Same! I really feel this is a warning to us all.

@Lucy R you said it well. Agree 1000%. I agree that trauma is real and affects everyone differently. However, the spirit supersedes all trauma and ultimately everything is about OUR choice. Healing comes from God who will point out our needs, lead us to the right therapist and guide the healing process. The problem is that too many of us Christians are led by the flesh and not the spirit. If we sow to the flesh we will reap of the flesh corruption. Conversely, if we sow to the spirit we will reap of the spirit reap.... Good thing there is hope and healing for Corey and anyone of us who needs it. We all have our area of brokenness and thankfully God is able to work through the most damaged situation and produce pure gold if we surrender completely to him. I sincerely believe that God is going to do great things in Corey's life if he surrenders completely.

@@anng7514 wow! 👏🏼 Well said! You made so many important points. Thank God for intuition and the Holy Spirit! And for Christians, our flesh is real and our hearts are deceitful. May we surrender our wills to the our Father in Heaven. ❤️✝️

Amen and amen! #Nuffsaidbespiritled

Whew 🙌🏽. If anything I’m learning a man has to be in a space where he is ready to lead in every aspect. Not perfect but at least developed enough to lead.

Excellent observation you made in your 2nd comment! 👌🏿I too felt that his explanations, though very insightful, came off as clinical and sanitized...but missing heartfelt brokenness over the trauma he caused his wife.

When you said you “felt he was terrific at describing his experience intellectually but not feeling it”, I felt that too at about 20 min in. I think I felt it because I know how to do the same

THIS❗️ I felt same way..like he speaking about his experiences as he's not talking about himself. Great observation and Yes L's interview skills is 👌

THIS IS THE COMMENT!!! 🎉 I FELT IT IMMEDIATELY!!! And in a sneaky way, he attempted to shift blame to her & everyone/everything else!!! And honestly, shame on Latterius. He mentioned that he was “seeing so much in the spirit” , but couldn’t see That?? The manipulation. The arrogance. The play on words. Smh. Something is fishy

It was hearing him repeat, "I loveD her" that kept catching my attention... but I don't know him personally, nor do I know his wife. I just pray that God shows up for him in a way that he can't deny and that God changes him in a way that he can't reject.

Shattered 🥹. Definitely would love to see an interview with her. Bless her.

Thank you. The bar is low. It’s great he’s being honest. However praise isn’t warranted when he’s admitting to the destruction of someone’s life and heart. Especially your wife. He’s been dealing with sexual demons for a long time due to his molestation and I hope he actually gets real healing from that.

@Tiffany Lewis I absolutely agree!! Stop praising him! Not needed. Bleeding on people requires no reward! I'm just so disturbed by this entire situation.

Totally agree!!!!

@@tiffanylewis1817 and sitting here confessing her sins without her permission. Still, not covering her!

“oceanfloor” ❤

Yessssss.....thank you for expressing the perfect words I couldn't quite form in my mind because I was so overwhelmed with emotion (good kind) 🗣️🙌🗣️🙌

Amen!

Logophiles be taking notes , ocean floor conversation down to the bedrock ❤

@@amonmayoyo304 When I read your comment I'm like what the heck is a logophile so I had to look it up 🤔 Glory to Almighty God, you taught me a new word that also applies to me!!!! I always deferred to "wordsmith" and "poetic" so thank you for expanding my vocabulary even more ☺️

Now that is most DEFINITELY a real Revelation and it is so so SOOOO very sad that a man expects you to heal overnight over the mess that they've done and created. But what is WORSE is that many, many, MANY TIMES the other/new woman does NOT even know the real TRUE story of what has transpired and they simply go off of what that man has told them. We NEED Discernment in this day and time because without people are really hurt, wounded, and even distraught because of their being a LACK of Responsibility in THEIR ACCOUNTABILITY. JESUS is LOOKING AND BOOKING. This is REPENTING and TURNING from ALL wicked ways Season.

