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My name is Zara Beth (zeezee25 on tiktok) and I post videos about disability, neurodiversity and what its like living with Tourette's Syndrome, Functional Neurological Disorder (FND) and a chronic illness called Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS). Tourette's syndrome is a neurological condition causing involuntary movements called tics.
I use my social media (TikTok, KZfaq and Instagram) to advocate and raise awareness for my conditions and show what it is like living with a disability as a neurodivergent person.
I am also autistic and share my sensory struggles along with my experiences with mental health disorders.
I show what its like having a disability and the accomodations I have to help my daily life. I am also an ambulatory wheelchair user showing my life using mobility aids and how symptoms change from day to day!
I am also a musician with a popular song called "She's Mine" available on all streaming services - I wrote, produced, mixed and mastered all my songs myself! I am also an artist and a writer. I love reading and I'm currently writing a novel and a book about my life!
@Zara_Beth 7 ай бұрын
reminder that this isn’t a diagnostic tool or that these traits aren’t ONLY for neurodivergent people 🙃💖
@BaylieWhite-fz9zz 7 ай бұрын
The fact that I put my fingers down on the same ones you did 💀
@user-gj6rl7po9q 7 ай бұрын
Oh wow I had put so many fingers down im so different haha. Bro I have adhd and other stuff and I despise adhd content. It’s cringe and it’s going to make people think they are quirky for no reason. Stop it
@BaylieWhite-fz9zz 7 ай бұрын
@@user-gj6rl7po9q she is just spreading awareness about it so don’t hate on her.
@lightfuse5091 7 ай бұрын
Who thought this was
@ttijana 7 ай бұрын
@@user-gj6rl7po9qwhy did u comment it will only bring u more content that your not enjoying. The algorithms show you vids similar to those u comment on so if u really don't like ppl being silly on the internet don't comment just leave the vid. Or u could click the don't recommend so your even less likely to see similar content.
@kimberleyhosmer5997 7 ай бұрын
Questionnaires are frustrating because they don’t allow you to give details, explanations of your choices, or options to choose more than one option! Mine invariably end up being covered in notes between the questions! 😂 I struggled with this even in grade school when we were supposed to guess what was happening in a picture and of course the only “correct” answer was related to some current spelling word or something but to me, the picture was very ambiguous.
@jollyquinn430 7 ай бұрын
@kimberleyhosmer5997 I hate it so much. Just yesterday I had to do one at my doctor's. I have to do it 4 times a year and I hate it. It's for chronicle pain. The question "Do you often have a dry mouth" makes me always mad. Because I often have a dry mouth because of my meds. Not because of my pain itself. And then I have to say if certain adjectives describe my pain. Adjectives like 'terrible, excruciating, torturing, creepy, etc' It's actually not in English. I'm just using some English words as examples. But the actual adjectives are some, I've never heard anyone describe their pain.
@AnnekeOosterink 7 ай бұрын
Yeah, I always want to explain the situations in which my answer applies, or ask how often is often etc. I don't know if you've ever seen the "literacy" test (it's called that, it doesn't test for literacy at all) that was used to exclude black people from voting? Every question had several possible answers and any of them could be considered right or wrong based on the whims of the corrector. Some questionnaires make me feel like filling out one of those tests.
@JJ-dr7im 6 ай бұрын
OMG yes. Overthinking them. Also, yes 'what do they mean' or, 'none apply to me, I want ANOTHER option!'. Doesn't help that I deal with questionnaires a lot in my job and often say 'well this is porely designed' or 'I wouldn't have asked it like that'! I get a lot of eye-rolling from colleagues lol. Often get to look at draft surveys etc. Big mistake if they ever want them finalised, or not twice as long as when they started😂
@artemisameretsu6905 6 ай бұрын
Don't try to take autism diagnostic tests then bc if you're like that you'll find them just as rage inducing as I did.. To be fair that should probably be one of the questions "do you think you were given an adequate amount of choice options per question?" The obvious answer is no but at least I'd feel a little better knowing the frustration was PART of the quiz 😂
@sacredweeds 6 ай бұрын
I always explain where I need to in questionnaires. There is usually enough blank space somewhere if it’s on paper. At the Dr office online questionnaires include an extra info space. Whew!!!
@ipot3ka 7 ай бұрын
"what?...I'm gay" GOLD
@madgoose_ 7 ай бұрын
I find hilarious that Zara didn't say "lesbian"
@Lscott-fk2sn 7 ай бұрын
@@madgoose_probably bi or pan then
@preppycloset 7 ай бұрын
@@madgoose_why
@madgoose_ 7 ай бұрын
@@preppycloset cuz "gay" is primarily male homosexuality
@madgoose_ 7 ай бұрын
@@th3dream1ng so why gay men can't call themselves "lesbians" :/
@Maerahn 6 ай бұрын
I didn't put a finger down for the questionnaires one because I don't consider them *impossible* to complete - but, now I think about it, they ALWAYS leave me feeling "These are stupid questions, they don't allow for ANY nuance at all... ah, screw it, I'll pick that one, because it doesn't matter anyway..!"
@fluffpawz Ай бұрын
yes omg same
@diremirebee Ай бұрын
I’m so sorry but this counts 😭 overthinking questionnaires is part of it. Thats what my doctor said when I spoke about the pre-screening tests to be a pain to get though cause there’s always a “but-“ clause.
@WildHeart378 Ай бұрын
Or it’s because it question isn’t specific enough
@alisonwhite9588 23 күн бұрын
Same!! They never allow you to provide an accurate, whole answer, and it $***$ me to tears!!!!!
@rolfs2165 22 күн бұрын
"it doesn't matter anyway..!" Well, except if it's a diagnostic questionnaire. For half of the questions on the ADHD one I was like "technically no, but only because I do this". The other half was remembering stuff that would have changed my answer like a month later.
