How To Make Friends While Traveling Full Time (As An Introvert)

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3 ай бұрын

Learning to be more outgoing & putting yourself out there while traveling can be hard when you are an introvert or have social anxiety but this week I faced my fears and tried a few different techniques to make new friends while living on the road in a van and traveling full time. I hope this helps someone else struggling with social anxiety to see that anything is possible & taking leaps of faith and trying new things can truly pay off!
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@romeodavis 3 ай бұрын

You literally have 158,000 + people following your story and watching you drive around and live in a van. I don't think you're giving yourself nearly enough credit for cool factor.. You're a G.. Go ahead and own that #Respect

@ericfrommerrick Ай бұрын

facts

@thompsonjsaf 3 ай бұрын

The only person you need to be is You. You can't be anyone else because they're already taken. Big props for pushing your personal boundaries and making yourself the best version of you.

@rickgrant5844 3 ай бұрын

Just be who you are don’t worry nobody’s judging you. It’s too busy worried about their insecurities to be worried about yours.

@MLenninger 3 ай бұрын

Amen.

@nickmclay 3 ай бұрын

I just loved this video of yours, Tori. I’m 57 years old and back when I was in college there was a very pretty girl who I was so thoroughly intimidated by her that I never really tried, if you know what I mean. I just didn’t think I was in the same hemisphere as she was. I ran into her 20 years later. We both had spouses and children and we had a nice talk. During that talk she told me that she had the hugest crush on me back in our college days and she was too afraid to say anything. Your video reminds me that no matter how pretty or handsome the girl or guy, we all have the same fears And apprehensions. Keep up the great work Tory!

@Rachel-qy4hc 3 ай бұрын

"Wow, love is such a lie" Loved that 😄

@scjuanted Ай бұрын

Being alone and comfortable with your own company is a powerful thing. Don't be ashamed doing what's comfortable. Also, that fist bump hand shake was too funny.

@petertarantelli 3 ай бұрын

“pick the right people to be friends with”…perfect way to close this video, thanks Tory 🤗 💐

@lyfandeth 3 ай бұрын

The difference between a friend and an aquaintance, is the you can call a friend at 2am and say "I need bail" and they will only ask where you are and how much. It can take a long time to establish that bond and trust, but it is priceless.

@zeroremorse24x7 3 ай бұрын

As an extreme introvert, I can relate to all the things we tell ourselves in advance of doing anything. Props for getting out of your own way and having a great time!

@WheezinGeezerTV 3 ай бұрын

You've probably talked to more people and for longer in this video than I have in years. It's been around 31 years or so since I had a friend. I haven't even looked into a woman's eyes in about 15-17 years, who knows. I've been telling myself to go out and try singing karaoke for about 6 years, still haven't pulled the trigger. Just an old man with a dog. Anyway, nice video dear.

@thecorbettchronicles 3 ай бұрын

We love old geezers with dogs!!! 🫂 Cheering you on! (I still shake when I do karaoke, but am proud of myself each time. 😅)

@victoriasmith8570 3 ай бұрын

The dog might be your best way to make a friend or two. Take them to a big dog park and you could be talking to people in a minute flat. My dog has definitely made a lot of connections for me.

@IzzyOnTheMove 3 ай бұрын

Go to karaoke!! It's so fun! 💜 (I think I have 50+ karaoke videos on my channel LOL)

@dcktater7847 3 ай бұрын

You are living the dream life afaic

@Michelle-Williams-Melbournite 2 ай бұрын

You go do Karaoke dude. If you visit Australia I’ll play pool with you . God bless

@popspops3795 3 ай бұрын

Hi, Tori. Hope all is well. The biggest human curiosity is what others think of us. You are a sweet person, intelligent, interesting, charismatic, and much more. The right partner is someone who we trust as we trust ourselves, and both feel safe and comfortable in surrendering to each other. Be the best you can be as a person, learn, enjoy, and evolve. Stay safe, stay healthy, and stay happy! Everything else is manageable! Pops

@donhebel1011 3 ай бұрын

9:20 9:40

@bobs1648 3 ай бұрын

Tory, as a guy who suffers from a fairly aggressive case of PTSD let me say, corners are my safety zone. If we ever happen to be at the same gathering, please be aware that I WILL try to bribe you with food (usually tacos or doughnuts) in order to gain access to the corner you are guarding/hiding in. 😁👍 As always, BIG HUGS from Tennessee!

