This Weeks Espresso Chapters ☕️: 1:58 - My Experience with Burnout 3:31 - Common Symptoms of Burnout 6:30 - Multitasking is a Myth 11:18 - The Productivity Trap 14:56 - Redefining Success 16:30 - Self Worth & Productivity 18:59 - Align Your Purpose 22:38 - Practical Tips 26:01 - Source your Happiness 28:42 - Creating Preventative Habits 30:00 - Play & People 34:46 - Taking Breaks

When you have a reason for living outside of yourself it makes it a lot easier to get out of bed in the morning. Your passion is for you. Your purpose is for others.

The people one is hard for me. I feel like I tend to experience burnout more mentally and emotionally when I'm surrounded by people. I have a much easier time regulating my wellbeing and productivity alone. As an introvert, I enjoy being around people sometimes, but even among people I really enjoy, friends, or family, after a few hours, I begin to feel like the walls are closing in and I just need to get out.

I’m feeling so unmotivated rn and when I got the notification, I thought there couldn’t be any better timing

THAT'S WHAT IT IS. I'M BURNT OUT. Kalyn, that's actually a revelation for me. Thanks, girl.

This was so necessary. We need more people talking about this

exactly what i'd been needing. i spent the entire day crying because of self-isolation and the horrible situation we're in rn. thank you Kalyn !

The 'being-over-productive' phase happened to me my second year of college, I was drinking 5 coffees a day, not sleeping, running a lot (because it helped when being too overwhelmed), I was not eating right.. so I was basically losing weight and studying 10 hours a day without even realizing it..I had to hit pause after 3 panick attacks..and the weird part is that I was not aware of any of it, everything seemed so normal..it took me months to finally realize that those bad habits were too much for me and that my body was exahusted. Its not easy to take it slow, especially when other people force you to (my parents for instance) and I'm still working on my habits and my mindset ❤ I love the content you're creating, you are such an inspiration 💕

“Which is why we need to stop being so productive” *thumbs up* I couldn’t relate more. Thank you ❤️

I can’t wait to hear your perspective, I’m feeling terribly unmotivated/burnt out and don’t know what’s causing it!! I hope you’re doing super well Kalyn ❤️

Kalyn, I have been watching your channels for about two years now and I have to say I believe this is your best coffee talk yet. Often times I am really into your content but I feel like you talk like me haha, where it sometimes gets hard to focus on the exact wording your saying because we go off into circles and/or talk fast. I LOVED how easy this video was for me personally to follow along with. I’m not one to usually write a youtube comments or reviews on places but I’ve loved your books , channel, podcasts, and overall vibes so I wanted to give you some positive but constructive feedback. Don’t feel like you have to take it in consideration but just wanted to let you know how much I loved how clear this “conversation” if you will, with us was. As someone with ADHD that might be a factor for why I get lost sometimes in your content, but again, just wanted to let you know I loved this. Thank you for always speaking your truth and trying to be a positive influence in this world. Shed your light always girly! We are cheering you on. Xoxo. Ps. LOVED your poetry book!

I have to say that what really hit me hard! Was when you said you don’t just have to have ONE purpose. This just opened up a world of possibilities for me personally. Thank you for inspiring me to keep going even when the going gets tough

I have been watching your videos religiously because I feel like you explain exactly what I am feeling. Sometimes I feel like we have a similar vibe and you are creating videos to talk to me. I live in Hamilton (45 minutes away from Toronto) and I feel like your vibes are reaching me. I love it! This is a great lesson people need to hear.

I really needed this video, going through what I didn't fully realize was a phase of burnout myself. I love how your videos are so honest and straightforward, it makes me feel like a friend is talking to me through the screen, trying to help me out💕

While I’ve been finding it hard to stay motivated being stuck at home, I have still had fun relaxing with plenty of top ups of coffee☕️💛✨!

Also why is 40 hours a week full time. it's too much for me!! I would actually care and do so much better at my job if I worked maybe 3 days a week

I feel like for me it’s more depression than burnout , and that makes me feel worse but I know eventually I’ll overcome it , either way I love your videos ✨✨🖤

Kalyn has lead me to realizing who I am, spiritually, emotionally and physically. I love you Kalyn.

I needed this today. Literally was just thinking about this right before I opened KZfaq and saw your video. Thank you Kalyn 💖

Love this video! Speaking so many truths. I suggest the book The Joy of Missing Out if you want more on this topic. It talks a lot about purpose, how to find it, how to decide on your yesses and how to say no to things that don’t serve you.