@gh0stpuppi333 6 ай бұрын
Questionnaires (ESP mental health questionnaires at the doctor) are so hard because I’m always like “well, do I ACTUALLY feel this way or is my brain LYING to me??? If I answer with 1000% honesty are they gonna put me back in the psych ward????? Am I feeling this way FOR ATTENTION??? No I do genuinely feel like I wanna die all the time… BUT WHAT WILL THEY THINK OF ME??????”
@weirdnessfades 4 ай бұрын
DUDE SAME I hate the "lack of focus" and "speaking so fast or slower that others may notice" because ITS NOT SPECIFIC I'm just sitting there staring at it like "I know this is for depression but I was never able to focus in class even before my depression, would I say "all the time" or "never"??? And the speaking too fast part too, idk what could be causing that?? It's normal for me" And I always feel like I'm faking it when really I don't remember how often I feel a certain way or do a certain thing, I don't keep track and when I do, I never look back at it
@goldfigger5674 Ай бұрын
YALL ARE BOTH SO RIGHT
@rolfs2165 22 күн бұрын
Also, "do you struggle with X" - well … no, but only because I explicitly do stuff to avoid or preempt it.
@JL-qz3be 7 ай бұрын
I'm left with 2 fists, and an urge to start boxing, outta turn adhd into a superpower with hyperfixation in the boxing world
@silentlover1905 7 ай бұрын
Omfg lmaoo
@JL-qz3be 7 ай бұрын
@@anengineer152 let's do it G
@JonathanMullany-fx1qh 7 ай бұрын
Does ocd count as neurodivergent?
@JL-qz3be 7 ай бұрын
@@JonathanMullany-fx1qh being completely honest I'm a fucking mess mate I have no clue what ocd is outside of having to do certain things in certain orders
@richardmertens2951 7 ай бұрын
Lol
@Vapourwear 7 ай бұрын
THE QUESTIONNAIRES! I always find myself thinking "that's not how the words 'agree' and 'disagree' even work, that's just a factual statement...." or "this isn't a survey, this is a series of "questions" designed to bolster the interrogator's preconceived notions...." or ......
@Evija3000 7 ай бұрын
I never understood how other people can do personal questionaires quickly. Like, do they not need to introspect to find the right answers? If we were doing one in a group I'd always be the last one.
@Vapourwear 7 ай бұрын
@@Evija3000 I'm starting to think that "think" has distinctly different meanings depending upon which "thinker" is speaking.
@ChaniBethyPooPoo 7 ай бұрын
You know, I didn't really think I struggled with questionnaires at first, but then I went down into the comments and saw replies like yours. It turns out I DO actually do stuff like this. 😆 For me, it depends on the type of questionnaire/ how straightforward it is.
@gnu740 7 ай бұрын
Argh, questionnaires! I always overthink the questions and get annoyed at how ambiguous some of them are. Like, if the question asks, Would you say that…? Am I answering subjectively? Objectively? I feel one way about certain things, but that doesn’t mean I can’t see the other side, so how do I answer? Or if I instantly see circumstances where a statement could be true/false, when they’re clearly looking for the opposite answer. I need a box underneath to qualify my answer, please.
@purrgundy 6 ай бұрын
This! I'm glad I'm not the only one asking questions to the questions! 😂 "what do you mean?"/"Well, it depends on the context"/"Define [_]" or even "...what the fuck are you on about?!" 😂
@lolgacha3217 5 ай бұрын
OMG THE WRITTEN COMMUNICATION. I am incapable of explaining/expressing my feelings and opinions by verbal communication, I prefer 100 times written communication. Even when I was little, I used to give my mother notes about how much I loved her instead of just telling her out loud, same when I was angry or sad or happy, I wrote it down to let other people know
@WelcomingFrown 3 ай бұрын
I think i can only truly express something to another person through visual stimuli, on occasion paired with auditory stimuli, probably why my special interest is film studies
@mancubwwa 17 күн бұрын
@@WelcomingFrown Interesting my preferd communication goes face to face > written > voice only.
@heatherrae901 11 күн бұрын
This is me 100%. My mom has passed away but she kept all my notes, professions of love and everything else. And it’s still me today, I feel I can express and represent myself clearer in writing. In person I’m usually quite uncomfortable because interactions are just draining and overwhelming.
@MonAhgasInsomniAroELF 6 ай бұрын
most neurotypical people actually do experience all these things! and what's more, not all neurodivergent people will experience all of these things either, since neurodivergence is a huuuge spectrum. i'm AuDHD (ADHD and Autistic) and i only put down 4 or 5 fingers. as some people have mentioned in the comments, some of these things can also be behaviors resulting from trauma, not necessarily even linked to neurodivergence at all. but something to consider if you're wondering if you may be neurodivergent, is the frequency of your symptoms/behaviors. stimming, for example, is done by _both_ neurotypicals and neurodivergents. but where neurotypicals stim only occasionally (maybe a couple times a week or even less often), neurodivergents--especially those with ADHD and/or Autism--will stim pretty much every day, often multiple times a day. just like how if you sneeze once or twice, you and everyone around you probably won't think much of it if they notice at all. but if you're sneezing every few hours, and everyone around you seems to be noticing the difference (maybe even pointing it out to you), it's pretty likely you're coming down with something. neurodivergence is much like that. of course, as the OP stated, games like these, as well as online questionnaires, shouldn't be taken too seriously. they're mostly for fun. but they can definitely be a springboard that leads to real research, self realizations, and consultations with qualified professionals. and there's nothing at all wrong with that :)
@TheStar333 24 күн бұрын
Please don't call it Neuro divergent symptoms. Neuro divergent is a umbrella term that consists of many different disorders and conditions. You saying it's only ADHD and autism invalidates the other disorders and leaves people with misinformation.
@heatherrae901 11 күн бұрын
Yeah I’ve been stimming for as long as I can remember. I have the fingernails (or lack-thereof) to show for it. It’s very obvious to those around me.
@zoe0640 7 ай бұрын
The confusion around gender or sexually diverse was a demonstration of why questionnaires are difficult. Also the answer "it depends". (I'm an 8.5?)
