I feel so bad for people who must deal with these monsters- parenting and so on- what a terrible waste of a huge part of your life. I've cut off everyone remotely narcissistic and very slowly building a life again.

No contact drives them crazy 😁

No contact is a sure winner! June 30 will be 2 years no contact for me!

1) LEAVE THEM 2) Put smoke on your heels 3) Exit stage left 4) Let the door knob hittem where the lord splittem 5) Hittem with I'mma head out never to return 6) Make like a banana and split 7) Yo ain't gotta go but you gettin the hell outta here 8) Go out for a pack of cigarettes and never return 9) choose any of the above options AND GET OUT. See your leaving a Narc as an act of self love and protection.

9 ways to get my power back? Holy smokes I’ll settle for one! LOL! Ok now I’ll listen to the video!

I think my narc gets "supply" by just knowing he's said something invalidating even when I don't react at all. It takes alot of self control on my part.

I took my power back by walking away. Was stalked, called cops, been quiet since. Thank God!!

Awesome reinforcements. Thank you IT WAS NEVER MY FAULT. NO CONTACT

I went no contact 10 months ago and I’m not looking back ever I’m loving my freedom

I found forgiveness for my abusers. Never thought I would. Their behaviour was unforgivable and inexcusable. I thought it was morally perverse to forgive such evil. But once I realised that my abuse TRULLY wasn’t my fault, and instead was ENTIRELY the behaviour of my abusers that were projecting their own unresolved childhood abuse unconsciously through their mental pathology… the logical step was to forgive them. I found my power in forgiveness. I also learnt forgiveness wasn’t something I gave to them (I can only “give” forgiveness to those who apologise… which I will never get from them). Therefore, I learnt that forgiveness was a state of inner being and had NOTHING to do with my abusers. Forgiveness was about ME and my capacity to find empathy as a source of inner strength, not weakness. Once I forgave them, the years of triggers and resentment vanished, the alcoholism stopped, and I was free.

Great message, Jill!💗 My mother was a narcissist, and she NEVER changed. She remained a narcissist up until she took her last breath at age 71. When I was younger, I tried so hard to get her approval, but it never was attainable. I finally gave up. On her death bed, she still wanted nothing to do with me.

It has been a month 1/2 that I haven't talked to my husband and It's beginning to feel good.When I found out that my Husband & this Sister, at the church was talking. and texting each other about what?(I don't know.) My husband would get so angry with me when I confront him. They're only friends- but I am never included in they're conversation.When I spoke with her, She is married also.I told her that I would speak with her husband.she later told my husband not to call her phone again....This Husband of mine became so angry with me.He cursed me, said so much to me and would even allow me to talked .I shut up , hung up the phone and never spoke to him since......He tried calling, I just can't do it.any time A husband, make another a priority& the wife a option.It is time to roll......No sense of having someone and still be lonely

1. Control your emotions. 2. Do not Feed Their Ego. 3. Stay Grounded. 4. Don't Sink To Their Level. 5. Establish Honor and Enforce Boundaries. 6. Accept They Can't Change. 7. Give Up On the Need. (or Desire for an Apology) 8. Utilize The Gray Rock Method. 9. No Contact. I will remember these ways when dealing with a Narcissist.

Thanks Jill. I wish I could go no contact but I have two kids or I would have been over this a long time ago.

So true mine gaslighted me so much I didn't know up from down gone grey rock now only way to go You cannot win with a narcissist it's impossible

"stay grounded in the reality you know is true". This right here, 💯%. TRUTH. The most empowered thing I realized when surrounded by such abuses. (Keeps you SANE!)

Excellent advice!

Yep Jill !!! That's was my whole 31 year marriage and yep! He was never sorry!!+ I'm done with people who cant self reflect!!

Beautiful... so far you are the best at teaching narc knowledge... I thank you... I an surrounded by them and I never realized it until I was introduced to the disorder

BLESS YOU Jill for all your work!!!

This is so good, I'm going to share this with others tomorrow, thank you!! New subscriber here👍

Excellent video! Love your channel! Ty for existing 💎 We honor you 🥂

Just go No contact. The devil has failed!

Rrrrrrr.. 😡I just got triggered & reacted instead of responding, but he was yelling & talking crap.. Now I feel sick - & I only had a few hours sleep & he knew that, but drank & nothing matters except themselves....

