That’s so true, lol 😭

💯😭😭😭

I got that reference

Spotted the linux user cus you mentioned root first loll

duuuuude thats way too accurate, and its like the only override is something that excites me or gives me anxiety

Lol love it

lol. For me I can easily listen to hours long videos that I’m interested in on KZfaq like this one, but I struggled so bad to pay attention in any of my classes.

I watch his stuff while doing other things like cleaning, playing video games, or sometimes even during cardio so I can digest the info while still being productive.

@@myownfreemind6627 For sure, I do the same, but 3 hours is daunting...especially compared to his shorts. lol

It's only 2 hours actually

@@minininja8923EVERYONE CAN PAY BETTER ATTENTION TO STUFF THAT HE IS INTEREST IN INSTEAD OF STUFF TAHT YOU DONT CARE ABOUT. ITS NOT AN ADHD THING

Damn, you made me cry. I guess this phrase is the only reason why I am alive... maybe also "doggo would be sad".

The sole reason I'm still alive is because I promised my mother I wouldn't harm myself.

@@shelbyjackson6903 same here. Sometimes I can't help myself and wonder when my mum dies so I could end it without shame.

@@user-he5eh3eu9q Same, and then I feel more horrible for thinking that way because I don't want to lose ANY of my family. Sometimes I wish I wasn't close with them, then it wouldn't really hurt them when I'm gone.

@@shelbyjackson6903 Ohh I know that feeling to good. My solution was to always move and never live longer than a year in one city. Great way to avoid connections to people.....

I feel you, way too much.

I hope you can find a way to no longer being suicidal anymore with the right life changes, therapy, building a supportive network of friends etc etc.

You're not a waste, man. You're a person and is enough to deserve a life of happiness, content, and meaning. Don't worry about achieving the goalposts people prop up for you, it will never be enough. Find your own purpose and progress. Take care of yourself above all, you got this man :)

Talk to a professional. The right one will immediately help you and give you some hope. I was in your shoes only a year ago, and this week I have recovered enough to start my first job in 5 years!

You are achieving being you. You are doing it perfectly, and being YOU is what you were put here to do. If you are struggling, please talk to a professional. I would say that you should talk to family or friends as well, but family and friends sometimes say the wrong the thing or struggle to understand. You should talk to the people you love, but ALSO talk to a professional.

Thank you!

Thx :]

As always The most useful comment under every dr k live stream

If I could give you 20 thumbs up, I would. Good job dude.

Thanks!!!!

I am 61 and was diagnosed yesterday. My marriage would have been happier if I had known earlier. And grad school wouldn't have been put off until I was 60. I have spent decades learning to adapt. I wish I had known earlier.

There is no help, no one will ever love me, I am out of hope

I hope U find hope in it, not just regret ❤ Bro you're 40, like.. I could date you. 😂🤷‍♀️ Thats not "old" You have such a long time to spent. Choose wisely my ADHD friend. 😊

​@@davidcrawford9026that's your Ego! Not YET! Listen and learn, watch the last talk. I wish you the best ❤

​@@valerierussell686729, recently diagnosed. My mom too, 61. Just wish you the best. And 'unknown' greetings ❤

I don’t relate to this personally but it sounds painful. Hope this gets better for you

Meditation and just being alone with yourself helps. I remember saying to myself I don’t even know what I want I’m just trying to survive to my minds expectations. It helps to literally just let go and sit or lay down on your bed in the dark and just let your mind run its natural course for up to an hour at a time. Eventually over time you start reprograming yourself to cherish that self connection, and the cycle repeats. That was the initial step for me try it out

I wish this was true for me. I got a panic attack from a noise that I thought was someone saying something in a specific way yesterday, over a year and a half after the original traumatic event.

Idk if that's really a blessing though fr bc like 2 of my childhood dogs died like kinda bsck to back over the beginning of the year and I literally don't feel shit about it, and that's not even getting into the swooth of other stuff that's happened over the years. But yeah, I'm just trucking right along like ain't no difference was ever made. However, I feel like that ability to just keep moving forward comes with baggage that is just not immediately obvious

​@@witherschatlong term memory isn't affected. And fearful stuff resurfaces. But of you know how to refocus to something relaxing (book, videogame, pet) then you woi live with that fear in the moment so much.

