Men want to know they are appreciated. Compliments are something that men don't hear as much as women. Men treasure the women they are with, and if they get validation and feedback that they are making a woman feel safe, secure, and treasured, the man knows he is doing the right thing.

I wouldn't introduce a woman as my girlfriend unless she actually IS my girlfriend.

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

My take....first off, if you're in a relationship and still acting like youre single, just stay fricken single. Its not that hard! Secondly, this having a boner for a luxury lifestyle is BS "oh i can't date you cause you're not making 6 figures" those people need to know their role and shut their mouths! Third, people need to stop overly complicating dating! It's a mindset! It's nuances! Stop figuring it out like trying to put cheat codes in a video game! Four, if you have trouble communicating, take yourself out of the dating pool and work on it, so you don't waste people's time! Thanks for coming to my TED talk!

TV has taught us that "we need to talk" means that what's coming next is a breakup.

I discovered Courtney’s channel when she had less than 70k subscribers. Now, her channel is going to hit 1M. Hard work does pay off.

Too many people conflate "standards" with "wishes." It's like they are saying you need to have a lambo instead of saying you need to have a safe, reliable, comfortable car. Yes you need to be attracted to your partner, feel safe, feel respected. You don't need someone who spoils you and treats you like a princess so you don't have to lift a finger.

Another entitled Tiktoker: it gets me whenever modern women on one hand say they don't need no men, and then on the other also say men are supposed to provide for them. The one and only woman on earth that I feel obliged to provide for is my elderly mom.

Here is one: All we want is some kindness and we will do anything you want.

Most woman can't take what we men say seriously. When we say something, we literally mean it. There's no metaphor, or games, and idea behind what we're saying.

i never identify a girl as "Friend" I always just say her name "this is Kelly". Until the relationship has been defined, then its "this is mt girlfriend Kelly"

Things women need to know about men.... 1) It's not always about getting some "trim." 2) Guys have feelings too, and do care about more than sex. 3) Shouldn't necessarily be defined by what he has or what he can provide for her. The list goes on.....

"if your dog's not barking; it means he's being fed by someone else" where 'barking' means asking/begging for physical intimacy; why does he need to be the one asking and/or begging for this? By this same logic, the guy who is "not barking"; could be assuming that she has somebody else on the side.

I don't feel insecure because of my low salary. If a woman judges me for it, that's on her, not me.

As a guy with an anxiety problem, NEVER start a conversation with "we need to talk." I will assume the worst every time, probably anticipate a break-up.

As a man the first one is BS lol if you really love someone you’re not gonna cheat on them.

That womens language about wanting him to change to meet her expectations, thats a big red flag right there.

I’ll just put it this way: If I’m not providing for my spouse, I feel useless. I want to meet the challenge of providing for those I care about. It gives me my sense of utility and direction. If I am not able to provide, I feel like I’m letting the people around me down. I’m certain most men feel the same way.

The arrogance of the women acting like she knows everything while putting on makeup like she's going to a movie premier speaks volumes about her. Not sure how anyone would want to take any advice from her at all.

LOL at her "I want to hang out see where things go" criticism. Women do the ambiguous, plausibly-deniable thing all the time with their intentions but when a guy gives it back to them they hate it 🤣

OMG #10! She is so spot on! I don't know how many times the woman expected me to be a mind reader. Think on this: Women are emotional creatures. They change their minds all the time. Consistency can be out the window when they take on different angles and perspectives of the same subject matter based on their mood. How is a man expected to keep up with this without communication?

Don't ever sprinkle important subjects into an easy going conversation and expect us to listen intently and remember every little detail. Some men are good at that, a lot aren't. If it's something important, speak directly to us. Don't beat around the bush or try to add nuance, tell us exactly what the issue is. We'll recognize the gravity of something if you do it this way, and then do whatever needs to be done.

When i say "Let's hangout" I just wanna see if I vibe with them or not. I feel you don't really get to know someone. Until you spend time with them in person

1] Don't play mind games all the time. Keep it simple as much as possible. 2] I am usually laid back and easy going. That is NOT an invitation for dominance or emotional manipulation. 3] Men and women are wired differently. But, that does not mean that we deserve to tolerate women who have emotional baggage (most do) from their previous experiences. 4] One of the most sought after, but rare traits that us men look for in women : Understated (key word) confidence and most importantly..... Humility.

