! my role as a child was to be "a doll" and when the doll has her own thoughts . ways of being, the script writer parent is outraged. That you will ALWAYS fail with these people if you have one bit of autonomy going on in you is a sure fire bet.

Great video. Such awesome insight into what many of us deal with regarding various people we encounter.

Omg, the realizations every single day ! Thank you!

My ex gf to the T

When you know who they are, it s hilarious 😂😂

I was obligated my law to cut off contact in 2013 with my parents

So sad, so what do you advice to the ppl that love their spouse and are wondering if they should go or stay… a lot of us would feel guilty to leave a disordered person who needs help right?

December 2023

Facts💯💯

Even if you could fix them they don't listen to you anyways, only hardcore therapy might help, but the have a huge ego, and won't go unless forced, thats why they don't take showers cause it fogs the mirror.

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Please stop the music.

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Eye Opening 👁👁 🧐

I never realized it before but... Does all narcissists hate us after they discarded us? I mean, if every narcissist with who we get closer to (relationship, close friendship which were going to situationship) - does narcissist in every this case hate the other person? I wonder if they envy us or if if they hate us, and if yes then why?

If your spouse is a narc and you´ve been married with such an idiot for over 20 years already and never noticed, what you have married - you are in very serious trouble my friend.

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