He never wanted them with her. He thought she was good to waste his time with, but not good enough to carry his seed. I do wonder how many abortions did she have, in those 25yrs? I had a ex-friend who had several abortions, because her ex didn’t want kids (contraception failed more then once) She was with him for 19yrs. When they broke up, all of a sudden he wanted kids. 🤦🏾‍♀️

It happens more often than you think

Exactly!

That’s so messed up

He literally waited til the last egg to change his mind. Some peoples life isn’t as kind as he waited

Bet this guy hasn't given a single thought about how painful it will be for his hypothetical kids when Dad dies or gets dementia while they're in high school... or even younger.

Yep. She called it when she said he’s narcissistic.

All deliberate parenting is. People will spend thousands and inject themselves with hormones all so they can SEE themselves in their children. Meanwhile, unadopted children overflow

Even if it were about kids, how incredibly selfish to choose to have children when they would have to grow up with such an increased chance of their parent dying and they know it. One fall when the kid is in their teens would be all it would take for them to lose him. He won’t be able to be active in their life, too tired, bad joint health, whatever the issue may be.

Sounds like it's always been all about him and what he wanted. I'd have bailed years ago tbh.

It's hilarious! Men actually believe their sperm is viable forever. Sperm degrades as men age, especially when they have poor eating and health habits. He better have a boat full of money and resources, because younger women aren't interested in old men. It's a new world, compared to 25 years ago. He has lost his mind.

@greengoddess6355 Right, there's no guarantees that he even has healthy sperm. He's almost 60. This guy is delulu.

This is the same conclusion I came to, once she told him she was menopausal he felt old through her.

It always comes down to them wanting to live forever. They see making children as a way to do that.

@@kendriahudson4747 I think men associate a woman's menstrual cycle with fertility and youth. His girlfriend's menopause snapped him into reality. He just wants to waste a younger woman's time.

Sis 👏👏👏

Love this advice. Thanks for sharing👌🏾

🙌 Ma'am, now this is some advice!

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You are a real one! Thank you so much for sharing this advice because I learned something today.

The come up woman almost never wins

@@schokococoa575💯💯💯

NEVER DO MORE FOR HIM THAN HE CARED TO CUZ NOTHING GOOD COMES FROM PLAYING THE SACRIFICIAL LAMB

😢she better sue I'm sure she can prove she invested in his business in some way

She probably didnt

This just old guy speak for "I'm not picky".

He thinks he is better for women in their 30s than guys in their 30s. Means he wants women in their 30s.

As a 37 year old woman, I completely refuse to date men at his age, especially when he completely threw aside his faithful, selfless girlfriend of 25 years. He deserves a golddigger who steals all his money, takes all the kids, and throws him into the nursing home without ANY support. He is so heartless and cruel that I actually think he deserves that treatment.

@@jessicatsao92 oh yes. I can respect someone (on some level) who admits they are selfish. But AITA presence, and also the new trend of sticking cameras in women's faces while demanding she take care of grandma, or allow them to move in permanently rent-free etc etc shows that they want to be an abuser AND be honored by society.

@@manifest2203ewww this guy probably crusty af

OMG 😳 That's it! It's the same old story I hope karma hits this garbage so-called man in the face and the behind real soon. Imagine being such a narcissistic a **** you think any of that is right to do to someone who gave 25 years of their life to you. "one month in his vacation home"??? Wtf. If the situation was reversed, he'd probably have unalived her at that point.

This!!!!!!!!

"Oh snap!" I'm dead 😂

💯💯💯💯

Some people really just don't want to be married. But if THAT was truly her wish, she should have protected herself in other ways (401k, savings account, good job/career, SOMETHING). But she ran into the sunk cost fallacy thinking that both of them were "stuck" with each other...I don't think she even contemplated that her long time bf would "wake up" and just dump her like that.

@@Callimo This. I know a couple who has been together that long and are unmarried. However, they both work full-time, have good careers, and have planned for retirement.

PREACH

They don't care. It's not their lives they will be living with disabilities.

@@brunoqnzbk7891 The ones that care about ‘legacy’ do.

I feel bad for these Pickmeshas, they should watch Barbie or sth😂

Honestly she didn't even have to be married she should have advocated to be a LEGAL business partner to his endeavors. A business partnership is the same as a marriage in my opinion. She should have been signing everything she was donating blood for.

@@kawaiiavril1658exactly

Yep, pay attention ladies!!!

@@healingpoisonbreak9984 lmfao!

If some poor woman does fall for his nonsense and get pregnant to him, I can guarantee he will abandon her to raise them as a single mother because he ‘doesn’t have the energy’.

