Fellow INFP tribesfolk. Brothers and Sisters. I come to you once again to say that darkness and light are one. Balance is the key that should be found within the self. Your dreams/imagination/self must be delved into and understood, not to escape yourself, but to escape |into| yourself so that you may further advance outward. Walk to the beat of your own drum. You are love, you are light and darkness, yin and yang, self and other. As said by my favorite philosopher Alan Watts: "You're not something that is a sort of puppet on the end of the process. You are still the process. You are the big bang, the original force of the universe, coming on as whoever you are. When I meet you, I see not just what you define yourself as--Mr so-and- so, Ms so-and-so, Mrs so-and-so--I see every one of you as the primordial energy of the universe coming on at me in this particular way. I know I'm that, too. But we've learned to define ourselves as separate from it." Fellow INFP brothers and sisters. You must stay determined. If you can't run, walk, if you can't walk, crawl, if you can't crawl, fly, and if you can't fly teleport. Take care of yourselves first and foremost. Many people that try to live through you will make it seem as though you're selfish for preserving yourself and your own needs; this is a fallacy created by the enemy that doesn't want you happy. Do not |for any reason forsake your consistency and inner child and wonders| for the mundane. |You were not born, created, nor evolved to be mundane.| You are what you perceive yourself to be, and what you perceive yourself to be, that is what you shall integrate within and without your self. Humanity is fickle, and perfection is subjective, that is why you cannot please everyone. There will always be something about you that someone else does not find favorable. Be you. Be alone and enjoy the solitude; that is entirely different from loneliness. I too am critiqued because I don't move as fast as everyone does. I'm in no rush and because I don't wanna do what others want me do and I'd rather do what I'm passionate about, I'm seen as lazy. Well so what, I'm gonna keep going forward doing my passions and continuing to be myself to let others know about the peace and serenity that comes with true self love and actualization of one's dreams. For my INFP brothers and Sisters I close with this: We are channels to reflect nature. We are in tune with it, we are |it|, we are the Big Bang. We are hard workers, gentle, |we are sophrosyne,| we are kings and queens, gods and goddesses, warriors AND healers, you are a unique energy frequency, you are twilight. Forget not who you are, because you never know who it is that is watching you and is inspired by you. Stay Determined. "All that was great in the past was ridiculed, condemned, combated, suppressed - only to emerge all the more powerfully, all the more triumphantly from the struggle." - Nikola Tesla. “Non est ad astra mollis e terris via" - "There is no easy way from the earth to the stars” - Seneca. P.S. Amazing job as always Lex. Keep it up.

Finally, a video that talks about embracing the shadow functions, I've been waiting for this all along

I never knew why I was so "different" growing up. I learned about the MBTI from my INTP son last year. Changed my life. Learning I am an an INFP explains so much. Anyway, recently I have been experiencing extreme stress. I can relate to everything you said. I want to thank you deeply for delving in to the shadow functions and being so candid and honest about your own experiences too. Your video came to me at the perfect time. I needed to hear all that you said. You're truly beautiful inside and out. You are going to be great at driving! I look forward to the future video of you telling us all about getting your license to drive. :0) ((Hugs))

INFPs are among the most feminine personality types, yet we have a lot of unconventional ideas and qualities, which can make us a total mystery to many.

It's scary to figure out that everything about me makes total sense now... and that i'm not alone with it. I'm fighting my demons or my shadowside at the moment... and I'm trying to function but it won't work... i haven't figured out how to embrace that side by now but i'm still trying... And yes its true that you're get the feeling of beeing out of control and you want to get it back...

I think many people won't even admit to themselves that they have a shadow side. It can feel unsettling and alien to our usual patterns of thinking that we can feel quite ashamed of it but it's part of our full identities as rounded human beings that we have to acknowledge, accept and even admire, if somewhat begrudgingly. It's the Yang to our Yin that balances us out. We need that shadow side in times of stress and distress, it's a part of us that protects us and helps to fight or not give in in a situation that our normal selves might want to curl up and hide from and recognising our shadow side helps to keep everything in check. I think of my shadow side as being grey, grizzled, scarred to f*ck and pretty messed up looking. I don't really agree with his methods or cynical views on life but he's genuinely got my best interests at heart and we've somehow reached a habitable arrangement. He'd make a terrible dinner guest though.

