Tony, I know you don't have a daughter but hear this, you have many daughters out here that you have inspired, motivated, have created quantum change in countless women that will go from generation to generation. Thank you for being real and dedicated to being a servant. God bless you and your family.
@syrethashirley3 жыл бұрын
Amen sis! I am definately one of the daughters lol. I call him a virtual dad.
@starrababy37883 жыл бұрын
I am too
@mssimone71473 жыл бұрын
Well said 🙂
@SL-xf5re3 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@user-ri6fb4xx2n10 ай бұрын
I am as well 🙏🏾
@Dr.Elaine13 жыл бұрын
“You get to that place...by making up in your mind, that you are not looking for a man, a man is looking for you.” TG
@tiffanyp14163 жыл бұрын
Gems after gems 💎
@Jess-wi3re3 жыл бұрын
Love THIS this comment
@overcomerbtboj3 жыл бұрын
Yes yes amen! Stay in peace and the one who is for you will find you ❤️🌈
@Rachel-rt6yd3 жыл бұрын
"The more you listen the more he falls in love". -TG
@ishanasweetncool3 жыл бұрын
after more than a year of watching you, I finally feel like I am the prize. I no longer speak as much as I used to , feel self assured. Don't feel the need to post any provocative pictures, don't interact with men that don't resonate with my energy and I am able to do this while preserving my natural bubbly girl persona. I am single , and I know my husband is out there and this version of me that is at peace will find him, and he will be the one to reach out to mel
@Bibi_xoxoo3 жыл бұрын
Great job!! May you be blessed with what you desire to be with
@productofaprayingmom3 жыл бұрын
Same here 🙏🏾
@bridgetesiamoo7853 жыл бұрын
May your prayers be answered speedily! 🙏🙏🙏 God bless you!
@tiffanysimms44543 жыл бұрын
I completely agree!
@eileendom58583 жыл бұрын
This is beautiful
@katrinabrown78713 жыл бұрын
"You not looking for no man.....he is looking for you" - TG
@DimpledNatural3 жыл бұрын
Yes!!
@kristijjones10873 жыл бұрын
FACTS
@Jazz.Ministry3 жыл бұрын
“Whoever listens the most has the most influence” 🗣
@jaybae73153 жыл бұрын
Facts!
@tiffanysimms44543 жыл бұрын
I love this comment right here!
@gracemorua25533 жыл бұрын
It’s amazing the power of listening and also helps to see if you really want them in your circle.
@lucindamerrill12593 жыл бұрын
Hi Tony, yes, you used the word edgewise correctly. I think you know deep down inside that unfamiliar words you use are on point because you are super in telligent, you probably look up some words and you listen to God who will never misdirect you.
@katrinabrown78713 жыл бұрын
I cry in my car...only when I'm listening to gospel music and the holy spirit is moving.... not about no man...lol
@traumamom43383 жыл бұрын
Yesss
@ashleyrolle22143 жыл бұрын
Amen sista! Same!
@ericacrayton86153 жыл бұрын
Yes katrina what u said..
@tiffanysimms44543 жыл бұрын
Come on thru Katrina! Men, nooooo but my Papa from whom all blessing flow, absolutely 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@pooh40253 жыл бұрын
Me to...I can't listen to Marvin Sapp he takes me out at the red light 😅
@followsummer3 жыл бұрын
Just be yourself, who cares....the right one won't take their eyes off you...never!!!!!
@TakishaDanet3 жыл бұрын
“ the more you LISTEN the more he falls in love.” 👏🏾😩 wish I would’ve known this sooner Tony
@KrystleLaughter3 жыл бұрын
I think this applies to marriage too. I noticed when I started to love myself and stopped pursuing him. The relationship totally changed for the better.