Some are POSSESSED, IN NEED OF AN EXORCIST!!!!!😈

#1 is really hard for borderline personality disorder sufferes.

I love the grey rock method in my situation it has been gold

The narcissist is going to take it to the grave I seen it with my mother

Yes! I wish I knew this back in the day. I actually tried to get an apology. I tried hard. She got fuel from my pain and has never apologized for anything she did to hurt me. To this day, she has technically apologized once: “I’m sorry you feel that way”. Not really an apology

The change factor is my worst enemy although these advices rocks!

You are Shining with Light and Love 🤗 thankyou Jill for your Wonderful Advice 💕

My experience is that when you don't stroke or cater to their ego, they become enraged at you and you become an even greater target of their abuse. The only way to calm them down is to stroke their ego... this has been my experience. The abuse has been so awful, I'm not willing to put myself in harms way by not catering to their ego...

You will never know how much you have helped me. Such empowering inspiration. The examples you cite are literally my life experiences. To a T. It's very cathartic to finally understand the insanity. Could you please do more videos geared directly to parents who share a child with a NARC? Thank you so much

Number 10 Improvise on gut instinct with a pinch or two of refined intuition. It just baffles them back into non-existence. Detatch from the heartache 🙏 There's is just another perogative.

Thank you for this video Jill! I needed to hear a run down on the basics to stay focused for the divorce mediation coming up next month. Keep up the encouragement and support!

I find this really helpful. These are things I know, but they are so succinct and pragmatic here. The validating reality step was stark for me. I had a different view of the workplace today and could see covert narcissistic gaslighting that I could feel myself defending against but not being consciously aware like I was today. The gaslighting is cancelled out when we validate the reality of ourselves and the situation. Really thanks for this ; )K

Baybeh! You slaughtered dat Shyt! So I'm point! So helpful and encouraging to stay away! 1stbtine here. I'm subscribing!

This is enlightening, thank you. There are insights from listening to this video for folks having issues with narcissistic behavior unfortunately this is also providing tactical info for the narcissist....both sides of the coin.....we all must find balance

Thank you Jill. Good wisdom. Helping many.

You look great! I love your cute haircut ❤️

Once they leave you.... GO NO CONTACT......... FOREVER!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you Jill ❤

Thanks Jill. Great video.

Thank you for your words. ❤ my eks. is trying to scare me. I am afraid, but I am stronger than before thanks to you Jill ❤❤❤ and all the wonderfull people here ❤

Thank you for great advice 😊

You are amazing. I've read so many comments on your videos. You are helping so many people in a world I didn't know existed a couple months ago.

No need to take your power back because once you leave your power leaves with you and they're back to nothing. No education, no talents, gifts or abilities to speak of. Back to the empty husk they once were, that's why they hate you so much when you leave. Love them, forgive them, that's in your power. Then never look back, consider them dead, you have killed them. Consider yourself Blesed, get on with your second chance at life. Be Safe and Be Well whoever you are. I love you.

Thank you so much ❤ I needed this. 3 men from past life in my energy I have been going through all these ❤ x

My God! #7 is so on point - I have wasted a lot of time waiting for an ‘apology’ I know that but what you added at the end Jill is a critical insight ... they derive PLEASURE from WITHHOLDING an apology they know they owe you ... again it’s all about CONTROL for them! Yes indeed ... All Roads do Lead to Rome!

Watched this video again as your content is so great. At the end of the video, you mention not being able to go "No Contact" due to having children together. My issue is in-laws. I'm dealing w/ this family until the narcs die. Then all will be fine. I can't escape seeing them several times a year.

Thanks so much for sharing this. I especially like the part of simply stating the truth and walking away. I need to practice this!

I could sum this up by refusing to give them your attention no matter how tempting it is to react.

😮😢😊 These were all the the emotions while watching this video...... I literally sat here and took... I can't thank you enough for this video.... I already feel validated that I am not wrong about him... That I am not crazy or psycho as he says I am.... That he really does these things but I am just now opening my eyes after 17 years.... Now with this knowledge maybe I can live with him in a better light without going insanely emotionally to hell and back... Unfortunately right now I cannot divorce him as I am disabled on disability check only.... And do not have the physical or mental strength I would need if I could.... But if we have to live together on the same property but different buildings maybe now since watching this I can accomplish it better.... And he can just kiss my ass🎉

Good explanations and advice. Thx. ❤

The best form of action is to stay grey rock and stonewall 👍👍👍👍

Very informative ! Thank you Jill !

