"Existing in public normally", "being taken seriously", why am I getting so emotional over not having these things

I started transitioning at 14 and I often passed as a boy even before that so I've never really experienced first-hand sexism or misogyny, but I've still definitely noticed a difference in the way people treat me. I especially remember one time I was walking with a friend who's a girl, and someone started catcalling her despite her being clearly not interested. And then as soon as I told the person to stop, they backed away and left us alone. I was kinda shocked to see how a "no" from a guy meant so much more to that person than the actual CONSENT OF THE GIRL THEY WERE TALKING TO.

About pretending to be your girl friends' boyfriend, I remember reading an article about it that phrased it really well: men don't respect the woman enough to take her "no", but they respect they boyfriend's "ownership" enough to back off. Doesn't matter what the girl they're hitting on wants, but if they're on someone else's territory, they move on. It's disgusting but it's true. That's why saying "I have a boyfriend" sometimes works. Not because they respect the fact you're in a relationship you want to be faithful to, but because you've been marked as someone else's territory. I wish a woman could just say "no" and not have to give any reason why she's not interested. Because you don't need one.

I just left a job that was bad for my mental health. I was stretched thin, laughed at for asking for a raise, and told to get used being short staffed. When I put in my notice they offered me a 3$ raise. I said no, and they had to hire three new people to replace me.

"Pockets!" Cute story: shortly after coming out as a trans femme enby, I made friends with a recently out trans masc enby. I gave them some of my old jeans since were were about the same size and shape (both built like sticks). One day we were about to go to lunch together and they were wearing the jeans and complaining about having to carrying their big phone everywhere. I said, just put it in your pocket. The look on their face as the phone just kept sliding in, deeper and deeper, until it was completely swallowed by the pocket was magical.

This omg, I used to work in a store and was part of the tech team I'm a huge nerd and I'm female, I had an incident where I got asked to look at a faulty games console. The customer came in and was talking to the manager of the store and he said "I can get someone more knowledgeable to look at this for you and if we can't fix it we'll do an exchange" so he calls me over I take a look his PS3 has overheated and his disc has gotten stuck so I take it upstairs to retrieve the disc clean out the vents and test it on one of our tvs. I came back downstairs and not only did the guy not thank me he did not believe me when I told him I got the machine to work, I exchanged it for him anyway and he still asked for a different colleague to test the new machine because he didn't believe I knew what I was talking about. My manager was mortified and asked if that happened to me when he wasn't in store and I was like "oh yeah all the time". Even with everyday things that aren't that hard to comprehend no one believes you if you are female.

I expect doctors don't dismiss your pain now. I almost died with an infected gallbladder having spent months trying to convince my male doctor the pain was real.

I knew that when I transition (trans woman), I would loose male privilege, but I never knew what to expect. Only three days into HRT, a man trapped me and tried to get me to go with him. I'd never been more scared in my life, and that encounter taught me that I now have to be extra vigilant, even in broad daylight. Also, I never really liked men's clothes, but I will admit that I miss pockets.

I’m a trans gal, and I recently went for a late night walk because of covid and the summer heat. Three cars circled the block around me, with three male drivers trying to talk to me or get me into a car. This was in the span of two hours.

As a cis-gendered, bi WOC, I completely agree with the fact that mens clothing is made to last. I have mens flannel that has survived for YEARS.

I had a man tell me “ I knew a female principal once, and she got fired.” I ask him what’s your point because I’ve known men to lose a position before as well. He was shattered and laughed as he walked away.

10:21 They do! Even in m/f households where both partners are working and they perceive themselves to do equal housework, women typically do 60% of the chores. Plus women went on strike for a bit in Iceland - they made their husbands make meals, take kids to school, &c - and the country completely broke down. That protest caused a lot of progressive reforms :)

The number of times I was ignored and my ideas glossed over when I worked in the corporate world still makes me cringe when I think back on it. Once I finally lost my cool, because we were going to make the same dumbass mistake we'd been making with a website redesign that we'd been making for the past 5 redesigns. I launched into a tirade, pointing out all the things we'd learned the last several times and implored my colleagues not to repeat those same mistakes. What happened? I was forced to apologize and naturally we proceeded in the way the IT guy that insisted we do it his way because it was an 'industry best practice.' (and guess what? we had the same level of failure we had the previous 5 times!). Ugh! I wonder how much differently that entire interaction would have gone if I'd been read as male instead of female back then.