@karenchandler47173 жыл бұрын
Good to know 👌🏾
@angelamurray28263 жыл бұрын
So true
@lynnjones76953 жыл бұрын
It’s on HIM to attract YOU! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
@overcomerbtboj3 жыл бұрын
Yes amen girl 💯
@NekeishaWise3 жыл бұрын
"Yeen have no apartment to cry at" 😅😂😂😂 "Drivin n Cryin" 😭😭
@SeekingGod4life3 жыл бұрын
Listennnnn 😩😩I hollered when he said that...I can’t stand him 😂😂😂😂 he know he funny
@NekeishaWise3 жыл бұрын
@@SeekingGod4life Giirll. I messed around and played this at work, and hollerrred. Do u hear me 🤣🤣🤣 He is Super Funny 😭
@TakishaDanet3 жыл бұрын
👏🏾😝
@cassandrafreeman58133 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@tonyahill38143 жыл бұрын
Looking for a Man can be like looking for a job. Operate like you have one already so you don’t react out of desperation and devalue what you have to offer. Being your authentic self allows him to clearly realize your value! Negotiate up from there.
@mwashington63 жыл бұрын
💯
@wonderfullyrenee3 жыл бұрын
I know I'm late, but this is a great analogy!
@desereeme50843 жыл бұрын
That's a really good point. I didn't realize WHY we tell them what we want. It is because we don't trust men to step up.
@Dlovely5163 жыл бұрын
We don't. We plan, hint, out right say whats gonna happen. I have STOPPED. I want a Man to be a MAN and I will let him. SHOW me the money!! Its a muscle that we have to strengthen!!
@DeeDee-no7bb3 жыл бұрын
Be you! learn to listen! Never give away your play book!
@kristenhartsfield14933 жыл бұрын
My ex husband hated to be questioned about ANYTHING...for obvious reasons 🤦🏻♀️so it got to the point where I wouldn’t ask any questions at all. So I’m gonna have to retrain my brain to ask questions again. Thanks Tony for the constant content. It’s so helpful. We appreciate you and your wife for being so open.
@prettibrowneyez2u3 жыл бұрын
My ex husband was the same way, it seemed like a mind conditioning
@norelle8705ify3 жыл бұрын
"Interior designer start feeling himself" 🤣🤣
@blacksongbird1003 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 Right! I love boutique hotels bc of that. Lol
@missmarymack34573 жыл бұрын
Lol
@summerdeshai3 жыл бұрын
I swear I stop everything I’m doing when I get notifications from tony !!!😂
@donmariethatsme3 жыл бұрын
Me too!
@mirchld3 жыл бұрын
Same here!! My notifications are always on
@mymakersdaughter60413 жыл бұрын
Same!!!
@katrinabrown78713 жыл бұрын
Not to mention checking my phone when I don't get one 😂😂😂
@bcallhoum72693 жыл бұрын
Thank you for continuing to remind women not to "show all their hands." This has got to be one of the deepest revelations I am coming to terms with in my spirit. It sounds fairly simple and it is one of those things I think it easy to pass off due to pride which is hidden from ourselves. Most of us women like to believe we pretty much know what is appropriate and wise to disclose, BUT WE OFTEN DON'T. There are many times I thought I was disclosing something harmless and now I cringe thinking back at it. It takes foresight to understand what makes a man look at us less than & what might come around to haunt us. Plus self-control, discipline, and awareness. Sadly, by a woman doing most of the talking and disclosing foolishly, a man will have more of his dignity--at least in the relationship--than the woman even if he has no self-respect (sleeps around and cheats) and it also inverts the gender roles negatively. I totally agree that a man should be the one who does most of the talking and sharing of himself vulnerably. It forces him to be more of a man instead of let the woman do all the emotional work and degrade herself. As I reconcile this understanding of disclosure more and more in my spirit, I see why keeping your hands to yourself is so incredibly SERIOUS: if you don't, it makes you an easy prey for fornication, attract abuse, and suffer from long-term emotional scars. Women need to imagine the scenarios played out, like the "for nothing" gift one you brought up. It is true that you could forget what you shared would 'woo' you, a man will do just that, and you fall into temptation. I believe women need to approach being with a man like a military strategist (not in a manipulating way, but with the intention to preserve their dignity, power, their spiritual vessel, their energy, and sometimes their life). To anyone reading this comment, may you rely on God's strength!
@eileendom58583 жыл бұрын
Very well said.
