Become Irresistible - Stop Being Manipulated By Women & Get A Loving Relationship

Become Irresistible - Stop Being Manipulated By Women & Get A Loving Relationship | Sadia Khan

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In today’s episode of Impact Theory, Sadia Khan is back to go deep into the complexities of modern relationships and push the boundaries of conventional wisdom about love, sex, and human behavior.
Sadia is a psychologist and relationship expert known for her controversial viewpoints when it comes to modern dating and the roles men and women are taking in it.
And in this episode we’re exploring the nuances of consent, attraction, and the subtle contracts that often exist between partners. We also discuss how societal changes, like the sexual revolution and the advent of dating apps, have reshaped our understanding of intimacy and commitment.
We’re also touching on:
- Why Men Get Cheated on More Than Women
- Societal Issues & the Government’s Manipulation
- Relationship Independence and Self-Esteem
- Traditional Values, Religion, and Capitalism
- AI, Technology, and the Future of Relationships
- Consequences of Sexual Culture and Social Media
Get ready to examine the delicate balance of power between men and women in relationships; the impact of technology on our mental health and personal development; and the possibility of a future where emerging technologies could redefine human relationships and societal norms.
This conversation challenges you to confront difficult truths about the influence of pornography on sexual expectations today and the dangers of excessive independence and impulsivity in modern day relationships.
Sadia offers a fresh perspective on the role of self-control, discipline, and mutual respect in fostering genuine connection and long-term fulfillment, so be sure you don’t miss her insights that will leave you rethinking the very fabric of modern romance and connection.
CHAPTER MARKERS:
[0:00] Inflated sexual expectations & loneliness
[28:25] Changing dating dynamics
[53:51] What teaches men hate, not love
[1:12:32] Freedom & goals
[1:47:01] The impact of “the pill”
[2:20:00] Promoting sexual liberation
[2:51:14] Keys to a long, successful marriage
POWERFUL QUOTES FROM SADIA KHAN:
"Because they've got such inflated expectations of what they want and deserve sexually, they can't match with people who are on the same level as them."
“You can say the nicest things to a man, you can cook for him, you can look after him, but if you are not satisfying him sexually, he'll risk it all to be with somebody who does."
“[The miseducation of sex is] not actually teaching men how to make love, it teaches them how to make hate."
"A promiscuous woman has far more men available to her than a promiscuous man."
"I would love to redefine freedom as the ability to overcome your own impulses for your long term goals."
"What the contraceptive pill did is give [women] the same kind of mindset towards sex as men have. And I'm not saying they've got it right either, but I'm just saying in general, both men and women have become so lax with who they sleep with, and as a result, they have kids with the wrong people."
"How have we got to a society where we're using other women as a tool to increase the novelty in your relationship and then you can just throw away the next day, and yet we're claiming that we are becoming liberal and we have got women's rights."
"But who are you benefiting when we're telling women that you can be as sexually liberal as you want? The only person that benefits from that is creeping sleepy men."
"If we don't give people any restrictions, where would they draw the line?"
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Themes: Mindset, Finance, World Affairs, Health & Productivity, Future & Tech, Simulation Theory & Physics, Dating & Relationships

Пікірлер: 834

@TomBilyeu Ай бұрын

WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

@VirtousStoic Ай бұрын

If you follow her channel you will realize that her content is clickbait. Shes trying to be andrew tate. Its so odd And all she does is make clips from her old interviews instead of make new content

@firsttenor76 Ай бұрын

Tom! Love your content. I'm always just checking in on your videos and think... "I used to work with him" (what an honor that was, even before all your successes). Love how you've taken your success and using your wealth to make the world a better place. Thank you!

@ImmortalAmbitions Ай бұрын

I'm really disappointed with you @TomBilyeu I'm not sure when you took such a weird direction in your content.But it's just not the positive vibe that you gave when I first ran across you. I wish you the best of luck, but I'm out.

@mikerizzyraw Ай бұрын

She over values the value men have in his woman’s desire. Genuine desire is fleeting, like love… and oxytocin will force desire.

@iamace3993 Ай бұрын

hahaha

@tooljack4439 Ай бұрын

"The toxicity comes from the inability to walk away." I believe this is so true... for both men and women. I think Sadia is at the heart of something deep in all relationships.

@MindsThoughts Ай бұрын

Left me speechless when I heard that

@tooljack4439 Ай бұрын

@AugustoAlmeida-ll4pz While I don't disagree with you, I think your abuser stance is one-sided. My comment was intended to be broad. For example, a healthy relationship can become toxic, not from abuse, but from an overdependence. What makes it toxic is the failure to maintain personal boundaries and individual growth. Toxicity isn't limited to abusive behavior; it can also stem from unhealthy dynamics that stifle both parties.

@StrifeA217 4 күн бұрын

@@tooljack4439 it's not just abuse. Things likely became very toxic before it got to the point of abuse, and the inability to walk away at the point of toxicity creates a more toxic envirment that leads to abuse.

@patriceesela5000 Ай бұрын

The power of leaving the table when respect is not served, is real

@user-zg3vm1fd9h Ай бұрын

To all of the young men out there. First and foremost, build yourself morally. That way you can develop self-control. Build yourself physically, because women just as much as men are visual. Stabilize yourself financially. If you do these things you want have to look for a woman, the women will find you. And because of being a moral man you will be in a better position to choose the right one. I'm wishing you success.

@JasonActualization Ай бұрын

I appreciate this advice, thank you my friend. -Jason

@user-zg3vm1fd9h Ай бұрын

You're welcome young man. I wish someone would have told me this as a young man. I could have better directed my time and efforts.

