Being a Male INFP feels like your constantly playing a stealth mission in society.

I'm an infp woman and honestly I have no idea what the societal norms of what a woman should be that I might be breaking. Something I would like to note is there's a double edge sword to being a woman in this society. I realize how much of an understatement that is , anyway- people have this idea that women are just much more emotional than men, but on the other hand they still give women deep disdain for being honest about their experiences. And even tho this is true, a lot of men tell me they wish they were a woman so they could be "treated better" and be able to express themselves- yet women don't get this opportunity either, really. we still get mocked and told to shut up. And now there's this like idea that being a "baddie" and not caring about others for personal gain is trendy and cool. "a bad bitch" which is honestly just unwise and superficial in my opinion. Creating any idea that a persona is cool that is based off of insensitivity for personal gain is just weird to me and totally backwards. not something to admire at all. I think the underlining truth is people don't want to know that they might be bothering someone else , and they don't want to take responsibility. People would rather everyone shut up about their wounds. Doesn't matter if you are a guy or a girl, people don't want to hear about your problems or care about your feelings. I think this is like majority of people. I also think people love to take advantage of other people and use their blessings as their own, their wealth as their own. if an infp in general isn't super interested in making money and are not willing to give up their autonomy for the next fancy car- other people won't care about them because they have nothing to be used for. in their eyes they don't have anything they want or can't have without being in association with them. So they say that they are boring- because they're not looking to entertain anyone. People love to climb social ladders, and as an introvert I think maybe we don't really seek that out so much. People are just deeply selfish and greedy and prideful and I think being an infp we just pick up on it and don't give people what they want. Don't give them the ego strokes they seek or the attention they fish.

I know an infp male. Very , very strong martial artist, and the kindest, most empathic, and intelligent guy i know.

I'm a INTJ woman and recently met a INFP man (he's decade younger than me, strictly friendship) and I want to say that you guys are adorable, I find the daydreaming and fairy tale traits in them very endearing. He knows how to get me and handle my dark humor lol.

I think it's getting easier to be an infp male in America and some other western countries. Men are becoming more feminine in society and women are becoming more masculine. For me personally growing up as a 35yr black INFP male in a poverty/gang struck environment was ruff. I was highly aware of my sensitivity for which hiding it was a high priority. Males living in urban poverty communities are expected to behave in extremely unhealthy levels of masculinity. Almost like an INFP male civilian hanging around a group of battle tested war vets lol.

I'd like to say that I think as an Infp, there's this sort of wonder about using sarcasm as a form of self defense. So I believe it leads us to seem possibly snobby or aristocratic-like. (I don't like either of those as a sort of label) There's this raw power in utilizing someone's comment against them. For us, we'd rather not be violent as hurting someone is very awful. Since we understand easily enough the tragedies of life, that we'd rather not hurt or harm or hinder someone. Rather than resort to violence, a biting response to something someone said can be just as if not more effective. There's a ruthless sass in us that you don't want to bring out. Granted this isn't highly relevant to the video, I still would enjoy the opportunity to sort of open the curtain a bit for others to see us better. (:

I rarely see Infp male so it's kinda intriguing when I see one. This video was very interesting & also u look striking :)

It’s interesting to hear from an INFP male. I’m sorry you had such a hard time as a kid. As an INFP female, I had only one bully for about a year around the time I was 13, who randomly decided he didn’t like me and made a point of telling me that repeatedly. Then we went to high school, and he inexplicably stopped bullying me. (I’ll always wonder why!) After that, I wasn’t bullied. I was definitely a little weird and had some trouble fitting in, but I made friends. I think everyone perceived me as extremely nice, which was also kind of my defense mechanism because it seemed to prevent people from being mean to me. I had extremely low self-confidence though and still struggle with it at times, even though I don’t care anymore about fitting in (and in fact, I think people who “fit in” are very boring!). Although my kindness has served as a convenient shield at times, it has also caused some people to take advantage of me. I feel like I’ve attracted less than nice people who expect me to put up with them because I’m so “nice,” and for a long time I did tolerate things I should not have. Now I’m in my 40s and much better at standing up for myself. I have quite a bit of anger toward bullies and abusive people, and I will call them out with no hesitation! As far as sarcasm, that doesn’t strike me as a very INFP trait, but I could be wrong. I don’t consider myself sarcastic, and I don’t like it when other people are, unless it’s in self-deprecating humor. I think sarcasm too often crosses the border into cruelty.

