Pure bullying

@mr.waldodebaldo3208 bet he feels really big pushing and verbally attacking children and women. He wouldn't do that to a man. Those children should never have unsupervised contact with him. I bet they are scared to death when they are forced to see him. What a low self esteemed jerk.

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I know right I watch cases all the time and fathers say “I love my kids” or “I didn’t do it” but this guy is like yeah I did it mumble mumble … I wouldn’t trust that guy with my dog

I disagree vehemently! 12/10!

And all his decisions are reasonable.

They’re already so understaffed they can’t do the job that’s expected. Expecting them to show up on cases like this is impossible.

Yeah cause clothes are soooo important. Dumb. Wearing. A tie doesn't make things better it just forces a idiotic belief that somehow the old days were better. I ask which old days. Jim crow days.. or just the Americana you sanitize for people where interracial marriage was illegal cause race mixing is bad..

There is

Cmon its TN - inbreeding is bad

There are no standards anymore. They let Fetterman wear hoodies until the people rose up and said NO.

people who can't afford good clothing still deserve justice.

Many abusers are never creditable for they always blame the victims of why they abuse women and children.

Believable? Don't you need to speak English before you can be believed/not believed? If I was the judge I would take away the kids just to prevent them from becoming dumber

That cancelled 911 call has to be followed up on. Someone could die, that's just unbelievable.

Oh he’ll see them again unfortunately- mine did,despite them knowing he was a bully and abusive !

Terror’s* is not a verb. It’s not even proper.

@@user-te6dk5zi6uyou didn’t get enough hugs as a kid did you?

@@user-te6dk5zi6uis that all you got out of that comment?

No, I was too busy learning the English language. On the other hand, I do appreciate you letting us know that your most-prized possessions are participation trophies,

Boomhaur from King of the Hill.

She should get a lawyer though. They could mob the floor with the dude and maybe get her and the children more permanent protection.

@@JaniceHope definitely

i like this judge too. there is a great video of him dealing with a sov cit. one of the best i've seen.

Admittedly the judge was courteous and followed procedure, but this was pretty open and shut case.

Exactly. My ex treated everyone way better than he treated me and our children. People had no idea the monster he truly was in private. He was a deacon in both churches we belonged to at the time. His own family believed his lies about me to cover his abuse. Took me 25 years, but I finally got out of that marriage and have never trusted another man. My only regret is that I should have divorced him sooner, but I waited until the children were old enough that they couldn't be forced to have overnight visitations. He would have taken them and hid them from me just to hurt and destroy me. He's 78 now, and after having a near death heart attack, he is a changed man for the better. I'm glad for him and wish him well.

Just by the way he was standing at the beginning trying to intimidate

Crazy is more fun in bed.

They have know each other for 14 years. I guess that's how 3 kids came into.

It means divorce proceedings were started 6 years ago but not finalized until 4 years ago, divorces can take a lot of time especially if assets and children are disputed over. The "small children" are probably all under 10 years old.

​@@sagesnape8416I can promise you Mr sweatpants doesn't have a bunch of assets

Under 10 is a small child. Not sure why this is confusing.

She didn't question him probably because she is terrified of him'

​@mariemandra2583 exactly. I have no doubt that he has verbally, emotionally, and physically abused her and the children daily.

Honey child, I am not, for abusers have deflected their behavior for they learned this as children from abusive parents.

clearly no evidence that he was abused not all abusers were abused

At least the aunts was a rainbow.

good old red state values

They are representing themselves and acting as their own attorneys. That podium is where the attorneys stand and address the court. Since they're acting as their own attorneys they stand there

Absolutely. Why stay with someone who is abusive?

I’m so sorry you and your siblings were treated so terribly.

Thank god someone said it😊

How is she supposed to come up with that kind of money quickly? BFR . She did just fine.

Hopefully DCFS will help her in that regard in the future! She had do so what she could as this was done quickly, to protect her children ASAP!

@@Babytalk1963 she can get a free lawyer if she can’t afford it

They cut it out for time

It's like the suburban kids that speak fluent "gangsta" when they're stopped by police.

