One quality I didn't mention in the video: I like it when someone doesn't care what others think and isn't afraid to be themselves! What's a quality that you find attractive?

For me intelligence is important, but kindness is a must. What is the point of brains when the heart is absent? And laughter is the glue in a relationship as well. So the perfect, romantic relationship would be an intelligent, funny, sweet person. It may seen like a high standard, but if I commit myself to someone, settling is not an option.

I definitely relate to a lot of this especially the boyish looks over manly looks!!!

As an INFP, I'm attracted to mysterious type of person, non-judgemental, a good listener, loyal, have a great love for family, a deep person, sees the light in you beside knowing your darkness, one who can handle me and my emotional personality, and one whom I can open my heart and talk my mind out with since INFPs are not sharers of personal problems, but most especially, one who loves God more than me (because if that man loves God more than myself, he'll not hurt me).

I'd like to share mine without watching the video first. As an INFP, even as a kid I always wanted someone who's "mature" or wise (not booksmart but life-smart, practical, realistic. I call it "someone who makes sense" 😂). I always felt I was too mature or old for my peers. I did not like such as immaturity, rudeness, recklessness, bullying. Now thinking back at it, I meant I like someone who's open-minded whom I could talk anything about without judgement. Someone who's willing to explore ideas, brainstorm with me. I like a well-rounded person who's up for "serious" talks but also knows how to have fun. My humour is often said to be witty, I'd like someone to be that way too. I noticed since I don't like people stepping on people. Offensive humour directed towards others like laughing at them is a big no for me. I noticed I appreciate people who could joke in a non-offensive way, often situational, witty, or humble humour. Honesty is also very important. I as an INFP is very suspicious as to other's intentions if I'm not familiar, comfortable, or haven't trusted them yet. I really need to see if someone's being honest with me or putting on a show. I am also easily touched by kind gestures and attentiveness.

Yes, I agree. Kindness is a big thing that attracts me very easly. I want to also add curiosity, being eager to discover and learn new things.

Sum up: 1. Intelligently humorous 2. Stands out through his behavior or peace of mind. 3. An animal lover and nature lover 4. Genuine and gentle to everyone in the universe 5. Has creative pursuits that I admire 6. Boylish/soft facial features( Coles Spouse) As an Infp-t, I really agree what you share! And each point has its special meaning to me! And I had many crushes in my life which ended up soon when I found out the guy was less than I imagined.... 😂

Saving animals from pain, no matter how small they are, is a big thing to me too. Here's a trick to getting flies out of your house at night: Turn off all the lights. Go to a door and stand outside. Turn on your phone's flashlight. In about a minute, they'll all fly straight towards your phone and out of your house.

INFP here and one common quality in the people I've had crushes on (whether in real life or with fictional crushes) has definitely been kindness towards everyone :) I'm thinking of one guy in particular I had a crush on in high school, he had this kind and gentle vibe/aura/? that I found really appealing. (And he was cute! What a combination.)

Intelligence is the thing that attracts me the most, and I am also attracted to women who have a sense of humor. I think the reason why we don't see many women comedians is something more natural, usually, girls are not encouraged to tell jokes.

I think girls who are capable, independent, and who I can respect are really attractive. Creativity and having an active imagination as qualities in someone are also very important. I also don't really care for a sense of humor in women, although I believe that's probably something society has taught us through gender roles, not so much a personality thing. For me too, a girl who's kind to animals is highly attractive. Maybe the most important thing though, is I like people who are sentimental rather than materialistic, girls who go to the mall all the time and buy stuff are really unattractive. I prefer girls who take walks and talk about interesting things and memories instead. It was interesting hearing what it's like for another INFP, thanks for this video!

I deffinitely had a clown class crush. He was funny and loud and sometimes he could be a little rude or blunt, but still. Loved him, specially since he never crossed me, he respected me and he made me laugh all the time. I really like guys that are eccentric in some way, and confident ofc. Theatrical even. OOR súper mysterious and inteligent, but these ones can make me feel a little intimidated hehe 😅 Of course I like inteligent guys, but I think the quality I'm more keen to is actually wisdom, and being willing to learn new things/being open minded. I don't think a guy must be a know-it-all, but wise in how to move in life. He may or may not like to read, he may or may not know many things, but he has to have the curiosity to learn and feel the world around.

