Hi everyone, thanks for watching! What's something you've reluctantly given up on after realizing it just doesn't work for you personally?

You’re still very young, your taste will keep changing over time. I’m 61 and most women my age would agree with me. The only thing that hasn’t changed for me is my love of quality, natural fiber fabrics and good construction.

Finally someone who says what I have been thinking! T-shirts are always recommended as basics, but for someone like myself who has a big bust you end up looking sloppy and fat. I also totally agree about polyester, but it is very hard to find silky items that are not polyester. I buy it in skirts but never as tops or dresses. It is so uncomfortable.

Giving up prints has been one of the best decisions I've ever made! I grow tired of prints very quickly when they are in my everyday wardrobe. I do still enjoy prints in my outerwear and handbags, but I try to stick to classics like houndstooth, windowpane plaid, basic stripes etc.

Skirts. As much as i have tried, i just never reach for them. I struggle styling them and i feel really uncomfortable wearing them. I have stopped listening to people who tell me skirts are soooo feminine. I do not care.

I am so glad I am not the only one having this opinion about t-shirts

I am 100% with you on not wearing intricate flowy tops. Especially ones with lace detail. I see them on Sezane a lot and they're pretty to look at but overtime I've realized that just because something looks good on the hanger doesn't mean it'll look good on me. I always feel like I'm dressing up like some Victorian child and feel juvenile when I wear them. I look much better in structured minimal tops.

What I really love about this video is you clearly understand your body and accept it. You’re not hung up on the things you can’t wear, or how you look in them, you simply accept that it’s not for you and focus on what you feel confident in.

Love that your one pair of heels isn't black or "nude" - since as you say, you're only likely to wear them for special occasions.

I related to all of this so much! I’m glad the more minimalist area of fashion youtube is expanding beyond the “white t shirt, white button down shirt, black blazer, white adidas sneaker….” bible of dressing. I found a woman from Australia (augh can’t remember the name of her channel now …) who realized she didn’t like the all black and grey and navy thing and ditched them for an entirely different pallet, softer textures, etc. It’s not my own style but I watch her because I love her confidence and her creativity and her whole approach to clothing. I love sneakers and would live in them exclusively if I could figure out how to (well, and a good chunky boot) but I just loved that you decided, “Nah, not for me, thanks.”! Letting go of things that just won’t ever work for you is such a radical and hard process to go through for whatever reason. It took me ages to give up on anything romantic or overtly feminine. It just does not work on me and I always feel ridiculous. Colour just stresses me out. I have been slowly weeding out my clothing and narrowing down what I really like and I realized what works for me is a lot of men’s tailoring so I started buying a lot of my clothes in the men’s department. I used to hate t shirts, too, until I started buying men’s. They’re longer and more rectangular (women’s are always little squares and the shoulder seams never sit right on me and they do weird things to the hems and the necklines are even crazier. Men’s are just long rectangles and honestly, they are way better quality. Most men’s clothing is way better quality. And the pockets!! They give men actual useful pockets!!). Letting go of heels really was ridiculously hard. It feels like it’s a set in stone requirement for women. I hate them. There is no such thing as a comfortable high heel. The only ones I can tolerate are kitten heels. I realized a good mule or a kitten heel work just as well and look elegant so I just donated my last pair of high heels this week. I will never buy a pair again. I’ve wasted so much money and mental bandwidth trying to find a heel that works. Anyhow …. I really like that you’re adamant that you’re not taking anyone else’s opinion on board. You know what you like and what makes you feel good and you’re sticking to it. Awesome.❤

About the hot pink heels, if it clashes with everything, it goes with everything as my mother always says 💕

blazers, they are something I think belong to my fantasy self but I always felt too much serious in it so when I m looking for elegance I simply wear dress and coat. I love your videos Naja❤️

It’s so interesting seeing what other people are saying-everyone’s style is so different, it’s cool. Personally, I couldn’t live without tshirts, jeans, and sneakers. I’ve realized that comfort is really what makes me feel at home in clothing, and honestly I think I look my best when I’m in comfy, cozy basics. I had to give up heels and ballet flats…I think they’re so cute but my feet don’t like them! 😩

I didn't realize how much I needed to see this video!! I'm truly not a fan of black and white on me. I keep having it in my wardrobe thinking I need the perfect "black dress", or "white crisp t-shirt" but I don't ..lol I love neutrals (creams, navy and grey) and soft colors pallets. The only prints that I go for are vintage florals and stripes. That's what I'm trying to stick to now.

