number 1 reason: men are never loved for who we are, only what we can provide.

I’m a woman. I was with a group of 7 women and 2 men. The women were trash talking men. I spoke up in defense of men… I have 4 brothers and I think they’re fantastic! I flat out said that I completely disagreed. When we arrived and started to go our separate ways, the 2 men stayed behind to thank me for sticking up for them. I learned a big lesson that day.

I am a 53 year old male who never married, but I have had several relationships with women throughout my life, a few longer ones and several that were relatively brief. Looking back, I can honestly say that I don't believe that I've ever been loved, and I definitely have never been respected.

Hello, Ms. Emily - I am a 71 year old male who has not dated in years. No, make that decades! After a disastrous 14 year marriage with one of the most selfish, self-serving women on the planet,and a wretched 4 year relationship after that with a woman who turned to be exactly the same I decided I'd finally had enough. No more trying to live up to impossible demands and constantly getting a faceful of BS when (in their mind) I failed to live up to their standards and expectations. Have become extremely self-sufficient and come and go as I please without having to negotiate with someone who is "always right". I very much enjoy watching your videos because you are one woman who "gets it". And you make me realize that my self- imposed exile from dating is not only okay but it's healthy, too! Many thanks!

Men are not frustrated. We’ve simply become indifferent.

I am a woman and I follow your channel because in my opinion, that’s what a smart woman who wants to build a healthy relationship with the man she loves would do. 😌💪 Your efforts are appreciated. Thank you!

Lady you hit the points squarely and accurately. I was dating a woman last year who was 44, never married, no children and didn't like to be around children and worshipped her cat. A few months went by and she seemed really well grounded, happy and reasonable. I spent slightly over $10k on a wedding ring set and asked her to marry me. We'd known each other in a professional and personal way for over a year. She refused the ring and instead told me that with the money I make I would be able to afford a much more expensive stone but she'd already picked it out and it would cost me $26,400.00. I just let that stew in my head for a while. I bought us 1st Class tickets to fly to the Island of St. Maarten for an 8 day stay. The room I got us was top shelf with a balcony looking out over the ocean and we'd also be able to watch the planes take off and land. I walked out of the room for a bit and when I walked back in, she was on the phone with the resort explaining we simply must have the penthouse at an extra $1,000.00 per night. When she was put on hold I asked her what she was doing. She stated that if I expected her to have a good time we simply MUST rent the penthouse. I took my phone from her and told the reservationist that the room I'd already booked would be just fine for us. She screamed and threw a tantrum as if she were a two-year-old demanding a chocolate bar at the grocery check-out line. I stood my ground and told her she was being unreasonable and damned unappreciative.. She stormed out and drove away in her $60,000.00 Mercedes convertible. She came over the next day though still pissed with me we seemed to be working things out. The straw that broke the camel's back is when she told me that I'd have to buy her a brand new Mercedes if I expected her to marry me. I told her she needed to leave because I had some things to think about. She left. I immediately called a locksmith and had every door lock in my home re-keyed. Entitled indeed!

I've been divorced for 17 years. Dated a lot for the first few years. Got serious with a few. It all became too much headache for the above ☝️ reasons. I could tell it would just end in disaster so I finally stopped trying. Haven't dated in 8 years. I'm a decent looking guy, kind, intelligent, wise and spiritual with a good income. I don't need the headache and extra stress. It would take a very special (on the inside) woman to get me interested. I'm glad you are doing what you do. Modern women are, for the most part, relationship-toxic in my opinion.

The juice isn’t worth the squeeze. I was watching some videos where women are complaining that men aren’t going out anymore. Certain social events will have 85-90% women and it’s leaving women frustrated. I thought they got all dressed up for themselves 🤣. Men are waking up.

If she spoke poorly of me in front of anybody..she's history. No respect, no jim.

I fully agree with this breakdown. I gave up hope about 10 years ago. I just grew sick and tired of all of the aggravation, drama, lies, and so forth. My own family thinks I'm homosexual, but I tried to explain to them it's a totally different ball game these days. I may as well be talking to a brick wall

Delusional is the best description I've ever heard.

10. They make it undesirable for men to approach 9. Level of acceptance of speaking poorly about men 8. Modern women "tend to be" (are) delusional 7. Lack of understanding between how men and women think differently 6. Modern women do not desire love and connection (as much anymore) 5. She compares herself to the lives her friends present on social media 4. Compares her husband to husbands on social media 3. High level of selfishness 2. Double standards 1. Don't take accountability

As the oldest unmarried male in my family I constantly get asked when that's going to change. At this point my thought is that it never will because I've yet to meet, let alone date, a woman who actually adds to my life in any positive way other than sex. Beyond that most of the men I'm around on a daily basis are married and it is no secret at all that their wives make them absolutely miserable and I have zero desire to have any part of that type of nonsense.