Once I was at a job interview for a corporate job as an assistant. Most of the people who worked there were men, and I was being interviewed by men who asked if I’m okay with the fact that’d I’d be working with mostly men. At first I thought they were asking if I’d feel comfortable, which I appreciated, but then they said something along the lines of, “Because you’ll have to act professional,” and implied that they thought I would try to flirt. I accepted a different job (the corporate job didn’t hire me anyway, but I still wouldn’t have worked there).

This is obvious but taking your shirt off in public. Y’know and not run the risk of being sexually harassed or assaulted.

THE HE-PEAT!!! I honestly thought this was a tv/movie trope for a long time and this didn't really happen in the workplace. Cut to 2 years ago, I'm managing my first large scale project as a project manager AND i pass as a cis women in the workplace (i'm actually non-binary). In our weekly departmental meeting I suggest a resolution for a problem and volunteer to do more work than necessary. My boss say "no no, we don't want to do that". 3 days later in another meeting to prep for discussion the same issue with our client, my boss says "I was talking to [the other male manager working with this client] and we've decided [repeats almost word for word what i had previously suggested]. I was at a loss for words, and I couldn't believe that had actually happened to me. Now I have to assert myself and say things like "As I had mentioned in our meeting previously" or "That's a great suggestion and I was planning something very similar" because i'll be damned if I let someone take credit for my work just because we have different genitals.

There's one thing I can relate to here! That thing about a man asking you to explain what a term means. I had a white man (online) ask me if I was sure I knew what "colonizer" means. I am Jamaican. Our Parliament still refers to the Queen in its opening prayer, we still have a Governor General. Yes, sir, I DO know what a colonizer means!

Even as someone well read on the subject of privilege I find it mind blowing and insightful to hear someone who has experienced both sides confirm it. I feel like a lot of the time I as a girl see things like this but don’t really believe it myself (internalized misogyny ugh). Hearing it from you is super reassuring and something everyone should hear! Guys need to open their mind to what we women and feminine presenting people experience everyday, and for us it’s nice to hear it’s not all in our head. Edit: I want to add that we should be aware of this and this feeling when talking about other minorities. Listen when POC speak their truth and what they experience. Just because you personally don’t see it as a white person doesn’t mean it isn’t happening!

I noticed how much less I smiled as a guy and it was such a relief. Had never realized before how much pressure I felt to smile.

I take public transit--and as a man, I can call out a guy who is hitting on a woman (or, as is often the case, a girl) who is clearly uninterested and uncomfortable. This does sometimes lead to some scary moments, as the guys can take this as a challenge to their manhood--but it's worth it to see the relief these girls feel when I'm the guy's focus instead. And I can usually talk the guy down, pointing to her body language. Even the ones who get off on making women uncomfortable are reluctant to admit it.

Dude when you said something about men not thinking that you’re flirting with them HOLY SHIT dude. All I want is just to be friends with some guys without any romantic intention and recently I was invited to a game of D&D with some male coworkers and I’m not yet out nor passing in the workplace and I’m afraid that if I go they will see me as a quirky girl rather than one of the guys which is preventing me from going altogether

As a cis but not super feminine woman I fully support expanding formal attire options. I'm not super comfy in dresses/heals/makeup, but I'm also REALLY NOT a button up/tie/full suit kinda girl either.

I know I shouldn't need to hear this from a man to feel validated but damn. Thanks for making this.

I transitioned in the other direction and can tell you that I notice all the same differences, albeit in the other direction. Of course a trans woman is in twice the danger in most of these circumstances. That's why we work so hard to pass, to be only as threatened and abused as a regular cis woman. We aspire to the great heights of somewhat less marginalization. The biggest difference I notice is how much you are allowed to speak in a group. I used to quite enjoy being the center of attention and grabbing up to 70% of the speaking time over four other people and I was usually entertaining enough that this was fine. Now if I speak as much as half as much as the next quietest person I start to get dirty looks. This is even the case in the same groups of friends that used to be fine with me hogging the mike. Seriously, the difference is truly jarring and it is not fun to be silenced.

Not too long ago, I was talking with 2 of my kids; my n.b. and my younger son. My boy interrupted me, and my n.b. (who is on T and looks masculine now) stopped him and pointed out that female looking people get talked over more, and don't-do-that especially-to-Mama.

As a woman, this is so interesting to listen to!