I think it's important we stop buying clothes that we think we're supposed to have (like the basics we're all supposed to have). I finally got rid of the last white items in my closet. I've always felt I needed to face a white t-shirt and butten down shirt although I knew I look like a ghost in white. I also won't but any more button down shirts or other to stiff and structured clothes although shirts and blazers in more soft materials are fine. 🙂

I no longer wear dropped shoulder sweaters, warm tones, cropped clothing, high heels-I do wear kitten heels, and revealing clothes. T shirts are a must for at home wear in the summer and athletic shoes too, for walking and at home jobs. My color pallet is: black, navy, gray and white. The accent colors are burgundy and shades of blue. I would love to add green but it’s very hard to find cool toned greens.

I agree about keeping wardrobe colors limited. Even though my pro color analysis suggested certain colors for me, I have recently been eliminating some, like purples. Too many colors just add to wardrobe confusion, making it harder to put outfits together.

Knee length skirts. Good length for office situations, but other than that very blah. I prefer either the fun of a mini or the freedom of a calf length skirt. Big agree on polyester. I’ve been phasing almost all of it out with every declutter. For the price of new polyester, you can find secondhand silk, merino and cashmere. The trick with polyester is that it can look great in store when it’s sewn into a great design, but once worn it will be an awkward static mess and you’ll never choose to wear it over something nicer.

I felt exactly the same about t-shirts and intricate tops! I broke up with t-shirts over the summer, which is shocking in Texas. People think I'm crazy for wearing oxford shirts, but they're cooler as long as they are natural fibers and looser fitting. And I only just had to succumb to the fact that the intricate shirts make me feel uncomfortable. Two are currently sitting decluttered in my sell/donate pile now and those types of shirts aren't usually cheap. Lesson reluctantly learned.

I’ve always been attracted to boho tops but never felt good in them and I realized it’s probably because I was raised in the 60s/70s in a very hippie/boho place so the style calls to my emotions but my own style is far more geometric and structured, so now I enjoy boho styling that only from afar. Also, I’m mad about so many colors but only feel happy and at home in black, white and blue, so I enjoy color in non-wardrobe ways, i.e. art & décor. ITA re-limiting choice actually being freeing! 😊

I just found you through this video. There are a lot of things you listed here that I have also cut from my closet as well. Polyester is the worst. I live in a hot and humid climate, and polyester makes me feel like I'm wearing a sauna, which makes sense because it is plastic.

I feel the t-shirt aspect so so much! I always end up buying them for work or spring/summer time, but it truly is more of a 'lazy item' to me that doesn't do much for the appearance, it may be effortless but that is also exactly how it looks like when you put a t-shirt on and NOT in a good way, haha.

I've found my style. Simple, fitted silhouettes in solid colours and comfortable fabrics. Go to outfit day and night: turtleneck and jeans with minimal accessories. 😀

Reluctantly: most colors. I want to be someone who wears colors, but when I do I don’t feel like myself. Also gave up on most prints and stuff with frills and feminine details. I’m much more androgynous in style than my classic hourglass shape “should” dress like according to all the internet advice

Great video! I relate so much to everything you’ve mentioned! Particularly the ultra feminine and romantic tops. I absolutely love how they look on other people but after figuring out my personal style I found out that I don’t like how I feel when I am wearing them. I am short and young-ish looking, so I feel that I give a “fragile princess” vibe when I wear them. Nothing wrong with that “vibe” but that does not feel authentic on me. Finding my personal style is helping me save so much money, and more importantly to feel good and authentic.

Tshirts! Yes! I never feel good in a tshirt

Earlier this year I decided that I only want beautiful summer tops in my wardrobe but then I was in my home town for 6 weeks and only had a small capsule wardrobe with me. 5 beautiful summer tops and one T-shirt for sleeping - guess what? I only really gravitated for my T-Shirt because I did not feel comfortable and confident in my summer tops. Having that capsule wardrobe for 6 weeks really helped me finding my style. I‘m so happy with it! Thank you for this great video :)

Same on t-shirts!!!! Omggg I thought it was only me!!!