@bipolartorecovery1485 6 ай бұрын
As a person who doesn't identify with the social construct of feminine for my culture and beautiful people come in all forms, i get how this is a difficult question
@seaturtle555 6 ай бұрын
8-8.5 here too because I don’t know if people take advantage of my trusting nature, like they might but it’d be behind my back if anything
@penelopesparrow 5 ай бұрын
I actually laugh at myself now bc I've noticed almost every time I get asked an opinion-based question my answer is 'depends' 😅 (this time it was the guilt one)
@EnderSword 5 ай бұрын
Not sure what the confusion was, if she's gay then yeah, that's pretty obviously a Yes
@TooBrokeToAffordCoffee 4 ай бұрын
That one confused me a bit. I’m bisexual, so would I put a finger down for that one? 🤔
@rosiecheeks.k 4 ай бұрын
The one about not starting new tv shows hit me DEEP!!!!!!😂😂
@sexygoldfish_444 6 ай бұрын
i have never heard someone actually bring up the struggle of listening or watching new things, it’s stressful and for some reason it’s just hard. same with committing to books.
@chloebenn5708 4 ай бұрын
I'm good with factual books/TV what I struggle with is new fiction....
@sexygoldfish_444 3 ай бұрын
@@chloebenn5708 it’s just really nerve racking in general, even if i really want to watch something
@Cr4zyLady 2 ай бұрын
Yes! Have struggled trying to explain to friends why I don't have the mental energy yet to watch the show they have suggested, even though I know I will like it...
@blackquartzsphinx6853 9 күн бұрын
I have so many shows I still want to watch but then when it's time to start something new I just watch KZfaq videos from people I already know lol. And I *never* intentionally listen to new music. I have my 16gb SD card in my 10 year old mp3 player that I just listen to on repeat lol. The only way I ever find new music at all is when it's in the background in a TV show (when I actually start watching it lol) or when I'm at someone else's place and they put on music.
@sexygoldfish_444 8 күн бұрын
@@blackquartzsphinx6853 thats so relatable, i have a list on my phone of all the things i want to watch and it seems to grow more than it does shrink. i have to be heavily acquainted with something before i start it. also the music thing is so so relatable, i have a long playlist of things but i typically only listen to the same 4 things over and over again. or ill listen to the same artist on loop due to familiarity. wooo go autism lol.
@reneecardineau 7 ай бұрын
The written communication one is always so funny to me. I over think everything and rewrite texts over and over again while feeling extreme anxiety so it's much easier for me to have verbal communication. If i say something embarrassing, I'll over think it and feel bad later lol but at least I'm not frozen and unable to say anything.
@cm8104 6 ай бұрын
seriously same. interpreting what the other person is saying and how they're reacting to what i'm saying is tremendously more difficult when i can't see or hear them. i'm getting better at letting go and just writing but i still feel like i'm always trying very hard.
@Traci_Websinger 6 ай бұрын
I found this out when I realized that I learned better when I took notes in class. I rarely went back over them, but writing things down helped cement them in my brain. Now, it shows up by a preference to read captions while I listen to someone's videos. Huh, I wonder if this is why I really am not fond of audiobooks. I need to read the words. (Although I was terrible about reading textbooks, lol.)
@jaquicx9500 6 ай бұрын
Lol I relate, but I prefer non verbal because Id rather just take forever retyping things bc the fear of saying something wrong is that high 😂 but ironically enough, speaking is much more convenient, and as long as its in person, I'm much better at it than writing.
@justAmood8 6 ай бұрын
It depends for me. I prefer written over spoken because I can put my thoughts into clearer language that way, but 0hone calls are a nightmare for me
@eliotb.1219 6 ай бұрын
I’m the exact opposite lol. I can kind of freeze up and have lots of pauses between words when I’m verbally communicating, especially if it’s someone I don’t have a close connection with and it’s not just small talk. I’ll be talking to my new addiction clinic counselor (counselors are mandatory even tho I have no fears of relapse), and the conversation ends up taking so much longer because of all the pauses and “uhh, umm”s and trying to remember specific words because I didn’t start learning English til kindergarten (5 y/o) because my parents are Romanian immigrants who didn’t wanna teach me broken English. Well, I’m great at English, when it comes to reading and writing, but when it comes to actual speech my brain gets so jumbled up
@yellowishgreendragon.-. 7 ай бұрын
Sometimes these can be side effects of having trauma.
@sol-leks6122 6 ай бұрын
So I might not be neurodivergent just PTSD and bpd? So confusing
@Toon_Topaz 6 ай бұрын
@@sol-leks6122PTSD and BPD are still neurodivergency, it's not just ADHD and autism. ND just means that the brain is different from what's "typical" of most people. Dyslexia is neurodivergency as much as NPD is
@sarahb.6475 6 ай бұрын
I have autism and PTSD.
@KxNOxUTA 6 ай бұрын
Trauma is a so called "acquired" neurodivergence. Plus being neurodivergent makes us incredibly prone to trauma, compared to neurotypical ppl.
@JoanneOP 6 ай бұрын
Wait-what? I got 8 out of ten.
@the98themperoroftheholybri33 6 ай бұрын
Everyone has been taken advantage of their trust. Thats called the human experience
@misty8265 6 ай бұрын
10/10 🎉 I aim for excellence lol. But really, I’ve been working on healing a number of these ways/habits and have made substantial progress that has greatly improved my quality of life. I’m still very neurodivergent and will never not be, but healing and growth is possible and I know because I’ve done a lot of it. Much love to all of the neurodivergent people of the world and especially the ones reading this comment. 💗
@puffthecatpuff8931 7 ай бұрын
"Do you plan conversations in your head?" ....give me a minute...assume it could get heated, and practice my chest puffing.
@mariaevans8437 6 ай бұрын
Yep 🤣🤣
@autumnzephyr 5 ай бұрын
I used to, but I don't really do it anymore. I will have a mock dialogue with myself in the car, about a topic which I will most likely either A) not discuss with anyone, or B) not be as dramatic IRL as I was when talking to myself. I don't know how to feel about that. 😑
@hannahk1306 4 ай бұрын
I was an adult before I realised that not everyone plans conversations in their head...