@ilikepancakes2368 Ай бұрын

You still have to chase otherwise no woman will be looking for you.

@Mikkall Ай бұрын

@@ilikepancakes2368 Simping is unbecoming these days, Jack.

@kittydaddy2023 Ай бұрын

This is good advice, but unfortunately being a better man doesn't change what's in the dating pool.

@sadiapsychology Ай бұрын

Thank you for having me Tom. Loved this

@vd.s6158 Ай бұрын

Why are you afraid to debate Rollo and Michael Sartain if you're convinced in what you say?

@princedicky6706 Ай бұрын

I just love u

@julieterrell1973 Ай бұрын

You did so good. You ruffled feathers and spoke actual truths.

@aobakweCup326D Ай бұрын

@@julieterrell1973Yoh 😮😮

@leeanne1457 Ай бұрын

Enjoy listening to you 😊 People hurt because you're speaking truth.

@Arkhayn Ай бұрын

I can't speak for all men, but I've never been attracted to promiscuous women, and I don't think I'm the only one. It's a turn-off, even for a casual encounter, so a long-term relationship is definitely out of the question.

@leeanne1457 Ай бұрын

That's great but that doesn't negate the fact that culturally men have moved towards preferrimg promiscuous women.

@yme3267 Ай бұрын

@@leeanne1457men like women who are promiscuous for THEM..... That's not a new or hard concept

@Shannon_Stamm Ай бұрын

@@leeanne1457 yes, they forget that, otherwise OF wouldn't exist.

@jacobclayton2954 Ай бұрын

@@leeanne1457Culturally to whom? Which culture? American culture? Western countries collective cultures? I agree that there is truth to what you're saying but I don't think it is the entire world because not everyones behavior in the world reflects that. I think that was an error in the video. There were generalizations about "men" and "women" as if everyone behaves a certain way when there should have been a mention of which people they are discussing specifically.

@jasonu3741 Ай бұрын

@@leeanne1457 The Majority of men WOULD be in a long term relationship with a woman IF a woman did not end the relationship. This is a statistical fact.

@graemeeeles1092 Ай бұрын

Having boundaries changed my relationship game.

@gregcharles92 Ай бұрын

I haven’t watched Tom or this channel in a while. It’s incredible how he’s only gotten better at interviewing, breaking down complex and nuanced subjects, and all with incredible reasoning. Forget why I loved this channel in the first place.

@NatrajChaturvedi Ай бұрын

Yeah I never thought about it like this. After listening to her, I gotta agree that us men share a lot of the blame for the falling standards in women we complain about. It's the behaviour we men reward in women. Right from a younger age, most of us get attracted to the more shallow, hotter and promiscuous type of girls instead of girls who are more traditional and maybe have more substance.

@user-kn1xs8xz2r Ай бұрын

True

@helloiamthechosenone 16 күн бұрын

I am pretty and take care of myself and I have substance as well.

@NatrajChaturvedi 14 күн бұрын

@@helloiamthechosenone Sad for me we didn't meet sooner :(

@grunge4ever08 Ай бұрын

Ehhh…I can understand some of her viewpoints however I can tell she is very biased towards her own side and even admitted to sounding very different than her first time on IT. She kinda comes off as not sure or confused about her thoughts and experiences which I can understand to an extent as this subject is complex. Mostly sounds like she talking in circles but is trying to blame men for a lot of problems when it’s more of cultural and societal issues which Tom thankfully teases against what she is saying. And her belief of hypergamy as she stated early in the interview I think is kinda backwards….smh. All in all, this was a great interview.

@coffeeandflowerz Ай бұрын

you literally just gave several reasons why she wasnt (a great interview)

@grunge4ever08 Ай бұрын

@@coffeeandflowerz …exactly the point…while she wasn’t a great interview, the interview itself and Tom’s questions and perspectives is what made it a great interview as it parsed out all the BS and showcased the bias while pointing out the actual underlying issues influencing those biases.

@jacobclayton2954 Ай бұрын

@@grunge4ever08I felt a lot of that is that she is jaded by her clients. I saw that at times she was uncomfortable as though there was something else going on with her. (Perhaps anxious or another internal concern bothering her) I can tell her clients have changed her perspective. Yet, her clients are 1% of all men on earth so that in of itself is flawed, because the 1% are not reflections of all mens behaviors. I hope she takes a few regular men for the sake of seeing balance and remembering there is more of a Spectrum of the behaviors men are dealing with as they relate with women and it isn't just wealthy men who seem to have behaviors that are off putting.

@grunge4ever08 Ай бұрын

@@jacobclayton2954 Point well taken with her being jaded especially the male clients she had gotten were of the upper echelon of all men who are likely able to afford her premium fees as opposed to average men. Often times people with a lot more resources at their disposal have an inflated ego and skewed outlook on life and the opposite sex. Like 1st world problems…it’s seems from their worldview perspective it would be considered “the top 1% problems”….i agree that she should take a few regular men to broaden her perspective and recognize there is a spectrum. In doing this she would be able to be more effective in her efforts to make a positive impact.

@jasonu3741 Ай бұрын

@@jacobclayton2954 Her Clients are the wealthy men of Dubai who can afford for $2000 a hr session with her. As Dubai has no social programs for mental health/well being outside of religion the only men going to her in a financially extreme country like that are men with excess wealth and time to spend. She is not having sessions with the guys who live in cages that built that city thats for damn sure. Even when she said $50 hr clients are different than $1200 an hour clients while yes she is right but BOTH of those clients are going to be in the 100k+ club living in dubai and using a psychiatrist at all. you know when the guy who makes 48k a year see's a pyschiatrist? when the hospital offers one for free and bills his Healthcare provider.