I find expressionism attractive such as fashion male femininity painted nails jewelry I totally agree with how you say someone who stands out different people I find strangely intriguing

100% agree on everything.. Even the boyish feature !! (I just realized it when you pointed out). I only found your channel in like an 2hours and I'm binge watching your videos cz they are so relatable and make me feel comforted especially that I am going through this phase where I am questioning everything about me, hating every aspect that make me different and a weirdo cz that I thought the reason I am struggling in my social life... I was called narcissistic and rejected for being myself... It's heartwarming to listen to you explaining Fi and clearing the many misunderstanding about it's working. And I like how well you progressed in talking your thoughts throughout the years, I have the same problem (express my mind writing better than talking) and I would like a video where you talk about your journey. Thanks a lot for sharing your inner life with us, it's so inspiring.💜💜

Hey there! Loved your video and the awesome insights on what you find attractive. As an INFJ guy, I totally resonate with the qualities you mentioned, especially the importance of being kind to animals. I mean, who wants to harm a bug just for fun, right? I wholeheartedly believe that everything, no matter how small, has a purpose. Sending positive vibes your way, and can't wait for more awesome content. Take care, and looking forward to the next video! 🙌🌟

I am an INFP and I can relate to all of the traits that you've mentioned! Except that when it comes to pursuits, I usually prefer someone who is more into STEM fields. I think it's because I'm intrigued by someone who is good at something I don't particularly excell at and by someone who I can learn a lot from. I would add that I like someone who is also into similar films/music as me or at least someone who's interested to understand what I like about those specific types of films and music and not say that I'm weird for being into them 😂. Finally, I can't believe I even relate to liking the same physical attributes in guys! Dylan o brien is my absolute favorite crush especially whilst playing the character of Stiles in Teen Wolf!!

Intelligent, authentic, kind, funny, in touch with their feelings and creative.

im an intp and i was listening to you talking about crushes before, because i think an infp (i think he is an infp ) guy might have been interested in me for a long time and (try to)kept it to himself .. And i think he is different then the rest so i decided finally to really dive deep into this and the things you said actually confirms my perception of him. And this video sounds like both of us.Thats why i always thought he was interesting and worth my respect. Every single word you say , i agree with them even though im an intp.

As an INFP myself, I find creativity attractive especially when collaborating. Treating the most vulnerable with kindness and dignity is huge too. Uniqueness of mind is also really attractive, I think it’s an adventurous conversation to have with those that think differently. Always fun to create those journeys with another. And, women are absolutely funny. Carol Burnett for example. Most of the funny women I’ve known are so by character and not the material. Kool channel 😃

I relate to the stuff about the boyish looks too! Great video:)

Hi hi. am an INFP , i usually crush on guys that are social or popular but still really sweet to other people that are not as socially comfortable as they are; guys that are not afraid to be themselves and have a sense of humour; oh and guys that have similar interests to mine

Wow I really like your energy! I felt this powerful aura of calmness from you almost instantly. Just wanted to express that. I'm an INFP btw. Also, I agree with all of the qualities you listed in the video. The top 3 qualities I'm looking for in a partner are: 1. Authenticity/Open Communication 2. Bravery/Confidence 3. Kindness/Compassion/Empathy But there are still a lot more qualities I look for lol.

i agree with every single point you mentioned. i feel understood loll i love your videos!!!

I’d like to say first. I’ve happened to see a few of your videos. And they are very interesting for me to hear. I’m an INFJ enneagram 4 and strangely a Gemini also. I know our function stack is a little different and a lot of the ways we pursue people are different. But, I just wanted to tell you that I’ve enjoyed your videos.

thank u for the video😁

OH MY GOOOOSSSSHHHHHHH INTELLIGENCEEEEEEEE

Uniqueness. Kindness. Honesty. Thoughfulness. Understanding. Patience. Unconformity. Steadfastness Loyalty. "Dark Confidence". INTJ GENTLENESS. ENFJ PASSION. ENTP HUMOUR. ENTJ BRAVADO

You are awesome 👍

I'm drawn to intelligence, travelers, ppl with substance, caring, respectful to other ppl, accepting of ppl who are culturally different, humor, artistic abilities, standing out in the crowd and the mysterious person. I'm a Sagittarius infp with a Sagittarius rising, which mean i have Gemini in my 7th house. I'm drawn to ppl with Gemini qualities .

Important to point out that niceness and kindness are not the same thing. Niceness is often shallow and can be used to manipulate people by promoting a false self, while kindness is genuine and internal, and as such may not be nice. Sometimes a kick up the arse and a good verbal drubbing is the kindest thing you can do. There's also the occasions when dealing with bad or evil people where kindness can be exploited. It's best to be selective with kindness and understand where it's appropriate and where it's not.

Yes. All that!!

I'm INFP and pansexual. And I agree with about 90%. And it fits not only on men, but on all people in general. 😁👌

Hiii 🤠 I'm ESFP an I just discovered your channel 🤭 😊😊😊😊

I find you interesting, we are both INFP 4w5 and Ravenclaw lol, I still am discovering things, qualities I like is people who love nature, empathy, compassion, I am a water sign lol :) I need intelligence too, I don't get much crush or attractions on people like I am demisexual so its another layer of complexity to a already complexed mind. I am into easy going, really whoever I vibe well with, I never cared about ones gender or anything, I just go for good vibes, I am a Druid so other pagans are welcomed but I don't care about ones faith as long as they respect mine.