This entire video is basically women assuming that we communicate like they do. Lost is a turbulent sea of emotions and alphabet soup, desperately trying find words that don't bring up negative emotions because they can't deal with difficult conversations. Instead of just taking what we say as what we mean, they have to run it through the filter of their emotions and complicate the ever living shit out of simple communications.

As a man, I do feel pressure to be a financial provider in a relationship. I understand the difference between being able to pay bills every month and being able to pay for luxury items at will. I am currently looking for a new home and a new job. At the moment I do not feel qualified to pursue a romantic relationship due to my current uncertain financial situation.

1) You are not always blame-free if your partner cheats. That depends on someone's history and relationship dynamic. I know a father who stayed in the relationship for his son but eventually cheated on her girl-boss wife. I am not endorsing cheating, but I understand why that might happen if I take the daily interaction with her wife into account. 2) The tone of "We need to talk" reminds me of my mother. The moment that I am in trouble(at least she thinks I am), it is probably a one-way conversation coming up. I wouldn't want an intervention-like conversation that is one-sided. Some of the others are really spot on too.

"Hey. We need to talk" It does make Men defensive. Women tend to take "things going well" for granted and really generally never go out of their way to praise or call attention to good behavior. Men are supposed to be "good"! So yeah. "We need to talk" means "somethings broken and I need you to fix it" to a man. So when

I certainly want women to know that men are not intimidated by them and they need to quit using that word. Just like people need to quit misusing the word empathy in the place of sympathy. I will say that only men that have never talked to women outside of their immediate family are intimidated by women, the rest of us are either not impressed, annoyed or disgusted. Humility is such a lost virtue

>Asked out a girl i thought was cute >she tells me I’m broke >accept the plain-face fact that I don’t earn enough to benefit her >been avoiding girls for 2 years now >doubled my income thru merit based raises and part-time work >40K to 80K, still have a long way to go Initially the goal was to prove this chick wrong, but along the way its become supporting a family i can be proud of

I tell people that my girlfriend is either my partner or my girlfriend depending on the social situation l am currently in. Real relationships are supposed to be exclusive if you are actually looking for a real, healthy, and long lasting relationship with someone. You should make sure that your values are in line with eachothers by having honest and open communication with one another.

"It doesn't matter if he's rich or poor, so he may as well be rich."

2:37 - As a man with a disability that has prevented me from having a career, I definitely have no problems with a woman making more money than I do. The only thing that would make me feel emasculated is if she rejected me for not earning enough, which seems to be a common attitude in women.

Dont let these chronically online narcissists on tiktok project their own experiences to you and yours. You know if a man is good or bad after the first few dates its not hard to figure people out. After that point if you decide to carry on with a guy whos a pos thats on you

Many of the problems in relationships could be solved with good communication. Even just being direct with what you want and regularly letting your partner know they're loved and appreciated goes a long way.

"Being in survivor mode", that one hit spot on. Been like that for the past 7 years for me, because I didn't know how things would work out for me after school, with job and a place to live. But luckily I landed a job pretty soon after school and I've been looking for a place of my own since then. Everything here is just so expensive, taking care of anyone but myself hasn't even been a consideration, so I haven't been dating at all. But I'm going to a viewing of an apartment soon, so I still got my hopes up. I just want to be my best version before I put myself out there.

1:20 I agree that it depends on what kind of a man he is when it comes to cheating. My ex-wife who ironically cheated on me would basically brag that I could be in a room surrounded by nude women who were all receptive and into me, and I wouldn't stray. She was right, though, seeing how our marriage ended, it seems really cruel of her, but I digress. Men are not all cheaters. Monogamy is on a scale, and some of us pin the needle. There are faithful men, and there are unfaithful men. However, I would say that while yes, this doesn't mean he doesn't love you, it's still a character fault, and you shouldn't tolerate it. Cheating is ingrained, but it's also a choice. Being with a cheater is always going to bring someone who is monogamous pain and you shouldn't tolerate it, no matter how much they love you.

I don't base my worth on an income. I really think women care about how charismatic a guy is and how he makes her feel.

Your videos are the best I ever see on KZfaq. You are so well spoken and you clearly take the time needed to put together your message. It comes across so well articulated and easy to understand. Thank you for all the great advice! Keep it up!!