@LIQUIDSNAKEz28 28 күн бұрын

This is like taking advice on how to hunt from a deer. 😆

@Blue-en7yu 7 күн бұрын

👌🏻

@ThomasFaller Ай бұрын

The entire passage where she speaks about the need of a private life being congruent to a public like really hits the nail. That’s a mantra for happiness, right here. Thank you for that 🙏

@EmmainthePNW Ай бұрын

I really miss the old Impact Theory that was positive, and business and life goals oriented. Now it feels like the focus is on fear of the future and more negative topics. I guess maybe that gets more attention. I will always be grateful for the old videos that were dedicated to accomplishment and hope.

@korban007 Ай бұрын

Think so much has changed over the past 5 years we can’t help but get into other conversations which can seem negative. Also so much has changed over the past 100years we don’t understand how our species is on a decline: what’s favorable is that we can push to change these systems, ways, and ultimately starts within to ripple without. That whatever you want mirrors and those may mirror what makes you great and in turn echo into the world.

@davidpinto7639 Ай бұрын

Why do you see it as negative?

@scarletta.w8721 Ай бұрын

People are triggered that’s how you know she is telling some truth

@bartgallant6897 Ай бұрын

LOL

@sheilalunas Ай бұрын

She has many haters 😂 I made a comment on one of her videos and got crushed by low confidence guys

@Flo-ck8fx Ай бұрын

She straight up insults people on her socials and most things she claims is not backed with science it's just bias. Of course people are triggered.

@floorcoatin4u Ай бұрын

“Science” can be very subjective and bias as well. How many things were “proven” by science only later to be disproven by “science”. Science for a lot of things is a asking 1k a serious of questions and all of a sudden its congruent across its entirety. Look the plandemic and science proving “misinformation” only later that it wasnt misinformation…. Get a couple “experts” in a field agreeing on a subject and thats the truth all of a sudden…. “Insults” are often seen that way because they true and people cant admit it….. Like calling someone overweight that is……. Is an insult???? Thats truth homie

@Mikkall Ай бұрын

People say "triggered" because they foolishly think it makes them look intelligent.

@juliciahernandez3566 Ай бұрын

Cheaters cheat because they lack integrity and are lead by their Feelings not their conviction to be a honorable honest person. SELFISH

@markcavandish1295 Ай бұрын

Wrong, cheaters cheat because they want to stay in their relationships despite being treated like a step child.

@jeffreycharles5144 Ай бұрын

Cheaters cheat because of the pleasure principle which is the natural desire for more pleasure and less pain. The addiction to dopamine serotonin or oxytocin. When a relationship is boring and lacking, people will cheat. We do whatever is pleasurable to do. We are faithful if it feels good to be and unfaithful if it feels good to be. We are constantly bouncing from one end to the other because discipline is not a natural thing but the desire for pleasure is all natural

@anthony212459 Ай бұрын

We cheat because we're animals. The constraints of a relationship is a false abstract connection. We're pretending to be something we're not. Sure you can chose not to cheat but that's individual choice. By nature we're still animals.

@jacobclayton2954 Ай бұрын

@@jeffreycharles5144 I think what your saying is partially correct but not universal. It's more nuanced and balanced in that there are situations where it is purely out of pleasure and other situations where it is out of unmet need. It really depends on each person's particular dynamics.

@jacobclayton2954 Ай бұрын

@@anthony212459Agree completely. Also there are no real conversations about each person's desires initially so that if you're a person who would say, choose not to be with other partners or lovers, you align more with someone who would be a better fit. Also we aren't naturally monogamous despite monogamy being sold as the norm

@tjbroussard3524 Ай бұрын

Confidence comes from competence and the byproduct is self esteem. Nothing artificial implemented will match because it misses authenticity.

@aldaley3537 Ай бұрын

I spent 3 hours plus listening to this conversation because it was very interesting and informative.

@aaroncabrera9955 18 күн бұрын

The debate was great too!

@PeaceIsYeshua Ай бұрын

*Choose someone who **_truly_** loves and fears God, and someone who shows genuine care and **_respect_** towards you. If they don’t respect or value you, RUN!!*

@user-kn1xs8xz2r Ай бұрын

Proverbs 31:10-29

@AnitaN-pu8yn 20 күн бұрын

People are evil and they will disguise behind religious beliefs or will pretend like they are religious when in reality they will get away with more

@mickcrovo5238 Ай бұрын

I have watched her a couple of times now and I have to say that nothing she says makes any sense to me. What I see is not men with unrealistic expectations so much as I see decent, kind, attractive men getting rejected by entitled women. To me, that's as much the reality as gravity.

@1brightgirl Ай бұрын

Love her. She may not say what many want to hear, but she's pretty accurate for the kind of relationship most of us are going for but often make excuses and lower standards when we can't find it.

@spectershore4482 Ай бұрын

She shows so many red flags in her behavior 🚩🚩🚩🚩 but doesn't try to hide them (and she actually told about that). She still delivers many truths and doesn't try to trick men or women on their relation

@Sufian12341 Ай бұрын

its absolutely terrifying to know that marriage and kids will lead to a significantly decreased sex life. I would love to have kids some day ... but this makes me think twice.

@DH03USMC Ай бұрын

Narcissism exists. Yes people have overly used the term to create a victim mindset but when you experience narcissism it is like nothing else. Can’t believe she’s a therapist. Insane.

@CaitlinWoodstock Ай бұрын

She isn't. She has no clinical training.

