The Surprising Physical Effects of Depression and Anxiety

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Major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder are chronic illnesses.
They’re so much more than “just” sadness or worry. They are debilitating conditions that can dramatically worsen your health and shorten your lifespan.
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Depression and anxiety can become so severe that they can make you physically ill. This can happen directly through cognitive and somatic symptoms or indirectly through disruptions in physical functioning (like sleeping and eating) that weaken your body and your immune system.
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@nikkikelley1743 8 ай бұрын

I feel like I don't want to be judged or a Debbie downer. People don't get it and say you can snap out of it. Truth be told I have insomnia, extreme anxiety, depression, sadness, digestive disorders, fatigued ptsd on and on. I don't have anyone to go to, I'm single, very lonely, no joy in life I could continue but this is the basics. I do feel sick often

@nikkikelley1743 8 ай бұрын

And panic attacks

@Babsza 7 ай бұрын

I can totally relate to this , you can feel so judged and scared and you don't know how not to feel scared.

@narelleschulze3959 7 ай бұрын

@@nikkikelley1743 I have same issues and more like you do. I wish we could push a button and make things better. I do think there should be a place where we and other people who suffer this way could talk about this very debilitating issues. I really think that talking would help us all ❤

@user-bf6mr1jd1q 7 ай бұрын

Same here

@speedibusrex 7 ай бұрын

Same.

@Crysta1986 9 ай бұрын

This is the absolute best explanation of the physical symptoms I've ever heard. I overeat when I am depressed and as you explained, it is because I feel so empty that I keep eating in an attempt to possibly feel better. And it does feel a little better, but there isn't enough food in the world to fill the void. Plus, I have no energy to cook so I rely heavily on junk.

@fourshore502 7 ай бұрын

interesting i am the opposite! i barely get hungry at all and eat very little. and when i do eat i dont particularly care for it. it can be a can of beans or a five star restaurant meal im like "yeah ok whatever."

@TheOriginalKilamanjaro 7 ай бұрын

100% with you on that. While eating I'm fine... before & after not good

@thesilverone94 4 ай бұрын

@@fourshore502I’m the same. I’m a 59 year old bloke who loses appetite big style.

@deborahbasel184 7 ай бұрын

Somedays all I can manage to do is breathe.

@traciprovins3221 2 ай бұрын

Even with that, my panic attacks make it hard

@Notperfectbunny 8 күн бұрын

Hang in there! Its all u have! Your breath and yourself! Hang on to you! 😢

@OhioGalReads 7 ай бұрын

I had moderate depression. It was awful. I never wanted to unalive myself. It's immobilizing. I couldn't even look at the mail. Every daily task was a fight in my mind of why I should do the activity, why I shouldn't do the activity. It was exhausting. Don't tell me to take a shower and go for a walk. I JUST CAN'T do any of those things. I couldn't do those during depression. I can now.

@JJs2121 6 ай бұрын

how did you get out of it?

@JJs2121 6 ай бұрын

how did you get out of it

@klanderkal 3 ай бұрын

Wow,... I'm living that same struggle. Well explained !! I hope to recover... this is extremely uncomfortable to live this struggle.

@JonnyQ408 20 күн бұрын

Sounds like me back in 2016 out of no where I had my first panic attack, from that day on I noticed I started to have fears of, taking a shower because I got so light headed, had my first vertigo spell at work, I went home I felt so disoriented, everything felt so fake yet so real at the same time, the Sun was to bright, I quit my job of 7+ years and stayed home I was pretty much bedridden, even laying down made me felt dizzy, and when I sat down or stood up, I felt like I was on a boat, like you I wouldn’t even want to shower, reading a text wasn’t easy, basically everything was a struggle. I slowly got better in late 2017, the depression, anxiety, panic attacks were gone, till one day in July 2023 I woke up, turned to my gf and her room started spinning, and now my panic attack is back

@caty9995 7 ай бұрын

You've just explained my life and doctors don't seem to care anymore.

@knightstar1312 7 ай бұрын

I got rid of my doctor when he didn't want to refer me to any specialist, then got irritable/annoyed when I needed to get my prescription. By sheer chance I found another doctor who did refer me to specialists.

@minnax8939 Ай бұрын

Same here. SSRI help somehow, makes it tolerable, but never “normal”

@ianshilling5863 3 ай бұрын

My symptoms are Headache, joint pain, stomach pain bloating, fatigue, numbness in hands and feet ,lost of interest in thing's 😢

@laraoneal7284 7 ай бұрын

Depression can be paralytic. Ty for addressing this.

@jeannineterran2621 6 ай бұрын

This so clearly describes me. To try to tell anyone how I feel is so hard. I think I sound like a lazy, hypochondriac. And also it seems unfair to inflict myself on people, even my friends.

@KMONEY1986 3 ай бұрын

Yes!!!!!

@deborahbasel184 7 ай бұрын

We are also more prone to injuries. Not just self harm or suicidal actions, but we fall up and down steps, bump into walls and furniture, cut ourselves preparing food, break our bones. I am often clumsy and so out of sorts.

@theresekirkpatrick3337 7 ай бұрын

Me too

@kathyglass2922 6 ай бұрын

Yes. I believe it's because part of our amygdala using up attention and energy, leaving less energy and attention for full alertness. More accidents can happen To cope, to reduce the risk, I walk slower, take more time to engage in tasks, etc. And I remind myself to slow way down. It seems to help me get through.