Interesting topic Lex, I've always been very aware of the shadow self within which I have kept under lock and key all my life (56 yrs). Oddly though, the light self has always been suppressed to a certain degree. When I would do something good or cry, which I do a lot of for a male, I would tell the beneficiary or witnesses, don't tell anyone!! Why because it's weakness to the world. it's only been since my stroke back in Sept of 2015 that the light side began to awaken, following the dark night of the soul for the year proceeding the stroke. I no longer am concerned with how I am perceived by the world around me. Suffice it to say that it seems that the shadow function you mention, really seems to be at least in my experience, my own sin nature which I have tirelessly battled against. Now I see the light within and my only desire is for the darkness to recede until it is gone. To all of the INFP's, let not your heart be troubled, for this too shall pass. It is written that we am fearfully and wonderfully made.

I hope you don't feel alone, over exaggerated fears prevented so many things from happening in my life.

I spent my whole childhood and into my twenties living my life for my family. Until I went through a major depression and a suicide attempt did I finally get away from that (at least for the most part).

I’m so glad you talked more about shadow functions!! I definitely see myself in the overthinking loops- which I think creates my terrible procrastination habits- I am working on it. But it is a fight feeling so down about my own capabilities I lose motivation to try. Seeing this video, helps me to see the bigger picture of others struggling with their demon critics 😩

This video speaks to my soul and pretty much nailed where I am in my journey of self discovery. Loops have been an insidious function in my life and I never quite understood why I did that too myself. I think the deeper I understand these things, the more I can face my challenges and accept these things as a part of who I am and not have them suffocate and paralyze me as they have in the past. Just want to let you know I really appreciate your insight. It helps me feel less isolated and feel less different.

Had to stop the video to grab my pen and paper! I’m struggling so hard with this lately and trying desperately to understand so I can make it better. Thank you.

Love how the video goes from informative to a boost to the qualities and characteristics that INFP carry. These things are rarely if ever mentioned by anyone and definitely never seen as positive. It's rather sad how the world sees kindness, compassion, and sympathy for others as weakness. I suppose that's because they get run over by individuals who prey upon these people because they perceive them as naive and unfamiliar with the harsh realities of existence. Then again those who treat others in such a manner are simply projecting their characteristics onto others because that's what they see as weak and they'll jump at the opportunity to pounce upon someone who is of such a magnificently beautiful caliber. Regardless of what you may think about your anxiousness with driving may be, I see that as a positive thing, if you were overly comfortable with such, you surely wouldn't be posting such videos to help other people not only become familiar with the many facets of the personality, but give others a peek into the window of another fellow INFP's life so that we can have someone that we can identify with in a manner. It's few and far between that one runs across such an individual because we're (I'm assuming) typically jaded and so guarded that we've utterly been crushed to the point of becoming the antithesis of INFP because iit's some type of twisted coping mechanism that we've adopted in order to protect ourselves from the vicious world. The whole concept that you spoke on about feeling superior to others in school, I can't say that I identify with because of my upbringing. My dad was a raging alcoholic and was abusive to both my mother and I so I felt in every way inferior, not only because of this, but being half Korean raised in the southern states of the US I was definitely seen as an outsider, often being told by other kids and having their parents question if my mom was really my mom and giving me looks as if she was lying about her giving birth to me. I was brought up as feeling inferior in every possible way and obviously lived in a state of my shadow functions for so very long that I've become comfortable with anyone questioning me because of living with my inner critic tearing me a new one on a daily basis. Crying myself to sleep every night because I thought something was wrong with me until the age of 14 almost 15.. Seems like a sob story, but I'm glad it all happened because I AM who I am today because of it. To anyone who I've been openly candid with, would perceive me as egotistical, overconfident, and way too assured of myself to be in any way genuine, but I don't carry myself in such a way because I know how others will feel if I do so. I don't want others to feel like less of a person because of the confidence I have in myself. Despite it all, I refuse to be jaded and am so very glad to be a unique INFP that sees the world as a place that love, compassion, sympathy, and a desire for the entire world to do/be well. Without the guiding light from a lighthouse, ships could very well run into land causing tremendous damage to life and prosperity, so I will continue being the light in the way that I see fit. Like you've said in a previous video and I even mentioned, others may not agree with these things, but Idc, I have entirely too much confidence and understanding in who I am to be swayed in any other direction. Thanks for the videos, great as always! Hope you and your family have a wonderful day/night/weekend/week/month/etc