I am tired of Narc abuse I been battling wth many of them for way to long I am done

Always ask a narcissist to prove the lie they are telling..and walk very slow and sit very comfortable and ask them whats the hurry? ha ha..they got no proof..if you are not in a hurry..this is how to annoy control freaks..

Jill...these are so pin point accurate! Even though I am divorced now for 3 years... I am really stuck with 6 and more so 7..... after 17 years of marriage and who I thought was my friend all those years (until her mask fell off)...... she is attimate at not truly owing/or sincerely sorry for her long time line of deliberate irresponsible buffone behavior which she has recently tex me ......"leo I was horribly bad to you"....... She is on her 3rd or 4th supply (last 3yrs) while I am solely bringing up my/our son...... none of it makes any sense. Not sure/can't image what she is looking for in life....but she threw away our marriage and our family to basically be on her own with no responsibilities and behave like a 16 year old at 55. Hurts me to say it but she lacks consistsnt morals and a caring conscience. I have come a long way but it's been heart wrenching. Thank you for channel ....hope to talk to you on another Sunday group chat.

Father was an emotional and physical abusing narcissist. 25 years no contact and he has passed. No regrets! Did forgive him after he passed to set myself free. Good luck to all fellow victims. 🐻

Wait...I had power...?😐

I reassert reality and enforce my boundaries. The reactions vary including word salad, character assassination, and the silent treatment.

Excellent advice! Love your channel.

Great advice thank you Jill x

My God you talk so much sense! It's always such a relief listening to your videos. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You!

Love the Hair,JW WW:). I'm listening:):):) ty 💜

Serenity prayer day

I have watched many of your episodes. So insightful and on target.

As another viewer posted, I believe there's a heavy, demonic influence going on in narcissists, too, as I experienced the following as a child: When I was only about 5 or 6 years old, my sister, 3 1/2 years older than me, got pissed off at me about something while my parents were away, and pinned me down on my back, straddled me at the chest, and held her hand over my nose and mouth while holding my hands together at the wrists so I couldn't fight back or get away. She was screaming and yelling only inches away from my face while I was literally unable to breathe and trying my best to tell her to stop and take her hand away from my mouth - but she wouldn't do it. She kept screaming and yelling at me and then, after what seemed like about 3 to 5 minutes I guess, she finally took her hand away and I thought, "oh my God, thank you, God!", ...even though I was left choking, coughing, and gasping for air. But she wasn't done yet! Once I got my breath, she put her hand back over my nose and mouth, suffocating me and yelling at me in my face. After another 3-5 minutes, she finally got off of me & walked away warning me to never do what I did again ... (which, whatever it was - I can't even remember now - certainly didn't merit that kind of reaction!) This is absolutely NOT normal behavior for a 9 1/2 year old, & in retrospect, I truly believe she wanted to kill me that day (and would've if she could have gotten away with it), ... seemingly influenced by demons considering the level of rage in her eyes & voice. I can only speculate that the Holy Spirit stopped her somehow.

I can and have felt all of these to some extent! You look beautiful Jill!😀

This Video is amazing described my mother 100% right on.

Tell me more I’m listening!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

A big part of this mess is that we have all been conditioned that "hopeless" is a dirty word. There is hope, but only within the target. Having hope in the narc or even praying for them to see the light is hopeless.

Thank you ma'am 🙏🏽💕💕💕

I recently ended a 20 year relationship with a narcissist by simply cutting her out of my life like a tumor! I have not talked to her in 2 weeks and apparently she is losing her mind! The straw that broke the camel's back was the clear fact that she knew she was losing control and she tried to convince me that I was a figment of Her Imagination my very existence depended upon her mind, that's when I knew I needed to walk away!

Thank You Great Teaching:)❤️😄👯❤️🤓🎎❤️

Hello really loved and learned a lot from this video so I Thank you so much😊 But What kind of boundaries do we set? Can we set? Can you give us some examples also? Also When we Know what boundaries we want to set. How do we tell them or discuss with them?