@lselley1980 4 ай бұрын
Don't forget to later relive the conversation a dozen times, improving on what you said when it's much too late.
@puffthecatpuff8931 4 ай бұрын
@@lselley1980 and with time, you forgot what you were so upset about...
@user-gr6sg3fx4e 7 ай бұрын
where did all my fingers go 😭
@justAmood8 6 ай бұрын
Thanksgiving is coming up and turkey is too expensive these days. We had to put something on the table. On the bright side, your robot hands that you get 20 years from now will be awesome.
@TheWordWizard 5 ай бұрын
😋
@liolatte 6 ай бұрын
I struggle when questionnaires are too simplified with their options and questions. When the answer is yes/no to a complicated question such as “I like to party” Like what do you mean by party? A large get together? Clubbing? Chilling with friends on a Saturday? Give me more than yes or no!!!
@wildmoose6934 6 ай бұрын
The written vs vocal communication... it depends!! In general, i prefer writing because i can take my time choosing my words and i can erase the whole thing if i change my mind. If my brain needs to improvise more than one thing at a time or remember stuff on the spot, i melt. But if i need to communicate a complicated issue, i find it easier to plaj my conversation and speak rather than write, because writing long paragraphs is boring to read for anyone and often ends up being a waste
@TempestWind87 7 ай бұрын
All of these except apologizing because my mom taught me early on that "I'm sorry" means you always have to change the behavior and should only be used for very serious situations.
@TheMushroomFrog678 6 ай бұрын
My parents tried to teach me that from an early age too but my response would always be to apologise for apologising and then I just apologised more so they gave up lol
@ameeliamartin 5 ай бұрын
OMG, as a mom trying to teach my daughter not to apologize for merely existing, I LOVE this explanation!!! It will make so much sense to a kid! TY!!!!
@victoriabaker4400 5 ай бұрын
@@ameeliamartin yes, as an adult, I was able to hear and implement the idea that I shouldn't apologize for my mere existence, and that's been great. But, there is a usage of "I'm sorry" that the rule above doesnt allow, but which I feel is more than legitimate, which is to express compassion for someone's suffering by saying a version of, "I'm very sorry that happened to you." I used to just say "I'm sorry", which sounds weird and can strike observers weird. But my version expresses the whole feeling and I have found is quite appreciated. This might also be useful to your daughter in the quest to tease apart the "I'm sorry" pool of emotion. I'm both autistic and ADHD, only diagnosed late in life. Everything would have been so much easier in my life if I had been recognized. I'm glad your daughter will have that advantage.
@MelissaThompson432 5 ай бұрын
EDIT: Basically, what Victoria said: I've learned to say, "I'm sorry" with qualifications: I'm sorry you're not having a good day. I'm sorry that wasn't the answer you wanted. I'm sorry I don't have what you're looking for (have you tried XYZ?) I'm sorry I can't make promises for other people. I'm sorry the weather isn't to your liking. None of these things are under my purview; I can't do anything but commiserate. But I'm happy to do that.
@sootycat2740 7 ай бұрын
Yes to all of the above. Your face was a mirror of my thoughts.
@katandlilyblackwater 7 ай бұрын
Same
@EmOrganically 7 ай бұрын
Mine too, hehe
@Rebel8MAC 6 ай бұрын
This stuff happens to everyone in varying degrees. This sounds like a horoscope in that its vague enough for ppl to say "oh that describes ME". That's why some ppl say that it is frustrating that you cant give context to the answers because it's so vague that it almost fits everyone in some way. 🤷♂️IMO
@Bandz4feetpix Ай бұрын
The written communication thing is good to be able to visually organize your thoughts and refine them. But talking is massively preferable over text
@abj6920 7 ай бұрын
I love how for three of these I was like "eh, idk, maybe?" and for the rest my body just jostled up in a panicked "YES YES YES YES"
@barbhulme 6 ай бұрын
These ten questions have just described the entire culture of Canada. This explains so much.
@neuroticnation144 6 ай бұрын
😂
@ChaoticAngelKitten 6 ай бұрын
We’re all quite neurodivergent up here… Lol
@Sixica 6 ай бұрын
Wait...... so I may be less neurodivergent because I'm half-Canadian? Or my neurodivergence could possibly be the result of being half-Canadian. So confused, I'm sorry.🥴😋
@ChaoticAngelKitten 6 ай бұрын
@@Sixica you’re more likely neurodivergent if you are canadian… :3 we all be weird AF but it’s fine because we super polite and say sorry for absolutely no reason half the time. XD
@LimeyLemonPerson 5 ай бұрын
No wonder why all my fingers are gone!
@fuzzypickle9537 Ай бұрын
9 fingers down. A bunch of the early ones were things I have worked on and don't struggle with as much anymore. Learning to self advocate was hard and becoming disabled forced me to start taking inventory of my energy levels before agreeing to things and making sure I have built in flexibility to any plans I make.
@gennasantaquilani4863 6 ай бұрын
The one about new music and shows!! When people suggest a show or something for me to watch I really struggle to get myself to actually watch it! I always feel so bad for not doing it but I do care. My brain just won't cooperate. 😭
@gillb9222 6 ай бұрын
9 out of 10. I love new shows and music but theI watch them on a loop for a week
@mariaevans8437 6 ай бұрын
Like when you find a song that makes you feel good it gets played on repeat until it annoys me 🤣🤣
@CelineA545 5 ай бұрын
9/10 I don't know how to put thoughts into words
@heatherrae901 11 күн бұрын
Same!! I’m obsessed with horror so if theres a new horror movie out, I’m down.
@dissipatedfog 7 ай бұрын
Thank you for posting this. It made me realize that I’ve been successful with some of the issues I’ve worked on. I’ve managed to stop over committing and have cut way down on apologizing. I’ve been feeling a little overwhelmed and unaccomplished the past few weeks and this reminded me that some of the work I’ve done on myself has produced results!