Re: Men being the bread winner. I know many men feel this way. Can't speak for other men, but it has never bothered me that my wife drew down a great paycheck alongside me (sometimes more than me). I was always like, "You go, Babe!" Re: Men showing emotion/being a robot. Again, l can't speak for other men, but not showing your emotions [in a safe way] is NOT healthy - emotionally, physically, or spiritually. Not saying men should be a sobbing mess. However, they should feel safe to express their emotions (yes, including crying) with their lady.

“I don’t have a girlfriend, I just know a girl who would get really mad if she heard me say that.” ~Mitch Hedberg

Never cheated, but when I did consider it was with someone who I wasn't getting the physical intimacy I needed and was having no success communicating with them about it. Eventually I had to tell them that I wanted it to be with them but if it wasn't them it would be with someone else.

Contrary to how much people believe there is such a biological tie with a man and his penis, not all men are "wired" for the pursuit of sex. For me, I actually like to put off sex in search of a meaningful connection with a woman, because sex complicates things. Once you pass that gate, the relationship changes along with the expectations. Also, since it's mostly on the man to be functional to perform, comfort goes a long way, and waiting for the right time makes the act more pleasurable and powerful.

One thing I'd like women to know if men aren't a utility to be exploited. And they aren't "less of a man" just cause they don't have a 100k yearly salary like I've heard my sister and other women I worked with say.

Love this video overall because you do a great job of trying to make sure there's room for nuance with a Tiktok video of someone who is super specific.

My biggest personal struggle has been my career/income. It definitely affects my self-esteem and my ability to date. Why would I date someone knowing that I cannot provide for them in the future? It's tough.

I provided for my wife, she didn’t need to work but it would have been helpful to have a little bit coming in. She left saying it wasn’t enough. What really got to me was that in the end she said that I hadn’t done a single thing for her and that she could do it better and if that’s the case what the hell does she need me for. Needless to say, that was one of the most painful things to hear especially after pouring so much effort trying to provide.

My ex, who when I met was actually going through a never-ending divorce, would frequently give me a hard time because I didn't talk about marriage. This puzzled me, knowing this when it was brought up. After only a year, this began. This made her doubt my commitment to her when nothing else I did would have made her feel that way. If someone isn't ready, they aren't ready. This didn't mean I didn't love her and didn't see myself in her future. For me, I enjoy taking smaller steps whereas the world now makes us feel like we have to walk on everyone elses timeline. I know now it was actually her negative self-talk that made her feel this way. I do agree with talking about goals and dreams. Not only does it help you bond, but it just shows you care about their dreams and allows you ways to aid and support them in their venture, building your love. I think a lot of this is from inexperience and the will to want to relearn from the old ways. Make these mistakes and learn. Or fail and continue to fail. It's all up to you.

#2 - we don’t want women who want to battle with us about what is good enough. Either trust us or kick rocks. Not all men are worthy of being trusted, it comes down to the individual; But atleast consider that we deserve a chance to be trusted. Women, Be a man’s peace and not his pain and see how much he can do for you!

I admit that the one thing I lacked in my previous relationship was communication and my ex would always tell me, especially in the bedroom, that she wasn’t a mind reader. I just thought she would know what I wanted whenever I took off my pants and underwear and sat down on the bed. Great content, one to watch again for us men to know what we need to work on and improve for our next relationship or current relationship.

Starting out in a relationship ease into conversations. After time it should be expected and understood.

Can we talk about how unfair it is to shame a man for watching pornography or masturbating when he isn't allowed to have sex with a woman? Imagine being forbidden service at a restaurant and then being told you're a piece of garbage for trying to make your own food. So starve?

Saying hey we need to talk reminds me of my parents getting ready to ream me for sumn. Definitely triggers some anxiety. I think its mostly due to phrasing. Saying we need to talk is very different from coming right out and saying hey i was thinking… or hey what do you think about… so on and so forth

You are so wonderful Courtney! Love your channel!

Most of my friends if they have a girl they're interested in (myself included,): My boys already know. They've also been made aware that I would greatly prefer if they didn't try to make any moves on this person. Anyone who violates this law isn't a homie, but they're also not in my circle anymore.

Hey Courtney! Do you think you could make a video for people who are planning to re-enter the dating scene? I would like to hear your input and advice on this topic.

