At my gender reveal, I'm planning to poison the punch. All guests will have a choice between the pink and blue antidote. The correct choice is the true gender of the baby. There will be casualties.

on top of the danger and stupid gender norms some of the reactions the fathers have when its a girl are... concerning !

"But he can be disappointed that it's a girl, some people just have preferences." Okay and he can keep that shit to himself or talk about it to his wife in private, making a scene, swearing in front of toddlers like a man child who lost at a video game is entirely unnecessary.

This is why if I ever have kids, I’m finding out the sex the old-fashioned way: When it pops out. Before then, people are *way* too weird about my hypothetical kid’s genitals and what gifts they should get based off of said genitals. Like, “oh no! I can’t buy a tutu until I know it’s a girl!” ??? Then get a toy or something useful? “But should it be pink or blue?!?!” I don’t know, green? Orange? Black? God forbid I put a pink onesie on my infant son. That would just ruin him /s. Who cares, as long as it’s healthy? People are weird.

If a dude doesn't want to have a biological girl, then that tells you all you need to know about how he perceives women in general. Like, who the heck cares what the biological sex of a kid is?? Be grateful that you are even having a kid when others cannot do to some circumstance. I tell you...

Why can't we have nice things. The reveals being centered around the men ignoring their significant other makes me wish there was a multi-verse.

Imagine being the kid of parents that get arrested for causing a toxic tsunami or something and figuring out you're transgender later in life like holy fuck my parents caused an environmental disaster for the wrong gender

when i was born, my sister was upset because she wanted a sister and not a brother. then 15 years later i came out as a transgender woman. so in the end she got her sister!

I feel sad for the girls born into families where they are clearly unwanted by their fathers.

I swear gender reveal parties are just competitions to see who can cause the most environmental damage at this point

Funny story... my parents had a HUGE gender reveal for me and spent a lot of $$ on it. I'm non binary

When my oldest sister had her "gender" (sex) reveal party she cut the cake and it came out purple, turned out the baby was intersex!! :D

It's so heartbreaking to see so many men disappointed by the fact that they're having a baby girl instead of a baby boy. They being born should feel like a blessing no matter what their sex is.

If anyone wants to defend the dads who are straight up disappointed and upset that they are going to have a girl, let me tell you that my dad is a father of 4 girls, and 5 female grandbabies, and has not complained even once about our gender. He doesn't shame us for anything we wear and he is an educated man. Be like my dad

my mom was told she wouldn't have any kids. but apparently my dad made it happen and he helped make me, and my two siblings. they wanted two girls and one boy. i came out as transgender to them in April of 2020. on Easter too after i had kept them up all night by talking to them. my dad responded with "hi trans, im dad" and since then i have been son to him. im honestly just glad he accepts me and my siblings how we are

For everyone saying “He shouldn’t be mad. It’s his fault it’s a girl.” It’s nothing to have “fault” for. Fault implies it’s a bad thing. It’s not. He needs to get over the fact that the baby growing inside his wife, his child, has a different set of genitals than the one he was hoping for. He’s basing its entire life and personality on one physical organ. Gross and sad to throw a tantrum.

my sister-in-law wanted to have a gender reveal, she just did it with a confetti air popper thing in her living room, it was cute, and my bitchass brother had the AUDACITY to get upset that his child is female. he's a deadbeat that no one in the family talks to anymore, and my adorable niece is 2 now. if you're gonna be upset about something as trivial as your child's assigned sex, you might as well just never have kids.

Lets be real, the only good gender reveal that exists on this hellscape that is the internet is that one where they pop the empty balloon and while everyone is confused one woman goes "y'all done stressed me the fck out" and snatches her own wig to reveal the blue hair underneath. 10/10, best gender reveal.

the fact that in almost all of the gender reveals where the baby is a girl, the father gets upset about it, is so concerning and childish

In my family, we have a tradition for this stuff. When a pregnancy is announced, we all try to guess the gender. When the parents find out, we all go out for lunch and the people who guessed wrong pay for everything. Simple and cool I think lol.

