i'm just imagining how incredibly useful this video will be to aliens

“But hurting another person is not a human need.” I like this. It really stuck out to me for some reason.

"Understanding is exactly how you create the world that you want"

Absolutely mind-blowing talk. We are so often quick to judge and jump to conclusions about one another when really we're all the same. The world would be a much better place if we all took the time to understand each other.

"Understanding is the power to shape the world."

I’ve always thought the quickest way to gain an understanding of others was to simply ask clarifying questions, listening, and showing others you don’t mean them any harm to lower their defenses.

What the world needs now...not just love sweet love, but a deeper understanding, beneath our surface differences to understanding that we're all so much the same. As Larry explains here, this is how we can be happier in our personal lives, and also work toward peace in our societies. Amen, brother!

this is the one video to watch to get interested in the nature of human behaviour. He explained it clearly with examples and references. There are just 30 needs for a human being... life is simple

This is such a profound lecture. I literally found myself analyzing several scenarios in my own life through the lens of this lecture. Wow!

This video is just GREAT! I find myself coming to re-watch it every now and then.

Understanding is NOT condoning behavior! Revenge is a substitute for a deeper human need! BOOM! 🤯

Right on target...engaging...accessible...informative.Any tool that helps us better understand each other is just what we all need!Thank you!!

How you framed those two young men is such profound way to frame the human spirit and our common needs. Thank you for that! I am also thrilled to hear how you incorporate neuroscience as this is an area that also applies to my work and research.

Yes, I always say, "Reasons are not excuses, but often understanding the reasons helps."

Completely captivating! Great insights into what makes us all tick, in terms we can viscerally understand and apply. Worth the 18 minutes of your time it takes to watch!

Seek to understand why you do what you do. There is an innocence down there at the bottom of the well. When you finally see it in yourself, trace how it rides alongside all of your actions, good and bad. Then turn outward and seek to see the same in the actions of every other person you interact with. See it clearly in yourself, then in others, and you may feel an inner peace arise and take root in you... This is a profound mediation of an inner war. After this understanding, you can begin to mediate outer wars too. Incredible TED talk, thank you so much for sharing.

If the whole world could follow this speeches of yours that would be the biggest blesssings & thing ever happened in everyone's life, hats off for this awesome words Mr. Larry! GodBless you

I have literally watched this like 10 times and I will continue to watch it. It’s amazing!!!

This is absolute ART itself in the lesson that is his mediation story.

Beautiful exploration into human behavior. Funny, profound, and valuable. "Human behavior is complex. But human needs are simple. We seek these common needs, and nothing else." Also I loved this line: "I cried too. I had 10 minutes. What was I going to do?" Bravo!

*incredible talk*

This was such a good talk, perhaps my favorite. Indeed understanding isn’t condoning.

Its like i am commenting on this to fulfill a simple common human need. Wow. We consider mattering outside world just because we want to fulfill needs. Wow. So what we really want is to fulfill those needs. Wow what a discovery. Whatever action and thought is happening, i am doing those to fulfill simple needs.. the truth does not actually matters (if the truth is derived in the realm of thought)

Wow... I love this...In my whole life, the most difficult task I've ever had and still having is understanding human. I hope more presentation on this topic would be posted for people like me to learn. Nice one Larry

i keep coming to this - what you've talked about this has struck me so deeply. I have not understood everything yet but i do have an inkling about how to get better at this. Thanks for your talk Larry.

Straight to the point, without getting too sappy and emotional!

Wow. This talk was enlightening. I would often surmise that by understanding myself, I could project that understanding onto others under the assumption that all human beings are generally one and the same in regard to what we are looking for. I love how Larry Rosen ties this idea into enhancing our relationships with others.

What a moment ..much respect 5:38 ✊🏽

My first KZfaq comment ever. Wow, Larry. This talk & the clarity, pace at which you gave it really met my needs for inspiration, learning & shared reality. Thank you! May the Internet force align with all our life forces for it to go viral.

Thank you for the talk. Mind blowing idea. It teaches me how to use the knowledge I learnt in high school and how to understand people.

I am so fascinated with Ted Talks I can’t get enough. This is amazing I hope more people will try to understand each other

"..what was I gonna do.." 10/10 btw, good talk.

