I struggle with comparing myself to others from the moment I wake up.

My inferiority complex is so bad I was even afraid to tell my old therapist about it. The very idea that someone else would know about how inferior I feel gave me a massive wave of shame and embarrassment.

Even worse when you feel extremely inferior to your best friends

I think Social Media is really messing me up. The second I wake up, I'm immediately checking Instagram and seeing other people living their lives. Knowing that someone had a wild Friday/Saturday night and seeing their pictures really fucks me up because I know I was just laying in bed or playing video games with strangers online all day.

I give up so easily because I already know that I'll fail.

I was humiliated by my physics teacher so bad . He insulted me in front of my classmates and compared me to my brother that how good was he and look at yourself. This humiliation has stuck with me ever since. I always feel as if i am not intelligent enough and dumb girl although i am a topper .

grief in mid life has me stuck to the point that my heart hurts all the time

Tips: 1. Deal with emotional memories (effect bridge technique) 8:38 2. Drop the mime 10:47 3. Get specific (What have u being feeling sad about?) 12:16 4. Dare to be different 13:38 5.Oust the Utopian Assumptions 15:33

Really good video, I’ve had an inferiority complex for a great part of my life, even though I’ve had no real reason. It all comes down to bad moments during my childhood and constantly comparing myself to others. I have felt as if I do not deserve success and I have ignored my passions for too long. I’ll try to get to the root of the problem and try to feel my emotions and let them go, evolving and living my “own” life, not the one that is promised.

my parents were narcissistic shame based and projected onto me and gaslighted me. locked in double binds and shame for years keeps me to this day from succeeding. much of the emotional struggles interere with task and relationships

Feeling inferiority can only be done through comparison. Feeling inferior is different from objectively knowing we might be inferior to someone in a particular way. It’s about being emotional about it. Intrinsic to low Self-esteem. Not a cognitive thing, but emotional thing. We should always be on our own side. We can only b x y and z in comparison to others. If we relax our expectations as to how we should be. 1) Deal with emotional memories. Helping people examine their own thoughts can be valuable and effective. 2) Drop the mine. Be yourself, everyone is always taken. Being inspired by someone is trying to assimilate someone’s admirable traits into who you are and not being an identical replica of them. 3) Get specific. Are you being too busy as to being selective as to who you are comparing yourself too? 4) Dare to be different. Your life can only be lived by you. Explore what you want to do as opposed as to what you should do. 5) oust the Utopian assumptions. Utopian is the assumption of what if thinking etc. if only I was twenty pounds lighter I would be happier. Deeper needs and until those deeper needs are met we may have an aching disconnect as to what we actually need and what we think we need. See differences in others not in terms of better or worse but just as differences. I will never be a plastic copy as to what other people expect

I was mistreated and emotionally abused as a child and now i feel inferior to other people even know i know my value. I just feel as though people will never see my worth no matter what i do.

This was amazing. New subscriber. I would add a quote by Jordan Peterson which says , "Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today."

Sometimes insensitive crass comments made by your own extended family can lead to life long inferiority complex especially if you happen to be sensitive. Your video was incredibly helpful. Thank you.

1. Deal with emotional memories (effect bridge technique); 2. Drop the mime; 3. Get specific (What have u being feeling sad about?); 4. Dare to be different; 5.Oust the Utopian Assumptions

Two words: THANK YOU

I’ve been to therapy for years for depression, perfectionism, anxiety, yet this is the term I feel sums every problem I have in my life. How can I not realize this sooner. The first sentence struck me so deeply “Feeling like I’m never good enough despite my achievements” and constant comparison really ruins my life since I was still a kid. It robs my happiness, relationships, and even time, I’ve lived >10 years of my life not doing or pursuing goals that I want, but simply avoiding feeling inadequate, replaceable, and a loser in any community I’m in. Be it about education, career, physical attractiveness, popularity, and others - I am never satisfied. Makes me almost always unhappy. The worst part is, I’m never pushed by anyone. It’s just me and my head. Thank you so much for the video, it means a lot to know the specific problem I’m facing and making me feel understood

Back when I was in school (in my case a French school), I was constantly being compared to my classmates. I always sucked at science-based subjects such as math and physics, whereas my close friends thrived in them. Add to that a bit of yelling from my mom if I didn't get a good grade and you get a combo of inferiority complex and a loss of self confidence. lol

I tell myself my beauty/wits/intelligence etc is a resource not an identity. I use these things as an advantage to get what I want but I disassociate myself with the identity. I don't live to impress others to live up to their expectations. I'm just thankful for being alive and grateful to have the resources I have and use it the best I can to make it through this life happy.

