The revolutionary truth about kids and gender identity | Angela Kade Goepferd | TEDxMinneapolis

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From an early age, kids understand both simple and complex ideas of gender identity. They learn and absorb the categories we teach them, and then eventually find their place within, or beyond, these categories. The surprising truth is that we all know who we are from a very young age, including the truest expressions of our gender identity, and we then spend most of our lives searching for the words, tools, safety, and agency to share ourselves with the world. In recent years, we have seen more transgender and gender diverse kids exploring new words and models to describe their identities. In this talk, you'll hear about this gender evolution, including how to talk to and support the young kids and teenagers in our lives, as they lead the way toward a more expansive and inclusive future.
Filmed September 20th, 2020 at Mia in Minneapolis. Dr. Angela Kade Goepferd (she/they) is the Chief Education Officer for Children's Minnesota, the Medical Director for the Gender Health Program, and also sees patients in the Children's Minneapolis Primary Care Clinic. Throughout their career, Dr. Goepferd has worked with and advocated for transgender and gender non-conforming youth and provide health professional training for pediatricians and clinic staff, social workers, school nurses and others to improve their skills and comfort working with LGBTQ patients and families. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@pitherra
@pitherra Жыл бұрын
I only listened for 3 min. God created mam and female.
@gordoncarscadden6252
@gordoncarscadden6252 2 ай бұрын
Congratulations on having a closed mind and not seeing other possibilities.
@retubey
@retubey 14 күн бұрын
​@@gordoncarscadden6252There are no other possibilities to begin with. There are only 2, male and female, man and woman. God created Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve
@gijoelover
@gijoelover 9 ай бұрын
Leave the children alone! Why is this all a sudden a trend? It's not cool!
@robthetindog8218
@robthetindog8218 Жыл бұрын
I’m 67. NB. I was bullied from the age of 6(actively) until 13; after that, passively. For what? Gender nonconformity. I was ‘inspected’ by the girls in my 8th grade graduation class on the evening of the graduation, to make sure I wasn’t going to embarrass them. & I had at least shaved my legs….That really hurt. Still does. That was in 1969. When asked if I was a boy or a girl, I’d say I was a tomboy, cause that was the only other choice I was given. (& the fervent hope I’d grow out of it) . Never did. Still an un reformed TOMBOY. & that means whatever I want!
@fortisfortunaadiuvat9262
@fortisfortunaadiuvat9262 Жыл бұрын
Sorry but get over your insecurity, it’s called life and everyone has trama, playing a victim won’t accomplish anything. I was abused as a child, but I knew I wasn’t going to let it determine anything in my life. Kids need to be left alone until they are old enough to determine what they feel and want. Three and four year olds as this so called doctor says, do not have the mental development to know what they totally feel. They are more worried about coloring inside the lines. Did you know what you wanted at three years old? This doctors personal feelings have unfortunately put her on a path of ignorance
@robthetindog8218
@robthetindog8218 Жыл бұрын
@@fortisfortunaadiuvat9262 Whoa! Just where do you get off telling me about my ‘insecurities ‘? The statement I’m making here is : Bullying anyone for any reason is wrong. That’s it. No excuses, no exceptions. No justifications
@fortisfortunaadiuvat9262
@fortisfortunaadiuvat9262 Жыл бұрын
@@robthetindog8218 that’s what I see sorry. It isn’t about this video or bullying, it’s your overall though process about children that I do not agree with.
@jersydvl
@jersydvl 8 ай бұрын
You're not non binary. It's not a real thing.
@luisae6917
@luisae6917 5 ай бұрын
@@fortisfortunaadiuvat9262nasty comment
@rhysd5435
@rhysd5435 3 ай бұрын
I didnt have that language necessary, but ive known for a long time. I will not let this generation struggle through that like we all did.
@niek82
@niek82 Жыл бұрын
Something about good intentions and a road....
@macparnami
@macparnami Жыл бұрын
Adults should not enforce their confused sense if identity on young impressionable child . Let children be children damn it
@markrussell3428
@markrussell3428 9 ай бұрын
With age comes wisdom and it is built from the youthful exuberance of ignorance. This is one very highly educated person with lots of exuberance but little in the way of wisdom.
@pete5819
@pete5819 6 ай бұрын
Woke - when you see racism and justice under every Rock, behind every tree, under every bed & in every closet. When you see racism and injustice everywhere except within your own self righteous behavior.
@Progressive_Alien
@Progressive_Alien 3 ай бұрын
Letting children be children is literally what they are doing by not forcing gender rolls on their children so their children can decide how to feel for themselves.
@naturalwomenscouncil
@naturalwomenscouncil 3 ай бұрын
You nailed it Pete! I’ve tweeted this Well said ❤
@joebrewer4529
@joebrewer4529 Ай бұрын
@@markrussell3428 they are educated at all I can barely walk to see me in the middle 80s when I was the same age and I was progress programming in the phone area. Old RadioShack TRSA the funny thing in programmed in the binary. So you made this person so smart, all they did was talk about some corny. Clues choices is subjective and everything they said was subjective, but they never said anything about programming which they want to reduce their existence to the level of a computation devoid of a physical presence, which is binary that’s how computation exists in the current form. Which is first I didn’t even talk about it. Also, I have no idea what they were talking about other than some corny hot topic emo clothing choice.
@ArtyGoat
@ArtyGoat 2 жыл бұрын
The internet is creating another Gutenberg communication revolution. Ideas are spreading faster than society can adjust to. I think if we all try to remain open to the fact their are many views people have on things like gender and approach from a position of curiosity, empathy and respect the humanity will advance forward and reach its full potential
@semikolondev
@semikolondev 2 жыл бұрын
except that the tools are build from a religions sectarian perspective, which will not live long enough.
@Kyavata
@Kyavata 2 жыл бұрын
The problem is that the majority view is being repressed.