To every dad disappointed at seeing pink at a gender reveal: it’s literally your fault.

the amount of men openly angry/disappointed about having a daughter is disgusting. if you already know you don't want to have a girl, don't have a child at all? adopt a boy, maybe? I get that gender disappointment is a thing but those men are doing too much

Imagine hating women/girls so much that when you find out you're having a boy you jubilantly run and celebrate with ur crusty lil friends instead of your with your wife/ girlfriend or if you find out you're having a girl you tearfully curse while ur family awkwardly stands and makes a mental note to cut that part out of the video they end up posting to Facebook.

I know I’m commenting this 3 months later, but I just wanna appreciate that my Aunt’s gender reveal party was calm and not a danger to the planet. We literally just sat in the living room and ate bee themed cake pops that either had pink or blue inside (the whole family was there) and my aunt, the one having the baby, would eat the last one to determine the gender. No littering, no earthquakes, no poisonous gas, just eating cake pops.

i am one of 4 daughters and everytime i tell people they ALL react with "oH wOw yOur poOR fATHer, tHE oNLy mAn iN tHE hOusE; gIrls aRe sO emOTIonaL" like fam, out of all of us my dad causes the most drama lmao

Anyone who thinks we've already solved sexism just needs to see these gender reveal parties... the misogyny of it all.

If gender reveals had just stayed as cakes with coloured smarties inside i would have less of a problem with them, but at this stage i'm constantly amazed at the horrifically expensive and destructive ways these parties try to one-up each other

5:50 I can't even tell what gender that's supposed to be because it starts off pink but then it becomes blue? are...are they having a trans kid?

saw a woman on tiktok from months ago that did a reveal party, was having a girl, and the guy straight up left. checked if there were any updates and she's divorcing him. love to see it lmfao

Yeah the misogyny in these gender reveal things are awful and way too normalized

8:47 "Girls can't play sports!" Me who dropped 15 seconds in one of my recent swim meets on a 100 free: are you sure?

Gender reveals in general are getting grossly out of hand. I appreciate when people quietly let others in on their joy instead of making an obnoxious, narcissistic display and an excuse for the couple to have another party and day dedicated to them. Starting to think that having a day long party revolving around themselves is the only reason people get married or procreate any more. After the one gender reveal that burnt a whole town down, I started shunning invitations from friends and family when they had their own gender reveals. Told them all that cueing me in through text would suffice. Also, for the people defending gender disappointment, yes, dad's can do things with their daughters that they could do with their sons. I had an adopted father figure who taught me about changing tires, oil, balance a check book, how to drive, fish, camp, hunt, let me play in the dirt, etc. All things that a dad would normally do with their son. My uncles were all the same way. Where a lot of men saw disappointment, the men who helped raise me saw an opportunity to help me be more prepared to navigate everyday life in this world. They wanted me to be more than capable to handle life.

Another thing is the blogger who made was prone to miscarriages early in her pregnancy. So when she got far along enough to tell the gender she wanted to throw a party to celebrate her making it this far along. The fact it went from a wholesome celebration of her baby's development to some flashy, life-threatening, gender stereotyping, weird ass event is so sad.

I feel so bad for the lady who invented them. Incase you don't know, that blogger had suffered multiple miscarriages I believe and so she just wanted to make a nice event with her family to celebrate finally having a child.

reminds me of when people realise my mum has three daughters they go "so you didnt want a boy ?" LIKE SHE CANT CHOOSEE?!??!??

5:20 i am so mad they're wasting water like that when most theres been a worldwide crisis of fucking water. it's not fair, man

Edit: what the actual hell are these replies 😭😭 The amount of people who are upset about having a daughter is really confusing. Imagine being a girl, going through old family archives, to discover your father straight up CURSED over the reaction of your existence. Personally I don't like the concept of gender reveals as a whole (making a huge deal over genitals sounds kinda useless to me), but getting genuinely upset over what sex your child is sounds a wee bit fucked up, wouldn't you say? Don't have children, if you're not going to accept who your children are. (That applies to almost everything, sex, gender, sexuality, disability, etc). If you chose to take the baby to term and birth them, you "signed up" for whatever and whoever that child will become. Okay rant over

