The narcissist doesn’t want to see you emotionally, mentally and physically healed. They have a deluded though patten and strongly believe they can trigger you for life. Once you have self awareness and learnt the art of not responding or reacting, the narcissist gets angry because they need your reaction. Your going to get better ❤️‍🩹 and stronger, good things will happen for you. Lazarus in the bible died and was buried in the tomb . Jesus showed up and he rose again. The narcissist has no power only evil demonic forces working behind them. Good will always conquer evil. Complete healing is your best revenge. I know the narcissist done a lot of bad things to hurt you intentionally but you can’t get even with evil. God helped me to overcome and I know he wants to support you. God feels you and loves you unconditionally. Remember you are precious and deserve better. God bless❤️

“It is the ULTIMATE COMPLIMENT to be discarded.” (By the narcissist.)

Living with a narcissist is a living hell. Breaking away from one is the best feeling you’ll ever get after living in that nightmare 😊

The narcissist can NEVER let it be “over”. They always have to have the last word. Let them.

This video touched on an aspect of the narcissists illogical thinking and feeling process. They do not care about you, your well being or really you as a person. The only reason they have you in their life is to serve them. When you no longer do that they will attack you abusively with hurtful words and behavior. Once you get out of that hellish, toxic relationship you have the huge task of rebuilding yourself mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. I have been rebuilding myself for the past 2 1/2 years after a four year relationship, and it hasn't been an easy journey, but slowly but surely i am regaining the person i was prior to this toxic relationship. Thanks Stephanie for talking about this topic, and all the great information you provide for us. Be well, and i look forward to next weeks video.

The narcisistic people do not want others to be happy and enjoy life as if it was something that is being taken away from them. How sad … the best thing is to stay away from them.

Wake up people!!! If they disrespect you you are done!!! SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!!😜😜😜 Iwas married for 31 years to someone that was jealous of me! They hate ur guts and they cant stand it!!! When we know better we do better! Thank you Jesus for saving my life!!!

I never heard of "narcicist" until 50 yrs after first marrying! So when I remarried, I went from dying pan into the fire! Fortunately, his mother threatened to disinherit him if he didn't divorce me. That experience was life threatening in 2 vehicular accident setups. We were abandoned @ the train station going to a family wedding in another Province. We returned home to an emptied house! I then learned to know a deeper level of God's love/daily guidance relationship than I had ever known could exist on earth! Isaiah 54 became a basis to a Victorious Life with family, friends & God! Now 81, taken for 60 with a journey of God's miracles & blessings! Philippians 4! REJOICING!

I am more than seven years out of a relationship with a narcissist who was very toxic and abusive. It does take time to heal but you will get there! Unless others understand narcissism, they will not understand what you've gone through and how it tears you down. Stephanie is right. They cannot stand for you to move on, be happy, or be a better version of you that does nothing to serve their purpose or their insatiable need for validation at your expense. They cannot stand for you to not need them and they cannot stand to see you prioritize yourself and your wellness because it means they are no longer the center of the universe.

They detest healthy people who have firm selfhood, bounderious, who dont need others to be adults, who are disciplined in themselves. I am recovering and growing and maturing into all l admired in healthy people. My own approval, respect, staying with the intensity of my growth. I am so worth it. Amen

Once I started ignoring him it was unbelievable how he raged at me and told me I needed to admit I was angry. It was priceless the mask totally fell off allowing me to see the true monster! I was able to discard him completely.

17 years 7 kids with a covert narcissist. Exposed her 2 years ago and everything went down hill. Got served papers 2 weeks ago. On my path to getting healthy.

For those of us with the good fortune to have moved on, we need to co tinue with the focus being on ourselves, such as grieving oursleves by accepting there are things we cannot change, and there are many good destinations ahead.

What kind of monsters are those narcisistic people. They do not want to see you healthy or happy… it sounds surreal but it really is the case. Gross. They are to be avoided by all means.

If the levels of commitment, intimacy, trust, amd respect is not vibin with your energy, its time to Diddy bop. No love lost. Just loving me more.

I can tell that my ex narc (sons mother) can tell I’ve healed. I don’t react to her whatsoever. She looks like a deer in the headlights when I just remain calm when she does all that word salad, gaslighting, and projection.

Yes - a healthy person will see the dysfunction with greater clarity and with that, they can manage how they interact to achieve the peace that they want!