It’s actually a curse. The subconscious catalogs it and holds it and the memory challenges that keep you from accessing it keep you from processing it. This leads to things like dysautonomia and psychosomatic illness. eventually life will outpace your ability to function and you will reach total burnout. Dealing with it for a year and a half and it took me over a year and so many doctor’s visits to figure out what was going on. Finally sorting it after a few months in trauma therapy and I feel hopeful.

Heard we can't develop habits. This might be why :/

I feel that, the wild part is that this just magically goes away with medication (at least for me). An hour actually feels like an hour regardless of what I’m doing

I’m in pretty much the same boat here, a psych student working really hard to take care of myself and achieve in school at the same time. it’s so tough for me because it’s hard to trust myself, but i’m making so much good progress by utilizing tools (I love Notion it’s been a game changer) and In the last few months, I went from a 2.0 to a 3.0 GPA, quit vaping, got a job, and now im working on implementing habits (basic hygiene stuff like brushing my teeth, skincare routine, drinking water, getting exercise, eating healthy) which is still tough and a process, tbh the only things ive gotten down completely are the skincare and teeth routine and minor improvements in my diet, but regardless a year ago i never would have thought that improving like this would be possible, especially unmedicated. Your efforts will pay off, just please remember to be kind to yourself. It can be hard especially if you have depression as well, but every step is valuable, every time you push yourself out of your comfort zone and try to do positive things for yourself, thats huge. In regard to being in college, We belong here 100%! both of us have extremely useful perspectives in our respective industries. Your parents are simply factually incorrect

You are doing good, better than I did. I dropped out, keep at it and screw them

​@@levana2269 Thank you so much you are very sweet♡ I am medicated which has helped inmensely but that lasts a couple of hours and isn't an ultimate "cure". About improving, for me what is very difficult is to manintain those new habits for more thank like a couple of weeks. One little change in my life or mental health and they are gone and it's back to square one :(

​@@cassierbutler6073 Dropping out ≠ doing better or worse. I hope wherever we end up that we can find peace and happiness!!

​@@lilydot642 you should watch his study and focus videos.

Same. I feel like a fraud everyday of my life. I've been looking for medical help for a while and I have the same fear as you

See a professional. It might help to write down symptoms you experience so you don't forget to mention 50% of them. Depending on where you live there might be a massive waiting list to finally see a therapist, or it might be expensive, but it's 1000% worth it. You'll thank yourself later

At the end of the day your symptoms are what matter. The diagnoses are supposed to map to your symptoms, not the other way around. Person-centred therapy not therapy-centred person

Also watch the video at 42:20 dr k talks about this exact situation people find themselves in and how absurd it can be

I have Adhd and autism and it probably created the complex trauma that he mention in a recent video but I was still getting better watching the videos, going to the psychologist and taking the medication when I only knew I had Adhd, it was not complete progress but still progress. Also introversion is not a probem, is more a personality that can be good or bad depending in the context, around half of the population is introverted

Yeah, I think both interpretations kinda work.

Yeah, I just saw that and was about to comment this same thing. 😬

I can relate to this.

"Let's talk about time blindness y'all"

“Regular 5 minutes or Alok 5 minutes?” I felt that

came to comment this, so glad someone else did

"he's terrible at managing his own schedule"

I’ll be 32 in July and I’m not optimistic that things will ever get easier. Optimistic enough to watch this, somehow, although the search for a “fix” itself feels more and more like an endless cycle of confirming and reconfirming my own hopelessness.

Yes. I've felt that "I don't belong here" meaning, this particular world, the rules in which it operates, almost my entire life. Started around when I had to start thinking of my future and the life ahead. Getting by day-to-day with no future burdens to deal with was easy. Having to decide the rest of my life, in general, was just something I couldn't do.

Turned 32 in Feb. I felt the same as you until I got medication for depression and anxiety that can also be used for adhd along with anxiety medication that also puts me to sleep. Finally been able to have a good couple years. Sometimes I'll run out of medication, and I'm reminded of how hard life used to be.