@juniperstardust5549 Ай бұрын

Why are people dating Narcissists? I believe she's right in asking that question, and it's a very important question. Maybe she's right and people love narcissists because it gives them the perfect scenario to feel like perpetual victims and get attention and pity from others, which sounds like what a narcissist would do. I guess people are not really ready to have the conversation because they lack accountability and second, they love feeling like victims, and anything that will expose a narcissist would actually generate the kind of response that we see in these comments. So she's right.

@brianmeen2158 Ай бұрын

Sadia is spot on with her comment about narcissism .. go read around on social media 99% of people(mostly women) that have just broken up with a guy will tell he is a narcissist .. the term narcissist gets thrown around way too easily these days and it’s losing all meaning. Oh btw I find it hilarious and right when she said the people that are making the claim that their ex is a narcissist - they are the ones that are narcissistic lol

@jarenb2331 Ай бұрын

I think she's very aware but her blaming men and porn as the primary driver for unrealistic expectations is BACKWARDS. Women have FAR more options then men due to online dating, social media, etc. So the moment they get bored or frustrated, they move on. It's sad she can't see this is the primary driver. In this day and age, to use her example, ugly or fat women all think they can get a top tier man. No guy I know that's average thinks he can get a top tier girl "because of porn".

@genocidelves Ай бұрын

Islam is right about women. Its men's fault for being weak and allowing a matriarchical society flourish in the west to begin with.

@yobi9563 Ай бұрын

Its not exactly backwards. I hear you on the last bit but the first bit she explained that there are far more men glorifying sex then woman. There could be 100,000 pornstars but theres hundreds of millions of men who watch them. The ratio is the problem, women are just capitalizing

@markcavandish1295 Ай бұрын

Absolutely Correct Jarenb… Women hold ALL of the cards in most relationships and manipulate men because they can.

@bonnie1097 Ай бұрын

Choose quality. That takes time that most people aren't willing to invest in.

@JamieR Ай бұрын

I think it's often a lack of self discovery towards personal values, how to make sure there is compatibility, good communication skills and willingness to compromise (without dropping ones values). And considering 50% of us walk around with attachment issues, unresolved trauma and more. It's no wonder it doesn't work out. Lack of self love. Can't truly love anyone else fully without loving ourselves first. Oh, and our society breeds narcissistic traits like fruit flies. @@bonnie1097

@chrischivz1940 Ай бұрын

I enjoy this. Thanks for the perspectives.

@Meta4Monky Ай бұрын

Great convo. Thank you Sadia for being open to exploring ideas

@alecs536 Ай бұрын

She mix bs with truth so elegantly

@IndoPakCanvas Ай бұрын

No counter points. Just huffing and puffing away in a dark room in your home in a forested, inbred area of Arkansas. Lol

@us5freaak Ай бұрын

Cause she’s only telling the truth when she’s taking the man’s side, right? Notice how she’s holding both genders accountable. And you can’t stand that.

@jasonu3741 Ай бұрын

@@us5freaak nah she just attributes the behaviours and actions of the top 5% of men to ALL men

@alyzak.8997 Ай бұрын

stop watching her if you're gonna be so useless in your criticism

@user-mq2tn4zz1c Ай бұрын

@@jasonu3741 Is that not what we do for women as well?

@charlesbourgoigne2130 Ай бұрын

I learn so much from this, this is excellent content!

@deaglefly4338 Ай бұрын

In my opinion this KZfaq channel brings THE MOST VALUE to the viewers. Tom prioritizes value to us not views and IT SHOWS. Thank you Tom! God bless you!!!!

@PeaceIsYeshua Ай бұрын

This isn’t valuable content. She’s not credentialed (and isn’t truthful about it), and she bullies people on her social media platforms in ways that are downright shocking. Just a quick search will reveal this. Many people are very concerned that large platforms are having her on…

@deaglefly4338 Ай бұрын

@@PeaceIsYeshua you’re offended or threatened by what she says and it’s blinding you from seeing the value. The podcast and episode is filled with value

@PeaceIsYeshua Ай бұрын

@@deaglefly4338 I didn’t listen to what she said for more than a minute. I had a bad feeling about her, and those feelings were confirmed. Please check out what I’m talking about and be careful who you take advice from. 🙏🏻 I’m very concerned that she’s influencing people as a “psychologist.”

@juniperstardust5549 Ай бұрын

It's amazing to me to see, but something I've learned in life is, the most valuable and knowledgeable people that have actual and helpful advice, are usually the ones society will tell you not to listen to, to me, social disapproval is a badge of honor, in most cases, she reminds me of teal swan, wisdom that most people don't want to be shared. Sad but true.

@PeaceIsYeshua Ай бұрын

@@juniperstardust5549 You’re right! But I think it’s mostly alternative shows that feature her? I typically like the guests of alternative shows, but not in this case. She also holds to Muslim ideologies, and I don’t think I need to explain why those are destructive. There’s a clip on (redd) it where she’s praising child marriage…. and she’s deceptive. Plenty of red flags. 🚩

@chaddy-me-boy8299 Ай бұрын

1:30 secs in, I didn’t know if I would listen to this podcast, but when she said guys assume things bc the guy picked her without her earning it, is spot on! 💯 🎯 ✍️

@SimplyTiffany2009 Ай бұрын

LOVED THIS

@georgia_swann Ай бұрын

With the economic situation becoming more difficult it’s going to become even harder to convince women to have kids. No matter what men say most of the burden of having children falls on the women(physical/emotional/financial) while the men only risk a paycheck.