Hello been absent for a little bit. Ive followed your videos from the time i figured out the woman i married was toxic to the point of evil. Its been quite the journey. Going on 4 years since i went no contact and filed for divorce. Your videos have been instrumental in me being able to get through what i consider to be the darkest days of my entire life. Ty for sharing your wisdom with us. Probably would not have the life i have now. Its not perfect but its so much better than it used to be.😁

Why Narcissistic relationship are so different? Why do we love to chase these relationships? It's so addicting... sexually mentally emotionally. I've never felt like this before.

I love that you mention in your videos that being discarded is the biggest compliment and you explain reasons why. This point has been one of the top helpful tips that resonates with me and helps me get my brain in the right mindset.

When I tell you this video is on time. My Ex recently reach out to me apologizing what he did to me 10 years ago. I thought I was healed from that relationship until I open that door to talk to him again. I started to feel drained and triggered all over again. I thank God for his mercy because it could’ve went another way. God allow him to ghost me and I was hurt but I know it was something that was good for me. I will continue to work on myself and be healed so I won’t allow this to happen again.

My ex of over 4 years definitely had narcissistic traits. At the beginning, I thought he was too good to be true. Then the toxic behavior started and I wondered what happened. I dealt with it for too long, and when I called him out too much on his behavior (hoping he's realize it and change), he broke up with me instead of wanting to work on and improve himself. He was in his 50's and said he never had a relationship longer than a few years before me. Now I know why!

3:50--"I don't need your little bits of remnants or whatever your idea of a relationship is anymore." Getting breadcrumbed was getting sickening and I'm not a super needy person or anything. Eventually I just quietly left that without even give them the satisfaction of doing to tell off or even announcing I was going. I just went ghost on them and caller-blocked their phone number. (And no longer do I answer the door if they show up unannounced anymore)

This is exactly what I needed to hear. I broke up with an NPD in Jan and it was the most difficult breakup. I already carried the hardship of abandonment by my parents. I worked through that for years through therapy and education. So when I started getting devalued I saw the shift and it hurt like hell and I knew there was a change in her and wouldn’t speak about it. Her favorite thing to do was start a fight for supply, upset me and then stonewall me. This hurt even more and I wasn’t going to tolerate it because I didn’t deserve it. I deserved better. I have self love, self confidence and know my worth. I had never been disgarded by a narcissist. Thrown away like trash after you have treated her like a queen everyday. My soul broke and that abandonment was triggered. I’ve beens through a few breakups and this one by far was the hardest. It hurt to the depths of my soul that my world, my person, my best friend, my everything had literally switched and shut down completely. I watched her completely change into someone I didn’t want to know. I was destroyed that she had been a totally different person that I fell in love with and she’s perfect at lovebombing. She got me. Then she discarded me a year and a half later. My ego took a mad hit and I was completely lost at how and why she changed so drastically. I came across NPD searching for answers. EVERY SINGLE CHECK MARK. It all made sense and I saw her for who she was. She had become someone I didn’t want to know because she was disfunctional and become toxic. I realized I was a supply. Well I now understand all of it and I’m healing and moving on. She gets no more positive supply or any supply from me. It took me months of working on myself and getting off the hampster wheel. I’m happy, I’m healthy and have moved on and permantely disconnected. Thank you for this video and all of your videos. You’ve helped me heal and process everything and I couldn’t thank you enough. I’m finally free and I feel so amazing. THANK YOU STEPHANIE. Gratitude. Love and light.

I don't wish him harm. On the contrary I told him take care when I saw him at my doctor's appointment. It was him that kept talking me not me. He apologized to me for cussing at me and I just stayed calm and didn't jump into his arms like he expected. I told him take care and walked away.

The one thing that was said here that I think can be a slippery slope is the issue of: I am not the problem, you are! I am right and you are wrong, I am okay and you are not. I have a problem with this kind of thinking because it can easily lead to feeling like you were victimized instead of fully trying to understand the things within yourself that drew you in and kept you in such an unhealthy situation for you to engage in. And chances are, this is not the only relationship in your life like this. Until you understand what brought you there I think it is easy to keep repeating the same misguided thinking, coming from ourselves.

Great video, i particularly liked 3:40 talking about the void. That’s how narcissist get rooted into your soul, they interview you and make notes of what your void fears are then pretending to be the solution. Instead of resolving that void you rely on them, that’s the danger and that’s how they affect you so bad later on.

Yes that is so true it’s the best compliment when they discard you bc you become so smart to see right through them

Thank you for creating this channel! You’re definitely achieving your goal, you make things very simple, clear and easy to understand. Very beneficial to our growth. ❤️❤️

This was extremely helpful. And eye opening. Thank you!

Thanks for being so helpful. I appreciate your work. Stay blessed.