@donnasouter3024 Ай бұрын

I agree. When I can actually bring myself to cook something (and this doesn't happen often due to brain fog and a complete lack of appetite), I nearly always burn myself - unintentionally. Something that rarely used to happen when cooking. Bumping my head as I get in or out of my car is another observation which rarely used to happen. I feel like I'm so disconnected and almost operating in autopilot mode. Not that I'm managing to do a fraction of what I used to do effortlessly. 😕 I feel I understand and empathise with how you're feeling. ❤

@MarciaB12 2 ай бұрын

I lost 45 lbs. I was so skinny. Im just finally getting my appetite back, my apptite just disappeared. Im graining a little wt back slowly. I fell a few times. I had nothing to wear because everything was huge. Funny thing is im an RN and all the nurses saw me deteriorating and said and did nothing. Not one person asked me if i was ok. I finally fell apart at work and had to go on disability. What is wrong with people? I would've definitely talked to a fellow worker if i saw them falling apart. I couldnt get thru a shift without bursting into tears. This all happened after working on the covid floor and warching the elderly not allowed to see their family. They werent allowed in. I watched them die of lonliness. I couldnt shower or any hygeine. I still cant talk about it without crying

@MelModica Ай бұрын

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Sounds like you generally care about people and your coworkers were heartless. I’ve heard a lot of stories about how hard nurses work and many struggle in a toxic work environment. I don’t work in the medical field but I’ve been in toxic work environments and it’s extremely difficult and exhausting to deal with. It is very sad those people weren’t allowed to see family and I hope you find a better environment to work in. I recently gave two weeks notice at my job I was at for 5 years. I had to leave because they kept piling work on me and I’ve been severely depressed after losing my nephew in 2022. Im going to take time off to rest and hopefully will find a better place to work. I think the majority of people that suffer with depression are highly sensitive so we need to avoid toxic people and places as much as possible.

@rhiannon14982 Ай бұрын

I quit my job due to anxiety. I've been shaking and jerking for a year now. Waiting for a neurologist. On government benefits, which isn't enough to survive on, which is added stress. I find driving difficult now because my leg shakes. A lady said to me yesterday I may have functional neurological disorder. It's so awful that stress brings about these physical manifestations, yet our society still questions mental illness.

@RC2214 2 ай бұрын

80 percent of what you have discussed, I have been going through since after the holidays. Every year exactly I get this right after X-mas till spring hits. It's been like this 4 years now. I'm in my 50s and been dealing with Depression, Anxiety and childhood trauma. So big triggers always activates this awful illness.

@elijahgavin6706 2 ай бұрын

Have you considered or received any trauma specialized therapy modalities? I hope you can find remission from this.

@Cocoanutty0 2 ай бұрын

I struggle with hypersomnia. Everyone thinks I’m lazy. I’m just so so tired all the time, and waking up feels like a horrible shock to the system and a realization that I’m in what feels like hell and have to take on a full day of living in it before I can escape. Then I can’t fall asleep and put it off for hours because the sooner I sleep, the sooner I have to wake up. I’ve been to so many doctors to figure out my fatigue, nausea, stomach problems, and brain fog. No answers. GI doctor shrugged when I asked if it was IBS because nothing else tested positive.

@freepalestine_stop_genocide Ай бұрын

Hi. I am sorry you have to go through this. You are not alone. I feel the exact same way and way beyond. Cannabis helps me and are more effective than the meds, which have serious side effects. Been through those too. But with cannabis, even though I am awake, I somehow feel like I can survive. Like I belong. I really do wish you get better soon, as all the people, who suffer in silence. God Bless.

@Supportdog2020 5 ай бұрын

I have most of those conditions started when my wife was diagnosed with cancer now she’s gone and I miss having her there to support me I can barely function it’s a living hell insomnia is terrible I feel terrible for you have stomach issues people just don’t understand what it’s like unless they have been through it god bless you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

Awwww , so sorry to hear of you're loss and suffering!!! I too have lost my wife, then my home, savings, and..my career job. It spiraled me into the worst stress, anxiety, insomnia and anhedonic depression. Im on another 4 days straight of no sleep. I get 1-2 hrs rarely. I've called 988 a few times. I don't think I'm gonna make it.... 🙏

@RobinsTinyHomestead 5 ай бұрын

I could not have described my life better than this video did. Ugh

@goat1401 7 ай бұрын

Just the enormous amount of validation along with knowing other human beings have and do go through what I did for the vast majority of my life..... I fall short of words to express how grateful I am. Thank you.

@carolinebielby5924 Ай бұрын

I ended up driving to the physiciatric hospital for them just to get me well ,it turns out you can't just get help by going there 🙃

@karencordoba Ай бұрын

I must have seen thousands of videos and read dozens of books on depression and anxiety, and it is the very first time I actually listen to someone addressing these issues. Particularly the constant nausea, I thought it was a "me problem". Thank you for talking about it, it shows you care and truly empathize with patients or clients. Hopefully people who have a loved one going through these things can better understand them based on this information. You are in a better position to help people, because I can tell you I've been in therapy with many different professional psychiatrists and therapists who actually told me "I should better go see a gastroenterologist" (which by the way I had already done but did not help with the symptoms). Thank you for your work and insights, you help people probably more than you think. Best wishes from Argentina.

@judisterlynn7896 7 ай бұрын

Everything you say are what I have felt for the past 30 years. Sleep is constantly all over the place.

