neil fishman I thought you might say something like that 😊 I’ve learned a ton from Trevor the two times I’ve spoken to him!

Lori, hang in there… I hope you’ll find something here that can help, do stay in touch and let us know how things go

Hang in there Lori… I think you can find much here that will help… let us know how things go

Matt! Thanks so much for sharing this, I’m soo glad to hear that the videos have been helpful 😊! What you said about trying to prepare, then going to seeing that it’s like breathing… nothing that needs preparation or effort, this is the way for sure. And you know, I think you’re just taking note of the fact that there’s less struggle and less anxiety. I don’t read anything here about trying to speed it up or wondering why you haven’t seen more progress… it’s all a very insightful message here. Keep “doing” what you’ve been been, or perhaps keep not doing, and the brain will start to fully see that’s there’s no threat or danger and then there’s peace of mind and peaceful sleep. Stay in touch now!!

Lotus Li Hi Lotus Li and thanks for this insightful comment. Completely agree with you about how the surrender approach can be very helpful but, it’s hard to start off there (and maybe you don’t even have to go there!). Are you a therapist yourself?

Hi Bando, I’m quite sure Trevor had lots of sleepless nights… if that was the reason, consider tuning in again, maybe the 5-6 hours was how it started. Trevor is a great teacher 🙂

Hi TL. Sorry to hear this but glad you’re here. The weird answer here becomes to not have a goal or aim for any number. In other words, taking the timeless approach. Wanting to know what time it is and how much you slept is very natural. Remember that insomnia comes from a place of problem-solving. The human brain is basically a problem-solving machine. And that is for safety reasons. Another word would be a survival machine. You can say that the brain is a survival machine or a problem-solving machine, it’s really the same thing! Now whenever we have a problem, our brains naturally go into problem-solving mode. And a natural first step is trying to get some sort of control of the problem. When it comes to insomnia, that translates into knowing what time it is. Because it seems like when you know what time you wake up, how much you slept, how much time you have left to sleep, how much more you sleep now compared to a week ago, you have a little bit of control. But in reality, it’s the desire for control that causes trouble sleeping! Because unlike a tangible physical problem that you can solve easily with problem-solving, insomnia is a perceived threat, it’s not a tangible problem, and the more you try to solve it, the more trouble you have! So this was just a long way of saying, not knowing what time it is or how much you slept are very powerful steps towards letting go of control and letting go of problem-solving! Not knowing what time it is, not tracking how much you’ve slept, not keeping track of how long you’ve had trouble sleeping, not predicting when in the future you will sleep better, all of those or would I call the timeless way. It is a super helpful way. It’s not easy because it goes against what your brain habitually wants to do, but again, if you take this path, it will greatly help!

😊 thanks so much for the support 🙏

Yes! Did one of us say this? I can’t remember but this is something I’ve been pondering a lot… I will make a separate episode on this soon! Thanks for the comment Lucia!

Hi Stephen, you know, this awareness that the reactivity is what extends the game… I think this is so helpful… thanks for sharing this and I believe awareness like this will lead to where you want to be

Sorry to hear Antonio but glad you’re here, I hope you’ll find all you need here to leave the struggle. Hang in there and let us know how things go

Cool! I’m new to his teaching but, yes I do find that I learn a lot. For anyone not familiar, his writing is very “spiritual”, when I first started reading I must admit I was a bit skeptical because it sounded a little “out there”. But then, it all made sense and I’ve come to find his style very pleasant!

The Sleep Coach School yeah I think it’s because spirituality has the connotation of being a little woo but in reality his spiritual awakening was only to be completely present which is not woo at all. In his book the power of Now he talks about this. Just about truly being present instead of being in your head all the time. I really resonate with that. That true spiritual enlightenment is just being in the now.

Also please do check out Dr Claire weeks!

Ernest Rillman love it! I’ve only gotten about halfway trough the Power of now and will check out Dr. Claire 👍

Ernest Rillman Ernest, she’s such a rock star!!! I just ordered her first book, she’s my new hero, so cool! Thanks so much for letting me know about her. It’s amazing how all teachers I listen to really have the same message, and disappointing how to this day so few get to hear it... anyways we will spread the word on Dr. Weekes!

Hi Voggvogg, thanks for the care you show Trevor, and I know the content here could be so much more helpful… if you have ideas, let me know. It’s a work in progress. Thanks for being here and commenting especially since so far it hasn’t been helpful…

@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Thanks for your comment, Sleep Coach. I will let you know. I appreciate your efforts. Admittedly this is an exceedingly difficult and multi-faceted problem to solve; kudos to you for working on it!