Cas teb chaw mekas tseem muaj tej tug niam plog phem ua luaj li thiab ...lub neej mus ua luag nyab niam plog tej nkauj tej muam gis nyiam yus mas tu siab tshaj

The nyab that they dont like, then they will never like. You can do all you can for them but it will never be enough.

Sister koj niam pog txoj kev npam ntag mas tseem tshuav koj cov muam cov kev npam thiab ov lwm hnub txog koj cov muam li kev npam ces rov hais dua rau peb mloog mog, sister yus yog neeg zoo ces ua qhov zoo xwb nawv mog

Just wow..that g-ma is the monster in law fo sho..

😭😭😭😭😭lub neej luag g hlub yus cas yuav tu siab ua luaj li os hmoob yus los ua luag nyab tub qaug luag tag ib sim neej yus los ua ib tug pos chob luag niam luag txiv lub siab muab txog hnub tuag tab sis luag tsim yus tu siab ncus ruj rawv rau lub siab chim tag tiam no txog hnub tuag los ntshe yuav zam g tau txim rau qhov luag tsim yus os ib tsoom me hmoob

Tsis txhob tu siab os. Koj tus txiv twb hlub hlub koj ne.

Koj siab loj kawg tus niam laus. Tos koj pheej rov mus pem koj niam pog lawv twb yog vim koj lub siab loj siab dav thiab koj hlub koj tus txiv. Zoo heev. Koj tus txiv los zoo kawg thiab vim nws Pom qhov lawv ua phem rau koj. Endurance is the most powerful revenge we can give someone.

Why care so much what they think, my gosh. Give them too much power over your life 🙄🙄

Tsi txhob tu siab os vim lawv tsi yog tu nrog koj nyob na.

Yog lawm os leej twg tsis ntsib tsis paub os

Tus neeg tsis nyiam thiab tsis hlub koj tseev koj ua zoo los yeej tsis muaj nqi mog. Koj txawm yuav hlub lawv npaum li cas los lawv yeej tsis muaj nqi mog. Yus hlub tus kheej ua ntej Txhob muaj lub sij hawm nkim rau lawv. You’ve done all you can for this family. As long as your husband loves you, stay away from them. They are not all that. They’re probably jealous because you’re better then them. Move on with your life. Koj cov muam ntshe yuav tsis txawj ua poj nrauj kiag. Ntsia mus mas, cov neeg thuam2 lwm tus ces nws lub neej yeej yuav raws nraim luag lub ib hnub xwb. Koj thiaj tseem xav tias lwm tiam yuav rov los ua ib tug ntxhais hluas nkauj tso mam rov los ua lawv tus Nyab lawv thiaj hlub. Kuv ces Thov lub ntuj kom lwm tiam tsis txhob los ntsib pab niam ntxhais no lawm!

This is so sad and I understand her. I went through a similar situation and like she said don't wait for that koob hmoov from someone who does not like you. I didn't and I don't care for it. She is very lucky to have a loving and supportive husband who defend her when they say things to her.

Zoo koj tus txiv nyiam thiab hlub koj xwb zoo lawm ov niam pog cov muam xwb g muaj quav dab tsi os

Kuv twb yog 1tug me nyuam ntxhai 16 xyoo xwb los kuv twb nrog koj taug 1 txoj kev tsaus ntuj 1 yam tsis txawv li os tus viv ncaus aw

Wow tus sister Aws txhob tu siab os mog lawv Tsis hlub yus los xij nawb ua li no yus thiaj Tsis tshuav lawv nqis os nawb txhob tshaws lawv txoj kev hlub yog zoo li no xwb kev hlub iab siab xwb Yeej Tsis muaj ib tug neeg perfect li os cias lawv ntxhub lawv os mog ua siab Loj mog . Kuv ntsib lawm Kuv Yeej Tsis tos Leej twg kev hlub.

Sister, as long as your husband loves you. In case, do it like other nyab does it the other mother inlaw, just go and love and care about your side of family, not his. That's the best and don't care too much for the in laws.

Cas es zaj no yuav yog kuv li ib feem thiab tu siab kawg niam pog tsis nyiam ces tas kwv tas tij yeej tsis nyiam yus tiag2 li nawb

Why do u care so much about your sister in laws and mother in laws? As long as your husband love u, who cares about what they think. If they have time to hate u then let them.