Facts. I was just having this conversation with a friend. I don't believe ANY man that says he does not want kids unless he gets the vasectomy. That was we both ha e no options of biological children when we get older. Men know that they can still dump a life partner and move on to family #2 WITH kids because sperm doesn't go away [yes it deteriorates and probably will give the kid some genetic disorder, but they can STILL have them!] That'd not fair to the wife. I wish All couples who decide this make it a deal breaker to get snipped if kids are off the table. Both parties should not be able to be like,I changed my mind. FOH!!! 😂

Dang right. Put your money where your mouth is, as they say...

That makes sense

A vasectomy is reversible. You can get it and undo it at any time. So she’d still be in this same situation.

@@misswill8488 The vasectomy is reversal but the success rate depends on the amount of time since the procedure was completed. Within the first ten years a vasectomy has over a 50 percent chance of being successfully reversed but after 10 years the success rate is only 10-40 percent.

And even if she conceived because some women still do even then, there's nothing about this man that says he'd be an active parent. He'll find a younger woman and have that child but I'd expect him to be one of those bare minimum dad's that make his wife a married single mom.

PALIMONY PLEASE

Honestly a lot of women need to start moving with sense.

It’s not even that he wants a child. It’s that he wants a biological child. He thinks he’s owed one after the life he’s led. That poor woman donated her goddamn plasma to support his business. She should absolutely be entitled to a share of his assets and his business. I hope she will finally locate her brain and spine and find a good lawyer.

He wants to feel young again and start the life that he feels he deserved in his early 30s. A younger model and baby will show hiss virility until he has to deal with the reality of 18 years worth of parenting. Then the younger woman will probably take him for the money and he'll be full of regrets. His ex should have secured herself. That's gotta hurt.

You mean sow his old jizz.😒🙄

Because they don't view us as humans

I mean she grew up watching unmarried couples together for lifetime... but still it's pure foolishness

@@ineedhoez that's the part that kills me.

I used to think my parents were crazy the way they kept telling us (3 girls) “focus on your education, focus on your work, never depend on a man for anything.” I listened to them…but I had to get to my 40s before I really truly understood. I never got that lonely for a man and at this point in my life, I never will.

Women have been doing this for decades and STILL CONTINUE to do it.😂😂😂

@@kyojuroswife4112 Those couples actually loved each other and die for one another. He just wasn’t that guy.

And he will end up alone miserable in a care home nobody visiting

He sounds like he's evicting a tenant.

@@decoraqueena6413💯

exactly, at least give her 12 months to mourn and get herself on her feet...she has nothing.

Yep an old people don’t realize renting isn’t the same as it was back in the 70s. You don’t just meet the landlord and they go by vibes and handshake, you have to have a credit score and an income that equals at least three times the rent. Nobody will even think about renting to this woman she has no income

Or E) he won't find a gf at all and he'll regret dumping his gf of 25 years and die alone.

All of the above and he will d*ie alone. With or without a biological child- most likely without.

Exactly 💯

He might get with a gold digger who take half of what he accomplished with his ex and then become a redpill saying that all women only care for money

Yes, option F! Keep ‘em coming 🤣

This! I have said this before women have more to lose than men 💯

This should be the rule with no exceptions. Women need to prepare their own "parachute" by focusing on their individual wants and needs . If they later want to have a man in their lives as a partner, then the woman can consider letting him use his parachute if he wants to "jump"!

@noirnrougenuit9188 This is a womens best bet, or get left on front street ashy, cold, and hungry!

Always!

If I sold plasma to help you buy your business I’m gonna need a percentage stake in the company.

@@sjor3569 exactly. She should've at least left with that.

This is where someone might be justified getting their time, resources and energy back in blood because WTH! Should've never done the stupid muling for a man in the first place

@@propainaccessories I believe this too. Because they also don't ask for their dream girls' literal blood to fund their businesses either. It's all so chillingly evil, I can't even.

@@ZenzoSezSo if this story won't finally teach women to look out only for themselves, nothing will.

He'll import a women from a "3rd world" country.

I think old men look in the mirror and see someone much younger. They think young women will still want them.

He’ll probably find a gold digger that’s willing to be a walking womb for money from the business his ex built with her literal blood, sweat, and tears. The baby momma will probably cheat on him the whole time and have his offspring hating him. It’s next to impossible to find true love with this kind of life experience and age gap but there’s always someone (just like him) whose ready and willing to use and manipulate someone for a leg up.

@@denishawalters1813 You're so right!

@@denishawalters1813 you are right. That’s what I was thinking too.

