5 THINGS CHRISTIAN WOMEN NEED TO STOP DOING…NOW!

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THE BEAT by Allen Parr

THE BEAT by Allen Parr

Күн бұрын

In the last video we discussed five things that Christian men needs to stop doing. Today, it’s the ladies turn.
Ladies, here are five things that I strongly encourage you to stop doing. You may or may not be guilty of all of these things, but if you are, I encourage you to pray about it and ask God to truly reveal to you whether the things that I share in this video apply to you.
Finally, if you know of someone who you believe would benefit from this information, please do me a favor and share this video with them.
THINGS CHRISTIAN MEN NEED TO STOP DOING
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@thebeatagp
@thebeatagp 2 жыл бұрын
Hey BEAT family! Today it’s time to talk to the ladies. In Tuesday’s video we talked about five things Christian men need to stop doing. Today I give you my personal list, emphasis on personal, the five things Christian women need to stop doing. Let me know your thoughts below. I hope you find this helpful.
@RI.........
@RI......... 2 жыл бұрын
Present 🤭. Let me listen to the teaching .
@Grateful4BlessingsoftheLordGod
@Grateful4BlessingsoftheLordGod 2 жыл бұрын
Bro. Allen, some things are a tough pill to swallow. 🥴 Thank you for your courage. This is a Hebrews 12:11 video with great value. Blessings & peace upon you and yours.
@anjeeabadmaitra6574
@anjeeabadmaitra6574 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks brother.
@loriehaisen9555
@loriehaisen9555 2 жыл бұрын
Does a woman working outside the home "Blaspheme the word of God"? like the bible says? This is a great video, and very biblical. Thank you for making it. Women should not dress in a way that causes men to lust, that is another thing Christian women need to stop doing. Women need guidance from the bible on how to behave.
@jayonnaj18
@jayonnaj18 2 жыл бұрын
I agree with you totally with the marriage thing, where so many Christian women don't wait on God for the right marriage partner and make the wrong choice! We all should "trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding! In ALL THY WAYS ACKNOWLEDGE HIM (the Him is God) and He shall direct thy paths!" Please see Proverbs 3:5 - 6 KJV! I am an elderly widow now, and only knew ONE man, the man I married! I look sooo forward to seeing him again in Paradise with Jesus Christ!!! God has made you a blessing to us believers in Christ, dear Bro Allen!!!
@ty-the-christian-guy589
@ty-the-christian-guy589 2 жыл бұрын
One thing I’ll add is stop gossiping or talking bad about people behind their backs. None of us are perfect.
@williamgodfrey2534
@williamgodfrey2534 2 жыл бұрын
AMEN!!!
@AbeVsTheWorld
@AbeVsTheWorld 2 жыл бұрын
Indeed
@salt6831
@salt6831 2 жыл бұрын
Amen to that!
@karlpoquiz451
@karlpoquiz451 2 жыл бұрын
Gossiping brings destruction/division.
@two-moonz2953
@two-moonz2953 2 жыл бұрын
Well said. This applies to both men and women.
@cindeed4422
@cindeed4422 2 жыл бұрын
Good points. Women don’t immerse yourself into a man or finding a husband that you lose who you are. Love yourself. Live your life single or not. Just serve God while you wait. Thank you.
@maryshephard8190
@maryshephard8190 2 жыл бұрын
Well said!
@christianhenry4173
@christianhenry4173 2 жыл бұрын
They also need to stop leading men on by friendzoning them too. If your not honest or upfront that's just as bad as having these bad habits. You don't have to meet a Chris woman to see this
@archanasharon6065
@archanasharon6065 2 жыл бұрын
So true
@christianhenry4173
@christianhenry4173 2 жыл бұрын
@@stairway8491 first off let me start by correcting and open rebuking your ideology of life. If God was to judge you right now he will open the books to what you just said! You do not have a right to be prideful on people's lustful problem who do you think you are? No disrespect to the truth your spreading but the same God who showed you grace and true love you need to pray for others because we were all a step away from hells kitchen if God didn't send Jesus.
@jollygoodgordon5580
@jollygoodgordon5580 2 жыл бұрын
@@stairway8491 can u keep it short dear? What’s ur point ?
@iyonej2cor520
@iyonej2cor520 2 жыл бұрын
I was def guilty of idolizing marriage! I thank God that He revealed that to me and I have since been delivered. I'm still single and I still desire marriage but I completely understand the importance of waiting on God now. Thank You Jesus!
@christinacorpuz273
@christinacorpuz273 2 жыл бұрын
One thing I would like to add is ladies, PLEASE teach these things to your daughters, nieces, and other young women in your life. Women should definitely example these behaviors, but also we are to teach these to other women because God commands it in His Word. Thank you for sharing God's truth.
@rosiebarros8513
@rosiebarros8513 2 жыл бұрын
Excellent point! Teach the up and coming generation of young girls and women to walk in the way of the Lord! Do not look to Celebrities/Hollywood for any validation but rather keep the Word of God near & dear to your hearts and minds and you will never stumble!
@jonscott234
@jonscott234 2 жыл бұрын
You are so right, females of the secular world are so aggressive when it comes to teaching evil ways to younger girls. But sadly that fire is lacking when it comes to older Christian women teaching the younger ones
@workemail7862
@workemail7862 2 жыл бұрын
Very true :) praise JESUS CHRIST!!!
@1newearth
@1newearth 2 жыл бұрын
The Son of man is the Lord of the sabbath day. He is not the lord of the first day (sunday). Satan and all the other angels were created on the first day of the week. Repent and stop worshipping Baal Satan every sunday, Easter and Christmas. Most people have the spiritual mark of the beast which has to do with worship. For about 2,000 years, people have been worshipping the dragon (Satan) and the Roman kingdom catholic (universal) church. The Roman emperors and papacy are the 4th beast kingdom of Daniel and 1st beast of Revelation 13. The sinning Roman church is the woman riding the beast and is the mother of harlots (every sundaykeeping church and those who keep the doctrine of men) and abominations of the earth (Islam, Hinduism, Buddhism, Sikhism, Bahaism, Atheism, etc.) We should worship God our Father and respect each holy day, each new moon, and each sabbath as written in Colossians 2:16, Isaiah 66:23, Ezekiel 46:3, Numbers 10:10, etc. If they say we cannot buy or sell without the vaccinejab, then that is the mark of the beast. Let us repent and have a good remnant of the year.
@tekno7020
@tekno7020 2 жыл бұрын
Except number 4! So misunderstood.
@abigaylemorgan1609
@abigaylemorgan1609 2 жыл бұрын
I am guilty of demasculating my husband and speaking down to him and trying to control him and allowing my anger to devalue him. It's hard and I can see the negative effects of it immediately and lastingly. Thank you for sharing this; it convicted me and I too pray that the Spirit convicts me to be a gentle and quiet sprint. Thank you, brother.
@slevinchannel7589
@slevinchannel7589 2 жыл бұрын
MANY Believers unfortunately believe in what is looked down by the Science-Community and classified officially as ‚Fake-Science’. That is bad. Anti-Science and Fake-Science (blood-related but not identical) are Issues. People are rightfully worried: Anti-Science and Fact-Denial is on the Rise. Especially in the UK and USA. So, yeah, stopping to embarass oneself by denying Science and Evolution is obviously a Thing for the List of 'ALL Christians should now stop to do this'. Also, on the same note, it’s an Issue i see on almost all Religious YT-Channels: They dont watch Atheist-Channels… EVER. That is really unhealthy. That is ‚surrounding yourself with Yes-Sayers’ and also ‚creating an Echo-Chamber’ at it’s finest. You know? Those 2 things that all experts warn of? Confining yourself in 1 corner and just 1 corner of the internet? Yeah... stop being ignorant and arrogant to the point where you 'ignore' all Criticism and even just Questions who arent even Criticism. Duh.
