Stop Trying to Stop Drinking ... (What?!)

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Annie Grace, author of This Naked Mind and The Alcohol Experiment, is here to discuss "The Pause."
The first step in changing your relationship with alcohol is to stop trying to stop drinking. Wait. What? It’s counterintuitive. It’s controversial. It’s what makes This Naked Mind - the book, the methodology, everything - so different from anything else. Subscribe to This Naked Mind on KZfaq - goo.gl/ZJQAZ8.
Why Keep Drinking?
I call it “the pause” and it’s the reason behind why I tell people to keep drinking. Personally, I didn’t find success until I stopped trying to stop drinking. That is what gave me permission to ask questions.
Why do I drink so much?
When did alcohol become so important in my life?
What do I need to do to make alcohol small again?
What should you do while you keep drinking?
I was using alcohol to heal all my hurts yet it kept making them worse and worse. I needed the pause in order to be able to evaluate things. I couldn't stop drinking until I stopped trying to stop drinking.
Start reading This Naked Mind for free today while you work through why you keep drinking when you’re trying to stop drinking.
www.thisnakedmind.com/book
Watch the complete videoto hear why you should keep drinking in order to finally stop drinking!

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@kthomas9641 3 жыл бұрын

In April after about a month of fear based COVID evening drinking I decided to go on a 35 day challenge: no booze, keto and do a chloe ting work out program. Two days into my challenge I''m on a friday afternoon zoom happy hour. Everyone is drinking and I feel like garbage, even after the call I am ITCHING for my Friday night beer and wine, my anxiety is out of control. I ended up reading This Naked Mind instead. I remember ROLLING MY EYES when Annie writes 'you'll go from never getting to drink again to never having to drink again'....three days later something clicked and I was like "I never have t drink again!!!" LOL. Thank you Annie!

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Such a powerful moment!!

@Karaunicorn Жыл бұрын

I would so love that to happen for me! Congratulations 🎊 👏

@ronaldpettifurd5957 11 ай бұрын

@@ThisNakedMind A quote from AA/NA "We had to have something different and we thought we had found it in drugs." Really hit it on the head when you said the thing you thought was helping you do everything, was really destroying everything. I just found your channel, great stuff. I hope you are well. Congratulations.

@jeanieolahful 2 жыл бұрын

It’s so true. When you feel like you’re giving up something beneficial, in any way, it’s really hard! Giving up a poison is actually easy, but only when you stop seeing any benefit, and that takes a lot or reading and introspection. While I’m sure you get some push back on this, you’re also giving a lot a people a different way of approaching the issue of alcohol.

@ThisNakedMind 2 жыл бұрын

So glad you can see the value in that. The push back isn't an issue as long as we are helping people!

@shawnmitcham9824 11 ай бұрын

It's totally what changed for me. I struggled for a long time. Then I switched my mindset of "its poison" (because it truly is), and then I never had a craving, desire, or ANY struggle to ever want alcohol again. Now I feel sorry for people drinking because they have no clue how much they are damaging themselves. Gamechanger.

@ThisNakedMind 11 ай бұрын

It's amazing how that switch truly changes everything!!

@StephanieAlbers 3 жыл бұрын

When I got sober about 5 years ago it was because I had a similar shift in perspective. I realized that I could be a strong, proud, sober person and the desire for that strength and peace was a much stronger desire than my desire to drink. I felt like I was gaining more than what I was giving up. It wasn't just about trying to stop drinking. It became all about what I was gaining and the idea in my mind of the person I could become. That's what made it so much easier for me to "stop drinking".

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Yes - that shift is monumental!!

@StephanieAlbers 3 жыл бұрын

@Komorebi🕊 I smell projection. Seems to have worked pretty well for me for over six and a half years now, I’d call that sustainable. Much more sustainable than drinking ever was. And staying sober has taken a hell of a lot more work than just a shift in perspective. Not still drinking. Sorry about your issues, bro. Hope you figure it out and stop leaving shitty comments to random people on the internet✌🏻

@milenaseymour446 3 жыл бұрын

Thank u for all u do! Can't wait to get tour program! Been on the spiral of guilt, blame, shame and more guilt and fear for years now. Looking forward to making a mindshift and change!!

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

You got this!

@matthewsnape2722 3 жыл бұрын

I find this to be the most powerful and insightful video you have made thus far. Thank you for making this struggle sound so incredibly human and yet absolutely conquerable with the right mindset.

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@timyoung2817 2 жыл бұрын

I completely agree!

@biancarentz2609 3 жыл бұрын

thank you so much for this video and your kind words!

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@armaredhowell5773 3 жыл бұрын

I just stumble upon this channel I'm so happy I did I need all this information and then some thanks!

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Happy to hear that!

@sophiepearson4403 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this Annie - what an eye opener. I was only just journaling the other day that it's so frustrating that the harder I try the more I seem to drink. Yay I'm actually normal.