@dariarussu686 6 ай бұрын
This exact thought! When they got to the points about overcomitting and apologizing, I actually paused and thought to myself "yeah, I'm working on that one .. and I'm actually doing a lot better on the second one!". It brings so much content to look back and just see how high you've climbed! So, I guess, cheers 🌞
@artlifewithrebecca4051 6 ай бұрын
Same!! Took me decades to realize, but I'm so much better on not being people pleaser and over committing. 😊
@TheNitpickChick 5 ай бұрын
Exactly! I would have put a lot more fingers down if I had done this when I was younger, but between therapy and a lot of work on myself I’ve been able to get rid of the constant guilt, the constant apologizing, the overcompensation and people pleasing (I still like being helpful, but I don’t overcommit myself anymore), etc. It felt good to recognize the progress I’ve made! 😊
@jordanlillian6801 6 ай бұрын
My one little pinky still up... I love new music and shows!!
@heatherrae901 11 күн бұрын
I do too!! I’m always on the hunt for new music and movies.
@sylviefrancis331 4 ай бұрын
With questionnaires, I wind up 2nd guessing previous answers so I go back & forth. It's usually a mess. If that's what you mean by "virtually impossible" then all my digits went south. I'm 55 y/o and have just recently started to be comfortable with who I am. I'm happy to see you answer the questions with a beautiful smile. Understanding, respecting & loving who you are gives you power. Keep being awesome!😊
@alemirdikson 7 ай бұрын
Yes to all but the "introverted and extroverted" one. I'm almost completely introverted. It takes everything I have to even pretend to be extroverted for a short period of time. Communicating with strangers is a skill I've had to actively practice my entire life, and I'm still rubbish at it. Still kind of rubbish at communicating with what few friends and family I've left. Wish I could tick that particular box, but nope.
@eliotb.1219 6 ай бұрын
I’m the exact same, but I still put my finger down because I tend to only be that introverted and socially exhausted from talking to strangers/acquaintances. When it comes to family and good friends tho, sometimes I genuinely can’t stop talking
@heatherrae901 11 күн бұрын
Same. There is zero part of me that’s extroverted. I made ONE friend, literally one, who I felt completely free to be myself around, but still not extroverted. I’m introverted around everyone, family and friends included.
@Itz._.rei. 7 ай бұрын
9 fingers down (diagnosed Tourette’s, on the pathway for autism)
@Itz._.rei. 7 ай бұрын
@@GabrielKZfaq8933 I hope you can get your diagnosis and the help you need soon!
@Itz._.rei. 7 ай бұрын
@@GabrielKZfaq8933 I hope you can get your diagnosis and the help you need soon!
@wintersoldier9273 7 ай бұрын
i got like 3 and i am autistic and have adhd
@Itz._.rei. 7 ай бұрын
@@oliviarodrigos_wife how am I acting like it’s cool?- I was just saying that I do and am in no way glorifying or making it seem cool
@beelieboo 7 ай бұрын
8 fingers and have never been diagnosed with anything in my life
@theunintelligentlydesigned4931 6 ай бұрын
Everybody plans their conversations. What makes neurodivergent different is how flexible you can be to change your planned conversation.
@MonAhgasInsomniAroELF 6 ай бұрын
i got news for ya buddy... no actually, not everyone plans out their conversations. in fact, the majority of neurotypical people do not, that's why it's considered a sign of neurodivergence, because it _is._ i'm not talking about planning out what you might say for a specific important convo, like a job interview, or going to apologize to someone, etc. or even planning what to say to a crush you're nervous about talking to. obviously most people regardless of neurotype will do that at least a few times in their life. but it means like, rehearsing or planning out even everyday _casual_ conversations with friends/acquaintances, for what to say to the cashier at the geocery checkout, or how to order your food at a restaurant. if you do those things, it's highly likely you're some form of neurodivergent.
@theunintelligentlydesigned4931 6 ай бұрын
@@MonAhgasInsomniAroELF Thanks for the clarification but you are only clarifying, not disagreeing. You even admit yourself that neurotypical people plan out what we might say for "a specific important convo, like a job interview, or going to apologize to someone, etc. or even planning what to say to a crush you're nervous about talking to." Therefore you admit that "everybody plans their conversations" and you are only clarifiying that neruotypical people don't plan EVERY conversation but neurodivergent people do. I did not know that. Thank you for the clarification.
@2Bad4YOUuu 6 ай бұрын
This girl is so sweet, I can just tell! ❤😂🥰
@Cottage11Core 7 ай бұрын
I put 8 fingers down❤ Love you, Zara❤❤❤❤❤🎉😊
@Finley_jac_real 7 ай бұрын
Same for both
@Ravbae 7 ай бұрын
Same
@mcvenne8935 7 ай бұрын
Just three down. Guess I can burn my diagnosis documents. XD
@withyoctopus 7 ай бұрын
Exactly this.
@CheapsKate77 6 ай бұрын
Where does one even get a diagnosis?
@brendalg4 5 ай бұрын
Imo most of these questions don't have anything to do with neurodivergence
@MissxLariz 5 ай бұрын
@@CheapsKate77Ive got mine from a psychologist when i initial came there to get cured from my depression and suicidal thoughts... tho i no longer remember how this shit turned into a diagnosis for autism and ADD 😂
@carmi7408 7 күн бұрын
I find ASL (I'm hearing) easier than speaking to others because of difficulty being confident while socializing, which I feel is similar to preferring writing, maybe. I want to reach fluency so i can use sign as more of a tool since it really helps me not be so anxious to communicate, but for now I'm a beginner limited to basic conversation mostly in English word order (working on more ASL grammar structure more, hopefully 🤞🏻)
@aliaksandrkasiak4582 6 ай бұрын
Wow! Scored pretty much 10 out of 10 For some questions could give more detailed explanations, but still did put the finger down. I have learnt that I most likely have autism a few years ago when my kids were going through assessment for ASD. And recently I have discovered that on the top of that I most likely live with ADHD. It does explain a lot. A lot of things started to make sense. Thank you for the video.
@einchaotenwuschel 7 ай бұрын
Ten fingers for the last one, dude.