@barbararead7307 7 ай бұрын

I’m 71 and I’ve never left a comment although I listen to many talks on utube about the human nature. I also don’t throw around the “I love you” statement. However, I have fallen instantly in love with this good man’s words. Thank You!

@humanpersonne 7 ай бұрын

I've caught 4 chronic illnesses (of those, 2 are autoimmune related) since getting sucked into depression some 7 years ago. I have always had eating disorders which only make my situation worse. No one in my real life ever understands. They blame me for my choices. I do take responsibility for making unhealthy choices to an extent but beyond that, everything seems out of my control. Dr. Scott your videos are very validating. Could you please talk about eating disorders stemming from depression and anxiety? Please and thank you. Hugs.❤

@lucyloojones2779 7 ай бұрын

100%…I always feel like I have a huge clamp digging into my chest and stomach! I’ve gone from 180 lbs to 125 lbs because I have to force myself to eat! Sleep is so elusive, I feel like a zombie and my memory is horrible! Shaking causes me to ruin paintings…my favourite hobby!Life is not easy!

@lucyloojones2779 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for putting into words, how tough it can be. Sometimes I think I’m ‘crazy’ (hate that word)

@wingnut71 6 ай бұрын

Ask your doc for some quitiapine. It will knock you right out. I stopped taking it because it made me sleep too much.

@nojo1710 4 ай бұрын

Me too. Hang in there 💙💙💙💙💙

@aliciarosemusic 7 ай бұрын

You just described my entire existance in great detail.

@denisemerillat5407 5 ай бұрын

Went to bed at 10:30pm. Took clonazepam because for some reason I am in constant anxiety and depression. Got up at 11:15. Read a book. Went back to bed and did a brief breathing exercise. Up again at 12:00 am. Did some journaling. Read some more. Up again at 1:15 am. Against my better judgement, took some hydroxyzine. Waiting for that to work. 1:48 am. Wide awake. Ugh! Dr Scott thanks for putting it out there what dealing with insomnia is like.

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

I'm with you..!!! Everything he's mentioned I have. I'm on day 4 again. With No sleep at all. It's been 7 months of 24/7 suffering. My traumatic events caused terrible stress and terrible anxiety..... sunk me into anhedonic depression. ... I've called 988 a few times. I don't think I can take it anymore

@lycanmychances7926 9 ай бұрын

This is what depression has looked like for me the past 10/15 yrs. Wake. Up with the sun stare at the wall from my bed till the sun goes down try to fall asleep but never comes early. Eventually pass out like midnight - 2am and back up at 6 to do it all again.

@aliciarosemusic 7 ай бұрын

😢

@alexandrapalacios222 6 ай бұрын

I am in the same situation and I am scared I can't get up

@brizzchizz7302 4 ай бұрын

That’s horrendous I thought mine was bad. I can’t count the times I would sit for half a day staring at wall or out window with ZERO thoughts but wanting so bad to be a part of life. Power on my Brother

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

That's worse ... That's terrible. I just sit... and don't move. I don't want to do anything, or go anywhere. I do... but I can't. I don't sleep anymore,.. im on another 4 days straight... it happens so often I just don't care anymore. Nothing helps. I have stress and anxiety from the trauma I experienced .. and the loss of my career job.... slammed me into anhedonic depression... It sucks... being a prisoner to mental illnesses

@angelaisacliche 5 ай бұрын

My problem with sleep is that it takes me ages to get to sleep but then when I do I sleep for like 10 hours. Then I feel so sluggish all day. If I need to get up earlier I can but I'll be exhausted and getting brain fog later and end up having a two or three hour nap. Then my sleep that night is all messed up. So I can't win either way :/

@raginald7mars408 7 ай бұрын

…as a German Biologist . .. This happened to me By neglect and reckless burnout and overwork and overwhelm A Wreck. Intense Endurance and Inner Strength Training Made a meta Morphosis To become a New Person To never ever do that again Self Destruction Phoenix…

@viiru870 7 ай бұрын

I haven't felt this seen in so long. This made me understand myself a whole lot better, and not beat myself up for being lazy, when im actually just exhausted from lack of quality sleep and malnourishment. Thank you, your work here i s so important!

@Kate98755 7 ай бұрын

I had a lonely childhood, raised my 2 narcissists, I thought i was being dramatic until a few months ago my little sister said she didn’t remember ever being hugged, played with, read to, told she was loved….I realized I wasn’t imagining it! I was the only one who also had the physical violence of really seriously hard spanking. My dad is 6’4”….i’m only 5’2” as a grown adul. I was so tiny. Now I’m in my 60’s, my own family is fractured…I’m sure I’m to blame, they say no but I didn’t handle parenting through the early teen years, I have one setof twins and as they found different interests and friends that relationship fractured and has never healed. So ironically I feel alone again, again I can’t fix things, I can’t make people like me…but my goal now is to climb out of this sadness. I can’t live in shame. You don’t like me, daughter in law…then don’t like me. She doesn’t like my daughter so over time I’ve pulled away from her, because my daughter is precious to me….life doesn’t have to be this complicated…but too many broken people, or narcissistic, or spoiled and immature. Sick because I’m depressed is exactly what I feel. Thank you for this video. 😟

@lalakuma9 4 ай бұрын

When my mental health is in a bad state I get so much muscle tension that my sleep quality suffers and I feel like crap in the morning. Even when I have a few hours of free time in the evening, my neck is constantly in pain and I can't do the things I enjoy that typically alleviate my stress. It's like a domino effect towards a downward spiral.