Thank you so much for sharing! I remember having so many dilemmas on my personal style, until I realized I don't need to follow an already defined category such as the "cool girl" look to look uniquely myself. I really like that you take aspects from different styles and keep what you like and what works for you, which is what I'm trying to work on, and since finding your channel about a year ago I've made so many improvements! As a college student I've definitely made a lot of mistakes following clothing trends and trying to fit in, but I never felt excited about any of the trendy pieces on me (platform converse for example, so glad I didn't follow through with buying them!). I definitely also enjoy quality and timeless pieces more so I'm trying my best, (or as much as my budget can allow haha) but I'm buying less in general and giving more thought to my purchases thanks to you! Also I love the minor hot pink accents as well in a cool toned wardrobe :)

I am currently going through the process of selection of my favorite pieces and silhouettes. The further it gets, the more items I am able to rule out. Love your insightful videos! 🙂

Omg yes! I feel the exact same way about t shirts. I always have such a hard time finding the right fit and even if it does fit well, I‘ll always find an excuse not to reach for it in my wardrobe.

I’ve recently have fell in love with anything linen or good quality knit. I feel you on the tshirts thing I only do white tees but occasionally 😂 and it’s usually layered under a blazer or sweater

I know what you mean about regular (short-sleeve) t-shirts. I really need sleeveless tops in warm weather and long-sleeved t-shirts or other tops in winter. Regular t-shirts are the least worn items in my wardrobe, I was already planning to thin them out today.

I never thought I’d meet someone with whom I resonate so well about t-shirts! As well as A-line silhouettes - my body type is similar and it does dictate so much of style at the end of the day because it’s all about enhancing your presentation - thanks for a great video!

T-shirts for me are something I don't mind lounging around in or using as sleepwear, but for my everyday wear, I don't like wearing them unless I just can't be bothered to put together an actual outfit. I find that with this summer in particular, I've been finding myself wearing my branded work t-shirts more often because of the crazy heat... I'm ready for fall to get here!

I totally agree with ALL of these. Thanks for articulating this. You’ve inspired me to create a color scheme. Happy Holidays!

super-useful video, especially the cool girl idea. I used to sometimes dress like that but didn't feel myself .. something was off

Shopping within a restricted colour palette does make clothes shopping much easier - and eliminates the pieces that don't work anything you already have . Crew neck tee shirts look particularly horrid on me . When I see a woman wearing one and looking so unflattened by it I can hardly keep from telling her there are better choices out there .

Great list. Im with you 100% on the polyester thing!

Great video! It's such a journey curating a wardrobe, I have been working on it for a year now and feel I'm only quarter of the way there.

I loved this video. I made a list of my no-no purchases to remind myself of the reasons certain items don't work. When I break my rules, the items always end up going back, or I regret it after one wear. We share several. Others - drop shoulders, viscose (wrinkles so easily), faux leather, cocoon coats, square necklines, short sleeves with elastic. It is nice to have a clear idea of what defines your style so you can easily narrow down the choices. BUT, that has also left me paying high dollar for things that are exactly my style. I need to quit browsing!

For me I learned that it's not T-shirts I dislike, but crew cut necklines in general. Since I'm very busty but also have a very short and thick neck, anything too high up makes me look super bulky in a way I'm not comfortable with. Graphic tees can be an exception, but I also don't really like wearing them anywhere except inside the house. I've also learned not to buy pencil-shape miniskirts for the same reason- I don't like how it lays on my hip dips. I've learned to give up on animal print- they feel very "inauthentic" on me, even though animal print can look so chic and timeless on others.