This man is changing my life video by video

The idea that we are imperfectly perfect as we are is so natural but so lost in this world. Thanks for this

So I was broken up with as a child in elementary. The reson I was given as to as why I was being broken up with was ; " because you're ugly. I believe that till today and I'm 35....

i remember often being compared to other kids by my mother when I was a child. i remember that i've never been praised for whatever i achieved. i also remember that i've always felt inferior toward my big brother and sisters (i'm the youngest). i think it started to became apparent in middle school, for 3 years in a row, i keep raising my grades but i never been able to even reach top-10 in class, i started thinking that whatever i do, i can never be better. my mom being a big racist also played some role , i remember how she often scolded me when i invited a friend home, saying that i shouldn't make friend with them because they are different from us. Making me feel that i have no right to even make friends... i also became introverted since. since then, i've always felt more welcomed, more at home, when i was at my best friend's home. i only have a few friends, but they are dear to me. Whenever i go to their house, i felt more at home than at my own family's. Because there's no one comparing me to other, no one scolding me for whatever things i do... i'm 36 this year... and i still feel unworthy, insecure, and worthless... but i'm going to do my best if it's for my friends. I just can't motivate myself if it's for MYSELF...

I feel inferior to everyone on this planet , every minute is a struggle to live , bevoz of my complexes , i skip most of my classes , n resort to staying at home, n hence became lazy n put weight , this os only continuing endlessly , I'm ashamed of myself , to even live ;(

Great calm and soothing explanations. Tammy is lucky she’s had such a proactive mom who observed and got her help! Took me almost 43 yrs to figure all this stuff out by myself. Could have saved a lot of time and pain if someone (my parents) actually cared about me. They strongly favored my brother and it left me with some deep emotional scares. But moving forward!

I fall into the categorie of going to great lengths and accomplishing a great deal for my age. Though it only feels good for a limited time, i often feel undeserving of my achievments, which eventually manifests in the form of am imposter syndrome

Wow this man knows my heart and my mind, it’s crazy how a stranger can give me so much comfort and understanding 🙏🏻 thank you 💜

Im not sure where my inferiority complex has come from tho. As far as I know, i havent had any trauma...that or I’ve hid them so deep in my subconscious I’ve forgot them...I used to mistake my complex for my anxiety, but noticed I adopted toxic mindsets and behaviours like avoiding ppl because I didn’t think i deserved to be acknowledged by them, perfectionism, my inability to accept nice things and just adopted the belief i am the least “valuable” person. Thanks for this video

Too good, makes me emotional and teary. Thank you for the video.

although this is more like an instruction for the professional to help their clients, it helps me a lot

No one is inferior or superior, sometimes people with low self esteem need to make someone feel that they are inferior, about what and for what is just that, no one is any different than anyone.

I was never the same after failing college. What do you like about yourself? Your accomplishments? Your appearance? What you can give to the world? That’s how I know I’m a worm. I have no success, no money, no prospects and as time goes on I’m only getting uglier and slower and less convinced anything can change.

Thank you for this. You're a kind soul, and this is exactly what I'm struggling with.

I'm really greatful for this,you just made my life a hundred times better

Thank you so much for giving insights into self esteem issues. I am dealing with it every day and having anxiety on account of that. Happy to listen to this.

