1. Are they the most important person to you? 2. Do you get along? 3. Do you completely trust him/her? 4. Do you yearn for a formal lover? 5. Are you willing to do whatever it takes? You’re welcome 😉
@spewpish94333 жыл бұрын
you're a life saver. i really didn't wanna go through every question to be repeated 5 times like the first one. that was awful.
@oraclesma45752 жыл бұрын
😉
@ShanShan-wi4mf5 жыл бұрын
Top 5 signs you’re not ready: 1. Are they the most important person in your life? 2. Do you really get along? Do you argue a lot? 3. Do you completely trust your fiancé? 4. Do you still yearn for a former lover/old flame? 5. Are you willing to do whatever it takes to have a beautiful and successful marriage?
@katiedrake765 жыл бұрын
Thank you. You saved me the trouble.
@gloriadjeufa11475 жыл бұрын
Thanks. You saved me some minutes 😊
@spiwolf69984 жыл бұрын
What if I am the most important person in my life?
@gambacherkalbenstein3 жыл бұрын
i love you for this list
@LightningN1NjA3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, no longer getting married tomorrow
@nelisiwegumede82128 жыл бұрын
I am 22 years, just graduated University and have been single for 6 years now and saved.. And there's this guy who is asking for my hand in marriage. I hardly know him, except that he is a widower, and we from different nations. I don't love him nor feel anything towards him. But I almost got trapped in his idea bcoz I felt sorry for him. After watching this and a lot of thinking I decided NO. Thank you
@VULCAN11357 жыл бұрын
You almost married somebody you felt sorry for? Such a saint, thank you for considering such a sacrifice...
@god5636167 жыл бұрын
Redeemed Mahlangu YESS DON'T DO IT IF GOD DOESN'T SAY ANYTHING IN YOUR HEART!!! I've been asked several times from quality men and I prayed and God said nothing so I didn't move and wind up finding out later why God said no, their motives were always wrong. I give God praise for the holy spirit
@vanissaberg58246 жыл бұрын
Your story is vary similar to mine that recently happened to me. I'm 21 and single and this guy from Algeria contacted me online and tried to get me to marry him! I barely knew him and he didn't know me well enough to make that decision and it became very clear that he had an agenda when I talked about it to my parents. He was an expert manipulator to try to get what he wanted by making me feel sorry for him with his "sob story" of how his poor "situation" was and all that. He even got me to send him money because I felt sorry for him. I later found out he was lying about "needing" money for college stuff and it was all just so he could play on my emotions and get me to "like" him. (I'm a very caring person who likes to help those in need) Needles to say I got out of that situation before anything really bad could happen and I would have been very hurt if I didn't get out. I've heard of these guys who are looking for young woman to marry them so they can move to the USA to gain citizenship in the US. The sad thing is that they later dump (or even abuse in some cases) their new "wife" soon afterwards because they never really "loved" you in the first place. Sad but true.
@ThePattibeth6 жыл бұрын
Don't do it, Don't do it, Don't do it, Don't do it, Don't do it, You will know when it is right, your gut is telling you what you need to do. Listen to your gut and your instinct.
@beejay59675 жыл бұрын
Redeemed Mahlangu where you from
@GBU615 жыл бұрын
I would add one thing. Do I respect the person I want to marry.
@AustinNolen4 жыл бұрын
Amen.
@hiddengem42932 жыл бұрын
That's right.
@swathicmv16587 жыл бұрын
All set to call off my wedding now
@shi29jul7 жыл бұрын
Swathi C M V did you do it??
@butterflyygyrlsworld51066 жыл бұрын
Swathi C M V 🤣
@philfreemedia6 жыл бұрын
Swathi C M V great
@lilbaekiva3946 жыл бұрын
Swathi C M V I justed died laughing😂😂 I thank you !
@divagirl105 жыл бұрын
Me too
@jadecarter15554 жыл бұрын
Dang after watching this, I know that I’m ready to marry my partner. I guess I’m just scared of being tied down. I’m a free spirit and love moving and traveling around the world. After getting married I’ll have to consider my husbands goals/dreams before packing up and moving across the world. But I know no other person means more than him. Thanks so much for sharing your points
@valeriachizzy28682 жыл бұрын
What did u later do Did u marry him?
