This emotional work leads to individuation of the self, a release of childhood conditioning. It's taking responsibility for the self and forming a healthy ego. It's acknowledging that "I am responsible for my feelings and my life." For many, this work should be completed before exploring more advanced non-dual practices. I was originally interested in more advanced non-dual practices and I found the reason for my interest is that I thought meeting with the divine would lead to an escape from my feelings. But what I really needed was to face my feelings and learn to feel them deeply. It has been a long road, longer than I originally thought, to become deeply aware of the different aspects of my childhood personality. I take it day by day and stay consistent with a daily inner work practice.

Books: Focusing - Eugene Gendlin IFS - Richard Schwartz

Know that 3,830 people value you. Your efforts here, your triumphs and sorrows, your insights and curiosity inspire others to look within and find the love that never left them, the acceptance on the other side of rejection, the peace that swaddles suffering. I hope your efforts continue to inspire fully embodied emptiness 🙏

Thank you for actually giving good advice and pointing out the harms of the bad advice.

This is great, I know exactly what you mean by the felt sense. I have noticed this my whole life, that every single person place or thing has a 'flavor'. I never thought it could be useful for anything, though.

Really powerful! Mace energy method also accesses these implicit (not explicit that the mind wants to run with) deepest beliefs and collapses the emotional charge that holds it in the energy field.

Thank you so, so much for this video! You are the first one for me who mentioned IFS and it's a total, total game changer! It's amazing what suppressed situations pop op when you ask the feeling where it originates from. Additionally, it was very profound for me to feel the different kinds of blockages we have. E.g. I always assumed to have one big emotion or block in my chest in various situations. It turned out that these are a bunch of small and bigger blockages which trigger simultaneously or partly at certain events. And to get rid of each one of these feels really amazing and uplifting. To give sth back to you: For me it really helps a lot to do a certain type of Breathwork before I start IFS. In general Holotropic Breathwork in particular was a huge game changer the last months for me. Idk if you heard before about Holotropic Breathwork but for me it was one of the most profound and healing experiences I ever came across. So thanks once more and all the best for you!

Thank you! You make a lot of sense to me. Dr Jonice Webb's Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) is exactly about this. She's dedicated her career to exactly what you talk about. Running on Empty is her first book. It has changed my life in exactly the ways you describe in this video. ❤

Can't express the gratitude I feel! Had a painful encounter yesterday that left me steeped in terror and confusion. Tried to sit with the fear but felt absolutely stuck, this continued in a cycle of fear and confusion and more fear. As soon as I followed your guidance I felt a spaciousness and clarity, this led to a feeling of love, understanding and healing. Your a real beacon of light...thank you David ❤

I hope one day you’ll do a conversation with Scott Kiloby, as you guys are speaking a very similar message and type of self-work.

dude. you don't know how perfect timing this was 😂

Interesting... I've been doing this technique intuitively without knowing it.. but I usually don't keep going deeper and deeper to the core beliefs, so that was definitely helpful

I can not believe this profound blessing it still amazes me that this is reality!!! Unreal and more real than anything

I write my feelings down as they come up for me after a traumatic experience earlier today: I feel deeply rejected and unworthy, I feel extremely unwanted and spat at, I feel like an animal that has been cast out of the group out of utter disgust and unworthiness. I feel hated and rejected, I feel like a piece of total dogshit. It was a nightmarish occurrence. I suppressed all these emotions until now.

Hi David. Thanks for your recommendation on the book "No Bad Parts". I just started listening to it (audiobook). Ive read Angelos Dilullos book and going through again. Ive done some of the practices fkr the oast few months. Srill havent had an initial awakening but your recent videos (the ones in the oar few months) have really spoken to me. I think i need ro work on my emotions (shadow work etc etc). Ive been a seeker since about 2005 (im 38 now) with other so called "spiritual" practices and they haven't done much at all for me to be honest. I think im going really dive deep into the "No Bad Parts " practice like youve mentioned and also do the "Non dual" (not sure if thats what i call it but im sure you know what I mean) practcies along with it. I heard you mention its like a "SuperDrug". Thanks again for your videos. Im really getting a lot out of no bad parts book and i just started it yesterday.

Love the combo of IFS and Focusing. Great to see these tools getting shared, and nice job with the clarity and letting people know how it's worked for you and the weak spots of many spiritual tools. Wondering if you've come across the book 'Buddhism Meets Psychotherapy On The Road To Liberation'? Really great exploration of the intersection of seeming contradictory approaches. Keep it up, David! 🙌

I believe Adyashanti describes a similar process, kind of emotional or somatic inquiry. It has worked wonders for me as well, especially after awakening.

Good to see a new vid from you! I had serious withdrawals. ❤

I cried like a baby doing this 🥺🥺

This is gold. Was a little skeptical when I listened to the video yesterday, but had to come back today to say it really works exactly like you say. I believe if you have a lot of blocked stuff then sitting with it and surrendering can still be a first step and then this afterwards, rather than a no-self focus.