Koj hais yog tshaj plaws! Kuv raug txoj kev lwj siab niam pog tsis nyiam os!!

If they don’t love you, then they will never love you. Don’t live to cater to them. No matter how much you do, they don’t care about you. Love your little family first.

Txawm tub ntxhais los txivneej yeej siab phem thiab limhiam os. Hmoob tus cwjpwm los liam kawg kiag nawb.

Tau niam pog thiab cov muam heev heev li kos ces laj ua neej nrog lawv tus neeg li os. Sister, zoo siab koj tus txiv hlub hlub koj. Keep your distance from people like that because the sisters will leave the family but you will stay. They will need you more than you'll need them. Txhob tu siab os mog.

I agree. If they don’t like you, don’t waste your time on them. Don’t beg for anyone’s love. Just love those that love you back and accept that those don’t love you will never accept you no matter what you do.

I’m sorry to see that you got some horrible in laws. I was once in your shoes too.

You married your husband not his family. As long as your husband love you, that’s all that matters. Give some credit your your husband for loving and standing by you.

Tus viv ncaus aw cas koj lub neej yuav zoo ib yam li kuv thiab os. Cas yus niam ua lub neej tsis muaj neeg nyiam yus li os. Niam pog thiab tej nkauj tej muam tej niam hlob yeej ntxub yus. Tu siab tshaj li os tus viv ncaus.

Tu siab heev os yog koj tsis tau raug txoj kev neeg ntxub ntxaug ces yeej tsis muaj hnub koj yuav nkag siab.

yog lm nawb

You forgot to love yourself first.

Gosh sister I am in the same shoes as you. This is my second marriage and I have the same issue with the SIL and MIL. My god I now know I am not alone.

Who care about the in-laws as long as your husband loves you. Don't let others behaviors' influence your life. Be yourself and continue to love your family.

Tsev neeg ua neej nrog dab ntxwj nyoog lis tsev ntawd ko nws lub neej yeej mus tsi txog twg cov muam zoo lis pab maum dev liam txwv ntawm ko ib hnub nws ua poj nrauj nws mam paub.

I get why MILs can be cruel (i don’t agree with, but understand how cruel and selfish they can get). But What i don’t understand is why would the sisters be so obsessed with hating their brothers wife. What is it to them?

Yog lawm..

Haters will always be haters. Pay no attention to them. Some people will hate you for no reason of your own but due to their own jealousy of you and insecurities when you are around. I have an evil sister in law who flat out said that I could give two shits what she thinks of me. They don’t make or break your life, it does make gatherings more awkward but screw them. You do you.

I thought my in-laws are bad but your story makes me so sad too. No matter what happen, hold to your marriage because your life is with your husband not his family. The day you married him, you are his family...not those people who torture you.

What evil mother-in-law if my mother in-law like that she never got nothing from me

I can relate. My husband mom doesn't like me ever since I started dating my husband. It has been 8 years. Once in awhile I would hear his mom call me Nyab, but it's unlikely.

Niam npam lawm.lub ntuj tsis kam txais yog koj tsis tuaj daws nws txoj sia.ob niag muam ruam ntaw ces txhob quav ntsej lawv os.lawv yeej phem li lawv niam.qub dev ces qub ntxhiab xwb.av tsij hlub koj tus txiv thiab cov me nyuam xwb.

Txhob tu siab mog viv ncaus

Zaj neej neeg no kuv tu siab heev kawg vim kuv yg ib tug ntxhais ntsuag los yuav Tau kuv tus txiv lawv tsev neeg tsi nyiam kuv ib yam .😭😭😭😭

Sister, txhob tu tu siab. The only thing that matters is that your husband love and support you. My situation is similar to yours. When you are not the Nyab they love, there’s nothing you can do to make them like you. I’ve learn to accept it for what it is and move on.