The financial pressure on men is felt in one of two ways: 1) You are greatly appreciated by others you provide for and it motivates you to do your best. Superman. 2) You feel defeated, unappreciated, not good enough, a failure, behind compared to other guys, like there is something inherently wrong with your character. I think this is just one aspect of why men avoid relationships until they feel "ready," because the emotional weight of feeling not good enough sticks with your for days, weeks, or months at a time if you aren't checking your mindset. Focusing on myself has helped me improve my finances and overall wellbeing without being worried of someone leaving me. Just my two cents 🤷🏻‍♂

I was treated like a walking ATM by two women. I'm done with that

Men will only chase so much. If a man doesn't show intimacy, think about how much attention you are giving him instead of giving to you. It doesn't necessarily mean he is cheating. If you are using the dog "barking" analogy, maybe the dog is just tired of barking with no reaction on the dog owner's part.

the "I want to get to know you and see where things go" does typically originate from sexual interest, however this inevitably leads to them liking you more as a person at the same time. it usually starts with sexual intent at first, blossoming into something more serious if the chemistry is there.

"We need to talk" is code for, I am about to tell you something that is really going to make you mad, like she already cheated on you or she wants to break up with you. Never start a conversation with that phrase unless you want it to go badly.

Good Video , Mrs. Ryan.... Stay True..

She is right we need to talk it depends on how it’s said. It could be something good, something bad , something we did or said. His mind is going to be racing and he curious to what we need to talk about.

One thing to know, is that things in this world are not absolute. Great tip Courtney! Yea, things are definitely not mutually exclusive, things are often corelated, but does not mean causation. But I guess things don't mean that these patterns are meaningless. Be careful when going down the road of investigating more, but I think alot of times people are treating boy vs girl dating as if its the other side's fault, when its often both; both being bad because of assumptions that the other side is worse.

I think that point about not bringing up the future to your girl is fairly spot on but I do think there are a lot of guys that don’t know what they want for their own future and live very day-to-day. My ex brought up the future often and I was hesitant to provide a real answer because I hand no clue what I really wanted for myself but also because subconsciously I wasn’t sure if we were going to be with each other forever. I loved her a lot but there was just something that felt off that I couldn’t explain. I was afraid to be honest because I thought she would leave me but that ended up happening anyway. So, it was a mix of insecurity and being unsure of our long term relationship. Girls should make their guy think about that kind of thing and if he never provides you with an answer then you need to express your displeasure, give them a little bit of time, and then move on if they still don’t give you any real feedback.

1. When they cheat its not because they don't love you / depends on the man. 1a. Usually the men with issues from the past or "bad boys". A good man only has eyes for one. 2. Men put emphasis on their self worth based on how much they make or can provide. 2a. Usually men in higher paying roles or those with more traditional values. Some modern men will go 50/50 or take turns. 3. If a man actually likes you and sees something with you they won't introduce you to their friends as a friend. 3a. I will have told my friends about "her" before they even meet her to avoid this awkward label situation. 4. I want to hang out with you and get to know you to see where this goes. 4a. Some men might mean "get in pants" others speak plainly and really just want to spend more time with a girl to get a better understanding of how they feel about them. 5. the "We need to talk" statement 5a. I can agree that phrase instantly sets me into "what did I do?" mode or a slight panic of "about what?" the phrase comes of as serious and not easy going. 6. If he's not asking for it, he's getting it somewhere else. 6a. Or.... hear me out, he's (like a gentleman) patiently waiting for you to bring it up or waiting for a strong signal from you. 7. They will only treat you as good as you treat yourself. 7a. Men are logical, if you don't give them instructions clearly they will make assumptions or ask questions, be patient with men. A good man will try to help you make improvements. 8. Feels like standards are too high, will move on. 8a. not exactly, more ambitious men will shoot for the stars. Sometimes really high standards drive men away because men don't want a challenge from women, they don't want difficult women. 9. If hes not asking you about long term goals or future plans he's not into you. 9a. depends on the length of the relationship, short term... he's note sure YET, long term. Perhaps he's become comfortable with you and just is not thinking about it. Other/Bad outcome, in this case, yes he's probably distracted by something or someone. 10. Men are not mind readers, hints fly over our heads. 10a. Correct. just tell us what you are thinking/feeling. We are great listeners! We can follow instructions if they are provided!

Oh my God, out of all the people on TikTok and out of all the TikTok videos that you reacted to this one was beyond accurate. She is actually right spot on on everything. It’s really scary. It’s like she read my mind.

Thanks.

@3:55 Thank you! Yes, it is. Being reduced to money printing machines I like to call it.

