My Dad, both grandfathers, several aunts, uncles and cousins were all alcoholics. I can appreciate the pain and uncertainty from the loved ones perspective. My Dad did quit drinking when he became a grandpa. By the grace of GOD! None of his grandchildren knew him as an alcoholic. He turned into a totally different man! Reliable, dependable and a dedicated family man. I am so proud of him! He's been dead now for 13 years and I miss him everyday.

More power to you Tom, I watched all 4 of your videos. I am on my way to recovery as we speak and thanks for helping others by sharing.

i had my last drink in 1982 and stopped going to AA after 12 years. Rollercoaster. And as well as messing things up at various stages, I am married with stepdaughters and stepgrandchildren who all absolutely love me. Something that probably took me the best part of 20 years to begin to believe, such is my own cynicism. There is no problem or difficulty that alcohol coudn't make worse.

Thanks for sharing your experience, inspirational words. I'm 20 years sober this year 2023. Staying healthy and as consciously in "the now/moment" as I possibly can. I've come to realize, no other time really matters.

10 years, 20 years, 30 years....a meeting every day if you want it is NOT a bad thing. Everyone recovers and survives in their own way. My hats off to you sir and may you continue with your success :)

To be free of the self loathing,remorse and guilt is worth the effort..accepting your past behaviour is difficult when sober....but to be free is a gift. God bless and well wishes to all in this journey

AA saved my life 37 years ago. If I could go to the bar six nights a week there was no excuse to miss meetings.

Very interesting to me. And inspiring. I'm only just accepting that I have a problem. I'm sick of feeling sick. I hope I make it...

This is 15 years old. I’d love to hear an update from Tom. How about 5/5? Thank you, Tom.

i am 52 and two weeks sober. my son moved back home to help me with recovery after leaving for a year because my problem. he has not uttered a word about the past. he said he is here for our families future. he makes me take my valium (small script) and anabuse every day. i feel hopefull for the first time in a long time and physically feel better each day that passes. it is refreshing to hear a story like yours and not some bullshit coming from some 23 year old whiner that is freaking out because they drink 4 goddamn beers a day...omg! know what i am saying? anyhow, your story hit me. balling my eyes out. wish you lived closer. i could use feeding off your AMAZING resolve. may god bless you and keep you strong. guys like you are heroes to me. thanks again pal. tommy l.

I am so proud of you Tom. My ex died of alcoholism … he lost everything, from me, our kids, his job, his younger (than me) wife…pretty much everything.

This is extremely hard to watch as I’m the spouse of a alcoholic. My wife of 20 years has gotten so bad she has left the marital home to go live somewhere with another addict. I just can’t go on any further waiting for her to get sober. I have to move on and live my life. You’re right the only ones that suffer are the family and loved ones when they die. PLEASE get help and seek counseling for your addictions.

I'm not an alcoholic but found your tapes really really inspirational and made me realise that I'm very lucky just to have the problems that I have,compared to you my life is as smooth as silk. Good luck to you Tom, and anyone who is reading this after watching him.

Im at 9mths and you are so right, its hard. I dont go to meetings etc, Ive been able to do it with just my wife and friends so I too am blessed. I do find some days hard but the next day is probably better and in general the trend is better. Every day without booze is a good day now I can see how it affected me and how useless it really was. All the best Sir, you do what you have to do.

I stopped drinking after 15 years hard alcoholic in 2015 - when I was 43. I wouldn't be alive today if I didn't agree to go into the 28 day rehab. I relapsed in 2018 but after 3 months of on again/off again, i decided I'd simply been eroding all the gains I'd made in sobriety. I've been totally abstinent ever since. Not even during covid, nuthin' doing. I see myself like a person who is allergic to seafood or peanut butter - except for me, it's alcohol. I just *cannot do that* - it's like Yul Brynner in that smoking PSA. When he was dying. Just don't smoke. So powerful. I sleep better and it's nice to know I can trust myself - I am not tempted even around people who drink, get drunk, I can smell the alcohol, that is not a problem. I'd worried a lot it would be hard. Once you are committed to sobriety, it's like that "when two minds are in sync" idea. It's been pretty easy. I don't think twice about it. Glad I went thru what I went thru - I don't judge people. When you are sober, you are *free* - I can drive *whenever I want or might need to for say picking up a family member or a friend. I don't have to think twice. 0% risk. I would honestly recommend that addiction treatment to strive for abstinence and to be in total/successful complete recovery is the best. Please, get help if you need it. Safe injection sites are NOT the answer. I used to smoke cigars casually. No more. I breathe so much better when I sleep and I have good stamina for bicycling and the elliptical. As you get older, you realize - you don't really need any of these *vices* - I was drinking because I'm Asperger's - I was drinking to relax/self-medicate my over anxious nerual repeated firing. You CAN do it. People DO quit smoking. DO quit drugs and stay off forever after. You CAN do it. It may not feel easy at the start. You get used to it - you embrace the advantage of sobriety - and you don't look back. You've got your full, whole life back again.