Such a great and true speech! To understand gives empathy and you can have empathy and still disagree. As a kid my mom was strict but had behaviors that puzzled me, that to myself felt hurtful and unfair. And I want things to make sense or I will obsess until they do and this was one of the biggest ones. It started with trying to understand my mom's behaviors, continued to observing behaviors in school corridors versus the same people outside of the friend group and subtitle changes when the same person was with different people. I started to study behavior, body language and psychology in my own young head. Then internet came and I started to try to find online data to understand her but also why I was different and felt broken and failed. It went on. Long story short, I found what he was talking about when I was studying animal behavior, psychology,motivation, development, basic needs and social needs and saw parallels that wasn't on the human pages with huge hard words. It started to make sense. We can do 2 things, 1 is to look at past, present and future behaviors. What are they doing now, what did they experience to conclude that this is the best way to cope and deal, and what do they wish to achieve by doing so which tends to be either to avoid unpleasant to ever happen again - anxiety, or strive for pleasant as in strive for happiness and success. When stuck and lost in the middle you have depression and despair. The 2nd is motivator as he talked about. Humans and animals alike are reward driven. In short if you don't gain on it you will hate doing it even when common sense tells you it's good for you. To understand someone you can wonder what emotion are they going through and what things in life can cause that emotion. Tears are a good example. Are those happy tears? Sad, overwhelmed, empathetic, afraid, and so on and what triggered to feel that way. To go back to my mom she was stricter to me for 2 reasons. One was that she lost her firstborn, a son, and was scared to drive away my very confident independent brother and savor getting a second chance, and stricter tome because I was her mirror and shaping me was to try to shape herself but also to try to get me to be equipped to avoid experiencing what ever it is that she went through. She has never told me what it is. To finish off, my biggest moment of empathy to my mother when I hated her the most (hate = hurt) was when she spoke to my grandmother in a conversation and I saw her revert into her inner child that was triggered by something granny said. I saw hurt, fear, feeling sad,broken, misunderstood, old loneliness. My strong strict mom... was not much different than me. That was the day... everything she ever did made sense to me, even the things I disagreed with.

That talk was absolutely fantastic and transformational, thank you so very much for sharing!

Amazing speech! It is very interesting to hear the points you had and then realize how true they are. I've never had this eye-opening moment when it comes to similarities in two completely different lives. When I was younger my parents were strict, and we were never on the same understanding level, so I never had the chance to prove them wrong. A decade later I have a little sister and I see so many similarities we share to when I was younger. She is interested in a lot of things as I was, and she sometimes gets frustrated because no one understands her. But I always talk to her and let her know that I understand, and I also try to explain it to my parents so that they Understand. I feel like you cannot always talk to people and understand how exactly they feel but you can get a basic understanding of their situation. The best example in my case is the development of a person. According to research Nature and nurture are equally important to the development of a person but as I stated before I see so many similarities in me and my sister even if we grew up in different countries. The same comes to the changes in my parents. They changed a lot when it comes to being strict (“A good example of such influences is the fact that growing infants influence their parents’ behavior at the same time that they are changed by it." ("MindTap - Cengage learning," n.d.)) but they still don't agree and understand us. So, what is the best way to help someone see and understand our points and thoughts?

"Human behaviour is complex but human motivation is simple"

Bravo... beautiful synopsis on the truth behind human psychology which is simple... our most basic need to be understood on a core level

Amazing, mind-blowing speech. Simple when you think about it, but incredibly deep as always is the truth. Thank you, sir.

Very well said sir ! The way we percept the situation differs from man to man it may be either in the Good side or a Bad one. so understanding ones perception is way too difficult.

Thank you. I really needed this. I'm an understanding person and just want to understand more

Thank you .. for this recommendation... and to the presenter for his very comprehensible - learn the language of the heart ... love.

Thank you for such nice sharing!!

I mastered in this way before and won many hearts... what he said is absolutely true accept them for who they are

What he taught us was always been inside us but we realised it after watching this motivational video. Love from india sir.

Revenge is nothing but empathy on deeper level

What an amazing talk! On point!💖

And now I'm confused about myself. What is it that I lack that I'm seeking through this person

"Man's speech is the revealer of his heart. In whatever world the heart travels, man's conversation will revolve around that center. From his words you can understand in what world he is travelling, whether he is looking upward toward the realm of light or downward to the nether world..." ~ Abdu'l-Bahá, Baha'i Faith

Thanks for your insights! Simple and profound.

I came across this TED whilst looking for First Principles of human behaviour. The research is not for Doctorate but how I can help my clients create a safe working space for their staff and to support the staff to be accountable for their actions. It’s the corporate village. I loved the respect Larry gave to the Humans in his stories and how the first “impression” of behaviour is not always at the core. This is such an important subject for us right now as I feel as a society we have a sliding door moment in our evolution to take the path of Community or Commodity. I choose community.

Me watching this to understand my unpredictable toxic family:

This concept should be the overall goal of our education system. Half of our learning should be about how to manage our complex mind. The other half can be academic. Both are needed.

