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This is so on point, one of the best videos yet. As you guys have reiterated, "dumb" people have it so much easier socially. Because they don't have that analytical mind keeping them stunted while talking, afraid that what they have to offer doesn't meet their own high standards. It's a fight everyday to force myself to make small talk, which is like the bane of the logical mind's existence. It feels so rote and mundane to us, we'd rather go deep with a person than comment to them about the weather or a ballgame. But you HAVE to do it, it's the way of the world and there's no getting around it. Which is why this video is so freaking good, I am going to revisit it time and again, especially the inside joke guidance. Thank you for this 🙏

People sometimes take themselves way too serious and overthink which causes them to develop unnecessary fear of embarrassment,failure,rejection,being creepy etc. Overcoming your inner fear is crucial to improve your social skills. Edit: It is true that you don't have to allow disrespect from anybody but at the same time you shouldn't fear the outcome of your interaction with others,walking on egg shells and rather be yourself and be assertive about it.

I was a quiet type of guy until I saw a friend of my brother stop a whole conversation to talk about a dumb video of a animal doing some dumb stuff. Everyone laughed, and then everyone laughed because my brother pointed out that he stopped the group to talk about a dumb vídeo. It's just another language, the language of energy. What you say doesn't matter, just needs to pump energy into the group.

This is what I've noticed over the years. The more I try and plan out how to live my social life, the less it actually goes out how I want it. Overthinking is what ruins social skills

The awkward laugh thing is sooo effective for me to stop taking myself seriously.

_"Embrace, exaggerate, laugh."_ Yes! I've learned to do that too, and it's one of those lessons I'd like to have learned when I was much, much younger. As you get comfortable doing it, you get to strike this really excellent balance of seeming intelligent, confident, real, and a little bit goofy in a way that helps others feel like you're not gonna be judgmental against them when they goof up sometimes too.

Holy shit I think you cracked it. This makes absolute sense. I’d been confused for a long time because I had times where I was insanely confident, the life of the party, and then others when I’m a clusterfuck of awkward shyness, and it felt random. I could not for the life of me figure out why I would just shift so erratically. But this checks every box; the looseness I’m able to feel only ever appears when I’m not boxed in by trying to logically figure out what it is that I’m doing right and wrong. Edit: OH MY GOD I typed this before the inter-something purgatory part. Should’ve seen my surprise when you basically verbatim described what I just commented. Good lord. This is good stuff man. Thanks for this.

This guy is like a part of me that I forgot to develop. Thanks for chatting. Seeing my comfort zone as a cage is a very interesting perspective. It aligns with issues I’ve developed when I returned home after traveling for a few years.

This is so timely, I just went out to socialize with some friends for the first time in a while and I was stuck in my head for a solid 20 minutes. I started walking around and broke out of it got into a few conversations and then came back to my friends and got sucked back into my head. Thanks again Julien for reiterating how important it is to practice breaking out of logic!

I was thinking if I'm really introvert or too logical to talk. I figured it out myself and said fuck it I'll just talk and talk if whenever I have the energy. If I think I'm too awkward or my words don't make sense it's fine. Every sociable person are like that anyways, they just don't realize it and we do, so we don't want to be like them because it sounds weird to us, and and we don't want to be weird. It's the accumulated social errors that will prevent you from thinking too much about it because once they are accumulated, they are too many to think about and you just continue to talk. Social errors can be corrected on the fly like, if you mispronounced a word, you can repronounce it. Or if it sound awkward, you can just change the topic. The key is, don't think too much about it, just let shit flow.

I remember, when I was 7, in the playground at school I walked to all the other boys on the playground and sat with them and they said to me "we don't want you sat with us" and when I asked "why" they said "because you just laugh at everything it's annoying" then I said "I promise I won't laugh" then, of course, I started laughing at something fairly quickly because I found it funny and they said "see" and the group kinda dispersed and that made me very reluctant to laugh at things for years after, people thought I was just a mardy person, then I eventually embraced laughing at stupid things I found funny again and was alot happier for it but even now it'll occasionally creep into my head, am I laughing too much? will people find it annoying? I know I'm just overthinking so I ignore myself but it's crazy how one experience at a young age can shape how you act for years to come. This video is great advice, laugh at whatever makes you happy don't self annalise so much in social situations, relax and enjoy it. In my experience you'll be much happier for it.

