Understanding and Fixing LOW SELF ESTEEM and LOW SELF CONFIDENCE

Understanding and Fixing LOW SELF ESTEEM and LOW SELF CONFIDENCE | Wu Wei Wisdom

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Understanding and fixing low self-esteem and low self-confidence. In this video you’ll discover what is self-esteem and self-confidence, the root cause of your self-esteem or self-confidence issue and how to overcome this. 👉 Work one-to-one with David: www.wuweiwisdom.com/therapies...
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- Why managing your self-talk and inner conversation is vital.
- How to deal with ‘triggers’ and challenging situations or people.
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@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

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@marielowe1775 4 жыл бұрын

I feel confident with good self esteem so why do I let others upset me?

@pfitz5628 4 жыл бұрын

I’m 60 and have never felt accepted. Not with my family, not on any job, not in groups of friends. ACCEPTANCE is what it’s all about for me. I believed the messages I got (or what I thought the messages were) from my parents, from friends at school, teachers. I blew those way out of proportion, & carried them with me into EVERY relationship. Now I know those messages were BS. I am worthy. I ACCEPT ME. Took 60 yrs!

@wanjirugichigi8435 3 жыл бұрын

Great to hear that there are others like me....am 62yrs and just beginning to understand and accept what happened to me. There’s hope,

@avadarling3055 2 жыл бұрын

I am turning 67 next month (October 2021). Geesh. It is good to know that I/we are not alone with our timing.

@grungil7570 2 жыл бұрын

Nice.

@Lichfeldian--Suttonian 2 жыл бұрын

I am 56 (2022) and I am just beginning to love ‘me’. I too haven’t felt accepted. I couldn’t love myself because I had to ‘do’ someone else. I am not the ‘man on horseback’ type with ‘castle’, flash car, and six-figure annual salary but I am still good, but as far as the society/culture is concerned, I am not ‘right’. I don’t care about that. I cannot care about that because I am living _my_ truth, and that is where my confidence is. That’s right, to have confidence is to live *_my_* truth! I believe that has more ‘bravery’ than those who find it easier to follow the culture code. I could be wrong.

@jamiepaich Ай бұрын

Welcome to new life my friend 😃 I'm 61 now, began my journey out of codependency, depression and anxiety ~10 years ago. Discovered Alex and David..... shit, about two years ago now and thought I still struggle, have moments where I allow my inner child to interject the red light emotions, but now I know how to navigate this and get back to my true authentic self. So much more I could say, but the main thing: Never give up!

@HealthyMindProject 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you. This still affects me at the age of 47 years old. It gets better over time, but still very much a work in process.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

You can do it!

@bachngocto6368 6 ай бұрын

I enjoy and love the metaphor of INNER CHILD because it's just like you said you're behaving like a child emotionally.🙏🙏🙏

@WuWeiWisdom 6 ай бұрын

Hello, Please you found the metaphor helpful. Kind regards, David.

@judithwallace2091 4 жыл бұрын

Sunday afternoon with Wu Wei wisdom. Lovely.

@deeagirdici-maher2483 4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely fantastic!!! The teaching and comprehension goes deeper every time I listen and learn. This really hit the spot. Thank you ❤❤❤

@serenarossi8480 4 жыл бұрын

The last 6 min are Gold ! Any of these thougts are subconscious and learnt within a Life of brainwashing, often stem from traumas

@tarareopelle823 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this lesson!

@sanamichael8563 2 жыл бұрын

when I was a child no one told me if you need help just ask. Now , I don’t dare to ask for help. I panic when I face a problem, I feel miserable when I get rejected. I feel I am stuck and there is no way out.

@dulceritacorreia155 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this vídeo! As always, you are right. It’s hard ti admite to our selfs sometimes but we do have to STOP IT! If we don’t , nobody will do it for us,

@ursula366 4 жыл бұрын

Excellent and really helpful. It all seems so simple really. Maybe society should introduce compulsory parenting lessons! Or at least ensure all children understand their role in creating feelings ....... An alternative analogy to the car for "Stop it" could be food i.e. There's no point thinking after you've eating a huge pizza (or anything) that it wasn't good/helpful for you - the only way to stop anything getting into your stomach, is to stop putting it in your mouth and swallowing it!! Thanks again for your generosity in doing these life lesson videos.