@Rachellovescheese 3 ай бұрын

Aww sweetheart, you did amazing. I’m glad you are able to recognise when you need some company but absolutely love that you can set your boundaries & be unapologetically you. The “boyfriend “ obviously wasn’t the right fit as the right people want to be with you for who you are, not for what you’re not. Always be yourself lovely girl xxx

@onthe80omw 3 ай бұрын

LOL the fist bump shake you are totally rad! making a real video like this will show you how many others relate! good stuff

@robduke6951 3 ай бұрын

I too suffer from social anxiety. You were brave ! Keep going .

@jimg4704 3 ай бұрын

Making friends has always been hard for me too. Dont worry about it though. You'll find yourself but dont think too much about it. Feeling alone in a crowd of people is hard. But someone will find you. And it'll be amazing.

@jimchrist9749 2 ай бұрын

Tory, just keep being you. If not being around people makes you happier, then do it. Live your life the way YOU want. Don't worry about others' judgment.

@stevecompton7197 3 ай бұрын

Fellow introvert for the last 58 year's from the uk that was great to watch thankyou

@BobLHedd 3 ай бұрын

2:00 I'd have left by now. Good job sticking it out.

@toddcorley464 3 ай бұрын

Love the video! Makes me think of back to the future. Seeing everyone on the future of skateboarding. Just seeing how they've changed over the decades.im from the days of the old skateboards. So seeing the electric skateboards is like seeing a glimpse into the future of kids.

@jeffcue5808 3 ай бұрын

Tory, I love that you went out of your comfort zone. I too am an introvert and take a while to warm up to people. Great video. From the outside looking in, you look like a very approachable person and I would totally gravitate towards you to say hi. Have safe travels. Jeff from California ❤

@rogerdayton 3 ай бұрын

You got this! I don't think there is anyone who wouldn't be happy to meet you. Put yourself out there and I'm sure you will be happy you did it!!!

@mallorys_world 3 ай бұрын

As a fellow van dweller (3 yrs) and chronic introvert, I can completely empathize with what you're saying in this video. Like you mentioned, most of my true friends are located where I left (where I don't want to be) and I've been left to my own devices to try and find friendship on the road, which has not been easy. Dating / social apps only go so far when your hobbies are a bit different from the more popular ones. (Photography, off-road e-scootering, sailing, and 4 wheeling are my main hobbies, of which there are groups, but sometimes I'm the only female that shows up. That really amps the anxiety!) I'm also going through a stage of wanting to be around ppl but I'm currently in one of those towns where not much goes on. I was just in LV a few months ago and had no idea there was an erider meetup! Thx for putting that out there as I'll def look that up when I'm passing back through! Good luck to you and great video!

@danamoore9912 3 ай бұрын

You're doing great mate, You're living so many people's dreams! Just keep on keeping on. There's not a day you haven't got through🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂

@Scott-SUP 3 ай бұрын

Hey Tory, your video on making friends while traveling alone as an introvert is so relatable and inspiring! Keep sharing your journey! 🌟

@lucyfergusson4070 3 ай бұрын

this brought tears to my eyes when you were reading the poem. I relate to this so so much. Thank you!!

@kylesmith2612 3 ай бұрын

Tory thank you. With my job I am away a lot and alone a lot. Hearing you have difficulty with this is just like you said. I can’t be the only one. You are one of the most beautiful human beings with an amazing spirit. Thank you so much for sharing it with us.

@RJGilman1967 3 ай бұрын

Some of those drone shots are very good. So appreciate your intelligence and transparency. Very refreshing. And great job thats a lot of work. Peace.

@wthwing 3 ай бұрын

I can understand what you are going through, I have/am gone through the same thing. If I could sell the house and get a van ( I can't I am chicken ) I would get in and NEVER stop so I wouldn't have to deal with ANYONE ever again !!!!!!

@-dano 3 ай бұрын

Life is to short to worry about things that you can't change. You have way to much going for you to be so anxiety ridden! You're intelligent,young,pretty and the world is what you make of it! So,by all means,make your dreams come true! Good luck.

@symphonicjohn 3 ай бұрын

I can totally relate. Well done and another great video 👍

@KKuurus 3 ай бұрын

Tory know you are worthy. to anyone saying otherwise "fuck'em" be well your light is bright and your energy is sweet.