I am a 51 year old INFP female and couldn't care less about societal expectations of me. I have no interest in fitting in, and don't have a lot of friends, although I never felt overly disliked. I like my solitude so I can create, read, and daydream. My working life has been difficult as I don't seem to enjoy any job I take on. I would rather be learning something interesting. :) Stay true to yourselves fellow INFP's!

Long content, minimal editing, natural mode just like I like it. I hope you make lots of videos like this I'll be one happy individual (:

As an INFP female, yes. Your description is mostly correct for me. Because I think words carry great weight and I don’t mind jokes and a fun time with people and friends at all. But most of the time, people disregard us for our hard-work and because we don’t feed into other people’s ego or fake things to get along with others or to get something out of someone. I had very similar experience in school as yours. My first day in middle school I was seated with an ESTP girl who was a bully and wanted to rank first. Her hate started to get more as she found out I was a nerd and was her competitor and would laugh at every move I was making with her friends and it actually harmed me and I learnt to become extremely self-conscious. And so people overall just didn’t vibe with me because of that and I came off as very closed off as a defence mechanism. “Don’t say anything”. “Don’t do anything to be laughed at”. But.. now in my twenties I care much less about people like that tbh I just ignore and disregard them. I decided to think that one day they will regret and life will teach them a good lesson.

“At the end of the day, it’s an absolute joy not to fit in.” YES! (I’m an INFP woman in my 60s; this statement rings true for me.)

So far, I am learning a lot more about INFP, in a way that helps me understand why that one jerky guy kept stalking me and teling me I am one, from watching videos about male INFPs. I had quite a bit of the same experiences. Misundertood, disliked to the point that people would tell me and feel okay with themselves, etc.

I totally agree with what you said about being an INFP male being helped by the kudos we get for being more “empathetic” and “creative”. Ive had the same thought myself. However my view is that the harsh reality of the society we live in (even today) is that a man is more-so required to be focused on financial success and boring jobs and all the stuff INFPs hate. For that reason I think it is easier to be an INFP woman long term. I would love to fall in love, not be expected to initiate, and homebuild while my partner works and deals with co workers and all that. However as a man thats far far less likely to happen. The kudos are nice but it’s debatable how far it actually gets us imo. Anyways great video man, I was skeptical coming in but it was very well done.

Being INTJ female I guess it's pretty much "same" experience with exclusion - people aren't expecting a woman to be logical and calculating and future-oriented. I got more "friends" around 23-25yo, especially other females. Suddenly being practical was resonating with them more and my advice and "seeing the future" was a nice thing to have around. But I never quite got into any group of friends for longer, I'm too weird :)

I think you are spot on about being an INFP female except for the sarcasm . I find that I’m way too sensitive to do sarcasm. Sarcasm for me is really rare except for gentle sarcasm- which is also rare. I married an ENTP and I think his sarcasm is too harsh for me. He ends up hurting me every other day without even meaning to.

Wow. Thank you so much for this video! I am an INFP male and have always felt the same. Thank you for being a voice to us and letting us know we are accepted and loved. Appreciate you immensely!