Just stopped the video quickly to say I’m 100% with you on T-shirts !! Definitely not a wardrobe basic for me either. I only wear them for thermal layering . Subscribed today, love your content xx

Yes! I had this same revelation about t shirts last summer. I just feel so much more natural and comfortable in tank tops - and I will add a jacket or sweater if needed. Idk if it’s bc I’m pear shaped or what it is, but I just can’t make a “white basic tee” work! A white basic sleeveless tank top though… yes 🙏

Lærer så meget af dine videoer og bliver klogere på min egen stil og hvad jeg føler mig tilpas i- tak for det! 🤗🤩

This was everything I needed in my life! 👏🏻

Very helpful video! I had some problems with tee shirts as well and I had to think about what I did not like about some them: the colour white and the most common fabric used(regular cotton) which make them look too much like men underwear and also the length of the sleeves, I now choose mostly black Tee shirts with elbow length sleeves and more interesting textures like ribbed or nicer fabrics and also different necklines....

Hi Naja. This video was wonderful. So helpful to model what works and what doesn't, and the thought process and experience behind these decisions. I really learned a lot, and plan on taking some time to examine what works, and what does not work, for me. Thank you!

I also decided to not buy any skirts that aren't flowy or a-line BUT I recently ordered some skirts at an designer second hand shop and fell in love with a skirt that I never thought I would like^^ I have wide hips and a small waist, my upper body is in general very delicate but I sometimes have a problem with my belly. I loved my skater skirt for years now and therefore I thought "okay only skater skirts for me" but I felt a bit like a little girl in the past months in it (maybe also because its very short) In my order there was this purple tight skirt, a little bit like a pencil skirt but shorter, and I fell in love. Even though it's tight, it's not unflattering for my belly and it shows my hips, what I really like. I even combined it with bigger sweaters, what I thought I would NEVER wear, but I feel so good in it. Even though it's maybe not the best choice for my body type. I don't ban the a-line skirts now but I will overthink them in the future. It's important to have rules, I still have some left and always do more but it's so much fun to figure out how to break them and do something new. In my experience it's good to not focus so much of ones wardrobe and want to make it perfect. I mostly wear very old clothes that I bought when I was like 15. I just style them differently. Yeah my story about my new skirt. Do you know the Kibbe system and have you thought learning about it? Greetings from Germany :)

The lockdown has driven so many of us away from polyester. I love this!

Great video! I'm not a fan of polyester either (esp. not in tops), but I find it works quite well for dressy trousers or when used in a blend (which sometimes makes clothing pieces easier to care for). And I really like intricate tops/blouses too, but stick to those that have only a little bit of lace or trim.

Hi Naja, another interesting and insightful video thank you!

I agree with the polyester part! It sucks because a lot of clothes nowadays are made using it, or with some polyester blend. But I've recently been avoiding it completely and am happy with my choices 😊 still trying to figure out what looks best on me, but it's definitely a start ^^

Love this. So agree.

I agree with pastel colors! They simply don’t work with my skin tone. I never liked wearing t-shirts except for band tees…and I only wear them with blazers 😆

Excellent video. I agree with pretty much everything you said including the sneaker trend (drives me nuts). They just don't look good on me. I will add one more thing...I don't wear jeans. Can't stand them and find them uncomfortable.

Cool. This is exactly the same as my list!

I feel the same about jumpers, I hate them, but feel the cold and don't know what else to wear to keep warm

I feel like we are the same person because I’m given up pretty much everything that you have 😂 I’ve switched my high heels to mid heel (2-3 inches/5-7.5 cm) boots. I live in Canada and it’s cold enough for boots like 7-8 months of the year, so why would I need multiple pairs of strappy high heels haha

About halfway through college, I stopped buying skirts. I hate them and am so glad I got ride of all of them! Same for dresses unless it’s the summer then I have like 2 sundresses.

Very thoughtful content. I love it. Thanks.

I agree with almost every single thing in this video 💜

I have been on a similar style journey. I have stopped wearing t-shirts, jeans, polyester, and cool toned colors (for the most part. I have two blue dresses that contrast my skin nicely and actually look good) I also don't like most prints anymore, except for vintage florals, gingham, and plaid. I also don't wear black or stark white. I enjoy wearing linen cropped tanks, vintage button down a line midi skirts, and dresses. I don't like blazers and will always opt for a knit cardigan. I have realized that I feel most myself dressing very feminine. Anything too structured, masculine, or edgy feels uncomfortable on me. I wear linen, cotton, silk, and wool.

I feel the exact same when it comes to polyester, it just feels cheap and usually makes me sweat! It’s a no for me.