So on point! This gives a lot of clarity about my situation. My happiness is a threat to my narcissist and he quickly aims to shut it down. I’m not at the point where I feel completely non reactive but I love becoming more self aware and looking forward to the different stages in my healing process. Great insight as always Stephanie 🙏🏽💛

Steph I may seriously sign up to your program. You have seriously marked everything I am going through so accurately. To the point where its scary

Thank you thank you thank you very much for your support and clarity in my life.

I love this perspective! This will be replayed whenever I'm doubting myself

Thank you for all the excellent information! What I learned from the hollow shell is they will forever project, act unsatisfied, dysregulated, yet continue to be unable to take responsibility for it! No thank you!

Toxic/narcissist only look for immediate gratification, marriage and have family become accessories to them, thank you for this video I’m in this process of getting my life back after 19 years of being married to a toxic man, I am fed up with and ready to move on, feeling positive 🙌🏼

Wooow strong. The Ultimate compliment..is the dicard. Great breakdown, for the superficial Narc an material possessions to fill the deep dark whole.

Oh boy am I finding this to be true this week! I'm moving on, working on myself, trying to become the fun loving big personality I used to be before I was abused to the point of self harm because he would shout at me for no reason so I turned on myself as well. It went on for a couple of years. Now that I'm working on my fitness again, wearing make up, looking for a job, moving away, he's gone berserk and is thrashing out saying and doing absolutely anything to get some kind of reaction. It's actually scary.

WOW!!! I appreciate how Your message was clear and concise. Thank you!!! ...No disrespect; Admiring your natural beauty as well . 😌

That's the big take away from my experiences... thankfully, short (only really involved this year). I have learned a lot about narcissism in general, and her needs and wants... but more importantly how I was being her supply in so many ways. I am now looking for healthy relationships. Thank you so much for your work!

Your videos are ✨chef’s kiss ✨ I’m watching them one by one and they all hit so close to home. Thank you

Your videos have helped me so much.I have been able to step back an think instead of reacting 🙂

Thank you for explaining this. It took me 11 years to finally end the relationship.🙏🌈

I was discarded after 14 years. I was starting to cut it off because I couldn't take his abuse but I stills couldn't see the whole truth. I never saw it as a compliment. Thank you for saying this! That statement is empowering. Sadly I couldn't let him go and begged for 7 months. But thank God!!!! I finally said enough and a sweet good man from my past came in...and I have moved. Now he keeps contacting me. I don't react to his crazy self anymore.

Thank you Stephanie! Your videos have been a massive help! After watching your videos, I’ve massively improved. I had a very toxic relationship, I came from a place of low self-esteem and no boundaries, and now I’ve detoxed myself from the ex, no contact for 2 months. He texted me (he was bored and lonely 100%) and I ignored! I wouldn’t be able to do it without the education I had.

you're absolutely right; when I stopped reacting and caring about the abuse, he came and created problems

This is really good and healing. Thank you very much.

Omg that's what im dealing with right now thank you so much for this opportunity on changing my life your awesome amazing person for letting people like us to understand our problems better

Hey Stephanie, your 👁️👁️ movements are on point 👀 your such a spirit guider.

Thank you videos like this and others really help to get our lives together after the NPD relationship It was very difficult for me because I was blaming myself And after thoroughly thinking about everything that she did to me and how she turned everything around on me And now realize yes I am a good person and I don't need that in my life thank you so much Keep keep up the great work we need this

Another great video. Made me feel good about myself. Thanks

I am a living proof of everything you just presented in this life saving video clip. Thank you and God bless you

I freaking love your videos. I'm over beaming AND laughing at how spot on you are. Your formal registry about Narcs is astute and intuitive! I love that...."The Ultimate Compliment is Being Discarded." Lolololol....So true! I've been resting and recovering in terms of self love and self awareness. I prefer to he around people more intelligent than me. Lifelong learner, avid enthusiast, and practical risk taker. However, its taking time. I'm so happy I trusted my gut and heart. Thank you God I dodged the bullet. This guy no longer a part of my life. ❤❤❤

Excellent timely content

Great video I like the part especially where you say they don't want you to be happy that's exactly right-it's just so sad that they're just so empty-thank you for your videos

Thank you thank you thank you. Needed to hear this ❤️

I love watching your videos, been watching for the past year after I discovered narcissism. Thank you for sharing your knowledge that has helped me grow and inspire me into a high valued women.

It’s amazing how you can speak so eloquently with such great insight and wisdom while it also appears to be speaking without a script at all. And fumbles in speech or you knows, or all the usual speech issues. Very impressive

I like how you say it's a compliment to be discarded.