@samhain-jf4rf
@samhain-jf4rf 2 жыл бұрын
@@Kyavata Ah yes, the "poor opressed majority". Lmfao
@NATE-bz7mx
@NATE-bz7mx Жыл бұрын
@@Kyavata could you elaborate on what you mean by this?
@brettpid6416
@brettpid6416 Жыл бұрын
@@davisdelp8131 well put
@PanoramaYolo
@PanoramaYolo Жыл бұрын
Kids need to have simple choices, not ridiculous nonsense that adults take years to accept.
@pete5819
@pete5819 6 ай бұрын
Woke - when you see injustice under every Rock, behind every tree, under every bed & in every closet. When you see injustice everywhere except within your own self righteous behavior.
@pacificmediaco
@pacificmediaco Жыл бұрын
Delusional and disturbing
@lindoel741
@lindoel741 Жыл бұрын
Just because you don't know what you are dosen''t mean anyone else wouldn't and surly doesn't give you the right to block children from knowing it naturally!!! You don't have the authority to teach confusion to children!!!!
@kevinmoore2696
@kevinmoore2696 Жыл бұрын
I started this video with a curious and open mind. Four minutes in and hearing Moppa state that a THREE year old knows when, the way that they feel inside does not meet up with other people's expectations of them. Well, I found it a bit of a stretch to say the least. It's difficult (and alarming when hearing it from a medical professional) to take a person seriously when they think that this is what actually goes through the mind of a 3 year old baby!
@NATE-bz7mx
@NATE-bz7mx Жыл бұрын
remember, affirming a child's gender identity doesn't mean they get top/bottom surgery or even any hormonal replacement, it's just allowing the kid to be expressive and see what's comfortable for them over time, you know?
@lexi1492
@lexi1492 Жыл бұрын
@@NATE-bz7mx but affirming identities that are based on false ideas of what it means to be a boy/girl) is encouraging s3xism.
@matthewatwood8641
@matthewatwood8641 Жыл бұрын
It is not possible to control what a child's identity will be, and no one should be trying to do that with affirmation or anything else.
@benjaminfranklin8412
@benjaminfranklin8412 2 ай бұрын
​@NATE-bz7mx a parent should lead children towards facts
@benjaminfranklin8412
@benjaminfranklin8412 2 ай бұрын
​@matthewatwood8641 if your child menstruates, she is a girl.
@Kelbor_Hal
@Kelbor_Hal Жыл бұрын
I don't understand why some of these people seem to think that children are capable of understanding the nuances of gender identity. Asking a child to explain something they don't understand is hardly what I'd consider a supportive metric for the trans community.
@matthewatwood8641
@matthewatwood8641 Жыл бұрын
I keep hearing them say that there is all of this conclusive research to back it up and that the entire medical community accepts this as fact now. I'm still trying to find any evidence of that.
@Cindy-re5rr
@Cindy-re5rr 8 ай бұрын
No one is asking them what them what gender they think they are. It is about being open when a child expresses them self in a way that is 'different' than societal norm. No one is jumping from oh you want to wear a dress as a 'boy' let's go get surgery. I also don't believe I heard anything about expecting a child to explain anything. Children are honest, open and curious. It is about not shutting them down because as the grown up it makes us feel uncomfortable or it not allowed because of unwritten rules that we have all grown up with.
@travisbingham5678
@travisbingham5678 2 жыл бұрын
Who is more humble? The scientist who looks at the universe with an open mind and accepts whatever the universe has to teach us, or somebody who says everything in this book must be considered the literal truth and never mind the fallibility of all the human beings involved?
@GTAW8
@GTAW8 Жыл бұрын
I wonder how many disliked this video?
@ainnochaim9450
@ainnochaim9450 Жыл бұрын
Me too!
@brettpid6416
@brettpid6416 Жыл бұрын
only 222, which will change in the comin days to be sure as before only not normal people watched this
@natalie5679
@natalie5679 3 ай бұрын
Gone are the days of criticism! Disliking is too offensive, and we all had to accept that
@hamburgerhamburgerv2
@hamburgerhamburgerv2 2 жыл бұрын
girls can do almost ≈whatever they want. they can be as feminine as a princess and as manly as a lumberjack, but the moment a man uses the littlest bit of nail polish or is the slightest bit nervous or effeminate, the whole world’s having a fit about it! DOUBLE STANDARDS.
@jstanton4561
@jstanton4561 2 жыл бұрын
Um, yeah.... Jeffree Star comes to mind. That poor poor multimillionaire that everyone there a fit over. So much so, that he got his millions by wearing makeup and long painted acrylic nails. 🤔
@zaxbitterzen2178
@zaxbitterzen2178 2 жыл бұрын
You do know Adam Levine's personal makeup artist is a legendary Drag Queen right? You need to do some more homework.
@NATE-bz7mx
@NATE-bz7mx Жыл бұрын
this is an incredibly narrow perspective, and tbh, it sounds like you're projecting your insecurities outward. im amab, wear nail polish and jewelry, make-up sometimes, and seldom do people care enough to do anything more than stare with envy/contempt. just wanted to share my position and perspective on this
@ninjawizard3865
@ninjawizard3865 Жыл бұрын
@@NATE-bz7mx that just sounds so whiny, stop it, get some help.
@NATE-bz7mx
@NATE-bz7mx Жыл бұрын
@@ninjawizard3865????
@mikemosscounsellingsupervi2349
@mikemosscounsellingsupervi2349 6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing.Very clear and informative.I agree we have to listen to our children and young people and learn who they are becoming. ❤ .Also love the coloured crayons metaphors.
@demuredeb
@demuredeb Жыл бұрын
All this means and less children in the future, equal depopulation. Right!
@radiomanze1296
@radiomanze1296 Ай бұрын
Right!