@minimalistdanse
@minimalistdanse 2 жыл бұрын
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@sublyme2157
@sublyme2157 2 жыл бұрын
This list confirmed I married right! Seven years in and my wife is AWESOME!
@impreciousnhissight
@impreciousnhissight 2 жыл бұрын
How refreshing to see a brother give props to his " good thing" as the Bible says. From one who is 30 plus " years in" may the Lord continue to bless you and your bride with a marriage that glorifies God
@lorlor6035
@lorlor6035 2 жыл бұрын
Wow that’s beautiful!
@repentnow993
@repentnow993 2 жыл бұрын
Praise God!
@Kshipss
@Kshipss 2 жыл бұрын
😂🤣❤️
@MSBowen-pk6ww
@MSBowen-pk6ww 2 жыл бұрын
My mom and dad did too! :D She passed away in 2018 NOv 20th after I think they were married....38? years and my Dad is still in love with her! I am 40 and they got married about 1 year prior to my birth. So just do thye math! LOL :D They def married right! I thank God for that !
@Angelalex242
@Angelalex242 2 жыл бұрын
Another thing I thought of: no man can make you happy. That is beyond the purview of human beings. Only God can make you happy. Don't try to make a man play God. We can't. Seek happiness above, not from a human.
@meenamoon7930
@meenamoon7930 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly.
@livingforChrist
@livingforChrist 2 жыл бұрын
Back in the day, before I gave my whole life and everything I am to Christ, I was so dead inside. I use to post pictures on my social media to make me feel better. I deleted all of them as soon as you spoke about the first point. I’m not that person anymore. And the only reason why I decided to keep Facebook (the only social media I have) is to preach the gospel to friends and family who live in Mexico. Thank you brother, from the bottom of my heart, for all your videos. They have thought me and continue to bless my life in different ways.
@hannahmeansgrace.
@hannahmeansgrace. 2 жыл бұрын
Amen sis!
@samibrat12
@samibrat12 2 жыл бұрын
Amen sister! I am guilty of so much vanity. I know the Lord knows all and will convict me in my sin. It's a journey to change, and I seek deliverance. I thank you Jesus son of God for your strength. In Jesus mighty name Amen.
@livingforChrist
@livingforChrist 2 жыл бұрын
@@samibrat12 you are in my prayers. Know that you can you can do all things (for His Glory and according to His Will) through Jesus Christ who strengthens you- Philippians 4:13. Don’t give up in your faith and prayer. God bless you✨
@samibrat12
@samibrat12 2 жыл бұрын
@@livingforChrist Amen, thank you, :') God be with you always.
@Makingmoney4u
@Makingmoney4u 2 жыл бұрын
yes lord 🙏 happy for u sista
@danielledaniels9848
@danielledaniels9848 2 жыл бұрын
This is very well said and clear. It is not blaming but simply informing! Well done, Pastor Allen!!!! Well done!
@sisterdee3534
@sisterdee3534 2 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@lydiarugh6471
@lydiarugh6471 2 жыл бұрын
He does a great job!
@jollygoodgordon5580
@jollygoodgordon5580 2 жыл бұрын
Too be honest, women of today can’t be blamed for what they have not been thought 💭. BlessUP 🤍
@slevinchannel7589
@slevinchannel7589 2 жыл бұрын
MANY Believers unfortunately believe in what is looked down by the Science-Community and classified officially as ‚Fake-Science’. That is bad. Anti-Science and Fake-Science (blood-related but not identical) are Issues. People are rightfully worried: Anti-Science and Fact-Denial is on the Rise. Especially in the UK and USA.
@pietro4772
@pietro4772 2 жыл бұрын
@@slevinchannel7589 Proverbs 9:10 (KJV) The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.
@IslandMarigold
@IslandMarigold 2 жыл бұрын
For the other single ladies out there, I found great comfort in reading the book "The New Lady in Waiting" by Jackie Kendall. It made me feel at peace about my current single status. I still want to be married someday, sure, but I am not in any rush. Enjoying my single years growing my relationship with God. ♥️
@jxslayz6663
@jxslayz6663 2 жыл бұрын
Is it a secular viewpoint or a christian one?
@IROCKSF415
@IROCKSF415 2 жыл бұрын
@@jxslayz6663 Christian
@rebekahguilder602
@rebekahguilder602 2 жыл бұрын
Plus it looks like you have a pretty adorable dog to keep you company while you wait. ❤
@IROCKSF415
@IROCKSF415 2 жыл бұрын
@David Voicecoil 1 Cor is Paul giving his reasoning as to what he wishes people would do, but it's not a command from God not to marry, nor is it for everyone. He states that because he has more time to serve God by being single, he sees threw benefit for the kingdom for people not to marry too. But he makes it clear that it's not the only option 👍🙏
@levernis5753
@levernis5753 2 жыл бұрын
@@jxslayz6663 thanks for suggesting
@angelamason9840
@angelamason9840 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I never have been interested in sex, so I realized as a teen, that dating and marriage was not for me. A majority of my family urged me to date and marry, but I have been convinced I would not be able to fulfill the calling of a wife. Because of the continual pressure and nagging, I felt guilty for many years. So thankful that Jesus never left or forsaken me. I am at peace, because of Heavenly Father’s love.
@reginagrobosz8807
@reginagrobosz8807 2 жыл бұрын
Girl... You would be better off if you cared for your own feelings more than for any god. Hope You can finally be at peace with Yourself 🍀❤️
@heidiranger6106
@heidiranger6106 2 жыл бұрын
Angela, So glad you know how much Jesus loves you and that he will never leave you, nor forsake you. You should never feel guilty for not fulfilling Other people’s expectations for your life. God has a Special Plan for your life which is why your mind is stayed on Jesus. You truly are very blessed to be Christ Centered, instead of Self Centered. Just ask Jesus to reveal his plans and purpose for you and then walk life out with him. Then you will find peace and joy unspeakable! God bless!😊🙏💕
@kat64470
@kat64470 2 жыл бұрын
I wish I wasn't interested. I actually got into two bad marriages trying not to burn.
@royalisrael7475
@royalisrael7475 2 жыл бұрын
@@reginagrobosz8807 She did say that she is at peace and note, at Peace and Love with TMH God Her Father. It would be a good thing if you find God to receive His peace.
@royalisrael7475
@royalisrael7475 2 жыл бұрын
@@heidiranger6106 Very well said and great encouragement, but Angela did say that she have peace with the Father, that's the unspeakable joy that she has without saying. Blessings.
@nathlete87
@nathlete87 2 жыл бұрын
This video is right on time. I have been dating and abstinent for 6 months now. Several men have wanted to move to a relationship and I have not felt enough attraction. Not having sex has really allowed me to discern and put my focus on finding compatible values, attraction and mutual interest.
@rslocum17
@rslocum17 2 жыл бұрын
🙋‍♀️ it’s a daily struggle to find that gentle and quiet spirit in a broken world that doesn’t value it.
@proverbs31university
@proverbs31university 2 жыл бұрын
God values it and He’s all that matters
@rslocum17
@rslocum17 2 жыл бұрын
True. Thank you 😊
@slevinchannel7589
@slevinchannel7589 2 жыл бұрын
​@@rslocum17 ...MANY Believers unfortunately believe in what is looked down by the Science-Community and classified officially as ‚Fake-Science’. That is bad. Anti-Science and Fake-Science (blood-related but not identical) are Issues... People are rightfully worried: Anti-Science and Fact-Denial is on the Rise. Especially in the UK and USA. So, yeah, stopping to embarass oneself by denying Science and Evolution is obviously a Thing for the List of 'ALL Christians should now stop to do this'. Also, on the same note, it’s an Issue i see on almost all Religious YT-Channels: They dont watch Atheist-Channels… EVER. That is really unhealthy. That is ‚surrounding yourself with Yes-Sayers’ and also ‚creating an Echo-Chamber’ at it’s finest. You know? Those 2 things that all experts warn of? Confining yourself in 1 corner and just 1 corner of the internet? Yeah... stop being ignorant and arrogant to the point where you 'ignore' all Criticism and even just Questions who arent even Criticism. Duh.