Can I just say that you're part of my dream personality xx

I love hearing your thought process and everything you say resonates with me so much. It's come to the point where when I'm not in the best mindset I just find one of your videos and let myself tune in.

Taking care of yourself and not letting yourself reach full burnout is SO important!!! I didn’t do that and my mental health crashed and it’s a year later and still trying to sort through the pieces 🙏🏽

I love you more now... such a very daring admission - it makes me look at you as a more authentic individual rather than an image of something celestial. 🥰 We’ll be with you, continue being a human - you got us!

Thank you. I forgot to have fun and I think that is the biggest reason for burnout. Trying to incorporate fun every day has been my goal because it is so important to just let go and play.

Another factor that plays in to burn out and that feeling of “not being able to turn off” is our childhood environment. If we grew up in an environment where we even subconsciously felt like we had to be hyper vigilant, on high on alert, not able to relax that carries over to adult hood. If more of our natural state as a childhood was more of a place of stress, that will fee the most comfortable and familiar as adults so stress from constantly being productive almost feels “normal” until we start to experience the symptoms. Focusing on relaxing the body, things like meditation, yoga and just checking in with yourself throughout the day can help 💜💜💜

Look at your comments, look at all of the people you are helping! You should be so proud of yourself and everything you are achieving!

Your Talks are like a giant hug and talk from a sister or mother!!! Thank you!

I recently just had a burnout ! and I'm a content creator. I love creating content, but I had the wrong methods of creating too much everyday, cause I wanted to post 2-3 times a day on insta. I had to stop for a week and find a new way. Also, I was focus on results/expectations more than content. SO I've cleanse and I'm trying again

I concussed myself last Saturday and am not allowed to workout or read because I can’t stimulate my brain. It’s hard to really pause my progress but I know it will hurt me more to do those things. I love you girly, keep being true

oh my god I'm actually obsessed with you. I've been watching your videos for a few years now but have never commented or anything but this was finally it, I had to. first of all, I fucking love you. like seriously- you have done so much for me without even knowing me, it's actually insane. you always know what to say and have the most calming understanding presence. I admire your strength and strives for continued growth even though life has thrown so much at you. I appreciate your continued vulnerability and everything that you continue to share with us. seeing you, this beautiful magical person, share your struggles with your mom, eating, self-image, and spirituality, amongst other things, is the most inspiring reassuring thing I could have asked for. I look up to you so much and have for years (I almost feel like you're the big sister my soul needed) and suddenly you're this human who has been broken and faced similar struggles I have and you STILL came out to be this beautiful magical human who I was already looking up to the whole time!! you did it, so can I. thank you for continuously being brave and giving me another success story I can add to my list, making me feel slightly less crazy. I know you're still growing and working (aren't we all) but you have come so insanely far and I think you are one of the absolute coolest, wisest, most inspiring humans I have ever come across. been thinking that for a while and figured I'd finally share lol. can you only imagine what all the other silent viewers/listeners feel too?! basically summed up you're amazing, I love you, thank you thank you THANK YOU, keep rockin it ❤️

Must read To Hell With The Hustle by Jefferson Bethke he talks a lot about how we are all trying to get somewhere in life just because we think that’s we’re we need to be but what if it’s not.. Its a really good read..

I really needed this video because I'm in a period of my life when I'm working on my deep healing soul but I still struggle daily with patterns I've been living with my whole life. Feeling the need to be productive is one of them. Thanks for pushing me to think more about my inner self, and what I really need in order to feel fullfilled with my soul, instead of what society expects me to do. You're really a gem to this world ^^

I had a lot of goals that I wanted to accomplish this year... Now because of the pandemic I have to put key goals that are connected to other goals on hold. I have been here before, working towards my goal just to have another obstacle thrown into my path. I am grateful to be alive, to have my basic needs meet, and that faith is keeping my fears at bay! This pandemic has revealed a lot about my health, work, relationships, and what I am worth in other people’s life, this society, and world. I am burnt out from my life: I have hope, I believe, I continue to mindfully work on self-development, and I serve but I repeatedly experience being used and rejection. I think I procrastinate because I am tired and because I keep having life changing events that keep turning the vision for my life into a dream (that sometimes feels like a nightmare)!