@prajwalnegi Ай бұрын

What men need to be/ have :- self control, leadership, virtuous, god loving, valuing commitment, high self esteem, financially well of, fit, tough mind(able to do right thing is situation favouring the wrong choice), fit, goal Oriented, delayed gratification. Not impulsive or in control of impulses. Have values & principles in place to make the right choices, have a 3rd person perspective, self respect, have the ability to walk away. FOR WOMEN( what a man who is having all the above traits wants from his partner : Ambitious, strong values and principles, only available to her partner, no male friends, god loving, understanding, accountable, less body count((no one wants to deal with a woman with trauma - due to her past) - I believe it's same for men as well, hence I belive men should only have sex with women who they consider to marry only period. Understand :- commitment, how the game works, both of them are a unit ( us against the world not each other). Understanding kids, is empathetic. To be very honest : both need to keep in mind :- what would happen if someone did this to me. Become oneself better for his/her partner that's the gift, grow together. Both need to have urges in control : stop giving these foolish dumb excuses to yourself that this is how men are designed or women are designed: u need to be responsible and make yourself to become better. Both should be brutally honest with each other. Both need to understand envy in this world and learn how to stay unaffected. Both need to firstly keep oneself in check then their partner asap anything slips. It's both. I say it again :- STOP giving excuses, stop being on the leash of your impulses, emotions : it means you are weak and there is no difference between you and an animal. Cultivate your ability to do the right thing. Be a person whom you would want to be with.... Don't say she did what he did, men are like this women are like this don't let anyone's betrayal, indeed, poor decision making, lack of intellect affect you as a person. Stick up to your moral, standards grow into it always stick by it irrespective of what others do, be a righteous partner, person, husband, wife. Date to marry. Date for intimacy, choose wisely, love is the answer. Question your beliefs, make them better. Keep yourself open to other people's opinions and understand what he/she wants to achieve or gain is there any agenda is the reason right, wrong act accordingly. Become the change you want to see in this world.

@jannichi6431 Ай бұрын

Thoughtful, wise advice. TY🙏

@phoenixfire8226 Ай бұрын

god loving? no thanks, i want my partner to be grounded in reality. it's really important.

@jacobclayton2954 Ай бұрын

I felt Sadia at times was flushed and anxious as well as jaded. Sometimes I felt she was spot on. Other times, not so much, but maybe because Tom brought topics which challenged her to grow and learn. I hope she is ok. I really liked what she said in that you want a woman who actually is physically attracted to you. Its critical. You cannot get with someone who isnt digging you. Especially sexually. I think that is why many issues come up in the first place. Tom I thought did a masterful job with seeking to connect with Sadia, rather than be right.

@gus4gus250 8 күн бұрын

I think Tom followed up by asking Sadia what would be the essential ingredients for that initial attraction. It felt like she wasn't really able to answer it in a concrete way, not without compromising on her position that men were largely the problem.

@Kevin_MartinezG Ай бұрын

Awesome podcast Tom! Interesting topics; thank you so much! I really enjoy listening to your podcasts and learning valuable things for life from them! Thank you.

@Dominic-tn9gv Ай бұрын

I love the Chemistry between Tom and Sadia. This is my favorite podcast of Sadia. Tom, you're amazing at podcasting. Thank you both very much.

@lotsosoul Ай бұрын

Dr. Khan can’t hide the contempt she has for the men she treats. It seems living in Dubai has truly jaded her views on men.

@JohnJohnCrusher Ай бұрын

I believe that to be accurate.

@jasonu3741 Ай бұрын

When she said Men are only going for the most beautiful you already knew this is looking at the top 5% of men in the world who some are living in dubai. The Average man finds the AVERAGE woman sexually attractive The Average woman DOES NOT fin the average man to be sexually attractive she attributes to all men what the top 5% of men do even basic statements like "these men spend 10k on a OF model" this CANNOT be the average American man... who is making 48k a year the #1 vice in America is Alcohol (its really fast food but w/e) the average man spends $4800 a year on alcohol which is oddly 10% of his yearly income... again the Idea that the average man sends 10k to a OF model is absurd and impossible. The man who spends that much on "porn" is making 150k+ a year and is nowhere near the "average" for men.

@Ren-1979 19 күн бұрын

@@jasonu3741 💯 I think in the end it will be 20% men and women fighting for the 20% of the opposite sex, everyone else will have sex robots for better or worse.

@aaroncabrera9955 18 күн бұрын

If she’s treating men who want to get better she can’t have contempt for them otherwise her work won’t be as successful. The men will feel the contempt. This is not rewarding nor feels good. She really should have more gratitude for the men she’s treating because these are the people who actually want to change. They seeked her help out. She only has gratitude when she’s talking to men who are already there like Tom. I really hope she works on this.

@satin-samurai Ай бұрын

Love Sadia, she is so fun to watch. She speaks candidly and from experience. Aware of her own limitations and bias. Agree with her more than disagree. 👹

@fillupbanks7885 25 күн бұрын

I am obsessed with this woman. I love how once she learned more. She changed her opinion. And she apologized about it!! WOW!! She is the queen of Prospective!!!

@igajarzebkowska4284 5 күн бұрын

Yes, Sadia is right about all the things she says about women.

@karenc.9298 Ай бұрын

Thank-you for arguing your points so well Sadia

@genocidelves Ай бұрын

Weak men create hard times. I saved you 3 and half hours.

@yobi9563 Ай бұрын

I see why you said what you said now lol

@dandomx9698 Ай бұрын

😂

@InspiredbyDG Ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@travelinventor9422 Ай бұрын

Watch Dan Bacon. I saved you love life. You're welcome.

@paulrutkovskis Ай бұрын

Sure but how do you become a strong man? You don't become a strong man by reciting I'm a strong man 12h a day. There has to be more to it.