@ossamael-sherif45946 жыл бұрын
I'm a guy, engaged, I feel like your talking to me direct, I found it helpful and I'm 90 sure I can't marry this woman
@mgtow66835 жыл бұрын
Google Mgtow!
@justmeandmy5 жыл бұрын
1 yr later... Did you?
@nimmayxox51865 жыл бұрын
Same situation
@adnanmohammed33603 жыл бұрын
Arab girl are not marriable anyway😂
@tammysims23675 жыл бұрын
Thank you! You have literally given me pre marital counseling at its finest!🙏 Awesome channel
@oooweebaby44836 жыл бұрын
Man, this was epic real talk! Thanks!!
@tchimejosh53334 жыл бұрын
I have been single and celibate for a while and I plan to remain like this till I find the right one.
@Jllawrence246 жыл бұрын
This is an amazing video. You made realize I am ready. Thank you!
@lukasking25735 жыл бұрын
You can trust in so much but marriage is going to be always a risk. People change.
@hawaali41156 жыл бұрын
Wow. spot on. I love this. You just saved a soul.
@DanaLynnette7 жыл бұрын
Wow! You kept it all the way REAL in this video! I was surprised at how real you were. Good stuff! Thanks for the video.
@stephanieokoroma61576 жыл бұрын
I wish I could give this video two thumbs up, excellent information
@themorningstarfox2566 жыл бұрын
This was fun for me I am SO ready according to this vid 😁 but we're waiting it out for financial stability and just enjoying our lives as boyfriend and girlfriend before we feel like the time's right. Thank you so much this was so helpful!
@woolfythegermanshepherd27326 жыл бұрын
Excellent, very honest video... You summed it up well. Especially that part about trust... Trust is so important.. the
@renostubbs85046 жыл бұрын
Solid stuff my brother...especial trust issue
@annamakapela32126 жыл бұрын
I'm getting married this year ,I'm 22 and this is the best advice, thank you Neil much Rev.Ken . This has really helped me ,at least I have an idea of questions to ask myself
@leslieholloway8038 Жыл бұрын
This is very helpful! Thanks for sharing.
@verac67317 жыл бұрын
Brilliant advice.
@bahrambarati44547 жыл бұрын
thanks for your advice, very useful video
@mind89068 жыл бұрын
thank you this helped me
@hiddengem42932 жыл бұрын
Great information and tips, full of wisdom and common sense!
@alexfinn79893 жыл бұрын
Damn man. Excellent video. Very well done.
@HausOfAdonis6 жыл бұрын
Great advice. Thank you ❤️
@hearteusoftie94155 жыл бұрын
You're a great speaker! 👏👏👏
@Oheyitscecily4 жыл бұрын
Yes, yes, yes, yes, and yes. Thank you for this video! I enjoyed watching it.
@Lisa-ui5xl4 жыл бұрын
Watching this because I nervous about getting married next week. But answering every question honestly does show me that I am very ready. I am just nervous about all our family members with their own opinions, but I don't doubt my partner's and my trustful relationship nor our ability to communicate for a second.
@maggymm73026 жыл бұрын
29 nvr married n hearin this now is so helpful👌
@Melly16yr103 жыл бұрын
A few years younger and same
@maryortega30006 жыл бұрын
Thankyou for this vid, I am 23 and I absolutely 100%-ready to get married to my boyfriend =) God bless 💕
@KingGiganTitanusROARKing3 жыл бұрын
How did it go?
@georgeoy9322 жыл бұрын
Way to young… wait until your 33
@tish22246 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. I really appreciate it
@thejerm77666 жыл бұрын
thanks i needed this..
@rdjdik9126 жыл бұрын
I got married when I was 18, BIGGEST MISTAKE of my life!!!
@mikayacox30356 жыл бұрын
Brandy Newswanger are you still married
@00Senhora006 жыл бұрын
should have waited til your 30!
@ehiskhaleradio6 жыл бұрын
What happened in the marriage?
@afghandiamond12256 жыл бұрын
why i am 29 and i was dying ti get narried at 19 ! im still single :(
@ieatpcs5 жыл бұрын
allot of women's stories, either they do it too early, too late(single)e, or divorce.
@marcinaann4 жыл бұрын
1. Are they the most important person in your life? Are they your best friend? 2. Do you really get along? or always fight along and get frustrated? 3. Do you completely trust your fiance? 4. Do you still carry your ex lover? 5. Are you willing to take whatever it takes? Or are you gonna take it as all about "me" and only "me".