Yog kawg os txoj kev Niam pog Tsis nyiam nyab no kuv twb taug txoj kev no los lawm tu siab kawg kuv Niam pog Tsis nyiam kuv vim kuv yog hmoob dawb ces lawv yog hmoob leeg nws ntxub ntxub kuv tab sis thaum kawg nws los tuag rau kuv ib leeg pom siav thiab xwb yus Tsis tau ua phem ces nws ua rov Npam nws xwb nawb mog cov Niam pog ciav nyab nej ua phem2 rau cov nyab thaum kawg nej tuag Tsis tu siav mog kuv twb raug lub neej zoo li no lawm tam sim no kuv cov nyab kuv nyiam ib yam kuv hlub ib yam nkaus li nawb mog

Ntuj aw cov niam pog phem ces zoo li no ma thaum kawg g tau kev khiav chaw tuag

Cov niag niam pog uas cem cemmmmm cov nyab nas...mloog zoo zoo nawb...txhob cem cem thiab ntxub ntxubbbb cov nyab nawb...

Tus viv ncaus kuv twb rau kpj nkawm khaus thiab hos

Zoo heev li od

Txaus tu siab ua luaj li

Cas koj lub neej es yuav zoo li kuv thiab os tus me neeg zoo awd Tu siab hlo es tsis txhob tos luag txoj kev hlub os mog tsuav yus tus thaub hlub hlub yus xwb ces zoo kawg rau yus lawm os

Tsis kk, tsuav yog yus tus txiv hlub yus ces nyob twj ywm tsis txhob quav ntsej mog, kuv lub neej zoo ib yam li koj thiab os. Kuv yeej paub tias tusiab npaum li cas mog. Tos nws tso nws txoj sia rau koj los yeeb vim nws owed koj rau qhov nws ntxub koj dhau lawm yog nws tsis tso koob hmoov rau koj ces lub ntuj tsis cia nws mus mog.

Muaj tseeb

Me niam laus thxob tus siab mog

Ntuj aw! Tus nyab luag tsis nyiam ces koj phua paj hlwb rau lawv noj los lawv yeej tsis hlub koj.....vim yog ib tug nyab lawv tsis nyiam......tiamsis kuv distance kuv tus kheej.........tiamsis yus paub qhov txawv

Tus niam tsev koj yog tus muaj hmoo zoo tshaj plaws li lwm tus qhau koj kom koj vau tab sis koj muaj tus zoo txij nkawm txheem koj nres koj tsis pub kom koj vau tau tsim nyog koj yuav tsum zoo siab thiab hlub koj tus txuj nkawm os mog luag ntxub yus los yus tus txij nkawm hlub yus zoo dua nawb mog yog luag hlub yus es yus tus txij nkawm ntxub thiab tsis hlub yus mas haj yam tu siab tsis paub ua neeg nyob os tus niam tsev

Yog kawg

Muaj tseeb nawb luag tsi hlub yu lawm txawm kj yuav ua zoo lo yeej tsi pom yu zoo li o tu me niam tsev aw

Hai tau zoo kawg os kv caum kj lawm e kj pab caum kv thiab nawb

Mloog koj tus nyab zaj neej neeg no tas mas nrog tus nyab poj nrauj no tu siab kawg. Tos thaum kawg es koj niam pheej tsis tu siav es tos koj tuaj txog, koj hais lus tas nws mam li tuag los, vim twb yog nws muaj txoj kev txhaum loj thiab tau ua tsim mob koj los tau 10 lub xyoo diam. Qhov tos nws tuag tsis taus los vim nws mus hla tsis tau ntawm lub taw rooj tuag, vim luag cov zov lub rooj tuag ntawd yuam kom nws rov qab los rau koj ntau cim rau nws, es thaum nws tau lub cim tas lawm lub rooj tuag thiaj li kam qheb rau nws mus tom lub Ntuj sab tod xwb os. Koj lub cim , yog koj lub Kuam thaum ntws ntawm koj los mus poob rau saum koj niam lub taub hau, qhov ntawd qhia tau hais tias yog lub cim luag yuam kom koj niam rov qab los thov kom koj ntau cim rau es thiaj li mus tau, no nawb. Txhob tu siab nawb mog. Hos ua tsaug rau nyab Ntsuab Teev, nyab Ntsuab Teev tham rau koj Zaj neej neeg zoo mloog kawg nkaus. Bye...

Nws tos koj tuaj zam txim rau nws .... es nws thiaj tuag taus.

