This emotional work leads to individuation of the self, a release of childhood conditioning. It's taking responsibility for the self and forming a healthy ego. It's acknowledging that "I am responsible for my feelings and my life." For many, this work should be completed before exploring more advanced non-dual practices. I was originally interested in more advanced non-dual practices and I found the reason for my interest is that I thought meeting with the divine would lead to an escape from my feelings. But what I really needed was to face my feelings and learn to feel them deeply. It has been a long road, longer than I originally thought, to become deeply aware of the different aspects of my childhood personality. I take it day by day and stay consistent with a daily inner work practice.
@Ozow12344 ай бұрын
The belief that an individual is responsible for the spiritual path they take is the razor-edge of the illusion. The you that believes is doing the work is really the one enjoying the ride of the context. Everyone is doing what they believe is right (and if they are trying to get away from their emotions, that is part of the dream too), while being led to acknowledge that which will be most beneficial to awakening. It is very common to try to escape emotions, while not realizing that is where one is headed to confront them again and again, until it is understood. It is like believing the individual in the dream is the dreamer, but it is not so. They are of the same origin (material) as the rest of the dream. Once that is realized, the true dreamer wakes up. He is refreshed and sleep is no longer needed to begin the day.
@oolala534 ай бұрын
@@Ozow1234who is refreshed?
@Davidmcdonald14 ай бұрын
Books: Focusing - Eugene Gendlin IFS - Richard Schwartz
@julia.rhiannon3 ай бұрын
Ann Weiser Cornell too!
@davekay72214 ай бұрын
Know that 3,830 people value you. Your efforts here, your triumphs and sorrows, your insights and curiosity inspire others to look within and find the love that never left them, the acceptance on the other side of rejection, the peace that swaddles suffering. I hope your efforts continue to inspire fully embodied emptiness 🙏
@Davidmcdonald14 ай бұрын
❤️❤️
@adamswierczynski4 ай бұрын
Thank you for actually giving good advice and pointing out the harms of the bad advice.
@RickNuthmanАй бұрын
This is great, I know exactly what you mean by the felt sense. I have noticed this my whole life, that every single person place or thing has a 'flavor'. I never thought it could be useful for anything, though.
@MsminimumdoseАй бұрын
Really powerful! Mace energy method also accesses these implicit (not explicit that the mind wants to run with) deepest beliefs and collapses the emotional charge that holds it in the energy field.
@user-li5ze2sh8bАй бұрын
Thank you so, so much for this video! You are the first one for me who mentioned IFS and it's a total, total game changer! It's amazing what suppressed situations pop op when you ask the feeling where it originates from. Additionally, it was very profound for me to feel the different kinds of blockages we have. E.g. I always assumed to have one big emotion or block in my chest in various situations. It turned out that these are a bunch of small and bigger blockages which trigger simultaneously or partly at certain events. And to get rid of each one of these feels really amazing and uplifting. To give sth back to you: For me it really helps a lot to do a certain type of Breathwork before I start IFS. In general Holotropic Breathwork in particular was a huge game changer the last months for me. Idk if you heard before about Holotropic Breathwork but for me it was one of the most profound and healing experiences I ever came across. So thanks once more and all the best for you!
@Mali-qq6tl2 ай бұрын
Thank you! You make a lot of sense to me. Dr Jonice Webb's Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) is exactly about this. She's dedicated her career to exactly what you talk about. Running on Empty is her first book. It has changed my life in exactly the ways you describe in this video. ❤
@miriam93914 ай бұрын
Can't express the gratitude I feel! Had a painful encounter yesterday that left me steeped in terror and confusion. Tried to sit with the fear but felt absolutely stuck, this continued in a cycle of fear and confusion and more fear. As soon as I followed your guidance I felt a spaciousness and clarity, this led to a feeling of love, understanding and healing. Your a real beacon of light...thank you David ❤
@oolala534 ай бұрын
So what was the underlying felt sense and belief that you were able to meet?
@AwareverseАй бұрын
I hope one day you’ll do a conversation with Scott Kiloby, as you guys are speaking a very similar message and type of self-work.