Wow, Lex, all of what you describe here rings so true for me! Especially in the work settings, where I feel like my bosses want/need me to be a type of person that I am not. It's so tricky, because like you say, I also tend to be a people pleaser, so I'll tamp down my own needs and personality to try to be a good employee, but it's making me miserable. And I let my self doubt and fear keep me from exploring other jobs/careers that are more creative, expressive, and meaningful. At least I'm getting a really clear with what doesn't work for me, and hopefully I can begin to reconcile these battles with my shadow self, and become the author of my life again . Thanks so much for you deep insights, as always. You are an inspiration! 😄

Wow this was eye opening, especially when you touched on getting your license. I told myself those same things in my teen years and never learned. Now I'm 25 years old and learning very slowly. I think the breaking point has been hanging out with my best friend and not being able to drive her around in the rain because I couldn't drive. I felt awful about it the entire day and it really sucked the joy from everything because it was ALL I thought about.

When u were talking about the driving it’s like you spoke about me 😹 I actually got the license but haven’t used it since because i feel like a danger to others on the road, and it’s not because I’ve been the cause of accidents or anything it’s just I don’t trust myself. And I think due to Se polar this is always going to be an issue and i prefer focusing on other aspects of life, especially since public transport and bikes are more environmentally friendly anyway

Wow! Everything you said rings true for me! I’ve been struggling to see if I’m really an INFP and learning about the shadow side has helped me determine I most definitely am. I guess I can see my faults more than my strengths and I think I’ve been operating out of the shadow side for a long time. Thank you for being vulnerable in sharing your experiences. In regards to work and trying to socialize/make friends - I have the exact same thoughts and behaviors! Although I’ve learned how to drive, I avoid driving on freeways. The anxiety and beating up yourself of why are you so sensitive and why can’t you be normal like everyone else around the issue tracks with me in this area but in a different way because I avoid driving on freeways due to the memory of the panic attack and all the scary thoughts I had in the moment and it grew to avoiding even traveling on planes and being in crowded places because that dang Si memory and the out of control scary feelings I had around the issue. I’m hoping that learning more about the shadow will help me learn how to more effectively deal with this because I’m now starting to see the connection of why it’s been more difficult for my type to shake.

I relate to so much of what you just said Lex! I could go on all day about my shadow but right now my main issues are isolating myself and overthinking. I cut people off all the time and really struggle to give people a chance. I don't think this is entirely bad tho, I just need to learn how to control it. Maybe addressing my overthinking could help this. Most of my overthinking is related to social anxiety and self hate. This sends me on a loop of self doubt and isolation. Perhaps if I can better control my mind I won't be thinking about all the negatives about people and be able to give them a chance. We all need friends

The important part of exploring your shadow functions is that you are becoming more aware of yourself, and by doing so they absolutely are losing their sting. From my experiences these shadow functions seem to have a dual mode of operation: 1. If your primary functions are operating properly (i.e. your dominant function has not been thrown off-balance and your inferior function is operable), they tend to be backgrounded, but once activity among your primary functions starts to settle down, they tend to kick in and provide additional processes (like, when you are working, your Ne is your driver as it picks up everything that's going on around you, even the external events generated by your Te inferior, but as soon as that activity is tapering off, Ti actually presents itself and is offering some pieces of data). 2. If your primary functions are thrown off-balance (that is, for an INFP the dominant Fi is in turmoil or somehow irritated), the dark aspects of the shadow stack begin to surface, with the functions from the shadow stack replacing the ones from the primary stack that have given out, entailing all the associated ramifications. That being said, Fe Nemesis is a two-edged sword. As you have said, you could experience the deer in headlights phenomenon or the desperate attempt to appease people who are attempting to control you, but it can also be the exact opposite. As agreeable as INFPs tend to be, they can also be absolutely confrontational if hard-pressed. As for Ni Critic, it also cuts both ways: The INFP is very apt at berating himself for even the smallest of blunders, but it can also serve as a safeguard if people want to sell you bullcrap (in the figurative sense): You quickly notice that something is off the mark (especially when your Ne has signaled an error) and can so thwart the attempt. As for the overthinking, I'd rather think that it's both Ni and Ti that are interlocking with each other, very much akin to the INFJ's infamous Ni-Ti loop, but much more negative. As for Se Trickster, I can absolutely relate to the part with bad habits, and it requires a great deal of effort to break that vicious cycle that is going to develop, but it also has someother ramifications: Have you ever been in the situation in which someone wants to make you believe a particular thing, but you have had absolutely no experience with it? In that case it's likely that you may have fallen for Se Trickster: Since Ne subdominant doesn't provide you with a viable context (indicating a miss) and Si tertiary cannot provide any data, either (critical miss), Se is attempting to fill that gap.Unfortunately, as an INFP, we are heavily relying on proper contexts so anything without them or even a completely false context tend to throw us off. This is a pitfall that especially gets inexperienced INFPs. The more experienced ones are relatively safe here, because Ni Critic acts as an additional safeguard. Now, as far as Ti Demon is concerned, I need to object. What you have been describing here seems to be a part of Ni Critic: The sense of inadequacy and self-deprecation that comes along with your inner critic berating or outright belittling you for your perceived inadequacies. By my reckon Ti Demon is something far more sinister, even outright destructive. If it is running in the background, it can surely provide additional bits and pieces of data when your primary stack is settling down, but when it's taking its dark aspect, it's quick to prompt us to hurt others, psychically and/or physically (woe to the one who has pushed an INFP so far that even his dominant Fi is giving out - you'd have the literal demon going rampant). However, on the upside and in conjunction with Ni Critic, it also allows us to be the devil's advocate.

