Let the coach know in a conversation and then let the mouthy guy know on the mat.

Got to stick up for yourself. Call him out in front of everyone, theif, bully etc. Make him feel uncomfortable like he is doing to you.

Had a drop in at our school... unsure of belt since it was no-gi day... hbullied some of the teens with wristlocks & heel-hooks. Professor encouraged one of our "senior" blue belts to cool him off and, boy, did he ever. It was so gratifying to watch.

Yes, I mostly agree with Chewy here, if he acts like a 'bully' type character, put it to him on the mat; and more so, when he does this 'verbal' bullying you should call him out in front of everyone. If you're in a good gym with wholesome comradery and you've been training there for a while; trust me please, some (enforcer) one will put it to this guy. Keep training, Oss!

The bully needs to pay him his money back and apologize. Or you gotta twist him in rolling until he does or leaves the gym. Your yard bro.

If I told my coach the new white belt stole a bunch of money from me in the past and was now in the gym talking shit, he'd probably ask us both to stay after and "clean the mats". 😂

I have only like 2️⃣ people in my life that I know that I’d hate to see walk in to my dojo. It’s my sanctuary and I been there over two years. Ive wondered how I’d react if they did. Good video Chewy.

Great advice, thank you so much for taking the time to answer these kinds of questions! You're insight and positive influence on the community is invaluable. Thanks again!

He really needs to roll with this dude, tie him up and cook him a bit. Show him WHO he “the Blue belt” IS compared to the white belt. Earned that dudes respect!! Humbly! Appreciating what he’s learned on his Jiu Jitsu journey, while handling his business. Man-to-man, let him know!

"Just talk to them." Jiu Jitsu is a language to speak with.

Love this advice! Some guys need that physical check 💯💯💯

Thats one of the greats yt channels. Always good to click on your vids Chewie

This is fantastic advice Chewy

Get on top, stay on top, don’t even try to sub,never let them work. Do it a couple of times , message will be received .

Kinda invested in this story now. Jason... Keep us updated 😁

smesh time. smother taps and wrist locks.

The thing I've always respected about Gordon is he never injures people when he easily could. I don't like his talk but I deeply respect his physical restraint.

Mess him up during open mat, get every time, hard. He won’t come back

5:14 this only works if the blue knows he has the skills/ability to dominate during a roll … my suspicion is that if he could, he would have already.

Before I trained to fight I had a roommate who had a dark past. Child abuse dark past so I reached out to try and be a positive influence. Eventually he got involved in some criminal activities like stealing from others front doors, stealing another roommates electronics, getting involved with substance dealers of multiple sorts, threatening anyone who challenged him with violence towards them and their loved ones. Some real breaking bad stuff, sooner or later the police got involved and I was a witness in his antics that the cops needed. I took the chance to get out of a domestic situation because I chose to help him out and regretted it. The thing is people like him and the ones described in this situation do not change. You cannot reason with unreasonable people, especially those who try and instigate like this guys nemesis is doing. If the violent guy from my past came to my gym I would let the professor know in private so he can watch the situation in real time. But in the mean time I would not let anything he says get to his head but when you get the right time ask him in passive ways if he still "screws people over". they wanna play the radio silence game and even though we hear all the time "be the bigger man" I disagree with that load of bs. You need to stand up to him while the iron is cold cause if he is able to frame a situation that makes you look bad he will do it. The scorpion and the frog has become my favorite story for a reason.

Great advice

As an indoor hydroponic farmer, I literally work in a walled garden. 😂

Bullies usually have character flaws. Sometimes they can work on themselves and become better people, sometimes they do not change. There should be an effort to make sure personal problems do not escalate in the dojo because they can blow up outside the dojo. IMO if someone cannot behave like a mature adult/student they should be asked politely to leave the school. Protect your business and your clients.

chewy is not wrong. dudes need to feel the heat to get through. ive had to deal with this before. not always fun, but it is needed.

Kimuras are a great way to solve that problem.

This is a very interesting situation and I dunno if I would be emotionally mature enough to handle a situation like that lol

As soon as you said what the bully did I just thought “homie’s vengeance shouldn’t be too difficult to claim”

"You got my answer, right? Do that." 😂 I lold

I hope we see a follow up of this one in a few months.

Old school solutions to modern problems👊🏻

There are two things that will happen when you call out / work over a bully in the gym. They either go through a sort of ego death or they end up leaving.