@calmarie91753 жыл бұрын
All of this
@overcomerbtboj3 жыл бұрын
💯👍
@UnapologeticallyKay2514 күн бұрын
Amen 🙏🏽
@TR-lk2ts3 жыл бұрын
“The interior designer start feeling they self.... got marble on the walls.” 😂
@valdraemiddleton8533 жыл бұрын
You are so hilarious but so real🤣🤣 I love it! I don't even watch any other videos. Since I came across your channel, I've been binge watching your videos. Your words are so powerful. It's like you're the big brother that I've never had, that's giving his little sister the game lol. Thank you so much for your videos because they're much needed. You're definitely a gift from God🙏🏾❤
@dolethawelch68733 жыл бұрын
Big Brother giving little sister game. PERiODT!!
@stefanyhanson47137 ай бұрын
❤
@derikamiller49113 жыл бұрын
Tony starts out the gate with the comedy! 😂🤣
@lyfesaquarium3 жыл бұрын
Lord do i need it these days lol
@mymakersdaughter60413 жыл бұрын
Ladies, Tony said he’s shy, but yet, he is funny as all get out. I can’t imagine him if he wasn’t shy. I probably couldn’t handle it🤣😂! Tony, I’m much older than you, but you are like my cousin who is showing the game of grown boys. Thank you brother!! Appreciate you so much!!!!
@he61533 жыл бұрын
I am generally a talkative person because where I grew up, people are very friendly and talkative. Today I have learnt to be authentic but not tell all my business 🙃. Thanks Tony.
@jenniferthompson51463 жыл бұрын
I went on a first date with a guy that just asked question after question so that I started to feel interrogated. But when he talked it was shallow; just dry facts. No opinions or hint of vulnerability on his end. Like why am I going into where I am spiritually when this man is clearly not eager to express his side?? When you start to feel this way, is when you know you are doing too much.
@juanitairvin56493 жыл бұрын
Mr.Gaskins I truly believe that you could be a Christian comedian . A lot of women cry a lot because of what they are going through . You would be the perfect person to keep them laughing instead of crying so much . You have a natural gift for this . We appreciate all of the laughs .
@DimpledNatural3 жыл бұрын
I catch myself saying "block" throughout the day
@Badgirlkoree3 жыл бұрын
😂
@DimpledNatural3 жыл бұрын
@@Badgirlkoree lol he has it ingrained on my head. BLOCK lol
@SheCaresBeauty3 жыл бұрын
And “ghatttt to go” 😂😂😂
@DimpledNatural3 жыл бұрын
@@SheCaresBeauty yes!!! Lol
@user-zx5xw4yw2e3 жыл бұрын
Keep it up! 😆
@CrownedxKay3 жыл бұрын
Right on time, just grabbed my Notebook 📝 Update: Aunthenticity is key...As a woman, we do operate in extremities at times...I think we overthink it trying to impress someone we like, when the best thing you do is to be is yourself❣
@kweeniindilife96233 жыл бұрын
Lol it is something that some of us struggle with...I think sometimes it’s between being shy, trying to protect yourself, being gullible, and trying to please lol. Like you said, it really needs to be natural interaction:)🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
@tlashai99023 жыл бұрын
Tony your right, I'm naturally myself, and so many men try to figure me out and what it is they need to do to get next to me. Some pretend like they're into God, etc and living holy, but I can see through them.
@user-zx5xw4yw2e3 жыл бұрын
Wow, you sound like me hahahahaha. Can see RIGHT ON THRU THEM. Smh
@islandboyz90723 жыл бұрын
True they be mirroring the dudes personality. Take off your mask baby girl and be true to yourself❤
@lisawhite42043 жыл бұрын
Hello Tony! I am 65 years old and you have helped me so much. Married twice and divorced twice in abusive relationships, you have truly helped to open my eyes to the truth about myself as well as grown boys. Hard to believe at my age there are still grown boys. I thank God for you and Him blessing me to find your channel. Thank you for taking the time to impart wisdom for relationships to all who listen. You have a beautiful family. Keep on your path for God’s plan for your life. Blessings!