Because the Court can order the children to have mandatory visitation with the father, and no one - not the mother, the lawyer, the children, ANYONE - can get in the way of that visitation. If the mother did stop the children from visiting their father, SHE would be arrested and put in jail, and then what would happen to the children? They'd go with their father anyway and wouldn't have her there to come back to.

That's your takeaway?🙄

@@f8ofk8 it’s the truth so yeah

So did I.

There is plenty. CPS report and open case against the father, a video of the male ranting about committing a crime against his children, a witness to that video, the male not denying its existence on the witness stand...should the judge have dragged the children into the court room to satisfy you?? Or did he have enough to go on already...

She did call 911 and the husband had someone call and cancel the 911 call

@@teddiev2720 She still could've got them involved. She could've left the house and walked, called an Uber, too many other things she could've done. Her hands r just as dirty as his is IF this allegation is true!!

@@Biguy72501 The male admitted its truth and did not deny it or the video's existence on the witness stand, there is no IF about it. As for the 911 call, the sheriff can cancel a 911 call easily, and the only way to prove its existence is for a lawyer to subpoena a 911 call which I think she should do, however it's possible she doesn't have the money for legal services considering there is no lawyer present with her today.

I don’t believe she ever said she didn’t do anything about it! Obviously she did something if there is a pending open investigation with DCFS against the father! And if I recall she said she has made multiple 911 calls! Do not blame this mother, she is protecting her children, she can only legally do what the system allows! And she seems to have taken the proper steps!

She is obviously trying to protect her children. Don't blame the victim

My ASD kid needed counseling & it took 6 months on waiting lists & the head of the region's special Ed calling the head of the counseling center many times to get her in. You can't make a therapist take your insurance or make an apt

You can find a therapist if you look hard enough if it’s important you will drive for a hour or 2 away Commercial: usually means possible Medicaid

@@Ditch-Lily you would find a way if you HAD TO. borrow it. Take a loan out. Pawn the tv. Your kids mental health is IMPERATIVE. It's the only thing that will keep them from being carbon copies of the trauma passed on to them. And the earlier the better. I appreciate your com.ent and know that that was your experience.

I'm a retired nurse. Every therapist takes certain insurances and a lot of insurances still don't cover therapy. And she's looking for therapy for children, which is very hard to find.

This was just for an extension of the order. That proof was probably offered when it was first granted.

Evidence will be part of the CPS report

If you are not a lawyer and you are nervous it would be hard for anyone to question someone. Especially if that someone has been and is an abusive bully to you. I wish she would have asked as well, but either way her case was strong enough for the judge to agree! I mean honestly that guy didn’t come off as credible at all, he screwed his own self, no questions asked!😊😊

You just blame women, don't you?

she watch the video where he said what he did

@@MegsCrimeWatchlater, she said she’s seen him like them up in person and he berated them until they were nothing

@@MegsCrimeWatch no way he can call a person and have the cops not turn up! If that happened she could press charges and people will lose jobs and go to jail!

@@danquaylesitsspeltpotatoe8307 have you ever lived in a small town? stuff like that happens all the time. It's getting better, but there are still a lot of places where it happens.

@@danquaylesitsspeltpotatoe8307happens all the time unfortunately

Yeah, let's blame the mother. Because abusive pricks always show their true colors at the beginning of a relationship. She said they've been separated for about 5 years and divorced for 4.

I think for most people who find themselves in abusive relationships it's usually a matter of "boiled frog syndrome" where the abuser starts out cool and then slowly turns up the heat on his/her victims. I'm pretty sure this hearing is about the mother attempting to keep her children protected from that brutal bully. I don't know how many women and children live in this kind of terror but it seems wrong to place the blame on the victims of the abuser.

