Giant red flag: nepotism arrangements. When the boss' wife/husband works in the office. Especially if they're not qualified for the role. Run far, far away and don't ever accept the job. Nothing good ever comes out of that. Or any form of nepotism really (friends, family members, etc). You, as the employee, will always be "wrong". Not to mention, if you have a legitimate complaint about a spouse, you can't exactly bring that up to the boss. Nepotism harms morale in the office.
@theultimatereductionist75925 ай бұрын
well said!
@twct1235 ай бұрын
I used to work at a super toxic workplace where my mentor refuses to teach me properly. Yet she would guide my teammate one to one until that teammate knows how to handle independently. I worked based on what I was taught and when I made mistakes all the mentor would do was to scold me loudly in office for everyone to listen. And whenever I ask questions I do not get answer as this mentor would always say "Read your emails as I have sent it a few days ago." They never say that to the teammate which was very demoralising as I can never get answers. So glad to be out of that place!
@Tony.L97935 ай бұрын
Nowadays mostly companies expect new staff to know what and how to do their jobs, old staffs dont really teach them
@Tonytayloring5 ай бұрын
Next time some one yells at you again 'the louder it gets, the better you win, so shout louder'
@themeaningoflifeexpert5 ай бұрын
Shouting at you is intimidation that violates the Protection from Harassment Act 2014 where causing alarm, distress, intimidation and insult carries a 6 months' jail term and 5K fine. If such happens you need to call the police to go down immediately..
@Tony.L97935 ай бұрын
@@themeaningoflifeexpert thats also considered verbal abuse
@Twinkle0995 ай бұрын
I thought I was the only one who face this 😅 thank you for sharing, let's work hard tgt💕
@boonchengyu85065 ай бұрын
Wherever you work, it’s best to always understand and know what you are doing and abide by protocols, be honest and truthful when incidents occur, and focus objectively on underlying issues or problem solving whenever possible instead of finger pointing and blaming others. Set and maintain a high standard to garner respect from colleagues. If superiors or colleagues still constantly demand respect through fear and remain unappreciative over prolonged periods no matter how well you perform, it’s time to leave for greener pastures. A job is just a job, not your life, and colleagues are not your family members no matter how close they are to you.
@Tony.L97935 ай бұрын
Its good to be honest but never be too honest when at outside world, there are lots of bad people around, especially at workplace, they love to take advantage of honest ones
@boonchengyu85065 ай бұрын
@@Tony.L9793 Yes you definitely need to be careful with what you share with colleagues. But when it comes to reporting facts and figures, it’s best to avoid any cover-up or distortion for self-defense, cos you’ll never know if any unexpected turn of events might reveal the dirt swept under the carpet.
@Touyoujin5 ай бұрын
Colleagues are not friends, that's why they are call colleague and not friend. Sometimes whistle blowing and call for help is perceived as incompetent and weak even though it's the matter of poor management from managers and senior management. Understaffed and demanding, these people would just exploit others for their own benefits at work and work you to death. That's why you don't see employees talk about loyalty in the modern workforce, loyalty is for brainwashing and manipulation in a company.
@yeoweian95235 ай бұрын
There are supervisors like, "you have to follow my way", "listen what I say", "I have been doing this for years, I have experience, what instructions given, just do!", behind my back asking other colleagues, " can this new guy be trusted?", "everything need report." And finally, "who are you to make decisions and overwrite?" For me, I leave immediately. Especially the "new guy" part. Damn, I have my work style, and I know what ways I work better. Now I further taking course, throw paper at this kind of supervisor in future
@Tony.L97935 ай бұрын
some bosses only love to treat their staffs like slaves like dogs, only abusing their powers
@yeoweian95235 ай бұрын
@@Tony.L9793 exactly!!! But what to do? Always abuse and change of management staff. Private company always like that, and management is the worst in sg(mostly unseen nepotism.)
@Tony.L97935 ай бұрын
@@yeoweian9523 thats why the no of people seeing psychiatrists about their mental health are getting higher, all because of these toxic people causing problems to others
@ongtayjoojames-ow1bs26 күн бұрын
The worst was when I was attached to the Paya Lebar Air Base...!!! Those uniform MEs will shout crazily at u, behind closed doors...!!! Even those female MEs, behave like totally "tom-boys...!!!" But out side in public, they behave well...!!!😳🙄😬🤨
@Tony.L97935 ай бұрын
Every workplaces bound to have toxic people, more scarier than ghosts, at least ghosts wouldnt backstab others
@vinslifestory5 ай бұрын
You are right!