3:04 yes... unfortunately so. I feel so much pressure to have everything solved. I will sit there an listen trying not to solve it but i still get this pressure from her. I can feel accused of not doing enough to show i care when i dont offer to solve it.

8:53 There is something to be said to phrasing but sprinkling it in leads to much passive aggressive style and to many hints that are most likely going to be missed.

19:58 or he knows that no plan survives first contact and your goals as an individual changes when you get into a relationship. People change over time and their goals change over time but their core values don't change so if he's asking about your core values I wouldn't worry about this too much.

Guys are team builders. They like sports and being part of groups that challenges the environment or wins a contest. When the choose a GF, they are building a very personal team and they take pride in the success of the team. For them to cheat is for them to say my team is broken, messed up. They are admitting defeat. It’s a big personal loss they really want to avoid. At all costs.

I’m a very young 70 year old returning to dating. What “rules” also apply to seniors when it comes to women’s tests, games, and friend zones? I’m just a traditional gentleman looking for that one special lady for a long term relationship. I don’t play hard to get and have never been a player. I like to think that boy meets girl is just that. Is dating really that different today? Thank you.

5:08 you're absolutely right. It does depend on the situation. So yeah, you have it right.

On her first point, she has is a bit clueless regarding her saying that it has nothing to do with the woman. That is false. She is basically saying that even if a woman is a terrible partner and offers no emotional support, that it's not her fault. I take issue with this. Cheating is NEVER the answer to any relationship problems, but this double standard of how when a woman cheats, it's the man's fault for not being there for her, which is a huge problem.

Side note that chick put pounds of make up and thinks its just a casual day? Women who wear that much makeup are incredibly insecure.

1. Disagree - people cheat for all kinds of reasons. I don't think its ever permissible/justified, but I do think there's a reason why it happens and it's typically not "just because they can", but due to some issue in the relationship or something missing altogether. 2. Agree - there are loads of reasons why this is, but the biggest is societal expectations placed on us throughout our lives. Being a robo-ATM, as you said, is not a desirable station to hold and that expectation causes many men to turn and walk away from pursuing women altogether. I'd say to those who want to do something about this - examine your own expectations and requests you place on the men in your lives currently and in your past. Is it fair for them to perfectly meet them, as flawed, fragile human beings like any others? If no, try to modify your thinking and how you act towards them. You can rest assured that men do want to take care of the people in their life - so try to begin with gratitude instead of ceaseless expectations. 3. Depends - I don't think I would describe a woman I was interested in as a friend to others, but like you said, I might if she seemed avoidant or like she could spook easy by describing her as "my girl". I'd have a conversation with her first about exclusivity before calling her that to my friends, but I probably wouldn't call her a friend either. I'd just introduce her as her name (ex: this is Isa, meet ___). If he does introduce you as a friend after talking exclusivity - yikes. I'd recommend moving on. 4. Disagree - She's flat out wrong. I've said that to women with the exclusive purpose of not spooking them. I've met quite a few avoidant women in the past couple of years and I've learned you have to be really careful about sending a message of commitment too soon. There's no way to know exactly what sends this message to each individual woman, so it's better to play it safe. Some guys may very well only want to sleep with you - but that should be clear in a myriad of ways. Saying you want to take it slow and get to know someone is perfectly fine, and at least in my case, I meant exactly what I said. Side note: I've found pursuing avoidant women to be totally not worth it. Not even interested anymore. Get your stuff together, please. 5. Agree - no one wants to be talked to like this. It's parental, foreboding and comes off as an ultimatum. Just change the wording - "Hey, can we talk?" Pick the moment strategically. Don't ask this before he's going out to hang out with his friends or in the middle of the work day. Pick a time when you both have a little bit of bandwidth for the conversation. Both men and women should do it this way. 6. Disagree - Good God. What's up with all the cheating assumptions here? It certainly could be that way, but it's not a hard and fast rule. If it's a concern in your mind, communicate. If you aren't being intimate, why? Are you pursuing intimacy? If not, why? Because It is extremely important to most men to have it in a relationship. I think you nailed the remaining four so no need to add anything. Also this video and my response took a lot longer than I expected lol so I'm ready to stop here. It sounds like this girl dates fuckboys and then makes general assumptions about all men on tiktok to vent. Yawn. You are the common denominator in every situation you find yourself in. Look for men elsewhere, improve your own life and view of yourself and things will change. Stay the same and things almost assuredly won't.