Thank you for this video. My Brother has superiority complex I think, hes narcissistic, spiteful, uncaring, rang me up when I was assaulted to call me stupid, and it was my own fault i was attacked. Even when I got an ovarian mass he said so your ringing to tell me to just get pity. Hes younger than me spoilt, given loads of money by my aunty so he could buy his house with cash, and go to university ( i wasnt given anything, my aunty made it clear he was her favourite) and now a high achiever at a top Firm, obsessed with status and power, and looks down his nose at his sister. Turned up on my birthday at a restaurant with a card and one chocolate sweet you get from a petrol station. He couldn't even be bothered to get me a present. Even so arrogant enough to say one day I was younger than him even though I am older because I was not married. I said thats not possible .Only now I realise he is TOXIC and cut all ties. His constant belittling ways and treatment effected my mental health and gave me a complex that I am not good enough because I feel so hated by my own brother.

Wow. I'm tearing up man. Turns out I was almost there anyway, but this definitely validated me. Jordan Peterson is toxic as fuck. This is what I needed all along.

Thank u for making this video! It's mean so much for me!!

Great video! Helped so much in raising my own self awareness and understanding myself better. Especially with the particular example you use with Tammy was very very helpful, thank you for being so compassionate and gentle as you are speaking.

I love your thoughtful intelligent guidance! You understand the emotions that create mental distress and how to help people overcome and discover themselves to live a more fulfilling life!

I love that the problems are met with solutions half way through the video. It goes to show how well balanced and educated this man is with what he teaches.

Thank you for this video. You speak so clearly and your message is so efficient. It definetly made me feel better.

I watched your video from beginning to end, i even took notes. I can't Thank you enough

Thank you very much for your time and effort into this video. Very helpful

I'm actually self-diagnosing myself of inferiority complex, and hearing what you said really helps a lot. Now I have at least a bit knowledge on how to beat this. Thank you! Looking forward to hearing and seeing about other amazing psychological and mental health awareness from your channel.

I love the suggestion of going back into memories & recall the experiences that build that foundation for that inferiority & console oneself in that moment. Great exercise to dissolve stuck memories & feeling so we can understand our causes more & learn to accept ourselves as it is not our faults...and build a better relationship with ourselves by changing our perceptions of ourselves. Thank you. I will try this out muself

I love your delivery, it's like straight out of a psychology textbook. Very well formulated, thank you!

Thanks for sharing this, much appreciated.

The last words of Tammy just made me cry. Such a great video and you are amazing.

thank you sir.. you help a lot of people... God Speed all the time..

Parents have a huge part in this

This is great information. Thank you so much for sharing 🙏🏻

I loved and needed this, thank you

Thanks so much for these videos. The helping hand technique is really useful. Even just learning about it now I couldn't help reviewing some older memories and was surprised how effective it was.

I always feel like this all of my life, i didn't even know this has a name. Growing up my parent always compared me to our neighbor, or family and friend. I think this effect my self esteem, and make me feel inferior compared to other. to all parents, please don't compare your kids to other kids, there's a better way to motivate or push your kids.

I love the “If only I had” theory.Very helpful

Thank you really helpful and down to earth, easy to understand.

We matter just as much as anyone else! We are just as beautiful as anybody!!!

Thank you, thank you, thank you, spot on brilliance, you hit it all on the head, and help me understand. I am unlearning and learning. I am beauitful, I am capable, I am worth my own love, I am a success. Trust me you have helped me such today, thank you, thank you,thank you 🙏😁

I have always felt inferior, it's surprising how much comedy is based on this emotion. I have accepted the probability I'll always feel melancholy which I find amusing some of the time, I sometimes think a sense of humour is the only thing that's saved me from putting an end to it all. Thanks to people like Mark Tyrrell here, a lot of people with mental problems can gain a clearer insight into themseves.Keep up the good work👍

This video is exactly what I needed. I am 19 and I feel so much like Tammy. I will work on your tips, thank you so much for this.

I think I found out my problem. I subconsciously compare myself and work too much. I now know where to look to tackle my problems. Haunted me alot in my coding skill. Thanks

This helped me a lot. Thank you soooooo much!!!!

Your videos are great source of great knowledge for all we budding therapist and common people. Love from India🙏

Very insightful. Thank you. ❤

This was so useful sir. Thank you so much I will bring these tips with in every situation I encounter. Thank you

Thank you for this video.

Wow thank you so much for that!

As always great video. This sounds like Schema therapy. Thanks for those tips.

Dear Mark, you’re literally amazing. Simply explaining all the sufferings and mental health issues someone could carry over a long period of time. God bless you✝️🙏

Awesome video, thank you!