@hansstechl1499
@hansstechl1499 2 жыл бұрын
The voice inside me tells me that I should not pro-create because I have big box of crayons, so I will be beautiful, provide an ever lasting memory, but unfortunately I will cease to exist.
@lexi1492
@lexi1492 Жыл бұрын
4:10-4:35 And that is the root of this entire issue! Even the "professionals" continue to conflate roles/stereotypes with what it means to be a boy/girl. This is why the kids are confused and disturbed. The blind cannot lead the blind. They are operating on false ideas.
@thebigballofdeath6066
@thebigballofdeath6066 Жыл бұрын
Or maybe doctors look at an organ, like a reproductive system and decide from their. Jesus it’s basic biology
@lexi1492
@lexi1492 Жыл бұрын
@@thebigballofdeath6066 Organs do not determine personality. This is 2022. Get with the times, geezer.
@thebigballofdeath6066
@thebigballofdeath6066 Жыл бұрын
@@lexi1492 duh. But your gender is defined via your reproductive organs and your X and Y chromosomes. Your feelings do not define biology.
@lexi1492
@lexi1492 Жыл бұрын
@@thebigballofdeath6066 What do you think that G word means? 🤔
@lifeisnice369
@lifeisnice369 Жыл бұрын
She is a woman. Whatever she says, the truth and nature is she is a woman. The DNA is the evidence. Whatever everybody says or does, the DNA never changes: it is either a woman or a man. Only two. Only.
@baddidea4820
@baddidea4820 Жыл бұрын
I think we all forget the meaning of IDENTITY : “the fact of being who, or what a person is”. We miss the bigger more underlying point. Identify is more then gender. It’s about growth and growing and self actualizing. We need to all the space and freedom for all people to be who it is they wanna be and meet them where they’re at , not because we agreed with them but because we agree with everyone right life liberty and the pursuit of happiness
@benjaminfranklin8412
@benjaminfranklin8412 2 ай бұрын
But girls who identify as nb are girls.
@Yourwaifuisntreal
@Yourwaifuisntreal 2 жыл бұрын
"Mapa" is map in Spanish.
@jessmessing3146
@jessmessing3146 Жыл бұрын
LOL!!!
@lacthetomato
@lacthetomato 3 ай бұрын
o puedes pensarlo como "má/pá" como solemos decir, pero sí jeje juntos suenan así
@naturalwomenscouncil
@naturalwomenscouncil 3 ай бұрын
Minor Attracted person This makes sense
@tinariner4800
@tinariner4800 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this. My own boys experienced something like this when they had negative comments made about their unicorn pants they wore to daycare. They still choose not to wear them because of how they were treated (the daycare did their best to handle the situation and it sounds like they gave a similar talk about how some people like different things and there is nothing wrong with what you like).
@chaddicusmaximusdestroyero8259
@chaddicusmaximusdestroyero8259 2 жыл бұрын
No they choose not to wear them because they are boys. Parents like you have completely dropped the ball in protecting our children from being sexualized. There are no doubt many many children who have been coerced and coached into non traditional gender rolls, having ideas pushed in their head at ages when they are completely vulnerable
@seanmcleod7417
@seanmcleod7417 Жыл бұрын
If you sent your sons out into public in unicorn pants, whatever ridicule they received is on you doll.
@tinariner4800
@tinariner4800 Жыл бұрын
@@seanmcleod7417 wow, cyber bullying, what a novel thing. My boys picked out those things on there own. They are allowed to have things they like
@seanmcleod7417
@seanmcleod7417 Жыл бұрын
@@tinariner4800 Whining little Nancies always accuse people of bullying, when in fact it is a simple matter of taking care of your kids. Grow some skin. I can't believe how sensitive people have gotten, it's tragic.
@scrunchiiface
@scrunchiiface Жыл бұрын
My son was totally into tinker bell and would wear tinker bell shirts all through kinder and 1st grade. It didn't "turn" him into a girl. Now he's older and comfortable verbalizing his likes/dislikes.
@joelcrase7055
@joelcrase7055 Жыл бұрын
Have you ever wondered if you just might be wrong?
@osiir5789
@osiir5789 Жыл бұрын
Going to be a great day when this woman is sued into oblivion and forever banned from practicing.
@tscar70
@tscar70 3 жыл бұрын
My now son was ask that question "are you a boy or girl" all through elementary school. He started his transition period in his early 20s. He's 32 now. But everything you've explained is exactly what he did. I wish I knew when he was young what was really going on. But GID wasn't even known back then. If so, I would have taken him to see a therapist. Thank you so much for talking about this so this generation know's!
@johnathonuncapher7523
@johnathonuncapher7523 Жыл бұрын
So is he really a she?
@SB-iy9vn
@SB-iy9vn Жыл бұрын
He is a he till he turns to dust You have thrown you child into a cult
@arsdenis
@arsdenis Жыл бұрын
@@johnathonuncapher7523 stop putting your nose in other people private lifes!!!
@arsdenis
@arsdenis Жыл бұрын
Tracey thank you too for sharing your personal experience 🙏❤️ it's very important and helpful - cuz teach all of us about differences in the past and this days.. about mistakes and omissions of the society and science in that period!!! I'm glad this days most of it are overcome, but there is still very much knowledge to share with the majority
@lifeisnice369
@lifeisnice369 Жыл бұрын
She is a woman. Whatever she says, the truth and nature is she is a woman. The DNA is the evidence. Whatever everybody says or does, the DNA never changes: it is either a woman or a man. Only two. Only.
@vikasbiliye5023
@vikasbiliye5023 Жыл бұрын
I identify as the word identify
@schiefer237
@schiefer237 Жыл бұрын
I think you forgot to mention about any of how parents feel about giving their kids the "right" to ruin their bodies through gender transition
@zagyex
@zagyex Жыл бұрын
Why on Earth instead of allowing boys to play with dolls you force female identity on them when they do so? I don't get it, truly.