That was🔥🔥🔥

When my wife comes on here and shares her perspective, childhood traumas and actions I hope your comments remain consistent and non biased Queen. Stay Tuned…..

No moral compass. Ungodly men, will lead you to ungodly things if you yourself aren’t firm. Men period, but quickly, ungodly men. This is why women have to completely cover themselves with God. Man will be man.

I was with someone like this and quickly found out, and unveiled him to himself. Of course it made him chase me long after he revealed his true colors and I broke up with him…but I ran in the other direction. Very dangerous to himself and others. Every trait was the same.

He needed polygamy which is the nature of man. That’s the answer. He should consider polygamous marriages.

What I got from this is HEAL! Premarital counseling is imperative. Seeking the Lord for yourself is imperative. I will not knock him because he is self aware now and he fully understands now. Know your partners traumas!!!

Wooo Jesus come near I need you 😩 every body ph is not the same how the hell you keep dipping in someone else front and keep saying Jesus while putting that unhealthy thing in your wife ladies ladies listen. We have to becareful

I absolutely agree. There are so many men this could help like ex. Martell Holt and Derrick Jaxn lol.

I appreciate the transparency. This has demonstrated that there is NO perfect relationship. GOD bless them❤

​@klion3924 the good thing is that Martell was/is in therapy. Prayerfully he is getting some healing and using the tools to become a better him🙏🏾

Ok I'm sorry for your pain

Yessss

@@seedofabraham0149some not all. It takes holding up a mirror to yourself that brings about that type of accountability and transparency

@@seedofabraham0149 he had to it was public that he cheated- he was in the wrong

​@@seedofabraham0149Stop because you're on some men vs women stuff which shows who you really are

Don’t ask. Listen and observe. Most would deny any need to be fixed

Whew, a word!🙌🏾

@@njc9776 true. Abusers don’t admit that there’s anything broken.

Most of the time they don’t know. They couldn’t identify where they’re broken, at least not enough to verbalize and then tell you. That’s unrealistic. I would just say keep your head on a swivel, once you see the signs, don’t ignore.

Whew my goodness. My question is what if the response is yes. Where do you go from there?

😂😂😂 Wow sheesh the kids kept coming though

He ruined 7 lives don’t forgive him

@@Rubydiamondtruckeryes 19 years of marriage. We got married at a very young ages and enjoyed each other. Trauma didn’t prevent that. lol!

@@sunflowerkissed9637 I would never hold on to bitterness. That would do me no good. Plus our lives aren’t ruined. There’s healing and more good ahead.

This. Right. Here. 💯

Marriage is a decision to be committed daily to be honest daily communicate daily to choose that person daily!!! Thank you for that gem!!!

Yes. It’s so hurtful my god

Absolutely!

A man wants a woman with standards.

Beautifully stated! God has great things for this man still!❤

Amen ❤️

@@allthingsbreeny7204 & women want men who have even higher standards… they’re the ones leading their moral compass should be even straighter

I noticed you said that “We all have childhood trauma” can you open that comment. I honestly feel like I never have had trauma as a child and I don’t understand why and I just hope I’m not the only one (along with my mom) who had an amazing childhood growing up. Can someone explain what childhood trauma is? And why “we all” should have had it.

I believe childhood trauma comes in many forms. It’s not always a term coined specially to physical/or verbal abuse caused my loved one(s). I am a firm believer that a shift takes place in each of our lives, during childhood. This likely results in childhood trauma. If we look back, it may have been something as small as doing everything in our power to fit in at school because we felt insecure about our weight, height or looks. After doing so, still feeling inadequate. Maybe it was needing/wanting more hugs but if you had parents/or family who were not affectionate, it caused you to seek affection from the wrong people - even if all of your other needs were met. However, childhood trauma does not always come from parents. Having an amazing childhood does not mean that you haven’t experienced childhood trauma. Also, everyone’s definition of an amazing childhood may not be the same. Some could say that having a two parent household, fashionable clothes, and the best education equates to an amazing childhood. Meanwhile, their parents got into fights on a regular basis or showed favoritism towards certain siblings. It all has to do with the way someone views trauma. If you don’t have childhood trauma, you are very lucky because I don’t know many people who haven’t experienced it. For example, I was adopted at birth and developed abandonment issues because of it. However, my family (who adopted me) loved on me/gave me the WORLD, but I still struggled with feeling that I wasn’t enough because my birth mother gave me up. Childhood trauma is real, but it doesn’t give us an excuse to mistreat/or manipulate people, which is what I feel may have happened with this couple. This is why therapy should be essential to our adult lives. I feel that if you are broken, stay out of relationships!

