Exactly oh my God!

Ugh the audacity of this women!!! 😖

@@AAliyahMya pppp

I had the same exact reaction. It made my skin crawl

exactly ! that was so scummy to say. and then “idk if he would still be with her today” did she think she would steal him away from the late wife? no and she knew it, she is a disgusting vindictive person. the women is gone and she’s that jealous of her. this one made me so mad lol

A shame really

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And now, ironically, he's not over it anymore. He healed and moved on and she just ripped open that old, healed wound singlehandedly. He wasn't thinking of his wife when he looked at her, but now he sure is. She already mentioned half of every conversation they have makes him break down in tears. She has traumatized him and his daughter. Every time he sees her face, he'll be thinking of his dead wife and what he lost and she has no one to blame for that but herself.

Exactly

@@sunburstwolfdog Exactly she’s psychotic he should divorce her. She deserves to be completely alone. If I was the daughter I would never speak with the dad again if he stays with her.

!!! I don't care if she's feeling guilty or if she felt bad, that doesn't mean she can go and throw away sentimental things. It's common courtesy to not throw away things that aren't yours and if they are yours and you share them, ask them too before throwing things away. Incredibly childish of her.

Throw away the whole second wife.

especially the things, like did she throw away, donate clothes, scarfs, jewelry, and similar... that is so gross... just like the prictures, this is super creeepy and gross... she cant come back... and if her stepdaughter has never opened up to her or gotten close, she sure as heck wont get close to her or trust her or even like her now.

She obviously needs professional help

How do I find the post? I wanna @ the woman that wrote the story

Omg I didn’t even think about that.. how heart breaking… :(

This is an excellent point. Ugh, that poor family.

Exactly

I’d divorce this wife and never look back.

LITERALLY LIKE HOLY FUCK. She KILLED her again.

@@NameName-yj7lp damn. Double homicide

What is even sadder is she completely ignored the stepdaughters feelings throughout all this. There is probably no coming back from this. Her pregnancy hormones have nothing to do with her spiteful actions of two years prior.

Yes!! Marriage counseling would be good for them, if he’s interested, but to suggest only it and not have the self recognition she needs both marriage and person counseling? Incredibly selfish. Compounded by how she wishes the daughter would see her as a mother, instead of learning to be there for her. And how she thinks it’s a fixable problem.

This woman is toxic and needs to be an ex-wife.

Same, but even if he CAN find it in his heart to forgive her (which would be saint-like level tolerance) I bet his view of her character is irreparably damaged and he will never love her the same way again.

that’s what i’m saying lol he needs to leave her ass. she’s jealous of his late wife.. a dead women.. how’s she gonna be jealous of photos of his past? there’s no reason to me that makes sense for what she did

Agree. I cannot see myself in this situation and continue with the relationship knowing this ugly side of her that caused me and my daughter so much pain

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tbf though, we dont know the whole situation. I feel bad for her, that she felt so insecure that she went that far. And of course it doesnt justify her actions but I just imagine hoe horrible it must feel if everyone always talks about how great and loved the Ex was. And meanwhile you feel like you cant live up to it and are a downgrade. Of course, her actions where horrible. But I dont think its ok how people in the comments talk about her. I really hope she gets help, the husband and the daughter get help or therapy and that they either work it out or seperate and get better seperatley.

@@Shyress If she couldn't deal with that, she should have either brought it up before marraige and resolved it (at least with her now husband) or not have married him. She CHOSE to marry him, join his family, and raise his daughter. It's not like they suddenly brought it up. The memory of the late wife was clearly something very important to all of them, and she knew about it the whole time. I have zero sympathy for the woman.

@@soonkyupark6963 This is exactly what I was thinking. When if she hit with the realization of what she did a day or two afterwards, she could have gone back on the computer to retrieve the lost photos or even go looking in the dumpster for the pictures that she had thrown away. But not only was aware of what she was doing when doing it, knowing that it would be a mistake, but she waited 2 YEARS after that to tell someone. Not even by her own good will, but because her husband asked her about it. Now not only is his wife dead physically, but she killed all the memories of her. She's dead twice and it's all because of this girl being jealous . To end this off, I really think that she doesn't deserve that marriage or any kindness from that family ever again.

@@Shyress no. She’s a pos. As a widow, if I ever remarried and someone was so insecure and threw away the only memories my daughter would have of her father, There is nothing they could do to repair that. It doesn’t matter how she feels about competing with a dead woman, she should have communicated that. She’s an awful human being.

I agree; it was all scarily methodical and thought out.