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

It's amazing how many struggles we all share! If we'd only talk about them more!

@tarapurswani8359 3 жыл бұрын

This is fantastic. I'm already a member of the Path. I embraced Pause for a couple of weeks and then I felt it triggering, but after watching this video, I feel more informed. I also appreciate the vulnerability in your story behind the pause.

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Wonderful! Thank you for sharing your perspective!

@davidkelley6148 3 жыл бұрын

Annie, you make so much sense!! Thanks!!

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome!

@adriana77 2 жыл бұрын

You are helping so many people. So glad I found this channel

@ThisNakedMind 2 жыл бұрын

Honored to be helping!

@rjs8392 3 жыл бұрын

I bloody love you Annie!!!

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@timyoung2817 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely love your content!! You have such valid common sense insights and you are excellent at communicating them !! Thanks

@ThisNakedMind 2 жыл бұрын

So glad!

@BurnzyRaps 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Annie. I appreciate you x

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome

@theresacurtis1831 3 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate your videos and your non judgemental attitude Annie.

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@marygibson4818 2 жыл бұрын

This is an awesome video. Thank you for sharing!

@ThisNakedMind 2 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

@peachion2 3 жыл бұрын

I have recently started reflecting on the times in my life when I drank. When and why did I feel I needed it.

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

That's an important piece to grow and heal from it!

@elaine8985 3 жыл бұрын

Such an inspiring and personal video Annie. Thank you♥️

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

So glad!

@visam28 3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate you and Craig Beck so much.

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@loretteduke4776 5 ай бұрын

Loud and clear 😊

@ThisNakedMind 5 ай бұрын

Glad you can relate!

@MarggieRoyston 3 жыл бұрын

This video was super helpful for me, I can completely relate to most everything you shared, thank you.

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@Xrusha_ Жыл бұрын

You are amazing! Absolutely groundbreaking idea.

@ThisNakedMind Жыл бұрын

Glad you think so!

@TheBroccoliKnight 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this!

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

@newuser3144 Жыл бұрын

Thank u so much I cannot thank you enough! 😭❤

@ThisNakedMind Жыл бұрын

You're so welcome!!

@Maibes 3 жыл бұрын

Loved your book

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

So glad!

@shawnmitcham9824 11 ай бұрын

This is an amazing video.

@ThisNakedMind 11 ай бұрын

❤

@sagedandy123 3 жыл бұрын

You're a lifeline to me Annie. I can't thank you enough 💖

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome!

@lidamooini2064 3 жыл бұрын

People who send Annie hate mail are óut of their mind! This woman should have a statue! X

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Awe, thank you!

@amandarowe4346 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@ThisNakedMind 2 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome!

@misssafia4013 Жыл бұрын

Lovely video I’d love to hear how your first year was for you even though it’s effortless just wondering🥰 have both your books ❤

@ThisNakedMind Жыл бұрын

Thank you! I actually dive into that in the PATH and Living Naked.

@hippocraticly6167 2 жыл бұрын

I found studying how the GABA and Dopamine from alcohol actually effect your brain was the only thing that helped me, understanding how I can drink 30standards and still be anxious or not having a memory of an alcohol 'high' since partying in year 12

@ThisNakedMind 2 жыл бұрын

Knowledge can be incredibly empowering!

@user-os8sd9sb8y Жыл бұрын

I am so grateful that I found you and your channel , I am day two on my sobriety journey with alcohol I've relapsed several times and I just have had a personal painful experience with AA so I choose not to go so finding this channel is a life saver and a God send I hope I can be a part of this wonderful community.

@ThisNakedMind Жыл бұрын

❤️

@Myweirdvids317 11 ай бұрын

This post is 2 weeks ahead of me but I am also on day 2 sobriety. It’s scary because alcohol has gradually dug itself into me. I can’t tell you when it officially took hold over me. When I look at photos just 4 years ago as a successful personal trainer, RN and Air Force service-member, I wonder when and how I lost myself. Incredible how this drug can completely transform you in the worst and most sneaky way. Good luck on your journey.

@travis3624 2 ай бұрын

Ill be 7 weeks without drinking this Saturday and this is how I was able to get back to how I was before I started drinking heavily

@ThisNakedMind 2 ай бұрын

Congrats on 7 weeks!!

@christinemcdonald3568 Жыл бұрын

Thank You ❤

@ThisNakedMind Жыл бұрын

You're so welcome!

@bepopbepe1829 3 жыл бұрын

Thank u so much

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Most welcome 😊

@toteyboy8191 3 жыл бұрын

Can hear you 🥰

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@markc.2824 3 жыл бұрын

Annie, one of your best.. Thank you.

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Glad you think so!

@blucky1250 3 жыл бұрын

M. C. 💯 %

@irvinurioste4304 3 жыл бұрын

I'm literally crying 😭

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

@TheRealJohnHooper 3 жыл бұрын

So true!

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@veronicac9487 3 жыл бұрын

This so so good!! Thank you!