This was very good feedback as an infp. Agreed.. ❤

Hey Lex, thank you for your honest and authentic sharing. I can also relate to everything you said. It is scary, since I had the same thing with distancing in high school and I still don't have my liscense. I am wondering, how it can be that we all make these experiences all over the world, in different cultures and social settings, and still feel the same. I just prooves are oneness in individuation as humanity. x

Thank you so much for sharing. I am finding my tribe lately in the INFP world. I feel less alone I’m 58 and I wish I knew all of this earlier but not too late. I am giving myself a me day today and I am going to binge watch your videos. I have just subscribed.

Thank you, Lex, I love you! All you said is so much relatable to me

Thanks Lex this was a great video and very informative, keep it up!😄

This is exactly what I was looking for thank you 😊

Fantastic to see you back

Damn, this hits really hard. I'm actually crying. I have the same story in high shcool. Thank you so much for this video. Still don't know what to do tho, i feel so guilty about it then regrets

Always enjoy your presentations. Well worth the wait for this INFP. Like another homecoming.

Great to See You Back LM, I can always wait for your amazing KZfaq content 😊😋🧐

Wait also I was for real thinking this same thing about jewelry today!!!!! Love it!

I always look forward to your videos😊

This is one of the best Infp videos i’ve watched. You explained everything in such an easy and selective but informative way. I’ve been kind of confused latley as if am really an infp cause all of the stereotypical happy/goofy pessimist infps. It made me question if im really an infp, i know my anxiety, stress and trauma has affected me. But i rarley hear people talk about it in this kind of way, I’ve waited for someone or something to confirme my thoughts and this really did. Wish more people with experience talked about this more to spred awearness, cause the infp ”stereotypes” can acually have serious damage on peoples selfconsious. Thank you Lexi for spreding this kind of awearness, you’re amazing🙏❤️ /Another but confused INFP

I needed this video! Thanks ♥

Lex you are awesome!!!!!!!

OH MY GOODNESS!!!!! I FOUND MY REFLECTION!!! every singe thing, every single example is ME!!!! .. I was in a mental hospital for 3 weeks last year just before covid ..... I was diagnosed with severe depression and generalized anxiety disorder and BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER...... I have ADHD!! wow... I have lost all my friends, I was someone else when I was at church, wasn't accepted as my authentic self... unplugged, mic shut off cuz " what is steff says something" .... I dont draw any more. I have two courses going on right now that I havent finished..... I cant or feel like I cant parent my four kids properly, or clean... HOW DO I GET HELP!? HOW DO I BECOME BETTER, HOW DO I ACCEPT THIS PART OF ME NOW THAT I HAVE DISCOVERED HER

The mind of an Infp is all about outsmarting You know what, demon on my shoulder? Fist bump! You too angel!

Thank you this was really helpful

i'm a simple being. i see a lex morningstar video, i click like

I was the same getting my license took having two kids to push me to do it but had so much anxiety with it and canceling lessons was spot on great video

With the driving example that you brought up, I can absolutely relate. I still don't have my license, and I'm in my mid-20s. Uf.

Wow after a long time. You almost made me worry lex.