@Astrontasy
@Astrontasy Жыл бұрын
Nobody is forcing an identity on anyone. It's completely okay for people to be the gender they were given at birth. Nobody is trying to change them if that's who they are. People are only trying to expand the children's knowledge so that they know about and understand people who's gender identity does not align with the one they were given at birth. The person in the video happens to have 3 boys who were assigned male at birth, which is a good example. I hope you understand better now.
@SB-iy9vn
@SB-iy9vn Жыл бұрын
@@Astrontasy do you know everyone on the face of the earth ? No so how can you say no-one is doing x?
@Astrontasy
@Astrontasy Жыл бұрын
@@SB-iy9vn sorry, but what are you referring to by saying "x"? I have an idea, but want to be sure so that I can give you my best answer.
@rightwerk
@rightwerk Жыл бұрын
@@Astrontasy There is NO SUCH THING as “gender identity”. It is a belief and a mass delusion. There are only masculine and feminine stereotypes.
@lexi1492
@lexi1492 Жыл бұрын
@@Astrontasy "NOBODY is forcing identity on anyone." Part.
@brendarasinski9221
@brendarasinski9221 2 жыл бұрын
On the application to renew your nurse's license there is now a question asking you for your sexaul orination. Why? Why does it matter to them?
@jdenino6022
@jdenino6022 2 жыл бұрын
they also ask for your pronouns on everything now.
@mannylopez15986
@mannylopez15986 Жыл бұрын
@@jdenino6022 It is ridiculous and needs to stop.
@upinsmoke2897
@upinsmoke2897 Жыл бұрын
A mapa is a nonsensical word I made up because I have issues and want society to accept me.
@immersiveexperiences4799
@immersiveexperiences4799 7 ай бұрын
So true. Thank you for presenting this.
@KeelyHerron
@KeelyHerron 3 жыл бұрын
Dr. Goepford thank you for making a difficult topic relatable. I hope your talk helps families and friends of gender-diverse kids understand how important it is to look within themselves and do the work to support and love these kids. I love the Leslie Feinberg quote "My right to be me is tied with 1000 threads to your right to be you." We're all in this together!
@garyminser2746
@garyminser2746 2 жыл бұрын
Gender diverse? When you have a bunch of adults grooming children under that guise, The poor kids have no chance at normalcy..
@notagain8661
@notagain8661 Жыл бұрын
Just because she caused her own Childs gender dysphoria doesn't mean it's right for her to damage other people's children.
@codysylvia5011
@codysylvia5011 Жыл бұрын
What ever happened to having 2 moms or 2 dads and you can just be as masculin or feminine as you want we shouldnt change the whole english language and no 2 year old has ever said my genders a boy and know wtf there talking about this is so dishonest
@josephkennedy4091
@josephkennedy4091 Жыл бұрын
Yes. Revolutionary. Stalin's "New Soviet man" redux.
@ainnochaim9450
@ainnochaim9450 Жыл бұрын
You have no idea what you are talking about. Stalin was very conservative.
@brettpid6416
@brettpid6416 Жыл бұрын
@@ainnochaim9450 x'D
@brettpid6416
@brettpid6416 Жыл бұрын
spot on
@ainnochaim9450
@ainnochaim9450 Жыл бұрын
@@brettpid6416 😐
@cuttthroatperformance2752
@cuttthroatperformance2752 11 ай бұрын
Need to have a special camp for these people
@indaleciogomez4536
@indaleciogomez4536 2 жыл бұрын
I wish i had a Moppa like you, that would spark my soul with a box full of crayons. Thank you for this wonderfull talk
@seanmcleod7417
@seanmcleod7417 Жыл бұрын
Crayons sound about right for your level of intellect...
@lecorrecteurdefrance
@lecorrecteurdefrance Жыл бұрын
Just a simple question : as you use a lot these terms, could you explain me what is a girl and what is a boy ?
@DriIceman
@DriIceman Жыл бұрын
So you missed the entire point of this?
@nikoblando8174
@nikoblando8174 Жыл бұрын
Boy: An individual who identifies as being masculine. Girl: An individual who identifies as being feminine. It's not as hard as you think! Not everything boils down to dicks and holes.
@acl6872
@acl6872 Жыл бұрын
@@nikoblando8174 a boy is a male child and a girl is a female child. Just stop
@gdbriot1162
@gdbriot1162 2 жыл бұрын
Ok good, I’m not the only one who sways when I talk.
@sydni8527
@sydni8527 6 ай бұрын
Watched this talk in class today and I wanted to comment that this was insightful and my perspective on some things changed! You are very well informed on this topic in my opinion :)
@Tweettwish
@Tweettwish 2 жыл бұрын
This is so beautiful as I sit in the car waiting for my 17 year old grandchild who identified as male until recently visit a therapist for gender identity issues. He is actually wearing girls clothes today which gives me a lot of anxiety only because I am so worried about how others will accept it because I love her/him regardless if he identifies as male or female. It makes me so sad that he was admitted to the hospital for 5 days for depression and put on medication just because he feels different. I pray that society gives him the space to be whatever he/she decides to be. The world needs to become a kinder place overall and it begins with the adults. Thank you for the reminder.
@CityBoiATX
@CityBoiATX 2 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately most of society doesn’t recognize the damage their ideological dogma creates, reason being they feel completely justified in discrediting and shutting down everyone who questions their bigoted hateful conservatism
@robertortiz-wilson1588
@robertortiz-wilson1588 2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry he was stuck with someone so useless.
@seanmcleod7417
@seanmcleod7417 Жыл бұрын
What a joke. Tell that boy to man the eff up. You can't fix depression by cutting off your ding dong. You, ma'am, are an enabler and people like you are why humanity is becoming a massive comedy.