@macaroon1474 ай бұрын
dude. you don't know how perfect timing this was 😂
@egglion79314 ай бұрын
Fr, we’ve all been having crazy energy since the eclipse
@macaroon1474 ай бұрын
Interesting... I've been doing this technique intuitively without knowing it.. but I usually don't keep going deeper and deeper to the core beliefs, so that was definitely helpful
@jondavid61484 ай бұрын
I can not believe this profound blessing it still amazes me that this is reality!!! Unreal and more real than anything
@OurEternalHome4 ай бұрын
I write my feelings down as they come up for me after a traumatic experience earlier today: I feel deeply rejected and unworthy, I feel extremely unwanted and spat at, I feel like an animal that has been cast out of the group out of utter disgust and unworthiness. I feel hated and rejected, I feel like a piece of total dogshit. It was a nightmarish occurrence. I suppressed all these emotions until now.
@Davidmcdonald14 ай бұрын
That’s not you, it’s a part that feels like that. Maybe ask that part who feels so unworthy what it needs from you? How old is that part that feels like that? Where did he get his job? Is little you from years ago still there? Give that part of yourself love and compassion, move towards it in compassion
@JoelMiller6264 ай бұрын
Hi David. Thanks for your recommendation on the book "No Bad Parts". I just started listening to it (audiobook). Ive read Angelos Dilullos book and going through again. Ive done some of the practices fkr the oast few months. Srill havent had an initial awakening but your recent videos (the ones in the oar few months) have really spoken to me. I think i need ro work on my emotions (shadow work etc etc). Ive been a seeker since about 2005 (im 38 now) with other so called "spiritual" practices and they haven't done much at all for me to be honest. I think im going really dive deep into the "No Bad Parts " practice like youve mentioned and also do the "Non dual" (not sure if thats what i call it but im sure you know what I mean) practcies along with it. I heard you mention its like a "SuperDrug". Thanks again for your videos. Im really getting a lot out of no bad parts book and i just started it yesterday.
@JoelMiller6264 ай бұрын
I just wanted to add that I would think that doing IFS work would help to have an initial awakening (Kensho)?
@roadtoconnection4 ай бұрын
Love the combo of IFS and Focusing. Great to see these tools getting shared, and nice job with the clarity and letting people know how it's worked for you and the weak spots of many spiritual tools. Wondering if you've come across the book 'Buddhism Meets Psychotherapy On The Road To Liberation'? Really great exploration of the intersection of seeming contradictory approaches. Keep it up, David! 🙌
@AlexanderSamarth4 ай бұрын
I believe Adyashanti describes a similar process, kind of emotional or somatic inquiry. It has worked wonders for me as well, especially after awakening.
@julia.rhiannon3 ай бұрын
Yes! In his book Falling into Grace.
@KARIS19614 ай бұрын
Good to see a new vid from you! I had serious withdrawals. ❤
@princessdee01Ай бұрын
I cried like a baby doing this 🥺🥺
@Elalolam4 ай бұрын
This is gold. Was a little skeptical when I listened to the video yesterday, but had to come back today to say it really works exactly like you say. I believe if you have a lot of blocked stuff then sitting with it and surrendering can still be a first step and then this afterwards, rather than a no-self focus.
@garbhanmyles4 ай бұрын
Pretty cool video. I completely agree with you about many of the non-duality speakers. I’ve been into non-duality for well over 20 years and did therapy for years as something separate. I’ve been working on myself for the last couple of years and have been doing IFS work for the last year. It’s really helping me in ways that self enquiry and meditation (with a sole focus on presence) ever have done for me. Due to severe PTSD I find it hard to feel emotions in the body, but I’m really starting to understand myself more and life now is much more rooted in presence than in ego. By letting parts have some breathing room life is so much lighter, and meditative states come more effortlessly. I think it’s the suppression of parts that makes meditation seem so difficult for many. I will definitely be trying to explore focusing and will order this book on it. Cheers.
@Bsowow4 ай бұрын
I love these insights, it always helps and you make it so simple for us☀️
@alexandrecouture2462Ай бұрын
Thank you!
@trixkey4 ай бұрын
Thank you David, this is so bloody useful! Legend 🙏🏽💚
@cosmosunited4 ай бұрын
truth! rarely do you find someone so aware
@egglion79314 ай бұрын
This video has saved my life.