@aitorsodupe5922 3 ай бұрын

Love the channel and content keeping it real and genuine 👊

@MLenninger 3 ай бұрын

4. Ask someone to do a small favor for you. "Hey, will you hold this while I adjust my helmet? Thanks!" Creates a connection and you both feel closer to each other. 5. Know what kind of people you want to make friends list. Create a checklist. Same values, outgoing personality, humor, political beliefs... 6. Recognize that YOU can be intimidating to others! You are tall, good looking, fashion coordinated, fit. Sometimes people think quiet introverts are stuck up! Or unfriendly. 6. Wear an icebreaker. Stickers on your helmet, pins on your clothing, unique flair. They are conversation starters.

@saintsaens21 3 ай бұрын

Great content, thanks T.

@landoniver 2 ай бұрын

I thought i was an introvert for years , but no just horrible social anxiety i had to work on. Socializing is a big part or our health, so great job anyone who is struggling or working on theirs its a really hard thing to overcome but absolutely worth the improvements in social health .

@robertaxyz 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this part of your journey.

@SW-fm6up 3 ай бұрын

You have a way with words and are an excellent story teller Tory!!!

@candicejoy1111 3 ай бұрын

Good job getting involved🎉

@LIkedize 3 ай бұрын

What a great video!!!! Beautifully filmed and edited… my favorite of yours! I felt the joy as you were riding that night!! I loved it!!

@johnl9135 Ай бұрын

I love group rides like this it is so relaxing and I think it is fun. Just go with the flows.

@pamphileay 3 ай бұрын

I'm so happy I watch your video. You totally spoke to me.

@PCBackUp-iu9zy 3 ай бұрын

I am proud of you keep up the good work I love your videos thank you God bless you Tory I wish you tranquility and prosperity and Love. 🌹

@PartyUpLive 3 ай бұрын

I'm planning to start going on solo road/car camping trips, and really trying to get more comfortable talking to strangers. I stand out already (I'm really tall), so a lot of times people will be come up to me, and in the last few years I've gotten better at talking with random people. I'm looking to get out to more events/cons, etc on my trips, hanging out and meeting new people, and just having a good time. It's funny because I LOVE being alone, but I Hate doing things alone. I went to the movies alone once and HATED it. Hopefully camping and road tripping alone will be a fun enough experience.

@xkatscratchesx 3 ай бұрын

Your video hit me at the right time. New to vanlife and this is something im going to have to work hard at. Love your videos.

@LivingProcess 3 ай бұрын

Everything you said is so true just Enjoy the Adventure 💚🤟 Brilliant as always

@cashtripping 3 ай бұрын

Yes it’s a gift 💚

@katgerbz 3 ай бұрын

Love this video!! The topic, the voice you lend (gold!), and the videography. Thanks for sharing this with the world.

@carolenicklin6460 3 ай бұрын

Totally understand… you’re on the right path 😊

@soloelisa 3 ай бұрын

You’re the sweetest. I love this video and how open and honest you are about your feelings ❤

@garygiles63 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing. You looked amazing. 😍

@tmthyXryn 3 ай бұрын

tory! youre doin flippin amazing 🥳 i love this!!!! -timothy from that one yeti ride 😂🏔️

@ramonperez6495 3 ай бұрын

Hi miss Tory. I really enjoy watching your content, Especially in this particular one. Because you shared wisdom, and encouraging words, as well as advice. Keep up the good work. :)

@kristin8711 3 ай бұрын

omg tory, i just watched the first 5 minutes and everything you say and feel is so relatable to me. i'm an introvert too and for me its so hard to make friends, especially as an adult. i'm looking forward to the rest of the video ❤ edit: thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experiences!!!

@MrZipdang 2 ай бұрын

Just a beautiful episode! So full of beauty and heart! ❤️

@beepbeeblebrox3972 3 ай бұрын

I love how positive you are! an inspiration💅

@RandyHagen 2 ай бұрын

This is the best video that I have seen on YT. I'm sure your vulnerability and honesty has helped many people. Never let another person determine your value.

@user-dd6vu5vq3k 3 ай бұрын

I always find it helps to try and meditate and focus on your breathe to try and clear your mind of stress and anxiety. Listening to some relaxing sounds also helps. Also don't overthink things as it could make it worst.

@Todd-The-Dodge-Guy 3 ай бұрын

Oh I totally feel for you lol. I have bad social anxiety too. I try to avoid a lot 😬

@Northanteus 3 ай бұрын

We respect how open and honest you are. It is way more commendable in our eyes than someone pretending to not have weaknesses. We all have them, we can relate. I ride a bike too but, if I take a break for a while, then start again, my legs will burn a little at first as well, then it eventually goes away once the legs are used to riding again. It's a human thing. You're human. Welcome to the family. 😁🤣

@printerror 3 ай бұрын

This is great Tory. Glad to see you opening up and having a blast! If you're ever over in Boulder Colorado, there's "Boulder Bike Nights" on Thursdays. Similar vibe but a much smaller city!