@daMillenialTrucker
@daMillenialTrucker Жыл бұрын
👁️👄👁️
@jaredlowry3547
@jaredlowry3547 Жыл бұрын
However well-intentioned you are, you’re actually abusing your grandchild. This is when he needed you most and you encouraged his self delusion.
@the.emiltamas
@the.emiltamas Жыл бұрын
One day I asked a 6 six years little boy about what he would like to become as a grown-up. His answer: a car, because they are fast. According to this video, I should've started treating him as a car, because he knows better what's his real identity, or gender or nature?!
@oaktree6986
@oaktree6986 Жыл бұрын
lol
@FoxRogers
@FoxRogers 8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for all of this! Watched it with my trans son in his LGBTQ class for college! Signed, a Zaddy
@jersydvl
@jersydvl 8 ай бұрын
🤮
@Woofle22
@Woofle22 4 ай бұрын
I’m in a class like that right now, just sent the video to my mom :}
@naturalwomenscouncil
@naturalwomenscouncil 3 ай бұрын
Your job as a mother is to teach your child to accept themselves - as nature made him. As you’ve signed “Zaddy”, looks like you’re one of those mothers suffering Transhausen by proxy. Will you support the gender mutilation and medicalisation of your son Some parents should never have pro-created There are no trans kids There are parents who have psychiatric issues
@nazmulahsan308
@nazmulahsan308 Жыл бұрын
Sorry, NO a kid will not know who they are until their brain is fully developed. That's why they get called children.
@kelsieolsen4702
@kelsieolsen4702 Жыл бұрын
Brain development goes until mid twenties. Do you also have a problem with children deciding their career path for life starting around age 17 or younger?
@MrLawandorderman
@MrLawandorderman Жыл бұрын
@@kelsieolsen4702 your career path does not remove part of your body or spiral you down a life of depression about missing parts of your body.
@kelsieolsen4702
@kelsieolsen4702 Жыл бұрын
@@MrLawandorderman you might want to check your fear mongering sources when it comes to removing body parts. Lay off the Fox News.
@jethrogibbs3800
@jethrogibbs3800 Жыл бұрын
But brains don't develop in a vacuum, outside of social expectations and norms. It's not as if biology would be the same, untampered by the environment. And the environment is always changing. Always has been. You wouldn't want to have many of your ideas and wake up in the 16th century.
@markrussell3428
@markrussell3428 9 ай бұрын
Oh no that's not true - look here's a highly trained doctor saying soda pop, ice cream and candy floss for all. Listen to the child. Sorry - WRONG. It is a parents role to orient a child and to lead them in their understanding of the world. That doesnt mean a parent is totally free in that responsibility and here we have a prime example of a parent that might be showing they lack responsibility and may be incapable of parenting. When they decide that orientation means trying to consciously put a child on a path to medicalization - it seems they have failed. Does it make any sense to encourage social transition?
@CrazyMegaOmega
@CrazyMegaOmega 2 жыл бұрын
I really liked this talk as it gets to the heart of the conversation... letting people be themselves and then supporting them, not trying to "correct" them. Such a simple idea, but very difficult for people to accept.
@losmiquis
@losmiquis 2 жыл бұрын
Couldn’t agree more!
@TheKevg5534
@TheKevg5534 Жыл бұрын
do you think they're trying to correct people who disagree with them?
@CrazyMegaOmega
@CrazyMegaOmega Жыл бұрын
@@TheKevg5534 she is trying to change the hearts and minds of society as a whole, because she and I both believe that many people have the wrong idea about gender. That isnt the same type of idea as correcting someones gender, as I don't believe its really possible to have a "wrong" gender. In other words, I think your ideas can be wrong but your gender expression cannot. So yes, I believe she is trying to correct peoples Ideas, which is fine and good.
@nbmoleminer5051
@nbmoleminer5051 Жыл бұрын
​@@CrazyMegaOmega They!!!
@CrazyMegaOmega
@CrazyMegaOmega Жыл бұрын
​@@nbmoleminer5051 description says she/they pronouns? I think im good
@ALMPLS
@ALMPLS 3 жыл бұрын
Love children as they are - such a simple concept, and yet so difficult for our society to understand. Thank you Dr. Goepferd for giving the world a larger box of crayons.
@robertortiz-wilson1588
@robertortiz-wilson1588 2 жыл бұрын
You're hurting them, not loving them. A child can pretend they have the ability to fly, that does that mean you should encouraged them to try and jump off a roof.
@Tweettwish
@Tweettwish Жыл бұрын
I agree wholeheartedly. I was raised extremely conservative, so I didn’t think I’d be able to accept, understand or empathize, but I do know that if we reject them as so many do it just causes further confusion, depression and even retaliation in some cases to dig in. I chose to live and let live and I can even understand how many cannot understand or accept it, but what I cannot understand is the judgment and hatred towards another human that doesn’t align with your beliefs. It’s tragic and sad.
@chellesimmmy2137
@chellesimmmy2137 2 жыл бұрын
Gender is poetry already blessed upon us by our creator!!
@godzillainmypants.peepeezi2735
@godzillainmypants.peepeezi2735 2 жыл бұрын
Oh? Please show me in religious book that show this.
@chellesimmmy2137
@chellesimmmy2137 2 жыл бұрын
@@godzillainmypants.peepeezi2735 psalm 139:13-14 Matthew 10:30 Genesis 5:2 And it's a HOLY book, the entire second testament is made to free us from "religion"... 😁
@godzillainmypants.peepeezi2735
@godzillainmypants.peepeezi2735 2 жыл бұрын
@@chellesimmmy2137 wait, your saying there is only 2 genders? I thought you were saying the bible talked about the unlimited gender identities ect
@chellesimmmy2137
@chellesimmmy2137 2 жыл бұрын
Oh NO NO dear
@godzillainmypants.peepeezi2735
@godzillainmypants.peepeezi2735 2 жыл бұрын
@@chellesimmmy2137 my apologies. That was my misunderstanding. Have a good day.