*coined specifically

​@@Housewife_In_Training No, we do not ALL have childhood trauma. and I am so grateful to the Most High for that, I thank Him for his mercy!

What’s the title of the first interview

@@Moryah.mollel podcast 111

Same here..they (the red flags) were screaming at me. I felt so bad and thought I probably still needed healing myself because I was wrong. Here was this seemingly happy and BEAUTIFUL couple..maybe I was just being salty. But this episode here has healed me in a whole 'nother way...to lean into my intuition/"first mind". Thanks Cory for sharing your story.

I surly remember that interview too!! It was one of the first videos on dear future wifey podcast… I saw the manyyyyy 🚩 red flags 🚩 and said hmmmm….. But, kept quiet and said maybe he will be better from opening up and knowing his flaws…. I feel for his Ex-Wife 😩 what we put up with just to keep it together 😩😩 I hope everyone heals in this process 🙏🏾

We know ourselves better than anyone else. He knew. Sometimes we think that if we “think it” then “it is” when, in fact, we have to have a radical change (at the very core of our being) and not in word only. A change of heart and mind.

Exactly!I hate when I hear,I have childhood trauma.

Amen Amen Amen!!!!

@Brittany Myers, I agree with you trauma doesn’t give anyone permission to mistreat people. I also know the majority of people that do not get the counseling needed in their youth from childhood trauma will deal with you at the age that the trauma took place (especially sexual trauma) and most will look for love or as he stated the feeling/high they get and it is unfortunate that a lot of people that have childhood trauma turn to drugs or are very promiscuous. There are times when we have to remove our opinions to actually receive what is being said… While childhood trauma is not an excuse and is something that is real for many people. Again I agree with you trauma in one’s youth doesn’t give them permission to mistreat anyone; however, there was a lot said from the brother today starting with taking accountability for his actions and if we listen well enough we can gain from what was stated as well as protect the men and women around us.

I think you being too harsh , anyone who has been through what he went through, passive pain to people around you is inevitable or second nature without you trying

Exactly! 😒 I hate hearing the blame game when it comes to trauma. I have been through it too, but I don't treat people like crap because of it. And that was before I did counseling. A lot of this situation reeks the lack of the Holy Spirit in their lives. 😬

Amen!!

I concur!

Amen! 🙏🏾

Well said, Kejuan!

More of an infatuation

Said that when I saw first episode. I do not agree with people who post public videos and tell people how to comment. You have to take the good and bad or don’t post.

Agree. this came off very performative, perfectly curated responses and attempts to dodge answering questions directly. I hope this isn’t a ploy to the wife to be like “see I’m healed I’m taking accountability for my actions now take me back”.

Thank you!!!!! I said the same thing. Laterus had to get him to be truthful and accountable!

@@atasteoftee Well said!

💯💯💯💯💯

I don’t think it’s fair to say ‘he inflicted pain on her’ that woman played a role, she told him it was okay to cheat when she had the first threesome. I think they are a perfect match, they need to stay together for the sake of other souls.

Didn’t they get a divorce?

​@@sunkissed6413 separated

​@@absolutetreasures6877 Interesting perspective

I couldn't be able to do it. I hate that its made to seem like cheating is trauma is suppose to be apart of women's experiences in marriages. some of the stuff we deal with men would forgive but move on. Sometimes I truly do not like being a woman due to how men can be and treat us.

I concur!