I'm not officially diagnosed with add or adhd because seeing a specialist in my country takes very long and is expensive.

@@CrocodileRay thanks

Do you journal emotional situations and did that help to create a connections?

Yeah, I had a teacher who I suspect had adhd in college and the students were brutal to him. I empathized because I knew I would be exactly the same if I had to teach

I've been thinking about how people with adhd often have more intense emotions and higher levels of anxiety. So, when you think about your mom, and her fear of adhd being fake, remember it might be driven by her own adhd. And same for you with your anxieties. I was able to talk to my primary care physician about ADHD, get the quick in-office questionnaire and then start non stimulant meds. When straterra worked for me, I knew I had adhd, because straterra is only approved for adhd, nothing else. And, because I have adhd, straterra helped massively with my anxiety. This might not be the lath for you, but I mention it because it might be easier than pursuing a full diagnosis with your levels of anxiety.

You may not be that better off if you were diagnosed young, in fact you may have been better off without it. I got diagnosed when I was 12. Kaiser just threw a bunch of different heavy-dose ADHD meds at me, and they REALLY messed me up. Now I'm 24, still dealing with an eating disorder and a psychological disorder caused by these prescriptions.

Hey, I would really like to share something encouraging you to not think about your life as "wasted". I know the passing of time is unstoppable and perhaps you feel as if you are now stuck with a life that you wish turned out different. Until recently at least, I was feeling that way, as well. I spent a lot of attention on the achievments of others, sometimes looking up the year of birth of someone I admire, or whose life I would love to emulate. If they were younger than me, I would feel extremely disheartened and regretful over my life choices, if they were older, I would delusionally use it as a boost to my self-esteem, thinking: "They were THAT old when they got to the life I would love to live. There is still time!" They haunt me too, you know. The "glimpses" of the life I could have lived. I have convinced myself that my young adulthood has mounted up to nothing more than empty dreams, addiction cycles and meaningless stimulation. Footsteps planned, but never wandered. But the truth that I found is that this pent up resentment that has slowly eroded my self-worth; has become just as much a blanket I could hide under, as any other stimulant I abused to free me from the responsibility of emotional self-regulation. I never wanted to identify as a victim, but resenting my life that much, what else could I see myself as? And then I started resenting that I had so much resentment for myself, cause deep down I knew it was a cop-out. My point is this. To free oneself of deeply held convictions might arguably be the hardest thing anyone can do. But the fact that you describe your life as a "waste", the same as I did, means that there is a part of you that believes it deserves to be happy and I believe that part deserves to be heard without being shut down by the bully voice in our head that is just as scared. I have struggled with an intense period of derealization and the one thing I learned from that, which has changed my life forever is that there is NO PART of ourselves that truly wants to hurt us, that truly wants to see us fail. All the shit our minds do, that eventually end up hurting us, are only there because they want to protect us from discomfort and pain in the first place. Now I can't speak for your life, and I genuinely mean well and hope you don't perceive this as condecending, but you are 46 my dude/lass, so what? At the end of the day, it is impossible for you to be behind in life, as you are and will be the only person to have ever walked your footsteps. And I genuinely believe that there is an astounding, unbelievably beautiful richness to your story that you can look back on and use to shape the adventure you want to have while you're still with us on this earth. All the shit, all the regretful decisions you made, the people you have loved and lost, they don't have to define you. If you find some way to not live in regret, but acceptance, I believe you will find the energy and mental clarity to pave a path ahead that you will be proud of. I will say though, I believe to succed in that, you have to acknowledge that this will happen incrementally. No matter how dark and deep the forest, the only way to get out is by taking one step at a time. I realize this is something I also need to tell myself, apologies, if it does not resonate with you in the same way. I just believe in us. And that's a conviction I had to earn.

Not a watse of life. A waste of life if you choose death. You are very young and know that

Life begins at 40 so I've heard

As I've gotten older I've become more aware that our societies markers of success are trash. Calling my life a waste based on those markers of success is pointless. The only thing that matters is if I can find happiness or enjoyment in the moment. Chasing after society's idea of success and worth is stressful and not enjoyable.

