How self improvement ruined my life.

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You're not broken, you're not doing it wrong, you're not an idiot, you're just in a process. This is about how self improvement ruined my life before it got better. You need to restructure your foundation and that process begins once you go on a spiritual journey, self improvement, self help journey etc.
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@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

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@siryoucantdothat9743 Жыл бұрын

I’ve been going deep into personalities theories to understand why i felt the way i felt and the feelings you described was what pushed me to be better “ to individuate” and be a better human while everyone else want to remain the piece of shit they always wanted to remain ( in my view in the past ) nowadays I understand that becoming a better human is a drive for some personalities and for the most that drive is not built in them so they have another goals for life that is different than mine so i made peace with myself eventually and the world and stopped feeling the guilt of not being enough , in socionics there is a temperament in a group called “ Delta “ that group is occupied with what you’ve describing you possibly gonna find yourself in one of the descriptions of either EII or IEE

@siryoucantdothat9743 Жыл бұрын

So in that system each personality was born with gifts and specific goal that suite their nature and cognitive functions so knowing your type eventually will enable you to make fulfilling life choices

@karenblack4702 Жыл бұрын

Love this x ❤

@shawnlove4502 Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@Anonymous-cg7od Жыл бұрын

Maybe try not brushing your teeth so hard and use a soft bristle toothbrush beautiful soul

@thaoariana1725 Жыл бұрын

Self-improvement is not about making more money. It is about ACTUALLY living to the best of your soul, and it is a never-ending process. Thank you.

@eyeswideopenpod Жыл бұрын

Yes!!! I totally agree. 💖

@heisenberg3206 Жыл бұрын

but making more money is a major part of self improvement tho

@BlacksmithTWD Жыл бұрын

@@heisenberg3206 Nope, though it might be a consequence of self improvement. You can also win the lottery and gain a lot of money by sheer luck without any self improvement.

@stefanisilva2493 Жыл бұрын

@@BlacksmithTWD But gaining the lottery will generate a huge amount of improvement in life and even allow the time, stability and mental health for making other improvements possible.

@darkgardener9577 Жыл бұрын

Maybe not making more money, but being better with your personal finances so that you don't get yourself in trouble is an important part of it. A lot of people have so much stress and problems they literally do to themselves because their finances are out of control.

@acidgambit8138 Жыл бұрын

It's an addiction honestly. In the end I got tired watching all these self improvement videos. I burnt out and stopped. Tired of people telling me what I should be doing. In the end, I did what felt right and whatever I did......if it is not screwing other people over....then I did it.

@thehawk5141 Жыл бұрын

Best way to be.

@martinepeters9891 Жыл бұрын

Self improvement is not about watching videos. It's about getting away from KZfaq.

@bluegiant13 Жыл бұрын

Watching self improvement videos is not self improvement lol.

@rossmiller2975 Жыл бұрын

A lot of people use self-help as a crutch. Instead of actually applying the advice you get, most people feel like they're accomplishing something by watching the videos and reading the books.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thank you for sharing

@Nemo-uq5yf Жыл бұрын

True. The older I get the more and more I realize that life is all about trying things out, see what works, see what doesn't, and move on. It's the process of becoming. And each journey is different from person to person.

@dofnatungs1607 Жыл бұрын

"You're not broken, you're not doing it wrong, you're not an idiot, you're just in a process." is such an incredible thing to someone who thinks they're inadequate. A lot of people who want to better themselves go into it seeing all these influencers who have already gone through the troubles they had to in order to be the people they are. People forget it's not a sprint, but a marathon spreading over your entire life. Thank you for your message and thank you even more for this quote, I'll try and use it when it seems to be an appropriate reminder.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thank you

@Note_Creator Жыл бұрын

@B Na take a deep breath and let go of the frustration and what other ppl do. Stop carrying the burden of others.

@ericlarousse1149 Жыл бұрын

Another thing people forget is no one way is right. I have people who thought I was crazy who now respect me or are jealous of the very things the criticized or laughed at.

@JamieJacksonati Жыл бұрын

“It’s a constant journey of refinement and we never reach the end”. Yes! Amazing.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thank you for being here

@HeartFeltGesture Жыл бұрын

You can reach the end and complete the process. Enlightenment. The process is not just eternal struggle, refinement and improvement without end, that would be a type of hell, a kind of ever-becoming rainbow chase, that is the dream state, not the awakened State. There a Divine State reached that is obviously the Truth, Total Love-Bliss Fulfillment, the Heart is Complete, Satisfaction is Infinite and Known, without doubt, desire is no more, the search is no more, the feeling of separation from All that Is, is no more, the feeling of need is no more, fear of death, dilemma and confusion are no more. Pure Beingness Is Known. The eventual death of the body is merely a Witnessed formality, a process In Consciousness.

@Jakub98x Жыл бұрын

Meaning of life without ending: self-improvement

@angelaengle12 Жыл бұрын

I guess if there was an end, we wouldn't like it anyway and get bored. Doesn't mean you can't master something though.

@HeartFeltGesture Жыл бұрын

@@angelaengle12 You presume the "end" would be anything like what you knew.

@marothimohale4539 Жыл бұрын

"You will suffer to the extent you blame outside circumstances"- Budha

@KT-dj4iy Жыл бұрын

Pretty sure the Buddha never said that. But maybe "Budha" did. 😉

@marothimohale4539 Жыл бұрын

@@KT-dj4iy petty! but ok.

@Morgue12free Жыл бұрын

@@KT-dj4iy :D hahahaha

@KT-dj4iy Жыл бұрын

@@marothimohale4539 so, you add to the massive amounts of false Buddha quotes on the internet, thereby contributing to the confusion surrounding Gautama's profoundly important *actual* teaching, but then when someone calls you on it, giving you the chance to undo the damage, you call them petty?

@FallenTimber Жыл бұрын

“Suffering is wishing things were other than they are.” The Buddha did (supposedly) say this. Though frankly I have doubts that he said many or any of the quotes attributed to him in their exact form. Having said that, I feel like your quote falls in line with Buddhist thought. Blaming outside circumstances will lead to suffering. But so will any kind of blaming, including blaming oneself. Acceptance is the key.