I’d have to say #10 is really a big one. When I’m out in public the cute 25-35 year olds seem to all be wearing these “leave me alone” sneers. I’ve even tried to talk to some of them and been met with nasty replies and unpleasantness. Most seem to have really bad attitudes! Also their delusional evaluation of their own self-worth is extremely frustrating. I know a hottie when I see one (I used to subscribe to Playboy) and I avoid what I believe to be “high maintenance.” However the girls who are simply cute seem to think they deserve a rich studmuffin! So they choose to ignore the 5’8”, charming, funny guy with the nice smile who has his life together but isn’t rich so they can hold out hope for the gorgeous tycoon who will NEVER be interested in them! This phenomenon is very real and NOBODY wins this game. I was told many times I have a great smile but these women piss me off so much it’s really hard to ever smile!

I'm not dating and never participated in "hook-up" culture (Tinder or whatever). But I was married for 17 years and I got the impression from my spouse and from other men I spoke to that many women want all the benefits of 1950's classic "housewife" culture, (i.e. husband supports you 100%, not working, buy fancy items, etc.) but they also want modern "liberated woman" benefits (dominance in relationship, bad attitudes, independence, selfishness). Seems to me you can't have it both ways. If you want to be a passive woman, and can trust your spouse to take care of you (him being a servant leader) then go for that. But if you want to be a modern woman, then take all of it with the pros and cons. If a modern man is dominant, then he is an aggressive @sshole who should be canceled. If a modern man is passive, then he is "not a real man" and milk-toast, and should be ignored.

Got married in ‘78 and was married until ‘11. During that time I think she said “I’m sorry” about 5 times. She could cry and be butt-hurt over most anything, of any size or consequence, at most any time of the day, week month. Zero accountability and never seemed happy about anything … ever. Finally, I just quit. It’s true what they say; “a man will not play a game without a chance of winning”.

"Comparison is the thief of joy." Right there. That's why I enjoy your content. Reality-based.👍✌️

I love how Emily always looks like she is fighting back a smile. She is such a happy person and it is contagious.

As a soon-to-be once-more unmarried man, a LOT of these hit very close to home, but the one that hits the hardest really is #1. My wife is a very motivated and driven woman, who has a very clear sense of how things not only _should_ be done, but _need_ to be done, and she doesn't do well with flexibility about the fact that I have different (and yet still sufficiently effective) ways of doing things. No, she'll still happily just barge in, shove me off to the side from something I'm working on in a way that she's not satisfied with, and just take over the task. And how dare I be bothered by it? Hell, just about the day before we agreed to "just be roommates," I'd tried to have a word with her about the way that I was in trouble with her and her daughter for "not helping put up Christmas decorations." I'd tried saying, "I really was working on a project for work that day," and that she "could have asked me if that was a good day for me to work on decorations," but she refused to recognize any mishandling on her part. I should have been the one to be proactive in communicating that I had actual work to do, and it wasn't "her job to hold my hand in being a good partner and father." She's _very much_ allergic to taking responsibility for what she does. And yeah, she even has a group of online female friends, who she has readily admitted have guy-bashing sessions. That... really didn't sit well with me, especially when she added, one time, that "I was included." Yeah. Great motivational work.

Allergic to accountability. That’s contagious amongst their friends

Bruh the mixed signals/ “no try harder” gotta be the most annoying. I was at my brothers wedding last weekend and asked one of bridesmaids to dance she was like im not interested so i talked to another and we hit it off real well, gave her my jacket cuz it was cold, danced, etc and at the end of the night the first bridesmaid was like “why did you do all that with her?” Like bruh just say yes or no if you mean it!

Been married 25 years, provided-make over 250K a year, gave my wife all the children she ever wanted (A LOT), work local and am there always for the family, help with cooking/housework/babies, diapers you name it, listen to her, shop with her, don't travel or have any hobbies to speak of, don't drink or do drugs/porn, take them to church, give her space to work out (which is her hard core addition), try and listen and understand her. Let me tell you, it's never been enough and she's always dissatisfied with me, Very nit picking, never says thanks or praises me for my business success, constantly interrupts my work day, can't seem to manage the home (she's a SAHM). Overall, it's very frustrating and I'm about to throw in the towel.

I dated one girl in my early teens for a few months but that's about all the romantic interest I've managed to inspire. It has bothered me for decades and I used to agonize over it, wonder what was wrong with me. I've enjoyed the company of a lot of wonderful Women, all either Married or otherwise unavailable. Those that Weren't married but were dating someone usually would come to me as a sounding board for their guy problems and I got tired of being a relationship councilor for their terrible choices. It just always seems like I'm not seen as a potential love interest but as a nice guy that is pleasant company and would help you out if he could, like everyone's brother. Time does amazing things, and with enough of it I've managed to reach a level of acceptance. I'm still lonely and I still have my moments but for the most part I get by with help from my friends and my hobbies keep me busy. At this point it just is what it is, and I don't make the grade when it comes to the laundry list of requirements in the modern dating scene.