@saintejeannedarc9460 9 ай бұрын

The body temperature dysregulation is hell. Lots of things are, but that one is really getting to me. Anxiety worse as I age too. I've been trying tapping, w/ limited success. Eating is a job. I lost 35 pounds this last round and went down to 105. Managed to gain back around 6 pounds and thought I was coming out of it after a year, but dipped right back down. Now I'm starting to lose a bit again, because my appetite totally tanked. It's so hard to think of what to eat, or make and to make it. So I'm pooping out again. Working on tips and tools.

@helenmcinerney1058 7 ай бұрын

I live alone and cooking can be a challenge, but I do love to cook so I think if it as self love 💓 I spent many years feeding and nurturing others, and now I deserve it 😊 you do too ❤

@saintejeannedarc9460 7 ай бұрын

@@helenmcinerney1058 I wish it was that easy. The depression is too deep. I can barely think of what to eat when I shop, let alone cook it. All my creativity and enjoyment w/ cooking is gone, so I heat things up.

@helenmcinerney1058 7 ай бұрын

@@saintejeannedarc9460 I'm so sorry it's that bad, Tim Fletcher on YT is a great resource too

@avamiller2325 4 ай бұрын

The exact same way for me 🙁

@elijahgavin6706 2 ай бұрын

@@saintejeannedarc9460does THC give you appetite

@GodiscomingBhappy 7 ай бұрын

i had anemia....also woke up every couple of hours, brain fog, lack of appetite, nausea and even puking in one occasion. You cant just "snap out of it" . I use spiruline as a food supplement it has changed my energy levels

@nellyweini8188 24 күн бұрын

I can relate so much to most of this! My life is like a never ending soap opera. There is one drama after the next. I’m fortunate to have a wonderful partner, strong willpower and a great therapist

@basakynr Ай бұрын

I just came across this video. I’ve been struggling with this shit for 8 years. I suspect that I had problems long before that but I was too young to realise. I’ve used lots of medication, been to therapy, watched countless videos. Never seen anyone explain the physical symptoms this way. Thank you so much. I feel really validated right now.

@klanderkal 18 күн бұрын

Same here..... just the validations... i try telling others,.. but they don't believe it's that bad... It's worse than I can describe. .

@klanderkal 3 ай бұрын

Dr. Scott ... wow, you hit it exactly! Depression and Anxiety is beat explained as you've mentioned. It isn't in any way humorous or smiley topic. I stressed over trying to Stop an unwanted retirement. I had Anxiety and insomnia that was horrible. After i lost my job , I got debilitating Depression, and regret. 1-2hrs., or No Sleep for months. Im still suffering all day, unable to do anything anymore. Lost desire for activities. It's like my sanity has been jeopardized, my feelings aren't correct. [?]. Id so much like to stop suffering, and break free from these horrible mental disorders.

@ichsanharja 4 ай бұрын

The problem with keeping regular exercises is, my insomnia really gets in the way. Like, when I got only 2-3 hours of sleep, it's really hard to exercise without feeling dizzy and weak. I also have this anxious thought of having heart attack if I exercise with only 2 hours of sleep.

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

Same here..! ... im getting less sleep now. I keep going for many straight days without... my stress, anxiety are so bad . .. I had trauma., and devastating losses.

@Mattfortean 4 ай бұрын

Hits the nail on the head once more. I’ve literally visited hell several times in the last few months. A mental hell, but hell nonetheless.

@emx1409 2 ай бұрын

This is so validating...the shame of being depressed compounds the condition...so every time Dr Scott calls out actual 'symptoms' it supports my recovery...because IT IS NOT A PERSONALITY DEFFECT 😂 alleluia 🎉🙏🏻

@mollywhitman5219 6 ай бұрын

Finally this all makes sense! I lost 12lbs in two months with no explanation. My dr ran many tests..nothing. So tired I could hardly function. Hot one minute cold the next. So nauseous had to lay down. Didn’t vomit or have upset stomach. The smell of food made me sick. I was in a severe bipolar depressive episode. Physically didn’t want to or couldn’t do anything. This lasted for months. I never connected the dots. Possibly just wasn’t in the right state of mind to realize what could be causing it. My meds were changed about the time it started. Sick with anxiety. Panic attacks every day.

@Pera152 7 ай бұрын

This has been my life mostly and I have no hope to get better. I will rest when I die

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

I haven't slept in so long. This chronic insomnia is unbearable. Along with the Stress and anxiety.... that caused the anhedonic depression... I'm not doing so well also... When can I rest....

@AmeliaHuckleberry 9 ай бұрын

The appetite thing is real. My depressions are usually atypical depressions, and I compulsively overeat instead of losing my appetite. My last depression was different. It caused me to develop IBS and lose my appetite and I lost 70 pounds. I aged rapidly and still feel pretty bad. I am in the beginnings of another bout of depression and it is sadly the overeating kind and I have gained half of the weight back. I think I might have an eating disorder comorbidity along with the depression. I would love to see a video from you about atypical depression if you ever feel like doing it.

@alexandrapalacios222 6 ай бұрын

I am struggling with my hair falling out and I need help with my depression snd anxiety. I am scared to get out of bed. Please I am calling out for help.

@AverageJoe1006 6 ай бұрын

Depression gives me so much stomach pain and nausea I vomit allot even when I don’t eat allot. I can’t hold water down so I have dehydration allot.