The gems always come to me at the exact time I need them. I've been battling this for EONS man, trying to figure out how to be more authentically playful, but also taking myself seriously, and this video gave me the simplest answer: Stop taking yourself so seriously you dummie! I used to be the goofy kid in my social circle when I was younger, and never had an issue with making friends or being invited to parties, but as I got older and responsibilities became a serious part of my life, in addition to the social stigma of "being cool" as you get older, I completely forgot how to be that goofy kid. Thanks Julien, this was an amazing breakthrough!

Man, you’re always on point. This is me. Always being logical. Sometimes, I’m too serious that my parents and girlfriend say I need to relax and chill.

I needed this. Thank you.

Writing comment for the youtube algorithm. 0:07 literally me. "Fuck everything and everyone I am heading out to have fun" attitude is a great emotional state. Keep it up Julien!

Ok....I am confident for the most part, when I am out in any setting I have no problem talking to people I wanna talk to regardless of the outcome. My problem is getting myself to go out in the first place...I have no friends that want to go out so I usually do it alone when I establish the courage, and I dont like to drink so that makes it tough because all there is for night life in my area are bars, mainly dive bars. I seem to have the opposite problem of most guys...the other day I was in a different city waiting for some friends to get off work, so instead of sitting in my hotel in the early evening I went to a bar down the road, it took me 5 minutes sitting outside to build the courage but once I went in...there were 4 beautifull women and some friendly people, when there are people around I want to talk to like beautiful women, it actually opens me up. I have not figured out exactly what I am afraid of when I am sitting there contemplating just walking through the front door.

Can you put out a video on how to stay within your frame even at low energy. It feels like I have to be at the top of my game to be in league with everyone else in relation to how easy socializing is. When im tired I have little energy to put into being social, but I see other people do it regularly.

I find my inner self best when I worked through it logically. When it came to social validity I found it easiest to handle it when I was able to reflect on it. Once that happened I just released all those fears and didn’t think of it, unless it was brought up due to external factors, such as this.

Man you are so confident i love it! Honestly my goal is getting your confidence! I love the vids :)

thank you very much for such an outstanding video!

This is gold 💯 thanks Julien!

Julien, thank you!.

Biggest tip I can give you is get a door to door salesperson job. I just got that 2 days ago and I feel like I can talk to anyone about anything

I love Julien. He goes through his own personal challenges but is well equipped on how to cope with them! ❤

Great stuff thanks

I’ve just realized I exist for other people, not myself. I have to get used to doing things for me, entertain myself. Thank you for the realization.

*Leaving the office at 5:01 PM* I'M OUT OF MY CAGE! I'M OUT OF MY CAGE!!