@keena14874 ай бұрын
Yes, my friend! Love this. ❤. Keep them coming. 😊👏🏼
@Emel11444 ай бұрын
This is true, I have the same experience. Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤
@york_zacharias19964 ай бұрын
Please check out Doug Tataryn‘s bio emotive framework and Steve March‘s work at Aletheia
@meditationamsterdam4 ай бұрын
I completely recognize and second what you just described here including the process as described, and how nondual advise falls way short. Seems like finding the part of us that feels cut away from love and therefore in fear under the overt emotion is where it's at.
@nicoleperrier38404 ай бұрын
PEAT method/therapy does just that with detail protocols. It's really amazing. IFS is also magic. I had been just feeling the screen emotion as in non-duality and although there were more light and consciousness on this reactive protection, I was going nowhere deep enough! Dive deep, stop swimming around if you really want to move on!
@doireannmulvihill27243 ай бұрын
Thank you
@Islaras4 ай бұрын
I share your experience ❤
@h1ph0p104 ай бұрын
❤
@Jhawk_2k4 ай бұрын
Naming the explicit feeling first is big, I've been discovering new labels that help guide me. I struggled to figure out what guilt really felt like, but after naming it, a process similar to the one you describe here happened, thoughts with discreey feeling tones that expand. I often find myself a bit confused about what happens afterwards though, I think i expect some huge relief to happen but so far it just feels like small "aha" moments
@thomasweiler16804 ай бұрын
Thank you so much!
@ryanh714 ай бұрын
I'm a Focusing teacher and guide. Focusing is extremely powerful and totally under the radar for most people... Thanks for making this video. I hope more people learn about it. Where did you learn it, by the way? The book?
@Davidmcdonald14 ай бұрын
That’s awesome! It’s extremely valuable! I initially learned of it through John Vervaekes lectures. From there I’ve read focusing by Eugene, and another from an author whose name escapes me!
@ryanh714 ай бұрын
@@Davidmcdonald1 That's great! I didn't know John Vervaekes knew about Focusing. One of Gendlin's big projects was to understand/explain the creation of meaning, which is how Focusing got developed. John is interested in meaning so I can see how he'd know about Gendlin. By the way, Focusing is usually practiced in pairs or with a guide. Something about the interaction with a trained companion deepens it. If you're interested, I'm giving away free sessions at the moment. I'm certified and have a good amount of experience, but no pressure.
@nicoleperrier38404 ай бұрын
Thank you so much. I can't wait for your next vidéos, and for my next IFS session. I also do PEAT techniques and with the right practitioner you dive right in pretty fast. It's truly amazing.
@annsunderland46734 ай бұрын
Perfect 💯👌thank you ❤️
@spongeybobify4 ай бұрын
Hi David, I just wanted to say thank you first of all. After watching this video I have been looking into IFS and actually starting to acknowledge and feel my emotions in a way I don't think I've ever done before in my life. I wanted to ask, how do you understand the concept of the true 'Self' as often described in IFS, coming from a non-dual perspective? I struggle with this a bit, as it seems true that there is no such thing as a 'true' self separate from or superior to the 'parts' and yet IFS therapy also seems immensely useful. Would love to hear your thoughts.
@miloow4 ай бұрын
Valuable message, brother. I'm a big fan IFS work myself. As much as I agree with everything you said, there's something I'm currently exploring that could lend a slightly different perspective on some of this. Specifically, when some of our favorite nondual teachers say to only abide as awareness (or the like) and don't delve into anything more "sophisticated", they actually have a point that becomes obvious only after recognizing that our seeking to "unpack" and do emotional work comes from a (self-like) part. This "spiritual achiever"-part isn't quite as effective at bringing about healing as it might think. What I'm finding is that parts are capable of healing through "spontaneous unburdening" which is far more effective. This only happens when met by Self, which is agenda-less, it has no need or goal. In the absence of any pressure to change, our systems begin to self-organize and heal optimally - without any of our intervention. We simply abide in awareness, to bring it all back full circle. The trick is to notice when we're blended with a part that feels we have to do something about our pain - that it is not OK for it to be there. When we unblend, and the pain is allowed to just be, it starts to transmute by itself - but only when we no longer need it to. What a beautiful paradox if you ask me! Anyway, I'm curious to hear about your experience with this. Does any of this resonate?