This is real psychological jujitsu

Tell the coach you don't like the guy explain why, and ask the coach to let you roll with him during sparring. While rolling be on top, be heavy, and apply as much pressure as you like; knee on belly, scarf hold, pressure on his chin while in side control.

I had a teammate try to message my gf after we “broke up”. I immediately called him out on the mats…and he left and never came back. Should I have waited and hurt him first? That’s not the honorable way.

I just left a school because a higher belt was making fun of me constantly. He is a purple belt and I'm a blue belt. He actually injured me the last time we rolled. I said something to my professor and nothing was done.

Sounds like you need to communicate the issues you have with this person directly. Ask for someone who you trust to mediate the conversation. Express how you feel. They may react negatively, but it at least will allow you to say your piece. If you're better than them on the mat, punish them there (without doing any real damage, but enough to hurt their pride). You could do both, things simultaneously, or just one of those options, or even a mix between both of them (maybe more mat dominance and less talking if you feel so inclined). Key point: Fuck 'em til they stop fucking back.

💯 💯 5:32 Chew! I have had this experience, he was an aggressive guy and after hearing and making complaints and after watching him aggressively roll with the ladies, gents and kids, and having my own experience with him, I had absolutely enough of this piece of garbage, and it was in a noon class that I told the coach for that particular class about this guy and was hoping that he could put a little more pressure on him if he uses him to show the move... his americana went a little further and you could tell it made the bully very uncomfortable, i’ll admit that I was very satisfied🤷‍♀️, don’t come into our sanctuary and think that you’re going to try to beat up and bully everybody! 0 tolerance! Another AWESOME video Chew thanks!💪❤️

Ask to roll....... THEN LIGHT HIM UP SON💪🥊💪

Fairly sure the "bully" dude won't stick it out all that long anyway once he realizes he ain't shit after being tapped out by the majority of the class. Karma has a way of working things out.

Call me old fashioned but the gym isn’t my sanctuary it’s my crucible. This scenario hasn’t happened to me before, yet I would love to train hard on such a person.

Boundaries, bro. Always boundaries. My advice is don’t interact with someone who can’t respect a simple adult boundary.

exactly, not even a question.

“Revenge is best served cold.”

Leave it all on the mat man!

Send in the purple belt ENFORCER....

😅 exactly, settle it on the mats

When I was at school the teacher told me not to “tell tales” - I thought ok, she hasn’t got my back, I took up martial arts and the next time a kid tried to bully me they found out there’s no chance I would put up with that shit. 👊

Interesting story This is really complicated because it is so much personal, could be the same with an ex with who it end pretty bad right ? But in this situation it's look like there is a bad guy, and like we say "you reap what you sow"

Should bjj schools charge students full price in December if they are closed for a week or more?

Bicep slicer. Apply pressure. Solves problems.

Iron John by Robert Bly is an excellent read. Highly recommend it

“Bullies get bullied.” Zach Randolph

That's funny because I actually started gardening because I'm sick of working with gossiping evil coworkers.

7:58 💯💪😎

First , love yah Chewy

Jason should talk to his coach and the person who runs the gym. This bad history of him stealing from Jason and animosity could lead to a confrontation off the mat which would be bad for the gym and business. The bully just saying shit is locker room talk and it will happen everywhere but him having financially double crossing Jason is a professional problem. The coach and gym owner have the authority to have the bully dismissed from the gym and Jason should try to be in the room if it happens that way, if the bully wants to talk it out there is literally a room with a professional fighter who can witness and break you guys up if things get heated.

I would straight up tell him find another gym cause ure not gonna have a good time here. Ill make sure of it

Pain is one of life's greatest teachers. The universe handed you a gift. Enjoy!!!!

time to fight!!!!

Scarf hold. Compression choke.

Lol what a situation 😅😅😅😅

it sounds to me like scarf hold chokes, Ezekiel chokes, and lot of knee on belly rides

The “pecking order” should always be respected and enforced.

Tap? He was tapping? I didn’t feel it.

Bro that physical check is real more ppl need to b checked in real life lol

Hit up ur brown belt... u know who im talkin about 😂

For this one I would like to know more details on the circumstances in which he stole money. Sounds to me like there are definitely two sides to this story.

Smash Bully, pee on Bully, assert dominance. Become Bully! This is the way.

Tap that fool! haha. Call it "talking to him", just using body language haha

Ask your coach if you guys can fight it out and I am not talking about rolling. You can go both sign a waiver and get down at the gym in front of everybody. Mine have let me do it in a situation like this.