Now European scientists in Sweden or somewhere found out that Artificial intelligence, is not very intelligent. Sam Vaknin said few years ago something similar about AI. They said it puts together wrong information about humans, all kinds of inaccurate information about humans and it looks like a strange mixture "mambo jumbo" nonsense or like some strange caricature of information. ....But they found out AI has very strong "convincing" power....to aply this "mumbo jumbo" nonsense on people, probably through the screen. They found out that Artificial intelligence is able to convince people about "it´s own" truth by 82 percent. and as we know human brain can be very easily hypnotised or brainwashed by screens, some people can believe nonsense if they get soime "gift" or "prize for it"...like catfishing by AI probbaly. Or if they dont practice metacognitive thinkling method, or meditation, thye are not immune to wrong info, if thyea llow it and dont iuse their own intuition and calm attitude. So be careful what you read on internet and dont take it seriously, if some channel or article say to you some nonsense, it may be also result of AI "convincing" powers and strategies. Especially dont give these informations to little children or to teenagers who dont understand life and who need positive example.....especially about family values or men and women values etc.......because then we may became the caricature the artificial intelligence thinks about people., if small children will start to watch the nosnsese, because their memory needs normal hobbies and habits.

As a fan of this episode, you must remember that they actually had broken him at this point. He tells the councilor later that not only would have been willing to say there five lights until the others came in to release him, he actually says he saw 5 lights as well.

@@Austin-xx2nuRight? Good point man! I actually *did* forget that part lol. He indeed was broken, and through sheer force of will, or triumph, or maybe some sort of moral fortitude, stood in defiance. Gave that Cardassian a big "fuck you" and walked out under his own power like a G. Or maybe it was because in that moment, he realized his crew were alive, and coming for him, and that gave him the strength to rise back up like a boss. I think I'm gonna hang out and watch that episode again. It's been a while, anyways. One of the downsides switching to streaming services I suppose, one never gets to appreciate the random chance of catching old, good, re-runs.

yes!!! agree 100%

This is a great idea!

What is this malicious motivation you are talking about? It is fear of dissapointment or arxiety as a coping mechanism?

Congratulations on the PhD! I'm writing up mine in an Arts/Humanities subject and it's actual torture trying to get to work each day and then stay focused.

Now that I've seen the other comments on how this video bugged for a day this joke makes a lot more sense.

I sure hope it works. Otherwise, this market and these products would be an even less moral version of those dating coaches that sell expensive courses to people desperate for a date. If doing this visibly generates a large amount of money and proves to be a significant market, then selling garbage to a desperate population is absolutely going to turn into the standard. As it is, I don't quite trust the guy. I'm getting a vibe from him and his timing in the zeitgeist. It seems rather convenient in several ways, and he described a rejection of being forced to alter genetic code to deal with a slightly worse than average seasonal flu as a stupid an hostile rejection of obvious kindness. That is not a thing that can be ignored. Died Suddenly is a documentary that is worth looking up for more information on this. There are many information sources, with many qualified medical professionals speaking about this.

Hlo

Same. I cant even muster the will to do the things I LIKE to do

@@mka8915 plz tell me Forgetfulness,leaving task uncompleted, Not following curriculum, Switching task,already suffering from anxiety disorder ,can't able to study but want to study,engage in task making,feeling hard to start work,shaking legs, Knowing subject syllabus can be completed in 1 week but still procrastinate even if it's easy ARE THEY ALL SIGNS OF ADHD?

@@army-st3dx Pretty much, yeah. I can relate to all of those and I just got my diagnosis a few weeks ago. You should definitely speak to a psychiatrist!

@@Dulcis90 how you feel after taking medication ?