@lethalprincess2087 7 ай бұрын
As an Autistic, all of them except for the sexuality one, questionnaires, & written communication. 1. Always been straight. 2. I know who I am 😆 3. I like both textual and spoken communication, but I prefer verbal, yes, when I’m actually verbal 😂
@newtonoakley 4 ай бұрын
The new music or television shows… I didn’t know that was part of it! (I put that down to the anxiety! 😂)
@arthurpprado 5 күн бұрын
Only three. Interestingly, I used to struggle with spoken communication more until I had to start working retail. The big irony is that I trained myself to organize my thoughts more patiently in order to actually express myself orally, so I kinda have to plan what I want to say, but in the moment instead of beforehand
@bookgirl7393 7 ай бұрын
I haven’t been diagnosed with anything but I put over half my fingers and I find it really hard to make friends and let people in and have lasting relationships. I don’t no what to say or read social situations but this channel makes me feel seen
@thebluewolf2472 7 ай бұрын
That could possibly be mild autism (asperges) or ADHD, maybe both. If you can, you should see a professional.
@rosewater_ 7 ай бұрын
Same
@NatalieTheSnail 7 ай бұрын
I also relate to this channel a lot, but I’m not neurodivergent. Labels and diagnoses can be helpful, but it’s also okay to just exist as you are and find connections where you can❤️
@istoppedcaring6209 6 ай бұрын
try to meet with autistic people at college, In ghent we are looking to start a student organisation but it's hard to get the ball rolling
@xragdoll5662 6 ай бұрын
@@thebluewolf2472Asperger’s isn’t a diagnosis and don’t diagnosis somebody you don’t know
@TJ-fg3vs 6 ай бұрын
These questions are so general they could apply to anyone
@Hawthorn6852 4 ай бұрын
Really got me putting more fingers down than any other video with this trend
@ziggybearofficial 6 ай бұрын
Bro not a single time in my life did I ever think that the reason I’m different is because I’m neurodivergent because all of the people around me that claim they are neurodivergent never understand me. So now I guess I’m going to get evaluated for that too.
@calicocookietv7994 7 ай бұрын
I put 8 fingers down 😂
@coolsaige 7 ай бұрын
same 💀
@hailey_13137 7 ай бұрын
same lmao, I'm straight and I'm fine with questionnaires
@callmeenvi3135 7 ай бұрын
i put 9 fingers down, figures lol
@ItsNat 6 ай бұрын
All but one of them, but thats just because I enjoy discovering new shows and songs… but I have a very safe rotation of video games I like that I hyper-fixate on. It’s hard to enjoy new games without feeling guilty for not playing one of the games I know I like lol.
@kirstinmckeown3581 4 ай бұрын
9.5. I prefer written communication for instructions, but verbal for interpersonal interaction as I have more ways of monitoring mood and knowing if I've misspoken!
@valerief1231 7 ай бұрын
8/10 I am comfortable in my gender and I used to prefer written communication, and books, but now I like watching tutorials instead. BTW I’m 56 years old and feel like I’m always waiting for something, like I’m stuck and I need a better adult to come give me some direction, and I’ve forgotten what I’m really supposed to be doing.
@lestariabadi 4 ай бұрын
Same here. I’m 55.
@lambda1863 7 ай бұрын
I appreciate being seen like that I related to almost all of that
@bland9876 5 ай бұрын
"if you apologize for nearly everything" There's a certain type of girl that acts a certain way and I feel like even though I'm super shy and whatnot that I could still take advantage of them so I try to be super nice to them when I come across them and I freaked him out before my apologizing way too much. The only reason I'm not sure if I should be putting a finger down is because I mostly only do it with that type of girl and in general I don't apologize too much that I can tell.
@ellaanderson9702 7 ай бұрын
We need another Zara video it’s been too long ❤️❤️❤️
@Zara_Beth 7 ай бұрын
tonight!!!
@BubbleB0T 6 ай бұрын
As someone with AuDHD it’s nice to see someone with this do them xx there’s so many people who say they are diagnosed when they’re not and it’s very frustrating sometimes ❤
@Stenko222 6 ай бұрын
Frustrating that ppl self diagnose?
@eliotb.1219 6 ай бұрын
@@Stenko222 well if they haven’t done extensive research on it or had other people (not necessarily professionals) agree they may be ND, then yeah it’s a bit frustrating. I was self diagnosed with adhd, autism, and BPD for a few years, BUT I had done tons of research and looking into other peoples lives who were ND, plus talking about it with other ND people, before coming to any concrete conclusions. Then at 18 I started getting diagnosed. I was 100% right, I have autism, ADHD, and BPD, just as I had suspected for those few years, but I could only be certain because I learned as much as I could about those things People who watch videos like this and put more than 5 fingers down saying “omg!!! I think I have autism/adhd/something else” is what’s frustrating
@guardianeatos 6 ай бұрын
Agreed. I'm very likely ONLY ADD because I related to many Internet content about it. However, it's only an observation not a reliable diagnosis. I'll get a ADHD test some day to see if I am or not.
@istoppedcaring6209 6 ай бұрын
true or "oh but everybody has it a little bit" bish I haven't gone trough all the bs and ignorance in high school and even grade school to be told everyone kinda has it in college.
@jessicaolson490 6 ай бұрын
Well sometimes people think only asd or ADHD are neurodivergent too. Ps- adult diagnosis is prohibitively expensive. There's cheap test at the doctors do but they're no better than the internet self-test really. True testing takes more than 10 hours of a train psychologist time, and cost thousands of dollars. I know this when I had to try to renew my paperwork for college accommodations. It wasn't worth it so I never did. :/ (global language processing disorder, never tested for ASD or ADHD because I was a girl). Now that I'm in a career that studies the DSM-5... I will tell you it's an umbrella for most of those conditions. So if you have four out of five of the categories of autism you're not autistic but you're pretty close... So you will see people that are somewhere in between autistic and not autistic. And stop being hurt by the fact that almost every single mental health condition is just an extreme variant of stuff that happens to neurotypical people. For example one of the things that happens to me is I have trouble retrieving words, even very common words. What if I were to say to somebody says oh yeah me too, to stop trying to copy my condition. Hello, everybody has trouble retrieving words at some point mine's just at the level of being extreme. This tends to hold true with almost every type of mental health condition including those that fall under neurodivergent. Therefore a lot of people that are not neurodivergent will experience a lesser form, it helps them have empathy for those that have it in extreme form. It's not a bad thing, it helps bridge the gap of understanding others when approached appropriately.