There always some desperate woman out here😂. Don't underestimate that😂!!! I was so stocked when I saw my barely 18 years old Vietnamese mentees in college, married an early 50s year old dude for them green card😅. I WAS SO SHOCKED, BUT SHE GOTTA DO WHAT she gotta do

Even worse thinking a younger woman wants a grandpa on top of her, I could never be intimate with an old man.

@@wellknown1204 I'm Vietnamese and I see many young girl marry American dude for green card. These women also cheat on their old husband with younger guys.

57 and wants a baby 😂 by the time he finds someone desperate enough to have a baby with he’ll be 60. Them toddlers years will give him a heart attack. He’ll end up with some crazy lady because he’s desperate for a baby.

Male privilege "women hit the wall. But men can have babies at any age" yeah if she's a gold digger and you're wealthy, why not have your kid so she can keep the money

Or, he can't keep up with the younger women, she'll resent it and leave him.

@@Lokian_Mermaid Yes, that also.

That's the *important* question.

It depends on the state they live in.

When gay marriage passed, a lot of cohabitation “protections” went away.

Common law partnerships don't have the same protections everywhere, and it depends also on how much separate time you spend every year. In my country, you have to spend two consecutive years together, and if you spend more than a month living separately, the clock resets.

If they live in a state or country that doesn't recognize common law, she's fucked. Excuse my French, but it's the truth.

I really really want for her to live in a state that recognises cohabitation so that she gets half of his assets, goes on to live a financially secure happy life while the ratbag ex wallows in misery because it turns out he can’t father children.

A girlfriend for 20 years is crazy… men switch up everyday ..as my dad says if you can date for two years u can get married lol … these guys will waste ur time secure urself… he can have the family he wanted and she’s left homeless this is crazy

@@helena3631that’s on her no one should date a guy for longer than 2 years. He used her and tossed her away once he didn’t want her anymore. She stayed with him when he was rich and poor

Yep he would have had to put my name on everything we acquired... business included!

Facts

Just want to add that if you earn more or even the same as your partner, marriage probably won't benefit you and in fact you could end up paying alimony...this advice only applies to women who date men with more and even then rich men have ways to hide money unfortunately

He’s not even a looker, but patriarchy got the Quasimodos and the shreks they can all get a Princess Diana. I’ve learned through my heartbreaks watching men leaving me, then the next month claiming another woman. When they say they don’t want something or not ready, it means they don’t want that with you specifically. Not they don’t want these things at all or never. I’ve learned to take men at their words now, believe them the first time, not enamored with potential. And ready to let go when it’s time, being single is not the worse on earth.

Little does he know that the majority of younger women are only looking for older men to get a bag. Maybe that will be his karma. 😁🤞🏽

Bloop! No pressure, no expectations no boundaries, they place in your face.

So marriage is actually nothing more than a financial contract? Then get a legal financial agreement put into place, why bother with a dumb contract that has the state as a third party?

@@Ninsidhe marriage is a legal document that provides legal, medical and spiritual (if you believe) protections/provisions/rights.

Then you end up with a "Shut Up Ring." Neither situation is desirable.

@@alyssawoodman At least you can sell a shut up ring to pay rent when he kicks you out to move his 25-year-old side chick in.

❤

I feel like your ex went and made a baby with someone immediately after you broke up with him. That's usually what happens - I am not ready for marriage, I am not ready for kids. And then they are married and expecting within a year ot two after the first woman leaving.

I agree 💯

I do have empathy for her. I can imagine trusting a man as my life partner and being blindsided. She did not marry him because her culture is different and she didn’t think a license would be more important than him being a decent human being. I feel bad for her because her generation was taught differently. But I will learn from her situation and make sure I practice self love.

Right as soon as my ex said he didn't want kids I left without a moments hesitation. I knew I wanted them and wasn't trying to waste my time and precious energy convincing any man. I found someone else pretty easily who loves me deeply and is excited to take care of me and also WANTS kids. Stop sticking with men that say they don't want children. Whether or not they change their mind is not your business you need to move

@Crescenciowashisname-o I have only ever seen men sacrifice their time, but never in a way that was unaligned with their own interests. And even then it was rare that I saw them sacrifice. At best they pull their weight at worst they flip tables while they shirk.

I have no empathy for her or other women like her.

I hope he gets what he deserves when he realizes dating is hard. No young woman wants his geriatric sperm. And he has no partner or kids to take care of him when he can't wipe his own a**. Which is inevitably going to happen in the next 20 years.

57 is not the age for a mid-life crisis, more like he is a jerk and just wants a hot younger woman.