@slevinchannel7589
@slevinchannel7589 2 жыл бұрын
@Leah You are so used to imagining things that you literally have fantasy-dreams now? Wow, i dont know you, but with all respect: That sounds like you sink deeper and deeper into the rabbid-hole and get more and more out of reality.
@radioactive_baby0706
@radioactive_baby0706 2 жыл бұрын
I've never been in a relationship, but I have hoped to get married a lot. It's true that I want to get married one day, but you reminded me that I need to be patient.
@bevelyn5088
@bevelyn5088 2 жыл бұрын
Same. We will one day. Pray and trust God!
@radioactive_baby0706
@radioactive_baby0706 2 жыл бұрын
@@bevelyn5088 💛
@sarahklunk5043
@sarahklunk5043 2 жыл бұрын
@@radioactive_baby0706 I am also guilty of number 2, it is exhausting when you keep worrying about who you are going to marry. But now I am learning to trust that Christ knows what best and I need to be patient and wait on the Lord!
@evangelineisolde
@evangelineisolde 2 жыл бұрын
I am with you. May God bless you with a spouse. God bless
@Kelle0284
@Kelle0284 2 жыл бұрын
You should only get married once.
@onetallgirl1369
@onetallgirl1369 2 жыл бұрын
I’m guilty of #2. I always thought I would be married by 30, but now I’m 31 and still very single. I struggle almost daily to stop idolizing marriage and just focus on God’s purpose on my life. My desire now is to enjoy my single season and glorify God with my life and career.
@minimalistdanse
@minimalistdanse 2 жыл бұрын
When you stop thinking it will get better, and you'll be married in no time the problem we all need to work on is patience be blessed.
@ngerstner753
@ngerstner753 2 жыл бұрын
About the advice to single people not settling... I mean yes, don't settle... But also don't expect to find somebody perfect. I think there are a lot of single people in churches right now, expecting to find some perfect person. Perfect people don't exist... And don't use any sort of excuses to call it quits later on. Once you are in it, it's a commitment and you got to make it work.
@zoeg3200
@zoeg3200 2 жыл бұрын
As long as the relationship isn’t abusive, that is.
@ngerstner753
@ngerstner753 2 жыл бұрын
@@zoeg3200 of course, or adulterous
@filmfaithandlevity
@filmfaithandlevity 2 жыл бұрын
Voddie Baucham has a fantastic sermon series on marriage that you can find on youtube. It is not necessarily new, but it has honestly aged like a fine wine.
@nostalgicbliss5547
@nostalgicbliss5547 2 жыл бұрын
@@ngerstner753 Godly women can't divorce their husband even if he steps out. There is nowhere in the bible that says it is a divorceable offense.
@ngerstner753
@ngerstner753 2 жыл бұрын
@@nostalgicbliss5547 steps out?
@LadyNolaJ
@LadyNolaJ 2 жыл бұрын
If women knew the power of a true (not pretended, not back-handed) gentle and quiet spirit, they’d be dancing for the next opportunity to trust God with their husband instead of trying to win them with words and “attitude”.
@momsspaghetti3095
@momsspaghetti3095 2 жыл бұрын
These are very good. Especially the ones about social media. It’s called SOCIAL media, but actually most of what we post is just about ourselves. Maybe it should be called SELF MEDIA.🤷🏻‍♀️
@joshipp761
@joshipp761 2 жыл бұрын
Most people use social media for selfish reasons, vanity, ego, & self-centeredness. As Christians we have to constantly check our motives
@weirdgirl7475
@weirdgirl7475 2 жыл бұрын
You're not wrong! Lol
@AssuntaBrenewed
@AssuntaBrenewed 2 жыл бұрын
I understand your perspective. I am a Christian woman and also a very popular social media Influencer so posting pictures of myself is actually my career. I pray that those who are in similar fields understand the difference
@Sandrinarhonda
@Sandrinarhonda 2 жыл бұрын
There’s nobody wrong being worried about yourself and uplifting yourself.
@kressten
@kressten 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah I’m Christian woman and I approve of this message! Thank you Brother.
@KrystleLaughter
@KrystleLaughter 2 жыл бұрын
Wow! This is so on point. I have been guilty of most of these at some point. Married two toxic men, looked for validation in other people, thought I couldn’t be happy until I was married. Ladies, learn how to love yourself. The Bible tells us to live others the way we love ourselves.
@melbee5767
@melbee5767 2 жыл бұрын
What about the single woman whose happy and content. Then falls in love and then hates herself.....sometimes sociopathic men come into I our lives as prince charming and only reveal themselves once we are hitched.
@Imfrommars444
@Imfrommars444 2 жыл бұрын
A Christian woman dressing or posting inappropriate pictures and looking for attention from another woman or man is weird but also sad.
@biellaspointofview2054
@biellaspointofview2054 2 жыл бұрын
*womAn* for singular. Sorry only pointed it out since you did it twice and I’m assuming it’s not a mistake.
@Imfrommars444
@Imfrommars444 2 жыл бұрын
@@biellaspointofview2054 Fixed. It was a typo, it was a mistake. I didn't do it on purpose to offend women.
@biellaspointofview2054
@biellaspointofview2054 2 жыл бұрын
@@Imfrommars444 oh nothing to do with offense :) it’s just I’ve seen it quite a lot in comments being misspelled and I just assumed it’s a learned spelling mistake people have.
@misskim2058
@misskim2058 2 жыл бұрын
And creepy. From anyone. Man or woman. They both just look insecure and desperate. And all the worse if they have botox &/or other face adjustments, and in the case of women, fake boobs. And bit, fat, sharpie-drawn eyebrows. What’s up with that’s? It’s cartoonish. It all screams insecurity. What is more sad is that they actually think they look good, and even think people are jealous of them, when people just sheer pity them that they feel the need to do all that to look good. You are already beautiful, men, you are already handsome. Being yourself and having confidence in you as God made you, that is what is attractive. Not the phony stuff.
@minimalistdanse
@minimalistdanse 2 жыл бұрын
Immature, childish maybe. I don't post any pics of myself cos I know that can turn me into an instant narcissist is NO!!
@kawannadixon4327
@kawannadixon4327 2 жыл бұрын
All of these points are very helpful as believers and women of God this should help us to take inventory of our own life and examine ourselves the LORD chastens whom he loves thanks for sharing 👍🏾🙏🏾😊❤
@speedy1406
@speedy1406 2 жыл бұрын
Very very true
@williewilliams9034
@williewilliams9034 2 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@alyssawilliams7090
@alyssawilliams7090 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for speaking on needing physical attraction to the man we will marry! It’s so important and cannot be overlooked
@dlove9034
@dlove9034 2 жыл бұрын
Show can't
@Mygardeofgrief1680
@Mygardeofgrief1680 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@samanthacarlson5519
@samanthacarlson5519 2 жыл бұрын
I never take selfies, but I found other young adults from my church and they act like models who love makeup and clothes and hair styling so I actually was just taking selfies because I felt like it was totally okay and normal because others do it. I felt convicted and then instead of praying, I escaped to KZfaq and this is what I watched. Deleting my selfies, praying, and getting in my Bible NOW.
@victoriairias7703
@victoriairias7703 Жыл бұрын
yes! me too, i never liked photos and kinda was because i am just not photogenic but i am thankful because i quickly realized the vanity in it and that it is just not interesting for me or important for me to make people look at me, i never liked attention, but something that i also was convicted was with wearing tight clothes
@christina4669
@christina4669 2 жыл бұрын
"I hope that the Holy Spirit beats you up with that verse" 🤣🤣 This is good & so true, speaking as a woman who once struggled with 4 of 5 of these. I learned most of my lessons the hard way, but God is so good & merciful. Thank you for speaking on this!