This video is on point, thanks 🙏 for it.🙏🙏🙏

So REALLY in the end they still win

Keep up with your looks and heath as well

Beton. TY

Wonderful advice👍🧡

You look so pretty and strong! Thank you for being real, not using a green scene. You ma or may not respond and that's cool. I am very botheres by the idea that calling someone a narcissist is so taboo. It doesn't have the same taboo as someone stating to another person "I think you're depressed." Why is stating someone is a Narcissist so taboo? Is it the connection with psychopathy? I can see that and I do find that funny. It's like men predominately being the people who are diagnosed that vs the females diagnosed borderline and/or dependent pd.

Thank u much appreciated

7. I've just felt VERY bad hearing this

About saying they are sorry...I said to my husband that he should apologize for insulting me and making me cry,his response,with smile on his face:"Ok,I'm sorry,but you are the one who should apologize to me,you are too emotional,and you don't aprecciate me"🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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Wouldn't be great if they could all live on an island all by themselves ❗. Just dreaming here😊

Liv them on read n go no contact

Everybody talks about how to abandon the narcissist, and never how to help them.

Please send this video to the BRF.

I have a woman from Iran living with me because her husband divorced her and left her homeless. I wanted to be a good Cristian but now i been letting this narc live with me 4 months and im exhausted

I got this girl from Iran living with me because she was going to be homeless. Her husband divorced her and I'm The only one here she knows. Been at my crib four months now and she has OCD. What can I do? My heart can't throw her out

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Curious question , If a narcissist where to watch or read information concerning the reconciliation / healing process of narcissistic abuse would they internalize the information? .would this be a contradiction in terms ? Or are they so dissonant of their own insidious nature that they disregard the information altogether?.If nothing else it seems to be likely that from my perspective and through my insights that have become instilled within me as affective qualities directly as the result of systemic abuse emotionally, psychologically and physically over the course of my life concerning the unique structure of my familiar dynamic,taking into consideration my own unique disposition and propensative vulnerabilities that all three of these questions to me seem to be linked in some complex way synonymous to oneanother .I have found my self asking these very questions on a personal level in private ..Can and does a victim of abuse take on those qualities indicative of true narcissism as an intelligent adaptation in order to cope or to blend in ?.From my experience it's been extremely difficult to navigate these obstacles given that the abuse has been largely familial although the worst experience by far was relatively recent with a women / witch .I suspect that these observable narcissistic behavioral characteristics are largely due to trauma based narcissism which would be an indication that my presumptions are more or less correct .Simply put in runs in familial veins cross generational and is so toxic and insidious that most likely it goes largely unnoticed which would also reflect this perpetuation from parent to child .Is this cyclical process some sort of Familial feedback loop ?.From my experience it has been an unimaginable hell for me and for my intire family, three successive suicides beginning with my great maternal uncle followed by two more close together in the same living space both of which are both maternal uncles .I find this pattern very interesting. The person I am referring to I am very close with but as I grow older and wiser I have come to realize that the relationship i maintain with this person is very complex as any relationship is.I have always without exception made sacrifices and comprises ,letting my hurt remain silent with a smile. I love this person deeply with all my heart.Its something I've learned to do over the course of the past 40 years of my life and I never realized it until recently generally speaking. .This person is my grandmother .She was physically psychologically and emotionally abused by my alcoholic grandfather .Trauma based narcissism????.Her brother was the first to take his life followed by her two youngest sons ,my uncles ..Its important to note that my uncles always had a difficult time expressing affection verbally or simply with a hug ..It was always apparent that they consciously refrained or avoided such interactions both introverted with personality and behavioral characteristics that one might associate with autism. I'm asking because when I read your posts I often internalize what the words say and it hurts ,it's very confusing .Sorry for the Grammer punctuation. ..

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Remember how many people wanted Pfizer to apologize for their horrible treatment of others? How about the Trudeau administration? Samne thing. Thanks for your video! Excellent analysis and breakdown. Regards from Ásgeir in Iceland.

What if 3 narcissist were together one is overt malignant phocopath one was overt and one communal which one would be the alpha male in the group????

What if the narcissist is your teenage daughter?

How do you control your emotions when the sob hurt your dog?