Thank you Emily for saying what needs to be said. We as men can't even echo out loud what you have stated, without being attacked as being part of the misogynistic patriarchy. Thank you.

The approach point is my biggest one. Anytime I even make eye contact with a woman these days I wonder if she thinks I'm being "creepy".

Back in the day I found a friend (who would become my best friend) I would visit his place often. One time I brought my girl along and she would fire shots constantly at me while we were there. Granted, I think she would do it out of dis-comfort. Maybe she thought she was breaking the ice because she hadn't hung out with him that much. But it kinda sucked. Her feeling like she could just rip up on me the whole visit at my friend's place. Felt pretty dumb. She left and I hung out with my friend for a bit after and he sat down with me and said "Hey man you okay? She kinda said some messed up stuff. I could sense she was joking around but I wasn't liking what she was saying about you." One of the reasons that dude became my best friend. And was a huge support for me when I left her couple years later. Honestly he has taught me what it means to be a real man these days. Not all of us have the best father figures to help us, so im grateful for him. Now days I would never tolerate that kind of disrespect from a partner. I had a lot to learn back then. And she was so aggressive, controlling, and volatile that preserving the peace with her was easier if I just let her walk all over me. If I told her how I felt, it never really ended well. ALWAYS became about her. Girl messed me up honestly lol. Its taken a lot of work to pick up all the pieces. Sorry for the trauma dump.

I’m glad he pointed this out. I am done with dating. I’m just decided to just focus on myself and you know what I haven’t had any headaches any heart attacks any chance of getting ripped off from my money or being used as a meal ticket so this is a great decision ever

I find double standards are incredibly common. Women can raise their voice, criticize and be insulting. If their partner does anything remotely similar it’s unacceptable. Skewing the facts to fit their narrative of situations. A personal story of my own. My ex and I got into an argument and I raised my voice and I was told to leave. Obviously I did because there were no other options. Conversation following this I was the one who left. There was no accountability for their actions. Edit: 50/50 isn’t really possible without keeping score. If one is struggling with mental health or something, the other should do more with the expectation that when they are struggling their partner will be there.

Absolutely true. These days, it seems that if I had a choice between going on a date or being sucked into a jet engine, I’ll take the jet engine, mainly because it’ll only be painful for a couple of milliseconds, as opposed to a date, which will probably hurt for at least a couple of hours.

I've completely given up on marriage and relationships. I've figured out I'm the problem. I'm the typical nice guy and keep getting used and hurt. I'm actually happy alone. I don't have relationship stress. I get to keep my money. I've built a good career. The only way to win is not to play.

I love the phrase “Comparison is the thief of enjoyment “. This statement captures so much!

This woman is a angel. But 10 reasons to stay single

Woah. Your number one reason sent chills through me. I did not expect you to validate my worst dating experiences so pointedly with that one. I'm so used to being gaslit when I ask my partners to take accountability that I thought I was just picking bad partners (which is also probably true). But as men, we also don't have our experiences validated. We are ignored. Just left to navigate life and people in the solitude of our own minds while media channels raise up everyone else at our expense.

One woman I used to work with would talk about the men that approach her like they were creeps. And from listening to her it sounded like some were just being friendly with no ill intent. And she wasn't the only one who talked that way. That definitely makes me think twice. It may just have been her way not coping with her mixed feelings but how are we supposed to know

As a man that has been married and soon to be divorced twice and has had plenty of experience in dating I can speak on this. That vast majority of American women tend to be very selfish and feel that the man is the one that has to initiate everything and has to bring everything to the table while maintaining their standard of expectations. What you said about accountability is totally true and wish that someone other than myself would inform my soon to be ex wife what accountability actually means because she has absolutely no clue.

Its gotten to the point where I no longer desire even associating with, or interacting with women at all. I only do so when absolutely necessary, and even then, I do so begrudgingly.

Exactly, all dead on! Which are coincidently the top 10 reasons I've determined modern women aren't worth my time, effort, money or love. Ive never been happier since going MGTOW! No drama, stress, lies, gaslighting or manipulation. Life is good now!!

Yesterday it dawned on me that in the last relationship I pursued in 2016 that each of us offered the other person something of great value and that was honesty. She shared a lot about her past, and many relationships, traumas and problems and I likewise shared a lot with her. I saw for sure one red flag with her and she likely saw at least a few red flags in me. I kept getting the feeling that my life would get harder being married to her. Even though I will always love her, she didn’t go through the effort of moving 1000 miles from central Montana to east central Minnesota, and I didn’t go through the huge amount of work selling a majority of my stuff to move to where she lives. She found another guy and married him in late 2020 and I’m happy for her.