Max was here

Mat Justice! Gotta roll with him. No tap outs haha!

if i knew of someone that is not paying his bills AND is abusive, im not going to teach him shit. tell the coach, rough him up if you want. but imho, if the coach does not tell this guy to stay away, i would switch gyms.

"What's that? I can't hear your digs with all of this crossface I'm putting on you."

That is the beauty of bjj: it kills the moods...specially the bad ones....

Superfight! Lol

The other element. The people you train with. I agree, quietly put him in his place. But, you've been training at this gym. If you've never given the people you train with reason to agree with him, they won't. They'll see through the bullshit.

Now you get gim back by defeating himin a roll, very simple.

Narcs will go after nice guys.

You’re about to be purple belt and he’s just starting out…just establish that dominance the old fashioned way, knee on belly rodeo.

Good opportunity to practice your knee on belly

Theres sticking up for yourself and making a fool of the bully but if the bully was willing to steal money from him. Theres nothing stoping a person with a bad ego knifing you outside the gym. Juts get the coach to kick him out... It poisons the well.

Dog and Cat used to be best buddies too. Then one day Cat cheated Dog out of some money, and look how they have been ever since. I guess when Cat puts OP in this situation he must choose to be either Dog, or Kitten.

Dude has to call the dude out on his shit every single time he says something. He has to do it right in front of the people that yes saying it to. He has to roll with dude and squash him. And while he is squashing him, he has to repeat whatever wiseass words the dude said, over and over the whole time. After squashing him, just look at him and chuckle. Then immediately offer to go again. The dude is going to quit that gym. Then you have to train twice as hard, because he's going to go somewhere else with the intention of getting even. When he shows up again, you have to crush him again. Then you have to find his closest female relative, sister, cousin, mom, ex gf whatever, and start dating her. Then let her know how you squash him at the gym but youre going easy not to hurt the little guy. Then get a job where he works, befriend all of his friends and slowly put a wedge in between them, all the while letting everyone know you crush him regularly. Then find out who his landlord is, and work out a deal to buy the building where he lives. Dont say anything until his lease is up for renewal, then raise his rent. Find out who his mechanic is, and give them a few bucks to sabotage major things in his car next time he comes in, and talk them into overcharging him. Then pay someone to follow him into stores, and stealthfully slip merchandise into his jacket pocket and alert store personnel. Then get a part time job at his favorite restaurant. Pay the waitresses to apert you when he comes in, then stir his soup with your weenis and fart on his plate. I wouldnt go too far, just that kind of stuff.

Watch Mr. InBetween, then do what he would do.

DROP THE ISSUES AND RESPECT YOUR GYM!!

Kesa gatame is good because you can put the pressure on and still have a nice chat with the guy underneath you. Pressure taps are demoralizing and effective. Just sayin'...

Ignore him, he’ll quit. Guaranteed.

Heel hook.... and oops 😬 😅

I totally agree. We can do this the easy way, or the easy way… Let him know the choice is his. Maybe that’s not the right answer outside the gym, but he brought this onto the mats.

I have seen this over a chick once. Old BF rolling with the new BF. It worked itself out quickly..Good advice.

Chewy knows best…but I wouldn’t be surprised if he doesn’t even need to say a thing to the guy…after a handful of brutal rolls everything may get resolved organically…there’s only one thing a bully responds to…

I suggest have “the talk” while you are applying knee on face.

I know one like that... he never changed....really but God he gets bashed hard by everyone lol

As a blue belt I can't imagine talking actual shit to a purple then stepping in the same mat. He's the lunkest lunk head.

I keep all my BJJ relationships away from my personal life.

Must not be Florida

There's a lot of emotional charge for the blue belt, and I can understand why. With that said, the white belt is an idiot: 1) Because he's gonna get merc'ed on the mat especially with the blue belts experience & 2) he's on the blue belt's home turf, so if he oversteps boundaries (which he is) then the whole gym will straighten him out. It sounds like the blue belt is in a much safer situation than he expected. This is a great learning opportunity for him to develop his capacity for standing up for himself!

bully chirps... "coach, im rolling with the mouth today right?"

I can’t imagine the scenario for somebody comes in to the gym that I train at, been training at for years sweat, bled with, laughed with, and made friends with the other men there, having somebody come in there and saying anything about me and my fellow trading partners humoring them for at least one second. The bully sounds completely insecure and a coward I think chewy advice is sound, just let it go and maybe tell some of your buddies that you train with there Rad do you know straighten them out a little bit, and then like chewy said, put them on the roll with them, and you know grind them out. Good times.