Thank you!!!

In my opinion these things are probably true for the guys *_she_* chooses to hang out with. But definitely not for 'men' in general. And #10 is the exception that confirms this comment

6:23 she's wrong. She's just wrong. Men are not a monolith and everyone is different. If I say I just want to see where things go, it's because I am on the fence and not entirely sure about her.

Well. My wife was very pretty. She never used makeup except for the pencil for her brows. We did not cheat on each other even if we could. Apparently, there are different types of people. However, she was disloyal, disrespectful and unappreciative, just like all other women in my life (my mother, my daughter). I have gladly put up with it. This is the price we have to pay to be with a woman.

@CourtneyRyan Since you requested our perspective about pressure to be the financial provider/breadwinner, I can definitely say that yes, there is a significant societal pressure for men to be able to be the breadwinner today despite so many societal changes in gender roles, etc. Which rubs me the wrong way when that woman says that “Men put a lot of pressure and value on how much money they make and how much they can provide for you.” While yes, men play a part in that, she makes it sound as though it is PURELY men when it is society as a whole, including women. I’m not saying all women, but generally speaking, women do put that pressure on as well, whether it’s through pursuing men who are on their financial level or above it and ignoring the men below them socio-economically speaking, or there being plenty of instances of them emasculating their partner for not providing as much in the relationship, it needs to be said that women also play a part in this issue as well. Not all women, by any means, but in general.

If we are not BF/GF yet, then I just introduce them by their name with no labels attached. I would not introduce girls as friends either just because I do not play the friend zone crap.

The thing about men wanting to provide and if they can't they feel emasculated, the reason why men might feel this way is the expectation that his partner places on him, men know that they are expected to provide we're told this every day of our lives by women, as many women seem to be mainly motivated by the man's ability to make money or to have money. What men really want is to be valued as more than just a ATM, perhaps even to be loved for his other qualities, but this is rare in today's world, sadly. A man will only feel emasculated if he's made to feel that way by his partner, by having his inability to make more money thrown in his face, which seems to be commonplace, once upon a time women used to get with a man and build with him, the man would happily give as much financial support as he could and naturally look for ways to increase that, many women these days just seem to want to wait at the finish line. I'm 64 so, I've seen this change happen, it's a sad situation.

As a man, I would never feel bad for having a woman who makes as much or even more money than me. As long as we have equal responsibilities, that we're both contributing to the couple/household, I'm good.

I definitely do not feel intimidated by women who earn more/are higher educated. But I do tend to avoid them since many of them seem to look down on me for the reasons stated above. Or they won't even notice/consider you. It's just unpleasent to be around most of these women.

I think you're pretty spot on for a lot of things. However, I'd say she's totally right about approaching heavy discussion with "we need to talk" as that phrase is hugely ominous and often "im breaking up with you" kind of language. Wanting to discuss difficult topics itself is not bad, but yeah starting the conversation off like that is threatening.

People with integrity don't cheat just because they can because they have the moral courage to end a relationship that isn't working any more

Re: "Long term goals" one girl I was seeing was born with CF and had a full lung transplant. She is a strong woman & even though she's on wicked strength immunosuppressant medication she's showing the 1st stages of donor rejection... She "ended" our connection, my guess is that she was seeking something more short-term/immediate. I honestly don't know!

I don't really make many plans b/c reality always gets in the way, so I guess I also don't ask people about the future they want. Things change by the minute.