@lesliehill5553 жыл бұрын
Hello Tony. I just want to say hello and hit the Like button because all of your content is life. Hello everyone🙏
@syrethashirley3 жыл бұрын
Some women are small peices of a lot of these things. Personally I am introverted and shy sometimes. But then when im around family and people I am close to I get goofy/silly/ and pick up my former accent from back home. Hopefully men are able to see that women aren't just one personality/feeling/mood all the time. But I definately have seen women do the most and seem very fake about themselves. But I guess as long as I know im being authentic thats all that matters lol. Thanks for the insight :)
@EtheReal3laine3 жыл бұрын
He is literally reading us and teaching us simultaneously💯🙏🏾💕👑✔️ Truth hurts.. but this is Life changing💕
@evocentricpodcast16433 жыл бұрын
You ain’t gotta lie to kick it 😂... just be yaself. Either they’ll love it or save you the wasted time.
@maryphillips36863 жыл бұрын
💯💯
@marilynking5273 жыл бұрын
Period!!!!
@michellebarnum84653 жыл бұрын
Right
@victoriamomina80223 жыл бұрын
You just doin you & being you !! Let the man be attracted to that !
@shannonjohnson53673 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂”The metaphysics of the metabolical cynicism!”
@nikkirowland3 жыл бұрын
😩😂😂😂
@ssSoblessed3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@gigibrown_wright3 жыл бұрын
😂🤣😂🤣
@productofaprayingmom3 жыл бұрын
😂 in the words of T.I.
@yanicketienne14643 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣
@Pam_ela3 жыл бұрын
Just what a girl needs with all this news on the TV😃 Hey Tony!
@lavondatodd5733 жыл бұрын
Uncle Tony, nothing but facts! That's how I gained my Fiance!
@Ashley088883 жыл бұрын
Lorrddt! I laughed the whole doggone video, particularly because I know exactly what you talking about. I was the super quiet girl, awe man-- I used to be so insecure about that. It had so much to do with experience and self confidence/assurance. Lord, im glad for your growth and helping me evolve into myself. Theres a major difference between being attractive and knowing you're the prize . Now, I know silence is golden AND have the art of conversation, coupled with the expertise of being myself! Lethal! Lol this video is hilarious and truthful. Tony tells no lies!
@falishak67653 жыл бұрын
I do over think and talk a lot. So I've to tone it down and not talk a lot to men. And get out my head. I'm work in progress. So I'll definitely listen more, bc I just did this talk but not let him say too much.
@mariadaskalakis93173 жыл бұрын
The thing is sometimes a person loses themselves for a minute ...we’ve got so much going especially us ladies that a person forgets they can just slow it down and just be for a few, remember who we are rather than falling all over ourselves for no reason other than being a people pleaser....one day a time though, we come back to centre. Confident, classy , centering ourselves around God’s will, working on ourselves daily. The best thing I did was record myself during my workouts...even that helped. I learn about myself playing it back . Great message coach. Timely too.
@grlwnder13173 жыл бұрын
These IWU episodes are on POINT!
@shellyi89223 жыл бұрын
I loved what you said Tony about the man being a hunter and not the woman. Thank you for the REAL TALK :)
@phinesseriley75613 жыл бұрын
Lord these videos are my new hobby!
@desereeme50843 жыл бұрын
That was hilarious 🤣 "all of my current clients are perfectly fine" lololol
@jsmotherearth73 жыл бұрын
Greetings and thank you for being here to help us to do better.
@mariadaskalakis93173 жыл бұрын
28:54 😂😂😂😂😂😩😩😩😩 “why the hotel didn’t think about that with these walls”
@AmberOJohnson3 жыл бұрын
TG is ALWAYS on point!🎯🙌🏼
@JesusisKing12853 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 don't be mad at the interior decorator
@joi57873 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣 “That was my third aunts outfit”🤣🤣🤣 A lesson and a laugh... thanks for all you do Tony!!!