I love how objective you are as you narrate your past. I’m trying to look at it outside me but I’m thinking “ah but my feelings derived from so and so years ago and their perception of me is totally oblivious of my inner world and I have to adapt to reality as if it’s separate and live two lives”. There was a weird feeling of having a choice of how to show up- as if I was treating like like a game and my real life was inside, so choosing my character and sometimes I’d drop the character because I was tired and confuse people which confused me because they weren’t doing that. It’s odd that feeling of tiredness around others- too tired to be authentic and actually access my thoughts and feelings, let alone express them. Which is why meeting someone where it’s easy to do both and grow is so amazing. So some people think I’m probably not very smart or just plain weird and others will think I’m very intelligent and creative. I’d like to be myself with everyone but for some reason I can’t… I disassociate when I think there’s no point I think (INFP female- 30 yrs old)

INFP male here. I definitely feel what you are saying, although for me personally I never felt like people but me on a pedestal even later in life. I always got the impression people say me as boring or weird. But to be fair it is very difficult for me to know anyway how others feel or think about me in general, don't know if this is only my personal experience or an INFP thing. I can also relate to the feeling of being disappointed and done with people by all the bad experiences I had, but I am working on seeing them in a better light and trying to be understanding of them even if I felt hurt by their actions towards me in the past or present. In the end I wish everyone and definitely my fellow male and female INFPs all the best! I know it can be hard being yourself in a society, where people put expectations and assumptions on you, but you are beautiful just the way you are, even if you yourself can't always see that sometimes.

I had an utterly miserable, traumatic time as an INFP male in USA. Violent and brutal, anti-intellectual. I was sensitive, an avid reader, a daydreamer, I liked drawing... everything I did was seen as feminine, and they tortured me for being feminine. I wasn't happy not to fit in, I just find it impossible to be inauthentic. My early efforts to try to act the part of a normal boy to escape the violence failed and I gave them up. It did become better when I got older, and better here in Europe, but many traumas had set in by then that still mark me. I imagine it depends very much on the environment you grew up in. I've certainly known girls who had similarly traumatic experiences being beaten senseless by gangs of their peers and hated, but these have been girls with some degree of autism, unable to pick up on the feminine social cues to condition the behaviours required for acceptance. That was something I, ironically, did very readily. Hence, I went through a stage where all of my friends were girls and I just became integrated into their culture. With the approval of all the girls in high school, the violence from the boys stopped. I also confounded the boys at school by seeming to move effortlessly and indifferently between the geeky unpopular girls they disdained and the hot popular girls they were after, being friends with all of them, and some would ask me for the 'secret'. Of course, the only secret was sexual indifference. It was simply that they had gotten to the gossiping age, and I was full of observations and analyses about people to contribute. So we all had a lot to gossip about, and would talk for hours, often about the behaviours of those same boys. 🤣 For the most part, I don't find that I very much like the people who don't like me, but I do feel part of a minority. My experience is that being an INFP male is much harder than being an INFP female, but females are no kinder to their own outliers.

I felt like I'm alone with this stuff.... Yeah, i was bullied before, but later i tried to fit in, and partly succeded to find a friend group in high school... But it often seemed like they perceived me as "effeminate". I really appreciate that you shared your story, it made me, and maybe others feel more understood. Thanks.

When you say you don’t like scripts or writing down what you are going to say is just incredible because we INFP are so authentic that event writing things down to talk about it feels like something fake because we are basically containing our thoughts and we don’t like that 😂

I'm an adult INFP female who has a teenage younger brother who is also an INFP. I would say that in spite being hella snarky and sassy sometimes (I guess it comes with the sibling territory because he only ever does it with me), my younger brother is just PRECIOUS in a lot of different aspects of his personality. We both enjoy art, we almost share the same principles and he's also unapologetically himself although he tries not to stand out too much. He's the kind who would scold my own parents for being so judgmental of others during car rides and was openly very accepting of other people regardless of how they looked or who they were. If he had something to say about someone, he would keep it to himself if he knew it would be hurtful or talk about it as politely as he could. I am EXTREMELY proud of him seeing how he was so different from other guys his age because he really is more mature than people let on and I constantly remind him to stay the way he is because he's just so authentic and empathetic. But of course it still worries me how he'll be treated once he goes out in the real world and realize that not everyone was going to accept him like his family does.