@kkmik5933 Жыл бұрын

Self improvement doesn't require TRYING so hard, just let life flow through you.

@SerenityWithSelf Жыл бұрын

This video articulated the sadness I feel around the isolation I’m currently experiencing. Thank you, I’m beginning to do things I truly want on my own and then meeting other souls on the path! This was so validating to hear and I really enjoyed your storytelling!

@celiacresswell6909 Жыл бұрын

Yup I think it feels like grief. I don’t think the human animal likes it much!

@oooo1743 Жыл бұрын

You are beautiful soul❤❤.I feel you.i want to do it my way

@vanessawest1664 Жыл бұрын

Hi! I’m sorry you are feeling isolated :( I know the feeling. It’s really hard to make new friends I feel

@The_Life_Explorer Жыл бұрын

Same here... I think the amount of _courage_ required to take that step is _huge_ ... I've been amazed to discover that my tribe really _is_ out there!

@Phxrmacy Жыл бұрын

I remember back in 2020 when this "spiritual awakening" shit happened on the internet, I got in self improvement but I wasn't actually improving in this physical world at all. I was just stuck in my head but I'm glad I woke up from that "trance" and actually started levelling up. Internet is full of distractions STAY FOCUSED!

@Greekhistoryyy Жыл бұрын

Same

@Yelhsamation Жыл бұрын

Actually...it started around 2012. EDIT: I know it originally started back in the 60/70s, but I am not referring to that. I am talking about the recent resurgence. There were pockets of people(including myself) who were on this stuff back then. The difference is that in 2020 people had no choice, but to stop and pay attention to the world around them. Most people were living in autopilot mode with their jobs, and life. The events in 2020 just forced people out of that state. Once they were out of that state they were finally open to seeing information from a different perspective.

@Greekhistoryyy Жыл бұрын

@@Yelhsamation i on the other hand first time watched eric ho vidoes. And i felt really is it even a thing. I was really kind of happy it in. Manifestation videos. Its been almost 4 and a half years. N yet i cannot see anything

@PracticallyMagic88 Жыл бұрын

❤

@Cwesade Жыл бұрын

👏🏽

@y04a Жыл бұрын

"If it sucks you're, doing it right". Thanks brother. I'm trying to quit drinking and hiding from the world. I was laid off due to lack of work and it's was a shock. I was living pay check to pay check, and now the debt I've allowed to happen will take me years to get out of. Just trying to find a way to actually go in a new direction here. Thanks for the tips.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

Sending you blessings on the journey my friend. Thank you for showing up.

@mercedesharrison5550 Жыл бұрын

Trying to quit drinking as well. We'll get there!

@pinkpanther0001 Жыл бұрын

I feel you bro❤

@CaramelBubu Жыл бұрын

You can check Marisaa Peer. She has trained a lot of people around the world and according to her her method, you can quit drinking after only one session. I also had one session with a woman living in my city. Hope it helps!

@Suncircle-ls4hl Жыл бұрын

hey, from the words you're saying, I feel you are still beating yourself up. Maybe for the wrong doings in your life, I have to say, I was in the same place as you before. But! Please forgive yourself unconditionally, we're not perfect. We are human beings, we are flawed and it's OK. Please smile towards the mirror and say, I will love you and respect you. I trust the inner strength and power in you. and take the job opportunities appear in your life without judgement. I‘m sure it will lead you to your prosperity and happiness. The most important is not how other people see you, it's how you do not give up yourself and know deeply inside that, you are truly deserve to live a happy and healthy life. DON"T be upset, practice trust in yourself, good luck are going in your way😀 the best wishes!

@fuzzyfriendsrescuevoluntee3036 Жыл бұрын

You sound like me when I was in my 20s. All true. But you're going to wake up at 60 and realize you wish you had compromised with those friends and met them half way... and you'll realize that you are still you, always have been.

@Andy-io4ez Жыл бұрын

Man, this is honestly so powerful. I haven’t found my people since I got sober 5 years ago and so much of it has been horrible. Since watching this video, I have went to a meditation class yesterday and a yoga class tonight. You’ve made me realise that my fear of meeting the right people has stopped me from meeting my people. The last two days have been so helpful man. Best of luck with your channel and the richest blessings to you on your journey. Much love from Belfast. Thank you brother.

@benjaminsmith4968 Жыл бұрын

Keep looking for them!!! Be critical about how open you are to discovering your people. Almost every interaction is a chance to identify your people. Keep down this path, you’re doing amazing things.

@Andy-io4ez Жыл бұрын

Thank you man, I appreciate that.

@zacharykim295 Жыл бұрын

Youre not alone, Im trying to find my people too.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thank you andy, hope all is well

@OrthodoxDevelopment 3 ай бұрын

be careful withyoga: look up father spyridon bailey, the religion of antichrist

@witchofoe Жыл бұрын

i started that journey last year, when i suddenly had that feeling that my life was boring, i was bored of my toxic friends, bored of my studies, bored of me.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thanks for sharing

@arelyflores6023 Жыл бұрын

How is it going now?

@xxlookalive239x3 Жыл бұрын

@@arelyflores6023its going good for me you see life in a different way

@SaveWesternCivilisation Жыл бұрын

Glorious and inspiring stuff, old chap! I'm living my dream life on a tiny yacht - flat broke, but with a heart full of adventure. I've lived in cars, in cemeteries, in stairwells, sheds, park benches, bus shelters, on islands, and in caves. A life of adventure is rewarding beyond belief! And occasionally cold and wet. But watching endless sunrises, sunsets, the stars every night - gaw blimey, it's the only life worth living. Huzzah for a life of adventure!

@MALAK-dm7tp Жыл бұрын

Lucky you😍

@elbruhmomentonumerodos9227 Жыл бұрын

In cemeteries, how?