@julisalamora 2 ай бұрын
I actually love filling up questionnaires AS LONG as Im allowed to answer with more than a SINGLE word. Now ...... That level of summing up kills me. I need phrases, full, extended explanations......
@jcrow236 4 ай бұрын
I was all fingers down , struggled all my life and now at 50 I learn why I’m so different. Explains a bit why I never fit in anywhere
@dreanki 7 ай бұрын
All these are signs of childhood trauma. Especially people pleasing, it's the faun response. In the fight, flight, freeze, faun system of dealing with parents that weren't emotionally there, didn't validate, hurt, or neglected their children.
@mariaevans8437 6 ай бұрын
Yes but if you have an undiagnosed spectrum condition because you have emotionally neglectful parents then it becomes exacerbated as you grow older
@Finley_jac_real 7 ай бұрын
Thank you for upload ive been checking every day
@p0ison_0ak33 6 ай бұрын
The saying sorry for everything was a quick one for me too, and we literally got the same exact score 😂
@bendeywendy8065 Ай бұрын
All but 2 of them, as I've identified those things and worked to stop that behaviour (feeling guilty for no reason and apologising when it's not warranted). But i didn't realise that reluctance to start new shows or listen to new music was an ND thing
@urmotherxo 7 ай бұрын
7, I thought this was normal 😭
@georginasmith5096 7 ай бұрын
Me too'!
@Dunno44 7 ай бұрын
I got 7 too! Im hungry 😭😭😭
@folded_pizza 7 ай бұрын
Same, let's get in line to the doctor 💀💀
@urmotherxo 7 ай бұрын
@@folded_pizza 💀😭
@noth9617 7 ай бұрын
It is normal.
@EliTomacFan54 6 ай бұрын
Your absolutely GORGEOUS i just had to say that
@samglazier1433 6 ай бұрын
All those traits are common in people who had a non empathic and overly judgemental primary care giver. They are not necessarily a sign of neurodivergence. We are all different, so much so that why do people need labels to describe themselves this way. By sticking a label on things it unfortunately more often than not creates judgement from others (because everyone has their own perspective and experience or lack there of) Just do you! ❤
@stellamariss3335 5 ай бұрын
That last one made my smile drop so fast. Yes I have in fact let myself be used. I let my “friends” walk all over me and I’ve learned my lesson in being completely oblivious to passive aggressive behavior. I just let this girl treat me horribly cause I thought she was being reasonable whatever, and then other people were like, um that’s liek really mena of her to do that I would like call her out. And I’m like 😅 so it’s not my fault she constantly hurts my feelings and makes me afraid to upset her. For context she was my roommate. Don’t worry I eventually got outta there. But it literally traumatized my naive ass. I didn’t realize I was so easily bossed around and vulnerable to being basically controlled and bullied. And I actually tried to change and fix myself cause of it. By that I mean stop being me and shutting up and doing everything I’m told plus changing HOW I ATE AND LIVED LIFE. She told me what foods I shouldn’t eat too much, and what I should and shouldn’t leave in my desk. She made me organize my desk differently cause she didn’t like how cluttered it looked. I have ducking adhd man this was absolute hell for me and as most who are also adhd relate to have RSD. So I was constantly getting my feelings hurt for no goddamn reason.
@HermioneG299 7 ай бұрын
Soo true! 🫶 xx
@annabella_jean 7 ай бұрын
3 fingers 😂
@deedistarlight7177 10 күн бұрын
I love how when it got to the questionnaire part I mentally started going “well idk see it depends….”
@Shawnne86 7 ай бұрын
I have 2-3 fingers left… out of 10. I’m neurodivergent… not sure if it’s a thing, but I’d say I’m EXTREMELY neurodivergent… verging on broken/incapable of being an adult. Sadly, my daughter (also neurodivergent) understands me and my personal struggles less and less as she gets older. It hurts, because I thought if anyone in this world understood and accepted me as I am, it would have been her. I often feel like a nuisance, even though I ALWAYS mean well.😔
@trishasurangana2278 7 ай бұрын
I don't mean to be rude, but genuine question, if you are incapable of adulthood why did you decide to go through the intense pain and stress of labour and motherhood? I hope you were not coerced into it against your active enthusiastic consent
@kateshiningdeer3334 6 ай бұрын
@@trishasurangana2278I don't have a kid, but maybe a useful insight. I struggled in my 20s, but NOTHING like the level of struggling I'm doing now at 46! I'm not sure why things have gotten harder - it honestly doesn't make any sense - nothing that big has changed. But it's WAY harder now. It may be the same way for the woman who wrote the previous comment. In my 20s, I thought I had things fairly together, and would be fine. But I was REALLY REALLY wrong. So it's possible it worked the same way for her.
@KxNOxUTA 6 ай бұрын
@@kateshiningdeer3334 It's actually quite a typical thing to happen. Especially neurodivergent women tend to hit a "glass wall" starting 30-ish+. The expectations and challenges change and we usually have many adaptations that then start to backfire on the long run. E.g. because we don't develop certain skill sets and the thing is, that progressive adulthood tends to come with more and more subtle pressure and challenges and responsibilities, while the myriads of small traumas tend to increase and weight down on us more and more.
@craigfoulkes 6 ай бұрын
@@KxNOxUTAI feel that as I get older the energy and confidence to just do it anyway had gone. I remember a person I was but can't get back to that person. My life has given me many knocks. I used to think I was lucky and so things would turn out ok. I was able to bolster myself. I might have been kidding myself. Anyway now life seems much harder.