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

You're so welcome!

@katerinamhpduo7584 10 ай бұрын

God bless you!

@ThisNakedMind 10 ай бұрын

❤

@teresastandish7768 3 жыл бұрын

Annie, your book changed my life! I had tried SO many times to stop drinking by using will power. Of course that didn’t work, I really thought I was seriously broken or I was an alcoholic. I found you through Sober Sis and I’m so glad I did, I have been AF since May 30th, and it really hasn’t been that hard. Thank you for revolutionizing how we can stop drinking. I appreciate you so much!

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad! It's so amazing what happens when we stop letting alcohol control us!

@blucky1250 3 жыл бұрын

Teresa Standish Annie’s methodologies saved me 3 years ago. She’s an incredible and powerful story teller with SOLUTIONS to seemingly complex situations. I’ve changed my life thanks to TNM.

@HUYI1 Жыл бұрын

I found her randomly from KZfaq and she is great for her own personal gain and I'm happy that she was able to quit from relying on others but she will never be able to help us with this never ending cycle of drinking!

@polefitnessstudiobyfawnia Ай бұрын

Love u!!!

@ThisNakedMind Ай бұрын

Awe, thanks so much!!

@sivklynderud 2 жыл бұрын

My anxiety is through the roof today from drinking last night. I’m afraid I might kill myself. I am never ever going to drink again, I can’t. I actually fear for my life today.

@ThisNakedMind Жыл бұрын

Hope you're doing better today!

@YouKilledFritz Жыл бұрын

How are you???

@beverlygable3475 3 ай бұрын

Yes

@ThisNakedMind 3 ай бұрын

❤️

@j-life8502 2 жыл бұрын

Annie. Can I use this ? Well I know I can , however would this approach work for Vaping? I did your program and it changed my relationship with wine.... its been awsome. I now want to stop nicotine, and im strong arming myself. Hmm 😒 🤔 maybe I could apply this to that? Love you work Annie.

@ThisNakedMind 2 жыл бұрын

It can certainly help! We are working on a book on nicotine now!

@Anangelfromabove Жыл бұрын

I am 23 and my dad recommended me to you. I never believed in the AA program, for myself. I understand it works for some people, I get that. But I don’t believe in calling myself an alcoholic, to me it is more like a choice I make I can choose to quit or cut back. I just don’t want to drink vodka every single night to mask my social anxiety. I love this. I will be more compassionate and help myself. I will go to your site right now at 1 in the morning. Thank you so much Annie.

@ThisNakedMind Жыл бұрын

You're in the right place! Have you joined us in the app for more support? thisnakedmindapp.com - It has so many resources, a community, just a great tool to have!

@tiffymclarkey7948 2 жыл бұрын

Feel like your saying my story (2 bottles of wine a night) I have looked at my children in wonder and awe of their wonder and excitement of the world and wish I had that … instead of waking up hung over and dragging myself. I loved your book ! The second time I read it The first time I wasn’t ready … I truly love what I know now about alchohol and will educate my children with this information…

@ThisNakedMind 2 жыл бұрын

Love that! The right timing can make such a difference!

@adriana77 2 жыл бұрын

Yep the same principle of following the law versus Holy Spirit or the lure of the forbidden fruit. It doesn’t work with willpower. I learned this at 44 after 18 - 20 years of drinking every weekend.

@ThisNakedMind 2 жыл бұрын

At least you learned it! Now you have so much time left to enjoy life!

@elishiaheaford7157 3 жыл бұрын

Can hear u

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@frostfox1208 2 жыл бұрын

Day 8 for me

@ThisNakedMind 2 жыл бұрын

Congrats!

@frostfox1208 2 жыл бұрын

I’m up to day 21 and doing great. I started this journey 11 months ago and had a voluntary setback for a few months while I experimented with one or two drinks per day that ended up being four or five. Now I’m back cold turkey doing great. I’m trying to encourage a friend to start the alcohol experiment. Hope I can. Thanks go out to you Annie.

@loretteduke4776 5 ай бұрын

This is me 😢😢

@ThisNakedMind 5 ай бұрын

You're not alone! So many of us have the same experiences!

@kathleenmahon3297 Жыл бұрын

Wow she's young

@ThisNakedMind Жыл бұрын

@iohenderson1880 3 жыл бұрын

♥️♥️

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

@tranzorz6293 3 жыл бұрын

Booze is really insidious isnt it

@ThisNakedMind 3 жыл бұрын

It certainly is!

@terrylewis4230 2 жыл бұрын

Hard to believe that a total stranger can change your life. But she can.

@ThisNakedMind 2 жыл бұрын

So honored!

@PBobcat-ut1rd 11 ай бұрын

I relapsed. Wtf

@ThisNakedMind 11 ай бұрын

Use this as a learning point. You found an area that still needs attention. What was it that led you to drink again? What resources do you still need to develop? This isn't a failure but an opportunity!