I SO know what you mean!! I'm questioning every move I make. My head goes like "does that activity serve your goals? Have you been productive today? Wow, you haven't worked on that specific goal in like ages. Are you a worthy human being?" That's exhausting. But at least I'm aware of it and I wanna give myself more room to be "not productive".

OMG the 11:00 mark. That is EXACTLY how my mind works. I feel like my current life is NOT SAFE, because I am not living and doing my absolute best.

I felt personally attacked by the symptoms of burnout lmaooo

This can't be real! Cause I am preparing for a college presentation that is about "Burn Out" and I decided to listen to this podcast while doing my researches . And it is just magical how you decided to tackle the same topic! Love you so much from Morocoo

I think a lot of us that have been multitaskers are going through a burn out. So it's time to learn to rest and taking time slow things down.

I started watching your vids little by little late last year and ever since then you have been definitely helping put life in a more strategic perspective. There were things I was already doing that you mentioned that are validating and make me feel good to know that I’m on the right track. I’m catching up with everything you already put out on a daily and it’s always refreshing. Thank you so much for being you and sharing your life hacks, experiences, and presence. ❤️🙏🏽😊

Listening to this was like receiving a warm hug. I felt such a sense of relief at so much of what you said. I related to so much of what you were saying and hearing these things was so calming. It just made me realise that we truly aren’t alone in anything, especially what we feel. Thank you for sharing these things

Thank you for this❤️ opened my eyes to why I've been feeling so overwhelmed and restless recently.

i'm so happy i found your channel - i saved this video to "watch later" and finally got round to watching and it's helped me at the time i've needed it the most ❤️

LMAO listening to this and my dad just put a a saber tooth tigers documentary on our tv. X'D

i always heard things like "society wants us to be super productive" but i don't actually see this problem, only people complaining about it... productivity is not about being busy and doing stuff all the time, it's about making the most of our time, that means not only work, it depends on the kind of life we want. our time is limited and i think that is wise to TRY to use it at our best. :)

I have felt burn out for the last school year. A couple days ago, I took a break from school work and now I feel excited about school again. I agree with some many of your points. I was avoiding emails or class and I was struggling so hard to get out of this “mood”.

I'm studying social work (graduating in May) and burn out is a big topic for us. Social work is such a personal profession, you literally cannot do it unless you are connecting and empathizing with each person in some way. A way I like to keep my energies in check is to look at each dimension of health to determine what you need. Physically: do you need exercise, a nap, water, healthy food, etc? Mentally: do you need to read a book, to challenge yourself, to watch a funny movie, to sit in silence? Socially: do you need to go out with friends, meet new people, reach out, or stay in? Emotionally: do you need to vent, to journal, talk to someone, meditate, or just have a break? Spiritually: do you need to partake in a spiritual practice, if so, to what degree, or do you need to rest? We should be taking care of ourselves and sometimes we get so caught up in what we "should" be doing, we forget to check in with ourselves to see what we truly need. If all that is too much, just ask yourself what the kindest thing you could do for yourself right now is. Maybe it's taking a few deep breaths, taking a shower, giving yourself a hug, eating, or exercising. But we can't listen to when our bodies are telling us that weren't burnt out if we don't practice listening to them on a regular basis! 💕

Fantastic video Kalyn. I’ve been feeling burnt out in all areas after having my little girl and this video and your perspective has made me evaluate my life and reminded me to play more, especially with my little girl and have fun. Thank you so much for this video, it came at the right time for me x

Thank you Kalyn! I saw this video yesterday after crying for like 3 hours because I was burnout (now I know), now I'm watching it again just because hahaha. I've been a fan of your personal channel since 2015 and I can't believe this will be the first comment I've ever written on your videos. Greetings from Mexico 💖

Girllllll those burnout symptoms just described my everyday life TO A TEE 😩... I had to pause this video and tell you that !

I've been feeling so unmotivated during this entire pandemic and I've just heard that my uncle passed away due to Covid-19 so it's been compounded, so I needed this today ❤

I connect sooo much with everything you shared in this video. It’s crazy to think I feel burnt out without actually having done anything. But that’s the POINT! I have such a bad habit of ignoring all the people connecting with me because it’s just “too much.” It lasts for a week or more of having their message in my inbox. Awareness is sooo important with everything.

I haven’t even watched and I know this is already gunna hit me in the feels. I am feeling exactly the way the title explains.