@k.k8291 6 күн бұрын

GREAT conversation

@libo6368 Ай бұрын

Excellent interview

@joanna2935 Ай бұрын

I was enjoying every minute! Great podcast.

@baksed3407 Ай бұрын

She seems to be narcissistic herself 😁

@AussieAmigan Ай бұрын

Oh she totally is narcissistic and delusional, and will not let her gender take any accountability for the mess dating is.

@LouDez Ай бұрын

All humans are narcissistic by nature. Some just like to use the virtue signaling form of it

@markcavandish1295 Ай бұрын

Exactly

@boutiquelove5391 Ай бұрын

Why because she is spectacularly beautiful and intelligent and articulate at the same time? Perhaps you are intimidated

@Asrajzz64 Ай бұрын

@@boutiquelove5391 With all that make-up and potential surgery?

@annale-so3fj Ай бұрын

it's crazy how often she interrupts him

@aobakweCup326D Ай бұрын

Because she is getting exposed

@Blue-ke9fu Ай бұрын

Love sadia. Great video!

@wisdombytes1341 18 күн бұрын

Very insightful conversation. Thank you to both.

@larryakimseu 8 күн бұрын

Great topic. Thank you and you’re right, I’ve been watching bits over the last two days.

@deborahbuchanan137 3 күн бұрын

Agreed w/ Sadia. High love overcomes low love. Long term goals overcome immediate gratifications.

@victorhankinson1530 Ай бұрын

I think it’s funny she says she’d rather be in a country that can cut her hands off but where the rules are known and then goes on to describe her nuanced decision around not wearing a head covering despite believing that it’s morally and religiously correct. Still I think most of her take on relationships is fairly correct. Interesting discussion, thanks

@2ndstreetmarvel Ай бұрын

I love this woman! While I do disagree with some of her opinions on politics, and some of her other views, her core values are spot on. I have enjoyed your interviews with Sadia. Also, Tom, I like Lisa, but I could see why some others don’t, she has a strong personality, and she seems over the top at times. I think you’re all awesome!💪🏿

@Icarianbrother Ай бұрын

My advice is listen to your better judgement, especially when it comes to women. But, understand that there is an obstacle in the way. If the needs of the "boys" are unmet, the "boys" will conspire against a man's better judgement. It is difficult for a man to listen to his better judgement over the incessant chatter of his disgruntled "boys". They turn into great lawyers on the side of poor judgement. Paying direct for box quiets the incessant chatter of the disgruntled "boys" and helps provide mental clarity. It is easy to not care about rejection or losing a woman that is no good for you, when you know without a doubt that your needs will be met. Just remember to always wrap it up.

@svandyk3 Ай бұрын

Such an interesting topic. It's appears that men and women are becoming more and more at odds with their goals and what they value. While I agreed with most things both of you said, the one thing I was very disappointed to see get brushed over was when Sadia continued to fervently ask why men are "obsessed with vagina?" It felt personal and shameful. It is however, just biological preprogramming. They can help it no more than women's obsession with romance and "cuddling". I sure hope she comes back. I feel I have more questions than answers. Tom, I feel like you hinted at some of these inconsistencies but pulled some punches. Great work as always.

@jacobclayton2954 Ай бұрын

I noted a few times where he very gently but directly and indirectly shared that she may want to look inside herself for how she is thinking and take a deeper look at what she is saying. I loved how he focused on connecting with her rather than being right.

@maimaivaj91 Ай бұрын

I like her much more this time around. I'm glad she's changed her mind on things after doing more research.

@joanaziz745 Ай бұрын

She’s speaking for god??? Or promoting a narrow perspective of what a group of humans promote by their limited beliefs or limited understanding. Two wives?? Although she has some valid points….She also appears to speak from both sides of her mouth & hypocritical toward living up to her own belief system….???

@firstsecond9569 Ай бұрын

"In the UK there's a sort of racism where people don't judge you for the colour of your skins but for your beliefs" -Sounds like the exact inverse of racism

@TheBrainNuggets Ай бұрын

Wouldn't that be beleifism then?

@Mikkall Ай бұрын

Some people treat the word "Judge" like a forest. It's common sense, get over it.

@enice617 24 күн бұрын

Great effing conversation. Need. More.

@impactvolleyball3688 Ай бұрын

It’s funny how people take sound bites out of these conversations and try to extract a black or white truth. She doesn’t truly believe that narcissists don’t exist. It’s a statement made as a part of an entire conversation and that conversation is made around two individuals bodies of thought. When you strip away the context from any statement you can make anybody sound bad.

@jacquesfarouche7962 4 күн бұрын

Loyalty is only half of what makes a woman a good partner. If a woman is loyal, but unattractive, who even wants her loyalty?

@beardelmar Ай бұрын

I always enjoy and disagree with (frequently) Dr. Khan. First, on the communism versus capitalism debate. Imagine there is one pie, equally divided according to socialist rules. A capitalist bakes two new pies. One of the pies is equally distributed among the holders of the first pie, according to the rules. The capitalist keeps the second pie all to himself. Everybody has twice as much pie as they had before, but the GINI coefficient has gone up - the capitalist has way more pie than the others. Second, Dr. Khan describes a sexual market place (I won't say endorses) that is brutally capitalist. The top 10% of men fcuk 100x as many girls as the "middle class" of men, and the "poor" men of the sexual market place, starve. Should female sexuality be distributed according to Marxist principles?

@paulaballetdancer4432 Ай бұрын

You are SO RIGHT! My son is blind and clueless? Horrifying to watch. He refuses to believe anything I tell him I see. He puts her on a pedestal and it’s outrageously naive!!!!