@Tonytayloring5 ай бұрын
Its human nature, its everywhere, every clique. Thats why the true good people got their shield's up, lip tightly sealed and became a cynical introvert...
@Tony.L97935 ай бұрын
@@Tonytayloring maybe out of 10 working in company, only 1 can be trusted
@ongtayjoojames-ow1bs26 күн бұрын
The worst was when I was attached to the Paya Lebar Air Base...!!! Those uniform MEs will shout crazily at u, behind closed doors...!!! Even those female MEs, behave like totally "tom-boys...!!!" But out side in public, they behave well...!!!😳🙄😬🤨
@stargazeronesixseven5 ай бұрын
🙏 Thank You So Much for this opportunity to let other knows that , they are not the only one being bullied or backstabbed in a toxic working environment! Red Flag 🇦🇱 when Good Managers , Supervisors or Good Colleagues are slowly being replaced by KPI worshipping new ones or the Rotten Old Ones are still around to run the Dept like it's theirs than a Dept run by Team Members! It is sad , we normally lost the Good Ones but the Rotten Ones still remained! But many who had left luckily do fine Better Jobs & became more appreciative to nurture Good Working environment & be a Better Person learnt from their bitter working experiences! Not to be mean here , but found out many of those evil ones eventually being fired , forced to retired early , their marriage broken up , got into troubles with the Laws or they died from illnesses! We reap what we sow , sooner or later! Karma is Real! 🙏🕯🌏✌🕊
@antihunter5 ай бұрын
communication is kinda of bullshit when your supervisor or manager ask for feedback and dont take feedback positively.
@themeaningoflifeexpert5 ай бұрын
Shouting at you is intimidation that violates the Protection from Harassment Act 2014 where causing alarm, distress, intimidation and insult carries a 6 months' jail term and 5K fine. If such happens you need to call the police to go down immediately.
@theultimatereductionist75925 ай бұрын
EXCELLENT!
@ongtayjoojames-ow1bs26 күн бұрын
The worst was when I was attached to the Paya Lebar Air Base...!!! Those uniform MEs will shout crazily at u, behind closed doors...!!! Even those female MEs, behave like totally "tom-boys...!!!" But out side in public, they behave well...!!!😳🙄😬🤨
@themeaningoflifeexpert26 күн бұрын
@@ongtayjoojames-ow1bs you can still file lawsuit, and email to a member of parliament to further your case, and could get monetary compensation. Don't let free money go away.
@ongtayjoojames-ow1bs26 күн бұрын
@@themeaningoflifeexpertOh...!!! The thing is this...! It was in 2014 and I resigned in less than a year working there. Bcos the work place was that horrible...!!!😬 Anyway, I don't have any prove or whatsoever. But I do remember their names. Any advise...???!!!🤔🙄
@themeaningoflifeexpert26 күн бұрын
@@ongtayjoojames-ow1bs you can still file lawsuit for damages due to a hostile workplace environment and harassment. Your witness to the crime is the evidence. If you do not resolve it, it will come back in the form of depression in the future. You can try pro bono lawyers who will accept payment if you win the case.
@vinslifestory5 ай бұрын
Me too facing the same issue. My manager likes to micromanage small freaking trivia matters and being inflexibility. The OLs (20 plus years old) like to bad mouth about other co-workers and Sa Kah the manager (Corporate ladder). Really hate it very much!
@arthuryang4815 ай бұрын
TAFEP should take a look at the hospitality and F&B industry
@kitty25275 ай бұрын
Including nursing.
@diva555sg5 ай бұрын
Providing a what to do, what's next & how to detach mentally so anxiety & panic attack + sleepless night don't prolong for extended period. Change PTSD to PTSG to grow & moving beyond the mental cage of over & over again. Just a word of affirmation like "you can make it; I believe in you" & 1 baby step up the rung of ladder can pick up confidence & build momentum.
@limtc17335 ай бұрын
Earn your money and go home. Talk less, learn fast. To a weak person, everyone else is strong. Be strong fast. To an immunocompromised person, everywhere is toxic. Don’t complaint. Pick up your competencies and move. And before anyone knows you, move again.
@theultimatereductionist75925 ай бұрын
Wrong. Fight back. Otherwise nothing will change, and other companies will get the wrong message and become bad like this. No company is entitled to exist. No nation no culture has a right to exist. People are forced into the world without their consent. Therefore they are justified in overthrowing the pre-existing country, status quo, and making new laws: laws banning companies that act unfairly, that do not strictly reward truth and honesty and hard work proportional to that work.