Wow...Thank you, Stephanie. *tears* Newly detached and still have a way to go, but feeling like I just turned a major corner of understanding. I appreciate you! 🙏🏽

So what I’m getting from this video is that a healthy person won’t feel the need for resentment or want to see the narcissist do bad? So I definitely need a lot of work because I don’t want to see him do better because he treated me like poop and it’s not fair to see him do well.

They lie so much...any word that comes out of their mouth, I will not believe unfortunately....

WOW!! You are nailing it 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

As Always another GREAT Video. Much appreciated.

Thank you for making sense in your videos and it gives me better realisation of what I was doing in a bad relationship

Finally I realised that I was in the toxic relationship and got out of it. Thank you for Stephanie, I've learnt so much from this channel. I think my ex is not realising what he was doing / toxic to me. Most of narcissistic people don't know they are narcissist /narcissistic? I'm still on my healing journey.still cry when I think about his lie, cheating.

Makes sense. Im still in the healing process of being discarded this video is great!.

Thanks for this video! It really helped me ❤️🌟

I really appreciate your viewpoint on this disorder .

The ultimate Complement is being discarded ! ❤. Love this 🎉 and so so true !

This video is very helpful for me. Thank You ✨️

Been in a 14yr relationship with a physically, financially, emotionally abusive narcissist and I have realized that now during the past 2yrs with no family support . I am in the process of making myself slowly independent to leave for good and cut him off. Because my mental health is important to me.

Stephanie I really wanted to say thank you!!! I was in my 3y old relationship and I didn't know what was wrong, I always blamed me for every bad thing that hapened and I was so confused, until I find one of your videos about codependency in wich you said something about narcissist partners. This is how I find out that I am codependent and he is a narcissist. Wow. It was mindblowing. Video after video I started to believe that, and I finally got my final reason to leave him- he will never change. Thank you so much! I broke up with him 2 months ago. Now I watch your codependency videos to get over it and live my life! Thank you!!!!!

They certainly don't want you to have your fair share of marital property and money etc.! I've been trying to get a fair settlement with the narcissist and I continue to run up against brick walls! This is another symptom of "parsimonious narcissism". Thanks Stephanie for the video! 💞🙏🕊

Thank you Stephanie. I learn something in every one of your videos.

Everything you said in this video is on point 👍

All your videos are inspirational. Married to my best friend for 14 years and didn’t realized that she is a NARCISSIST

I agree with your point in reference to friends of a Narcissist (they acquire pleasure in seeing others fail or suffer) , although in a relationship, its not usually the case. They ultimately are seeking happiness but aren‘t successful in doing so, therefore they tend to blame their partner for their suffering. Bringing them down with them (wishing they were as miserable as they are). Being the victim & drawing from past events which may have occurred years ago, which they felt were the reason for their depression or suffering.

Thank you for this video. It has been a reckoning for me to learn about narcissistism.

I love this so much!!! Thank you!! ❤️

Love this video and needed it today

I get that it’s a compliment to be discarded but three years ago when she was devaluing me, replaced me, then threw me away like garbage…it felt more like being put into a meat grinder lol. I get it now though.

Stephanie Lyn , Thank You so much I hope to take a course bundle in the future . I was finding answers and now I have found your YT channel . Answers found .

Thank you Stephanie!!! Lightbulbs just went off and I suddenly have more insight than I ever did before! I feel a tad bit better already

My ex husband is on the spectrum and has all of the traits. It took 12 years for me to have the awakening. He is a huge yoga influencer as well which has been hard to see so many people follow someone that isn’t alchemised. I think the gift is focusing on your own healing and having awareness of their actions. Thank you for this content. I needed this as we have 3 years and I’m preparing for a future relationship.

Thanks Stephanie! You are very pretty by the way, with an awesome name! :) Thank you for taking the time to enlighten and inform us!

Thank you Stephanie ❤

Sis, the gems you drop in these videos are priceless! I'm still on my healing journey and yes it's been tough but the peace I have is amazing. You're videos are so necessary and helpful to those victimized by these evil human beings. Thank you ❤️

You are very good. Thank you 😊

Hallelujah for finally getting “off the hamster wheel” !! 🥳🥳

Hi 😊. Like your info and approach

Woww, you hit the nail on the head 👍

Stephanie you are amazing thank you for your input that is so true what you said👍🙏

Another great video just what I needed to hear, it's so hard to good person 8n today's world.

Great info. Also look great.

thank you for your advice.... Amen

I'm blinded by the many light bulbs that just went off!!! THANK YOU 😊

I wish I knew all the red flags of a narcissist before 😭😔I know it's not too late

You are an absolute beauty! My goodness!