Sigh. It's just a teensy bit annoying when God does that. I was side eyeing him too (knew absolutely nothing about who he is) and was about to log off when God said, "You better listen. There's something that you need to hear." So I'm listening.

Correct. We have to remember none of us are beyond falling and we all need Grace.

Thank you so much

This is the comment I was looking for. Laterras is going to do a complete autopsy on the situation. Mr. Cory's actions from his trauma mirror my ex. 😢😢 This one was very emotional to watch Thank you, @Dear Future Wifey, for keeping it Lit❤

He was not being honest

​@@prettlocs1How do you know this?

He was a walking red flag from the beginning.

WHAAAATTTT

That’s crazy

*all

Yeah......I get chills watching that first podcast.

An excuse or an explanation?

I hope he is genuine this time, my ex husband did the same thing going publicly saying how he owns it, then I went back. Nothing changed, worst experience. I only hope that this is real

@@Dr.Elaine1 explanations that led to NO changed behavior, obviously.

Right because an apology without changed behavior is manipulation. He’s explaining because he wants to set the record straight. However, many of us who watched the first episode saw some of the red flags (once I removed the gifts and fluff). When you operate in discernment, God gives you warning signs but it’s up to us to acknowledge them.

Love is definitely not enough. We especially as women need hold others to the standards we have otherwise we resent them later on but we don't hv to accept their messiness. Threesomes, porn, a physical battle, it's all too much

Sounds like you still in a of pain. Be healed in Jesus name.

@@creativetips97 awww ok hope you get yours too in Jesus name

Does boaz exist though?

@Sarah Sibanyoni well, Boaz has been overly romanticised in Christian circles in my opinion

Your statement is so true. In my being date years, my mom and dad were so hard on my sister and I about receiving gifts from boyfriends. They preached, nothing is free but GOD! I see it so clearly now and appreciate it.

That’s the first thing I thought. He was setting her up from the beginning. All I hear is I statements. So self absorbed.

This is all facts! They get offended when u say No, become passive aggressive or directly rude. It’s as if u owe them for the gifts they gave you!

To God be the glory

I would love to hear her side too, but I wouldn't want it to be right now. Give it 6 months.

@@Theparentcator hopefully she will come back on the podcast🙏🏾💜

I hipe so because I remember their Podcast, how they held hands, and how safe she felt with him.

Yes, please have her on

@@carchelle4193 💯💯💯

I agree

I can tell you from experience, this woman sounds like she is WISE. She probably raised those children still honoring him, as she should. So much so that I am sure she got them therapy and healing through her prayers for them. God is faithful. He will keep those children and they will be able to talk easily about what happened. It will be their testimony as well. Watch and see that they will be very successful in all they do, God first.

Agreed

My prayers are also with the babies🙌🏽

Why is everyone saying "babies?" Didn't she have one 5 year old when they met?

Would love to hear her side as well.yes

@keshiadawn I think the very nature of the life of a believer is dichotomous. You mentioned the sharp contrast in the things he shared. I think if any of us who choose how we want to live choose to do right, it will be a struggle to do what is right consistently. If there is no struggle, you aren’t doing what is right.

@Ingrid Watson temptation is one thing, being the leader of temptation is another.

@@ingridwatson3519 Temptation is not sin. Yielding to temptation is sin. Choice, which we all have the power to make and will be held accountable for is very important. Falling which we all do is not the ultimate issue but consistently making choices that are at odds with the word of God. That being said, I believe that if he truly repents and surrenders his life to God, he will be healed completely.

@@anng7514 I don’t disagree with either of you all about choices or being lead into temptation too often. Within the context of his story, I could clearly see how his past trauma would send him into great temptation. Physical, mental and sexual abuse were all present. I think he is just now starting to unpack how so much abuse could lead to so many bad choices. I truly get that. Having unresolved trauma that you can’t even see how it impacts your decision making is real. It happens to more of us than are willingly to say. Mostly because we don’t even know.

Clever indeed.

Are you saying even if your ex seeks help and really wants to change? There is no chance of him ever changing?