Reasons 1,2, and 3 describe problems I had in my marriage. Especially 1 and 3. Thanks for voicing that out loud. My ex-wife had me convinced everything wrong in our relationship was because of me. With the benefit of hindsight, I realize that was not true.

I really appreciate your style and graceful advocacy Emily 😌 Soon to be 66, I’ve arrived at life alone after four failed marriages. Looking back, I should have heeded warning signs that I thought could be worked out with teamwork. Sadly, the only person on the team was me. I never lost hope, never became a woman hater even after the trials. While on a couples date some years ago, a waitress brought some bottled beer and glasses to our table. Before I could reach for my beer, the gal in the other couple reached over, picked up my beer, and calmly filled my glass. She had my full attention at that point and as I looked at her intently, she explained she had spent some time in Japan, and women there do that as a sign of respect. She was already married, so I could not honorably leave there with her. Men can and will love a committed woman partner, sometimes fearfully so. Men however, would rather be respected than loved. To us, respect IS love. Thank you for your respect Emily.

This about sums it up! Number one for me, would be the normalization of women with high body counts, and open relationships. It has become socially acceptable for women to boast that they have high body counts. This proves that most modern women don’t care about what men actually want/value. Men don’t want a woman who has been run through more times than the Holland tunnel; we just don’t! Men are being shamed for this preference, among other preferences; we are also being socially conditioned into accepting open relationships/polyamory. Anything that deviates from whatever WOMEN want, is classified as toxic and misogynistic. …In all honesty, most modern women are just downright deplorable and exhausting. Relationships just are no longer worth it. 🤦🏻

OP Emily, you are one of the few women that even see the problem with dating modern women, and they run deep in our culture. Men have never had an easy time approaching women and nowadays it sounds even harder than it's ever been. I wouldn't know, since I haven't tried to approach a woman in years, but I know it's even harder than it used to be, and I can't imagine what most of these young guys have to go through now. And making it even worse, there are women out there, not the majority thank God, but way too many, that actually get a cruel gratification by batting their eyelashes, touching her hair and otherwise sending out every positive signal flirting with some poor guy, only to blow him off like lint when he actually falls for it. I actually watched this happen once... and I knew what was going on even if he didn't. To make it even worse for him, she was with a group of girls when he got up the gumption to approach her. I felt bad for him when he stumbled off, red faced and humiliated by her rejection. Only to hear a gale of laughter from this coven of witches, as soon as they thought the poor guy was out of ear-shot!

Great video. You talked about many of the reasons why men are getting fed up with modern women. Social media and feminism ruined women.

That “keeping score” one. While I don’t think it’s the most harmful in the list, I DEFINITELY think it’s the most annoying. We are to love our partners. It’s not a contest or track record. I gave to her because I love her. She gave to me simply because she loves me. Reminds me of a quote I adore, “Don’t love each other 50%-50%. You love each other 100%!” Edit: spelling

#11 Most dates feel like an interview they you can fail at any moment

Love your video, not because of any women hate but for standing up for men. Blessed be

"Not taking accountability leads to a lack of personal growth." - Well said Emily. I don't follow a lot of these types of channels, but I stumbled across yours and I really enjoy your thought-provoking content.

Omg. The number one reason is my ex in a nutshell. She refused accountability, she refused to criticize herself and therefore missed growing and knowing her own flaws and weaknesses. Instead she barraged me with her insecurities in an absolute toxic waste of ways. Entitled to the teeth, always blaming "I'm a woman" or "this is what I'm like" and always put every blame for whatever she cooked up in her mind on me. And in the end yes; she felt entitled to an equivalent of 3k dollars that were mine. We dated for a year. I've received 1/3 of the money back, going on six months after break up.

I realize I am better off alone. I bring home the bread and can cook it. I know how to clean and don't complain to myself doing it. Women don't bring enough to the table.

I'm just tired of the bullsh1t. I'm doing the best I can . Your list is pretty much correct . Your list is why I have no female friends . Now that does not mean that I'm not friendly towards them or won't be nice to them but I'm not going to stick my neck out from them only to be treated as some creepy man .. I'm an introvert so I tend to stay by my self so how can I be creepy if I'm not near many people .

It's scary how accurate your videos always are.