@watcherworld5873 7 ай бұрын

I am fighting a depressive episode right now. Yes, everything I heard in this video is true. I am in the process of adding motion (exercise, running, etc.) back into my life. I know that this is the only thing that will get me out of this episode. But, it is so hard to get started. Also, I know that my immune system is currently compromised. I am terrified of going out because of pathogen. This makes adding motion back into my life so much more difficult. So many demands in my life right now, and I am pretty much out of commission right now. When I get slightly better I will need to address the cause of this episode. Basically, I was asked to charge a hill in my work, and after I charged the hill by working continuously for 3 weeks, I get the sense that all that efforts is going to waste. I am very angry that people are taking such a cavalier attitude about my work and my health. This will NOT happen again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@user-dg5if1ls2p 8 күн бұрын

I have every one of these symptoms and more, have been getting help for 6 months and it’s a struggle and can get worse at times but I am still working on it, hopefully will be improve eventually. It is so stressful that people invalidate these symptoms. I’ve been going to the doctors for these for 13 years before I got answers, so frustrating

@lornalouw5548 5 ай бұрын

I'm always perturbed when I go through prolonged periods of physical unwellness AND depression... Which causes which. It's just really really tough when you're mentally unwell and physically at the same time. And you can't explain to people what's going on with yourself. It's horrible.

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

Exactly.!!! There are no words... its too unbelievable to be true or something. I know it Exactly...! Anxiety, insomnia, and anhedonic Depression.... is unexplainable... I just suffer,.. and nothing has helped.

@bjft12 3 ай бұрын

This is my life .

@davidhauton7643 2 ай бұрын

12years of disturbed sleep, awake 6 or 7 times a night. Its got to the point that i dont share a bed with my wife any more as i fear waking her. It feels as if im trying to function while half dead. Dont know any different. This now feels normal! Amazing i havent been fired yet....

@buzzn4happiness 8 ай бұрын

sounds like you are talking about me. I barely get any sleep, I traded alcohol for food, so then there that too. And yes, all my blood work or other testing comes back normal. The doctors "label" me as chronic pain and it's all in my head." I'm so exhausted & frustrated, I fight myself to stay alive. But I do have or experienced just about everything you have mentioned. I do have a therapist but it's the other doctors I struggle with. thank you for the reminders

@knightstar1312 7 ай бұрын

I am going thru the same. I'm familiar with the same things. However for me it gets to a point when the alcohol doesn't work and I have to eat in the middle of the night to satiate myself to relax and sleep, not good. I had enough when I got use to drinking 1 liter of wine every night and it was not working to relieve my anxiety because I developed a tolerance, and increasing the alcohol was the only way. I asked my doctor for a psychiatrist for my night anxiety. Gabapentin is helping me stay asleep more frequently and helped me reduce my alcohol use alot, not perfect, but better.

@jml238 6 ай бұрын

Everything you talked about is my everyday. Its so hard and such a struggle. And todays economy makes it worse. Never going to the ER again either! Only to be told with a smile that " great news, all your tests look great!" And sent home.

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

Same here.!!!! They gave me a anxiety pill... after waiting hours.! Im still suffering horribly from anxiety, insomnia and anhedonic depression... my trauma was so severe... the losses were personally devastating. I'm on another 4 days no sleep... and depression is so unbearable

@valariebreann6346 Ай бұрын

I’ve gone through all of this . I was so malnourished that I lost hair and teeth . I feel myself getting there again. I’ve been to several therapist and still have not found the help I need to get change and movement . I haven’t slept in almost 30 years . Broken sleep and sometimes no sleep . My body’s so heavy sometimes it feels filled with cement . I know this is killing me and I’ve done all I can and know to do and have reached out to professionals for years and no one can help me .

@klanderkal 18 күн бұрын

Wow,... I feel the same. Nothing or no one can help. " at this point, Noone can help you but yourself "... is what I'm told.... I don't know how.

@klanderkal 18 күн бұрын

@62,.. lost my dream career job of 25yrs. The Stress was SO bad I got chronic anxiety, chronic insomnia .. and severe depression. I hate life now. Im unable to do anything or go anywhere. Im like mentally paralyzed. 7 months!! I suffer from everything you've mentioned. The insomnia!! 1-2 hrs if lucky. I go 2-4 day's straight a week.! I was so happy, healthy and very involved with my sports, activities, hobbies etc.... Now,.. im stuck in a room., unable to do anything,.. and in poor mental and physical health. ... sucks!⛓️😖⛓️

@terryfelkins912 7 ай бұрын

I have lived with depression most of my life. Anxiety has also been a factor. Always tired. Omg I was hospitalized for heart failure. I spent a whole night falling asleep then gasping for air! Wake up sleep wake up horrible ! I also retained water. Probly worse.

@w.urlitzer1869 Ай бұрын

joint pains and sleeplessness.

@JBertagna 6 ай бұрын

Thank you! From someone that has lived this since high school in mid 1980's, everything you mentioned has been a part of my life at some point, even a trip to the ER because I felt my lungs were just pumping air but not doing anything with it. Turned out to be just severe anxiety. It's a daily battle for happiness and health for anyone dealing with this. For me, starting a daily routine work out program, has helped start a path to a somewhat normal life. Nice to hear you confirm what was always in the back my mind why I feel the way I do. Just hearing this I'm sure will resonate with others the way it did with me, just try it, nothing to lose at this point but the daily anxiety.

@wingnut71 6 ай бұрын

Same here man. Started Feb 1986. Hard to believe it's been 37 years.