I’m just going into high school and something I noticed is that before I transitioned and came out some of the girls would tell me that I wasn’t pretty or would try to give me tips on what I could do to make myself look better and now those same girls compliment how nice my eyebrows are, how nice my hair is, and just general things on my physical appearance when I haven’t really changed and I’ve always looked very masculine and like a boy

What you said about formal events not being friendly to gender non-conforming people reminded me of how I lost the second irl friend I came out to. She invited me to her wedding; unfortunately my dysphoria was super bad and I knew there was no way I could go to such a binary gendered space when I was already struggling so badly. Formal menswear did not fit my barbie body in a masculine way no matter how much binding I attempt, and formal womenswear had become impossible (the last time I tried it, I was still an egg and still ran out of the wedding in distress). I explained respectfully that I was honoured to be invited but was having a really hard time with dysphoria and wouldn't be able to attend. That was the last time she spoke to me, pointedly ignoring me at work or at socials. (We were also work colleagues.) It was so awkward and painful. But honestly, grand weddings are so performative, there's all these standards of heteronormativity you have to meet... Ugh. It was not her fault at all, I am just upset at society here.

i'm mtf trans, pretransition. and i have to oposit when it comes to crying. i'm literaly dieing inside but a desert on the outside. for tears to start flowing my body has so much stress on it that i alwais get a headach

What surprised me the most when I started passing as male is the prevalence of so-called "locker room talk" whenever there are not people perceived as women around. I knew it was a thing, but I didn't KNOW it was a thing.

It's so funny hearing this as I've transitioned MTF. Like so many of the things that you're excited about that you now get, I'm glad are finally gone. I couldn't stand men's clothing. It's all the same. So rough and heavy bleh. I have definitely noticed that my male upbringing prepared me more for any sort of patriarchy that has hit me. Quiet honestly, I'm lucky to be in places where it just isn't as prominent. I remember the days of going out at night and not being afraid, but sort of still feel that way anyways. Maybe it's naivety or that I'm a second degree black belt, but I still feel this weird sense of comfort outside even at night. It's funny, I remember I was walking around at night with a female friend of mine and some dudes walked by us and just instinctively I walked in front of her to protect her. I swear, it was just sort of a primal reaction. Being able to cry has been so amazing for me. I just love feeling that connected to the world and people around me. I've felt so emotionally stunted my whole life and to really feel all my emotions is just fantastic. It's strange to me that you feel less angry after transitioning. I found the same, but I found that a lot of my anger just stemmed from testosterone. As I transitioned, I felt the anger still, but it was much more tame. I didn't substitute it with crying, but instead just lessened it. I no longer need to punch pillows just to "get it out". Hated that about myself before. I absolutely love that I can just drop the male "I need to prove myself" act. It's so freeing. Can I carry things? Sure. Do I need to? Nah. That said, I can't stand the chivalry. It feels so fake to me. Whenever someone opens a door for me or is nice or says hi just because I'm a woman (and I can confirm they never said hi to me as a man), it just kinda grosses me out and makes me a bit angry. Like, I was pretty much the same person, but because I was a guy, I was seen as less friendly and approachable. I can literally point to moments where as a guy other men would treat me like shit because they wanted to flirt with some girl. So, those little chivalrous acts just make me a bit uncomfortable. I try to approach it with good faith, but still feels weird. The voice thing is definitely real. My feminine voice is just higher. Higher pitches don't carry as well. It's actually a bit tricky to be loud and high pitch at the same time. So, I just learned to speak up or even slightly deepen my voice so I stand out a bit. I'm use to being in front of people and being assertive, so it's not too much of an adjustment honestly. Best part of being a woman: People don't assume I'm a creep. It's fantastic. I can hug my friends and not worry about how I'm doing it. I just do it. I can cuddle on the couch and it's great.

Oh MY GOD. I just realized because of this video that part of the reason I always feel like I'm not qualified enough to give advice on things (even things I'm an expert about) is due to how society invalidates females as unknowledgable or less intelligent when it comes to subjects that aren't societally feminine... Thank you for helping me put this together. P.S. You seem like a super awesome person. We could totally be friends.

Hi you are a good guy and gender roles can be stupid

!!!!!!!! The crying thing!!!!! I’m not the only one who cries when they’re super super angry?? Holy shit???

I totally agree, it is mind boggling how the perception of a person can change with their gender. It is just recently that I'm passing, but it sometimes is like living in a different world - both good and bad, though mostly positive. The "being taken seriously" and taking "no" as an answer parts are what fascinate and make me sad the most. Yes, I do enjoy my newly found privileges immensely, but hope - like you - to use them in a productive way.