My thoughts exactly. If she had seen the photos and went into a jealous rage and shredded them or threw the entire box away then it would be a little more understandable, but she thought this all out. She took the time to go through everything, sorted, made the decision of what to donate and what to throw away. AND go through her husband's computer? It's clear she thought this all through. There was no fit of passion here. Maybe it originally started that way but its obvious when she came out of it she began plotting to get rid of everything from the late wife as she could. IMO she doesn't deserve to be forgiven by the husband and step daughter. Those are precious memories lost forever. Like the stuff, fine. But photos? Those are memories frozen in time so you can look back at. I really feel for the husband and daughter.

Throw away the second wife. What toxic garbage. And she wonders why the daughter never opened up to her. Kids know things. She knew this woman was toxic.

Couldn‘t have said it better. If I was in the position of the husband I would never be able to forgive what pain my own daughter will go through because she barely has any physical memories left now. Someone who goes through with doing such a sick thing has definitely psychopathic tendencies. No understanding of peoples emotions beyond their own.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who heard that. She picked through photos and items and specifically donated or threw them away. She didn't stumble onto photos and got impulsively upset and deleted them. She KNEW they were there. She took time to go onto HIS computer to delete them. She's not sorry, she's sorry she was caught.

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And the fact that she’s upset that she never looked at her as a mother. She has a mother, it is not her. She probably could always sense this weird jealousy of her mom. I’ve had a step mom and step dad and I have always called them by their name, because they were not my mom or dad. I respected them as authoritative figures in the house by they were NOT my mom or dad. My step mom really put on the pressure to call her mom and I had to straight up tell her that she was a parent to me but was not my mom. That is reserved for one person in my opinion.

Exactly!!!!

You nailed it!

Honestly not true. Loving someone will not stop someone from doing bad things to the person. How much you love someone. She probably does love him, but not in the way he deserves. You can say just about anything to "If you loved me you would ...." anything. She loves her ego, and cares more about winning an arbitrary contest against a dead woman than she does about her husband or his daughter. She's a horrible and insecure person who really doesn't deserve her husband.

This 1000%! Like every extra step she took was just another hateful dagger

Seriously how is she so jealous of someone in the ground that it could drive her to do this unhinged shit. She was important to him, if she loved him she would value that

not related to the comment, just wanted to say I love your pp of El negro matapacos c:

I had the same thought about wiping away this poor woman’s memory. She not only caused insurmountable heartache to her husband and stepdaughter, but she went out of her way to literally obliterate any physical memory of this woman. A woman who, by all accounts, adored her family and tragically died young. It wasn’t a ‘screw up’ or a moment of intense jealousy. It was a calculated choice that literally only benefited her. If she truly loved either of them, had even a modicum of empathy for what they had lived through, she never would have done it in the first place.

I think she does feel guilty, but not in a good way. It's all about her. "I feel bad because I did something my husband wouldn't like and I am afraid of the consequences", not "I did a horrible thing to these people and I deeply regret doing that to them".

Right?? She just says “I tried to tell him how guilty I felt. I tried to tell him why I did it.” Op doesn’t feel guilty. She just is upset she got caught. What a despicable thing to have done. She had no reason to be insecure.

I know. I definitely know how jealousy feels but the most I would do is demand that he finds a new place to store those photos. And that would be me becoming unhinged. She’s evil for throwing those away. I would even understand if she threw away her and the husbands pictures together, but not the baby photos. That’s horrible.

Wow. I hope her husband divorced her.

Yeah doing it to her spouse is already horrific but to do it to the child is pure evil. I feel bad for that baby she’s carrying cause they’re probably gonna grow up in a broken home.

My dad died when I was 15 and lived out of state. His girlfriend at the time took all of his shit and threw it out. She deleted his facebook too. So I had nothing left of him. No pictures, no clothes, I couldn't look at the posts he wrote on my facebook wall. She took everything I had of him. And then she got remarried just a few months after he died

So glad you have a good step mother.. there are some shit ones out there!

My step kids’ mom is still alive and I still put pics and items of hers I found in boxes for her kids.

@@sadezem991 I’m so so sorry this happened to you:(

I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope you're okay and healing well

My husband passed away 2 years ago, I haven’t even tried dating anyone new. But this entire story makes me sick to my stomach, I can’t imagine my daughter going through life not having a single thing to remember her dad.

Exactly! She will forever be a part of that family. This lady pisses me off.

yes! the "ex" comment made me so angry!

I feel this. I lost my mom at a young age. I would never forgive them for taking away MY memories because they were jealous of a dead person

I imagine he’s hurting, as well. The whole family is.

Yes please bring dad back more.

I didn’t even think about the extended family’s reaction to this situation. They spoke so highly of her according to OP and they will absolutely hate her once their granddaughter (op’s stepdaughter) tells them what happened. She is completely done. The marriage is over at that point.