Yog kawg os tus viv ncaus aw cas wb yuav muaj txoj kev tu siab sib xws os

We wearing the same shoes

Your husband loves you thats all that matters!. Yes! We want to impress our in-laws and have equal love in return, but it is what it is!. We try to be the best nyab we can but we can only do so much sis!.

You don't need to care about mother law..if even if they love you or not....you need .think about you futures...

Txoj kev uas yus tus txiv tseg neeg ntxub yus....I can totally related. Nrog koj tus siab os.

Your 2 sister forgot someday they will end up be divorce like you.

I feel sad for you tho sister, i do wish that your life just gets better by the day to show them that there isn’t anything stopping you from not marry their son/brother.

Zaj twg los hais txog txij nkawm sib tsim. Peb tsis xav niaj hnub mloog nej cov nej tsis sib hlub lawm. Tsum nawb. Tham lwm yam neej neeg thiab mas.

A sad story sister. Thank you for sharing. I thought in this world, I am the only one with a sad life like this story. Some are blessed with mother -in'-law who love them but some people are not so lucky like you and me. Next life, we will find in-laws that love us as we love them.😰😭

If it was that bad, your husband should have taken you and moved alway from them a long time ago. Why let you go thru all that for that long.

You have a nice husband who tries to stand up for you. You need to stand up for yourself and stand your ground.

I’ve already listened to this twice and I still love the story. Not because if her misery but because the haters feel salty.

Puas yuav ib tug zoo Los rau kuv li ma

Ca koj zaj neej neeg no hai tau lub neej zooli kv kiag o yog leej twg lub neej zoo li no ma tu siab heev li o vim yu yog tu nyab niam pog g nyiam o lawv yu g yuav lo lawv tu tub ho yog tu hlub2 yu g kam nrauj yu thb yog zoo li no lawv ho g hlub nw lm thb e xyov lub neej no yuav mu xau li ca o

Funny

I can't believe grown adults behave this way. I'm embarrassed by these fellow Hmong women who go out of their way to shame and be mean girls to other Hmong women. How disappointing. This just shows that Hmoob yeej tsis paub hlub hmoob - it's just a saying.

Peb cov poj niam los yog viv ncaus hmong aw,, yog vim lis cas es pheej yuav lub uas muaj menyuam lawm ces xav tias tus txiv neej ntawv yuav hlub yus es pheej yuav ua kom muaj tus mi nyuam ntawd los yuam los yog si ua kom yus tus kheej nyuaj siab rau yus tus hkeej ne yom..cas kuv tsis to taub li lawm tiag kuv cov viv ncaus hmong aw,,,,,,thov tham xwb txhob cia,muaj mi nyuam thiaj tsis ua kev lwj siab rau yus mas lov......,,kuv xav thov kom peb cov poj niam hmoob tsis txhob pheej xav rau qhov ua yug mi nyuam nkaus2 xwb li yog yug tsis muaj mas yug los tau mas tiam sis yug twb muaj ib co lawm yuav yug tag zog ntxiv ces ntshe yog nrhia kev nyuab siab xwb na hmong,,,,,😤😭😢😭😫😫😫😩

Phem npaum li mas, lawb dab kiag tsam rov Los ua phem rau yus os. Niam pog phem!

Sister aw...lawv tsis nyiam Los xij os mog kuv kiag kuv qhia rau koj paub tias cov niam pog txiv yawg no na...yog thaum ob leeg tseem muaj txoj sia nyob lawv yeej tsis hlub yus tsis nyiam yus li os. Nyob nyob yog ob niag laus no ib tug tuag kiag es tshuav ib tug nyob es tus me tub me nyab yau uas nws nrog nyob ntawv tsis hlub nws mas thaum ntawv nws mam pom yus txoj Kev hlub thaum ntawv lawv pom yus zoo os me sister UA siab ntev nawb

I have to say is my ex mil is like that to me too. People like will get what they deserve. They dont drserveva good Nyab like you. I'm glad you stood up for yourself. Now she is gone. You are free!

Story of my life.....😢

Koj cov muam lawv lam muaj muaj plhus xwb lawv yeej hlub tsis tau lawv tu txiv tsev neeg li os....xyov nws tu txiv tsev neeg puas nyiam koj cov niag muam thiab vim coj phem ua luaj

Tus muam koj yeej hais yog thiab ua yog lawn mog qhia koj tiam hmoob yeej muaj ntau2 tsev neeg coj thiab ua li qhov tau Raug.