Insightful. I know only 3 INFP guys because maybe they were the easiest to befriend as an INFJ girl and your experience reminds me of a blend of two of them. The being disliked as a kid and being really liked as an adult. One of them gathers man crushes like non other. Similar to your ESTJ story. And funnily I had met them all in online mmos so roleplay games can be a good source of that. I just started working with an INFP girl and I'm glad you mentioned your observations about how they can be overlooked so want to make an extra effort not to do that.

I think that’s the most… real INFP male video I’ve seen so far! I’m an INFP female… and yeah I’ve so often noticed that NF men in general give some extra affect that NF women don’t often give. I think I’d feel that extra affect if I meet an NT female instead. I guess it’s all about rarity

INFP guy here. Very similar experiences in grade school. Nearly all my close friends, if I had them, were girls growing up. I feel like I don’t throw out the term friend generously. I have a lot of acquaintances, for me to call someone a friend they are more like someone else’s best friend. Not until college did I really have any true guy friends and even then half my friends were women. I have never been in a real fight, but there were a couple times my anger came out after being picked on a lot and it would surprise people and they would then leave me alone. I remember going to my 5 year reunion and I was surprised by how many people liked me and literally told me they only came because I went. I have only gone to one reunion though. Haha. I have always felt like I am just ahead of the curve on most things. It’s not easy growing up as an INFP, but it gets better in college. And really, as an INFP I don’t care what most people think. Everyone cares to a degree I guess, but we probably care the least as to what other people think. Haha

I fly in the face of societal norms as a female.... I have maybe two female friends that I have not talked to in awhile because we do not live near each other and I like to hermit out... I was picked on my entire life so I cannot really tell you which is harder, the experience is relative to the experiencer and the level difficulty is a matter of perspective. All experiences are equally valid and should be treated as such; I hide my emotions because of my experiences. The bottom line is most people don't care and don't want to be bothered with it unless it benefits them in some way, it is a sad state of affairs really....

Dunno who has it harder but having neither Fe nor Se is a recipe for problems up to the early teen years. I didn't get into any fights. That was a bad thing. I didn't understand the point of fighting. Back in the day, it was a contest to gain entry into the (local US) boy hierarchy. Since I didn't partake, I was branded an outcast loser weirdo, and got picked on relentlessly. I still didn't understand that this was supposed to prompt a response. Me = complete fail to understand that I had agency; Them = since he's not doing anything about it, escalate. So... yeah. Hell, pretty much. Later teen years, once fighting and picking on peers wasn't so cool anymore, all that flipped. But the experience did make me much more selective in the people I chose to spend time with: people who default to being kind and more accepting of others' differences.

Thank you for this video 🙏🏽

Old video and I'm still commenting. But the topic resonates with me, so here goes. My experience as an INFP male heavily resembles yours. Often feeling like an outsider, not really knowing why. I would develop one-to-one friendships with individuals, but once they were in a group, they would behave differently. I couldn't handle group dynamic, something that persists till this day. I always thought female INFPs fared better, because their style more closely resembles the classic feminine ideal, whereas INFP males often do not fit the masculine ideal. On the other hand, I have a daughter who is most likely INFP and I can see her struggles. An ENFJ female friend tells me that females are expected to be expressive and naturally talkative. Those who are not are often seen as having something wrong with them. So, different reasons, but same results for INFP males and females.

Peter this video was so good. Love your videos and you have such a cool n fresh perspective

I'm battling between INTP and INFP as I have in interest in technology and humanities both, but I'll tell you I don't have much luck, if ever, in the dating field. Ive kissed a girl in elementary school, took a girl to homecoming in high school, had other flirty experiences, that's it. Technology is hard to pursue for me but it does feel like what I could be good at if I tried, and humanities can get depressing for me, so I'm likely just an INTP who's not in 'hero mode.' Bit either way, it feels like there's just a missing part of my masculinity that is impossible to find.

