Having a big wedding 👰 doesn’t mean the marriage will be successful

"Planned" eloped 13 years ago and still going strong!

I agree with Adrienne. I actually wanna elope, because I spending thousands of dollars on a one day doesn't make any sense to me.

Jordin has been WIFEY MATERIAL. I'm not at all surprised she took the opportunity when the right partner came along. I wish for her blessings and success in this marriage!! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

Loni is over this conversation lmao 😂

Loni’s hair is perfect on her.

Eloping is just the bride and groom ALONE! no family present.

A small intimate wedding is *NOT* eloping. Heck can you even put much planning into eloping? If the couple thought about having an intimate wedding or party or just a getaway but their closest loved ones know....then its not eloping.

If your going to get married make sure that person is right for you they should have the same morals and values you do if not it won’t work

I don't care about the wedding, I just want to be married to the love of my life. That's enough .

I eloped and it was planned. Got married on the beach in Mexico and our best friends attended. No regrets.

Adrienne always so aware of the damn audience lmao

When you elope, the wedding truest becomes about you and your partner. No family trying to give opinions, the vows don’t have to be so “speech” like... it’s about you and your love. That’s all.

I eloped and I couldn't agree more with Genie!! Saved all the opinions and naysayers from ruining my decision 😚

I’m DYING at Adrienne’s lil “ok” at 0:25 😂😂😂

My husband and I eloped in the not planned way. We spoke about it multiple times and just decided to do it - $100 bucks well spent. Didn't tell family or anything it was just us against the world. I definitely believe it's not ideal for everyone and sometimes I wonder what would have happened if we did it the traditional way but we're still together 4 years later Some people can get married after 6 months and stay together forever, some people can date for 10 years and break up. It is what is.

Elopeing doesn't mean a rush. It means going away to get married with just the couple. Mine was planned for six months.

6 yrs into our relationship.....I eloped...it was the only day off my huni and I ever had at the same time....we drove to Vegas, went to the county clerks office it was empty...good sign....found an Elvis chapel...they had a licensed minister to do a 2 min I do's...you sign and then I got a small arrangement of flowers and you have an actual ceremony with Elvis as an officiate. a young Elvis walked me down the isle while singing and the photographer was taking awesome pics and it was perfect... we didn't tell anyone...we stood at an amazing hotel with a beautiful view, we got pictures, a dvd and a fabulous time in Vegas...best day of my life :)

Me & my husband eloped(planned) & it was the Best decision i ever made.

Jeannie's thoughts are always my favorite! Love is very very personal. 👌🏾

If I ever got married I would elope because I just lost my father and I wouldn’t want a big wedding unless he was there

Eloping saves so much money. Do what works for you but remember that eloping means more money for a honeymoon &/or your future.

Didn't Tamera have like 4 separate parties with 4 different outfits for her wedding? Lol that wedding lasted like a whole week. 😭

Im most likely going to elope. I can't please everybody

I honestly feel like... at the end of the day... First of all let's congratulate Jordin on this AMAZING news !!! She genuinely looks happy and Its so crazy to see her married now ! But i feel like whether you wanna an extravaganza and go all out or even if you want to go to the court house and elope then that is up to you ! As long as you married I'm happy for you !

LONI THAT GLOW MAMA !!

I wouldn't elope, my smallest lowkey idea would be the courthouse with just family and have brunch or a meal nearby to celebrate but it will definitely be an intimate event with no bridal party, my checklist is simply: food, entertainment, venue, color scheme and call it a day. The wedding isn't as important as the union itself.

Me and my husband always had the dream to elope. When we goT engaged and told our parents ( they would be part of it as well) they got all sensitive because some family members wouldnt be part of the moment (we wanted only our parents and brothers sharing the moment). Well, we ended up planning a intimate small wedding (50 people) and decided to spend money in our honeymoon. Even though i regret not eloping anyways (planning a wedding is only fun if you dreamed with it your hole life. I personaltly hated, just wanted to be married and done with the hole thing) not spending so much money was the best decision EVER. I never got the point of big weddings anyways.