@musheopeaus4125 Жыл бұрын

@@elbruhmomentonumerodos9227 basement warrior

@elbruhmomentonumerodos9227 Жыл бұрын

@@musheopeaus4125 What, I just asked how he slept in cemeteries. Not hating. Seems like a fair question to me

@SaveWesternCivilisation Жыл бұрын

@@elbruhmomentonumerodos9227 There's usually plenty of grass to lay down on, and plenty of spaces between the graves. It's a peaceful place if there's no rain, and you usually don't get disturbed. You'll see ocassional will o' the wisps, 'cos the dead can't stop farting ;-)

@Stew282 Жыл бұрын

The idea of letting go of your old self, letting parts of you die, is the part I never realised. Thanks for pointing it out!

@Queenbg1 Жыл бұрын

This is OK, but should you let also the connections, habits, things, promises, dreams related to your old self to die too? Even the relationship?

@Stew282 Жыл бұрын

@@Queenbg1 You don't have to let go of your old self entirely, just the bits you want to change. Keep the good connections, let the bad ones die, keep the good habits etc. It's like pruning a rose bush - cutting away the dead or unwanted parts so that the bush as a whole can thrive. No need to kill the whole bush!

@Queenbg1 Жыл бұрын

@@Stew282 I see. Hmm, my case seems to be a little bit different - an existential crisis hit me hard 4 months ago and I cannot get out of it. The worst part is that a half of me currently cannot accept the flaws of my wife, but have done it 16 years already. So, am I a new version of me or just a confused part of me, because of the crisis? The video is very inspirational, but maybe I cannot relate fully to it... However, I'm in a search of answers, so thanks for providing me such!

@branddrivenipad4772 Жыл бұрын

Keep watching these videos and reading different teachings. Just like this video resonated with you, you will find others that help you navigate through whatever you are ready for next. Maybe start with William Whitecloud or Gary Zukav and see what connects.

@slowdiver5732 Жыл бұрын

@@Queenbg1I’m in a similar situation. I’ve had so many existential crises I’ve lost count! I’ve been in a relationship with my partner and father of my child for 14.5 years now! But there is so much about him that clashes with my personality, especially now that I’m trying to live a healthy life, stopped drinking, stopped doing recreational partying, working out and meditating daily. It’s who I am now. Meanwhile he is still the same person he was when we met. Still gaming with his friends most of his free time like he’s still 18 years old. Drinking every night. But we live together and we have been finding ways to make it work thus far which I feel extremely grateful about! There is just a part of me that is so unfulfilled romantically and sexually. I’m not a good liar and I have too guilty of a conscience to cheat. I just don’t know if I should take steps to completely uproot my whole life (and my son’s) to embark on a life I feel is more aligned with my truth, or continue with peace, stability, predictability, but pretty much dead in the passion department. I’m 43, I’m not deluding myself into thinking I’m still young. Changing would be the biggest gamble I could take. If it didn’t work out I could end up more alone than ever, a single mom, probably have to move back home with parents, all of which would send me back to a dark place. Anyone have any advice or words of wisdom for me? ❤

@chrislorenflores4523 Жыл бұрын

your vibes are insanely peaceful, it's crazy how just tuning into someones vibrational energy and frequency of their voice via this means (KZfaq) can create such positive impact. Thanks for posting! Sending love.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thanks Chris

@clendithcabase3847 Жыл бұрын

I cried listening to you… i am in the moment of feeling broken because I want to improve my self…thank you for waking me up… that this is just a process… that i have to partake

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

sending a hug

@jasonsha6844 Жыл бұрын

I just wanna get layed in love with a beautiful woman

@normapadro420 Жыл бұрын

I like your video. I became an over achiever, because I wanted to see how far I could go in life. Only by choice. Afterwards I noticed that I was still disrespected by others. It doesn't matter where you are in life people will never treat you the way you wish. I'm still holding on to what I feel inside. I still think differently. Every time I watch the news, or a video here it opens my eyes to other realities. There is no way around things. I'm very careful about what comes into my mind, and how I think. I stopped caring about fitting in anywhere since I was a little kid. I began to think for myself. Not what I was told by anyone.

@paulbrown5839 Жыл бұрын

Don't cast away childhood friends so easily because you cannot ever replace those shared experiences of growing up together. Great video - all 'normal' lads who have travelled extensively and then returned 'home' experience this. You neither fit in completely where you migrated TO, nor where you migrated FROM. The experience changed you and set you on a new path, they used to call it broadening the mind. In fact, if you travel enough you will lose your sense of 'home', which personally I am not sure is a good thing. The cost of travelling is that those who stayed behind bonded further and you missed out on that. Rather than move back 'home' , maybe it's actually easier to move to another new place nearby the old 'home' and settle there (maybe a neighbouring country that you have extended family), it's very hard to return to the old country after spending significant time in a new place. I'm more than two decades into my travels. Enjoy ....

@otoyoto7153 Жыл бұрын

Yeah I strongly disagreed with that part. If you have people you're tight with since childhood it's a bad, bad idea. You might be part of that 1% most charismatic people who can become close friends with new people you meet on "your journey" that you decided started at like 27 but let's be real, most people watching this video aren't that guy and should be immensely grateful for even having one or two fiends that they share any real loyalty with, because that' just not gonna fall into your lap on your travels. Those people this guy met on his travels would not stick their neck out for him, they have zero loyalty at all I can guarantee that.

@paulbrown5839 Жыл бұрын

@@otoyoto7153 You are spot on. As you get older its harder because most people of a similar age don't have the time to put into the friendship. Close friendships are made before you turn 25 mainly. That's why if you are going to emigrate you are better off doing it when you are young. I know people who emigrated in their mid-late 30s and they found it very hard to make new friends and they left behind good long term friendships - this is hard to get over and if you put down roots with a local partner in the new place, now you are locking yourself into your new lonely setup. People like this never really settle, they live in a sort of pain in paradise. Personally, I don't mind spending a lot of time alone - i'm a loner - but if you need a tight circle, don't emigrate when you are no longer young - unless you are unusually charismatic (or good looking), as you said.