@jacobclayton2954 Ай бұрын

Can you show him through example? Like do you have examples you can share with him that might help him? Any men in your sphere who can educate him? 🙂

@Mariedumont Ай бұрын

Inflated expectations. Today you see awful men with THE attitude as if they were the hottest, most interesting, masculine and attractive men in the whole area. That makes sense.

@spectershore4482 Ай бұрын

😂😂 Marie tu es dure là...

@Luk-ne2wb Ай бұрын

Hi Tom, I've been following you since 2016 and i trully adore Lisa! She is so inspiring woman and she help me to remind myself that good, inteligent and nice women still exist in this world. She was an example of female quailities I was looking for in a potential wife. Thank you both! BTW: you should reactivate relationship theory

@sheilalunas Ай бұрын

Loved you guys together 👏

@timothy8142 24 күн бұрын

I'll add that the "boring and mundane" of 50 years ago is a lot different than today. The "average" woman 50+ years ago was fit and relatively healthy. That "average" woman today is overweight, unhealthy, and covered with tattoos. And it's as if you have to dial down your expectations even lower than you thought they were. I came across a forum where the tall, wealthy, and average looking men can't even get anything from the bottom of the barrel. And why would they when the bottom of the barrel is getting hundreds of likes or views on dating sites and instagram.

@SebastiaanVaz Ай бұрын

I strongly recommend Sadia to read the book Basic Economics by Tomas Sowell. As good as she is on relationships, she knows very little about the economy.

@keepingup2952 Ай бұрын

Yeah, we all learned about this on Jerry Springer and Maury Povich. Why are women not required to register for The Draft? Equality Now!

@grantotsiem2042 10 күн бұрын

Best relationship conversation ever!

@casinisau Ай бұрын

Muy buena entrevista felicitaciones

@andalus1229 Ай бұрын

She is assuming that both men/women, are judging one another by the same criteria. Not true.

@ImmortalAmbitions Ай бұрын

And i'm sorry , but I think your psychologist is only sharing a certain viewpoint. Because I can tell you right now. I've never gone into a relationship thinking that the man is going to cheat automatically. And I can tell you multiple times that my friend's partners and even my own husband has gone into it, assuming that the female is going to cheat. So I feel like her perspective is only true for about 50% of people.Because I've definitely seen the other 50%.So anytime that any group assumes that the other group is always coming at something from a certain perspective.You're going to miss half of the information and half of the accuracy.

@CaitlinWoodstock Ай бұрын

She isn't a psychologist. She has zero medical training. In the USA this would be considered fraud... you're not allowed to impersonate a doctor. I think she holds residency in Dubai so I'm not sure how this applies in her case.

@onlinenow1 Ай бұрын

@@CaitlinWoodstock She does have a bachelors in psychology and even a masters degree in education and developmental psychology. You got upset about something she said and now you are trying to discredit her.

@user-io9gr4rj4o Ай бұрын

OMG, I love you both Tom and Lisa, you guys are so cute together. And, thank you for having Sadia on again.

@deanagreen7611 12 күн бұрын

At last some common sense!! Thank you!

@TheLightnoise Ай бұрын

Done @ 1 hr 55, when she said there's no such thing as narcissist's, just people who choose to be abused ? i beg your ??????? pardon .. what ? I had no choice, i was adopted by a pair of alcoholic,, narcissist child abusers. I can assure you they exist. & what you both thought that was funny ? un subbing

@PeaceIsYeshua Ай бұрын

Wow! Narcissism is a very real personality disorder, and I’m VERY sorry you grew up that way! I encountered it in a man I luckily never got too serious with (because of the red flags), and wow, what a nightmare I could foresee it would be. I hope you are now surrounded by healthy minded people who love and value you! ❤

@tc59932 Ай бұрын

Unsubscribe from the guests channels, not the hosts channel here lol.

@PeaceIsYeshua Ай бұрын

@@tc59932 It would be nice if channels would better vet their guests though. She seemed suspicious to me, so I visited her channel yesterday, and just seeing how she responds to comments and throws insults like she’s in high school was shocking and is enough evidence to not take her seriously, and she’s not a real psychologist. :/ Maybe she is controlled opposition. I actually unsubbed due to this show also, because it’s not the first time he introduced me to a guest of this caliber, and I don’t want to be exposed to these types of people anymore. :/

@Flo-ck8fx Ай бұрын

She is full of shit. Nothing more to add there.

@BoogieSmurf_ Ай бұрын

she spitting facts Peace over Pleasure for sure

@louisifsc Ай бұрын

I couldn't hang in there until the end, too much subjectivity, shaky arguments and stereotyping. I am starting to think that any serious conversation on this topic needs to take into account that what men and women "want" varies based on many factors, but especially depending on what stage of life they are in. I would like to see studies where the data is stratified by age. Even with this level of analysis, you can't really measure maturity or personal development, so it's still difficult to get a good overall picture. We look for VERY different things in a girlfriend/boyfriend as compared to a wife/husband. People are very capable of doing a 180 when their mindset changes, and they start thinking about settling down. It is extremely difficult to try and generalize with such a dynamic at play. Much more nuance is required if we are ever to get to the bottom of this.

@jacobclayton2954 Ай бұрын

I agree. Nothing is ever black and white.

@tjbroussard3524 Ай бұрын

The primary logic for most women is based in caution (not exactly fear). The primary logic for most men is based in aggression (not exactly anger). The two navigate this among everything else hopefully reaching a center point or middle ground. Both seeking peace a security with each other. Complimentary forces. Her rewarding bad habit analogy is a chicken or the egg argument. I think it was a great follow up to challenge it with the human tendency to capitalize on convenience and needs.