@mtktkt37734 ай бұрын
Ms Rafeah is an amazing counsellor omg.. and thank you for saying that therapy is not just for people with problems, and that you can go to even just exchange ideas.. I've been putting off seeing a therapist for a long time because I am not actively depressed or suicidal or anxious, I just have thoughts that I really wish I could talk about with someone or get some advice for so this video has kind of motivated me a little to seek help/therapy or find someone I can talk to. Thank you and god bless.
@RebekahAPinto5 ай бұрын
I once worked in a homeschool, where I felt most of the time that I was left in the dark about quite a lot of things that's happening around me, at that workplace. Nobody updated me about anything, it's like things were hush hush.
@jasontungjw5 ай бұрын
I used to think that people can shout at me and I just take it in. Now if someone were to shout at me the person must be prepared to get shouted back by me. Don't play with me.
@Dogdrum5 ай бұрын
Your second sentence does not make sense at all.
@Tonytayloring5 ай бұрын
Haha usually when you shout back in retuen all will give you dirty look and whisper behind you like 'waaa, he shout at boss!!'
@themeaningoflifeexpert5 ай бұрын
Shouting at you is intimidation that violates the Protection from Harassment Act 2014 where causing alarm, distress, intimidation and insult carries a 6 months' jail term and 5K fine. If such happens you need to call the police to go down immediately....
@theultimatereductionist75925 ай бұрын
Excellent, jasontungjw!
@fidelcatsro69485 ай бұрын
Limiting exposure to stress through activities such as exercise and spending time in nature is essential to break this cycle. It’s also best to avoid negative messages and sensationalized news that provoke these anxious thoughts. Additionally, incorporating adaptogens into our diet, such as vitamin B1 and ashwagandha, helps to strengthen our ability to cope with daily stress.
@markymfong52895 ай бұрын
Toxic is when your immediate supervisor gave your job to a foreign person located out of Singapore, and replace your job, and you are the last person who know about it. Best part is, they retrench you right after your annual vacation, and pay you zero despite years of service with the company. MOM stated retrenchment benefit is under the discretion of employer and there's nothing you can do about it legalky. Well-done MOM policy which is so outdated.
@Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG5 ай бұрын
No point complaining, I’ve started Voting for a pro employee political party…
@Soul-eee5 ай бұрын
Ick. having worked in an environment where toxicity was always growing for nine years. I got a HELL from my previous team lead.
@dan13275 ай бұрын
Back Stabbing are very common in Singapore. Due to the high competition in jobs and lots of foreign talent imported by the local government and forcing Singaporean to compete with these people and settle for a lower paid jobs.
@Unteroffizier5 ай бұрын
If you see constant same ads of a certain position at a certain company, possible that the work culture in that company sucks, that's why turnover rate high and the company has to keep hiring for the same position every once in a few/couple of months.
@ongtayjoojames-ow1bs26 күн бұрын
The worst was when I was attached to the Paya Lebar Air Base...!!! Those uniform MEs will shout crazily at u, behind closed doors...!!! Even those female MEs, behave like totally "tom-boys...!!!" But out side in public, they behave well...!!!😳🙄😬🤨
@Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG4 ай бұрын
There’s a lot toxic workplaces in Singapore as a single person. Now imagine the amount of discrimination working parents would face when they have insufficient parental and childcare leaves. Take any unpaid or MCs to cover that shortfall and you’ll be providing the perfect opportunity to be graded as a “low performer” by managers and be given the PIP letter. Basically Constructive dismissal…
@nandani755 ай бұрын
Currently, I'm facing the same issues.
@ongtayjoojames-ow1bs26 күн бұрын
The worst was when I was attached to the Paya Lebar Air Base...!!! Those uniform MEs will shout crazily at u, behind closed doors...!!! Even those female MEs, behave like totally "tom-boys...!!!" But out side in public, they behave well...!!!😳🙄😬🤨
@Humorousguy645 ай бұрын
Approach MOM .....few times if one time not enough ...MOM is specialised on helping
@ongtayjoojames-ow1bs26 күн бұрын
The worst was when I was attached to the Paya Lebar Air Base...!!! Those uniform MEs will shout crazily at u, behind closed doors...!!! Even those female MEs, behave like totally "tom-boys...!!!" But out side in public, they behave well...!!!😳🙄😬🤨
@claim7buddha8925 ай бұрын
i run a business. i paid 2 people literally almost half of my earnings, raised their pay and bought them gifts, even scolded by 1 of them only for them to turn out lazy and entitled. One of them is literally replying emails part time while earning thousands a month. I've only been nothing but nice and kind to them but in the end this is what i get. This is why as a boss now i want to become demanding. When you treat people too well, this is how people treat you instead. It's not the boss' fault all the time. Maybe some of them like me have tried the nice way only for it to backfire
@tankgojet24685 ай бұрын
When management is not competent , the only way is to use unethical tactics, gaslighting, blaming, intimidation, manipulation, passive aggressive, lies, ridicule, disrespect, bullying.These management continue to stay, but the staff experience a high turnover. If you go against them, the management uses bad work performance appraisal, heavy work load, unfair work load to force you to leave. The unfortunate thing is all the employers will believe the employers not the victimised employee. That's why nowadays it's almost mandatory to suck up to your boss to survive.