@rchaelk2319 Жыл бұрын

Many people travel away from their home country because of money/work/politic problems. And spending time in the new country you know you may not be welcomed, but you still have to work... When enough time passes you still an outlier because of any accent related speech, but home you too are viewed weird, because you had started to adapt the new countries' custom on your life and NOW here you are seen weird too. What a pain. Always feeling that it's too late to belong somewhere now.

@paulbrown5839 Жыл бұрын

@@rchaelk2319 This is the cost of migration. This is why you gotta make it in 5 years or go home. Don't spend 10-20 years and then go home - you cannot put that behind you and carry on.

@peachesandpoets Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you lot are lucky to have good friends who encourage you to grow. Not everybody has that. Videos aren't made for YOUR exact circumstance. Sheesh

@csongorgedai8927 5 ай бұрын

Maybe the feeling of lacking something is the feeling that you need God

@ivrz Жыл бұрын

That's very well put. Irish too, living abroad, still on this road at 65. There isn't an ending somewhere so make the most of the process

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

@bluffermuffin1 Жыл бұрын

This is one of those videos that comes out of nowhere, cuts through all of the fluff that you find elsewhere and tells you like it is. Much appreciated.

@evaweiss132 Жыл бұрын

Vanessa, I felt the same amazing way. Take care.

@unkn0wnmortaL Жыл бұрын

“Self improvement is a dangerous form of vanity.” -Alan watts

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thanks for sharing!

@clairepurcell7577 Жыл бұрын

This is so helpful to hear. I was in that state of confusion you mentioned on returning to old places after change, and have been blaming people around me for not caring and then getting more depressed in doing so, thinking they should want to grow in the ways i do-- but you are so right, it is fine and it is okay. Thank you for sharing this 💗

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thank you for your vulnerability

@Mandance Жыл бұрын

Happened the same to me, went to a retreat and there was so much love and community and I came back to town and realized I can’t live this life anymore. I’m still in this process of figuring out what to do but I think I will also quit my job, and do some traveling or staying in some other retreats to connect with myself more.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thanks for sharing

@jozefinszasz7038 Жыл бұрын

which retreat do you go to? i love this!

@reyne8424 Жыл бұрын

Once you are more grounded in yourself and your body, you will find it easier to navigate the crazy parts of civilisation. I’ve found that there is always something I have in common with others. You just have to be open to people and their perspective, especially when you don’t understand them at first.

@YonKat24 Жыл бұрын

Much luck and happiness on your path 🙏😊

@Ben-or1db Жыл бұрын

I turned 25 recently, i live in a countryside town in Spain, I recently started going to the city more often after connecting with people I met on the internet, these people make me feel myself when in their presence, they encourage healthy habits. My town friends are always doing the same thing, drinking and partying, there is more to life than that. To anyone who is reading this don't be scared to change your ways, embrace it!

@joshuaespinoza7175 Жыл бұрын

I do, I’m just frugal and worried about gas money😂 when going to see my new friends that are “healthy”.

@Yourmomslovehandles Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing Ben. Happy to hear you’re doing good. Blessing brother. My name is Desmon.

@Ben-or1db Жыл бұрын

@@Yourmomslovehandles nice to meet you too mate 😊

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

beautiful Ben. Thank you!!!

@ericp1625 Жыл бұрын

This is spot on! I have been on this journey for bout 10 years. It is a letting go that happens over time and can feel like it is taking forever. Looking back, it really had to take the time it has.

@Hally_sally Жыл бұрын

David thanks for this video. As i go through my divorce at 32 with two small children. Today i have cried at the changes i need to undertake to build the life for my kids and I.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thank you

@Metaphoria_Music Жыл бұрын

Sending you a big and comforting internet-hug, there is something better meant for you so keep your head up until it arrives 🤗❤

@Mehica84 Жыл бұрын

Be strong, wish u all the best.

@dudegoodman Жыл бұрын

37 and going through the same. The end of a 14-year relationship over in the blink of an eye. Stay strong friend.

@crizise Жыл бұрын

Going through the same, at my 35. Two kids who don't want to talk with me because of their mother who constantly say them I don't need them...

@katrinapurser2021 Жыл бұрын

I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear this 🙏🏻 I’ve been on this journey for 8 years now. I experienced being ostracized by my friendship group early on, it hurt because I still care for them. However another friendship group that stuck with me were my school friends, I returned from 2 years away and they were there to welcome me home. They were my only friends in my home town for quite a while, so I put up with being the “weird” one in the group, the odd one out, the eccentric one and started to notice over time that they were bullying me for my differences. It took 8 years, but I have finally cut ties, given up the idea that they might join me in my growth, let them be them, and let myself walk free from their restraints. I made space for new friends more aligned to me, and low and behold they are showing up 💫 trust the process.

@sliceofpie1741 Жыл бұрын

happy for you. Remember being alone on a spiritual path is much better than the company of a fool.

@ReformedWhiteKnight Жыл бұрын

@@sliceofpie1741 What spirituality are you talking about exactly? It’s not explained, do you have faith in … ? I am just curious …

@ReformedWhiteKnight Жыл бұрын

What kind of ‘journey‘ are you talking about? What were you looking for or was it the journey itself you wanted to celebrate? What is the outcome / the fruits of that journey? Did it lead to finding a suitable partner? What do you feel are ‘restrains’ from people around you? I just ask because it all sounded a bit ‘foggy‘… couldn’t think of a better word! ;-)

@Nuggiez-cz3eh Жыл бұрын

@@ReformedWhiteKnight journey of learning from the problems you face instead of allowing them to tear your life apart, polishing your skills for the next time. Called journey of self improvement for better lead in life. If you’re someone who sees these ‘problems’ as ‘opportunities’ then believe me my friend you’ve come far in life and more closer to the truth by being prepared than being scared.