Wise words from a man who has been there. Stay strong mate

Thank you for your story. Humble, honest, concise. Especially the line: the only failure in recovery is to never try again.

I so dearly wish my brother would hear your story. But ... he doesn't have a problem. Bless and God keep you safe Tom. Thank you. ox

It’s not an easy road. That’s the reason for the high failure rate. Sober since 2016. Cain’t stand the smell of alcohol now. Beginners, don’t ever give up!

Good on you Tom. I'm coming up on 14 1/2 years myself and love it. And the program too. It's definitely the easier, softer way.

out of all the crap ive watched and filtered through tonight from youtube influencers.... this is the one that hit the nail on the head. This bloke, this story, this video. I know its been a long time since this was made but I have great respect and appreciation for this video. Thank you from Australia!

Tom: Your story certainly will inspire those that are struggling and I commend you for being brave enough to accept what alcohol has done to your life but more importantly YOUR decision to finally seek help and support to beat ( well let's say overcome) this terrible disease. Keep going Tom and thanks for sharing your heartwrenching story to the world . Cheers from Nanaimo, BC Canada

Thank you Tom for your story and your life. I’m 8 months sober. I want to continue on being that way.

Congratulations on working hard to save your life. I like that you’re able to tell people that sobriety doesn’t mean the end of life’s challenges.

Amazing. Thank you for the courage it took to share your story. I'm sure it will help in so many people.

Your honesty is inspirational Tom. Keep fighting the good fight

Great video series you put together Tom. Could relate to a lot of your story. Just came upon 8 years sobriety this past May 2014, but still like to keep "in check" by watching videos such as yours to keep things real, as complacency is the first step towards relapse. Thanks again for the video.

Amazing man. Can we get an update as to how he's doing now? I have 58 days sober & a sick liver, but I'm glad to be alive...

That was very good and It was very helpful! It seems to help to know that there are people like Tom that goes through hard times, and finally comes to a point to admit it.

Fellow alcoholic here and sober. Thank you for sharing Tom

What an amazing story, Tom. Thank you so much for sharing what you have been through. It is very inspiring and I will keep you in my prayers that you stay strong and continue to remain sober. May God bless you

You are definitely not a failure.Brutally honest and inspiring man.Wow,well done.

Thankyou tom i have been sober over four years and listening to yourself has helped me today.

God bless, Tom! Your words were honest and humble. I wish you another day of sobriety and every day more after that.

Thank you!!!!!!!!! You hit so many components straight. I'm thankful you took the time to share your story. I will pass along. :)

Tom if you read this I hope you're doing well mate and thank you for sharing. I'm about your age and just turned two years sober thanks to my Higher Power and AA. Things do indeed get better with the compulsion to drink removed from me from day one in my case. However my recovery must be the first priority in my life without which I woudn't have one and for that I am humbly grateful. Good luck to all of us and may God's grace protect you who read this, with yours.

Thank you for sharing yourself and your trials and tribulations.. You are an inspiration. God bless you

Tom everyone who saw this is behind you thanks for doing the video helps me to understand where my wife is right now. She can only help herself as you have. I wish you a long and sober life with joy and happiness.

That was so awesome! Massive amounts of respect!

I like Tom, a good guy. I'm glad he's gotten through those bad times.

That's great, Tom Gives me hope. I am five days sober at midnight tonight. I got through the puking and shakes, so, I am always looking for knowledge and having open ear! Stay tough, brother!

My tears of joy are with you. Your words are very moving.

You are an amazing human being! Well done!

thanks so much for sharing. you just hit the nail right on the head. i struggle and have the same life as you had, im trying my best now to change it around, and your story really helped, thanks tom

Amazing how humbling sobriety is.

Thank You, Tom. You are a good man.

Great job, Tom. Very inspiring.

Congratulations for One Day at at Time...I'm proud of you!!!

Over a year for me. Thanks Tom you certainly helped me today.

Thank you brother, helped me today to hear this

Thank you Tom. I plan to use this video in a training this coming week.

Thanks for your story!! Good luck on your journey!

You are gifted. Your message is clear and heartfelt. Thanks.

TOM -- i simply love u ! u have done so well ! and helped me very much .many thanks mike.

God bless Tom. I also know how hard it is.....I still drink every day.

Thank You Tom! Wish you all the Best in Your Recovery!