Im loni when it comes to this topic👌💁 just sipping tea,nodding my head and smiling 😂 #teamsingle

No shade.. i just bought my grandma that H&M plaid shirt that Tamera's wearing

I feel like Jeannie's question to Loni about having a feeling before marriage was personal. She probably is looking back and remembering her feeling. Sigh, I feel so much for Jeannie

Jeannie: Was the guy dressed like Elvis? Adrienne: Was Elvis there? The shade!! 😂😂😂😂😂

I just know Jason Derulo is somewhere crying over this right now.

2:19 LMAO Adrienne: "I don't know her..." 😂🙌🏾

What in the Blanche Golden Girls is that top Adrienne???????????

I just wanna say I’m here for the all day girl chats. Yass please!

Having a big wedding doesn't mean it will be successful. We had a wedding (planned for 1 year) with a guest list of over 100 people and spend approx 12k of personal saved money to pay for the wedding. I am now divorced and are no longer friends with none of the people that attended the wedding. Through everything one friend and family member called a few times over the past 2 years. I'm not hurt by it nor will I mend it. I just know who they really are. The thought of having a big wedding irritates me especially if there will be a bunch of people there so called there for me that I don't like and I don't care about. I'm not having a big wedding.

Yes. You save money 💰 not everyone has a big packet like you guys

Yaaasss for the full segment clips!! Praise the loooorrrdd. Bye A you looked sooooo good!

Yes!❤️❤️❤️ I will most definitely be eloping in the future .😌

I remember Jeannie saying whenever she has a breakup she always look fatter and more beautiful. I was like "what the hell!!!!??" But daaaaaaaaaaaaaaooouuuuuuummmmmmmmmmm I believe her she's looking dope asf😥😥😥😁😍😘 Yaasss hun bunch!!!!🙌🙌🙌👐👏👏👏👏👏👍👍

I'd rather have a small wedding and tell everybody later

I had a civil ceremony and a party of 200 people. I felt so awkward. Hate being the center of attention. But right now we are going to have a symbolic ceremony in Cancun with close friends and family. Im more excited for the smaller party than the big one we had. Sometimes big events (like huge weddings) arent for everyone.

So happy for Jordin!

Loni looks so fucking beautiful and her hair is just out of this world!!!!

Wait this is the first time Adrienne's stylist has slipped up

Adrienne's point 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Thank you for the long clips!!! Yes!!! 🎉🎉🎉🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

Getting married period is just not the wave for me

you guys are my pre marital counseling cause a girl out here lonely and broke but looking for advice

I hate the term eloping... We went to the courthouse and got married. Period. We planned to do it, it wasn't done on one random day. But it definitely happened on a Monday morning with 2 family members only. Then we went straight into the immigration process bc my husband isn't American and although we met, dated and lived together abroad, I wanted to go home to NY and take him with me. People have asked us if we'd do a "real" wedding... Like foh, you think our wedding wasn't real? Do you think our marriage isn't real? You don't know real love until you're in an international marriage, dealing with being separated and the very costly and invasive process of immigration. It's like Jeannie said, It's about what the couple needs/wants. Some couples who just got married on their own are way happier than couples who had huge weddings.

My husband and I bought our first house together so we didn't have a huge wedding. It was just us and his mother and my bestfriend. We didn't want to spend a bunch of money on one day. Our wedding was magical without all of that.

I eloped at age 15 with my 19 yr old school sweetheart. On June 20 😉on June 27 we will be celebrating our 38th anniversary. We had to wait for the longest 7days to officially marry by his grandfather at his other grandpa family home in the country. We waited on my mom to sign consent. We are happy serving each other in God grace. First love and only 💘 love. Young couple can survive marriage at young age or to one partner if truly committed . thanks for reading. God bless. Ma Martinez

I think it's a romantic idea especially when you've known your s/o for a long time. However, I couldn't do it. It would break my mother's heart for her not to be at my wedding. However, I wouldn't mind a very small, cheap and intimate gathering.

00:35 Adrienne you ok boo??

Most cases of eloping are more planned than not! This is nice for Jordin & Dana

Elopement is perfect for avoiding a dysfunctional ass family. I would definitely consider.

I can never decide who i like the best out of them..love them all!

My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 5 and we are renewing our vows on our 10th anniversary in 2019 because when we got married, our families couldn’t be there.

Yes!! Adrienne nailed it. Always hated that song “it’s a beautiful night, we’re looking for something dumb to do, hey, baby, I think I wanna marry you”😳 “Dumb”? Fr? 👋🏻

I really like the idea of a planned eloping.