@ReformedWhiteKnight Жыл бұрын

@@Nuggiez-cz3eh but what is that truth you are talking about and why does it seem important to you? And what is the goal, what would be the ideal self improved person? What would they look like and what would they do in your opinion, and why wouldn’t you do this now if you have an idea of such a ‘transcendent ideal’? On that thought wouldn’t Jesus Christ have impersonated such an ideal person? I know people cringe when they hear that because the TV and movies and media have told us that he wasn’t that great and that we are all basically pretty much perfect, we only need to embrace and love our selfs and imperfections! Without the need to really improve anything. So we have now a better understanding about what constitutes an ideal we should be striving for … I personally don’t think problems are meant to be opportunities and who would create those opportunities for us anyway? They might much more be on obstacle, a pain, a challenge, a suffering, a sacrifice we have to make in order to become a wiser person. There seem to be no growth, no achievement in life without such a sacrifice. Some people though try to use shortcuts like praying to crystals or simply trying to manifest things without making any sacrifice in the real world or even wanting to compromise with any of their lifestyle choices… 🤷🏻‍♂️ By why exactly would any of that matter? Why even spend time and effort on such a self improvement program if there is nothing else for us than to live a finite live on a little ball racing through endless space (alledgedly) and non of what we do would ever have any further consequences anyway ….

@charlieadams9318 Жыл бұрын

Man, i am so happy that i clicked on your video. To be honest, i found myself a little agitated when i read the title. Im currently 52 days into my new journey. Gaining spiritual strength day by day. Thank you for sharing this. God bless 🙏

@nodistortions Жыл бұрын

Congratulations on all the views my friend. I can see your speaking from the heart!

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thank you so much!

@brownjh91 Жыл бұрын

I felt so much encouragement from this -- thank you for being vulnerable and sharing.

@harrietimoukhuede3019 Жыл бұрын

I spent a few months taking part in an ocean race and I completely get the culture shock of coming home to a city having been in open water and not seeing anyone else except your fellow crew members for several weeks. Suddenly to be confronted by all this activity and hundreds of people is too overwhelming.

@CreativelyWarped Жыл бұрын

You've hit every nail on the head for me! So true for my life up to this point. KZfaq recommended this and I'm so grateful for you :)

@juliobarrios2520 Жыл бұрын

Here today gone tommorow. No amount of money can't be taken to the afterlife. No amount of friends can help you face death alone. Live. Live.

@alivemagic5 Жыл бұрын

Man, You are real!!! Why so not much subscribers after 40s videos! You have so outstanding and interesting content!!! More people should discover your channel! Have a nice day!!

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

i don't know, algorithms etc. thanks for your kind words

@verenamiller2648 Жыл бұрын

So well put. Thank you! You speak right out of my soul. At times it feels so damn hard. But I see more and more the bright side of finding myself and my direction as well as letting go of things and people that don't align anymore.

@cutzymccall7675 Жыл бұрын

When I started meditating every day , put some addictions into remission, lost a lot of weight and entered a life of solitude as an artist, writer and psychic advisor, I knew a lot of my family would not understand because my goals and values changed drastically, but I love this process and believe in myself. I am a very social person but I find lots of people all over the world - including my wonderful clients and fellow artists - who celebrate each others’ passions and ever-changing creativity, peace and happiness daily. I feel so fortunate not to have stayed in the “model” expected of me. Every day is precious in a way it wasn’t before as the same-old-same-old. I needed to find a way to make every day a miracle -not “perfect” - but amazing, come what may!Thanks for this lovely video about your new life. It inspires me to keep being “new.”

@outtatheashez6636 Жыл бұрын

Very encouraging to hear this message! I've been feeling lots of stirring and kind of that dead and feeling for about 8 months now in my current hometown of Vancouver, Washington. Ever since my son moved out to pursue his music career.... I've been in my hometown for 18 years and kept trying to make things work. Realize I just need to be grateful for what I have but the stirring & the feeling of discontentment and something greater than me calling me out would not go away... So me and my dog took a road trip to follow the sun and see what's out there and we ended up making connections and finding an amazing community on on 500 acres in the sunshine where I'm going to be teaching yoga and massage. It's a complete upgrade from my current life. It feels like home and while I'm in transition still, I'm way more excited to be here where the energy is moving and growing and evolving. And I'm with like-minded people than back home where things are comfortable but I'm in stuck energy....... I feel like I just jumped timelines and I'm on a whole other planet and I'm loving it 🫶☀️🐍🤙🙏✌️

@eyeswideopenpod Жыл бұрын

I love this! Good for you for listening to that feeling and doing something about it. Too many people feel the same and just deal with it then depression sets in. I'm so happy for you that you're going where that energy is calling you to be! Yay! Sending lots of love and positive vibes.

@innerpeacewithdenise111 Жыл бұрын

You have a beautiful way of sharing your words. It was like reading a good book, I didn’t want to put it down. So in flow and so much energy between the words. So with you dear brother Thank you for creating this. Good job! 😁💜🌟

@henricooper1516 Жыл бұрын

You just can't imagine how great it was to come across your video, priceless! I have been at life improvement thing for 6months 8days, and yes it sucks bad, lost most of everything that i thought had meaning, but non the less feels great to have dreams,goals and and wanting to make it happen for me.

@anna-lenanordin4808 Жыл бұрын

So beautiful of you to share your struggle with your ”awakening”❤️🙏🌸 I think all of us who have choosed or been more or less forced in to the awakening process has been struggling a lot even though you know it’s the only way to go. Because when you once step into your ”new world” there is no way back to the old. You loose old friends, you cannot even think for a second going back to your old job etc etc. But most of the time it is HAPPY time❤️🙏🌸 Good luck with everything and thank you for sharing your journey to others that might need to hear this ❤️🙏😇🥰

@RobbyFindlay-uq2dy Жыл бұрын

I love your approach to this subject. It's good to note that there are ups downs in any life even one of self improvement, everything has an opposite. When things are falling apart maybe they're just falling into place. We'll done.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thank you 2

@jennsuicune Жыл бұрын

Ow, I love what you are saying, I find it very beautiful 🥰

@carrielynnhoward4599 Жыл бұрын

Thank you. I needed this today. I moved away from home about seven years ago to get away from a toxic environment. I lost my best friend because of my decision to move away. I lost most of my old friends and acquaintances. Been feeling lost and holding onto them and the past. I need to let myself move forward and let those connections stay back home and in the past.