@MrsLC-tp8oj3 жыл бұрын
Mr.Gaskins I’m here ready for class thank u for taking your time
@destinyuplift3 жыл бұрын
You just in traffic driving and crying😂😂😂
@bosslady325ilme3 жыл бұрын
I’m not looking for a man a man is looking for me! 🙌🏽 Amen that’ll preach!
@sharonhumphrey31373 жыл бұрын
Don't be false... Be you... the comfortable you... calm cool and collective you. The You that comes naturally. Be blessed
@lialia80733 жыл бұрын
Let's get it in Tony.....class is in session!
@IshanaeS3 жыл бұрын
Whoever the character is that always says he’s from the streets, takes me out every time. 😭😭😂
@blacksongbird1003 жыл бұрын
But sometimes that's how I authentically feel. Like "get out of my face". 😂😂
@marilynking5273 жыл бұрын
Me too 😂😂😂😂
@blacksongbird1003 жыл бұрын
I authentically felt that while I was watching this video bc I got a text from a guy that made me roll my eyes. 🙄😄
@jazzybeca75933 жыл бұрын
Same 🤣😂😂
@aliasalias72703 жыл бұрын
I just want to say don’t apologize so much for being so raw on your videos. You really do tell it like it is and I appreciate that because a lot of what you say I’m finding has been the truth. I honestly didn’t know any better, I was never taught these things, I have no relationship with my father or had any sort of mail guidance growing up, so being out here blind I’ve gotten played a lot. Listening to you has really put perspective in to the things that I’ve been through and I really feel moving forward now that I can do better. And I just want to reiterate I appreciate you telling it like it is! It really makes things click!
@allthingsdelightful85653 жыл бұрын
OMG the acting and his mannerisms in these videos have me falling out each time.
@ohmytashh3 жыл бұрын
At this point, “you know I’m from the streets” takes me clean out. 😂
@Jusleen04033 жыл бұрын
The beginning had me weak. He said the interior design be feeling its self 😂😂😂😂
@NaniCrawford3 жыл бұрын
Notification gang🥳🥳 God bless you Tony! Excited to receive your message tonight.
@katrinabrown78713 жыл бұрын
"More you talk the weaker (expose) you are"- TG
@bosslady8743 жыл бұрын
Lol the humor always brings extra value to the wisdom 💯
@ginafromdabronx93333 жыл бұрын
WE are sooooo good...at making excuses!! Ssttooppppp!!! FOR EVERYTHING!!!! he is busy..he isnt calling ..he is with his kids...he hasnt called...he is on vacation with his family...he isnt calling. Honey..he isnt calling bc he isnt into u. Sstttoopppp with the excuses!!! We are busy making excuses that is why we AREN'T LISTENING!!!! LISTEN!!!!!
@blah8433 жыл бұрын
That PART
@amiralove3423 жыл бұрын
Edgewise is a thing😂😂 I looked it up Definition: Get a word in edgewise, to succeed in entering a conversation or expressing one's opinion in spite of competition or opposition: There were so many people talking at once that I couldn't get a word in edgewise.
@Khadijah_respectfully2 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣"if a man did those things, he could have anything from me." Ayoooo dfl
@brit91343 жыл бұрын
"The interior designer get to feelin theyself."😂😂😂😂😂 I wasn't ready for that at the beginning of the video. Lol
@mstijuni3 жыл бұрын
So as ladies we have to be confident. Confident in our self and talk to him. Converse with him. Got it!
@LadyFay883 жыл бұрын
Edgewise: to succeed in entering a conversation or expressing one's opinion in spite of competition or opposition. You're on point Tony! Lol
@Sepie9183 жыл бұрын
Tony I have shared your link with young ladies because you are the Real Real. Thanks for allowing God to work through you to help women under the ways of men and grown boys . So they can recognize the difference and chose the man not the grown boy.
@sandracastro-cv7rs3 жыл бұрын
Tony Gaskins, Thank you for all your words and wisdom, they are life changing!!!!
@godsgift55323 жыл бұрын
I love how you go hard for your wife, much love ❤️ Peace and blessings to you and your family!!!