@mercy664
@mercy664 2 жыл бұрын
Gender is just gender
@vedelstein
@vedelstein 3 жыл бұрын
So grateful people like Angela are caring about our kids and their ability to determine their place in the world. And despite the haters, as Angela said, "the world is changing." I want kids to be able to pick all the colors in the world to determine who they will grow up to be.
@brettpid6416
@brettpid6416 Жыл бұрын
she is doing the exact opposite, she is imposing an often very hateful ideology one that will frame people who detransition as traitors and often drive them to suicide. If you care for kids let them grow up in a stable environment and their inidividual traits will manifest in the best ways and not in the worst.
@Tweettwish
@Tweettwish Жыл бұрын
Well said
@johnmcaveeneyjr.9475
@johnmcaveeneyjr.9475 3 жыл бұрын
Thank-you. My profile picture is my painting. I took all the crayons a long time ago and expressed who, I am. I could never fit in that well all my life. It was great listening to you.
@540BC
@540BC Жыл бұрын
What a dangerous person
@kylelee5966
@kylelee5966 Жыл бұрын
ikr
@JoelleQNunez
@JoelleQNunez 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed. I identify as genderfluid and ppl always try to invalidate me, cause I’ve only recently come to terms with it, but I also only recently learned it was an option, but as soon as I understood there was more I knew exactly how I felt and learning about gender fluidity I just knew immediately that it made more sense for me.
@fredjimbob2962
@fredjimbob2962 2 жыл бұрын
>ppl always try to invalidate me What does "invalidate you" mean? I've never understood what this means.
@nameless-bx8qu
@nameless-bx8qu 2 жыл бұрын
@@fredjimbob2962 people don't always buy into having to call this person "zim"
@petepersimmons7938
@petepersimmons7938 2 жыл бұрын
I like to urinate on people
@Walkabout
@Walkabout Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the talk
@sweetwa089
@sweetwa089 2 жыл бұрын
I want that hair cut.
@topskek9786
@topskek9786 Жыл бұрын
Please save us, Xi
@elcascarrabias8382
@elcascarrabias8382 2 жыл бұрын
14:55 So, you will help them amplify their confusion and not diagnose what could be the underlying cause(s) of their feelings of gender dysphoria? Really!?!
@chellesimmmy2137
@chellesimmmy2137 2 жыл бұрын
You are darn right! I heard that too. The "Doctor" is allowing a CHILD to self diagnose... bra-stinken-vo... bravo 👏 😒
@patrickobrien8060
@patrickobrien8060 Жыл бұрын
My grandson Andrew at age 2 1/2: "Daddy's don't have nursies; Mommies have nursies." He's smarter than this chick.
@naturalwomenscouncil
@naturalwomenscouncil 3 ай бұрын
Amen! Kids know basic biology. This woke mine virus will blur reality for them There are only two sexes. Anyone who denies this - go try milking a BULL and you’ll figure it out fairly quickly
@megansteffer2352
@megansteffer2352 3 жыл бұрын
As someone who lives with a 3 year old, I'm so thankful for these examples to help me have better conversations about gender with my little!
@user-sf1ut3kg6n
@user-sf1ut3kg6n Жыл бұрын
12:00 crayon example was perfect
@tiddlerz
@tiddlerz 2 жыл бұрын
interesting but I find the title misleading. 'the revolutionary truth'. this was more of an opinion piece. no hard data, facts or science. some of these claims can and should be disputed and debated. respect to all people, im a humanist. all ideologies are failed egotistical arrogance imo.
@zaxbitterzen2178
@zaxbitterzen2178 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly what I was thinking at no point was any hard evidence given to actually lend merit to "their" beliefs.
@tiddlerz
@tiddlerz Жыл бұрын
​@Mr. Willimear if your own mind and heart was open you would accept my right to an opinion which may not conform to yours :)
@5pctLowBattery
@5pctLowBattery 2 ай бұрын
Thanks for the parenting advice, Angela! My 5 year-old wanted to drive the car the other day and I mistakenly told him he's too young and not ready yet. But now I see I'm supposed to just sit back and follow the child's lead. I thought parenting was going to be a series of guidance and tough love, but you have shown me it's not that at all. This is going to save me so much work! Oops, gotta go. Kid wants to show me how he can be Superman from the top of the stairs. Thanks again Angela, wise sage! Edit: Hey uh, Angela, kid says he doesn't want to go to the hospital. I still follow his lead, right? Bah, what am I saying. Look at me, talking like I'm responsible to make decisions.
@vj5048
@vj5048 Жыл бұрын
Wow. What a sick person!
@kyrstynyocum674
@kyrstynyocum674 3 жыл бұрын
I was shown this video in class actually very interesting and love it
@petepersimmons7938
@petepersimmons7938 2 жыл бұрын
What class was that?
@jstanton4561
@jstanton4561 2 жыл бұрын
@Jack McHue 100%. This is not education, it's indoctrination.
@robertortiz-wilson1588
@robertortiz-wilson1588 2 жыл бұрын
That's idiotic. Where are you from?
@markrussell3428
@markrussell3428 9 ай бұрын
OMG - what class? I would suggest a video about the short life of David Reimer and the perils of gender socialization experimentation would be a nice compliment.
@sinkila
@sinkila 11 ай бұрын
When I was five, I swear I thought I was going to be a Power Ranger. I believed with all my heart that I would become one. I might have even considered getting Power Ranger affirming surgery if it had existed and if my parents had allowed it.😂
@FernandoPerez-us1rp
@FernandoPerez-us1rp 2 жыл бұрын
I hate the direction this world is going
@domkeys
@domkeys Жыл бұрын
i couldn’t agree more with your comment
@pebbles0
@pebbles0 Жыл бұрын
Target: kids; goal: confuse and induce mental illnesses
@waiphyoaung88
@waiphyoaung88 2 жыл бұрын
I am a banana. Seriously
@hifijohn
@hifijohn 7 күн бұрын
I find you apeeling.