@veronicaladd5821 Ай бұрын

I have had all these problems, it's good you have told us this. When I have a physical problem its better than better mental

@affnas3298 10 ай бұрын

It's all started back in2021 after divorce and my best friend was murdered... its really hard hit in my life... now suffering from 100 of physical symptoms and unknown sensations... EKG CBC all normal.. but still this shit on my mind

@catherinewambui5322 10 ай бұрын

same here its so painful

@Northern-Sounds 7 ай бұрын

My sympathy is with you. Best wishes.

@chrisnewton2325 9 ай бұрын

Ive had chronic symptoms for 3 years its been so bad. The last 2 years ive had blurry vision and eye floaters they say is from anxiety and its been constant for the whole 2 hears 😞

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

Same here.!!! My Anxiety and stress was next level for too long. My eyesight went blurry!!! It's so horrifying !! I just lost my Career job,... and everything worsened. I've gotten anhedonic depression now... Won't be long.... its too unbearable

@kendralangdon7316 10 ай бұрын

Yeah, ok. So now that you’ve told us how messed up things are…what do we do? Meds? Can’t afford a therapist?…..then what?

@sarahquinn6989 7 ай бұрын

Thank you Scott, really thank you. I needed this video in this exact moment to reassure me that what I'm experiencing right now is real, and I can manage it and improve. Thank you. I am tired of the palatable version of depression/anxiety, 'vanilla lite.' It makes me feel invisible.

@RR35592 5 ай бұрын

I see people laughing and enjoying those around them. What did they do that I didn’t!

@ats-3693 7 ай бұрын

The loss of appetite when constantly anxious can be such an issue, a few months ago I went through an episode of severe anxiety and anxiety/panic attacks caused by serious hypertension that I didnt know that I had. I lost 20kg (44lbs) in less than a month. I kind of needed to lose those lbs anyway so I'm not totally unhappy about it but it definitely wasn't a healthy way to lose weight. When feeling highly anxious I just can not eat I don't even want to see food, I can go 2 or 3 days without eating a thing and still not feel hungry in the slightest. But when you're malnourished your body's various systems aren't getting the fuel and nutrients they need to function correctly, your whole body becomes stressed and weakened and it's going to add to your anxiety, you have to force yourself to consume something healthy and balanced regularly, I find those on the go liquid breakfast drinks are easy to drink, and i make my own healthy smoothies I blend oat milk, a banana, some natural unsweetened yogurt, dried goji berries, chia seeds, flax seed meal, and a handful of mixed nuts, even if I have no appetite I can manage to sip away on one of these and after I've finished it just knowing that I just consumed something highly nutritious for my body actually makes me feel better about myself and lessens my anxiety a lot.

@avamiller2325 4 ай бұрын

I do the same with the smoothies everyday!

@KH-nn4tr 9 ай бұрын

Sometimes it’s a chronic injury, not illness as with childhood complex-PTSD. A deep wound which causes symptoms isn’t because anything is wrong with me but with my caregiver and environment growing up.

@RoquetSynce 7 ай бұрын

Your vids should be mandatory viewing for everyone. It would increase the level of understanding, tolerance, and sympathy that is need by those dealing with a mental health issue. Alcoholics deal with all the symptoms mentioned in this vid as well, speaking from experience.

@LilDarlinHunny 7 ай бұрын

Came across this video at a perfect time. Explanation is great and what I needed to hear as well to help my family better understand me. No doctor has explained this like this way you have so I understand it better. This every thing in the video I go through and it has cost a marriage and he made my depression worse by saying she’s too sick to be with to his lawyer and that was in the papers to mine, it was so embarrassing. Yet I don’t think he or anyone else around me understood this. My lawyer did counteroffer him the marriage counseling and he refused. I had become disabled and was not making my really good income and on top of the disability, many surgeries and then this grueling depression anxiety you talk about during the marriage really took me deep depressed. It hurt so bad I was rejected and thrown away because I am disabled and severely depressed. Yes I’ve been on meds for it. It took another two years after divorce to get motivated to get out of bed, then months more and a new med to get the confidence to go outside. I was having grocery delivered kind of depression anxiety. It feels like the flu so bad still yet I swear I have fibromyalgia. Everyone seems so afraid to address a depressed person.

@_cr8ive_ 4 ай бұрын

After hearing this Im surprised Im still alive. 🥴🥴🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️

@sandrafisherhayes3219 5 ай бұрын

Scott you have basically described most of my 'life' for the last 30 or so years! Specifically the last 4. Everything you said rings through for me sadly ☹ I now take an OTC sleeping pill some nights because if I don't sleep evades me completely 🙃 it is a vicious circle because we are anxious if we don't sleep and then when we do sleep we are worried we will sleep in so wake up 3 maybe 4 times in the night...you get my drift? My circadian rhythm is through the roof! So yes, thank you for posting this video...you have helped me more than you know.

@teeeteee000 6 ай бұрын

💯 😢 He explains it so perfectly!

@DrScottEilers 6 ай бұрын

Glad you think so!