About pockets in clothes: even my boyfriend's *pyjama* has pockets

I don't know what happened during my childhood that made me hate everything I felt was a "macho" thing. I was sure women were smarter and I coined the "The Future is Female" phrase years before I learned it had been in use since the 70's (I didn't know I didn't speak English back then). Now, as an adult straight cis dude, I have mostly female friends and I'm constantly encouraging them to find their foot in a male dominated society that is even more backwards than that of the US. I just wished male privilege was discussed more widely in broadcast media to make people understand what the feminist fight is about. Thanks for this video. It's really eye opening to get the perspective of someone that had both experiences.

There's so much said in this video that I relate to, although I just came around it by chance. The society I grew up in expected girls to be sweet and caring, social butterflies, always smiling and cheerful, girly and pretty pink, moderately tall and moderately skinny, always wearing makeup, not too much, not too little, be good at artistic things and less so at intelectual things. Always play the damsel in distress, but not be needy. Be silly, and never smarter than men around them. Now, as a very short, quite chubby, very boyish, quite smart and not at all artistic girl, I was always everything a girl shouldn't be. I have seen my equally smart girl friends play dumb and act into these expectations. I could never do that. In my whole life, I met maybe three guys who didn't completely shut me off just because I was as smart as they were. I was always berated and judged for not wearing makeup and dresses, for not being slim enough, for not being girly enough. The part that worries me the most is that every time I mention it to women around me, I get the same answer. "You're exaggerating, everything is fine, you just have to act accordingly and people will like you. Just smile more, play dumb and wear some makeup. You'll get used to it in time." The problems come when women don't recognise the stereotyping and double standards as a problem. I moved now to a different country, where the problems are seen as problems. Some double standards remain, but the simple thing that people, especially women, challenge these beliefs, makes the double standards lower. It is amazing to me to see how different life can be in a more open-minded society, but also it showed me how many double standards I grew up to accept as normal. And how much of me being "just wrong" was actually not that wrong after all.

As a guy, I can say that a lot of these depend on your character. I'm a fairly feminine person, though still clearly a man. I found that unless you're confident, outspoken or sociable, a lot of these privileges are significantly lessened. ALTHOUGH - I still very much understand that the privilege is still there. Whenever people talk about things like this I in a way feel ashamed to be a man. While I strongly believe it is not as idyllic for us as some people think, I really wish the other side was better off...

Oh, and another thing I wonder about: How usual is it that you are pretty much expected to want children as a man? When I was in my 20's and 30's I was constantly told that it would change when I got to my 30's (stopped in mid 30's, I look younger than I am), or that it would change "once I met the right man" (heteronormative, much?), or that I really should have kids because I would be an excellent parent or some other argument. Is it as frowned upon for men not wanting to have children?

Wow, I didn't even know that I experience some of this (more) because I am a woman... Thank you for these insights! :)

Honestly I really respect you for making these videos. You could have gone stealth but instead you are putting yourself at risk because you want to help others and share a rare point of view to better humanity. It's a really cool thing to do so mad respect!

It is really interesting to hear that this is not only my perception. I very often have the feeling to be dismissed and have the same sentence acknowledged once one of my male coworkers says it. I am always annoyed at that, but everyone tells me it’s just in my head but apparently it isn’t.

Thanks for making this! As someone who started transitioning pretty young (socially at 15 and medically at 17), I think I'm not as aware of these things as people who spent more time being perceived as female in the world. As I'm starting to pass more and be in more spaces where people don't know I'm trans, it feels increasingly important for me to be aware of what gendered privileges I have and how to use them to lift up the voices of others.

I was younger maybe 19 I had a boyfriend who treated me like the way that I do things was absolutely totally stupid. He's constantly correcting me trying to tell me how I can't do this I can't do that because people will take advantage of me. I tried implementing exactly what he said but nobody would accept this behavior from a girl, especially not a young girl. We are expected to not acknowledge our worth or know our worth. That's why so many people have trouble giving women the power to have their own religious views about pregnancy. Because women are expected to lower their worth in relationship to children and men. By the way when I kept trying to act the same way my boyfriend told me to act I got fired from at least two jobs.