Cmon it TN - the state that 2 years ago tried to legalize sex with kids - the kids are just lucky to still be alive

Agreed

probably because the children were born before things got real bad. this'll be a long comment. there are a lot of reasons a person stays in an abusive relationship. one is called the "cycle of abuse." in it, the abuse will take place in episodes. after an episode of abuse, the abuser will apologize, promise they'll get help, love bomb the victim, etc. the survivor of jon koppenhaver explained that the days after he beat her up would be "the best days of their relationship." this has an intoxicating psychological effect: now that the attack is over, their loving partner is back, there's hope for the relationship, they're not walking on eggshells anymore, etc. this is called the "honeymoon phase." after this passes, eventually things start getting tense again, and the cycle continues. the victim of domestic abuse are often manipulated by their abuser to believe that while these episodes are bad, they are triggered by the victim's behavior. for example, the victim may think, "he hit me because i was late home from work. it won't happen again as long as i'm not late again." this type of abuse has the victim on edge at all times, and it also leads them to believe the abuse is their fault. in almost all forms of domestic abuse, a key element is the isolation of the victim. the abuser distances the victim from friends and family, both reducing the victim's ability to seek help and convincing the victim they're alone and their only source of comfort is from their abuser. my grandfather eventually found a reason to dislike each of my grandmother's friends and most of her family. the only time he issued "you can't see them anymore" commandments was if the person was mexican, but he made it so stressful to see them that eventually my grandmother would oblige him and stop. in the end she had no one. she still has no one. their abuser may have also convinced the extended family that the victim is overly dramatic and vengeful, and has threatened to allege abuse as punishment. so if the victim did reach out to family, they wouldn't be believed. this was also the case with my grandmother. in some cases, the abuser may have control over the victim through finances. maybe they share a bank account and the abuser limits access, the abuser owns the family business, or the victim doesn't make as much money as the abuser, stuff like that. so the victim might be afraid of leaving and not being able to make it. in homes with children, there are also plenty of victims who are the primary target of abuse in the home, so they believe the children aren't in danger. "she's a wonderful mother. she only hits me." they don't realize that witnessing abuse is abuse in and of itself, particularly in the eyes of children's services, or that it's hubris to assume it'll stay that way. once they realize this, they live in deep, deep shame, feeling that they brought this abuse on the children. the human mind is malleable. we have an instinct to adapt and rationalize. we search for humanity and meaning in everything we encounter. abusers use this to their advantage. the victim of abuse will very commonly place blame on other causes for their abuser's behavior. there was a case like that in judge boyd's court once. she said something to the effect of: "he's great sober, he just gets rough with me when he's drinking. he goes to his family's place and they all enable him, they're always drinking. i tried to tell him to go over there less, but he said he's a grown man and i can't tell him what to do. i don't know how to help him stop drinking." he's the one drinking. drinking doesn't change your personality. he's the one choosing to be violent. but in her view he's being acted on by other forces and it's her burden to make it stop. what's also wild is that most of the time, abusers don't even realize they're doing this. it's not like they read a listicle on how to abuse and control their partner. they seek control, so they get angry about people they see as poisoning their partner's mind against them. they resent things that cause their partner to leave and be outside their control, like a job or a hobby. they get angry when things don't go the way they think things should go. these behaviors make sense to the abuser, which is why it's so difficult - arguably impossible - to "cure" an abuser. so having said all that, i think it's probable that in this case, she believed it was just her, so if they divorced, it would be fine; but as A. his outlet for abuse was gone, and B. the children aged from toddlers to small people with agency and opinions, he began lashing out at the children too. she's now going through legal remedies to save her children. that's just my theory though. i want anyone still reading to remember these two things: 1. an abuser isn't horrible all day and all night. things will be great sometimes. that's what fucks their victim up in the head. most victims i've ever spoken to have agreed that no matter how violent their partner got, it was the psychological scars that lasted the longest. 2. abuse is always about control. it is _always_ about control. whether it's anger or sadness or the silent treatment or suicide threats or whatever method of acting out the abuser pulls, the source of it is 100% of the time a desire for control over their victim. sorry about the length. if you read it, hope this helps. if you didn't, same.

Ah yes, always blame the mother. You do know that abusive pricks like this don't always show their true colors right away. They wait until after you have kids and are dependend on them to become abusive. Then they control all the finances and make it difficult and dangerous to leave.

Very well studied and well documented 'stockholm syndrome' between abusers and their victims. Google it, victim-blamer.