Thank you for being so dedicated to helping others. You are such a ray of light and brighten the lives of many. Stay radiant! ♥️

Somehow I needed this video to truly acknowledge how burnt out I was at some point and how much pressure I am still putting on myself to be productive

Thank you, Kaylyn💛❤💙💜💚

Wow... I can relate to what you’re saying so much!! And I really appreciate the slower way of speaking that you seem to be trying out. It helps me absorbing information without feeling overwhelmed. Thank you

Looooovvveeee the way you speak , been feeling extremely down lately listening to you is making me feel inspired ❤️❤️❤️

During this virus I have started to focus inward. More spirituality, more exercise and more beauty

I absolutely needed to hear this message in my current season of life. Comparison is where where all my toxic burnout habits start. I am currently reading Atomic Habits which is helping me take minor steps to redefine success that aligns with what truly makes my soul happy, because well ... everything else is just noise! PS: I absolutely loooooove these videos and usually don't comment but this message spoke to my heart. Sending you and Bentley lots of love from Dallas, Texas, USA :)

I’ve been loving watching these videos recently! Your vibe is everything ❤️

I am grateful for this channel. I can tell a lot of consideration, and work goes into each video. This proves that focus and purpose can lead to great results without high-frequency content for productivity's sake. I am learning to slow down myself because I do have the habit of thinking that my output equals worth. However, people themselves are more valuable than their output. Coffee talks have helped me to slow down. :)

Loved your content in this video, I have this strong urge of always producing output or always being productive at the same time feeling like I’m super lazy. Thanks for sharing.

I hate how you literally explained how I've been feeling since i started college. And the only option I have is to wait another 2 years and then to try and relax which I don't even know how to do anymore. 😭

this video all what i need now your words are so true it's really about me , I'm really burnt out this year and i now aware of all that I really struggle to wake up so early in the morning but i do and make all things but without love , i feel that i can't take a rest or a breath and i need to get things done even at bad way , that's all happened with me this year because I'm in the last year of school and you know this period it's the worst with all that events in 2020 ... I'll try to be myself again! really really thanks - 3 thousand - for this coffee talk i lovvvvveee youuuu so muchchchch 💜💜💜

I always enjoy your videos like this when you speak your truth and help spread awareness 💕

So important to have healthy relationships!!!💗

After spending most of my life in the burnout cycle and tying my worth to my productivity; I've been re-evaluating so much in the past year. My career and creative plans don't look like what others expect from me, based on my background; but this feels so much more aligned with my soul. And I unexpectedly find a new venue to utilize skills i acquired 15 years ago, which made me realize that no lesson is wasted. Love the Brew style of the Koze videos!

Really great job explaining that we should all define what success means to us to use it as backbone! Love the positivity 💛

your videos are amazing. they're so well thought-out, and honestly your insight and depth... these videos give me a moment of therapy. thank you so much :)

There's so much positivity put on being really busy all the time and getting lots of tasks and goals done in a short amount of time, however to continuously live your life like that without a break or pause is really unhealthy and a bit negative, you have to find a balance of the two and take a break, this is something me and a few friends at different universities suffer from and then wonder after while why we can't motivate ourselves to keep going Btw love the video! Really needed this video!💕

One of the sneaky multi-tasking habits is eating while watching tv, checking your phone etc. 🙈 focusing on what you’re eating and the company that makes a huge different. Might feel weird at first.

I’ve been burnt out for a while now. With this quarantine I’m learning how to deal or handle my burn out. & some days I’m productive & more days I’m not productive. I’m learning to be ok with doing the minimum. Im learning that not everyday has to be highly productive. Just getting it done is good enough! I’m learning to be ok with just being. Stay safe & stay home! 🙏👍❤️ Thank you for this girl. ❤️ Peace ☮️ & Love ❤️

Wow, those are really wise words. You have definitely made me happy more than once in the past 5 years. Thank you ☀

Thank you for such an amazing video. I will be implementing so many ideas mentioned in this video. Thank you! ✨

Uggh this is EXACTLY what I needed. Thank you, thank you THANK YOU! 🙏🏻✨

Just YES to this whole video.& your whole VIBE.