@PracticallyMagic88 Жыл бұрын

You got this 😊

@Julidulia Жыл бұрын

Yeeees, i got the same thoughts, my life wasnt bad, i just wanted to be better person but ended up judging myself more and more, and ruining my selfesteem because i wasn’t changing as i though i was going to, i actually started to believe i have some sort of issues and just started to feel more and more stressed and not myself even more and more, there should be limit in everything, trying to self improve might change into becoming toxic towards yourself, but after that you see whats actually has to be changed and what’s not, just remember to love yourself before deciding to change something

@Snappypantsdance Жыл бұрын

Boy, I needed to hear this! And imagine I’m not the only one. I’m 48 and have been through major life changes for years now and am becoming discouraged at all of the failure. This was just very timely for me, and I thank you. I’m sharing it to my kids too.

@DJGra-jy711 Жыл бұрын

You need God .. Christ .. not a feel good Philosophy... your kids !!!!! You are distracting them as well now ... Please turn to God ... He has you engraved in the palm of His hand ...

@parisiansparkle Жыл бұрын

this is cute !! this is not a feel good philosophy, this IS philosophy !! I am 49 and no kids... on the process to become myself. enjoy the journey. God is here right now watching.

@Snappypantsdance Жыл бұрын

@@DJGra-jy711 what in the world?? I am a Christian. My dad died, my husband died, my uncle that I do life with has heart problems, my brother went off the rails with PTSD. Just because one believes in God doesn’t mean that they won’t have hardship and feel discouraged and confused. God is even big enough that we can feel angry with Him at times I believe. You made a rather large wrong assumption here. Please stay in your lane. And I didn’t hear anything about his life philosophy that is anti God… Shall we turn things like house-cleaning into a religious experience too?? I was rather raised that way- in a cult and in church 3x a week. We called deviled eggs “angel eggs” etc. Am I religious enough for you now?

@igordasunddas3377 Жыл бұрын

@@DJGra-jy711 oh c'mon, I thought we grew out of believing in imaginary beings. Religion is just another way of manipulation and control.

@fran2911 Жыл бұрын

@@DJGra-jy711 You need to shut up.

@Earthlovesecrets Жыл бұрын

The journey to spirituality can be very lonely, but we are on a path that we need to be on, for ourselves and yes as you say we definitely can keep our family and loved ones while meeting new people in our vibe, cut out those who just don’t resonate anymore

@joshuaworman4022 Жыл бұрын

i honestly dissagree that self help means you have to dissown parts of yourself. and that people have to be dumped.

@jamie.miller.inspiring Жыл бұрын

This is the most realistic take on the journey to find ourselves, i died and returned last year which absolutely changed my life because of what i experienced words cannot describe. I wouldn't change a thing because I understand why i experienced everything i did prior to this moment as i realised every experience in life is simply that an experience to learn and grow from to find what i actually enjoy and want more of and the opposite. Especially learning how to honestly communicate by speaking my mind, saying what i mean and meaning what i say, also holding myself accountable and that the only constant in life is change 🙏💖

@pedridemperi9872 Жыл бұрын

Welcome back but you've never been here before. Awesome x

@MarkReyesCayabyab Жыл бұрын

Genuinely love this. Currently watched this at 4 in the morning as I randomly woke up and decided to scroll through my YT feed. I’m in the phase of my life where I haven’t really found my tribe and sometimes I ask myself if I’m the one that’s wrong. Eventually leading to social anxiety and the lack of communication. The people I’m around isn’t into any of that so I’m constantly quiet and protecting my energy/mind from reverting back to living that “comfortable” life, which btw I love that for people, it’s just not for me. It’s reassuring to see you were in the phase, and you embraced the suck to get you past that plateau.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thank you

@M0101EP Жыл бұрын

The world needs this video! So glad people talk about this. Thank you. I wish this video for everyone to see. ❤

@davidpearce4838 Жыл бұрын

Thanks. I found this helpful, and I was reminded of decisions I made during my 20s to leave and change my life. Now in my late 50s.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thank you

@edvinostlund2909 Жыл бұрын

You where so spot on with how it is coming back to society! I was living for some time with the hare krishna community. Sounds very similar to what you did. Coming back out in society just really felt like people was looking straight thru you. And the overwhelming part made my mind so cloudy. It feels good someone else had the exact same experience

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

yep, you're not alone.

@andybeeb Жыл бұрын

I went on a journey to improve myself and I've strayed so far from my friends. I've been doing everything alone instead. This is exactly what I needed to hear to keep going, thank you.

@DannyBlake Жыл бұрын

How the word 'Ruined', which is a negativelt charged word for many people, can have so much meaning and positive power behind it! I felt the urge from my higher self to click on this video while I wasn't 100% interested at first (seen a lot similar vids). Thanks for explaining everything in such an eloquently manner 🙏 It helped tremendously

@Livingmagic7 Жыл бұрын

A very positive message on the whole, I definitely relate to what you are saying. Something that helps me is journaling every day and meditation. I know meditation is often an intimidating term, but for me it means sitting with an open journal in front of me, and a pen, some nice background music, and just allowing thoughts to come and go without distraction. Meditation is basically just not filling your mind or “doing” stuff. It works. Even if 5 minutes a day. Your mind becomes clearer and the path forward on your spiritual journey feels like less of an uphill struggle. Best of luck everyone ❤

@UniversoSpiritualUnido Жыл бұрын

I packed by bags and left nyc to Mexico. Grateful to work remote and living my best life my way alone while meeting amazing people just like I. 👏❤️‍🔥

@beccalove8791 Жыл бұрын

We have to live within our own selves for a lifetime. It’s really important to find out who you are and go enjoy whatever that is that makes you happy.