The being hated thing and not knowing what are you doing wrong, is something I felt strongly in middle school, I was friend with two girls from the 1st to the 4th year of middle school, in the last two years I felt that they were trying to kick me out of the group, I couldn't understand why as I was super nice to them I felt it whenever they would exchange looks and I just pretended I didn't see, in the 3rd year we had a new classmate and I became friends with her super quickly, the last year we had a shop open next to our school and luckily next to our house too , and since I lived close to school I never brought money with me as I could easily go home if I needed something, and I they knew this, they told me after one class that they were going to buy something from that shop, I thought it was an invitation so I went with them, it turned out they were buying friendship bracelets, and that one girl was like (which was the closest to me) "umm why don't you help us choose", I just smiled and chose one I liked, the new girl was looking at me with a sorry look and I just kept smiling but cried my eyes out when I went home, it was hurtful even tho those bracelets were cheap it would've been nice if they told me, when the year ended I asked that new girl (which became the closed afterwards) and she said "they think you're weird, maybe act a little bit different" lol, it wasn't the last time someone told me to act differently, anyways entering highschool I was no longer hiding how "weird" I am and acted the way I truly am, even tho I was more introverted back then, more people liked me

New sub...as an infp female...loved this video, so helpful ❤😅😁

Their “INFP subconscious’” 😂 brilliant!

As an infp female, the females disliked and rejected me too!

My results always changes but in only two different types, INFP and INTP, i think this feeling and thinking category always get me into different kind of thing, this got me into extrovertion sometimes and get away from my comfort sometimes, but on the other hand since I'm thinking of getting better and trying to fit in in other people, mostly at work, my inFp side strikes, which is it drains me instantly and I need to get recharge in frking DAYS, yes I isolate sometimes when I get to overwhelmed even if it is good or bad thing.

Hello vondelpete, This my first time watching a video of yours. I am continuing the trip after Bufo and Ingrid. Interesting video. Honestly I didn't feel fitting throughout school. Maybe not very typical of an INFP ( or maybe not) I enjoyed school because I loved almost every subject I studied but besides from that I had no friends it was mainly acquaintances. From where I come from masculinity is quite rigid and I didn't fit the criteria. I was not into sports and never liked sports and I always seemed to act much more kindly then the other boys which was somehow seen as weak or feminine which is something that made me feel excluded for many years. It's not until a year ago that I somehow found some kind souls in university. Oh so you studied philosophy. Interesting! I like that you don't go by script. So that humidifier and lava lamp is your way of subconsciously convincing people to join your cult 😂 Have a great day or night depending on when you are reading this.

I love the quote from Groucho Marx, ‘any club that would accept me as a member, I wouldn’t want to join’.

“Mesmerised by the clouds” ☁️ is such an INFP thing..I so relate. They even called me “girl with the head in the clouds” so that one day while I was in Uruguay, (and believe me the clouds there are something else!) I tattooed a cloud underneath my neck.

I love your videos well done ✔️

You are making very much sense

I liked your video and your experiences and responses resonate. INFPs are definitely outliers and like it that way.

as an INFP I can relate. I was not physically strong enough to fight back the bullies espacially the rough neigborhood highschool I was in so I got a lot of pain. I have this horrible feeling of not belonging werever I go. I also have a strong desire to be normal. But the more I try to be normal the more I realize I'm weird and it makes me self-conscious

Bingo! You got my sub!

I think this is the first time I've listened to/watched another male INFP just talk and express themselves in this type of long format video. I've always wondered how it would be meeting and conversing with another INFP male. I know this this wasn't a conversation but simply just listening makes me feel that I would enjoy the company of other INFP men. We should be friends if you'd like, my good sir.

I think i would die as an infp male, because i can't deal with violence and aggression like at all. I find sports and beer boring. I think you guys have the short end of the stick, but being female is in general harder so we do have our own problems, like the pressure to be a good little ISFJ who likes household chores, child-rearing and organization. Also the pressure to care about our appearance. I'm invisible, but I'd rather that the bad attention i got growing up. I do the sarcasm thing quite a lot, mostly because it's funny and allows me to relate to others, but I've learnt to tone it down with time as it can drag down the mood quite a bit. I admire you INFP guys, i could not do what you do and go through what you have gone through. But i think life is tough for INFPs of any gender.