Fuchsia, that vivid purplish-pink. I finally had to admit that it just doesn't work with my complexion. I still get tempted, but I remind myself about the last time I bought a sweater that color; it stayed on the shelf because it just never looked good on me, no matter how much I wanted it to. My sister looks great in it, but not me.

I love your videos! Could you do a video that talks about your cool toned color palette for clothes and makeup? Your video on warming up a cool toned look was so helpful, but I’d love to know more about achieving a cool toned look in general.

Same here T-shirt are literally not made for me I feel so strange in. 🤣

Really informative video! I also am trying to curate my wardrobe but I am still figuring my style buuuut I do have an idea of what I want colour wise and that is brown (most shades), blue, black, white, light pink and wine red. One thing I noticed about older women is that they try to dress according to their age (my mom and grandma specifically). They refuse to buy nice things for themselves and urge me to get some because I'm "young" (24 y/o). I really hope I can persuade them of letting go of their fear and dress chic like other people. I know for a fact I will be a chic old woman as the years go by. I don't want them to feel like they don't deserve nice things, you know? It makes me sad to hear that.

Dresses are one thing I really really love, but they tend to be more fickle when it comes to the cut. I also opt for A-line only due to my hip dip… I have on only one side after childbirth lol. Moro jackets were my younger self style marker, but i’ve since grown out of that style also. They don’t suit me as much now but I just recently thrifted a leather trench which is totally me now. I do still wear T-shirts but I only opt for longer sleeves that cover the thickest part of my upper arm. They are slimming that way and somehow look slightly more elevated. I’ve had to give up knee-high boots because they conflict with the most flattering jeans for my body type, straight jeans. I have kept a couple pairs of cigarette style jeans to wear with boots in the colder months as I still enjoy that. I also wear my knee-high boots with dresses but currently, I’m starting to rule out whether they fit in my style anymore at all. Vintage is definitely more my style marker now and I really enjoy the fabrics and a few patterns. Modern patterns don’t seem to flatter me at all.

I've stopped buying filmsy shirts and short pants, and even polo. Though I love my 2011 Ralph Lauren U.S. Open Polo - Own it for over 10 years now, and it still fits amazing! I would usually wear smart casual outfit now - sweater and pants/shirts and overcoat and pants/jeans.

Thank you Naja, as for T-shirts, I bitterly realised that cotton t-shirts and polyester t-shirts, also have not worked for me. Mostly because since I only have less than 5 they usually go out of shape and becomes “old looking” very quickly and the polyester ones I can see the little plastic fibers coming out of the T-shirt… it’s super sad for me because I would love the feel of a cotton shirt but with the polyester shape and body hugging quality. I guess it’s just now for me too 😞

Im the opposite of you: t-shirts make up a huge part of my style but I look like an idiot in a blazer. I want so bad for a blazer to work and I don't know why it doesn't. My style is simple, effortless and laid back. Maybe it's too formal. It's funny how you can love how something looks but cannot tolerate it on yourself. I'm having one last ditch attempt at buying a leather blazer and then I'm throwing in the towel.

Instant Follow when you said no Polyester. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Very much enjoyed your video!

Literally everything you are done with is the same for me, with the exception of t shirts. I would add turtleneck/cowl neck tops for myself. Everyone looks so cozy in them and I want to like them, but they just end up looking and feeling like they are swallowing me/adding bulk in a spot where a fitted crew neck or mock neck is much more polished and flattering on me. It’s a shame for my wallet because it’s so easy to thrift good quality turtlenecks lol

I mostly closed the door on heels too - I now only have 1, a pair of nude heels in a style that goes with everything, from little black dresses in winter to sundresses in summer, and they've been acceptable to the brides whose weddings I've been in, so far at least!

Brilliant video 🤩

I definitely agree with the cool girl thing, and I knew exactly what you meant when you said it. It's nice to see, it's very girl boss, but it has never been for me unfortunately.

❤️❤️❤️ I hate T-shirts I always felt like a boy in them.