A video almost 5 minutes long? Ok I see you, I see you.

You eloped. You didn't ask a multitude of opinions from people and you are wise in doing so.

My husband and I eloped planned with some witnesses don’t regret it. It’s what we wanted. And everyone was so surprised and that made it fun we’re very private my social media didn’t even know I was in a relationship whole t we were living together for a brick 😂 posting the pictures was hilarious lol

Loni looks so beautiful today... she will always be beautiful but today the way her hair, makeup, and outfit is, really accentuate her features.

I love Adrienne's answer. We all need accountability on some level, no matter how old we are.

I would like to elope. I am a very private person and this would be perfect for me.

So funny how many times they said, 'Were talking about Jordan Sparks and how fucked up eloping decisions can be, but not Jordin Sparks.' 👌🙄😄

Tamara: "What's his name? Day-nuh? Dah-nah?" Adrienne: "Day-nuh" Tamara: "DAH-NAH" Adrienne: "oh okay..."

Loving these longer videos!

The fact that eloping by definition means in the spur of the moment, but where I️ live I️ can’t see that truly happening because u have to get a marriage licensee have specific I️.d. Last year me and my husband literally was going to just do it but found out we needed these things first.

She's pulling a Brandy Norwood on us.

I too plan it yes, but if not don't rush into it, because that will become a regret later

Yes you should elope. The average cost of a wedding in the US is $25000. The cost of opportunity is too damn high for getting caught up on societal expectations.

Eloped. I have zero regret and no remorse about the wedding bill. It was a planned elopement. We had been engaged for over a year.

I love intimate weddings. Because first, it saves money and second, it is more special because my loved ones are there on my special day.

I'm here for these long videos

I never thought about it before, but this is kinda making me wanna get eloped

Tamera: What is Daina Danna? Adrienne: Danna Tamera: Daina! Adrienne: okay😐 0:20 😂😂 I love them

Adrienne: Planned Eloping is not eloping its called a small wedding.

Look at A! Soundin all grown spittin knowledge!

i planned my eloping with my husband no fuss no big bills best day then announced it at my birthday party had a brilliant time xx

Tameras makeup is so pretty today. Love pop of color

In my opinion planned eloping is the best..so intimate.

There is nothing wrong with a planned elope.

Eloping is good... Me and Britney Spears were supposed to Elope back in 2006 when she left Kevin Federline.

For most Africans, that is not an option... There is the 'roora', and 300 of my relatives to speak of... Mom would kill me!

Me and my husband planned elope we went to the justice of the peace with Just my mom so I love it if it’s planned because we loved each other and I’ve been engaged before and I was planning at wedding and then I realized how much it cost and I think you should be financially stable because I don’t want to be in debt because of a party and we loved it we plan on having a wedding celebration as an anniversary thing but it saved us money especially because we were also moving state lines and we were together almost 3 years before we got married and that last year we got serious about what we wanted for our future because honestly unless your super young when you first start dating someone if you are not talking marriage after three years then you might need to just move on not saying you have to be married by then because some people stay engaged long so they can finance the wedding of their dreams and that’s great but if you can’t see future don’t waste your time

Finally. Longer videos

Excellent advice Adrienne.

Loni looks beautiful in this segment

ALL the dress and food messiness. Planned eloping I agree with. Married 17yrs. No big fluffy. That's what I call weddings BIG FLUffY, It takes over the whole ceremony

She’s still married too they’re so cute! ❤️☺️

I think it depends on the people and if they want that for themselves. I don’t think I would ever do it (because I overthink a lot and I’m a bit of a perfectionist/traditionalist), but who’s to say it wouldn’t be good for someone else?

You GO GIRL!

I don't think you should elope on impulse. I do think it's a great way to save money and have money for your future. Bringing the idea to your significant other will show you whether or not they want a marriage or just a wedding. They don't have to be on board with the idea but if they fly off the handle about the suggestion that relationship is going nowhere

Took our asses to the courthouse and had it done lol.

I feel like Loni was trying to avoid Jeanie's personal questions

Loni is HAAAPPPYYY!!! She is glowing, WHAT IS GOING ON!? It’s a different kind of glow too 🤔 like.. she got a fine man glow lol

I love the H&M SHIRT Tamera is wearing. I saw it in the store a couple of months ago.