what a fucking great video for me, man. i feel completly busted right now to be honest, because im a very analytical and logical person. i really like to construct any systems and concepts and or to think already existing ones further and to connect them on several levels etc.. basically the pure analyzing and logical thinking on all topics like philosophie, religion, spirituality, physics, meaning of life, metaphysics etc. however i have to say that i don't have a job where i can live this out. now after the video i don't really know if this is a problem because i basically lose what i love so much, i mean everybody knows me as this rational, analytical and logical guy, it happens quite often where friends ask me for help and or advice to break down a problem or a circumstance for them as simple as possible to make it easier for them to make a decision. i'm a little afraid of losing myself, or more likely this part of me, because i'm good at it and that gives me relatively high self-confidence in communication in this areas. i am 32 years old, i have been like this since i can remember, i think a lot about everything etc. ever since i can think, i have been building systems and concepts in my head, linking them to other partial concepts and levels, discarding parts, finding other approaches, find parrelells from different areas and put them together etc. etc. it's like a "hobby", I like it, that's just what I'm good at and what makes me happy. I recognize myself very well in this "I can't get out of logic mode", as well as in the fact that I can't even remember the last time I really laughed my ass off, the last time was probably 8-12 years ago. i would like to tell you a story: I had a phase that started almost exactly 11 months ago and lasted 5-6 months. during this time i met a group of new people with whom i shared a hobby in which i was very competent. a few knew each other beforehand, but most did not. my plan was just not to let my analytical side out to see what happens. what i did was very simple, i didn't communicate analytical things, not once, except with a single person of those when we were alone and that was maybe 10 hours total in those 5-6 months total. i was in contact with most of them every day in a bigger or sometimes smaller group and after a while, i guess about a week, i was completely out of my head. i was suddenly able to make small talk, which i had always had problems with, i was completely incapable of it before. but then it just flowed. I didn't even have to think, the conversation just happened, which seemed like a whole new world to me personally. people were happy when i came, if i wasn't there they asked me if i would come too. which is another thing i didn't know before, at least not to that extent. i was just popular in the group. they liked my dry sense of humor and always found it funny and entertaining with me. then in march this year the group unfortunately dispersed because the opportunity for the hobby was sadly no longer given. then i only had contact with 3 people from the former group and not as intensively anymore, except with one. but now, for about 3 months i'm trapped in my head again and can't get out. and to analyze what happened in the beginning that i got out of my head it's been too long, i can't remember well enough and now i don't know how to get back there. and that makes me really sad because i felt really good, i feeled so alive. i had so much fun and now that i know how it can be, my analytical world seems very gray and sad to me, just lifeless, because there is no emotion in it i think. i think a core part of the whole thing was that i was very competent in the hobby, i was of course respected for that, and that made me self-confident in the group and that logically meant that i wasn't needy, i was just zero needy. For me that means that I have to be competent in the common ground that I have with other people, which is the reason I have contact with people in the first place, which then gives me as the result the self-confidence and then I end up back where I was. Because now that I'm at default in my head and when im slightly going out of my head, I realize so often that im in "needy-mode" and when I realize that, it pulls me back hard into my head. so the only way is through competence as i see it, do i see it correctly? is competence one of the basic pillars for social improvement in youre opinion? or is it more of a sideshow that is not absolutely necessary? I mean, I also want to be able to have a good and fun conversations with someone I might not have anything in common with that I could then be competent at, so it can't be a basic pillar, can it? you say it doesn't matter WHAT you say, that the content is irrelevant, that you just have to let go and then it flows the way i experienced it. That makes perfect sense too, but for me it's really damn hard to get there without the self-confidence that competence gives me. this is really fucking my head :( it is very very very hard for me to generate self-confidence without competence. there is always a objective logical sense in what i'm self-confident in, i can hold on to it, so to speak, it gives me security, just like logic itself because it's like indestructible, it's stable. okay, now I notice myself that it comes down to the said "letting go" again and maybe the analytic and logic thing is like a golden cage for me and when im getting insecure which stresses me out as a result and my reaction to that result is that i quickly jump into my safe golden cage to feel secured and stable. does that make any sense? PS.: First of all, sorry for the massive text. secondly, i'm german, i don't speak very good english, i hope the translation didn't lose too much of the sense in the sentences. Thirdly, I'm sure you'll notice that I said earlier that I don't know how to get back there and in the end I somehow do, at least I think so. I have to say that when I speak and write, I analyze at the same time, so to speak, and in the process I come up with new ideas and connect them and then come to new insights and results etc. so the reason why the text from above contradicts the one below in some places is that that writing is an amplified thought process that allows me to think better and that helps me to come up with results much more efficiently. which somehow means that if i'm writing this, i'm doing this to a greater extent for myself than to find a solution to the problem, i'm speaking more to myself than to anyone, which might seem kind of selfish and certainly does partially corresponds to the facts. basically you just see a kind of rough document of my thought process mixed with my story, arranged chronologically. maybe there will be one or the other helpful and nice person who would like to tell me their opinion on all this, i would be very happy about that, because input from outside, from a different perspective, is often very good and i think that could help me to find a good approach to solving the problem potentially.

Wow. I've found my peeps. I do that laughter thing. Like life was teaching me.... then seeing it here... is conformation. Awesome insight 👏

Dropping knowledge (FOR FREE) for years. YOUVE HELPED ME HAVE SOME OF THE BEST SUMMERS OF MY LIFE, JULES. Love ya babe.