Pretty cool video. I completely agree with you about many of the non-duality speakers. I’ve been into non-duality for well over 20 years and did therapy for years as something separate. I’ve been working on myself for the last couple of years and have been doing IFS work for the last year. It’s really helping me in ways that self enquiry and meditation (with a sole focus on presence) ever have done for me. Due to severe PTSD I find it hard to feel emotions in the body, but I’m really starting to understand myself more and life now is much more rooted in presence than in ego. By letting parts have some breathing room life is so much lighter, and meditative states come more effortlessly. I think it’s the suppression of parts that makes meditation seem so difficult for many. I will definitely be trying to explore focusing and will order this book on it. Cheers.

I love these insights, it always helps and you make it so simple for us☀️

Thank you!

Thank you David, this is so bloody useful! Legend 🙏🏽💚

truth! rarely do you find someone so aware

This video has saved my life.

Yes, my friend! Love this. ❤. Keep them coming. 😊👏🏼

This is true, I have the same experience. Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤

Please check out Doug Tataryn‘s bio emotive framework and Steve March‘s work at Aletheia

I completely recognize and second what you just described here including the process as described, and how nondual advise falls way short. Seems like finding the part of us that feels cut away from love and therefore in fear under the overt emotion is where it's at.

PEAT method/therapy does just that with detail protocols. It's really amazing. IFS is also magic. I had been just feeling the screen emotion as in non-duality and although there were more light and consciousness on this reactive protection, I was going nowhere deep enough! Dive deep, stop swimming around if you really want to move on!

Thank you

I share your experience ❤

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Naming the explicit feeling first is big, I've been discovering new labels that help guide me. I struggled to figure out what guilt really felt like, but after naming it, a process similar to the one you describe here happened, thoughts with discreey feeling tones that expand. I often find myself a bit confused about what happens afterwards though, I think i expect some huge relief to happen but so far it just feels like small "aha" moments

Thank you so much!

I'm a Focusing teacher and guide. Focusing is extremely powerful and totally under the radar for most people... Thanks for making this video. I hope more people learn about it. Where did you learn it, by the way? The book?

Thank you so much. I can't wait for your next vidéos, and for my next IFS session. I also do PEAT techniques and with the right practitioner you dive right in pretty fast. It's truly amazing.

Perfect 💯👌thank you ❤️

Hi David, I just wanted to say thank you first of all. After watching this video I have been looking into IFS and actually starting to acknowledge and feel my emotions in a way I don't think I've ever done before in my life. I wanted to ask, how do you understand the concept of the true 'Self' as often described in IFS, coming from a non-dual perspective? I struggle with this a bit, as it seems true that there is no such thing as a 'true' self separate from or superior to the 'parts' and yet IFS therapy also seems immensely useful. Would love to hear your thoughts.

Valuable message, brother. I'm a big fan IFS work myself. As much as I agree with everything you said, there's something I'm currently exploring that could lend a slightly different perspective on some of this. Specifically, when some of our favorite nondual teachers say to only abide as awareness (or the like) and don't delve into anything more "sophisticated", they actually have a point that becomes obvious only after recognizing that our seeking to "unpack" and do emotional work comes from a (self-like) part. This "spiritual achiever"-part isn't quite as effective at bringing about healing as it might think. What I'm finding is that parts are capable of healing through "spontaneous unburdening" which is far more effective. This only happens when met by Self, which is agenda-less, it has no need or goal. In the absence of any pressure to change, our systems begin to self-organize and heal optimally - without any of our intervention. We simply abide in awareness, to bring it all back full circle. The trick is to notice when we're blended with a part that feels we have to do something about our pain - that it is not OK for it to be there. When we unblend, and the pain is allowed to just be, it starts to transmute by itself - but only when we no longer need it to. What a beautiful paradox if you ask me! Anyway, I'm curious to hear about your experience with this. Does any of this resonate?

Thank you very much, I wasn’t giving it too much credit until I tried and felt relatively easy to achieve deep deep emotions! But after I found them, is there something I can do to them, I mean, inside the meditation to, I don’t know, maybe ressignify it or something? All the blessings for you 🙏

hello David, sorry for off-topic, but are there any recordings of guided meditations from the period you taught meditation at HG?

Hey, where did you put those difficult emotions?

Dude, how can one little video and suggestion rip apart your soul and fix your whole life?

David would/could you recommend any body work in tandem with IFS to work through trauma and stuck emotions? Thanks for your video .

Try kiloby inquiries repression work, you will be surprised

what if I don't really have any negative emotions towards people in my life right now?

Leo is that you? lol

"Nonduality" gets thrown around a lot. Too much. Most people if not all who throw this word in with all the other buzzwords should stay away from it unless they're familiar with the nondual experience.

Yes Thank You so much the only other places I've found this after stumbling upon only 2 days ago! Is VioletSynergy /unfettered mindfulness/ awakening curriculum though specifically using the label and inquiring directly into the sensation the way ur describing is this vid and Violet