Thanks

I'm INFP and my Gemini sign Aries.. but i too like who is Intelligent, some good sense of humour, Depth emotionally but also funny, joking randomly when connected, Most important for me on s how much effort she put on me because i don't like who firstly put efforts and then suddenly become busy with stuffs and ignore me anyway.

I'm an INFP and personality is very important as well as intelligence.

Introverts are actually more common than extroverts by a slight margin.

rebel girl but still kind I would say as a male INFP but not sure that would work in everyday life since I might be too sensitive

You know... I fit all of these descriptions... so... just kidding, I am an ENTP and i can be an asshole sometimes, well most of the times... so I wouldn't even recommend myself.

I have no idea how to describe Avi Kaplan but... everything that he is, that's my type 😂

INTP here, regarding the "kind heart" thing... you just blocked like most of us 🤣 I am being extremely genuine so when I am not happy I am not happy and I'm just normal to everyone (cause we're all equal imo) Also very bold to say but I have a good heart but I have to trust you to show it and until then I am just tough introverted guy that sits alone and just has his shit together 😆 (that's what my friend said) Interesting how people usually come to me, do I really look that alone and careless about being alone that others like that or what?

Intuition and astrology 🙂

Man your voice is so good.. and you're really cute all infps are cute. I love them. (Intj here)

I kind of like, like kind ppl like rly kind u know

OMFGGGGGG I thought I was the only one who was attracted to....I call them "pretty boys" the ones with more feminine facial features. WOOOOOOW JUST....WOW especially the ones with long hair.

My twin brother says I like girl next door looks and he was right lol

Most ENTJ’s don’t have boyish features yet we are y’all number 1 contenders 🤣

I'm into creative writing. Are you into creative writing?

My wife (INFP) said she fell in love with me for my intelligence.. sure universities and tests say I'm smart... but I also drank out of a bidet thinking it was a mini water fountain while in Italy. She also thinks I'm 'kind hearted' because I do love animals and will avoid stepping on bugs... but I never had a problem shooting someone that I believe I needed to taken out. xD

6:14 fr, i saw my (ex)crush, INTENTIONALLY crush a bug (a dragonfly) in front of my eyes. My mind scream "This guy is a red flag". glad to know im not alone, cause im starting to doubt myself, maybe im exaggerating or something..

I want to see an interaction between INFP & ESTJ cuz I don't get how those two are duals.

Hey, um sorry for stalking your videos lol I thought I'd see if I could come up with some solutions.. (you had mentioned it being hard to find someone) Dude, so when you described what you like, you just described ENFPs to a T The introverted extrovert, they stand out a lot and are the class clown, and also deep thinkers This is classic ENFP. Actually funny enough, the last comment I made was when you had posted about dating, I recommended going through ENFPs. Like, once you make one ENFP friend.. they have loads of other friends, most of them being other ENFPs, and then those friends also have ENFP friends (and INFP friends). I swear, I would have no social circle without them, and probably no dating life. But yeah. Once you open that door, into ENFP-land, maybe you will start finding some guys that you like

Hey I check all your boxes!! You still single? Lol just kidding…..a little bit.

What qualities attract me.... Ummm... I have no idea, and I know that isnt helpful to anyone but it's complicated to explain. It's actually a chemical thing. Which is probably why it wouldnt work. But that chemical thing is quite important, which is why it's such a rare thing?

For some reason the video is unwatchable between 12:11-12:16. Odd.

Girls: I find guys with big forearms attractive. Me with only 2 arms: 😢

Are you infps attracted more to thinkers or feelers ? What has been your experience?

I remember when I was younger I had crushes on a lot of guys in my class, cause I had this tendency of seeing only their best qualities and kinda of just ran with them, ie I was idealizing them in my head without seeing the imperfections 😅 luckily as I grew older I don’t go straight to lala land and I’m more realistic about who I have a “crush” on 😂 though I’m probably too old to have those haha

I'm an infp boy. I sit and and wait. My previous partners came to me and they were always preditors haha. I get burnt so hard over and over again...help me.

Hands up if you're both an INFP and a gemini (June 19th) 🙋🏻‍♀️ let's find our birthday twin twin * WINK WINK *

im into bad guys, for me kindness is a turn-off sometimes. im intj, by the way, hi

aren't these qualities just other infps?

Your Fingertips look like they've been crushed, are they ok?

You just describing an INFJ male

So you basically have crushes on fellow NFs. You could have just made the video 3 seconds long video saying: I crush on NFs.

Will you larry me?

You lost me at gemini

I'm so deep you might drown in me!😃

Typical of someone with this personality type who grew up in our decadent, western Fe society rather than a Christian, morality-based society. Each feels like a princess and is obsessed with issues like animal welfare.