Marshall changed my life too. His teaching is so simple, but by no means easy. Glad to see the basic truth of common human needs are being shared in this talk. It's worth pointing out clearly that few people belief this because needs and strategies are so commonly confused. So too are thoughts and feelings. A good understanding of the language of feelings and needs is sorely missing in this world. For those inspired by this talk, I highly recommend another needs-based approach called 'the Human Givens', brought to the world by Joe Griffin and Ivan Tyrrel. Keep shining the light into every dark corner of the world, and spread the language of peace... :)

this was an amazing talk!

Thank you for putting this in such a relatable way ♥

I've watched a lot of Ted talks and this one is still my favorite

Thnks to the speaker u really made my intrest in psychology and human nature much more profound and... strong..human nature is always driven by understanding motives..wow .

The desire to be accepted is not a basic need though. This is just a way to test our "worth" as a human being on other people. The real need behind it is be worthy. Not to feel worthy.

Great insight into what motivates people.

Listening to this one while folding laundry, and 2/3rds of the way through it invokes tears for me because of an example he gives about an ex-husband and wife who at one moment felt hate and resentment, but once they understood the motivations, felt love and understanding. I have always seen human commonality more so than human differences. I believe no matter how different we are culturally, racially, rich/poor, man/woman, old/young, or whatever -- we all have common motivations. Common needs. I wish the media and all of the influential outlets focused on similarity & love over drama & divide.

To me he kinda looked like Bon Jovi , I was waiting for him to sing “it’s my life”

The moment when I finished this video. It’s concluded to seeking their common needs and you will understanding how human brain works

GREAT GREAT STUFF!!!!! THIS WILL BRING PEACE ON EARTH!!!! THANK YOU SO!!!!

I feel that motivation is simply helping people do what they want to do

so good and precise... just loved it. m going more for it

Giving receiving love this

Children who have never been in a war and children who have never been in peace are different.They can never be the same.

Thank you , Mr Larry ❤

Omg, this gave goosebumps. Such a touching story.

Wow, this presentation is priceless. Thank you.

I have a keen interest in learning human behavior and after seeing this video i will save much of my time I'm just really thankful to you from the bottom of my heart ❤

This is my new fav ted talk

Thanks for some wonderful insights. It's good to understand that neuroscience / brain science provides important information about the significance of understanding (not condoning) another's actions or opinions.

Truly stimulating talk.

Brilliant!

I’m so glad I watched this.

Larry C. Rosen is an intelligent empathizer (a Mench) seeing both party's side. THEE ORIGINAL TEXTBOOK IS: "You Can Negotiate Anything". A book on negotiation by Herb Cohen that used story-telling to help explain the various concepts and strategies behind the art of negotiation. The 1982 book spent nine months on the New York Times bestseller list.

love this. I also think, "needs" are a lot of compensation and want to make everyzhing "better"

This talk is changing my life

One of the most amazing talks I’ve seen.

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Great to greatest...thank you

This is a very insightful talk. Love it.

Wonderful speech!

Amazingly amazing speech

great insights about what motivates people!

His voice is calming

I understand that the behaviour of humans just depends on what they expect or on what they need from the others. one you attain a position of fulfilling their needs the relationship and bonding between them increases. Motivation is that which drives the brain. Human's field of work ,area of intrest,way of life might be different but the single reason that motivates them to work is to reach basic needs of their life.This process of attaining makes changes in the way they respond or behave based on the process they go through while attaining their requirments. so understanding a person might be a bit complex but convincing and making them in favour of you is not that dificult once you start becoming solution for thier problems. so I conclude that human brain is very good at executing things but should be guided and motivated well to reach the peace of life and so the psychology of humans can be understood to a better extent one you start reading their needs than other ascpects of life.

Hands down, the most useful TedTalk I've ever seen

Great talk!

This particular video help us to understand the behavior of not just one specific category of a human being but various categories of human beings. The video enables us to understand that the mentality of different people belonging to the different age group differs significantly. Also, according to the speaker, psychology or the human behavior of an individual very much depends on the environmental factor as well. The above video aids us in understanding the reason behind the reactions given by our own people about whom we care a lot, thus, augmenting our patience level towards each other for a better and a healthy living.

Thank you,Sir.

this was great, thank you for sharing with us

Amazing talk.

What drives a human is what makes all of us work towards our goals or our needs

Human motivation is simple....thanks

phenomenal...brilliant...

Excellent Larry!

Amazing opened my mind

The human mind is very complex. Many things can come into play when it comes to "what matters to us". Things like our current situation, people could be going through financial hard ship which is temporary, Current mood, the way they are being treated in their personal life, how they view their selves. There are so many variable that effect a person's current perception of them selves and the world around them.