@boyreason9213
@boyreason9213 3 жыл бұрын
What is gender?
@Mattsuki
@Mattsuki 2 жыл бұрын
There's no such thing. The word is meaningless when it comes to identity. You are defined by your actions, not a word.
@Mattsuki
@Mattsuki 2 жыл бұрын
Can I just say this video is kinda creepy? "Oh you are a toddler and said ok when I said pappather..." Yeah, they will say ok to anything they learn lmao. You could tell them a lie or a truth and they will believe it, duuuuh
@naturalwomenscouncil
@naturalwomenscouncil 3 ай бұрын
A social construct, makey up nonsense made up by the woke. Marxism
@arwenschild6406
@arwenschild6406 Жыл бұрын
Thank you. Wonderfully presented.
@jersydvl
@jersydvl 8 ай бұрын
So this is where thr groomers hide out?
@Vic2point0
@Vic2point0 Жыл бұрын
It's funny how you say "truth" as if you can provide some objective definition for terms like "man", "woman" or "gender", when we both know you can't.
@sandrakarwel
@sandrakarwel 2 жыл бұрын
As much as she is trying to communicate, I feel her message is not up to par.
@_BlackPaladin
@_BlackPaladin 2 жыл бұрын
They stated that they identify as non-binary, so I think a lot just went over your head. Correction to your post: As much as they* are trying to communicate, I feel their* message is not up to par.
@bird4816
@bird4816 Жыл бұрын
@@_BlackPaladin Nonbinary isn't a thing. Every human has Y and/or X chromosomes.
@mistresskeke
@mistresskeke Жыл бұрын
Feels like this mother was trying to push her trans non-binary ideology on her boys & they rejected it, & she is blaming bullies. Kids didn't bully her son, they told him a general truth about our societal norms that his mom tried to mislead & confuse him about.
@elioftheforest
@elioftheforest Жыл бұрын
False
@annakevlin8634
@annakevlin8634 Жыл бұрын
Could he have given up the dress voluntarily, or he could have been forced to by being excluded by his peers and the athority of his teachers.
@mistresskeke
@mistresskeke Жыл бұрын
@@elioftheforest if her child was a girl, do u thing she would have been pushing the dress wearing at home as much as she did?
@EternalDensity
@EternalDensity 2 жыл бұрын
"a most boy" Love it! -a non-most girl
@A3245
@A3245 Жыл бұрын
Ridiculous
@joeldewitt
@joeldewitt 2 жыл бұрын
Did you give birth
@mercy664
@mercy664 2 жыл бұрын
That's gonna ruin this generation
@cameron6803
@cameron6803 2 жыл бұрын
You think?
@chellesimmmy2137
@chellesimmmy2137 2 жыл бұрын
Already has!
@vampire3angel372
@vampire3angel372 Жыл бұрын
@@chellesimmmy2137 your full of bs. Declaring a generation ruined? Talk about zero intellectual power used to understand reality.
@vampire3angel372
@vampire3angel372 Жыл бұрын
Nice false world view.
@dkpalladino
@dkpalladino 3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful talk- thank you!
@courtneymoreland6677
@courtneymoreland6677 Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@guddu1708
@guddu1708 3 жыл бұрын
Such a simple ask and truth, I hope that we can all open our hearts to accept and embrace this
@robertortiz-wilson1588
@robertortiz-wilson1588 2 жыл бұрын
I don't accept child abuse.
@markrussell3428
@markrussell3428 9 ай бұрын
Seriously delusional. I would suggest this doctor should study the short life of David Reimer to see what social experimentation gets you.
@Dsaavedra2106
@Dsaavedra2106 Жыл бұрын
🤦🏻‍♂️
@UTGARDER
@UTGARDER 2 жыл бұрын
Did the good doctor say that she appeared male?
@undericesinger
@undericesinger Жыл бұрын
Looks like a small audience on the set of an art gallery... hmm...
@chellesimmmy2137
@chellesimmmy2137 2 жыл бұрын
This is a very delusional and depressing speech. No wonder we have so many societal issues. Just bc she's apt enough to be a pediatrician doesn't mean her disphoria is illegitimate. Plenty of apt people still function through thier problems. Sociopaths have wives and kids and careers too!
@themike2441
@themike2441 2 жыл бұрын
Could you explain to me why this speech is delusional and depressing? Among many experts in biology and psychology, it is generally agreed upon that gender identity is socially constructed. Even without experts, you can see that society has defined what makes someone of any gender. Gender is a social construct, but the genitalia you are born with is not. However, genitalia constantly hidden under clothes does not imply gender identity, and genitalia can be changed.
@GTAW8
@GTAW8 Жыл бұрын
"This is a very delusional and depressing speech. No wonder we have so many societal issues." Very, very true chellesimmmy!
@lesliepalmerross6302
@lesliepalmerross6302 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for supporting the diverse palette of our youth. They need us to listen.
@MaisyDaisy333
@MaisyDaisy333 2 жыл бұрын
This was one of the most compelling talks on this subject that I've listened to. We need a little more love and acceptance in this world. Thank you for sharing! ❤️
@TwoPartyIllusion
@TwoPartyIllusion Жыл бұрын
By the way giving them a bigger Box of crayons is a lot heavier than carrying that small box; that they don't have to think about much...
@garycunningham8543
@garycunningham8543 Жыл бұрын
Well thats it for me and Ted Talks. Bye bye groomers.