I think one of the most frustrating things is when some Women ask "Where are all the good Men?" while at the same time ignoring such good Men as dating prospects and continually going after Men that don't necessarily treat them well. Meanwhile the good Men have their hands up "hello Ladies, I'm here!" yet some Women just aren't interested. I was originally going to write that good Men are invisible to many Women - however that would just be excusing the behavior of asking where are all the good Men but then ignoring them - Ladies, if good Men are invisible to you then something deeply deeply wrong is going on - surely if you are a heterosexual Woman than you should find these good Men at least somewhat attractive - they are Men and you are a heterosexual Woman - how on ever loving Earth can they be invisible to you?! I'm not saying that you are necessarily going to have insane levels of attraction for every single good Man you meet, but surely you must have some level of attraction for a typical Mr. Nice guy! In any case, if you keep ignoring the good guys then you can't seriously ask "Where are all the good Men?" - that is like being in a giant buffet - 1000 times larger than any buffet you have ever seen - and whining and asking "There is no food to eat! - where is all the good food?" - Ladies, with all due respect and all the love in my heart - Open your eyes!!!!!!!! Of course, to be fair, some seemingly nice guys can turn out to not really be that nice (I suppose just like some food) - you still need to be careful and be wise and proceed with some level of caution - but for the ladies that ask "Where are all the good Men?" but then turn around and actively go after Men that don't particularly treat them well - then I'm sorry, but with all due respect and all the love in my heart, you only have yourself to blame.

"Men won't approach me. I think Ill go to social media and find out why."

Perfectly stated ! It is frustrating to put forth 80% or more in Hopes of getting 20% back

Thank you for this spot on laundry list! 🙂

I dated a girl when I was in high school. We were together a short time but she was so sweet and caring and good to me that I still remember how she treated me to this day. And I just turned 60 years old.

I agree with them all. No Accountability has been the most destructive thing in changing what could’ve been a good relationship to a bad one.

You made one of the best statements I have heard I have heard in a long time when you said “comparison is the thief of joy”. What wisdom…. Thank you!

I am a 76yo man, married 49 years and i really like you blog, so smart

Reason 4/5 is so true. I dated a girl like this not too long ago. I’m going to medical school next month and when I was dating her she knew that my goal was to become a doctor and that if she wanted a life with me that’d she have to be ok with delaying things like marriage, kids, getting a house etc. I’ve never seen such a bad case of FOMO in my entire life. I can only really blame the fact that she knew people who were getting married and when she’d bring it up, it would make me feel bad because although I want to be married one day, it wasn’t something I could give her like other people were. It is unfortunate

Facts and accountability are kryptonite for most women. That's why I have not had any interaction with one for 5 years. It's just not worth the bother.

Thank you for posting this video. Some of these things are exactly why I waited so long to get married in the first place; and what my wife and I are dealing with now as issues in our marriage.

If you ask a woman if she is a feminist and she says anything but, “Absolutely not!” RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!

not only are men expected to do all the work in relationships, the prize we get at the end of it is someone who hates you but you also have to spend a bunch of money on them

The increase in the level of entitlement I am seeing is incredible. Most men are always being held accountable somewhere in their lives and it is a wise person that doesn't dismiss the need to be held accountable.

Hope you see this! I love that you are the voice for men that isn't heard. Thank you for standing up for us. We need it! Thank you.

Thanks for making these videos!!

Emily, you are so delightful. As a man in my late 50s, I can tell you that your list is not limited to young women, but permeates all the way through our society to the older ones as well. I have run into way too many princesses who are my age who feel that they are entitled to special treatment without corresponding return to their partner. The selfishness is amazing. It is coupled with their need to always be right, even when they are wrong. They will offer thanks, but that is the extent of their reciprocity. I don't know what the answer is, but I do know that modern women lack the understanding of the power inherent in intelligent femininity.

Gold digger need to spend a bag on a date. Sexual assault or harassment and false actions toward anyone.

Totally with everything you said, great job!

A common joke/reality statement among men about relationships these days is that it is cheaper and easier when you discuss the money up front. Yes, this is a comparison between dating and prostitution - and for a lot of guys who have been through a couple of relationships, there isn’t that much of a difference in what we get out of it, it’s just we have to put so much more into a dating relationship than if we were hiring an escort. Also, I must agree that I find it really amusing when I see women on social media calling themselves a “ten”, whose personality and attitude in the clip are horrible, who are honestly physically a 5 out of 10 and who really don’t bring anything else to the relationship - they don’t have any kind of skill set that enhances the relationship (most don’t even seem to have a sense of humour let alone be funny or interesting to talk to) Bluntly, most of the girls I have met are a lot of work for little more than an expensive sex toy. I am still looking for someone who has more to offer than that, but sex is only about 10% of what makes a functioning relationship work.

I think you hinted at it with number 9 and number 1, but one fustration I have found with women is that they offer really poor advice as it is based on making the other person feel better than it is about actually solving their problem. I think a lot of issues with modern women is that if they are identify an issue (not meeting the right men, relationships not lasting, etc), their friend groups will almost always say it was not their fault and they should just keep doing what they are doing even though it is clearly not working. This leads to them repeating the same mistakes and getting more bitter and fustrated that their lives aren't improving.