@LDWband Ай бұрын

This woman is beyond judgmental. Seeking joy is all we have. Her rigid rules around relationships is what’s wrong with this world.

@user-gz7ru2kq7n Ай бұрын

Real men don't cheat.

@rimoumamari7346 Ай бұрын

Are you a man speaking?

@defendliberty1289 Ай бұрын

You don't ask fish how to catch fish. You ask an experienced fisherman instead.

@phoenixfire8226 Ай бұрын

You don't ask a fish anything, cause they don't even speak English

@GuywithThoughts 6 күн бұрын

Regarding Capitalism: It's really quite simple; Capitalism, like any other economic or political system, is only as moral as the participants. Sadia described how man's immorality manifests itself inside of Capitalism while Tom described how it manifests itself in Communism. Each system tends to have a "gravitational pull" towards a worse system and therefore requires diligence. Democracy slides into Populism, Capitalism slides into Corporatism (what we have in the USA), and Communism slides into Dictatorship (or some other form of tyrannical force). Capitalism is the "best flawed system" because, given the depravity of man, it's the system that holds together the best with the highest ratio of good::harm. It requires tweaks and adjustments to maintain, but it's relatively stable.

@adelinabun 20 күн бұрын

“No one is more hated than he who speaks the truth” - Plato

@jamesrobertson4098 Ай бұрын

Love your truth Sadia ❤

@thetroothhurtz Ай бұрын

WOW!! This is eye opening holy shizzz

@Project_Freedom1 Ай бұрын

Watching from Kazakhstan

@Domzdream Ай бұрын

At 20:44) - here I think Tom nailed it. That’s actually it for the most part. But this is why we need each other.

@user-kb1zx2fd2f 10 күн бұрын

Tom: 'cant we blame women in general?' Guest: 'well, let's have a mature and productive conversation'. Tom- 'cant we blame someone please?'

@RobC1999 Ай бұрын

Thought provoking relationship ideas, but distorted view of capitalism and scary acceptance of authoritarianism. Side note, I wish we would distinguish more between ownership and earnings. The wealthiest have that insane valuation because they own something that became very valuable. That isn’t cash or income unless or until they sell. And if they sell, they potentially lose controlling interest in what they likely had a hand in making so valuable.

@Lapkrityzas Ай бұрын

She learned a new phrase “in this day and age” and keeps repeating that in every other sentence…

@IndoPakCanvas Ай бұрын

Sadia seems to be much better looking and intelligent than you.... going by your toxicity. Lol

@MH-53E Ай бұрын

I don't know what this woman's qualifications are but she is talking about men and women I know nothing about. I really don't think she knows all that whomever gives her credit for. No thanks for this advice...

@Heyhey2545 Ай бұрын

She really thinks she knows it all 😂 there are folks that will surprise you in the best way possible. Looking for love in the wrong places is the folks she's talking about.

@smartminimalist Ай бұрын

She has a fake degree posted on her website so I’m going to assume she doesn’t have any credentials lol

@CaitlinWoodstock Ай бұрын

You are right in that she has no clinical training. I don't understand why she doesn't just say that... lots of coaches have no clinical training... they don't pose as doctors... which is what a clinical psychologist is... someone with a PhD in Clinical psych, has passed their boards, and is licensed.

@HoneyHoops-ig9ws Ай бұрын

@@smartminimalist LOL its not fake. she worked as a teacher. in the UK you cant be a teacher if you dont have a degree

@SebastiaanVaz Ай бұрын

I agree with Sadia on hypergamy. Women will initially fall for a man who's superior to her in a general sense, meaning she's not able to manipulate him on a psychological level. He's "alpha" from an interrelational perspective. However, we should not forget that, according to evolutionary psychology, both men and women have two dating/mating strategies: short term and long term. And a woman who's in it for the short term has some VERY different desires in a man than one who has a long term strategy. Sadia's point rings most true when the woman has a short term strategy (casual sex, having fun, flirting, etc). Though, when the woman is looking for the father of her children, she will be more hypergamous in the traditional sense where he should not only be smarter than her, but also more successful/higher status.

@JoeyVanVeenYt 11 күн бұрын

Then why are there so many dating dating bad boys who end up single mums. I think we give too much credit to " intuition"

@sorin_ion8151 27 күн бұрын

Men rely on love ,women on mind games and manipulation. No compatibility here.

@ShubhamSharma-mb4og Ай бұрын

I wonder what's wrong with Tom.

@aobakweCup326D Ай бұрын

Why?? 😂😂 If you are referring to the guests lately, I get you

@user-sf1yd4ny2i Ай бұрын

Same

@lionelkouassi1450 17 күн бұрын

This woman is wisdom. Thank you

@ItsEltonSilvi 13 күн бұрын

There's some chemistry here 😇 among many the biggest reminder here is both men and women need to do inner work, men more so and that desire for intimacy is more valuable than desire for sex

@dr.amytanner Ай бұрын

She never backs anything up by research, just all opinions that constantly contradict herself or the research.

@jacobclayton2954 Ай бұрын

I would love to see what she says backed in science. Because then we can see the behaviors from a scientific standpoint and they can hold far more merit than opinions.

@aprilshowers3331 6 күн бұрын

Omg she's so insightful I'm glad that she's teaching the Manosphere to know better

@sidn515 Ай бұрын

Sadia is gorgeous but her arguments have taken a turn for the worse in the last year. One great takeaway is "Don't fall in love with her face, but with the way she treats you" ..words to live by.