@ondreatorrence43226 жыл бұрын
This was a good video!
@gabrielakarl38595 жыл бұрын
I've been married for 18 years...rough first 7 years...now really happy, but this is THE BEST ADVICE IVE EVER HEARD...I wish parents would talk to their children more before marriage
@LonjeMarie77 жыл бұрын
Excellent advice
@samstan44624 жыл бұрын
Thank u for the video..very concise and helpful.
@Geenster01284 жыл бұрын
That was good advice!
@G4By_okokokok_lalalalala5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this tips.Very useful for our life 🙂
@dibn13084 жыл бұрын
I respect your way of thoughts ...its just the bare facts to be gone through before a person tie -up with another soul ...we should have pure, free mindsets...These 5 thoughts are out of my boundary walls of building a new life...and I believe that I'm ready for a new life with all its colours by accepting the reality...and if practically it's impossible then its just my fate to remain as soulmates for life long...
@daisylazy53265 жыл бұрын
I have trust issues after my childhood parents getting divorced.. it’s not easy me trust anyone fully
@jeffreyd5085 жыл бұрын
I got married at 15. My wife was 13. We are still together 24 years later with two beautiful children!
@jtorn665 жыл бұрын
Congratulations. That is refreshing to hear.
@MrJoeyBoombotz7 жыл бұрын
1. You must have total, responsible physical, emotional and sexual control. A woman that can seduce you is a nightmare on elm street. You are a nightmare on elm street if you have seduced her. 2. You must have dignity ( the common sense to make a living and take care of all the financial aspects of being a self sufficient adult). This means having a good job, or preferably your own small, growing and thriving business. 3. You must love what you know is intuitively and morally right in your heart, live from it, and defend it at all costs. A man that does not put what is right first above everything and EVERYONE else is useless to everyone they are in contact with. 4.You must have already built your own nest and are prepared to share it with a family. 5. You must want to have a family to care for, be patient, kind and strong for because you knew how to love the people in the family you grew up in properly.
@pyramidhead1387 жыл бұрын
if i cant trust the gal im with then it defeats the whole purpose of even being with that person. if i go ahead and marry her, then i make the same mistake Robert Deniro made in Casino
@simplybows14 жыл бұрын
Great questions to ask !!!! Prepare harder for marriage rather than ur wedding plus Watch Myles munroe marriage videos too ....
@ifkanoloshuwaaallah.23415 жыл бұрын
I am doomed. I dont like body odor or bad breath lol i will die alone.
@melissad33905 жыл бұрын
Lol
@gmar78363 жыл бұрын
Hey Ken are you a movie buff?? I saw your poster is behind you on the wall, had to ask
@wilsonwaigwa5205 жыл бұрын
You just confirmed that I am dating the right person in my life!
@nichernandez80958 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@aldenbarnes21794 жыл бұрын
I’ve been with my bf for over a year and this video made me so happy❤️ we are going to wait until after college (i have 2ish years left) but this video helped me verify that i definitely want to marry him and am ready to whenever we decide the time is right
@mariefpaul18754 жыл бұрын
I just got engaged and I already took the ring off. I am not emotionally connected to him. I closed off when he hold my hands or when I kissed him on the lips. Am petrified of the physical part of our marriage. Am not yearning for no body. I was married before and I had the same fears I went through with the wedding and was miserable for the 6 yrs it lasted. He is a great guy. He believes he loves me and will be a great lover and husband, a great father to my daughter. yet I know am going to either hurt him or be miserable trying to make him happy.
@ebbyoma70083 жыл бұрын
Maybe your asexual?
@aimeegt91294 жыл бұрын
People that say they arent ready will sometimes be together forever, some people that say they have no doubts about their relationship will eventually break up. This is a high level assessment tool, and it's not even as black and white as "if you're not sure dont". It depends why you're not sure! Fear can be a liar, and mean you miss out on something amazing because someone had unfounded fears based on nothing. Sometimes its telling you the truth, and you need to put the brakes on. Trust yourself, own your decisions win or lose.