This is really help me as someone who reads as a Demi girl who reads as female all my life to understand and notice when this stuff is happening more.

the babysitting thing ugh. i recently realized i needed to reassure my mom that i wasn't *really* being forced to babysit at my parents' friends' parties, which she now feels bad about. it was more just that i was 5 years older than the next oldest kid in that friend group other than my brother, and after that all the couples were having babies, so there were a lot of babies. they couldn't leave me at home, but i wasn't forced to watch the little kids, it was more just wtf else was i gonna do? be a 10 year old hanging out with drunk adults watching the superbowl? or go upstairs with the 3-5 year olds and hope i can find a quiet corner and just read or something. sometimes this friend group would do a weekend cabin trip since one family had a big cabin in the mountains. a relatively newer person in the group (married in basically) *asked* if i could watch his daughter for the afternoon *and offered to pay me*. looking back it meant a lot that he saw me as an actual human who didn't necessarily want to hang out with kids 5-10 years younger than me.

I guess I just take it for granted. I go running everyday, most times at night, because I live in Florida and the heat is crazy. But I go running in the dark, for miles, and I've never had any issue. Never anything weird, or out of the ordinary, or suspicious. And I run on back roads, not in well lit up areas.

So glad for someone to actually say that I shouldn't have had to plan parties...I'm an introvert, but was working for Cisco, it was just assumed that I would love to plan festive events. Hell, I didn't even want to attend!

Really nice video, having men acknowledging their priviledge helps a lot in the fight for equality Ps: I really needed a trigger warning before that back to school merch announcement lol

Could I have a man in my immediate life saying these things, please? Sigh.

As a guy, I really love just walking outside at night. The cold air in my lungs and the lack of people around is calming to me. I hate that women might not be able to experience things like that because of the (justified) fear for their safety.

I officially came out to my mom as trans ftm today (she kinda new before) and she said that I have to wait until Im 18 to get top surgery. Which sucks but she still accepts me with is good

I wish people were less sexist. I feel like sexism is just so ignored to where it doesn’t even get any legitimate recognition. I think anytime someone thinks of a feminist, they think of crazy females that just want privilege (which admittedly there are people like that). But there are so many trying to actually make a change as well and just aren’t given the attention _because_ they’re women. I also hate how publicized these matters get. Everyone is trying to either criticize or publicize gender and race equality to where it’s getting caught up and everyone is missing the bigger picture. I am personally Agender but due to my inability to transition yet (and sometimes just my voice as well depending on the type of day) I get treated so often as a female it drives me nuts. Even my PARENTS treat me like I can’t do anything; even more so since I had a scoliosis surgery _two_ years ago despite the fact that even my doctor has told me that I should be able to do everything just fine now. I’m always worried about relationships when it comes to men because I’m worried they’ll see me that way as well; I much rather prefer relationships with females or non-binary people because of it. Just a small rant of mine but, uh, thank you for reading

4:20 Yes we need to have more in-between genders formal clothing. I always feel like I'm melting when I have to wear a super feminine dress.

So I'm a ftm guy in highschool and I'm read as a cis guy, and in comparison to middle school where I was read as a girl things are super different, mainly that I am not bullied for the way I look or who I hang out with and I'm actually liked by my peers.

I want a gif of "men we need to get our shit together" but also hard relate to most of this

i'm not trans but i always get my brother's hand-me-downs and i am very appreciative of the pockets

Hello beautiful people I hope you're having a great time! Keep it up! I believe in you c: . . . . Bro I love your videos, thank you so much for them ❤️

I definitely recognize a lot of this for myself, except in reverse. Before coming out as a trans woman and starting my transition I never really had any fear of moving around after dark, these days I very aware. Also the thing about crying, then I am now actually allowed to cry. I grew up in a time where a boy/guy was not allowed to cry. A guy just had to man up and move on. I feel more expectations to my appearance these days. But I definitely have also become more vain, so I don't really mind it. Regarding the loss of male privileges, I was already low on the totem pole as I presented as an effeminte gay male. So the losses were mininal, especially since I jumped right into passing as a white straight cis woman. One area that I feel has changed a lot is how men seem more willing to help me with work, even when I don't need help. As if I am not really that competent. Or maybe it was just that before they were afraid I was contagious and they would catch the gay.

Thank you, thank you, thank you SO MUCH for making this video!! I'm a cis woman myself and I wish people were more aware of these things!! And I wish cis men /cared/ about these things, cause it often seems they just.. don't. Even if you try to explain, they just shrug and move on. It's priceless to have a man talk about these things the way you do cause they'll take it seriously coming from a man! I love how many trans men stand up for women, thank you so much for that! You probably can't read all comments cause you get a lot, but just in case you do see this, I really love your cool and fun style of talking about this stuff and you seem really great! Gonna definitely check out your other vids too and you just gained a new subscriber! Keep doing what you do and being amazing!