@Davidmcdonald14 ай бұрын
I wouldn’t say the healing is done from “self” and I think we also forget the Buddha never thought annihilation of self, he thought there is no inherent self. We could say that about any desire right? The desire to wake up? The desire to spontaneously release parts? The desire to meditate? To realise no self? There’s no action, and never will be an action that is completely divorced from having an end in sight. The thing Is, abiding in awareness to bring all full circle doesn’t work I feel. The reason is, everything arises accept everything that doesn’t. There are unconscious processes, and bodily felt senses happening that you are not even aware of, that are not arising. This kind of work (at any stage) allows you to get beneath the surface and integrate from bottom to top.
@miloow4 ай бұрын
@@Davidmcdonald1 The difference I was pointing to is that integration can happen from one of two places. Either facilitated by a part, driven by discomfort, fear, or lack which manifests as a need to "fix ourselves". The other spontaneously unfolds from Self (in IFS terms, not to be confused with the self you're referring to) without an agenda. What you're describing sounds indeed like having a goal in mind, or as you put it an end in sight. That's a great telltale sign you're speaking on behalf of a part.
@Davidmcdonald14 ай бұрын
@@miloow I dont believe there is such thing as any form of movement or action that does not have end in sight. Even in IFS, the goal of the self is to bring about transformation for all of the parts. Basically, what I am arguing is there is no such thing as "agendelessness." The whole universe is teleological in nature, all movements, acts and intentions are directed towards ends. I cannot think of any non agenda movements of mind.
@miloow4 ай бұрын
@@Davidmcdonald1 Bingo! You said it in the last sentence brother. Presence is not of the mind. Presence or call it awareness, Being, Self, or what have you. Therein lies "the peace that passeth all understanding". It's beyond all understanding because it's beyond the mind. In that peace there's no push or pull towards or away from anything. No goal. No agenda.
@andressaojea4 ай бұрын
Thank you very much, I wasn’t giving it too much credit until I tried and felt relatively easy to achieve deep deep emotions! But after I found them, is there something I can do to them, I mean, inside the meditation to, I don’t know, maybe ressignify it or something? All the blessings for you 🙏
@filoreykjavik4 ай бұрын
hello David, sorry for off-topic, but are there any recordings of guided meditations from the period you taught meditation at HG?
@OnceTheyNamedMeiWasnt4 ай бұрын
Hey, where did you put those difficult emotions?
@andrewstevens97492 ай бұрын
Dude, how can one little video and suggestion rip apart your soul and fix your whole life?
@tommytommy98824 ай бұрын
David would/could you recommend any body work in tandem with IFS to work through trauma and stuck emotions? Thanks for your video .
@Davidmcdonald14 ай бұрын
TRE would be my suggestion
@Bogdan_MSK4 ай бұрын
Try kiloby inquiries repression work, you will be surprised
@macaroon1474 ай бұрын
Do you have a good video to point us to that explains the approach?
@annele20974 ай бұрын
I was thinking about Killoby inquiries too while watching video, I really love his aproach.
@ryanh714 ай бұрын
I, too, would be interested in seeing a good video explaining the approach, if you can post it.
@Bogdan_MSK4 ай бұрын
I don’t have a video to point you guys unfortunately. They are profit oriented, so you need to pay to get access to their members area to watch videos I think they have a free test period Tbh I don’t like their organization, but tools are very powerful, especially called repression work
@ryanh714 ай бұрын
@@Bogdan_MSK Ok. Thanks... I watch his videos from time to time, but I need more detail to understand his method. FWIW, I had a Focusing student who studied/practiced it, and she reported that Focusing worked better for her. I can't judge, though, until I can experience it myself.
@wh05864 ай бұрын
what if I don't really have any negative emotions towards people in my life right now?
@Davidmcdonald14 ай бұрын
Doesn’t have to be towards other people! Any emotional difficulties!
@wh05864 ай бұрын
@@Davidmcdonald1 thanks buddy
@edda93384 ай бұрын
Leo is that you? lol
@mbt56942 ай бұрын
"Nonduality" gets thrown around a lot. Too much. Most people if not all who throw this word in with all the other buzzwords should stay away from it unless they're familiar with the nondual experience.
@jondavid61484 ай бұрын
Yes Thank You so much the only other places I've found this after stumbling upon only 2 days ago! Is VioletSynergy /unfettered mindfulness/ awakening curriculum though specifically using the label and inquiring directly into the sensation the way ur describing is this vid and Violet
@oolala534 ай бұрын
Are you going to the Kentucky Castle in May where Violet is one of the presenters?