I have had problems with alcohol going down that road , your vids remind me of what could be. Many thanks for your courage and God bless.

I am beyond blessed to be able to relate to this man. 1-2-12.

Thanks for sharing, Tom.

Tom well done to you You are inspiration And thank you so much for sharing your story Yes it certainly will help other people May God protect you always

A riveting four part interview. Well done👌

Thank you for your honesty

Way to go, man! You have my deepest respect.

God bless this man he's given me the strength to get through today

That was wonderful and very inspiring. A lovely man. Very, very well done. Never give in. x

You can do it tom. You my man are a great guy thank you.

I so proud of you 👏 Brought a tear to my eye

Tom Im 26 years old and on the same path you are right now out of college. I fear I will follow in your footsteps... bit I fear LESS hearing it from you. You have affected me in my life and I will be mindful of your life full account because my family both sides are full of Achys. Your words and physical emotions tell me so much.... and your so far beyond my years but I can respect that and appreciate every word you point out. I had just quit drinking for 1 month- 5th of 100proof vodka a night... and recently after a drs. appointment went back with 151 drinks... i have a check up on the 18th and Im going to tell my DR. I need to see a specialist. I do not want to deal with AA. Id rather one on one... BUT your video has already adulterated my mind. I appreciate your story and your current sobriety- My father quit for 33 years and I don't know what he has done to keep it going -I think bad eating////...which is another story... but to his - his- own. Thank you so much. I appreciate this.

Thank you for making these four videos. They help. My youngest brother was never able to beat it and died homeless behind a bush in city park.. It is difficult for the people who have to keep living.

Tom - great story and I hope you're still alive and sober. I'm 30 years this year and it's been tough, but a great ride. I'm so extremely lucky and blessed. I drank for 20+ years

inspiring honestly hope you keep going one day at a time

I'm glad I watched these videos, because I own my business and will never drink on the job, but it could turn to that later. I'm glad for the videos

Amen Brother! Thank you for sharing your story.

Great honesty.. I listened to all 4 and it reminded me of my dad, and myself. My dad died aged 57 of a heart attack and emphaceama 3 years ago. I was devastated! He drank pretty much all his life, only beer though..but plenty of it. In my mid-late 20s I drank heavy with my then wife.. It was ruining our marriage, so one day I decided, that's it, no more! And I stopped. My wife did not. So we separated..but for other reasons too... Keep going Tom, you'll be amazed who's listening and who you helped. Wayne UK

Good story. We always hear ourselves in each story--the dishonesty, the suffering we cause, the way we blame everything but alcohol, and so forth. I drank about the same time, over 30 years. I have been sober over 9 1/2 yrs now. I haven't been to a meeting for some time, but I know I will soon. AA absolutely gave me the plan for living sober; the group gave me the connection with others that I had lost; and my "Higher Power" fills the hole that alcohol used to contaminate.

WOW! Thank you for opening up your heart...

Very moving share Thank you

Great testimonial, a very inspiring story that lets everyone know that even in the worst of scenarios there is hope for living sober (and happy).

wow !!!! that was honest !!!!!! most people shy away from telling the truth !!! i am having issues now !!! am watching for support stories like this. thankyou !!!!!!

onwards and upwards my friend. Monday June 2016. I start my detox. listening to you. thank you. I hope your good and cracking on with life.. all good my friend

This guy is the real deal!! Blessings upon you my friend!!

Good man Tom. I'm very proud of you and hope you're keeping well to this day. God bless you.

Great story, thanks. Re some of the comments below; for me, AA was essential in gaining and maintaining sobriety. Just "deciding to not drink" flat out doesn't work for most. By the time you reach AA you have tried the "will power" method many times and discovered it doesn't work. The key part of AA for me is open communication with others with the same problems, which leads to a better understanding of your own problems.

Very honest and humbling and all true myself being similar road but still finding hard to forgive myself for my past God bless you

Thanks for sharing Tom. 🙏🏻❤️

I'm an alcoholic and want to change so bad, but its so hard. Great piece in your troubles and tributes

Thank you so much for your insight. It really helped. God bless.

Great video. I like the way he explains things.

thank you for ur sincerity....stay well.......

Great video. Hits home

Thanks for telling your story mate.

God bless you brother...

You are truly an inspiration Stay strong my brother

Well done 👏 You have a great message.... All about Truth, Fact and Reality!! Thank God for A.A. and the 12 Step Programme. Wishing you continued success on your Journey 🙏 ×× Not easy as you say but so worth it.

being sober dont make life easy it just gives u the ability to deal with life

Great testimony man! Very encouraging.

Very Moving It gives me hope for my son Thank you

Thank you so much Tom.

Thankyou for sharing ❤

This guy is a hero in my eyes.