Holy crap, you absolutely nailed every last reason. Some of them actually made my chest sting inside, like 9, as my ex loved humiliating me. It was word for word, exactly what I experienced. And you 100% nailed 3,2,1!!

Thanks for this. Subscribed & liked.

Thank ya for this Ms. Emily! All of it was absolutely spot on with what I’ve dealt with as a man in todays dating extravaganza and from stuff I’m sure I’ll deal with eventually. A lot of us fellas are just keepin to ourselves and bettering ourselves daily.

Your points are very accurate imo. A lot of the attention goes to women and what they want and what they are frustrated about but there's hardly any for the average guys out there, no body cares about about the average man. Even in those dating podcasts the male hosts and guests there are usually red pill men that do not represent the average man in our society. Your voice brings out what the average guys have been thinking and saying and I respect and appreciate that. I would just like to add one more from me personally, one of the biggest reason is because women told men to not approach them. Women said that they don't need no men. And as someone that respects women and just want women and people in general to be happy, ok I respect that and I'll do that.

Great video, you nailed it especially the final 2!

Love your content! Bad behavior has been around a long long time. Just in recent times these people have been given the means to tell on themselves, AND THEY WONT STOP! I hope they will listen to you and open their eyes.

You pretty much hit it out of the park. Thanks.

I see a lot of truth in the things you say. I hear a lot of honesty, and I generally enjoy your views and the way you articulate them. Truthfully its a breath of fresh air to hear a woman say these things. Its very validating to us guys. Makes us feel less crazy. Thats what these crazy women these days do. They leave us feeling like the crazy ones. Wish I knew where the hell to find a woman like you who has empathy and humility enough to say what you say. Thank you for doing what you do. I would love to see a podcast or some sort of collaboration with @RomaArmy. I enjoy both of you

LOL!!! You just described my ex-wife!!! We lived together 16 years and married almost 16 years, about 4 months short. I went into it thinking we would work together, share our incomes to pay bills, and for entertainment. Less than a year later she had talked me into joining the US Army Reserves, I was a Cavalry Scout, and our first anniversary was spent with me getting ready for the Brigade Commanders Inspection at the end of Basic/Advanced Training. As the years went by, I went active duty, we had two boys, I went to Korea twice and deployed to Bosnia to put a stop to the Civil War. When I came home, I all but knew she had been cheating on me since she didn't want to go to any of the places she went when I was gone. I was put out on a Medical Discharge due to PTSD. She thought about herself only, did nothing to help me feel safe only belittled me, put me down, and finally after being home two years she spent the next two hours after I got home from a HIGH stress job in law enforcement, she told me what a lousy SOB of a husband I was, that she never really loved me, and that she wanted a divorce. I got dressed and left the house for the rest of the night. Now some, high on their horse, self-righteous people will not believe me, but this is the truth. I walked about half a mile in July afternoon temperatures in Arizona, i.e., 115-117 degrees F. I called a friend from work; she and I had never seen each other away from work until this day. I ended up at her house and talked for four hours and not ONCE did we ever mention fooling around, touch the other until about 10 PM. She went to turn off the CD player, I got up to tell her I had to leave since I was going to hear about me leaving this time instead of her. I touched her on the back, she spun around startled, threw her arms around me, we collapsed on the floor, and I knew where I needed to be. That was over 23 years ago. I got a divorce from my ex-wife and am now married to the best woman in the world. She has helped me with the symptoms from my PTSD, encouraged me in kart racing, and many more things. Since the age of 40 I have never been happier.

I really needed to hear reason number 1. Thank you so much!

Frustration is the wrong word Emily. The correct word is DONE!

Excellent list. I approve this message.

I remember several times my now ex would negatively talk about me in front of her family. Her own family told her she was being too hard on me. It was the case of nothing being good enough. They knew I was a true good man, but she didn’t see it. I’m much better off now and wiser for it.