@violacline3716 4 жыл бұрын

Amazing content, “YOU ARE THE BEST”, no more counselling for me after this!😅Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️

@caitrionafairy8233 Жыл бұрын

If you are accepting your situation, you are already half way the solution. Since I connected myself with the therapy inner child I feel I am ready to work on it. And I do. It is not easy but I am capable to understand, to learn and to cope.🥰 Thank you David and Alex. What a mission you both have. Reaching all of us listeners ❤

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello Caitriona, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,500 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@WamsyAmsy 3 жыл бұрын

I have been experiencing embarrassed emotions all of my life and it has prevented me from living my truthful and authentic life. I can vividly remember this being very, very strong in my childhood days and now as an adult, it is still there but in slightly less form.

@johnnib5373 2 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way however it’s come back in full force like it was when I was a child. I’m 23 and I’m searching to understand and find the beliefs that have lasted until my adulthood and change it! I need to stop it and condition myself to have better self talk when I feel embarrassed. When I was a child I felt like I couldn’t talk to anyone about my negative emotions

@WamsyAmsy 2 жыл бұрын

@@johnnib5373 mine also came back in my mid-twenties bc of my parents’ divorce. For a few years, life was truly awful. In order to distract myself from all of my emotions, I started working 3 jobs and had no life. I did that for 2 years. It was just prolonging the journey to my healing. What triggered me to deal with it all was my breakup last year. Everything happened when it was supposed to happen. I wasn’t ready for this process back then bc my beliefs were all screwed up. Now however, I experience things where I already know the answer in my head and I know that that particular belief is false and I work through it in my own way. Never give up on yourself! 🙂

@joannehenton4610 3 жыл бұрын

Fantastic video (again!) thank you Alex and David XX

@ashishtigga681 4 жыл бұрын

Eagerly Waited For the video thanks For Addressing answers correctly

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Glad you liked it x

@kieranoconnor50 4 жыл бұрын

Another brilliant video!! A thousand thanks 🙏

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it! x

@ruby-qv5bd 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you dear ones. Your videos are beautiful and so helpful for those of us out here wanting to awaken to a new. Thank you very much.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome.Kind regards, David.

@lozb1631 4 жыл бұрын

Thankyou great points

@anitagiacone4789 4 жыл бұрын

Wow D and A.....this was fantabulous! I sent it to my friend. It's not only what I Need, You addressed about 7 or 8 points I've been talking to my friend about for the last 2 years who is having a lot of struggles. However you articulated it much more Eloquently and clearly than I could. I'll have a conversation with her afterwards. She already listen to one of your videos that I sent to her and she liked it.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Wow, thanks!

@loriobrien5997 Жыл бұрын

What is not mentioned is tthat you feel old and ugly

@terasauszacki2587 4 жыл бұрын

Thankyou - powerful and transformational !.🌹😃

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it! x

@annehoughton3386 3 жыл бұрын

Loved this video.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it! Kind regards, David.

@laureencorazzini6375 Жыл бұрын

Incredible!

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello Laureen, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@visionarybrushstroker7694 Жыл бұрын

I’m 31 and understand all of this

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@sharpasarazr 4 жыл бұрын

Powerful stuff as always . Thank you. I don’t say that lightly.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! x

@judithpellegrino9897 4 жыл бұрын

I understand and appreciate this guidance. Thank you. Is it possible that multiple traumas made it hard for my inner child to learn? It felt right inside me when my adult decided to be tested for executive functioning issues. My therapist who really helps me believes I’m being hard on myself & not accepting my weaknesses. I want to learn why it was hard for me learn as a child & why i have a horrendous work history when authority figures are absent and/or I cannot trust them. Does it sound like I am looking for excuses for my inner child’s learning difficulties or does it sound like I’m trying to take responsibility to get her the help she needed & I need now? Thanks for your help. Judy I thought I was parenting my inner child beautifully by believing her struggles were not her fault. I thought it would be good to know exactly what I’m dealing with.