The idea of parents wanting their kid to be born one way more than another or whatever has always seemed so unhealthy to me… like if your not prepared to love your kid equally regardless of how they’re born then you shouldn’t be a parent

as an agender person, when my mom popped the balloon at my gender reveal party a black hole opened up engulfing half the town before local authorities contained it

7:40 Cannon Ball got me lmao

The saddest thing is that the mom who started it originally did it bcs she had multiple issues previously and it had been the first time her baby had developed enough that their genitals could be identified... her child later came out as non binary and she's fully supportive of them too, sucks to see how that has now delved into just straight couple nonsense

Two things about the guy that was let down by a 3rd girl: 1. Just be happy, you jerk. 2. You did this. Sperm decides the gender. Chill out Henry VIII.

It makes me sad, because the general idea of a gender reveal party is pretty innocent. People are just excited about their child and want to share the experience with their loved ones. Even some of the more unique reveals are cute and creative. Of course, like so many other things, it has been taken so far to the extreme that it has been ruined for all. I know that there are plenty of nice, safe and fun gender reveals but I instantly cringe when I hear the word.

My father at my gender reveal party wasn't unhappy about me being a girl, but more of worried in a reasonable way (my opinion). He was worried on how he was going to care for a girl and how good their life would be because well he didn't experience being one. (Mainly because of sexists, those hook up people who probably live in alleyways, periods, etc.) Either way he did a good job, supportive and was always calm and forgiving but of course had his limits. Anyways just love your child no matter the gender, I don't see how the sex organs of your child makes them worse.

We love the casual, cozy misogyny of a dad getting visibly and audibly angry that he's having a girl 💖

The fact people are trying to defend them saying “gender disappointment is real but they’ll still love her forever and unconditionally” don’t understand that gender disappointment, while real, is still very sexist as a concept. You should never feel sad if your kid either has a ween or a veen. Edit: oh shit all these comments

As a step dad to two young girls (their sperm donors fucked off) I couldn't feel more lucky to raise girls. why would someone be upset they have a daughter ffs

4:56 😍YOU😋KNOW🤩WHAT🤰MOMMY😳IM😧A👧GIRL😖I😇HOPE😥THAT☺️MAKES🫵YOU😆HAPPY🥰I🤭ALSO🥺WANNA😘MAKE🫵YOU🥹HAPPY👶

Men who express disappointment on having a daughter: Why did you marry someone else's daughter, might have just married a man if you love them so much:') People like these shouldn't have kids at all. Even if he had a son he would bring up his son with same ideas.

The baseball one is so sad, the person pregnant was such an afterthought in so many of the videos. These people really want the world to burn for a child they probably won't raise well. So the guys don't want daughters, so much to unpack in this episode.

Why do dads care so much about their baby's genitals? Just love your child ffs. Those poor girls are going to grow up thinking they're a mistake.

fun fact- my parents had four kids. i was the only child that they decided to do a gender reveal for. guess who also ended up being the trans kid?

for all of you saying it's normal to feel disappointed by your children's gender and that there are things dads cant do with their daughters as they would with their sons, this is just bullshit. My father may not be the best father on earth, but during my childhood he was amazing. He would play with me everytime, play football, videogames, we would play with his car toys collection. He would cheer me up on any sport i picked up, judo, volleyball, even if it was ballet (which he also loved my presentations). One of the traits he most liked and still likes to this day about me is my competitiveness, he thinks its a strong personality trait and that its fun I hate losing. There is NOTHING you can't do with your daughter you could with your son, besides maybe having that awkward puberty talk. And that's it.

I saw a couple do a gender reveal on animal crossing and had their friend make a custom firework. And the couple sat together on the island watching. No litter, no fire. It probably the only gender reveal I actually respect.

“Cannonball :D” 07:43

If you can’t handle the fact you can’t control every aspect of your child (gender, sexuality orientation, likes, dislikes, etc) you aren’t ready for kids.