You are wonderful, emily. Such a pleasant voice. Answering: Men are forced to evaluate risk. The risk of Western women is very high; the rewards are low. Men don't want a "strong, independent woman". They want a partner. Or they go back to solitude, which is actually a very nice place to be- for men. I did a VisionQuest, myself, years ago, after my 2nd divorce, and it totally changed my life. Primitive cultures don't have the time or resources for BS. They have to live truth- or die. Native Americans would have a 15 year old girl walk down a line of corn- with instructions to pick ONLY THE BEST of the corn. And they couldn't turn back, they had to keep going forward. Invariably, the girl would get to the end of the line, with nothing. The older woman would observe that many things, including men, were like this- to get "good enough" when you have the opportunity. There are no soulmates, any more than there are fairies dancing in the fields at twilight. There are imperfect people. Women wanted everything men have... now they have it, and they are upset... 1 in 3 women have had an abortion, has an STD... 80% of women consort with 20% of men. 10% of men are 6'1". Women find 80% of men ugly. I visited Austria, years ago, as part of a honeymoon [she went nuts, I had to divorce her for my own safety] We did the Sound of Music tour, which is nice. We saw the palace in the movie Amadeus. The von Trapp house in the movie had a front from one house, and a back from another house. Nice tour. At one point, the tour guide bemoaned the loss of Jewish merchants- who always had low prices, were great businessmen. There was a concentration camp not far from that area. Over half of SS troops were Austrian. All I could think of, was, well, it's not like your people made Jews feel very welcome, did you... I am so very amused, listening to women ask where all the good men went. Uhh, yeah. The good men go dark, they drop into brush, and vanish from view, as any prey animal would, when a predator is around. Years ago, I went to a martial arts class, in a college town. There were women 30-60 there. All poisonously feminist. And... and... all of them knew that Prince Charming was right around the corner, waiting for the right conjunction of Venus and Mars, to marry them, put them on a $5K/month allowance, buy the big house for them, the vacations in Europe, and to lavish attention on them, despite their constant disrespect for him. They based these on the documentaries they watched- you know, soap operas, Hallmark movies, romance novels, and so on, which are always precisely accurate depictions of real human daily life. And the only reason they didn't have that fairytale life was male oppression. I put on my cloak of invisibility- aka being a beta male- and just listened. I learned much. Of course they later decided that the instructor, a black man, was somehow sexually harassing them during the course. I have spent enough time on VisionQuests and other spiritual stuff that I can lavish love on people, just be turning on the flow. Around those women? Cloak of invisibility. If you need to get rid of a woman fast- just start crying. Works like a charm. Or otherwise act beta- you know, talk about your feelings, just like the feminists tell you. They're gone. I remember a woman about 55 in college- like this- she was desperately dating professors, to find Mr. RIghtWallet. They'd date her, but cut her off after one date. She had a little problem- nuclear waste grade resentment, plus a drinking problem. Oddly enough, Dr. RightWallet was doing his risk assessment. I had no status- just a student assistant- she invited me to dinner, I brought my girlfriend at the time- and Madame Battleaxe got sarcastic, and abusive, to the point we had to leave. THis was like 1981. My grandmother worked. AT HOME. Monday was wash day. No washing machines; it was done by hand. You had to scrub out stains- by hand. Tuesday was ironing day- with flatirons. It took a while. No mixes back then; you bought your flour and sugar in bulk. In 1944, it cost 8c/lb. Only after WW II did prepackaged mixes come out. Wednesday was mending day- clothes were expensive, they had to be repaired. Thursday was baking day, you baked bread for the week. My grandmother taught, before marrying. Her husband told her he made enough money so she didn't have to work. Which delighted her- this was luxury, not having to work at an outside job. I met them, in the 1960's. Yep, still in love... My gramma was a widow about 1940. She had to work. My father was still young; he had to work, got a dime an hour, to clean off old bricks to be reused- and he said he was glad to get it. My mother made 25c/hour, in a grocery store- she would get flour "from the bottom of the barrel", put it in a bag. My father made 25c/hour as a night watchman. He got into college, at the height of WW II... he wanted all the college he could get, before being drafted. He wasn't drafted. He finished high school in 3 years, and a 4 year degree in 2.5 years. Socialists want everything to be free. Great idea. Native americans had that system. But their tribal villages were deeply mutually supportive, and spiritual... Karl Marx and Friedrich Engels originated socialism... based on studies of the Iroquois... and they COMPLETELY MISSED the spiritual side of Native Americans, which is the foundation.. In a Dakota village, a prime cut of buffalo meat was put outside the tipi of a widow. Kind of like what happened in the small towns my parents grew up in- a widow known to not have much, would find groceries outside her door, from time to time, because that's just what you did, then. Women wanted to be equal to men. Cool. It's not so much fun, is it? Where are the female bricklayers, plumbers, roofers, etc? Even today's feminists have a plan, though- marry a top 5 percenter, because they are all 10's, even if they are 50 kilograms/110 lbs overweight. The "wage gap" exists- women are paid more than men, for the same work. In the military, women can do half what the men do, and get promoted timely. In Paul Revere's day, life expectancy was 43. First menstruation qualified a woman for marriage- you had to get moving, to have your kids early. VIsit a colonial house museum- we have some in my area- or even civil war era- people worked 6 days a week, often, at least 12 hrs/day. In the 1820's, they had DVD players- aka Shakespeare's plays. Alexis de Tocqueville noted this. American women in the 1950's had a life better than that of 70% of women worldwide. But they decided that women needed men like a fish needed a bicycle. No problem, get down to it, bicycles don't need the fish, either. I do not know any single men over say 35, who has any interest, at all, in a committed relationship with a woman. Single men over 40 that I know avoid women, as the massive risk they are. All that resentment, and false claims, and so on... Men are forced to assess risk. Relationships with women? "Achtung, minen" [Warning, active mine field]. Too many women seem to have completed their BSC degree. B*t Sh*t Crazy. I have never slept around. My first & second wife did play around... I cut them off. Not time for that BS, or for the MS- degree- More of the Same- or the PhD- Piled Higher and Deeper... Modern women are not making men walk away from dating, no no. They are making men RUN away from dating, at top speed, evading fire, and taking cover. Every now and then I speak w/teenagers, or young men in their 20's. They seem to have the idea that oh yes, prenuptial agreements stand up in court, they aren't the 50 meter target on the firing range- for women- the target nobody misses. When I was young, I got older guys, and even women, talking- to learn. I knew I was totally ignorant, and needed to learn. The veterans often had great wisdom, and were willing to share it, with someone who listened. The wedding stores in my area have all gone out of business... if that's not an indicator of issues, I don't know what is. There ARE no soulmates, any more than there is a Santa Claus, or Easter Bunny. There may be compatible ladies, guys, whose minds and hearts aren't totally toxic, but all relationships are imperfect. It's just the way our world is. We live in a world where: Body count is something to boast about. Milage on a car doesn't matter. Rain does not wet the ground. Fish fly a mile high over the ocean. Fast food is nutritious. Poisoning one's soul with hatred and resentment makes a woman far more attractive to the alpha male she wants. Adorning one's body with toxic cosmetics doesn't poison the liver and kidneys. Pouring out hatred and resentment on men makes them want women. Hallmark movies, Soap operas, romance movies, Disney heroines- are all documentaries of how the world works. Yes, Virginia, there really is a Santa Claus, and 20 years of throwing away your value absolutely gets you Mr. Big, just like it happened in Sex and the City, which is also a documentary. But let's make a comparison. Let's imagine a rabid Wolverine, so violent that it has to be caged in a cage made of logs. Would you risk your life, to be around such a creature? Maybe not. I don't play with poisonous snakes. When I was young, I was allowed to play with tiger kittens, but even then, I had no idea to be in the same space as adult tigers. Yes, lady, there are creepy people out there, and you are among them. The Romans used to line the Appian way with the bodies of crucified men, as an object lesson. Divorce courts perform the same function, in our society.