Hello brother! I could relate so much to you and to your female INFP friend you had spoken about at the end. At different stages of life, maybe we get to relate to several others as we keep maturing. And maybe we all go through similar experiences at different points of your life. And I can really understand your video making style of keeping no notes and going here and there; and realizing it only during editing! I've been there and done that so many times! But when I make videos on youtube with script it feels so limiting and the perfectionism would kick in even if I made the most unnoticeable of errors and I'd be like, why did I even try to do this script! One of the reasons why I'm now kind of confused every time I try to make a video because it's said youtube requires a certain type of style to get the algorithm to work for us. But every time I try something close to that expectation, the process goes too long and it drains me, as it's like I'm sacrificing my authenticity. So that's why I too wanted to start a separate channel for INFP and personality related stuff, where I can just be myself but I have not been making videos in any of my channels lately. But hopefully will start in a few days. Also, may I know what is the light set up and fragrance diffuser that you are using? (I saw them in the background and find it cool!) And your video is pretty clear and well lit. Neat set up! Please let me know about the camera and lighting you use as well! And how is there no background noise? Looking forward to see more of your videos, brother! Best Regards, Sunder!

I believe I fit into INFP, though my experiences are very different. Though of course we are all on our own paths as individuals I was a bit more ostracized and even now as I am 23 it feels I am only starting to gain respect and confidence in myself. Perhaps we'll see as time moves forward if it changes for me as it seems to have for you, though it took me a long time to get to where I am even now haha, feels like I'm just starting off in a way.

This was quite touching. I really understand being mesmerized by clouds. At the Christian college I attended many people thought that I was on Marijuana - which I had never tried and still haven’t to this day. They also thought that I came across as a very physically experienced female- when in fact I was a virgin. My first kiss was at 21. 🙂It’s really nice listening to your videos.

I'm glad I stumbled on this! I am an Infp but don't like sarcasm at all! (: I agree with you on Infp males having it easier! Haha! (:

My reason becoming a INFP traced back to childhood issues when you have a mom whose emotionally immature, lack the skill of communication like yelling, and also having a codependent father. Finally when I’m 18 I figured out how not to vision the world with hostility, how to curb the temptation of over-generalizing other groups of people, learning not to self-absorb and be willing to listen to other people. Meditation is something perhaps every INFP must try. Therapy should also be the top to go list if financially affordable.

There was a band called Failure. That van Leeuwen guitarist guy went on to join QOTSA.

If you're not an artist or therapist this will be tough. I'm straight and a middle child too as an infp and my best place in society is among goths/emo people since it's expected that the guys will have some feminine qualities and the women desire it. A lot of the girls I like get hit on by women or are actually bisexual

Summed up, this is the INFP conundrum: Society perceives you not fulfilling some arbitrary societal norms (who is defining these "norms", anyway?), and it immediately goes like: REEEEE!!! He has to be like this and that, *how dare he be himself???* Welcome in the world of outcasts...

nailed it

As an infp male I feel exactly the same as described in the video

I am a female INTP, and have a younger sister who is an INFP. From what she tells me about, I have gathered that she is not liked by a lot of the "popular" girls in school. I have had the same problem for ever, however it does not effect me nearly as much as it effects her. Your experiences are quite intriguing and I admire that you have decided to share them. I think that she and I can definitely relate in some ways, however she has been the target of bullying more, and most people tend to simply leave me alone. both of us have always felt out of place and I personally have come to the conclusion that I will not fit in anywhere, and don't really believe that I desire to. I don't know what she will dicide, but I am interested to see where she will go. Thank you.