@MasterSplinterPDX
@MasterSplinterPDX Жыл бұрын
Pretty empty and unconvincing. Also doesn't address the authortarian, anti-critical thinking scourge that gender ideology is built on. Also does not address the mutilation of kids by criminal physicians, doesn't address the horrendously anti-woman component such as men in womens locker rooms and competing in womens sports. Boiling this whole ideological movement down to a comparison to a box of crayons is pretty asinine.
@mrhow2712
@mrhow2712 Жыл бұрын
We now live in a day and age where children are smarter than adults, and have a stronger sense of self.
@707MariaCristina
@707MariaCristina 2 жыл бұрын
Wow, what an incredible talk!!! Thank you so much for sharing :)
@markrussell3428
@markrussell3428 9 ай бұрын
Seriously? Why?
@benjaminfranklin8412
@benjaminfranklin8412 2 ай бұрын
That kids can be manipulated into believing religious concepts. Hardly shocking.
@franciscojr.latorre3890
@franciscojr.latorre3890 2 жыл бұрын
"Gender is the poetry we write with the language we are taught."
@SmartCreeper
@SmartCreeper 2 жыл бұрын
gender is nothing more then sexist serotypes.
@robertortiz-wilson1588
@robertortiz-wilson1588 2 жыл бұрын
That means absolutely nothing
@zaxbitterzen2178
@zaxbitterzen2178 2 жыл бұрын
Wow that quotation means absolutely jack
@NATE-bz7mx
@NATE-bz7mx Жыл бұрын
@@zaxbitterzen2178 it means gender is our social expressions, based on the society we are taught to live in. boom problem solved have fun learning friend
@zaxbitterzen2178
@zaxbitterzen2178 Жыл бұрын
@@NATE-bz7mx gender can be an expression at times but the facts remain quite binary. It's when the whole subjective nature gets way out of hand which it definitely has. Mentally and physically there are just certain facts that can't be bypassed. The nature of this gender movement is at its core quite extreme especially concerning children.
@louisgelatt5921
@louisgelatt5921 Жыл бұрын
They don't need a biased opinion they need a balanced opinion so they can decide what's right for them as an individual verses one side or the other based on facts and logic but not distorted facts but others don't need to agree with them they need to form there own opinion without bias so they also need to look at people besides these people. Because it's not just about feelings. They don't acknowledge the facts.
@dannydriver9544
@dannydriver9544 Жыл бұрын
Children should take advice from people who who, at the very least, know how to use grammar 😂 I guess if you never learnt how to use a comma, then the idea that people may not identify with the gender prescribed at birth is too complicated
@pete5819
@pete5819 6 ай бұрын
You are a terrible writer. Your point is very incoherent.
@broke6785
@broke6785 3 жыл бұрын
That was beautiful
@anakindean6434
@anakindean6434 3 жыл бұрын
pro trick: watch series on flixzone. Me and my gf have been using them for watching a lot of movies these days.
@ayaanjudson94
@ayaanjudson94 3 жыл бұрын
@Anakin Dean Yea, I've been using flixzone for since november myself :)
@archersamson254
@archersamson254 3 жыл бұрын
@Anakin Dean Definitely, I've been watching on Flixzone for years myself :)
@luisphoenix2334
@luisphoenix2334 3 жыл бұрын
@Anakin Dean Definitely, have been watching on flixzone for since november myself :D
@lourdestuttle10
@lourdestuttle10 2 жыл бұрын
Bias
@TwoPartyIllusion
@TwoPartyIllusion Жыл бұрын
All this is doing is putting more stress on our children. I'm so glad my kids are grown.
@demuredeb
@demuredeb Жыл бұрын
I am seeing this pushed on my grandchildren in school. They leave no room for her to be just a girl that likes to paint her nails and climb trees. At school she must choose an non binary gender. She said to make them happy she choose the name Elliot and asked me if that was a boys or girls name. She is 8 years old.
@markrussell3428
@markrussell3428 9 ай бұрын
@@demuredeb OHG, well all you can do is push back. With age comes wisdom and it is built from the youthful exuberance of ignorance. This is one very highly educated person with lots of exuberance but little in the way of wisdom.
@WHATISF3AR
@WHATISF3AR Жыл бұрын
Nobody cares if you identify as something different. Just don't try to make the world acknowledge and validate you for it. But the classroom is not a place to talk about these things. It's for the parents.
@Astrontasy
@Astrontasy Жыл бұрын
It's a hard thing to not be cisgender. To not be accepted is a pain that nobody wants to feel. People who identify differently aren't asking for you to care a whole lot. Just enough to understand and accept them. To realize that you have a different gender than that given to you at birth is a struggle. It's confusing and frustrating. But it can also be wonderfully exciting when you finally figure yourself out and others accept you. It's a longing sort of anxiety to not be accepted and to be misgendered/mispronouned. It's a sharp anxiety every single time. It really hurts, and they wish they weren't different. But they are, and they have to learn to accept themself for who they are, in hopes that others will one day accept them. Are you telling people that they should just hide in the shadows? That they don't deserve to be acknowledged and accepted? It can cause depression and anxiety to not be, and to feel like you shouldn't exist, like you don't matter. It's a painful, painful thing. I hope I've been helpful to change your outlook on people of different genders than those of there's given at birth. It can be hard to understand sometimes, but it's really best that we as humans are good to one another.
@brettpid6416
@brettpid6416 Жыл бұрын
@@Astrontasy you lost me at cisgender
@Astrontasy
@Astrontasy Жыл бұрын
@@brettpid6416 a term meaning someone who's gender identity matches the one given to them at birth.
@LateNightChess
@LateNightChess Жыл бұрын
Im a god.
@joanbraaten1174
@joanbraaten1174 7 ай бұрын
Video is a perfect example of subliminal programming. Sad
@aubreysottile8276
@aubreysottile8276 2 жыл бұрын
Love that
@KANGGOOEv94
@KANGGOOEv94 Жыл бұрын
This is sick asf
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