@n.Lenice3 жыл бұрын
Someone wanting to tell someone they love the same story for the 100th time is soothing and affirming for the "storyteller" - when it's received with love and patience. :) Another great video and message!
@GoodGrief1013 жыл бұрын
Message was received. I am definitely sharing this. I was laughing the whole time. You’re something else! Thank you, stay safe and be blessed.
@ladya24103 жыл бұрын
Tony- U is a blessssssssiiinnnnnggggg!!!!!
@amykbarnes3 жыл бұрын
Always be yourself and the right man will love you for who you are!😊
@betterhealth16513 жыл бұрын
Thank you Tony for always making time to make these videos for us. Thank you
@jasminemathe663 Жыл бұрын
Tony, God bless you man!! You tell NO lies. 😊👏👏👏🎉🎉🎉
@holyghostfire9568 Жыл бұрын
Tony out here settin us free 😂 thanks for the videos
@denisedean85033 жыл бұрын
Just got through saying where is mr Gaskins. Okay let's get started.
@askalicensedcosmetologist25173 жыл бұрын
Tony I know you are from Florida because of the way you tell your stories😂😂😂😂😂. I know you are really trying to help us get the lesson but you are so comical. Yes I am a Floridian and I just enjoy your videos. I watched your videos when I was single 5 years ago and I still watch now married. Please keep being the light that you are, God bless you and your household.
@tiffanyg14193 жыл бұрын
Bro Tony dropping 💎 gems 👊🏾👍🏾
@tracyabbott3393 жыл бұрын
Hi Tony, it’s so refreshing to know how a man’s mind and heart works, I am learning thanks to you. Blessings to you
@sarahmitchell40103 жыл бұрын
There’s a man in my life, that I fell for, and we are no longer together. But Tony Gaskin’s right about communication. It’s so important! Without communication there is nothing. I love people who ask questions and care to listen, it means a lot. Thanks for clarity! Take care. Edge wise is a real word or expression : )
@officialwatchamber3 жыл бұрын
Love this line of videos Tony. Full of GEMS as usual! Thank you for continuing to encourage women to be themselves & truly get to know themselves!!
@Restyoursoul2873 жыл бұрын
School is in session every time Tony posts! ✍🏽
@CharleneB1783 жыл бұрын
Once again I am cracking up!!! I tune in to T.G more than tv..his advice is on point!
@nenasnake63753 жыл бұрын
That part “when you understand that rn. That’s what is gonna set you free” 😂💯 love it!
@sharonhumphrey31373 жыл бұрын
When you are at peace in your mind, that is when you are comfortable with who you are... Not trying to impress anyone. Be blessed
@juanitairvin56493 жыл бұрын
Mr. Gaskins would you tell your wife I said thank you for sharing you with us . I'm learning so much from you sir . May God continue to bless you and your family . You are truly anointed . Thanks so much for your obedience to God .
@DEAKAMM3 жыл бұрын
Tell ur wife thank u for allowing u to be straight out to us!!! I love it!!!
@queenali97123 жыл бұрын
Mr Gaskins I receive, appreciate and thank you for the message. Your delivery and humor is off the chart. Hilarious and so true!
@abby-hv6ll3 жыл бұрын
tony is the funniest when he tries to sound like a girl i love it sm hahahahaha
@SimplyFitwithJay3 жыл бұрын
Yayyyy Tony is back! Now I have something new to listen to while I’m driving lol.
@VintageAfro913 жыл бұрын
Great video! You really broke everything down on how talking too much can end badly.
@thatgirlcocoa3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this word 🙏🏾
@FutureAttyInTheMaking3 жыл бұрын
Agreed - Confirmation, Confirmation, Confirmation!! Be Blessed! 🙏🏼
@ImtheONEnotthetwo3 жыл бұрын
I literally started cracking up when Tony said "after listening to her talk about her high school, I don't talk about mine like that because I know she don't wanna hear nothing about that" 😂😂😂 facts!!!
@yanicketienne14643 жыл бұрын
Deon Morris: I was smiling all the way through that ‘tender moment listening conversation’ with his wife even though he heard it before. 🤣