Preach sis! Say that again! Clever! Not healed!

@@shanid9891 that’s exactly it. My husband went to a new woman before we even divorced. He treated her so well in the beginning. Now that she’s about 4 months pregnant and we’ve divorced, he’s back to the man that I had. It’s almost like he got better with experience. He didn’t really change, just learned how to manipulate better.

I totally agreed! When he said he’s a speaker, I knew I was right about my gut feeling.

😢 I wonder too about his marriage. Was the demise solely because of him...

@@lovefelix1566 I personally don’t believe that the demise of a marriage is ever One person’s fault. It takes 2 to work & 2 to fail. 💯🖤

No, it only takes one person to fail.

@@adrianstrong2127 oh ok ..

If you don’t want take Tabitha’s pic down! I thought she was making a comment. 😂

Prayers to you.

I remember..he even got arrested I think....sad

@@winniekuchio2072 he got arrested due to a protest for black men , I believe they are not related and it was due to his activism

@@MNIU_ That's correct. Unrelated.

I remember the same! I pray that she heals and doesn’t get jaded behind this. I don’t think he was truly ready to get married but I appreciate his accountability. There were certainly signs, but love can be blind when we think someone will change for us.

There was an arrest for assault on her. It’s not mentioned here though. How does grabbing someone get confused with choking them

He appears to be gloating !!! I’m reading his demeanor, responses, and deflection. I’m sorry but i feel that there are BLACK WOMEN commenting praise who may secretly wish to be wife #3 for him or be the one to “change” him. Mr. Laterras i really tried to not even comment (please dont delete me) but some things seem like its from a place of sensationalization or “get back”. Sure you know him perhaps personally but there are a few folks that can objectively look at a situation. I will say, until this brother unshelled all of the unnecessary layers of BS, he will continue this path. The first five minutes i thought “ performative, he’s performing”. I dont know his tears that may fall at night, and to be honest - back in the day, while he used to have his motivation reels and lives, he and i probably chatted once or twice (literally one minute or so, this was when he did lives with his three kids, 2019/20)….i truly want him to be released of himself. I am praying for both parties. Blessings

Yes! It’s giving covert narcissistic and if not he definitely has narc traits.

Yes. This is for his benefit. A stunt.

Kay when my wife comes on and tells her story I want your side eye comment to be consistent Queen.

@@clhughes77 I heard enough to know enough. The fact that you didn’t allow your wife the grace, patience, or heart-space to share this traumatic experience on her own time, is very telling. Here you are again…in a position of “control.” Controlling the narrative, at the expense of your wife…. to promote your upcoming book. 🙄 I can’t imagine any therapist in the world being ok with someone who is ‘currently’ in therapy, promoting a book and speaking so publicly. Especially when his wife hasn’t made a ‘final’ decision on divorcing. You are giving her very little reason to want to stay. Do you know how humiliated & embarrassed she must feel? Or does your pride, ego, & trauma continue to seek & destroy? I feel for the broken boy inside of you and I also feel a deep sadness for those you’ve broken because of your need to control, manipulate, and abuse. It’s truly sad when the victim becomes the predator. I think you’ve fooled so many people with your words that they are blinded to the truth. It’s time for you to get quiet, go into isolation, allow GOD to do his work, and truly heal, Brother.

@@kayfleming5180 💯

​@@kayfleming5180 ouch! Dang! 💔🥺 mouthful of boldness😳🤯

@@naomiesaint-sume7930 That was me being nice. I have not one ounce of sympathy for a male who puts his hands around his wife’s neck in a moment of anger, or a male who tries to justify domestic violence, or a male who brings his wife into his demonic world of porn & threesomes, or a male who gives his wife hell after she returns from visiting HER son! Not one iota of sympathy. He KNEW what type of monster he was before he walked into that woman’s life and turned it upside down. His version of their story is mild. I’m sure hers would be extremely heartbreaking. I pray she stays silent. That would be her taking her power back. It’s time to speak truth to power and take these males to task. We are in spiritual warfare with many demonic souls roaming this earth. GOD is waking his people up!! No longer can we remain blind to the glaring truth.