14:52 this is exactly where im at! Sometimes i'm in the zone, im the conversation starter, first to the dance floor - everyones at the same level and i feel part of the group. Other times its like im that shy kid again hoping someone will be my friend. Absolute coin flip - which really makes me not want to go out much, because its a gamble.

Thanks. I have been making myself laugh for years now even when others look at me strange. Its nice to hear someone say thats good

A lot of "gurus" and these philosopher types talk so insipidly and emptily. They use a lot of words but don't say anything. They speak in vague sort of nebulous and abstract ideas This guy gives excellent, practical, helpful advice that isn't some hocus pocus esoteric word salad. Most of it can be instantly implemented and it makes sense He clearly has a tremendous understanding of human psychology, what motivates peoples, and how one might go about bettering themselves mentally and overall.

This is interesting. I don't have issues with meeting folks, socializing, building rapport, and developing networks, etc. The problem that I tend to have though is in casual conversations, which is most common, I rarely am able to talk to someone in a very intrinsic manner that keeps my interest. A good example to explain why, along with the consequence, would be when you dilute a drink with water- if you do it shortly after you're already expecting the thrill of full concentration, then you feel like that rush of dopamine isn't hitting just right. Eventually you do it enough you get adjusted and then you have this weird place in your mind thinking that you're really missing out on what it used to be like. I spend hours and hours just listening to new ideas and concepts because I love hearing what people have discovered, but when it comes to wanting to share the key $1M nuggets that I extrapolated from all of those lectures and lessons, it's rare for me to find someone who would be interested in wanting to hear what I know, and enjoy it with the same intensity as I do. Funny thing too about all of that though is if I do find someone who is curious, like an iceberg tipping over to show what it is hidden beneath the waterline, I unfortunately find myself unloading so much information (especially if I have been longing to mind dump). Lol it feels like a struggle to try to hold back because at times sometimes I can visibly see the information going over their head. I think though there is this fine line I can traverse to which hits a sweet spot, where it's like playing a game to which you just need to find that frequency on the dial that would create a harmonizing effect. You're not necessarily just accepting everything as truth, but you do as you mentioned, where you take a step back and you see where there are differences. In these manners, sometimes it's nice to create dissonance to keep the ideas fresh, but really you are riding on the topic in a manner that helps push the idea to a notable resolution. Those instances are rare, and usually what conversations dwindle down to are what people are complaining about. Nobody ever talks about history, things that excites them. I love listening to conversations about dreams, and things that people wish they could achieve. Instead, most people only talk about the immediate concerns even if they have no control over them. That gets depressing, and like the drink mentioned before, the dilution leaves me wanting more of the good stuff when really at this point there nothing left but water.

I'm never out of the cage lol. "Zoom out. Laugh at yourself,". This helps thanks Julien. Appreciate it a lot

I hadn't thought about something like 'nice socks' as a win to collect, that's brilliant. Thanks!

Thank you! Where did you learn all this? Crazy how you not only know the info, but live it out at the same time Curious, what do you struggle with , socially? I guess you’ve broken every chain? Or do you still have to practice what you preach in moments? Again thanks 🙏 I’m not sure if I’m an overthinker, probably in moments.

I honestly was thinking about this whole topic the other day that’s why I clicked onto this video I feel like I don’t have motivation to speak to anybody like I like to be alone which is a good thing it’s not a bad thing everyone should value the presence of being alone but it’s also good to have people to talk to that’s some thing I have to work on I’m all in my head and that’s how I been for so long I really wish that I could talk like everybody else I just feel like I’m boring hopefully this video helps me

Finally someone made this!!!

What inner work should we do? I loved this video btw, I totally get stifled around people I think are more “cool” than me. Never knew this was a known phenomenon. I really want to break out of this!!

Rare epic video about socializing + letting go..... 🔥🐐🤯

There really is nothing better than RSD when it comes to deep social value. Thank you, endlessly.

It's also about being present in the moment and just...letting go. The struggle is that people who are logical are often successful in other areas of their life with this pattern of thinking, so it reinforces the need for them to continue in this way. So when they find an area where this does not work, it forces them to double down on the effort, making them try and try with the tools that have proven successful in almost all other areas of their life, and with no success It crushes the ego. I suggest making meditation a part of their routine.