@aminamorrison3099
@aminamorrison3099 2 жыл бұрын
I admit, guilty of #2. I'm almost 50, never been married and no children, and always wanted a family. It gets so discouraging seeing all my friends and cousins (especially the younger cousins I used to carry around as babies) all marry and have families and I sit single with no prospects. Even worse when people ask me what's wrong with me or what am I being punished for to still be single. 🤷🏾‍♀️
@SolaScriptura-n-cats
@SolaScriptura-n-cats 2 жыл бұрын
I’m a chosen single woman. I don’t want to get married. I don’t want nor need a relationship. I am happy as can be the way things are. I’m in love with Jesus Christ. 🥰
@Windowseat1998..
@Windowseat1998.. Ай бұрын
That's not up to you.
@michelletee1435
@michelletee1435 2 жыл бұрын
I COMPLETELY agree!!!very informative👀 May God touch the hearts of the women who really needs to see this🙏🏿
@butterflywings370
@butterflywings370 2 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@charmcharm2352
@charmcharm2352 2 жыл бұрын
And help us to honestly see, admit and accept where it applies to ourselves.
@dotk3623
@dotk3623 2 жыл бұрын
Amen🙌🏾
@1newearth
@1newearth 2 жыл бұрын
God created the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. That does not mean we should eat from it. God created pork, shrimps, chicken but we don't eat them. We eat grasshopper, lamb, fish with fins and scales and all the clean beasts from time to time. I can see that thou hast not enough patience and has removed my ability to comment from the group. Baal did not create sunday (first day of the week). God created the first day and other days of the week but only blessed, sanctified and hallowed the seventh day sabbath. No one can keep sunday holy. Observing times like christmas, Easter and new year's is witchcraft and idolatry. Revelation 22:15 says that idolaters are without the city of the new Jerusalem and they shall have their part in the lake of fire. Have a good week.
@Mayfieka
@Mayfieka 2 жыл бұрын
This was on time. Yup!! I am guilty on a couple in my previous and current marriage. My husband and I talked about the disrespectful topic last night and I had to admit that I am way too bossy. Thank you Allen for speaking the truth to us in love!
@TRU-TALK
@TRU-TALK 2 жыл бұрын
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@MissHunterELA
@MissHunterELA 2 жыл бұрын
Heyyyyyy Karrin! Oh wow! Fancy seeing you on here.💕🥰
@nostalgicbliss5547
@nostalgicbliss5547 2 жыл бұрын
Most black woman always running their mouth! Some think it's cute to be disrespectful. Plus if you are a woman of God, won't you recognize that it is a terrible sin to divorce your first husband?
@TRU-TALK
@TRU-TALK 2 жыл бұрын
@@nostalgicbliss5547 You Just WEAK AND CAN'T HANDLE Our WOMEN
@teachermichelle9632
@teachermichelle9632 2 жыл бұрын
Being teachable and able to receive correction is such a great trait.
@ann-marierodney6387
@ann-marierodney6387 2 жыл бұрын
Bro Parr, you are right on every point. Self actualization is causing many women to not fulfill their God given purpose. I am always amazed when I see Christian women juggling so many different things for self actualization that the most important relationships gets left behind ie, with God, their spouse, their children, their families their relatives and their brethren in Christ.
@cheryltolliver9750
@cheryltolliver9750 2 жыл бұрын
When you are over 50 and want to be married and can't find a good God fearing, equally yoked man is hard. Although I am divorced since 2000, men I have met who claim to be Christian run from me or laugh at me when they hear me say I'm a Christian and I don't believe in premarital sex. Am I right for that.
@tmagaia
@tmagaia 2 жыл бұрын
You surely are right for following God's Word! And trust me, this is a beautiful example for us, young ones; to stay in The Word and follow God (no matter the age). And I'm sure that if it's God's will for you to be married again, you will be 🙏🏾 [with a God fearing man (in Jesus name!)]
@lpl433
@lpl433 2 жыл бұрын
Definitely premarital sex is a sin. And if it isnt taken lightly from him- run. I do believe though that some may not genuinely know and to set that example is a powerful thing. Some men may actually see an attraction to that.
@gmohler
@gmohler 2 жыл бұрын
Right on sister. Stay pure
@misskim2058
@misskim2058 2 жыл бұрын
You are 100% right. And even if they do want to wait, as they should, don’t let them weigh too heavily on a decision to marry. It’s important, but it can be so rare that women (or men) overlook a whole slew of faults just because they’re willing to wait, even if they don’t realize they’re overlooking anything. A good rule of thumb I’ve learned is: Everyone has a dark side. Everyone has a whole bunch of faults and some emotional baggage to boot in some area, and the older people get, the more set in their ways they get. Knowing this, straight up look for those things. This is counterintuitive to all dating advice, and to Christian mentality sometimes. The religiosity mentality will tell you to just look for the good in others. That’s not actually a good idea, if that’s all you do. You should deliberately look for the absolute worst every person you date or even have as friends, and then decide if you can live with those traits, because YOU won’t be changing them at all. Too many people just look for the good, and if something does bother them they tell themselves that they will help that person fix those flaws. That is a huge self-deceit. Nope, you won’t be fixing or changing anyone, and an over-50 divorcée knows that well, or should, so stand firm, my sister and don’t give in, and while you’re at it, forget heady romance, get practical, and root out those flaws, decide if they’re tolerable and don’t lie to yourself about it. That’s why it’s important to date at least a year, so you see people in all seasons, sometimes people have a time of year where they are completely different, some trigger or holiday changes them, they may not even realize it. Plus. it can take that long for them to stop hiding their flaws from you, even if they’re not trying to hide them. And I would tell that to teenagers, the reason older people are telling them to wait and not jump into a relationship is because it’s just natural to suppress your flaws, and when they DO rear their ugly heads, you don’t want to be trapped in a committed relationship. Romance is great for books and movies, but a real romance takes the bull by the horns and not only expects them, seeks them out, but faces up to imperfections. And one good quick test to beat out the worst of the worst is to simply say no a few times, not just sex that’s an always-no, but to a request for a date or to help someone with something, and this is to determine how they handle being told no, and if they demand excuses or reasons, and they don’t just respect that you have a reason and you don’t owe them a reason, just run away from the get go. A mature person doesn’t need reasons, if they ask someone if they’re available to go out or to help or for whatever reason, and the person says no, then they should just counter and ask if there’s another time that they would be available, and go from there. If it’s a first date request and there’s no counter offer in return to the counter offer, then move on. If it’s a second date or beyond, then how they respond to you telling them no will tell you a lot about how they will treat you. Demanding to know what you’re doing or why you won’t is immaturity. Another good test is to go out somewhere and see how they treat a waiter or waitress, how they treat the homeless when you’re walking down the street what they say about them, and you never tell them you’re testing them. Do you want to know how they treat the most vulnerable living things, great staff, the homeless, the elderly, animals. Both of these tests (and others, definitely test them in stressful situations as well), are not assuring a good person if they pass, but for initial weeding out of people, or testing current relationships to see if they’re hiding basic lack of confidence/jealous/obsessive/invasive personalities and character flaws in demeaning others and even being abusive, they are a fast way to get rid of a person and spend no more time on ones that you don’t want as a friend or a spouse if they fail the tests. People can still cover through both of these test and still hide some very evil personalities that take time to uncover, but if they failed them outright, you’ve saved yourself a whole lot of time. A 50+ yr-old divorcée probably knows this, though some don’t, but this is here for teens, too, and anyone else who may be afraid to just take a realistic look at how they get into relationships. I’ve seen a lot of people get stuck right at these spots, and end up wasting years, when they could have avoided the problems that surfaced later altogether if they’d just paid attention to these little details. And if they gossip about others, they will gossip about you, too. And if they seek to get revenge on others, they will seek to get revenge on you one day as well. Just ditch these people and make no room for them.😊
@misskim2058
@misskim2058 2 жыл бұрын
@@lpl433 If they claim to be Christian and don’t know that, run from them. They don’t know enough to call themselves a Christian. Get someone well-steeped in the Word.