@thejanetflights7396 7 ай бұрын
Neurodivergent is the new emo... just get through this period in your life and head towards your future ... it's way better and way cooler, I promise🙏
@kindra7774 6 ай бұрын
lol and some ppl just nvr get over it either so whatever floats their boat ig
@user-highvoltage26 6 ай бұрын
Omagawd than you! Someone said it! I was thinking is everyone just a paid actor
@prettyrat. 5 ай бұрын
me when i just grow out of my autism
@alexandraelizabeth8522 5 ай бұрын
I'm neurotypical, but I put down as many fingers as you did because I was a victim of a lot of abuse and it impacted my life. But questionnaires don't bother me and I prefer spoken to written communication.
@thatoneidiot5108 6 ай бұрын
Hi about the apologizing all the time for everything! I’m neurodivergent and I’ve had this problem big time. I just wanted to say here that you do deserve to live, and be happy and safe!! And if you have the time and resources, please try therapy. It helped me a lot to get over this with time, and it is definitely worth it. Have a nice day because you deserve it!!!!
@sapper547 3 ай бұрын
Such a beautiful, brave woman ❤
@nathananderson7962 4 ай бұрын
Not introverted, just socially anxious so quiet.
@melissagarner9055 4 ай бұрын
Many of these unfortunately are based more so in anxiety and depressive disorders and past childhood experiences, which makes those diagnoses more difficult
@MichaelJohnson-kq7qg 4 ай бұрын
Just going to point out, the fact you struggled so hard with some of the more ambiguous or less-clear questions towards the end... is, itself, an answer to the questionnaire question.
@clamh84 6 ай бұрын
My husband doesn’t understand the music thing. He’s a musician 😂 I only listen to songs that I’ve heard before, primary ones from my teen years or older. The thought of having to sit through a whole album of new music gives me anxious feelings.
@Imsimplyaskeleton 4 ай бұрын
I'm conflicted with written and spoken directions because I suck at reading baking directions or cooking ones but I will need it written down if there's something that needs to be done because verbal sounds like there's too much.
@FullMetal_Arsonist 4 ай бұрын
All but one. I’m always listening to new music.
@aknee3042 5 ай бұрын
I actually adore questionnaires because I like putting myself into categories and definitions. It's really fun to go through and tick endless boxes, and I always give really specific answers
@carsonwieker 4 ай бұрын
I agree totally. Matt's art and interviews are amazing. Thanks for sharing.
@juliab7934 5 ай бұрын
7/10. I’m pretty much only introverted and I don’t like written communication better because it’s harder to understand tone and implications. I also don’t overcommit to people because I know I’d let them down and I don’t want to lol.
@clararose1795 6 ай бұрын
It felt really good to be able to keep some fingers up for things I used to deal with, but don’t anymore after figuring out my diagnoses and working through therapy, etc., to unmask, set boundaries, and practice self compassion. I’m not all the way there yet, but i see a path forward that’s not so exhausting and that feels more genuine and I’m so excited to be on it.
@__Xendra__ 3 ай бұрын
I actually do not know how to apologize, i think its bc of that "don't apologize, do better" thing, ive always hated that
@lselley1980 4 ай бұрын
ALL OF THEM! But mine are from CPTSD, which often mimics ADHD, etc.
@mvo9856 5 ай бұрын
My reason for struggling with questionnaires is because Google Forms will "lose connection" with my bad internet and make me go back to page 1 on every page of the form. The nuerodiverse part is me saying to myself, "I need to get a developer job at Google just to fix Google forms." 😅 I will have to do that after I get a job at Facebook and fix the fact that you can't ask to not be shown a specific "memory" again. The only option is to see less memories in general. 😤
@abipoole2859 6 ай бұрын
I have 4 fingers remaining. I don’t have any diagnoses, but I definitely am on some sort of spectrum for something. It’s always oddly reassuring when I hear other people who do have legit diagnoses say they have some traits and behaviors that I have. I wish I could’ve had some of this insight in school. I felt like there was something wrong with me and really struggled with some things.
@interestingboyo790 4 ай бұрын
NO QUESTIONARRES ARE SO FRUSTRATING BECAUSE THE QUESTIONS ARE ALWAYS SO VAGUE AND BROAD AND I HAVE TO THINK ABOUT MY ANSWER FOR LIKE 5 MINUTES FOR EACH QUESTION.
@RainbowWolfWiskers 6 ай бұрын
8 fingers. Also I'm actually neurodivergent! I have ADHD, Autism and apparently terettes but I don't really get tics, sometimes I make noises but I can control it sometimes. Also some physical disabilities
@aleisterlilywhite1109 6 ай бұрын
A lot of these are things that used to affect me. I’ve had my diagnosis for almost 4 years now and I’ve been unlearning most of those behaviors, thoughts, and feelings.
@boocrimson7720 6 ай бұрын
*me sitting with a single pinky up for struggling to start new shows* I love starting new shows just can't finish often
@girlfromnowheree Ай бұрын
Fingers all down..but Feel guilty for no reason 😢 I’ve been working hard to not to feel that way goshhh
@kylapollard9275 4 ай бұрын
I find questionnaires don’t have specific enough questions cause so much depends on so much. I redo questionnaires all the time especially ones got to do with psychology. No wonder why school was so hard 😅
@0_-.HatsuneMiku.-_0 6 ай бұрын
Im left with one pinkie out like a Brit drinking tea. Lmao☕
@empath9814 6 ай бұрын
The people pleaser part was a hard thing to come out of and I still struggle with it when it comes to friends.
@AmyraCarter 6 ай бұрын
Left me with two fingers. I hate questionnaires. Ugh.
@StephanieMac19 6 ай бұрын
Honestly, these are things almost everyone struggles with...
@nverted-dynamo 6 ай бұрын
Everyone has stomach aches. Does it mean everyone has Ulcerative Colitis? What do yall think the definition of a disease, disorder, or syndrome is? It's the extremes that differentiate it. Why is it so hard to comprehend damn 💀
@HappyCat37 Ай бұрын
One of the few things I've gotten 100% on
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