Tu hluas yuav nyob ntev zog tu laus tabsis tam sim no lub ntuj nyob qi qi tu laus nyob tsis ntev npaum tu hluas tabsis txoj kev siab phem yus yeej tsis dim yooj yim. Txhob lam tau lam ntxub luag. Luag yog neeg muaj siab muaj ntsw thiab.

I feel so sad listening to this story😭😭

Ntuj aw koj tsev neeg ko mas ntxim ntxub tiag2 ua koj ho tseem nrog lawv nyob rau ib lub zos thiab na yog kuv ces twb khiav mus nyob lwm lub state lawm os

Yog

Tus niam tsev aw, pab koj tu siab tias koj tau koj tus txiv zoo los nws tsev neeg ntxub koj. Txawm koj niam pog ntxub koj los nws yog tus yug koj tus txiv lawm, Tab sis ces yus lam uv, ntawm koj cov niag ntshej muam siab phem ntawv ces txij no mus txhob quav ntsej txog zoo dua. Lawv ntxub koj npaum li koj hais ces muaj lawv nyob hauv lub neej haj yam yuav ua rau koj nyuaj siab xwb. Kav tsij hlub koj tus txiv thiab hlub koj tus kheej xwb ces that’s all it matters!

I think she met GOD. GOD gave his judgment and gave her 2 choices. Suffer eternally for her hateful way or suffer on earth til the person she mentally abuse FORGIVE HER.

Yog leej twg tsis tau pom cov niam pog phem li no .no ces txhob maj tuag nawb xab maim no ntuj nyob qis 22222 lawm tsis yog hais Tias yog tus nyab ces txawm yuav npam tas li no os nws yog leej niam pog los yog tsis ncaj lawm ces yeej npam tau ib yam thiab nawb

Kj tsi paub xwb os...kj niam pog ntxub22 kj nws pom kj tuaj tshwm plaws nws thiaj tuag tsa taw hlo xwb os...

Tsis care txog koj tus niam pog thiab cov niag musm li os. Vim muaj ib hnub lawv niam lawv txiv yuav tuag tas. Thaum no lawv tsis muaj kev mus lawv mam xav txog ces lig lawm os.

Kuv tus niam pog mas tseem hais Tias nws tuag hnub twg mas tsis pub kuv mus Tim nws lub ntees yog mus mas yuav tsuag ntshav rau kuv no hos . Kuv tseem cia siab tias muaj ib hnub twg yuav tuag tsis tu siab li zam no thiab no os

These in-laws are incredibly, mean, and disrespectful!!!

Nej cov hmoob mekas tsi txawj sib hlub ib tug tsi hwm ib tug li

Txhob tus siab os, tu sister tsi yog koj ib leeg xwb cov niam pog thiaj tsi nyiam os, coob2 leej tug cov niam pog thiaj tej muam los yeej tsi nyiam ib yam thiab os.

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Idk why you want to be with a person who's not a man. He's been divorced once. Smh. I'd been in your shoes. I understand how you feel. It's not worth it. Your husband has child support and if he married the gal from overseas he will be broke. I suggest you move far and not get involved. Koj cov muam they will follow your footsteps. Just watch.

Thaum koj hais tag ces koj niam txojsia tu nrho, txhais tau hais tias koj twb zam txim rau nws lawm vim nws yog tus ua phem rau koj os mog. Thaum ib tug neeg muaj kev zam txim rau lwm tus, nws muaj kev kaaj siab dua.

Thanks for sharing your story. You can only do the best you can. You had me crying with you. I'm in a similar situation but not as bad. I understand that it was hard for you to try and understand why she wouldn't leave without seeing you. I believe she couldn't pass because the other world wouldn't let her pass due to the torment she put you through. She could only go with your forgiveness. Whether you forgave her or not you were there to bless her to move on. May your SILs realize they will only be in the same situation and learn to undo their wrongs before their time.

Cas kuv has tsis muaj txoj tau koj Los yog kuv thus mas hub koj me nkauj aw