@si_a_to2086
@si_a_to2086 2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes it is the people around us who idolize marriage and shame others who are not married and ask silly questions like - why are you single? When will you get married? Why are you not getting married? Don't don't me wrong marriage is good but getting married for a wrong reason is not good. Most men don't want to marry a housewife, marriage has become a business deal. If a woman wants to be a housewife and take care of her child then other people mock her and see her as a worthless person.
@sarahcloud444
@sarahcloud444 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely. It’s funny how things change over time. A while ago, women were encouraged to be housewives and take care of their families at home, but now women are harshly shamed and discouraged from being housewives. 🤔
@vickialbertson4068
@vickialbertson4068 2 жыл бұрын
Doesn't the Bible say we should be single? If you can't do single, how can you do married? My first marriage occurred 8 days after I graduated from high school. We were married for 22 years when our divorce became final. I was single for 6 years after. I held a job and paid for my car and medical. I remarried to a man I loved with all my heart. I believe he was sent by God. We were married for 13 years before he passed away. I am single again and not interestEd in getting married again.
@ttiger86
@ttiger86 2 жыл бұрын
I feel like the world shames you for being married and having kids and not having a career. But the church shames you for NOT being married. I had a hard time when I was single because I was constantly asked by church people when I was going to get married and if I was seeing anybody. Now I’m married and asked when I’m going to have kids. Smh. It’s not anybody’s business but my husband’s and mine.
@nathanieldaiken1064
@nathanieldaiken1064 2 жыл бұрын
A "housewife" is actually a valueable person "in the Eyes of God"!
@las8883
@las8883 2 жыл бұрын
@@ttiger86 very true!
@mburst71
@mburst71 2 жыл бұрын
You are so right about idolizing marriage. I did that and married an unbeliever 20 years ago that still isn't saved. I honestly believe he will come around in God's time not my own.
@Makingmoney4u
@Makingmoney4u 2 жыл бұрын
yes that's my thing ! Many of us marry and have kids with unbelivers..
@mburst71
@mburst71 2 жыл бұрын
@@Makingmoney4u All glory to the most high God that both my adult boys are strong, bold, faithful believers!
@minimalistdanse
@minimalistdanse 2 жыл бұрын
If God wants it! but keep praying its the only thing we can do.
@jimbojackson4045
@jimbojackson4045 2 жыл бұрын
In terms of demasculating and disrespecting your husband, are you doing this even he's not around? At work or with friends, are you complaining about your husband without the intention of seeking advice, but just to vent? Is that respectful, submissive, and loving?
@eileenk.copeland2979
@eileenk.copeland2979 2 жыл бұрын
I have to agree. I really try not to talk aboit my husband behind his back. I think he should be treated like anyone else. If I have a problem with him I should go to God first and then directly to him in a loving way to discuss. And in Proverbs it says that a fool vents his anger (dont know reference). So no, we don't need to vent to others. Beyond that Go to a pastor or wise Christian in private--someone you can trust not to gossip and who will give you an objective opinion, advice or outlook.
@jimbojackson4045
@jimbojackson4045 2 жыл бұрын
@@eileenk.copeland2979 Amen! We must go to God.
@joshipp761
@joshipp761 2 жыл бұрын
I see so many women in public criticizing their man, I'm usually embarrassed for them
@nostalgicbliss5547
@nostalgicbliss5547 2 жыл бұрын
Lots of women do this shit. They constantly complain about their man, especially at work. Even to people that are no friends of theirs and will only use it against them in the future. Women in this society just don't know when to shut up. Talking non stop about everything. It really shows poor upbringing not knowing how to keep things between you and your partner.
@honeywest39j95
@honeywest39j95 2 жыл бұрын
@@nostalgicbliss5547 it also demonstrates lack of proper boundaries; which you should definitely have when married.
@salt1956
@salt1956 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, brother! That was excellent. You know, this is so badly needed in the church. I can tell you that my pastor wouldn't dare say anything to upset his wife or the women in the church.
@JesusizmyLordandSavior
@JesusizmyLordandSavior 2 жыл бұрын
I love both videos! Thank you! I was raised severely codependent and, praise God, He delivered me. My worth is not in how my husband or anyone treats me and I seek His opinion above all else. The Lord has led me to not tease or poke fun at my husband in public or private, also. Unfortunately, that is how I am treated by him and I began following suit. It matters more that I obey what the Lord is calling me to do and I pray my husband seeks His way, too...
@MrCaribKaraoke
@MrCaribKaraoke 2 жыл бұрын
Allen dropping Grown Christian Man bars
@indriadrayton1132
@indriadrayton1132 2 жыл бұрын
😁😁😁😁😁
@marshalocke4434
@marshalocke4434 2 жыл бұрын
What does that mean
@MrCaribKaraoke
@MrCaribKaraoke 2 жыл бұрын
@@marshalocke4434 grown man bars...is something you gotta deal with....its a battle rap reference...said by battle rapper trex....then battle rapper loaded lux...popularized by Lupe fiasco... Just saying allen parr is saying spiritually mature things that Christians should deal with
@CJoeD00D
@CJoeD00D 2 жыл бұрын
Bruh he killing it
@slevinchannel7589
@slevinchannel7589 2 жыл бұрын
MANY Believers unfortunately believe in what is looked down by the Science-Community and classified officially as ‚Fake-Science’. That is bad. Anti-Science and Fake-Science (blood-related but not identical) are Issues. People are rightfully worried: Anti-Science and Fact-Denial is on the Rise. Especially in the UK and USA. Also, on the same note, it’s an Issue i see on almost all Religious YT-Channels: They dont watch Atheist-Channels… EVER. That is really unhealthy. That is ‚surrounding yourself with Yes-Sayers’ and also ‚creating an Echo-Chamber’ at it’s finest. You know? Those 2 things that all experts warn of? Confining yourself in 1 corner and just 1 corner of the internet? Yeah, ignoring all valid Questions that Atheist-Channels ask all the time and never wanting to hear Criticism of any sort, form or shape, is more than unhealthy.
@dianeschnur9594
@dianeschnur9594 2 жыл бұрын
Amen! You preach it, Brother Allen! I've been trying to teach these to my girls- as much by example as by words because I can admit that I have been guilty of #5. When I was younger and had less understanding, my speech was not always gracious (or gentle and quiet)!
@estherjoseph1415
@estherjoseph1415 2 жыл бұрын
Amen This is one of the most accountable, HEALTHY, and logical info I heard on this subject matter !
@indiemeans9735
@indiemeans9735 2 жыл бұрын
I hope this reach a lot of women. Loved the “realness” of this video.
@thebeatagp
@thebeatagp 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! We would appreciate it if you would share it with others! Just slide in their DMs or text messages! 😂 😂
@lorlor6035
@lorlor6035 2 жыл бұрын
YES!
@des711
@des711 2 жыл бұрын
Your pic may be what he is talking about. You are showing cleavage in the picture. Christian women should be dressing modestly, not "showing a little". There is a big difference with showing cleavage and not showing cleavage. Why does it have to show?
@indiemeans9735
@indiemeans9735 2 жыл бұрын
@@des711 ummm, you clearly did not watch Allen’s video and it shows. Most likely why you said “may”. You seriously passed judgement on someone that you don’t even know based on a cropped photo showing a “little” cleavage? Like, did you see the entire outfit? Nope, you didn’t. You just saw an opportunity to be negative and that is never a good look✌🏾.
@malinda911
@malinda911 2 жыл бұрын
"I said I'm fine" along with the facial expression and neck roll took me out. Lol. I felt that, brother Allen.