Dr Barkley has helped me a ton with his videos

I'm the exact same way - I got through most of my papers in undergrad by going to office hours and talking all my ideas out. It's been a problem in grad school because so often people assume that being able to talk it out = easily translating that to writing, when there are so many things to balance while writing that it's easily overwhelming

I have a great vocabulary for my level of education. However, when it is time to recall particular words while speaking to people, I am unable to bring them to mind. I know the word, but, I end up with this tip of my tongue problem constantly. What is frustrating is that I perceive people to think I am dumb and that my vocabulary is small, however, I just mix up the word because my sorting mechanism is faulty. Its not that I do not know the word I am searching for, it is that in the moment I cannot remember it.

same

Congrats on graduating, I was diagnosed after being out of college for eight years. I didn't graduating unfortunately. With accommodations and meds I might have made it.

Plz help me

Is this how OBS works? There has to be a way to fix this.

@@ubertrashcat no, that's how his obs works

Agree, keeps making me think I got a notification

Yeah drives me absolutely nuts 🥜

@@HHH7756 I'm annoyed at those notifications, too, especially when I'm listening to something while driving, or if it obscured half of my GPS screen for a few seconds.

I suck at meeting any deadline yet I manage my time great during a chess game. I don’t think it’s a timer though. Having a clock within reach doesn’t help that much with being late for me.

SAME! It makes me so mad cause my brain also acts like it’s the last time I’m ever going to be able to do whatever it is that I’m doing… even though I know that is def not true

@@DevDawg323Wow, I think I felt the same way but never heard it articulated so well. I'm having chain epiphanies???

I'm in the same frickin boat man. Every day..my work is getting onto me. They keep saying "You live 10 minutes away, how are you always late?"

THIS

Yes! I think it's because that adrenaline rush is a kind of high for us, and also because we learn to depend on stress to get things done.

Ha but I've always liked the way it sounds

But how many genders do you see Picard

​@@jonmartin3220 I mean the higher-ups who care the most about this question and giving it a definitive answer are almost always huge fans of torture and anti-whistleblower laws, and quite a few high-profile US politicians even oversaw torture in person, you really don't have to look deep

@@mooreanonumbers abusers love it 👍

That’s another banger! They won the battle but lost the war. He wouldn’t give them the satisfaction. If they were more clever they would’ve changed the number of lights throughout the experiment so he couldn’t tether himself to his defiance

Reacting to this one to upvote it

Who are those people beyond first names?

@@VioletEmerald Linus is the founder of the largest tech enthusiast KZfaq channel in the world (Linus Tech Tips), Yvonne is his wife and she also plays a role in the company (I can't remember which one).

Go to twitch

Thanks. Whatever happened it's back now.

You could share this video with your mom

Go to twitch

@@vishnuax8737 Thank you. 👍✌️

Went to the shop to get a fitting for plumbing, then went to the toilet and left without it, found an excuse for the customer, left again and then couldn't remember where I put it.

Lol iconic

I use google keep, I can access it from everywhere. And I can sort each entry based on where it is in the store. But sometimes I forget my phone.

In high school, I forgot to bring my backpack to school😭

Setting alarms for events is all very well but how long do you need between the alarm and the event... 5 mins before can be fine or still hopefully late, 2 hours before can be enough (going to the airport) or total overkill to the point I still miss the appointment because the alarm was too early

Go to twitch

Same man. I would feel like a fraud even if my psychiatrist told me for an hour that I have ADHD. For me I am just a pathetic excuse of a wretched human being

One thing that helped me get through college was I picked a topic that I can hyper focus on. I was supposed to go to college to get a degree, but if it's not something you're interested in enough to go to class and you probably will hate it as a career too. There's also technical schools and other pathways to jobs that make money that don't require so much book study too. (For example electrician). But yeah I think the key is finding something that's easy to hyper focus on, it makes studying a whole lot easier.

Honestly, you don’t have to be in therapy to treat your adhd (it is very helpful) but just having medication can alleviate a lot of the symptoms. Just seeing a nurse practitioner or psychiatrist once a month helps alot! Also, I promise it’s worth atleast getting the assessment because if you do have adhd, not getting a diagnosis is going to affect your studies even more in the long term.

@@notnyah104 the point you made about the studies being affected more by not getting an assessment is a good one.

Definitely get second opinions if you suspect a psychiatric diagnosis like schizophrenia might be wrong!