@IzzyOnTheMove 3 ай бұрын

(commented before watching) Your friends will find you. You don't have to do anything. Most times it happens by accident, in the most unexpected ways. I like to think we all have a constellation of friends and people with whom we will inevitably cross paths, no matter what happens. Just live your life, and your people will come to you ... ❤

@IzzyOnTheMove 3 ай бұрын

(commented after watching) See? You found each other 😊

@nintendolunchbox 3 ай бұрын

I live in Vegas and after the first neon sign. Oh! You’re about to pass Fremont street! So cool. I’m glad you got out there and enjoyed.

@user-kn4mm8tx6y 3 ай бұрын

So good to see you so happy and well. Shamim 🦌 🕊

@battleborngrafix4640 3 ай бұрын

Awesome job! Social situations can be very awkward, but we make it through. I have always wanted to do one of these rides on the strip or downtown. They look like so much fun.

@Bigheartrolling 3 ай бұрын

Great video. Last summer I went 2 months without talking to anyone when I was in ID & MT. It was amazing. But like you I began to think I needed to try. I went to WA, OR & CA to see friends. But everything you said is true. As a 56 year old woman…I’m not ready to not have fun with new friends!

@wrongway100 3 ай бұрын

I get a little lonely once in awhile but I like it that way you can't trust anybody anymore I go to town and get supplies I can't wait to get back out here and set up again saving all kinds of money because I stay in one spot for 2 weeks one year I've saved back half the money I spent on my new camper I'm not going to complain about that

@donnellbrown2717 3 ай бұрын

This video put a smile on my face, I mean i can be a lot like that most times, I am not a youtuber but it still vibes with me, thanks for sharing.

@soniabelenheredia2637 3 ай бұрын

I was cracking up at the fist bump thing and then next thing I know I'm crying at the quote you shared about shining our light lolll your content has the ability to move people thank you Tory

@johnleewright345 3 ай бұрын

I call myself a destructive Introvert. Home is my happy place, I am also a guitarist in a rock band and crazy AF. I call it my Jekyll and Hyde personality.

@man0fsand 3 ай бұрын

I'm also an introvert and have social anxiety. Your video has inspired me to have a look online for some local meetups to make myself go to. Thank you.

@jacobusdegroot7557 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing your struggles with being an introvert, I’m in the same boat and it’s nice to know I’m not the only one. ❤

@Mooks_24 3 ай бұрын

Hi gorgeous, you did absolutely fantastic. Well done for kicking your anxiety in the bum. And just doing the social ride. With others I bet you felt so much better for doing it. 💛

@Shvdowreaper Ай бұрын

Awww if i ever see you out on the road ill get you as many flowers as your van can hold at the time haha

@mrsrhardy 2 ай бұрын

one of your best videos, mostly becuase you smiled a lot more than usal. After a long hiatus i might need to get back to YT creating again too

@Brandon-yn1eb 13 күн бұрын

I am the same I overthink everything ❤ you’re a amazing woman Tory

@Fynn- 3 ай бұрын

Hey Tory, 👋 I feel yah as a mainly introvert aswell. If it helps I find focusing on my breathing as calming in any situation, good on you for getting out there. You've inspired me to start saving for a moble life build, so thank you 😊. Also people fear what they don't understand, but fear is simply false evidence appearing real 😮

@BULLHORNZ_ Ай бұрын

❤ I’m about to start van life. I did 3 months came back to an apartment ready to leave again…. You give me so much courage

@CasperMhax 3 ай бұрын

I love this type of content!

@CasperMhax 3 ай бұрын

I’m a huge introvert myself I hate going out to bars etc or meeting new people I’d rather stay home and watch some movies by myself. But I love how your exploring meeting others and meeting up with others I love this whole vlog and you explaining how introvert and shy you are and showing it all to us. This whole video was beautiful. I just found your channel today it was on the side of another van lifer I watch and I’m not disappointed. You’ve gained a sub Tory! We need more content like this! Be safe will be looking forward to more videos !