Personally as a 20 yr old infp male, I can definitely see u fucks with me and who doesn’t. Especially at university . Secondary skl is much easier to know coz u are with the same people max 3/5 times a week in different classes but with the same people throughout the school years. At uni, the biggest enemy is small talk . I only have like 5 max friends at uni.

Female INFP here,and I can relate to everything you've mentioned. I am sorry for what you've been through. I think once those boys in your case or girls in mine, mature and learn how this masculinity or femininity standards don't really matter they start liking us haha because something I love about us INFPs is that we prefer to be authentic and be called weirdos than fake it in order to be liked by others so when those bullies grow they are like, well I guess they were being true to themselves all this time and thats a weird form of being brave. The problem is that ,this won't happen till you are in your 20s leaving your childhood and teenage years in pain hahahah But I guess a good thing about it is that if an INFP finds a friend in this period of time when no one else values your authenticity but them, you know you have a friend for life ❤

Infp males feeling insecure about their masculinity is so real. :( I'm an infp male myself and I'm growing up in a very traditional country, so I have so many issues with communication for example. I'm starting to be extremely selective when it comes to choosing my friends, I know friendship is natural but I prefer people who are comfortable with my own way of being masculine. Also, I'm a guy but I don't like sports, I prefer drawing and talk about cartoons. I'm just someone who hates competition, especially among men, but it's apparently "wrong" to hate competition as a man because it makes us feminine. Idk, I just prefer minding my own business :/

Sucked ass growing up as INFP girl. Life only started getting a lot better in late 20s after doing a lot of self healing and inner work. Also just embracing the fact that I was different and that it was okay. Only after 30s have I felt like I've really stepped into my power. Now most people, both men and women, say outright that I'm intimidating because of my confidence. Have to admit, I enjoy it. Of course there are some peole whining about how I should soften up and be more feminine if I want to attract a guy, whereas I'm like "fuck off. Took me this long to build myself into who I am, I'm not about to dim my light anymore". Absolutely love being an INFP now.

The perspective I bring to this conversation is definitely different, although not necessarily unique. I grew up as an INFP male from childhood into adulthood and now experience life as a 60+ year old INFP female. For me, it's been much easier navigating the world as an INFP female than it ever was as a male, especially since I grew up in the 60s and 70s with 4 brothers and no sisters. Being emotional, empathetic, and sensitive were not traits that were looked upon with kindness as a male. I was bullied by other boys my entire childhood because of these perceived less than masculine traits. From my father, I received the boys' don't cry conditioning. Since I was not very strong and incredibly introverted, I struggled with defending myself from both a physical and emotional perspective, and because of this, I would withdraw to the safety of my inner dream world. This really had a negative effect on developing proper social skills that persists until today. Being an adult, I tended to gravitate towards jobs that were more individual rather than team oriented. After transitioning to female, I've experienced much more acceptance from both men and women. Mentally and emotionally, I don't feel any different now than I did before. I have the same traits but have a lot more confidence with expressing my true self. As a male, I found it necessary to hide the same traits that I'm so happy to have now.

Mixed race INFP male here. Never fit in until I met and married an INFJ female. She is my soulmate.

I'm infp female🌈🙏👽

Since we are INFP's we can sense the hate at a deeper level. And face it, Hate Hurts humans in all cases! there is no person who would say yeah hate is good. I'm happy hating other people. So there are many great people out there but there are those that feel hate too. We INFP's can sense both deeply in other people because of out empathetic nature. I can feel deep hate for the World but it's within myself, as well as in the World out there. I am beginning to Love the hate as well.

This sucks but I doubt anyone would disagree- for a female it’s going to largely depend on how attractive you are. Yeah, yeah with men too, but more for girls especially regarding first impressions. I lucked out and haven’t had to worry too much about how I look but I do have some (slight) vanity issues, maybe. When is was in my early twenties I used to worry about falling apart when I got old. Life would be too difficult if I no longer had that ease and grace in life that comes from society trying to please you all the time without having to ask. (Omg cringe I know but I was young). I know myself better now and don’t worry about it because looks can’t replace substance. Im in a great committed relationship but I really enjoy being physically alone so much and looks have nothing to do with that. Does it seem self-indulgent to say I am my best friend? Idk, Idc, it’s cool.