@thebeatagp
@thebeatagp 2 жыл бұрын
Lol!!! Yes Lawd!!! No more of that! Seriously.
@lynnterrific
@lynnterrific 2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@anjieobasa1871
@anjieobasa1871 2 жыл бұрын
I don’t see how that deminishes a husband’s authority. You have a right to express your frustrations and anger. Maybe don’t bring your anger on others but not being able to speak that way to your husband sounds controlling and a little abusive.
@ambomateijennifer7207
@ambomateijennifer7207 2 жыл бұрын
Do you like when your husband raises his voice at you? Do you find it abusive and controlling when he responds to a simple question you ask in a disrespectful tone? I wish to know
@anjieobasa1871
@anjieobasa1871 2 жыл бұрын
@@ambomateijennifer7207 absolutely not. But the way Allen said how when you do that it sort of lessens his authority over you. I don’t think yelling like that is appropriate but it certainly shouldn’t lessen someone’s authority when we do that because we’re all human and sometimes wrongly snap at ppl. To put it in a better way when he said that it almost seems as if we as wives are never allowed to raise our voices towards our husbands even when they’re wrong. Or maybe I’m just reaching idk.
@elenaliz
@elenaliz 2 жыл бұрын
A gentle and quiet spirit should be the first adornment we ladies put on!
@adriennerodriguez4712
@adriennerodriguez4712 2 жыл бұрын
You nailed it! Every point is key! I'm convicted. Thank you for your messages and service to the Lord.🙏💕
@sholaolokun7282
@sholaolokun7282 2 жыл бұрын
Ohhhhh, you came for my neck today!!! Thank you for being honest and direct. Unfortunately, I've had to learn some of these truths the hard way, but God's grace still abounds.
@donnarobinson9021
@donnarobinson9021 2 жыл бұрын
Hey Allen, love the insight of truth that you are always providing. I agree with you about the job, because someone's value comes from their job, they better pray they never get fired. God places us here for His purpose, not to pursue a career. Love the T-Shirt.
@jollygoodgordon5580
@jollygoodgordon5580 2 жыл бұрын
No dear. Only a mans value comes from his job. Just think about it… women have always looked at men who are successful for example, as being able to be good providers. Marriage material/ husband material. But when have men ever looked at women who are successfully in their careers/jobs and be like “I want her cus she’s successful and cus of that she will be a great wife”? See, man and woman value different things in each other. What makes a man valuable in the eyes of a woman is not what makes a woman valuable in the eyes of a man. Let me give u an example of what man find valuable in a woman: Her beauty, Her weight, is she cooperative, is she friendly, submissive is she feminine ? These are some of the things overal that we men look at to determine if she will be a good wife. And off course you can never be 100% sure before marriage of that person will be a great spouse, but personality says a lot.
@donnarobinson9021
@donnarobinson9021 2 жыл бұрын
@@jollygoodgordon5580 What scripture states that a man or anyone's value comes from their job???
@ellej2861
@ellej2861 2 жыл бұрын
This was great! Thank you! From experience I would like to add that any disagreements should stay between husband and wife. We shouldn't be going to our mother,father,friend or even on social media laying out our dirty laundry. Asking for advice is much different than speaking negative about your spouse. It dishonors and disrespects not just your spouse but God. Put God first in all situations and everything will fall in place and God will change you.
@shellyscholz1256
@shellyscholz1256 2 жыл бұрын
I was a wife deprived of sex, so I agree with your points but wonder why men were told not to deprive their wives of sex. They’re both equally wrong.
@risenshine7032
@risenshine7032 2 жыл бұрын
@shelly sholz because typically it’s always a woman doing the depriving. Your situation is not the norm, even though it does happen, it is equally wrong.
@melbee5767
@melbee5767 2 жыл бұрын
@@risenshine7032 alot of men are not into sex. I think it's become common in this new age . Also evil men use that as a tool of control.
@melbee5767
@melbee5767 2 жыл бұрын
@@risenshine7032 I was born in the 70s. My mother confided in me that my father used withholding sex as a tool of control it's a common tactic with sociopathic men.
@megl6148
@megl6148 2 жыл бұрын
It’s not the same at all. A man cannot perform if he is not aroused.
@risenshine7032
@risenshine7032 2 жыл бұрын
@@melbee5767 wow, so strange, but of course our world is not as it should be, peoples behavior can be downright bizarre and make no sense
@livingunashamed4869
@livingunashamed4869 2 жыл бұрын
Proverbs 31 woman wasn't a career woman, she worked a little but her home is where she spent most of her day. Taking care of the home is a full time job in itself.
@redhedhik-chik2510
@redhedhik-chik2510 2 жыл бұрын
She was a realtor and an entrepreneur. Hmmm...girlfriend HAD to work it. She definitely was not 'in the home' most of the time.
@Yourbeautypantry
@Yourbeautypantry 2 жыл бұрын
She worked a lot
@325Ray
@325Ray 2 жыл бұрын
You really can't say that some woman like my mom have to work to support her family some woman would be stay at home Mom's if they could but cant
@tandyrichae6194
@tandyrichae6194 2 жыл бұрын
Proverbs 31 woman was not a real historical person. She was an idea
@Yourbeautypantry
@Yourbeautypantry 2 жыл бұрын
Proverbs 31 woman is a template of what a Christian woman should look like. That was what King Lemuel mom told his son to look for in a woman
@steelcity6420
@steelcity6420 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you brother for sharing this video and the last one on men. Very Holy Spirit filled and a true blessing!
@billieduff8118
@billieduff8118 2 жыл бұрын
I'm not settling for any man I do not need . A man to be happy. I'm finally happy.n.i feel free!!!!
@niccole.m
@niccole.m 2 жыл бұрын
I was guilty of #2. I'd been dreaming of getting married since I was around 5 years old. The desire became more prominent in my teens and early 20s, yet it never happened. Now, in my 40s and still single, my desires have shifted. Be it spiritual growth and maturity or sacrificing that desire at the alter, I have accepted my singleness as something God is doing and wanting to do in my life. While marriage is still something I'd be open to if God so desires to give me a husband, I know marriage isn't the end all be all.
@maryguillory2187
@maryguillory2187 2 жыл бұрын
Some of these were a gut punch! Many of them from my past, but at least one still just won't seem to die! I know there's work to be done. Thanks for sharing!
@slevinchannel7589
@slevinchannel7589 2 жыл бұрын
MANY Believers unfortunately believe in what is looked down by the Science-Community and classified officially as ‚Fake-Science’. That is bad. Anti-Science and Fake-Science (blood-related but not identical) are Issues. People are rightfully worried: Anti-Science and Fact-Denial is on the Rise. Especially in the UK and USA. Also, on the same note, it’s an Issue i see on almost all Religious YT-Channels: They dont watch Atheist-Channels… EVER. That is really unhealthy. That is ‚surrounding yourself with Yes-Sayers’ and also ‚creating an Echo-Chamber’ at it’s finest. You know? Those 2 things that all experts warn of? Confining yourself in 1 corner and just 1 corner of the internet?
@maryguillory2187
@maryguillory2187 2 жыл бұрын
@@slevinchannel7589Confused as to why this is a reply when it has nothing to with my comment... not interested in whatever you're selling.
@slevinchannel7589
@slevinchannel7589 2 жыл бұрын
@@maryguillory2187 I was speaking in General about this video here, dude. Amazing how you get confused about this simple act. So confused even you talk now about 'selling' and such. Wow?
@slevinchannel7589
@slevinchannel7589 2 жыл бұрын
@@maryguillory2187 So confused even you talk now about 'selling' and such. Wow?
@sandrac9520
@sandrac9520 2 жыл бұрын
You’re unintentionally making me laugh lol! 🤣 nevertheless, this is so true!! Thank you for keeping it real and calling out US LADIES OUT 💯 men can address women, obviously in a healthy Biblical way, and brother you did that very well!! God bless brother 💙
@reginagrobosz8807
@reginagrobosz8807 2 жыл бұрын
Biblical is very UN-healthy at the core of it.