@onyangowyclife58405 жыл бұрын
I have listened to your advice like a father to a son
@sherryhuang1306 жыл бұрын
Wow, glad I m watching this now
@aqeelhaider79055 жыл бұрын
Very nice... Thanks very much
@junedeanna42167 жыл бұрын
very insightful!
@Chair.dreamer5 жыл бұрын
I could have listen to this before my stupid arrange marriage.. now again single.. ha ha
@coreymoney2 жыл бұрын
Good content.
@annanicholson53096 жыл бұрын
Great advice. Wish I would have had this about 15 years ago.
@dragonfairy225 жыл бұрын
I am *so* ready to get married. 7 months ago, before meeting my boyfriend, I would've never believed these words would some day come out of my mouth. Life can give wonderful surprises.
@laebeli5 жыл бұрын
He has it figured out.
@lolalolita35378 жыл бұрын
ur one cool guy
@vivianabousawan33335 жыл бұрын
I thought you are saint before i read that you are Rev Ken Thank u for your divine tips ,yes honesty ,sacrifice .endurance of hardship of life ,true happy marriage is you can look at your partner and feel what they are going through and act upon to ease and make it better . This is for both lazy woman /man do not get married ,it is a lot of on going effort to make marriage it is responsibility of both couple to create and invent harmony I would see filing an application mind ,heart ,body ,and soul match and must be at the end of the list if all match sex will be divine and perfect and will last forever ,NO ULTERIOR MOTIVE or hidden agenda (sex scandal crime) is sin in all laws .
@lovemidnight63776 жыл бұрын
I am an emotionally unstable person, but my partner knows this and loves me anyways. I'm never really quite when I go through periods of insecurities, depression or mood flips. I always try my best to talk things out even tho Hes not much of a talker. Me and him have a opposites attract type of bond, he is the calm to my fire. But through all my mental problems I fight becuase I see he's worth it, I'm the type of person who loves toxic men, he's the polar opposite. Hes good for me and I am for him, I will always have the swirling thoughts and fears rolling inside of my head but when it boils down to it I will always crack down and get It figured out becuase I know the problem is with myself and even tho he .ca fix it, him just existing beside me is enough.
@jab71685 жыл бұрын
He makes poor choices.
@jtorn665 жыл бұрын
Toxic. Sounds not good for security.
@youwishyouknew13124 жыл бұрын
I hope everyone that said they were 100% ready to get married are still married TO this DAY. God bless 🙏🏾
@amjadnasser70395 жыл бұрын
all of the 5 are me but i'm forced to get married cuz im arab
@adriennevelez51403 жыл бұрын
so what. fuck marriage
@Chickchick-fv7nh6 жыл бұрын
I was broken heart one year ago. I will save this video and give it to the next my future husband.
@rachael69276 жыл бұрын
Agree with all these except #1. "If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters--yes, even their own life--such a person cannot be my disciple." Luke 14:26. Jesus should always be first in our lives. All the other signs are really on point though.
@hawaali41156 жыл бұрын
Rachael L God is always 1st, but I think Rev is alluding to Human beings. Some people while married have to keep running to their sisters or mum. I know someone who is married and she told her husband that her mum is 1st in her life. There is already a problem you see. It could be putting a best friend b4 a spouse.
@WalkingInFaithJourneys5 жыл бұрын
I am with Rachel L
@meeshameeshe39355 жыл бұрын
#3 got me.....
@KristinePaul224 жыл бұрын
My ex from 11 years. Coming back. I knew him very well. We can talk and laugh all night. He loves me and I want to help him fix his life as he was devastated from her ex wife. And make life together
@EmpressofChrist4 жыл бұрын
You should never trust a spouse %100
@ControversialClown5 жыл бұрын
I am 18, and me and my fiancé (20) have been together for 4 years. We are waiting till I graduate college (I’ll be about 21) to actually get married. So that’ll be about a 6 year relationship
@katiedrake765 жыл бұрын
I thought this was going to be a helpful video for me, but all it did was make me realize how single I still am...
@chidiekweonu3 жыл бұрын
If that's the case then it's helpful...at least you found out on time.
@pyramidhead1387 жыл бұрын
hah! #3 shouldve been #1!
@StingofTruth4 жыл бұрын
Good question to ask yourself before getting engaged: is marriage what i want, or is it what's best for my s.o.? These questions in this are good for before you get engaged. Engagement means preparing for marriage because the intent for marriage is already there. Here's another good question: is my love for the other person an emotion, or a decision? The idea of emotional love being a basis for marriage is a foreign concept to marriage. This video leaves out every important factor to consider when considering marriage.