I'm an INFP male and i think in this specific area, it's 50/50. One one hand, girls are more encouraged to be more expressive while guys have to be more stereotypically masculine. Women are more enourage to break gender norms. 2. Girls wouldn't have it harder but they are already expected to be seen as soft and sensitive. Guys are expected to be more sensitive as we step away from boxing all men into that stoic box Largly depends on where you are at

You make a lot more sense than you realise.

What happens with infp female is the other females 2 things 1st not usually liking the typical girly things and more so liking the typical guy hobbies along with being honest about feelings a lot of guys can talk with them easier about their own hobbies and feelings. Meanwhile being completely obvious to the other girls thoughts the infp just has a normal conversation with a stranger while the other girls get jealous and assume they're with 5+ guys at the same time or trying to steal someone's man. 2nd infp female showing emotions easily and honesty, the other females take it as some type of scheming to get ahead or get flavors with whoever is higher up the society chain. Again infp is completely oblivious to this as they are just being themselves. 3rd probably just a general infp thing others are scared of infp because they find it easy and are happy being themselves while others struggle and find it hard to do. (if they just did though most of them are amazing people and they usually excel in other areas where infp lacks)

I'm a Infp I need guidance on living.

you look like a bouncer!!! make the test one more time lol

As a female INFP my problem was that I'm not naturally feminine enough lol

I have a unique experience as a trans-enby (INFP) individual Aussie. I grew up being perceived as cis female. My parents are ISFJ and ISTJ (both with narc traits), my younger brother; an INTP (thank gods) but he was always the one that got away with everything 🙄 I very much had an experience much like you described. It left me passive aggressive, unheared, dismissed and idealising any kind of escape for independence. When my gender dysphoria got too much to bare I finally sought out hormonal replacement therapy. (My INFP cousin, born male, also going through the same independently of my timeline) I tell you now, Wow. The difference in my mental attitude, emotional regulation and how people treat me and listen to me now is completely different. Living as a more masculine-perceived person definitely has its perks. I can now dare to speak my mind without shutting down out of fear of what the other person could say or might do because I am assertive of my personal rights and boundaries. What would normally trigger me gets deflected (thanks to T) and I can think through problems without spiralling into a deep dark pit of despair, crying sessions and anxiety attacks for hours. I'm laughing and seeing the positive or the figuroutable in most situations and people have also mentioned how healthy and positive I now seem. Even my transphobic parents are giving me space and listening to me, probably because I'm a lot more assertive it makes me seem a lot more "logical" now that I'm less female perceiving (I was always fairly logical, they just didn't care to listen) I'm on the outside looking in at the world of woman hood and can honestly say how toxic it was to be there, from being seggsually harassed by men to being emotionally manipulated by women all on the daily, it's mindboggling how I even lasted this long. In my experience, being a "male" or masculine INFP is far easier (at least at the age of 32) than being female or feminine presenting, as long as people don't pick up on your feminine undertones and use it to manipulate you.

Female infp , IT IS a joy not to fit in , most of the time .😂

I’m an INFP transguy and let me tell you lmao, gender dynamics are crazy. Anyway you are gorgeous and fun to listen to. I think you LOOK like an INFP.

Thank you for this video! It is pretty interesting to me to know how the life of INFP males goes, you guys are the best to make people laugh.😁 As a child/teenager INFP female .. I didn't embrace my Fi Ne self completely, except for daydreaming, creating and breaking the rules! On the other hand I mirrored some ESTJ/ENFJ sides around people. Could that be true? Idk 🤣 Would I have survived as a pure INFP? I think not. 🥲 People disliking me wasn't a problem, and I didn't care even when it happened at times, actually there were specific people where I preferred when they hated me, because it made it easier to fight them, haha.

I don't know if it's because I'm an infp myself, but you're so coool 🥹