@siterioffiji7649
@siterioffiji7649 2 жыл бұрын
@@reginagrobosz8807 Interesting. In what way(s) are Biblical rules and concepts unhealthy?
@shannonstarr5758
@shannonstarr5758 2 жыл бұрын
Bold! And so honest. I myself fell into some of these traps before I walked with God. Particularly neglecting my home and family to pursue a career. The results can be devastating.
@las8883
@las8883 2 жыл бұрын
In my experience it’s married people who idolize marriage the most (saying this as a married woman lol)
@lexie02jones25
@lexie02jones25 2 жыл бұрын
Yup
@lameishawest2461
@lameishawest2461 2 жыл бұрын
#2 I'm guilty of#2. God knows I wish I had the wisdom you are sharing in this video in my teens and young adult years. God bless your ministry. You have no idea who it could be helping and sparing.
@whathappensnext2212
@whathappensnext2212 2 жыл бұрын
You were on point. Thank you for your courage. Virtue is something to be practiced and normalized.
@Melissa-nz6oc
@Melissa-nz6oc 2 жыл бұрын
You’re so right of all of these points. I like you’re videos and I’m gonna buy you’re sweater for me and my man! 😊 blessing from the Netherlands.🌷
@gabriellerodriguez140
@gabriellerodriguez140 2 жыл бұрын
Great message. Definitely going to watch again. It was very convicting; especially about being driven by a career.
@doughaynes1048
@doughaynes1048 2 жыл бұрын
I pray 🙏🏻 people find this video useful in their relationships with their partners and especially with their spiritual growth as a couple with God .
@jasmined634
@jasmined634 2 жыл бұрын
I’m guilty of 1 and 2. Others don’t really apply to me since I’m not married yet
@slevinchannel7589
@slevinchannel7589 2 жыл бұрын
MANY Believers unfortunately believe in what is looked down by the Science-Community and classified officially as ‚Fake-Science’. That is bad. Anti-Science and Fake-Science (blood-related but not identical) are Issues. People are rightfully worried: Anti-Science and Fact-Denial is on the Rise. Especially in the UK and USA. So, yeah, stopping to embarass oneself by denying Science and Evolution is obviously a Thing for the List of 'ALL Christians should now stop to do this'. AND: Yeah... stop being ignorant and arrogant to the point where you 'ignore' all Criticism and even just Questions who arent even Criticism. Duh.
@lisawilson9191
@lisawilson9191 2 жыл бұрын
That last point is so important. Because of finances both of my parents worked as I grew up and I spent a lot of time with my grandparents. I know now that my parents were doing what they had to do to keep us all safe and healthy, but as a child I felt unloved and as a young woman in my twenties I’m still dealing with the effects of that.
@emilysmith3636
@emilysmith3636 2 жыл бұрын
Just found your channel and I know God lead me here. I’ll admit I always try to get attention from my husband because I am now a Christian and he is not, so because we are unevenly yoked I feel disconnected. SO thanks for the advice to pray for GOD to fill the void. Thanks 😊
@keke8509
@keke8509 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Definitely got value in this and conviction. May God bless you and everyone who watched!!
@lameishawest2461
@lameishawest2461 2 жыл бұрын
You are on point with all of this!
@lelmo450
@lelmo450 2 жыл бұрын
This was good and shook me up. I had to examine myself. I’m guilty of talking down to my husband, expecting him to affirm me in place of God,
@kaimybendecidayvictoriosa3683
@kaimybendecidayvictoriosa3683 2 жыл бұрын
Me too
@Mygardeofgrief1680
@Mygardeofgrief1680 2 жыл бұрын
Amen...you're not alone there
@milliekatttv
@milliekatttv Жыл бұрын
I done got convicted the first 3 minutes of this video how could I not watch the entire video 🥹🔥🔥🔥💕🫶🏽 thank you! ✝️
@alainalueth9100
@alainalueth9100 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for preaching truth Allen!
@SK-bw2cv
@SK-bw2cv 2 жыл бұрын
Amen pastor! Your last few videos have been life changing.
@barbarad.johnson-me7bc
@barbarad.johnson-me7bc Жыл бұрын
What about narcissists? They act like they are Christians in public, at home, they're only focused on their own needs.
@Jackstar819
@Jackstar819 2 жыл бұрын
Oh yea brother man! On point!!! I used to be guilty of the first two but after growing in the Lord I have turned 360 degrees! Keep up the great work. God bless you and your family 🙏🏽
@_edithjames
@_edithjames 2 жыл бұрын
Was so waiting on this one!!!😅 Thank you so much Allen Parr. You always have something for me.
@STRENGTHFROMABOVE
@STRENGTHFROMABOVE 2 жыл бұрын
"Give, and it will be given to you. A good portion-packed down, firmly shaken, and overflowing-will fall into your lap. The portion you give will determine the portion you receive in return." - Luke 6:38 The Good News: You shouldn't be giving just because you expect things in return, but God does have a way of rewarding His followers.
@adriennebryant2478
@adriennebryant2478 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely true! Thank you for sharing from a place of love and honesty!
@moniquenaidoo2218
@moniquenaidoo2218 2 жыл бұрын
I'm so in love with this video 🥺 love the conviction that comes with the video ♥️ have a blessed day everyone 🙏🏽🕊️
@aliciabeckles1809
@aliciabeckles1809 2 жыл бұрын
I love this list!!! Especially number #1. I thank God for this wisdom…‼️‼️‼️
@velvetdevin2729
@velvetdevin2729 2 жыл бұрын
Heard 👌 ( especially being an insecure person who posts pictures of my face / hair / hats ) 👍 it makes me feel like I'm not supposed to post pictures of myself but I recently thought about the kind of photos I use to take or share and removed a lot of them , especially because I am married and I can not make excuses with The Lord. I have been growing in my faith and my journey and life as a Christian. As my pastor refers to me over the last two years I'm still a " young baby in Christ " I have been saved three years now. I agree with this list and it definitely needed to be shared !
@vanessahill3691
@vanessahill3691 2 жыл бұрын
It Really Made Me look at me the Woman in the 🪞mirror but I don't want to walk away and not make a change
@jemmy924
@jemmy924 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, I enjoyed the video and got value from it! It was fire!🔥Thanks for sharing with us :)
@antoinettemoore976
@antoinettemoore976 2 жыл бұрын
Wish I could give this video 1,000 likes! Such great content and great advice. I'm guilty of putting my love life on the back burner because I was so exhausted from the house work and taking care of the kids. I had an open conversation with my husband about it and he was lovingly understanding but did say he needed some loving lol! Needless to say that I am working on getting back to us!!!
@williamgodfrey2534
@williamgodfrey2534 2 жыл бұрын
Sister you sound like a very good woman and I hope your husband treats you as such. God Bless you and your husband!!!
@risenshine7032
@risenshine7032 2 жыл бұрын
I am a female, and can I just say that this was excellent! Truly I don’t understand why women are not embarrassed with all of these selfies, and thank you for bringing up the demeaning nasty tone of voice, there is nothing uglier...🤐
@Nikki-so7ni
@Nikki-so7ni 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for doing this video. This is a confirmation regarding a situation I was praying about.
@honeysucklemoon6251
@honeysucklemoon6251 2 жыл бұрын
Invaluable information!! These are such true points. I've been married for 22 years to a man I don't click with just because I wanted to be married. I was not the best wife because we were not like minded or spirituality connected. The last 2 years have been spent separated. We have recently been working on becoming friends again. I believe with God's intervention, anything is possible.
@Mygardeofgrief1680
@Mygardeofgrief1680 2 жыл бұрын
Agreed. Well said. It took me many years to grow into my relationship with Jesus and not look to my husband for affirmation.