@pyramidhead1387 жыл бұрын
the biggest thing women have done to me that destroyed my trust in them when they lied about having feelings for me. you know, when they put on an act to get what they want? yeah.... if that happens enough times women wonder why we dont take them seriously anymore
@jenniferbarnwell41094 жыл бұрын
I trying to rush into things myself my parents trying tell me not to rush into things take my time
@ccfs28106 жыл бұрын
There are tings I don’t agree with this video, but specially: I think the person you get married should be one of the most important persons in your life, but not necessarily THE most important. The most important person in your life should always be you. In cases if you have children, they would probably be the most important persons.
@craigime6 жыл бұрын
Claudia Chiari that would.make you selfish
@dragonfairy225 жыл бұрын
We are the main characters of our own lives, and our relationship to ourselves is of course the most inportant. That means we should love ourselves first, because other relationships are not going to fix our unhappiness or lack of love within us. None of that means being selfish. In relationship/marriage 2 people should work together as a team, and if we feel like we are more interested in our own good than the other person's, then we don't understand what marriage means - and definitely should not get into it. Ultimately marriage is spiritual practice, in which both individuals should strive to learn from each other and grown into better people, together.
@jendeh10004 жыл бұрын
Everytime I go to this video, I become wiser to the ways of the world.
@alyailithyia5 жыл бұрын
I hope you make more videos someday
@samlawaniunscripted4 жыл бұрын
I'm 23. And thinking of getting married. Do you think I should do it??
@deannamaldonado25065 жыл бұрын
These are signs that SHOULD be common sense. Sadly, too many people don't think about these things, which is why so many marriages end in divorce.
@Brian-rs4ug4 жыл бұрын
How about, Do you have unresolved unforgiveness issues in your heart towards others? You must know how to forgive and forgive quickly without holding grudges against your partner. This is foundational to any couple having a good marriage for a life time.
@insz26625 жыл бұрын
💜💜💜 I plan to marry my boyfriend after college. But our no. 1 priority is our parents. Maybe its because we’re filipino? (filipino’s are a lot more closer to their family) or most asians? 🤔🤔🤔
@josephinevaldez17205 жыл бұрын
Yes i really trust my PRINCE
@user-ud4fs3vx8o2 жыл бұрын
yep, true
@SA-yw3ms4 жыл бұрын
Beautiful 👍🏻
@Tropicasher5 жыл бұрын
Gostei muito, tudo a ver.
@Curt15x5 жыл бұрын
Buddy’s over here describing unicorns
@heizel-annecorteztull8484 жыл бұрын
Well I am ready for this marriage.
@deelaville4 жыл бұрын
I thought i was ready.. now im not sure...
@maritzamartinez2825 жыл бұрын
I trust God and God don't make mistakes when he brings the right person to your life my parents argue everyday and they been together over 40 yrs so I don't believe that part about fighting
@Lovelyshortstube83 жыл бұрын
mom will always be the most important person in someone life always no matter what or who you meet in your life . dont change the facts Rev Ken Lane
@ja59365 жыл бұрын
What if you have an identical twin sister?
@stephengreen58655 жыл бұрын
I cancel my wedding made the right decision
@freedomisntfree20893 жыл бұрын
Are you willing to forget your happiness in order to make someone else happy, willing to empty out your bank account, willing to tolerate bossy in-laws, willing to get cheated on, willing to give away every and pay child support for 18 years? If yes then you're ready
@briancalifornia12 жыл бұрын
Yup marriage is a nightmare for any Man there are no benefits for being married. Divorce rates has sky rocketed men being financial destroyed losing their homes paying alimony child support living in debt it’s suicidal.
@EmpressofChrist4 жыл бұрын
If marriage was perfect everyone will be jumping to it. Marriage is hard work. Ups and downs. Is accepting the other person the way they are. Meaning you cannot try to change them or expect for them to change 4 u
@arun_48713 жыл бұрын
I don't want to get marry because if I die soon after my child born then I feel I'm doing injustice to my kids. And, in my view marriage without kids is not a marriage in a real sense...And I don't know I may change my mind and thoughts after this comment..But for now, this is what I feel...