I tend to dress in a very androgynous way and for quite a while I would look a lot like a younger boy, currently I look more feminine. But for quite a while I was used to most people never opening doors for me even if I had my arms full. At one point around when I was still commonly seen as male i was wearing very feminine clothes and no chest binder and i had my arms full and was going into a building and an older gentleman jumped up and grabbed the door for me. This was a really weird moment because I had gotten so used to balancing things and getting doors myself without a sideways look from anyone else

The second you brought up the NO, I started to choke up, because it just feels so good to have this experience, of not being taken seriously, validated! Thank you so much for what you're doing, you are a beautiful soul! Much love from Germany ❤️

YES stop fake pockets! I just want to carry my phone and keys but the only pants I have that can fit them comfortably is the ones I got for work, which are pretty much just women cut men’s jeans. Back when I was seen as a guy I could carry a wallet, phone, keys, gameboy, and still had room for other stuff in my pockets.

I love watching your videos. Being able to listen about your perspective of this kind of things has helped me understand lots of things.

You're amazing! Thank you for your perspective!

I love your observations!!

I think this video is really eye opening to people who haven't thought about stuff like that before! I really want to show this to all of my friends

Thank you for this video.

thank you so much for sharing this! Voices like yours on this topic are ones that need to be heard by all!

Thank you so much for sharing your experience.

Hey, I'm a CIS male and I cry. I openly admit I can be emotional, especially at powerful scenes or events.

Thank you for acknowledging privilege, the last part was the best, use it to change the situation around you. BTW I didn't cry much since childhood (my dad insisted I was a cry baby so I dried up) until childbirth. That sh*t wrecked me and I cry with almost everything now.

Very interesting to hear your reflection on this and the other video when you tell the pros and cons. I feel like I needed to know this.

This very insightful, thank you for sharing!

Insightful observations. Both this & it's sibling video. Thanks for posting. Lots of food for thought.

Very interesting. Thank you for sharing your experiences!

Very interesting, informative video...good observations!

I really enjoyed this talk! Thank you for letting us know your experience on both sides!

This is validating to hear. Thank you

9:56 YES!!!! You're awesome for saying this, for drawing attention to it!

Found you through your previous video. Thank you for making these 🥰

This was wildly informative. I love to hear your angle on this!

Watching your channel for comfort. Planning on coming out to my family soon.

your posts are very educational

i love all your videos. You are so good in your videos. You sound so lively animated and mature. you look good too

This is such a great video! Thank you so much for making it

as long as your happy..keep up the positive role model for all. knowledge is key. best of luck to you.

Ever since I discovered you online, I've been watching so many of your postings. So informative and delivered intelligently! I love these!

I am afab nb, read as a female. And I cannot forget one stupid thing about being treated as a woman. I was in college and where I'm from in winter it gets to about - 30 degrees Celsius. And women are forced to wear skirts to some places like that college, no matter the temperature no pant allowed. Ugh I hate it. I wish I could be more rebellious back then.

I love the energy of your videos!

Before I met a guy who used the he-peat I always thought my friend group (mostly males) didn't enjoy my ideas or suggestions. This dude walks in and in a convo where I had spoken the same sentence twice he said the exact same thing and everyone agreed and said it was a good idea. But he was not a douche and simply said "oh you like the idea? Cus she has said it at least twice and you keep ignoring her but when I say it it's suddenly good? You should all learn to listen to her more often." Now I make sure I am heard and I don't let anyone take credit for my ideas or work.

So I just stumbled onto this video and I love that you are using your abilities to help voice for others. You my man, are an exceptional person who is leading our world in the right direction. I can’t wait to see what you can do!!!

This is such a great conversation to be having! An interesting perspective on a hugely important topic. Also, you’re one of my very favourite content creators, and I always love to see new videos from you! :)

Literally 1000% relate to you man! Great video content. I love how intelligently you speak as well!

I love the way you communicate, so darn mature. so interesting to listen to you. I can listen to you all day. Love your voice too

This is such a great video

Wow, this was such a fascinating video! I watched the partner video to it as well. Really honor your perspective and the humbleness, honesty, tenacity, eloquence and vulnerability with which you present it! Super happy I found your channel. Also, unrelated: your “COVID hair” looks fantastic.

Also interesting it's different to see it from your perspective thanks again.

Ugh I feel that often I'm not taken seriously or challenged on my knowledge of things I know a lot about now that I've transitioned. I work tech support and often have guys call in asking for help, then have them dismiss the support I give them. My male coworkers have never had problems with these people in the past until I talked to them. It's really telling and makes me feel awful every time it happens.