My mother used to tell me and my sisters that she hates having girls. Often screamed at my dad that he is a disappointment cause “he could only make girls”. It caused huge fights in our family. This is probably the reason my youngest sister started struggling with her gender identity from a young age and I have to admit i used to have immense internalised misogyny.

all those men who where genuinely disgusted by the gender of THEIR OWN CHILD being a girl is horrifying. reminds me of the fact that so many dads stop loving and treating their daughters like humans beings after puberty…

Damn, they managed to make gender reveal parties for all 4 elements: fire, water, earth, and air. I'm impressed, if a little mortified

At 7:05 I thought chad chad was gonna say “hire a guy on crack” which also fits

As someone who's father and grandfather openly expressed how they wished that his first born would've been a boy, I can say that those girls will have a life long struggle with the suppression and/or expression of their femininity (if that is how they feel within their heart to express themselves). Wasn't until 27 years old that I discovered that I developed a hunch in my back because I moved my shoulders forward to hide my breasts all through youth. Now at 30 and thanks to positive, confident feminine role models and 3 years of dedicated yoga as physical therapy for my shoulders, do I now feel comfortable enough to express that inner femininity that I always felt and craved, but told all my life was an utter disappointment. Thanks dad.

Well, didn't think I'd be spending this evening, crying for baby girls whose fathers don't want them, but here we are. I guess we're doing this.

8:55 BLINK BESTIE BLINK

well you know what they say... gaslight, gatekeep, girlbomb

I like the cake gender reveal idea! Its small, less dangerous, and doesn’t use all the plastic and balloons. The cake can be used to celebrate after

With the clear disdain for the environnement, the dads ignoring the moms or the dads being openly disappointed to have a baby girl, a lot of people indulging in gender reveals are exactly the type of people I though they were.

Imagine being the kid watching the old video of your gender reveal and seeing your parent disappointed and having a tantrum that you weren’t the gender they wanted

It’s even sadder when you see that the moms aren’t disappointed at all when it’s a boy. They’re just as happy as the dad. It doesn’t happen the other way around though.

It's actually so depressing and sickening seeing how men (and even women sometimes) react to having daughters. Like...men really hate AFAB people before we're born :/

as a genderfluid person, every time i wake up feeling a new gender i have to clear my schedule to plan a gender reveal party. i am now in $72,000 of debt and have caused 2 category 4 hurricanes off the gulf coast and 3 wildfires ☺

This is true! The dad always runs off screen! I'm still waiting for my dad to run back on screen.

For my sisters gender reveal I literally just blindfolded them, and dipped their hands in the color paint for the gender, and had them put their handprints on a canvas. The reveal was very sweet and intimate, and now they have it hanging in his nursery. You don’t need Disney pyrotechnics

Gender reveals aren't always bad, some of them are quite sweet but the best one I've heard of is from my coworker, but it wasn't even for a baby. Her son came out as trans when he was about 13, and was really nervous about telling family and friends. So my coworker had the idea of doing a meetup with family and close friends to tell them all at once. They ended up making it a gender reveal announcement for him, having all the (non flammable) classics, the colored cake, the balloons, a pinata, even party poppers. It helped him with his nerves and fueled his confidence lots. And they both love telling the story of it.

Can we like, i don’t know, not normalize treating the birth of a daughter as a disappointment and let down?

the dads being misogynistic at these is even sadder when you see that the moms dont storm off or curse when it's a boy. they're just as happy as they would be if it was a girl.

Wild gender reveal idea: ask the doctor and do absolutely nothing else

Disappointingly, at every gender reveal party they reveal a gender I already know about.

Imagine how much better the world would be if everyone thought like Chad 😭 damn

This is why I love seeing gender reveal cakes at the bakery I work at. Sure the whole assigning gender thing is problematic, but as an enby myself I can appreciate that people just wanna celebrate being parents and having kids and if you do gender reveal a cake it is safe, fun, and has a really low mortality rate :)

I feel like it's so weird to judge people based off of genitals, that's not something you can choose. Plus some people like my mom say there is a difference between boys and girls growing up (other than puberty) but honestly, a lot of that is probably from the gender roled forced on them from birth so they basically have not say. May be a tad bias as I'm a trans man 😅

What's a bit concerning to me is how that one guy who swore over having a daughter probably would have responded if his wife had a son and that kid didn't match up to his expectation of what maleness should be. What if he had a son who liked dolls or dresses, or who ended up being trans. I get hoping for a specific sex, especially since he already had two daughters, but still, it's a pretty strong reaction. What really sucks though is that the video was recorded and posted online so his kids will be able to look back on that.