@lebe6863 4 жыл бұрын

I just found your channel. I am really amazed with what you both have to say. I am single for the first time in over 20years and I haven't a clue what I want or what direction to go in as i have always been in controlling relationships since i was a child. Can you help????

@DazIOM1140 3 жыл бұрын

I'm just wondering as I often want to avoid the squealing piglet and so listen to my IC quite a lot - how does one deal with the squealing piglet of the IC when it doesn't get its own way? Is it best to ignore it or console the IC?

@szoya5365 3 жыл бұрын

33:40 does this memory come up after meditation sometime?

@mildredmartinez8843 4 жыл бұрын

Can you do a video about dealing with guilt because you have wronged someone. Thank you.

@suset813 4 жыл бұрын

Great videos guys. Can you advise us on how to find our true authentic self?...how to go about defining ourself?...is it by workbooks?...like what are the questions we need to ask to discover ourselves, please leave a link if there is already a video. Thanks

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Suset, this video will help you: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/j8t6asKmms3UY6c.html

@kirstysewell367 2 жыл бұрын

My IC doesn't trust me. I don't believe I can cope with things so I tend to hold myself back. Been in abusive relationships from a child to adulthood and I let myself down. I am scared and so is my IC

@SherwoodChiropractic 3 жыл бұрын

What about the need to process some of this somatically instead of cognitively? Do you see that as needed sometimes.

@erwinbrubacker7488 3 жыл бұрын

Love you guys, your advise is helping me already. I found u on utube maybe 1 to 1.5 wks ago. So grateful for u guys, Lord Bless.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Our pleasure! Kind regards, David.

@bestymusic4845 3 жыл бұрын

In AA and GA they say my will and god's will. I'm starting to see my will as my inner child because it's very immature and needy. I might be wrong lol but I see similarities. What do you think ?

@jamiepaich Жыл бұрын

I'm listening to this teaching for the ....... let's see.... 223rd time 😅 (exaggerated for emphasis), it seems to me that "esteem" is our belief about our value and worth, which then leads us to the way we think and feel about ourselves.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello Jamie. Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,500 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.

@jamiepaich Жыл бұрын

@@WuWeiWisdom Hi guys! Yeah, I'm a member of the Facebook Community, and I've responded to a few questions others have had. Somehow I've ended up with two Facebook accounts, and sometimes it's more trouble than I'm willing to put out to get to the right account and all.

@misscharmion4184 3 жыл бұрын

That was very interesting as all of your videos! Great teaching! I have one question about the child belief that things are black or white, right or wrong and so on...you are saying that these are extremes and we should update that vision of the world when becoming adults, but what about ethics? What I mean is, for example, I know that my moral standards are quite high and so are my ethical beliefs. I believe there are things and actions that are very wrong, I believe we should first of all see if we are damaging something or someone before making a choice and I believe we should at least apologize and take responsibility, if we have done any wrong. And that’s because I believe that we are not perfect and it can happen to any of us, for as much as we try to be correct, to make mistakes and harm others, but shouldn’t we at least recognize the mistake and apologize or try to adjust it if we can? I understand that I am quite demanding with myself in trying to be as ethical as possible and therefore I become demanding with others, but isn’t it ‘right’ to expect from others to try to evolve in their better version too? Since you’re making such an effort and working hard to become a better human being? Thank you.

@dominikaroszkowska2289 4 жыл бұрын

Alex and David...thank you for another life lesson. David says instead of thinking i have low confidence to flip it to thinking what can i do to learn it. What if i has to do with an employer or a family mber that think you cannot learn it easily or fast enough and hearing that will affect your confidence level. What are you to think then?