She death but they keep talking about her all the time it can be emotionally exhausted when my dad got with my mom my road keep talking about her ex wife who was a bitch to my dad and they did this to make my mom feel less untill i told them to shut up they can talk all they want about her without my mom here

@@saturno2109 this isn't an ex wife tho. This is a late wife - she died his wife, and she died a good mother. They have every right to mourn and love her to the fullest still. They have every right to talk about her, she can't ever be completion. She's dead.

@@saturno2109 why are you justifying a completely separate situation by basing it off your life situations? I'm sorry you and your family had to go through all of that, but that is just immature of her to just throw away or delete most traces of the late wife. Shes dead for Christ's sake and her husband didnt even notice the pictures and stuff were missing until they were needed. She also knows that theres a boundary between her and the stepdaughter so why would she remove such valuable things from the daughter's life? She threw away, donated or deleted photos and precious items, it wasnt a simple "I snapped" moment. She said it herself she so wanted to be with the husband that she was ready to take on whatever there was, and even said that her marriage has been full of love. The late wife must've been a remarkable woman but nowhere are they saying she was treated any less, meaning shes been given the same amount of respect and love, if not more.

@@saturno2109 You're all through the comment section trying to defend what the new wife did.

@@GreenBlue8840 I guess it’s her lmao

I’m so sorry this happened!

I’m so sorry for your loss,, and that your stepmom did this to you

It's so fucking toxic I almost can't wrap my head around it... it's truly unforgivable and a horrible violation to the late wifes memory.

That bothered me too! Neither him nor his wife chose to end their relationship. They didn’t break up - she died. Calling her his ‘ex’ is some kind of way to make herself feel superior, or like the other woman’s memory should matter less.

Agreed 100%

is she or did you assume that?

I’ve met women like her before, I can bet anything, a million bucks even that she did not like her step daughter at all. She probably was jealous of her step daughter too, and she knew that so she stayed away. I’m sorry but there’s no way in hell a 10 year old is going to magically become some hateful being after a new woman shows up to care for them and help raise them in place of their mom is the woman isn’t acting like a b-I-t-c-h

Fr like she's DEAD!! Also I dont even think she was looked down on or compared to the high standards of the late wife, that was all on her. If the family mistreated the wife she woulda def written it down but shes admitted her marriage had been very loving so like ????? Late wife, people talk of her but not at the expense of the current wife's mental state (teasing/comparing), happy marriage and a stable relationship with the kid which could be worked on too. The only thing shes missing is a therapist or someone to help with her massive self doubt

If she was really remorseful, she could have gone back and retrieved the pictures she threw away instead of waiting 2 years to tell her partner.

Sorry for your loss

Sending you love 💖

I’m so sorry for your loss, I wish you nothing but peace🤍

Same! Just lost my mom and I would probably be in jail

Agreed. I lost my mom when I was 8. They’d be dead to me if they did that

Nothing. There's nothing that can fix what she did. And she's not even owning up to that... it's just sad. My heart goes out to that poor daughter, to loose her mother all over again..

she never said she was sorry for what she did anyways, it's just guilt because he found out. she could've put down the photos, but she went through with it. she could've said something the last 2 years, but she didn't!

she should’ve but she didn’t and it was a mistake. i guarantee every single person in the comments of this video will do something they regret

@@adriennepaige4003 That wasn't a mistake. That was deplorable. unforgivable. The fact she called the wife his "ex" is also disgusting

It's great you know your boundaries! It does take a certain type of person to marry a widow(er). I don't even know if I could do it.

@@adriennepaige4003 yeah no it's only a mistake if she said she was sorry, which she never did. She didn't post this to admit her wrong she just wanted someone to side with her

@@nixfb8576 I think she was saying she mistaked that she could be with a widower, of course what she did wasn’t a mistake.

Uhhhhh thats diff, she's not your WIFE she's your MOM! NOT THE SAME WTFUCKERY

@@lazerbubbles3630 no actually its worse, he had memories he can spread, she doesn't and those belongings could have been for specific items

@@lazerbubbles3630 Did you forget about the stepdaughter in the story? OP destroyed everything she had left of her mother so yes it's extremely comparable.

Nobody would have done that if it was mom only a crazy person would do that!

@@lazerbubbles3630 ...there is a mom. This woman did that to someone who lost their mom

Your friend sounds like a beautiful human being

Honey I don't know you from Eve but if I was you and this is coming from a grown Adult if I was you sweetheart I would take all my photos down and everything that means something to me and put them in a box I was going to say hide them but they might find them I would give too somebody that you trust a family member or a friend. I hope this helps sweetheart and I pray your new family members treat you good.

I'm very sorry about your wife. Protect her memory for them at all costs.