@joshuahoops9430 4 ай бұрын

Never dealt with depression of any kind in my life I’ve always thought it was BS till recently I thought I was dying from liver failure and felt physical pain and symptoms that I created In my mind my brother almost died from liver failure a few months prior! I’m not sure if that had something to do with it I literally was 100% convinced without any doubt and was suffering for a month til I went to the ER and was told I was completely healthy and fine! This was more shocking to me than them telling me I was dying it’s still hard to accept

@KMONEY1986 3 ай бұрын

Those who don't go through this will never and can never understand nor do they want to or try to understand. All we are is labeled negative things. The whole nausea and walking into to crap, trip, lose balance etc. This dr is like speaking my life all the time. This is eye opening, confirmation and validating im not crazy and making this up about what im feeling and going through. Thanks for this video ❤

@carolinebielby5924 Ай бұрын

Oh my gosh I have had many episodes of anxiety and depression been diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder I can not begin to tell you I had to pay a physciatrist I was on my knees literally when I got into see him had to change my meds I eventually got right but all I can say is it felt worse than any physical pain 😢I literally was in desperate panic to get well .

@klanderkal 18 күн бұрын

I'm desperate too. I'm in bad shape after 7 months. ... but, im terrified, too afraid of the medications!!

@gloriaroberts7783 7 ай бұрын

my depression and anxiety has gone thru the roof since diagnosed with dementia at 57. brother died of horrible lewybody in june

@narelleschulze3959 7 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@ritamorrisguynup44 6 ай бұрын

This is nov 2023..the last time i had a full night of sleep was mar 2016. My husband had a stoke and for 14 months i took care of him. He is with the LORD. My life is full of depression and stress. My whole body is suffering like you said. Don't know how to get out of this except death.

@wingnut71 6 ай бұрын

What meds are you on?

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

Same here..... very similar. I don't sleep anymore. The anxiety of loss.!! The insomnia is horrible. And... the anhedonic depression.. .I too don't know how to go on

@MrMaddy24 6 ай бұрын

Man I love you. I have been struggling with bpd and depression for over 15 years now and you describe some of my feelings perfectly. Feeling like Im living on burrowed time, feeling like Im aging faster, like my fire is consuming more every day the the fires of others. My skin heals slower and Im in a constant state of exhaustion. Some little things can be enough and the house of cards falls into itself. I really appreciate your channel and your words, best wishes form somewhere on this planet :)

@varshamodi1420 5 ай бұрын

Everything you are saying is exactly me. Everything single thing.

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

Same here..!!! ... i don't know what to do... I don't want to even do anything...

@kim123282 6 ай бұрын

Been hospitalized for depression and anxiety. Ocd severe. Worked on myself, but i forget and need to get back to work. Where does on dig up motivation

@Notperfectbunny 8 күн бұрын

Best explanation that ive heard so far in depression! I never wanna wish this on my enemy! Thats how bad it can be! Till to this day im amazed that i got out of it!

@aliciastewartmcp5082 7 ай бұрын

interrupted sleep after taking trazadone is horrible

@susancunningham4252 7 ай бұрын

Trazadone is giving me horrific nightmares.

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

I have killer insomnia too... I was told to take that ! Glad I didn't. I don't sleep anymore,.. but don't like medications or side effects I have bad anxiety and anhedonic depression. The trauma and loss we're to much for me,... and my system It's almost over for me

@MK-fr6lu 4 ай бұрын

Elevated cortisol levels, due to chronic stress create extrapyramidal symptoms (arms and legs shaking). Been trough this - not fun. You think you're going crazy.

@mariagoodey1153 3 ай бұрын

So true, You can't do that with this very real painful thing. 💔

@miriamwilson9542 2 ай бұрын

I cry at your honest attempts to help us. You are so good.

@derosa195 7 ай бұрын

Ahedonia. . Your body chemistry. .gets royally stuck in the negative existance that you stop feeling anything . So you have to emphasize yoyr feelings about things situations identify them . Feel themm to restore your ability to feel. ... you have to not go along with it

@vancitysongwriter 7 ай бұрын

Did this work for you?

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

Did this really help you.? .... im suffering the same anhedonic depression. Along with anxiety, and chronic insomnia. I don't think I can handle anymore.

@kensurdity3840 5 ай бұрын

Ive dealt with depression, insomnia, hyper vigilance, self harm, disassociation, numbness, apathy amd honestly being alive is a death sentence in a world full of Stockholm syndrome sheep

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

...... insomnia is horrible , My anxiety is chronic. Anhedonic depression is unbearable.... the blame, guilt, regret., anger, apathy, self loafing.... ! I've called 988.. few times. I don't know how I can last.... You're situation is so horrible also.... I hope somehow you ( I too ,).. can someone get better.... in any way we can 🙏

@tinasavage674 6 ай бұрын

My anxiety started to kick in back in 2019 caring for my parents took its toll on me I lost a lot of weight over a short space of time . My mum died in 2020 and dad in 2021 , my anxiety has been of the scale . Over the last two years chronic depression and grief . I've now been diagnosed with COPD ex smoker , I feel so deflated like I just can't win and scared for the future 😞

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

Sorry to hear of you're tragedy. I'm too... afraid of any future also. I don't see one anymore. I'm so stuck in the past. I'm suffering from the coulda shouda wouldas..! I lost so much. The anxiety is so terrible. The insomnia , I don't sleep anymore..! And ... I've gotten anhedonic depression... It's too much for me....