Exactly! It looks like he hasn't even considered the possibility of his child being born sick. He has a higher risk of that but even much younger ppl have sick newborns. It will take a huge toll on him and a partner to have a child that lives in the NICU for his/her first days/weeks/months of life. There will be more stresses if and when that child comes home. I wonder if he will then decide that isn't what he wants and abandon them?

This really made me mad. He may get his karma yet. Never trust men.

Sure, 50 year old men have had healthy children but I love my uncle's awareness and being open to alternate ways to be a father to more children. I don't know if that ever happened, most of that side of the family is toxic and I went NC with them 20 years ago.

I know a guy like this. He was in his 40"s when he had his son and he is a very devoted father and treats his ex with a lot of respect. He told me that before her, he dated a woman with a kid and he felt like the love he had for her child was no less that what he felt for his own. Some men have very strong paternal instincts and truly enjoy the role. He's not having any more but he mentors his son's friends, since they are teens now.

​@@d2d2d3d3 Wonderful! My uncle and the man you mentioned want fatherhood for the right reasons and are happy to take part in the many alternate ways to nurture and guide children. ❤

😂

What peeves me is that he's going to prey on women too young to know better. Knock her up and saddle her with his kid on her own just because he wants a "legacy".

She trusted him to treat her like a wife. She was a common law wife. She sold her plasma to help him

@@steph6109 that's true. Having trust is good for a relationship, but the degree of trust she put in his hands is very dangerous. _Too_ dangerous to be _that_ vulnerable.

I’m glad to see this comment. Married men are still leaving their wives with nothing. The key here is for women to have a way of taking care of themselves after he leaves/dies.

Not necessarily. She’s entitled to half the property and retirement and income he earned during the marriage, especially if they filed income taxes jointly. Sure, he might be able to find loopholes to leave her high and dry in some ways, but that marriage license entitles her, which means it can be disputed in court. But yes, I agree that women should still be saving their own money on the side as well. Someone once gave financial advice for married couples saying they should have 4 bank accounts… 1 joint account to pay bills (all money/direct deposits filters in through this account first, but this account is only for paying bills), 1 savings account for the family (after bills are paid, a portion goes to family savings for vacations and/or emergencies), 1 separate account is for the wife that the husband cannot access (she gets a percentage of the savings for her own personal account to do what she chooses), and 1 separate account for the husband that the wife cannot access (he gets a percentage of the savings for her own personal account to do what he chooses). I’ve done it this way before and I find it’s very beneficial, especially in a divorce because he can’t touch her personal money when they divorce and she can’t touch his personal money when they divorce, and then the joint assets will be divided via the divorce process. I had a husband abandon me and leave the marriage and was smooth because it was like this. Now he abandoned me due to PTSD from the war overseas, but thankfully it was at an age where I can still have children, and I’m a working woman. But I say all this to say, I know the process and this is what is best.

Cat deserves way better than this rotten loser

Only depend on Allah (God). Your creator.

That’s for unmarried folks. You can’t easily change your mind on a vow from a marriage, which is in writing via a marriage license, without be indebted to pay it in some way, hence alimony. But yeah, without that a person can change their mind and owe nothing.

His ugly a$$ genes and character need to 💀with him, the world doesn’t need more men like this. Burb has a video of a woman saying men with his character, the Quasimodos, the shreks genes should’ve died out generations ago. The reason why they’re here is because some women were so desperate for a man, so she laid with their father. Now that they’re here, this 57 year old man in this article by patriarchal rule, thinks he should be able to get a young model with his ugly self.

Yeah, at least in marriage, there would be protections, rights, benefits, provisions, and afforded privileges to the wife. She wouldn’t be walking away with nothing, and you can’t just put a wife out the house because it’s like a live in tenant, so she’d be getting more than a month at a vacation home as she would likely be entitled to the actual home they shared. She’d also be entitled to half his funds and money he made from his business during their time together and half of his pension, and she would get alimony because she would’ve been a stay at home wife. She’d be set. Marriage is a covering. Like All State Insurance says… Are you covered? Marriage is like that insurance in case something goes wrong (I.e. the man changes his mind and dumps you via divorce), you’ll still be covered by the Headcovering.

He might as well just offered surrogacy if he wants his own children

Verbal/handshake contracts are legally binding but harder to proof.

@@SupraSoulStarThe only problem is BF/GF is not a “legal” contract. It’s merely just an understanding of agreement. That’s why people can freely walk away from those type of relationships and not owe nothing, and typically why most men prefer it instead of getting married, because marriage legally binds you and you are legally bound.