Apart from 3 items in my entire wardrobe I don’t have ‘black’ as a ‘colour’ in my wardrobe. When I started working towards a more simplified wardrobe and really analyzing what I really like to wear I realized I don’t like black. The only item I really do like is my black moto jacket. I have a pair of black jeans and a black cardigan sweater. I never wear the black jeans ( I still can’t quite get rid of them because I still think but what if I need black ‘bottoms’ for something) and I wear the sweater once or twice a season. Where I live almost everyone else wears so much black all the time for the majority of the year.

I do think the soft pink and baby blue colors on you, but yeah, there's no need to add more if you have a color scheme that already works for you.

I enjoyed this video, but my style completely different. I live in tshirt and jeans with a pair of heel bootie or Birkenstock (in the summer)

It's great to know what you find that are practical for you and the other things that are just wasted when they sit in your closet unworn. We also have lifestyle changes that dictate our wardrobe as well. If you never wear heels, do not spend money on them. One pair is enough. I think you are one of a very few that does not like tee shirts. There is another European lady I watch that does not wear them. Is it an American "thing" that has migrated all over the world? We are "tee queens".

Hi Naja! I loved this video and was wondering what brand the blouse at 7.50 is from

I’m on a slow journy to find my personal style and it feel like I’m getting there. I’m not doing a minimalist approach tho so I’m quite open to most things, but trying to take it slow. For me my no list is: Flowy skirts at any length. So beautiful but I don’t feel like myself. I prefer more structured or fitted skirts. Ruffles in general. Too feminine for me. Classic button ups, especially in white. I like flowy ones with a v-neck but with classic ones I either feel like a tent if it’s over sized or like a waiter. Dresses. This is hard one for me because they look so lovely, but I very rarely use them. The ones I have I only use at special occations and there is no need to buy any more

I only recently discovered that I have "Violin hips" (AKA hip dips I believe) and an unusually long rise. I always thought (everyone told me) that I had very long legs, and I am very long from the waist to the floor, but more from waist to crotch! 🤣 This was so revealing to me, and explains why so many pants , and mid rise jeans just don't feel right. I tend to think body proportions might be the place to start when figuring out "personal style", I had fixated on color theory (there are a few, and some bad advice out there), but the wrong fit in the right color is not gonna work. 😉💖

Polyester is the worst! I love the Sezane aesthetic but have to agree that those detailed, romantic tops are just too overwhelming. Usually makes me feel like a child playing dress up. I'd add florals and patterns to my 'not interested' list. I love them but they feel busy on me for the same reason.

I would love to see a video on where to purchase items ( especially sweaters ) that do not have polyester in it , at a relatively reasonable price point. Under $300

I gave up on feminine clothes. I was so brainwashed that to be professional I had to wear clothes like skirts and dresses. It feels so amazing to always wear pants now that I’m older and wiser.

II’d love a dramatic sleeve. I love a puffy sleeve. If you look at my wedding gown 30 years ago his most intricate puffy sleeve ever. However I cannot stand wearing on me. I love it on other people am I sometimes buy it but I never wear it. What I do like or simple shirt dresses however I’m still attracted to the puffy sleeve dress. I had to except that it looks good and other people. It does not feel good on me. It’s just doing too much.I also realized after your video that I also don’t like wearing pants. I Ihave forced myself to wear pants I realize this. Because I think it’s practical. But I don’t enjoy them come to think of it.think I’m going to try giving up pants. I do love wearing dresses. I love a one and done.

Interesting video ☺️

I tried to be a "shoe girl " in my teens but it just isnt for me. I still "use up" all the colourful and multiple shoes from my teen years but my Mainly used shoes are 1 pair of white Sneakers 1 pair of Black Sneakers 1 pair of birkenstocks for Summer 1 pair of Black boots 1 pair of Brown boots 1 pair of Creme heels That covers all of my life situatioms but unfortunatly as a teen I bought more and more shoes, some of which I dont even like or give me blisters. In the future I will only replace my basic shoes when they break

I'm the opposite. I love tshirts and would love to wear them all the time, but they can look too casual.

3:06 Naja ATE that dress, would love to know where it's from! I checked the website for all the items in the wardrobe but it wasn't there!

this was kind of eye opening☺

Very interesting

New subbie here. Love from the Philippines

I gave up short sleeve t shirts in my 20’s

You are fully motivating me for #nothingnew22 challenge

Polyester has slowly become my enemy lol