Wow thank you so much Julien, I feel like something clicked inside Do you have any book to recommend to start the inner work ?

13:30 makes a cogent claim that confidence is not an action or singular event but rather a 'state' or 'frequency' or 'attitude' that can be enabled and from which comfort and creativity passively flow

How did Julian get to be so smart? He's amazing!

This content is literally a gem

Being logical is a gift why should get rid of it for people

I just stopped giving a shit what people think, i am the one having the fun here!!

I laugh at my own jokes whether I share or not. Sometimes if I think it’s funny or clever enough I’ll share it. Sometimes people don’t laugh and I would give them a hard time, “oh come on that was funny! lol” Even if they don’t respond to it, I don’t bottle up disappointment to be too scared to do it again. I spent a lot of time alone before my relationship so I became my best friend in a way and sometimes just share my jokes with my pets. I still have a lot of inner work to do, but inside jokes with myself is something I love doing.

Wow thanks!

super useful bro

Playing not too lose as opposed to playing to win... I'm definitely guilty of that, this has been an eye-opener

Hey man, I get stifled around very funny and quick witted people (my ceiling). Would you advise anything beyond inner work? I feel like inner work is not enough alone. I am the logical type as well. Great video!!

damn! my takeaway is I gotta chill, lol. The 'stifle' bit is what gets me every time. I feel this heavy tension that I'm always trying to cut through as deep as i can. But what if the tension isn't really there? And I'm just making whoever I'm with as anxious as me haha. Do you think trying to sit in that tension is a good way to train how to deal with it? Or will more inner work (meditation, etc?) help remove the tension itself?

Actually some of the best advice Iv heard about this topic. Iv had overthinking right in the moment and my words fall out. And this guy explains how it feels and what it's like. On point dude.

Met a guy out the other night who was just so super logical but wanted to approach approach approach at the nightclub and im just like dude chill out, let go. He needs to see this video.

The more logical you are the less you can be manipulated. Social interactions have a lot of manipulation tactics. Women don’t want men hanging out with other men who do drugs. Men don’t want women who hang out with other women who whore around. Many people are dealing with loneliness, drug addiction, and alcoholism by not being their own person. By forgoing logic and getting caught in many dark sided social traps.

how do i focus on work instead of whether people are looking at me? i work desk job in an open office, anytime someone walks by im focusing on them using my peripheral vision whether theyre looking at me and its driving me nuts, i cant focus on my work. the basis of this is me being ugly, so people tend to look at ugly people on the streets but dont dare to make eye contact with attractive people.

Another dope video ! -Owen

I believe I may be very logical type of person. But I have my time free when i just do things with no purpose . let me tell you how logical and calculated I am, lol. When I eat, I watch some how-to or learn video. When I clean house, run a audiobook, when go to shop, I listen to some audio courses for the things I study. When I do gaming, I run some webinar on the other screen ( multitasking is easy pezy for me). I more than often ask myself, how I could I do this better or if is someone else in the world that would do things differently and better than me (exmple: how could I park my car better, how could I go more cool inside house (LOL) this also means I have to pay attention when I get inside, what if someone is there trying to rob, I try to improve everything I do. People once they learned something, they tend to take it for granted and don't do any other research on it, unless there is some official-gov-project teaching you how to do things or some online course u paid 10k for) . Of course, I also calculated that I need things when I'm free of this, lol. I only shared this because I wonder if anyone here does things in a similar way

@JulienHimself , Have you uploaded anything related to how to achieve the last thing you said ( Inner work / Not depending on external validation and knowing who you are) Its a problem that has been bothering me all my life but I dont know exactly how to reach such a deep level where I can fully understand who I am and what are my core values . I watched a video you uploaded last year called , " FOMO, Jealousy & Anxiety: How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others & Seek Validation From Within " and It was eyeopening . It made me realise that I have the wrong values , all corelating with ego and other people's opinion's . So I realised the issue but Im struggling to find the fix . I know you cant tell me exactly what to do , but you may have thought of some smart exercise to put me on the right path of thinking . Is it a quick fix or will it take years? Would be amazing to hear a response . Good video by the way. Will hopefully see you IRL at Frankfurt next week. - Pavlos

What is thought but a distraction from experiencing reality for what it is. Meaningless vibration. Just like music. It is the participation in the nonsensical that fills us with the most joy. Games, music, dance etc.