I have three kids and we didnt find out the gender for any of them. You would be amazed at how much this bothered some people.

Watching these gender reveals makes me so glad that my parents are good people. I’m the oldest of three girls and for a while people would constantly ask my dad if he wished he had boys instead. He always told them no

I love the editing in this. Dangerous gender reveal parties, I don't love. 10:05 - the music here is A Tale of Sea Dragon by Marcus Warner. One of my favorites, was surprised to see it used for something like this.

I honestly can't imagine anything worse than being invited to a gender reveal party. Edit: Some people seem a little butt hurt over the fact that I dislike social situations and children in general which is why this would be a nightmare scenario for me. Not everyone likes these ridiculous and unnecessary parties. Respectfully, I’d suggest you get over it. It’s my personal opinion. My preferences don’t effect your life or enjoyment of these types of events. It’s not everyone’s cup of tea.

Imagine having a cute innocent idea about making a cake a specific colour to reveal your baby's gender and 10 years later it becomes a natural disaster

4:35 that was so fuking funny the women holding the cloth over her mouth with the sad music

Why would you even have a gender reveal party if you can’t handle knowing?

As a person with achromatopsia (aka i can't see colors) and as someone who grew up in a country where gender reveal parties aren't a thing, I got really confused for a few weeks when gender reveal parties became a big thing on social media. Like imagine seeing a bunch of videos of people freaking out over popped baloons and thinking there's some sort of conspiracy going on. Seriously, turn on the black and white filter on your pc and watch some gender reveal videos with the mindset of not knowing what a gender reveal party is and look at how ridiculous it is.

GOD could you imagine being a little girl and seeing your dad start cursing in anger/disappointment at having another girl? The audacity to do that RIGHT IN FRONT of your DAUGHTERS...

6:15 "What are we having?!" Pop. "A miscarriage!"

It’s honestly so childish for the father to get upset about the gender of the baby. They shouldn’t be worry about if it’s going to be a girl or boy, they should be worrying about if it’s a healthy baby.

I genuinely believed that gender reveal parties were parties where lgbtq+ people would come out to their family and friends.

the baby’s sex* is literally determined by the male side of their chromosomes, so if they so “unfortunately” got a baby girl the father should blame themselves (reality is 50/50 tho

Tbh the words “I made a girl bomb” sound just as bad as an entire murder of a family

7:22 "Y'know 1989, Berlin? That was me".

The baseball ones give me such bad vibes of the mother is only considered the incubator for the dad's son. Like maybe I'm just overeading it, but I get uncomfy feelings from it.

I’ve said this a million times and I will not stop saying it, DONT HAVE KIDS IF YOU ARENT PREPARED TO LOVE THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE. If you don’t want a child who is gay, trans, disabled, mentally ill, or a specific gender then YOU ARE NOT READY TO BE A PARENT. When you have kids you are signing up to unconditionally love them for who they are. If you can’t support and love your kid through whatever/whoever they turn out to be, you are a failure as both a parent and a human being. Don’t want a girl? Adopt a boy, but keep in mind that sex is not the same as gender and they could end up coming out as trans. You can’t ensure your child will be a girl or a boy. Don’t want a disabled kid? Don’t have kids at all, because that can happen to anyone at any time. Even you reading this. Don’t want an lgbtq kid? Again, don’t have kids at all or grow tf up because all of these are things out of your control. Part of being a good parent is not only about being supportive, but adapting to changes you did not expect to keep that same energy of support and love.

6:19 perfect sound effect 😂

Completely unrelated to a gender reveal party I would love to just run through a wall