This is one of the best chameleons I've seen.

From "I can deal with this" to absolute worst. Aptly constructed.

Nailed it.. I think you covered everything...

I am 64. Over my life time I have meet very very very few women that have taken accountability for their actions. VERY few!

Part of me thinks this narrative that men have to be masculine and lead because of their biology/sex is breeding some form of expectation and entitlement among certain women. I don't necessarily mind asking a woman out if I find her attractive and want to get to know her more. The problem is when she believes that is just something that I'm "supposed" to do because I'm a man, and may not really appreciate the effort required to make this happen, i.e. spending the time socializing and building my confidence. This extends to other aspects of relationships and mens' expected roles in them as well. Supposedly, men are supposed to lead, take charge, and generally bring some level of strength, security and comfort to the relationship. So if as a man, I put in the effort to cultivate these qualities within myself, the last thing I want is for them to be taken advantage of by the wrong person. We men are constantly told that women/society owe us nothing, which is fine. But then, I don't think it's unreasonable to say the reverse is true; outside of basic human decency and respect, women are not "owed" traditional masculine qualities like strength, security and comfort to be provided to them by a man in a relationship, regardless of whether they believe in traditional gender roles and the idea that men "should" be a certain way or not.

The lack of accontability part doesn't even limited to relationship. A lot can be seen in social medias of women blaming men for everything under the sun. And don't even get me started on "wage gap" sh*t when most working women compare themselves tothe top 1% men on Income when they get wayyyyy more than men on average. And it's funny because they still look for men richer than they are despite the economic situation would means they have to compete with multiple women for the same guy and ignore the majority...You know...they might have always been like this, not just today times. They just hide it better then.

Emily, you are awesome at this. You know what you are talking about. It’s so refreshing to hear a voice of reason. You are a friend of men definitely. Thanks.

Big thumbs up for this video. Smartly explained what the issues are there in nowadays men-women social interactions. Keep up! 👍

Dating apps is also worth a mention, as a guy you can carpet bomb online dating profiles with "right swipes" and you may as be high fiving headstones in a graveyard for all the good it does!

The Godfather used to say that “Accountability was Kryptonite for women”.

Actually pretty well summarized, I'm impressed.

Holly crap ...YOU ROCK! I just came across you and am so happy there is someone with a sane realistic perspective. I'm going to send so many single women your way.

I got one #11 All the baggage. Financially, emotional or otherwise. I'm not here to pay someone's debt and bills or fix up someone else's leftovers