@sataniclivesmatter 3 ай бұрын

It’s so interesting to see that my favorite van life KZfaqrs be so introverted. If I were you I’d try to stop overthinking everything and just be you. Chances are everyone around you are probably just as awkward when being around a large crowd of people. Have fun , interact with people and be safe.💯

@LukeSkywaker 3 ай бұрын

I know Red Rock so well! One of my favorite spot!

@marcklemens9152 3 ай бұрын

You are such a amazing story creature. After watching several of your videos I wouldn’t of not known this about you. Go out there and meet people because your so lovely.

@tatotorres505 3 ай бұрын

I think you're a beautiful inside and outside. As a person! Don't forget to pray for your safety every day! I also want to say please get a dog!

@johnmcgovern4726 3 ай бұрын

Just continue to do what you’re comfortable with. Real friends are not always easy to find but when you meet them you just know it. Your ex wasn’t right for you. Obviously he was trying to change you into someone that he’s like. Congratulations on making new friends and continuing to be you. Your online friends have your back 😊

@deshawniskeng-mixedmediatv 3 ай бұрын

That's actually pretty awesome I'd love to take part in something like that so cool 😎

@matthewsemenuk7544 3 ай бұрын

Good stuff! Great self insight I think a lot of us experience at some point or another. Tory is awesome and hopefully she runs out of all of that bad luck soon so only the good luck is left. "Take chances, make mistakes, get messy!"- Ms. Frizzle

@ToryDelury 3 ай бұрын

One of my favorite quotes!!

@synseer8484 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for this i literally feel like this all the time..... "its okay and will be okay" is the point of the story. ❤ needed this today. You are btw.....😍

@synseer8484 3 ай бұрын

Embarrassed what do you mean your build is epic its just in the works! Whoever lives in that mushroom should be embarrassed...jk

@Smartys1234 3 ай бұрын

Well done for pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone .

@ravenrook8843 3 ай бұрын

When you self talk be your own cheerleader and do positive reinforcement. Your life will forever change. u can be ur own best friend or your own worst enemy. Great video!

@jliparis2989 3 ай бұрын

Tory is the most authentic and honest youtuber I have come across. This was one of her best videos. Thanks Tory!

@MyVantasticLifeVoyage Ай бұрын

It’s not about being awkward. It’s about being a kind, honest, humble, generous and real person. And when you truly become that person, you’ll attract other likeminded individuals into your life. They won’t judge your awkwardness, if there are those moments. They like you realize it’s real life. If you meet someone who does or would judge you, try to be humble and don’t be afraid to show your human side. If they still judge you, pray for them, then purge them from your life. For every person who you would meet like that, there are ten more who possess the characteristics of an ideal friend. In summary, put yourself out there, but don’t be taken advantage of. Safe travels.

@bananareasons 3 ай бұрын

I just left Dry Lake a few days ago! I grew up in the area, so it's been really nice being back as an adult. That night ride looked like so much fun. You were smiling in almost every shot. Keep getting out there. I will be in the area for a bit. If you see a shuttle bus with a big pink peace sign on it, come say hey✌️.

@MichaelJFunaro 3 ай бұрын

Good for you for stepping out of your comfort zone. Very much felt your anguish but you overcame it. I was the same when I was younger and would have been exactly the same. But I would have probably left and not done it. So brava for you.

@erikgruenwedel 3 ай бұрын

You're great videographer. The skill it takes to make, edit your videos is impressive. Your van life is literally a resume in progress. Keep it going.

@ToryDelury 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@frozencowboy6552 Ай бұрын

Awe shes cuuuuute

@shadowzerozero 3 ай бұрын

I subscribed a few months back because i felt like the channel made no sense to me but i checked back in a couple days ago and im glad i did. To me this was the best and worst video youve posted. It was revealing, vulnerable, honest and unabashed and as result i had to re-subscribe. This video was amazing Tory please keep it up and your ex is douche and its his loss.

@AZ-rg3rf 3 ай бұрын

5:05 hahahaha your just like me, overanalyzing every snafu that happened in a social activity

@coryweaver1079 3 ай бұрын

This video really hits home. I have no prob meeting friends but I dont trust anyone. Gets really lonely at times then I shut myself off from people.

@WOLFNightwolf Ай бұрын

I'm just starting figuring out all my van plans and will hopefully start by the end of 2025, All these resources you've made available to us are amazing, so thank you! also thanks for these tips, idk why i thought I'd be the odd duck out, i guess because most van lifers look like extroverts from the surface, so one introvert to another thanks for the advice on that as well.