@miaoyi56315 ай бұрын
fnb workplace quite toxic
@Tony.L97935 ай бұрын
every workplace is toxic, gov sector the same
@RebekahAPinto5 ай бұрын
I almost ended up working in the hotel industry. Line of work: F&B. That was when I just entered my 20s.
@tankgojet24685 ай бұрын
A toxic work place is due to active or inactive action of poor management for human welfare
@Kimmi75815 ай бұрын
I vouch! I work in govt too!
@ongtayjoojames-ow1bs26 күн бұрын
The worst was when I was attached to the Paya Lebar Air Base...!!! Those uniform MEs will shout crazily at u, behind closed doors...!!! Even those female MEs, behave like totally "tom-boys...!!!" But out side in public, they behave well...!!!😳🙄😬🤨
@propertytsunami30715 ай бұрын
5star hotel the worst due to labours' incentive
@ahwongwk5 ай бұрын
may be those toxic staff need to get help... they are the one who trying to burn other staff and help to shxt the compy reputation.. not forgetting, make ppl label them as ?!&@..
@Tonytayloring5 ай бұрын
There's no changing certain human nature. No matter where u turn to such kind do exist
@JohnSear5 ай бұрын
Toxic workplace, colleagues and bosses
@user-nt6fn9zw6f5 ай бұрын
So as singapore had changed to a multi-nation country (multi-nation-singapore) so even with the saf soldiers also no use, it's the pap party mistakes and there's no way to u-turn back.
@russiasucks71705 ай бұрын
Multi-nation country ? I did not know there is a nation one in Bedok and another one in Ang Mo Kio. Seriously, an illiterate blaming the government ?
@flashnimi5 ай бұрын
Cant even program your spambots to use coherent english?
@2bystander25 ай бұрын
if you choose to stay, blend in. if not leave or start your own company. its strange u bring your own expectations and feel entitled how u shld work and results u deliver
@ILovePlayingZeldaGamesOnSwitch5 ай бұрын
Learn fast until they stop pestering you. I give myself 4 months to completely learn including how to handle colleagues (i'm in healthcare). I worked in 1st company for 5yrs. Currently 9 yrs. Nobody could bully me anymore. I have good relationship with colleagues and supervisors.
@Tonytayloring5 ай бұрын
Ohhh.. blend in means if they're toxins, be a toxin as well.. Oh I get it. Very insightful advice
@CreativWyse5 ай бұрын
Green telco
@bdp28683 ай бұрын
Entering to the video, seeing some lady covered from toes to head, trying to give a speech about toxicity, when she is unable to spot how her own culture has the most underwhelming toxic and opressing ever way of living..... But hey, full panel of women talking about this so i see where this goes. Deleting and blocking.
@Tonytayloring5 ай бұрын
No wonder so many SInkies so swollen in the face, cheeks, legs and double chinning.. Result of stress-induced elevated cortisol overdosing the body and screwing up the hormones...
@MyHanck5 ай бұрын
Elephant in the room
@user-nt6fn9zw6f5 ай бұрын
Also people said after they took the jabs previously but nowadays they only became more and more easily to fall sick, it's the pap party mistakes and there's no way to u-turn back.
@xfool5 ай бұрын
not happy just quit lah
@Tonytayloring5 ай бұрын
Yeaaa.. then we can quit from every company from now on
@theultimatereductionist75925 ай бұрын
To limtc: Wrong. Fight back. Otherwise nothing will change, and other companies will get the wrong message and become bad like this. No company is entitled to exist. No nation no culture has a right to exist. People are forced into the world without their consent. Therefore they are justified in overthrowing the pre-existing country, status quo, and making new laws: laws banning companies that act unfairly, that do not strictly reward truth and honesty and hard work proportional to that work.