Thinking types vs feeling types

So how and where to start the inner work? Is there a book you can recommend or how do I get down to its core?

My biggest issue is my ego won’t let me dumb myself down enough to connect with people who prefer a less logical conversation and it leads me to feel lonely 🥲 I’d rather be dumb so i can have fun and actually have friends.

Why do I feel like no one even has social skills except me? Am I dumb? Or is everyone literally addicted to their smartphones and forgot how to socialize? Or am I dumb?

I noticed in this vid that he’s always talking about incorporating the inner work and letting go, but doesn’t really say how to reach that or what to do. Those things are also a lot easier said than done lol. I wish he went more into how you can start working on the inner work, or maybe he has and I haven’t watched the vid yet. I feel like I’ve been at the very last part he explains for so long and haven’t really been able to work on it correctly despite me trying to do new things

Have a question. Unfortunately I am german and it is not so easy to get to one of your courses. Even if I hardly want to. Sometimes I have private problems to solve and in these moments, wherever I am, I am always absolutely focused on this problem. For example, some days ago I had to drive to some place where I had some debts because of miscalculation of some employees. Long story. In that mood, I didn't care about others in subway or bus. I just focused on my thing and I was a bit afraid because of this problem, that's why I literally just gave energy to the real important things. I had some daily normal talks, where I would be normally all the time thinking, what other people thinking of me, where I was absolutely cool. Not because I wanted to be, but because I had more important things to care about. My voice was strong and I was super confident which means I was absolutely free from doubts. Well, this problem solved and even moments after that, I noticed, that I came back to my old mood. Always looking to women, if they're looking at me. Thinking about what people think about me, when I do this or when I do this. Daily talks are (as always before) with weak voice again. It seems, that I AM able to be naturally "cool" (aka "I have bigger problems") and not supposed to be cool. And it seems that I will be in this mood, when I really have huge problems. BUT this seems not like a solution for me. Getting into big problems, to get my brain free from unnecessary thoughts and doubts and to give a damn just for things, that I really, really need and not because of every opinion of every person I will meet for just some seconds in my life and afterwards never again. Hope you can understand, what I mean. My english is horrible xD

The inner work you mentioned towards the end - what resources would you recommend for that?

mindfulness based meditation....... When i try To meditate i can t feel the triggers but when im walking or playing or studying when i remember the things THEN i get triggered so if i try To feel the sensations during these breef moments would it work ???

I agree but explaining it logically after telling people to stop thinking could have the opposite effect

I had a good total of 45 minutes of being out of my head at work yesterday.

Feels like I really need this but I don't understand what he means. There is too many weird transitions.

The problem with me is that even if I think someone’s is below me, I still get stifled. It’s like it doesn’t matter. Sometimes I’m good, sometimes I’m not. Any help?

00:00 Embrace and enjoy socializing despite logical tendencies 01:47 Lower the bar of laughter and be more carefree 03:33 Practice transitioning from logical to flow state 05:13 Triggering perceptions with unconventional attire 06:49 Find inner wins to be socially comfortable 08:35 Combining serious points with humor and stories for effective communication 10:42 Understanding self-sabotage and inner work 12:37 Importance of inner work for crushing it in life 14:25 Balancing outer experience with inner work is crucial for socializing effectively 16:02 Challenging traditional teaching advice Embrace and enjoy socializing despite logical tendencies - Realize the value of taking breaks from being logical and embrace the joy of socializing - Practice embracing, exaggerating, and laughing at oneself to ease into social interactions Lower the bar and be more carefree - Stop overthinking and trying to logically force yourself to feel something - Authentically find things funny and entertain yourself Practice transitioning from logical to flow state - Make it a daily habit to socialize for at least 30 minutes - Practice transitioning to a state of flow and illogical thinking Triggering perceptions with unconventional attire - The speaker intentionally wears wild clothing to challenge stereotypes and provoke reactions from both spiritual and money-focused people. - The speaker finds humor in unplugging people from group think and creating memorable moments with unconventional attire. Find inner wins to be socially comfortable - Creating humorous situations can lead to social success - Letting go of barriers and concerns through inner work helps in being less logical and more social Combining serious points with humor and stories for effective communication - Explaining concepts before jokes to ensure understanding - Overcoming self-sabotage by not feeling stifled in social interactions Understanding self-sabotage and inner work - Self-sabotage cannot be battled with techniques, requires deep inner work and introspection. - Freeing yourself leads to standing out and conveying authentic signals, valuable in interactions. Importance of inner work for crushing it in life - Detaching oneself from seriousness and focusing on inner work allows for success - Confidence should come from within, not from external validation