@dominikaroszkowska2289 4 жыл бұрын

At wu wei wisdom...please share your thoughts on the question.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Domininka, Thanks for your question. As you will appreciate, it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only discuss in general terms. Remember, confidence is a description of the feeling! And you are the creator of your feelings. So if you are creating feelings that you want to label low confidence. So you need to investigate the thoughts and belief that generate those emotional feelings. David

@dominikaroszkowska2289 4 жыл бұрын

At wu wei wisdom...hi David...i apppreciate your response. Iunderstsnd what you are saying however i was asking more about how would one know whether the issue is with him or her or the other person involved?

@aflormo 4 жыл бұрын

Very interesting views and values. My question is, how do you deal with the complexities of emotional abuse in the family? Let's say your father has been emotionally abusive for years since childhood, you cut him off from your life but you are still in touch with your mother and siblings (who actually defend him) and you still need to deal with your father every time you visit them. That would cause and causes a lot of triggering due to all those memories, flashbacks and ptsd but also the hate and lack of respect from him still present. Relationships are not always black or white and it is very hard emotionally to completely cut them off from your life when there is so much enmeshment and toxicity in a family of 5. The golden thread is fantastic to gain depth but still, they keep hurting you when you see them a few times every year or talk to them over the phone. What is the life lesson here?

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much for sharing your story, and obviously, your question is complicated. As you will appreciate, it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only discuss in general terms. I'm pleased that the Golden Thread Process is helping you to regain your authentic balance and harmony. I would ask you to remember that you are the creator of your emotions, not the victim! Please examine this teaching deeply because when you understand it fully, they cannot create feelings and hurt you if you are the one creating those emotions. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ ? Thank you for taking the time and trouble for watching and commenting on our videos; we appreciate your support. Please subscribe to our KZfaq channel and don't forget to click the BELL icon. David

@stefaniakonstantinidou981 2 жыл бұрын

A few times every week is tooooooo much. How about once a week for starters and once a month later on. Ask yourself why u need to see them so much when all u get is negativity. U don t need them. U don t need their negativity. That s all they v got to give

@PadmaDorjee 2 жыл бұрын

I love the work you both do for the world! I have been listening and saving videos for about a year and even considered private consult. I need to ask why David keeps using the "Stop it" statement which feels loaded with frustration. Your wife seems to balance your energy so it doesn't come across too harsh. I'm sure David see's so many people playing out the victom personality but I'm sure their true self does not want to continue the same cycle. I for one can't stand the bad "habits" of self talk and have tried for over 27 years to "Stop it"! Perhaps I am not someone who can change, I've tried just about everything to do so but sometimes the trauma from childhood just hooks you so deeply that you spend your entire life paralized with fear. I think mindfulness is the only way I could truly stop it, I'm still working every day to improve on that. I mean no disrespect David, I just need to express my perception.

@stefaniakonstantinidou981 2 жыл бұрын

What worked for me is praying to Jesus for my self destructive habits. Gluttony gradually but surely abandoned me once i started doing the sign of the ctoss before i ate. I intend to dk the same when i cafch myself feeling not eorthy

@chemical93girl 4 жыл бұрын

I love you guys but what was that cabbage analogy haha x

@erwinbrubacker7488 3 жыл бұрын

I shared your contact info, with my dear friend ! Thanx again.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing!! Kind regards, David.

@phyllisboyle1162 Жыл бұрын

Where do we get info on the course?

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

We are working on several courses, taking longer than we first thought :-) Kind regards, David.

@Ronb008 3 жыл бұрын

9 children just disliked this video

@user-uq8on5ic1p 4 жыл бұрын

I've watched several of your videos over the past few months and it's extremely unhelpful when people are looking for techniques to stop the negative spiraling thoughts and David just says "STOP IT". If we could just stop it no one would be watching these videos.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Hi M, 'Stop it' is just ONE technique to stop the negative thoughts spiralling in any specific moment. Of course, if you only do this, then the red light feelings WILL return at some point later on because the real cause of the red light feelings has NOT been addressed. If you have watched our videos, you will understand that there are MANY techniques and processes that we teach to do the deeper work to bring about lasting change. This is the purpose fo the Golden Thread Process and Inner Child work. Check out our video catalogue :) x