I also avoided driving. And I think it's not unreasonable. We are prone to daydreaming with out eyes open and it's a bad combination with driving. I also think we're the most likely to get seriously crushed emotionally when faced with an animal accident (the sounds of insects smashing into the window are something that impacts me!). Plus (especially when there's an Highly Sensitive Person component) driving is a flood of fast incoming information of high importance. So while we can master driving, I think our hurdles with it are not out of thin air. There's reasons why we shift things and it's always worth checking what the truth is even with fears we blew out of proportion. The beauty of all shadows is clearly that they're hiding potential and insights 🤩 Love to explore them. To be honest, exploring my shadows is so much easier than exploring my strengths. 👀 I'm regularly more freaked out by what I'm capable of. Because I instantly see the responsibilities coming with them. 😶

scary ... my personal experience; eating disorder as a teenager (probably not very common for a male), being laughed at when singing (some others were being laughed at for different reasons) ... still angry with those teachers who, in my opinion, enjoyed those moments

Watching your video made it feel like you've been inside my mind because of such accurate thought pattern descriptions, hahahah; it was great though! And you remind me of Scarlett Johansson, btw. All the best to you 😊

So soothing to hear your accent. I'm American and I spent 4 months in Australia in 1999 while I was in the Marine Corps. I was in Rockhampton and Brisbane. I'm an INFP and I love your advice. It is very helpful. Thank you!!

Hi 👋 just wanted to say that Jesus also is the morning star (Revelation 22:16) ✨ Mbti has helped me tremendously to understand myself and others better how everyone has different holes he can slip into depending on his personality. God made each one of us interesting and perfect but our sins have polluted even our hearts so we battle ourselves daily. Good and evil are real concepts that can be seen with the eye in people's actions. Just wanted to say that God didn't intend for us to be like this because we can all agree that we don't want to be this way. We want to be happy and be our best selves, not hurting ourselves and others. So God himself came down and died for our sins in our place because we can't get up ourselves. He said that if we believe that Jesus died for our sins, we are saved from sin. We will still struggle in this world, but we will be where He is, and he is the very definition of perfect Love! ✨ I, too, am struggling with over thinking, and depressive and anxious thoughts and probably way more. But the one that can make me whole again has forgiven me on that cross and placed me (despite all my failures) in his arms as a child of God. Best regards and God bless 💕

When you think you're so unique and there's nobody else like you and then watch a video that is literally your personality down to a t....I'm also somebody in my early 30s thats never driven (aside from deserted country roads).It's so crazy how alike people can be. Wondering if there's also a correlation between personality types and zodiac signs. The only other INFP I knew was also an Aquarius like me

That was beautiful, very honest. How did you integrate it?

We are more than animals. We are spiritual. I have depression anxiety and CPTSD. I understand all of these.

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You know i listend to many of your videos and thought someone is talking from my heart 🤗. But when you recalled the struggle to get your drivers license it started to feel like mindreading🤯

holyshite on the surface I look confident and powerful, but really i have deepseated social anxiety. i like people, i'm just horrible at it. i feel like the more people know me, the more they see the trash i am. why why why of all 16 types, did I turn up INFP? i wish I were something else.

Had to pause the video for a moment because I think I may have come to an understanding of why I struggle with eye contact when talking. I decided to treat this video as more of a one-sided conversation rather than a video to listen to and I noticed Lex has a hard time keeping eye contact with the camera and seems to look around when searching for the next words to say while mid-sentence. So I'm curious is this an INFP thing or just a random quirk we share? I've always been self-conscious about not being able to keep eye contact when talking and feel like I can't focus on my words when I'm keeping eye contact so if I keep it for too long when talking ill lose my train of thought. Any other INFPs with this struggle?

How did I get here? And what’s this INFP? All I did was read a comment you left on George “Chopsticks Coffee “ video. Strange universe 🤔

Infp here, and I have to do this. You said the word Planet which indicates you believe in the globe. You can't have gas pressure without a container next to a vacuum, it doesn't exist. Space is fake. We are the Universe, hence the word "Uni" (one). I normally don't like to impose on to others without permission but I feel this is necessary to expand your awareness and abilities. If you don't know where you are, you don't know where you're going and who you are.

I'm XNFJ 27 and tried to get my license twice... welp...

I'm confused. There are only four functions, no?

thank you AND you look like a really hot intern angel

Silly me, I was referencing silly putty.

Skip to 3:29... UGH another 3 minute commercial to start off a video..PLEASE LEX at the END