Agree. Thanks for sharing this. You would think that people would say since I have felt what it feels like to be hurt with words, physically, abandonment, ect that they wouldn’t want to cause that same pain to another just on that strength along. You would think it would give them pause to say I know what this can do to someone, so let me not do this to them. I would hope people are not using their traumas as excuses to hurt other and misbehave but we know it is out there. I want all of us to do the work and have these hard conversations before we get involved and invested with one another to help greatly reduce this atmosphere of causing more traumas due to past brokenness. Thanks again for sharing. And good luck with the rest of your healing journey.

He's very much so still operating in his ego. But I'm glad he's becoming or have become self aware

@@deedeedunigan3274 absolutely

Y’all this man is in his 40s, this crap is scary. IMO, they need to stay together.

@TheLaDy I agree with you. Anytime you give a whole Monologue when a Simple Yes/No answer will suffice says A lot 💯(IMO). I’d really like to hear her side❗️

@@CotillionQueen I need to hear her side. I feel the story would be very different.

Yup

Yess.. while I hope it helped someone.. it definitely didn’t help me.. kind of left me feeling hopeless. Just really sad.

@@TheSylvia2002 I understand!

He was in lust not love

​@@ceethwyd That's exactly what I said

Yes ❤!

😢 I believe so too

yeah it’s very concerning that he believes he’s healed.. especially when he said the same thing after his first marriage. radical acceptance and accountability does not equate healing unfortunately

100%. I'm really disappointed in this episode. It's a bit frightening

100% agree. Going to therapy is great it helps to identify unhealed areas. But this man needs deliverance and accountability. I was on CH when all this drama broke out about him and his wife. And his previous wife spoke out about the similarities she faced in their union. Repeated demonic patterns can’t be broken by just therapy.

@@atasteoftee where did she Speak out about this?

It seems like his only response is his inability as an adult to control his actions.

@@thessysasa this was on the Clubhouse app two years ago. Clubhouse didn’t have room recordings then.

😮

Go heal

I thought about that as well.

He even said he managed to get her to throw his surprise party..🤯 I don’t like his performance on this show

Amen

She announced she is divorcing him on IG today.

Same here their episode was my 1st

Mine too

I was new on the podcast too was one of my first four I think

I pray they are blessed to both truly heal and and be reconciled to each other and start a new chapter in their marriage like the Whitlowes in Jesus name.

Me too!

So true! All I can think about is her. 😢

I’m there to I just feel disappointed bc she radiates beauty and not just physically like she gives me good vibes ik I don’t know her but I just feel it

@@sxyteesa0890 same sis...no one is perfect...but she was willing.

Love truly is a gamble! She sure did submit herself hoping he wouldn’t break her heart.. ooweee that’s heavy

This episode was the rawest and most powerful!! No one watching it came away unchanged. There were so many lessons. For me the greatest lesson was, in choosing a spouse or even getting into a relationship, you must seek God's guidance and not be led by emotions/flesh. Our emotions can deceive us and even make us think we are being led by God. #bespiritled

Amen.

Me too... if LT didn't have him clarify or explain he would've skated right past lots of things... #notfullytransparent

Absolutely. I get the sense that he was trying to use this to explain away his very bad behavior and try to save face.

@@harrycallender that’s what he was doing. If LT had not made him tell the big stuff he would have glazed over it. He did not telling his truth without justifying it.

Trust me it gets worse as you listen . It took me a couple days to get through the entire episode.

@@AlexiusS I listened to all of it but I was cringing. He kind of opened up once LT questioned him. He’s definitely a salesman. He has his dialogue rehearsed and ready.

No doubt the that was the Holy Spirit who revealed to Keyana that Cory was not to be trusted let alone, not ready for marriage.

You just don’t know how bad I needed that gem “truth will hurt first but help later.” Thank you!

@@zig2655 yw