I needed this more than you know. Thank you for your work. 💖

I was just about to sleep but im blessed with a new video from you so definitely going to sit and watch because my priorities are straight hehe. So much love xoxo

wow that's kind of how I am feeling right now... with all of this situation with virus I feel so insecure and stuck. I feel like I'm loosing my best years sitting at home. I see all of these youtubers, celebrities and how they are living their best life, staying at some beautiful places, having great relationships, being so pretty, having this amazing body and then I compare myself, looking in the mirror and I feel so bad about myself. I feel like I'm not enough. I'm trying to look better, working out every day, taking care of my skin, but I don't see any results and it really demotivates me. I'm studying, doing my online classes, but I still feel that I am not doing enough. I am in a really bad place right now when it comes to my mind. I just don't know what to do anymore...

Watch this video was so weird. I was simply watching when you said this one phrase that enlighten me and made me realize: I'm burned out. My huge symptom is avoid texts too. And it's kind of funny thinking about it, because when I feel relaxed and calm I respond everyone normally. Thanks for the content, it helped me and i'm pretty sure that helped other people too (and will continue to). Have a great day! Kisses from Brazil!

Your eyes are so hypnotic, I think it's the lashes.... Another great talk and so what I needed to hear. Even when I'm working on music projects etc, I'm still being busy and not switching off. Life is all about balance and you continue to remind us of that so thank you!

I have been finding it so sad that people are being so negative towards the situation of the virus. Its horrible whats happening and I am kind of stuck when it comes to my college and work life but I am trying to make the best of it by doing things I was never able doing before because there was so much pressure on me from school and work.. Kind of enjoying the rest and working on myself because I litterally noticed more than half of the symptoms you said were due to burn-out.. I stopped drinking too much coffee but I still notice I am happier with coffee in my system then without, Its 23.20 pm and I just finished studying which I didnt feel motivated for at all even though it was my favourite subject and I am tired even though I am getting 9 hours of sleep every night..

Thank you so much for this video!! This is exactly what I needed.

After seeing this amazing transition and spiritual journey you are going through, is therapy still apart of that? I would love a therapy update video! I love seeing you so honest with yourself and finding the change you need. I have been going through an awakening and life transition and I find a lot of affirmation when watching your videos seeing someone also cry and admit thats apart of healing. I can only imagine the amount of strength/courage it takes to be that vulnerable, but I am so grateful.

You are amazing! What a great video for us to watch, you always say thing very well 🙌

I was Burt out because I forced myself to do so many things that needed concentration but I didn't concentrate. Then I looked down on myself and beat myself up for it. Lol , now I focus on what I got more talent inn. Not beating myself up because there always is tomorrow.

This is SO GOOD! The purpose insight is super useful!! Thank you so much. You are also becoming so much more eloquent naturally, I appreciate all the effort you put in xxx

Love your videos beaut - I’ve had THE most productive day filming vids and I’m SO happy for it.. and it’s all bc I’m doing what I love finally rather than forcing myself to do what it isn’t right for me 🌞🌼✨💞

When you said that thing about ignoring texts being a sign of burnout, a lightbulb went off in my head. Holy crap. Also, the thing about “purpose” in particular. I hear a lot about your big “why”, but hearing this the way you explained totally made more sense. And can be applied to any task I’m completing at all. Big or small. Omg this video was a game changer. Thank you, truly! ❤️

yeah i think guys we need to be lazy sometimes and accept ourselves and be kind with it , be good towards yourself and love yourself because it's only what you need to feel peace 🌼💛

I loooove your perspective of dealing this situations please keep making this type of videos it’s like talking with a close friend in a chill vibe

You don't know how much I needed to see this been having comparison issues alot lately and crying alot and feeling so, uninspired today I just woke up and felt so, exhausted and this video helped me to realize yes, I am stressed because I think I should always be doing something and if I don't I get this mindset of I'm lazy and don't deserve love trying to do all of these things just because that's what successful people look like people that hustle 24 hours a day but, trying to do all of these things don't make me happy I think being productive means being happy where you are at and thank you for this video Kalyn you spoke my mind!! My blessing!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

As soon as I saw the title I felt called out instantly 😂 ✋🏻

Thanks for the calming video! I love your vibe

This is so helpful❤️ saved me from my burned out panic mode🤣 thank you so much!

Thank you for the great video, this came just in time 💖

I literally needed this video. Thank you!

Thats respect right there✊💪✨...its really hard to cut out an addiction that everyone normalizes in society ( caffeine ) since it's normal and common people make excuses to continue to do it. Plus they tell themselves "everyone does it" which keeps them to continue

I’m burnt out to the point that health issues come to surface. I’m overwhelmed by my failure to handle this situation more gracefully but now I’m realizing I’ve been burned out for years