@sebastians.8991 Жыл бұрын

Sorry, but doesn't work like that in every cases. Maybe one loves alcohol too much, gambling, drugs, and other loves video games. With some things is almost impossible to find balance, it will destroy your life after a while.

@ToddPritch Жыл бұрын

You have to learn to have compassion for yourself on the journey. Great video mate, subscribed

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thank you, welcome to the party Todd.

@victorabonicola2900 Жыл бұрын

It's an honor for me that i accidentally saw this video,i see a big and bright future for you in this platform my friend,i believe in you,also i'm going through an self improvment journey and i'm still in the beggining,one day i want to teach others what i'm learning and doing,keep the hard work brother👌🙏

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

All I’m doing is sharing my story & the lessons I’ve learned. You can too ❤ thanks for the comment

@victorabonicola2900 Жыл бұрын

@@thedavidbolandmaybe one day we hop on a call or something,but my english language is not perfect😶

@arenawoodworks Жыл бұрын

It starts with going inside. Close your eyes, breath and forget all you had to learn when you could not say no. We all have an intuition that is not allowed in this society.

@parisiansparkle Жыл бұрын

we always could say NO. prob is ....could we be heard?

@FringeWizard2 Жыл бұрын

More like human companionship is not allowed. Anyone can isolate themselves not everyone can have fellowship with others.

@manda_musings8459 Жыл бұрын

This is really profound for me. Because you’re right. I once had someone tell me I had incredible intuition but couldn’t tap into it fully. I feel that but not sure how to.

@babybistro5711 Жыл бұрын

Quitting anything is mad hard and I respect anyone going through it and it’s great to see people on the other side. Like you said in stocks nothing is always up and those who have had to quit one thing eventually come back down and find another. Good luck all of you!

@tim.jenkins75 Жыл бұрын

No spoken to my family for 6 years.....had to sit back rather than be the leader....I'm cool with it.....but literally have no family now.....they have never been there for me when it matters only when they needed something......its lonely this side. Be careful what you start

@GigiLearnToLive Жыл бұрын

You are not broken, you are not doing it wrong,you are not stupid, YOU ARE IN THE PROCESS. thank you i need this 🙏🏻

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

you are welcome

@stevensteven3417 Жыл бұрын

😂

@Guys_Love_Each_Other 3 ай бұрын

you are the process?!

@GigiLearnToLive 2 ай бұрын

@@stevensteven3417 ikr, looking back to what I wrote I laughed so hard myself.

@GigiLearnToLive 2 ай бұрын

@@Guys_Love_Each_Other the process are you!?

@dianabosinceanu6647 Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you did this video! 🙏🏻 It's so comfortable to hear the story of others that you emphasise. And to know this things happen to a lot of other people and no matter what, everything will be ok even fantastic in the end and it worth it every moment of pain in our journey.

@Samuel-wc9qg Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your words. Really reached my heart ❤️

@klausvonkeast Жыл бұрын

Just be content and grateful for whatever steps you've made

@zariyahcampos3565 Жыл бұрын

Yes it really sucks but Im glad my friends help me to get through. ❤🎉 Stay consistent y'all.

@andrewcruz3837 Жыл бұрын

Lmao

@clusterstage Жыл бұрын

I don't normally watch channels like this. But this was recommended to me. And this was very very insightful.

@oliviaok625 Жыл бұрын

I needed this video so badly. I’m about to move back to my home town and your words are making all the difference on how I’m approaching and processing everything. Thank you 💜

@TaraTiaraBell Жыл бұрын

I lived my best life until I was 23 my mother was dying that year and I ended up leaving my pub job that I loved to be with her and I’m so glad I did but when she died few days before my 24th birthday I tried to get back into the life I lived before but it became an absolute disaster. I’m 38 and still struggling. Pity I didn’t meet you when you came back to Ireland because I do care I really do. I’ve only just started working again after 3 years of illness I’m still not 100% recovered but I’m getting there. So are you Irish ☘️ because your accent is definitely not 😅

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

my accent dances between USA and Irish, haha. sending you blessings

@TaraTiaraBell Жыл бұрын

@@thedavidboland understandable, I get a Polish accent just talking to my Polish friends. Thanks for taking time to reply 😊

@orianam9835 Жыл бұрын

@@TaraTiaraBell hello from Poland btw 😉

@dermobbing-ratgeber5166 Жыл бұрын

You are a great story teller. Your video is also visually very well made. Thumps up.

@danilchen8018 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for that I feel less alone and that means a lot for me right now. Especially that with the new community that’s where I was struggling a long time.. I have hope now!

@ChaosArtist Жыл бұрын

Nice video, you've explained many things that resonated with me, including letting go of old friends, feeling isolated and a sense of progress coming from a sense of raising the baseline under the many ups and downs.

@peterfaleskini4831 Жыл бұрын

David, you've nailed it!

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

Thanks P

@cdes68 Жыл бұрын

Think in terms of adjustment, because that's what adaption to new is really.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

mmh :)

@collinschultz3868 Жыл бұрын

You are are now a infinite being that knows the true state of the world and your being love you family ❤

@rpremrprem8739 Жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot for explaining that! I've been struggling with low and high vibration conflict, not realising what it really was. Your video has given me clarity and guidance on how to proceed.

@W.B.Swanson Жыл бұрын

I love this video and message. Life is growth and when we grow those old clothes no longer fit.

@eyeswideopenpod Жыл бұрын

Oh I like that...when we grow those old clothes no longer fit. true.

@ThomasDoubting5 Жыл бұрын

this is one the most imortant videos on youtube right now .

@freespirit-111 Жыл бұрын

I agree.

@meaningfulmakings Жыл бұрын

The life you had before is just as valid as the one you chose later. How great you get to live two kinds of life. Transition is hard work. Well done.

@onthejourney42 Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad I found this channel! Watched two videos today and really appreciating the content! I know you’re putting ALOT of effort into the editing, music, and making sure your message is understood and connects, I think all this effort is worth it because of what you’re creating!