@nightskyshowers
@nightskyshowers 2 жыл бұрын
As much as I struggle with with being single at times, I've learned the hard way not to settle. Sometimes my family acts like something is wrong because I've hardly dated. Marriage is very serious to me, and I cannot and will not date anyone again because I feel lonely. Yes, I have moments of weakness but I'm learning to call on God. Before I watched this video I started to realize how much I idolize marriage and partly it is because of how a former church emphasized marriage, even more so than the gospel. Going to a biblically sound church does make a difference. Edit: I feel the need to explain this, so I'm going to try. Physical attraction isn't high on my "list" of who I would marry, what attracts me to men isn't their looks, but how they treat those around them. Maybe I'm just weird lol.
@deborahmichelle5698
@deborahmichelle5698 2 жыл бұрын
Hey Ash, I'm going through the same thing. Struggling to be single, yet I don't want to settle. I feel lonely, but I believe that this season of my life has purpose. God said when the time is right He will make it happen. Let's trust in the Lord our God and pray for patience as we wait.
@Sunshine26762
@Sunshine26762 2 жыл бұрын
I can definitely relate! I’ve been tempted to settle but I know that it would be destructive in the long run.
@jessefoster2832
@jessefoster2832 11 ай бұрын
FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON THAT WHOSOEVER SHALL BELIEVETH UNTO HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE JOHN 3:16
@carlgrimeseyepatch27
@carlgrimeseyepatch27 2 жыл бұрын
Guilty of idolizing marriage here! My biggest fear is never finding a spouse and having children.
@katonyasmyth4639
@katonyasmyth4639 2 жыл бұрын
Brother Allen, I've been called everything but a child of God because of my opinion of idolizing marriage. I was married for 16 years to the wrong man because I thought that marriage would change him and thinking that I've "arrived" because I got married. God doesn't want us to have or make idols of people, places or things. The best thing to ever happen to me is having an intimate and individual relationship with the Godhead. People have flaws and make mistakes! Marriage is great, God's way and with the right person. It's very embarrassing seeing women hunt down a man like a dog, thinking about marriage more than anything and thinking that someone is your husband because he said hi, you had a dream about them, etc. I pray that any woman who desires to be married to fall in love with the Godhead, stay focused on the right things, love and forgive yourself and others. God knows what we desire. Just because a man is saved, it doesn't mean that he's God's will for you. You can be unequally yoked with another believer. I love and pray for everyone! ❤️🙏🤗 I'm praying for you, Brother Allen. Keep on obeying the Godhead. 🙏❤️
@mitchhilton1669
@mitchhilton1669 2 жыл бұрын
Wow Tonya! I wish more women were the same minded as you,your the type a man would love to run into. Don't let anyone change the way u are.. Blessed.
@katonyasmyth4639
@katonyasmyth4639 2 жыл бұрын
@@mitchhilton1669 Hello my brother, I'm just trying to live a life that's pleasing to God. I thank you for your encouraging words. It's not an easy journey. God's grace is sufficient for us!
@rebeccasevere
@rebeccasevere 2 жыл бұрын
Do not watch this at work. I’m dying of laughter at “I said I’m fine.” 🤣🤣🤣
@graciouslexxie2003
@graciouslexxie2003 2 жыл бұрын
Me too
@oxendine72
@oxendine72 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for Allen for posting this video, #2 really hit home.
@lauracummings3437
@lauracummings3437 2 жыл бұрын
What wonderfully wise points Alan to bring us ladies attention. You definately nailed it. Very valuable. I am guilty . My flesh is at constant battle within me in this topic towards my husband. What a lovely reminder of how the Lord loves a gentle and quiet spirit. I often have to ask the Holy Spirit to help me to have the quiet and gentle nature. Submitting to my husband and ultimately to God is just so beautiful and I want to obey . I have no excusd when I dont it is a daily battle in my flesh. Thankyou for taking the time to do this video. Much love in Christ, from our home here in northern Ireland to yours Alan.
@shareenladd1048
@shareenladd1048 2 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad you pointed out that the man can be saved AND be physically attractive. I was just telling someone that I don’t have to settle just because he save. But if I’m not attractive to him, we won’t be able to “worship” naked and not ashamed! I’m just saying. Attraction is Important
@slevinchannel7589
@slevinchannel7589 2 жыл бұрын
MANY Believers unfortunately believe in what is looked down by the Science-Community and classified officially as ‚Fake-Science’. That is bad. Anti-Science and Fake-Science (blood-related but not identical) are Issues. People are rightfully worried: Anti-Science and Fact-Denial is on the Rise. Especially in the UK and USA. So, yeah, stopping to embarass oneself by denying Science and Evolution is obviously a Thing for the List of 'ALL Christians should now stop to do this'. Also, on the same note, it’s an Issue i see on almost all Religious YT-Channels: They dont watch Atheist-Channels… EVER. That is really unhealthy. That is ‚surrounding yourself with Yes-Sayers’ and also ‚creating an Echo-Chamber’ at it’s finest. You know? Those 2 things that all experts warn of? Confining yourself in 1 corner and just 1 corner of the internet? Yeah... stop being ignorant and arrogant to the point where you 'ignore' all Criticism and even just Questions who arent even Criticism. Duh.
@eogma7848
@eogma7848 2 жыл бұрын
Regarding women staying home...I remember attending Grace in the 1970's. John MacArthur preaching from Ephesians about roles of men and women. When he got to the women/mothers....he said "Nobody's home." Boy, that hit me hard as a single young woman....when I got married the Lord impressed on my husband and me to live off one income so I could stay at home with children that He may bless us with. Some people criticized me I was not using my college degree. Oh well. Almost 40 years later, I don't regret that choice. We have 2 adult children who are doing well. Okay, don't all tell me I'm living in the dark ages. This was a clear leading by the Lord in our lives, so if some of you disagree with my choice, leave it alone.
@eogma7848
@eogma7848 2 жыл бұрын
@sheila11977 We all make choices. For the believer, God promises in Romans 8 that He will work out everything for good for those who love Him. Children or none, working mom or not, He will intervene and provide. It's all a matter of the heart plus trusting in Him and His Word.
@MsMockingbird06
@MsMockingbird06 2 жыл бұрын
Being a stay at home mom is honorable and a blessing. It’s wonderful that your family was able to have that experience. Thank you for sharing your story.
@kat64470
@kat64470 2 жыл бұрын
I never found a husband that could afford this. But I wish I had. I enjoy keeping a home organized and straight.
@risenshine7032
@risenshine7032 2 жыл бұрын
I think it was very brave to obey God‘s word and I think it’s wonderful that you had a degree to fall back on just in case!!
@anjieobasa1871
@anjieobasa1871 2 жыл бұрын
I like this but don’t forget that there is no command for women to stay at home while her husband works.
@lmcc756
@lmcc756 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. Take it from someone who so desperately wanted validation that I married a man who couldn't care less about my needs or feelings. After 20 years, it's still an incredible emotional struggle. I wish I had seen a video like this when I was young.
@flyinggirl3121
@flyinggirl3121 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for both these videos! This one really encouraged me!
@thulimatjeni7256
@thulimatjeni7256 2 жыл бұрын
Finally.💃💃 Been waiting 🤣🤣🤣
@precious1653
@precious1653 2 жыл бұрын
You really aced the "I SAID I'M FINE!" 😂 the facial expression too Thanks brother Allan for this! It was amusing but convicting as well
@kaimybendecidayvictoriosa3683
@kaimybendecidayvictoriosa3683 2 жыл бұрын
Same
@melthomas7841
@melthomas7841 2 жыл бұрын
Loved the first point, it was really relatable and eye-opening, thanks Allen! :)
@AllGoodeGifts
@AllGoodeGifts 2 жыл бұрын
Pastor, you are spot on as usual! As an older woman who teaches younger women it breaks my heart to see and hear all of these things in the women I counsel. I learned the hard way that these issues are not God honoring and detrimental to their walk. Thank you so much!
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