this is how bad people get ahead, they look for targets, convince them they can provide something, make some progress and after that just keep making promises until all the money drays up. and I know its so tempting to do this for an easy life but its letting a whole industry down, and there are so many losses for the area.

Hey Julien! Thanks for this banger content. Can you please make a video on how to tell engaging stories? I am really loving your content

What are some examples of the inner work you´re referring to?

I've got a long way to go. With more than just this aspect. It sucks.

so what is the "inner work" how do i identify the reason for my low self esteem?

How do you do inner work?

Tbh I only have those blockers in place bc I talk a ton when I’m comfortable & risk coming off annoying

I understand having that logical mindset at work but what if where very analytical/logical to a fault?

you have said a lot, and some I agree with. but mostly just no. people wont follow that logic, everyone is emotional and cant help it. but thanks.

Julien 4 president !

Hey Julien how do I transform what are the steps bro. I want to change and let my real outgoing personality out. We all want to be social sometimes it can just feel hard. I feel like I don’t have a whole lot to work on because I’m good at reading people. My biggest issues are. Approach anxiety which isn’t that severe anymore because I don’t care as much. Then second is sexual escalation irl. I feel like I’m going to creep the girl out even though I won’t, I need to learn how to shift conversations into sexual topics and sexualize more calibrated like maybe rehearsed bait gateway topic, like asking something like do you wanna know what I noticed about you and then sexualizing what I say after. Sometimes I get stuck in these platonic feeling conversations when I’m sober. When I’m drunk I convey sexual body language better because I’m not all tensed up so I think girls convey their sexual body language more then too. And when I get the green light I sexualize verbally more aggressively. But I’m horrible at closing when the girls is already amped up. Like last party I had this girl saying yes to when I said I know “you want this d in your mouth, I know you want to suck it”. But then I just fucked it up. I thought maybe being aggressive would be sexy but then she rejected that escalation and because of lack of experience I just went mental and well instead of trying again I just ruined the interaction which if I recovered would probably have ended with sex.

I think this is the true secret behind Juliens style. Now it all makes sense.

sorry for my strategic mind based on the overwhelming feeling of the pressuring needs of human world to write out dialog and spell fluently. I might be a little slow leaving a intelligent line due human error of processing the equation of living a mental adjustment of are current world bases of acceptions.

This guy smart as God in some way I don't mean cap or disrespect but even when he starts talking bout robes spiritual people money getters etc

I find it funny no matter what level the bar is.

Would you say that you weren’t able to turn it off for good until you reached a sort of ego death?

Julien how do I get a mentoring link?

Is being funny worth it? ----> Yes, it's worth it. You need to change your perspective/view point.

I just wanna say laughing and embracing it kinda starts hurting self esteem, any advice about that?

Social is not freedom is another Cage, just using your criteria in logical way. It has the same characteristics but the rules are not on paper.

Sir why is that i like girls but when there is opportunity to talk to them I kinda reject them , i am attractive so i thought may be i have ego issue but now I found out that it may be past trauma or rejection by girls in my childhood, how can i overcome this trauma? ( sorry for bad english 😅)

I may not be understanding it right, but this is basically "if you're logical, don't be logical when being social". That's kind of the problem, the only way I can think IS logical?

How can a person know that he/she is doing letting go right and its working for them????