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thank you so much

@drewkrassny7498 Жыл бұрын

I had a similar realization about the way I was living my life after my son was born. I read some self help books but turned more to the Bible without really having a super religious background. Ultimately I came to the same conclusion as you about letting my old self die and a new self to born (the death and resurrection). Interesting how different paths and influences can lead to the same end result.

@STANYOGAMAN Жыл бұрын

Thank you David! Watching your video while fighting against panic attack haha

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

sending a hug

@Mandance Жыл бұрын

Don’t fight it, that makes it worse

@FluffySylveonBoi Жыл бұрын

I play video games since 1993 and I am happy. Lots of people can't understand it, thinking I may have problems I am escaping from or no social life etc. They can't process that someone can be a gamer for life and lead good, content life, have good friends and optimistic mind. Don't just do things because someone tells you it's good for you, consider your choices carefully and if you are happy and fulfilled right now, you probably don't need to improve anything.

@lizhdz6993 Жыл бұрын

I've been having such a tough time trying to figure out why I had so many fallouts and why I made a sudden change. You explained everything that I wasn't able to put into words. This was a great video, thank you.♥

@jenniferfox8382 Жыл бұрын

I found on my journey that I had to let go of those people I grew up around. They (and I) became different people that couldn’t relate anymore. I thought communal setting were the answer, but they weren’t. The people in these communal settings were also lost. They were transients in their own life, looking to experience as much as possible, wanting to talk to as many people as possible and when they had their fill, to move on. These people didn’t truly connect with each other, there was no intimacy, no commitment to one another. So, after looking into myself, finding what brought me joy and learning what I truly valued I found a solid path. I found what I really needed was family, a solid committed family and permanent home (I’ve moved a lot). I found I didn’t need novel experiences, constant travel, a “hit” of excitement. Those people that connect on a superficial level, unable to make genuine commitments to other human beings, are not for me. A life without nature, not for me. A life building wealth, not for me. A life building wealth for someone else, not for me. If you’re searching for answers just remember, you aren’t irreparably broken. You’re one of the people fixing themselves.

@Leo-rh6rq Жыл бұрын

A lot of what you said boils down to genetically predetermined personality traits and values which also applies to the people that are high in openness and extraversion. I don't know what you've experienced but generalizing over such a basic human trait, saying they have no intimacy or commitment just because of your own experiences with them, seems pretty shallow/superficial iself.

@caravb5906 Жыл бұрын

This rang a bell for me. In my case I didn't have time for retrospective thoughts, I had a family, a job, studies and the gym. Very little social life. Too busy. As time went on I read continually. Burn out came alongside an actual burn on my arm from an iron which went septic. I have the scar to remind me. Two years of studying counselling added to the situation because it opened up stuff that should have stayed hidden. Now I live with anxiety every day. I consider showering and getting dressed a big achievement. I still read. I realise that the people writing the books don't have the answer either. I am on a continuous learning path and it's always the journey that is important, like a game of snakes and ladders. I have more to add but I won't bore you

@ettab.7838 Жыл бұрын

Please Repeat this affirmation: There's no suffering to observe, there's no downfall to observe. Do it 15 min a day and please let me know in a week how you felt. You can also listen to reiki for anxiety by blended insight and Sapien medicine anxiety, trauma files. But I would suggest to just try the affirmation for a few days and see.

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

hoping you are well

@nicolasgarciarueda4820 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, awesome video. I can’t believe so many people go through these same conflicts, situations, emotions, thoughts. It gives you hope and makes you feel not alone. It’s incredible how this speaks to so many of us!

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

blessings my friend

@The_Life_Explorer Жыл бұрын

This is a wonderful video! I've been on a journey for some 18 years and spent maybe the last five in that depressive slump. I have only just started to let go of old 'friends' and go meet people who are in my tribe. You're right... it _hurts_ when you realise you're not on the same page any more. "You have to sever ties... you don't have to be a dick about it, but you have to do it." The truth! You put this so eloquently... thank-you for posting.

@ArtByHazel Жыл бұрын

I feel you. Yes. There’s so many wrongs with some self-improvement teachings that takes advantage of people’s vulnerabilities. It sucks. The good news is… Life is… It’s a journey of remembering who we truly are beyond all our conditioning. Trust the process. I’m happy and grateful that my “breakdown” is actually a breakthrough now. Dying to my old self/ego is the best experience ever. Blessings everyone.❤

@carlosdeleonyt Жыл бұрын

Nice video brother keep up the good work!

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

❤

@mobileradiofitter Жыл бұрын

The walk of adulthood is so powering and important, thank you for sharing your journey 🙏

@filipkramaric Жыл бұрын

One of traps when ''selfe-improvement'' is : Not building yourselfe, but your ego that isn't you. - So when ''letting people go'' think about it, is this feeding your eggo, or is it because you raised your vibration - don't fall in trap ''I need to love myselfe'' - people forget to love others saying that sentence today..

@JaniceMovela-mh9sk Жыл бұрын

so relatable!! ❤❤❤

@thedavidboland Жыл бұрын

thank you :)

@karl5641 Жыл бұрын

It reminds me of the Zen parable. When you begin, you chop wood, collect water, eat food. You start the journey, you chop wood, you collect water, eat food. You realise your awakening, you chop wood, collect water, eat food. We are all awake. Self help is a tool but eventually. Tools themselves can be discarded when we no longer need them.

@PaulDickson7 Жыл бұрын

This happened to me recently also. Helps let go of a lot of trauma and lets the old parts of you die which no longer resonates with your true self. Thank you for sharing your journey

@PracticallyMagic88 Жыл бұрын

Thank you . This was so very grounding for me to hear. Been healing lots of old patterns, and fear that are holding me back from my highest good. I am ready to launch 🚀 through the plateau 😅

@123Mathzak Жыл бұрын

Being brutally honest: You don’t sound like you’ve actually “grown” from the discipline you’ve instilled in yourself. Because you still have unconscious desires to “party”, and do other self-harmful things that come at the direct detriment of your full potential.