The issue for me is when my girlfriend brings something up is when she feels unsure of If she be heard I always do the best like for example: my girlfriend thinks I am the only good thing that has happened to her but then on other hand too is that for example: She gets incredibly jealous when I mention a friend that’s a girl she just doesn’t like it, but then she doesn’t like it that I have more and less than what she deals with, often will get upset that I can live with no medical and that she has too then targets me like my life makes her feel that she has to say that, “oh your life is so much better.” I just can’t understand why she does it. Then other example: she loves me, I love my girlfriend but there are so many issues with me and her she tends to attach things that are okay to do when words mean action but otherwise there is a lot of issues that we have to work on but what I don’t get why my girlfriend has to be jealous because I am living a life w/ zero to no intimacy or sex, which shows as a red flag but given the situation that she knows that I can’t change I will never change, when I was much younger, from age 24 - 25 years old now I’m 27 trust me hen I say this I tell her I need to help to take care of my family like my grandmother, my mother, and my uncle. I enjoy taking care of others making sure that everyone is doing okay and is healthy, and making sure that everything is good, when my mother passes on and it’s my responsibility to make sure that everything is running smoothly for just me and my uncle the ranch, too. But then my girlfriend sometimes will y why I have to stay at the ranch and will lash out on me for it hen I never done anything wrong, she likes to sometimes feel like she need to direct her emotional angered feelings towards me do I deserve it no, but that’s how it is, but regardless, but when it comes down too intimacy this is not a me thing I see my girlfriend can make her on own decisions and choice’s based on what she wants to do for herself, will sometimes I’ll check in with me, like our relationship is like we are in our 40’s I know that sounds like that’s bad s I’ve been told that’s how style our sex like is, when we aren’t together I love sleeping with my girlfriend, every guy should enjoy the luxury to do that, but she on other hand, will not go to bed at times to be ready for the next day, she thinks that I am the only thing that molds her, I tell her no no no I can’t be he reason for you to live, but then I love her I really do, with all my heart besides that the facts sometimes show me that we are meant to be together, yes we are compatible in some ways and in other ways too we are compatible but it can be difficult to make relationships work but a lot of the time if the problem is there and it can’t be resolved so it has to wait sometimes until within the next 24/hrs to me how does sho maturity when they say this problem has wait so can be frustrating for sure. Again I still love her will all my heart, and I keep on asking myself when will these issues come to an end because they happen so often, and then we wait we wait to see each other but it’s mostly the fact that her health has to come first because she has too, it’s understandable because she has to do a lot of medical care for herself and has to do that before anything else then we have a short time to spend together then there’s sex other times and other times there’s not. But again I love her so much with all of my life besides the issues, and the inflexibility sometimes.

2:47 It's important to us, to support the woman. That being said, I think it's a bigger deal for the women. She doesn't want to support her man, unless he's going to school to become a medical doctor or something. Then, she won't mind. This is not every woman

great video as always

Here is something that happened to me recently. I'd like to know your opinion. I'm having my birthday party with a group of friends. A woman new to our group of friends has invited herself to my party. 2 months prior to the party. The day before the party she lets it be known to my best guy friend she is dating a guy 20 yrs her senior! My friend calls me and says she is planning to bring this person to my party as her date!!! He tells her don't do that! She should talk to me first. The lady and I are in our 50's we are not teens! I had been on 3, five hour long dates with her and thought she was into me alone. I found this very immature and strange of her. Am I wrong?

After the first 3 clips of her, I feel like hazarding a guess that the way she thinks about guys is aligned with the way she acts in her own lives and/or describing the only guys she dated. As in, she thinks of guys as manipulative. The main 2 ways to think of a whole gender as manipulative is a) you're manipulative yourself or b) you've been hurt and now harbor resentment. ...And well, the 4th completely confirms me -- those trust issues she has make her completely unfit for a serious relationship. 🤷 /edit: Oh great, now she also thinks of us as dogs. /edit again: Well credit where credit's due. I agree with her it would be quite strange to not ask about plans for future. It's a good and important question. However, I'm afraid that many women would fail to give a satisfying answer to it. Like I'd imagine most commonly their answer would be "I don't know, figuring out things as I go" or "I want to stop working".

Hi Courtney, hopefully you get to read this. I agree with most of your video, you are very insightful and you are a realist, but I would just like to add that in my own opinion, I believe that all the subjects talked about are absolutely things that women need to know about men. As a husband to a very strong, intelligent, independent woman, I often don’t get her riddles or hidden messages when she speaks. I like to get straight to the point on any given situation, but she takes all these different roads and I need a “how to” book just to follow along. It’s so difficult and she gets mad at me. I’m sure you get the picture, so my point is this: the more that women can understand this and try to help men be interactive , at our level, the better it is for everyone involved.

Yes to #2. I would feel better if I was stacked

I don't understand because on the one hand I hear that I am meant to be strong, manly and the leader,confident ( are you want a supper hero; bit weird and unrealistic.).and other hand I am meant to be vulnerable and not so damn masculine.So trust issues; yep!.

RCT. Respect/Communication/Trust. These are the key aspects in any relationship. If these are present and sincere, everything else falls into place. On the other hand, if just one of these are missing you’ll never have a “relationship”. BTW…the first and last are earned….not given.