@tammylindsay7631 7 ай бұрын

I understand now why people with mental health issues have a shorter life span. This helps explain

@mariegracebrabandt8028 Жыл бұрын

You explained my whole life in 20 minutes. Everything got so much worse the last 12 -24 months, just like you said. I'm 60 and just now learning about all this, working on it, and a new therapist. My body has gone through the ringer. 25 years dx. With MS and told 5 months ago, I don't have it. It's all C-ptsd anxiety and depression. My hope is to get more regulated so my body everything can heal. Sleep, exercise, food, malnourished, all the symptoms you talk about are frustrating annoying and unsettling. The goal is working my way out of this with a good therapist and health coach for mind and nutrition. What you're saying here is never what is shown or talked about in social media or the health/medical world. Thank you for shedding light on this. 🧡🫂🎤

@DrScottEilers Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad my content is helping you! It has to be so frustrating seeing your struggles misrepresented and downplayed over and over again ❤️

@mariegracebrabandt8028 Жыл бұрын

@Dr. Scott Eilers, PsyD, LP it is frustrating, and then we have you shedding light. 🫶💛✨️

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

@@mariegracebrabandt8028im 62... suffering the same. Insomnia has gotten worse... I don't sleep anymore.. The anxiety and stress,.. just lost my Career job after 20yrs... I have nothing left. I got anhedonic depression.... it's too unbearable.

@tammylindsay7631 7 ай бұрын

My whole body system isn't functioning properly due to sleep disturbance. I hadn't felt like the same person in awhile.

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

Same.. it worsens all my other unfortunate illnesses

@nesmamagdy4197 5 ай бұрын

Breathing is really hard...

@vanessaprincesssa 6 ай бұрын

I never would have known all of these if not for this video. Thank you!

@markprecious Ай бұрын

Thank you for listing all the ways this manifests, as opposed to, you know, “You’re a Loser.” Self-empathy then extends to these low-empathy accusers. Why do others’ complaints affect them so personally? It’s like all the air is getting sucked out of the room and they feel bad because they’re keeping their breathing masks to themselves, so they lash out and say you’d be okay if you shut up and used less oxygen.

@sorordymphna93 5 ай бұрын

im severely malnourished, dissociated, and suffering from excessive paradoxical physical and somatic symptoms. my will to live has been taken by constant panic, chronic insomnia, and severe anhedonic depression. i’m tired of trying to kill myself, how do i reverse all of this with no energy or baseline cognitive skills to be consistent?

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear this.. I'm suffering as well.!!! I've called 988 many times. I cannot sleep anymore... I'm on another 4 days straight. Now, after loosing my career job. , I have horrible anxiety and depression. The anhedonia kind. I have no desires. no pleasure.. I don't do anything.. my mental and physical health are declining... yet, im helpless, like a prisoner.

@pickledherring8759 4 ай бұрын

I definitely relate to the sleep issues, anxiety/worrying, exhaustion, and some digestive issues, though I don't eat poorly . Just today, it was all I could do to complete a small project I started yesterday. I had to break it up throughout the day, or I would have given up. I'm really hoping to see somebody in the very near future, if I can, and don't chicken out. Thanks for all your videos (and the book). I haven't read it yet, but it's next on my reading list.😊

@carinascherer1706 7 ай бұрын

thank you for this!

@Catsmeow90 2 ай бұрын

This is absolutely me . I dont know what to do.

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

Same here.... !! I don't know what to do... My recent trauma, and loss has destroyed me. The Stress, Anxiety, insomnia, and depression... I just suffer. I cannot sleep at all... its terrifying.

@Catsmeow90 17 күн бұрын

@@klanderkal I am really sorry you are going through this pain! I keep saying to myself over and over..., Hold On For One More Day! I know it's very hard,keep pushing through if you can. I'm chearing you on!

@klanderkal 17 күн бұрын

@bluebird4903 Thank you, bluebird 💙.... im struggling and trying I can't find hope. It's aa if life ended for me. Thanks for cheering for me. It was another sleepless night. The sunlight is showing... I have to live another day. Life was so great, very enjoyable and exciting. Loved my daily schedule from morning till after work at midnight,.. and couldn't wait for the next day. It's so dreadful now... T.Y. for caring about me. I really don't know how to endure this.

@klanderkal 9 сағат бұрын

How are you? I wanted to check up on you 🫶, hoping you are feeling better?... I was hoping I would be,.. but these symptoms haven't gone away. You said: day by day... you were right. But, how many more?.... I don't think I will go on... it's just too horrible. Depression and Anxiety... are so unbearable.

@Catsmeow90 9 сағат бұрын

@@klanderkal Thankyou for your kind concern! 🌺 Sadly I am also still going day by day. Waking up in the morning is still VERY HARD! I feel days when I can hardly put one foot In front of the other but somehow I do. I am so sorry that you are also still struggling! It's so hard when from the outside everything seems normal, people can't see the turmoil going on in your head and body. I call it the invisible hell! Like you I want to be without this because I fear where my thoughts will take me. But!!! we have to keep doing a day at a time. I hope you can stay strong! X

@globalpuss 27 күн бұрын

So relateable

@derosa195 7 ай бұрын

You mind likes the familiar. .you see where this is going. .but you have a chooser. .you ultimately are settling..deciding what you except

@suzanne5651 6 ай бұрын

Wow - this is so absolutely accurate. I needed to hear this. Thank you

@kandymich4861 7 ай бұрын

This explains a lot

@yootoob1001001 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for bringing the fact tbat there are varying degrees of depression and anxiety front and center. It needs to be talked about. So many variables tbat can go into the whole thing as well, because our decks are all stacked completely differently and what might be a little rough patch or isolated for one person might be devastating to another. I agree with you that a lot of the self help and even therapy programs are very targeted toward milder or shorter term types of issues, so thank you for what you do for "the rest of us" who want and need whatever additional resources we can find to help ourselves work on and through things.