Thanks a lots, Mr. Mark I thoughts i'm the worst of making decision and trap in it, which you barely cut open the ways that all of i had think is already been made in, actually. i'm glad to feeling this relief again. #acknowlegded

Thank you so much for this video

Great words, thanks for sharing your wisdom :)

I have felt this way forever but never really paid attention to it. I just recognized this feeling and started googling it. I have especially felt less than with people older than me. I am 23 y/o. For example, when I'm at the hairdressers, I just feel like I don't deserve being there. That I am not worthy of being treated like a respected customer. Or at work, whenever I work with older, more experienced people I just feel so much less, even though I am not. I really want to stop feeling this way. I even have it when going to a bakery f.e. and buying some sweets, and the woman selling the cakes is older than me. I just feel like a child doing all these things, and I almost feel ashamed of doing these things. Makes me even want to avoid doing it.

This is profound!!!!! Thank you very much

Clarity is actually so important, and so few actually have it. It's a pity, even i don't. I too am heavily edited

Well it's definitely me looking at this at 1 midnight after social media 😌

Very helpful video and also comments. Starting to think back to memories, I recall teachers shaming me in class about 'failings'. Homework i struggled to complete, being horrendously bad at mathematics, or physics, or chemistry. Just making gentle fun of me in biology (a topic I liked), has left lasting memories to this day about me 'sometimes' understanding a topic. I struggled with Latin too, and my mother being a Latin teacher made it even worse, as she was ashamed of my poor results, and telling me so. I was often told how much shame I caused by being a poor student. In addition, I was compared to my younger sister, favoured by my father, for being cleverer or less awkward than me. I developed self deprecating humour about all this, admitting to my shortcomings, laughing with others about it. That includes my looks too. But think i feel shame too, leading to constant low self esteem and confidence. I always recall negative events, where I said something stupid, or performed badly. And I minimise achievements. It is so bad that I think I deserve to be treated badly by employers, as I could not cope with workload, or certain tasks. I got burnt out, and work more or less dismissed me. A long time ago, a helpful friend told me to be the best me I can possibly be. But I am not sure what I am really good at, or how to explore this. I don't trust my own thinking. I feel flawed and useless, leading to depression and anxiety. And no longer really enjoying anything. Now trying hard to unravel all this and find a new way forward. Would like to find a way to unlearn these early childhood memories, but there are a lot of them. Thanks for reading, and responding if this resonates with you. Sending love and courage with your own efforts

There is a disparity between what I've accomplished, my capabilities, and my own assessment of their product. I can only be proud of certain things for a very short time. Earning a Master's degree, for instance, provided me little satisfaction. And even less when it appeared to have little value for the rest of the world.

Very well compiled session. Would like to add that the corporate environment, especially in the US, equals social media pressure. The weekly/monthly/annual performance evaluations can be excrutiating for any individual with undigested childhood trauma, when facing a strong trigger (such as line manager, project lead etc). Hopefully, this video gets thru to those who need to hear, moves them into awareness and frees their souls...The workplace will be better for it! Thank you.

"She will never be a plastic copy to what other people expect." That hit home.

Very useful . Thank you !

This is a great. Thank you kindly

I love this video!

This was really helpful. I’m more of a perfectionist, wanting everything to be 100% and this is really a big deal for me as it’s affecting me in all spenders, even in relationship but I hope to get better

It took a long time to get over it especially during adolescent years it took so long time to be comfortable with David and not emulate someone who I thought took everything in stride..but it can be very dangerous because you can end up in fairytale land and combined with substances like Valium can ensure an identity crisis and you'll push your family further and further away because one visit with them can burst the fairytale bubble...by the time I got out of my 20s I accepted myself for who I am ... and in doing so it allowed me to return to the truths and memories of a previous life ... and I had to accept that yes I was that person in my previous life...but it's just as important for me to understand the previous life and what mark I'm to leave on the world whether big or small it doesn't matter.. and part of it was to not use your children vicariously... and that you don't use your children to full fill your political asperations and Im being punished accordingly with a spiritual forse keeping me away from my children... And that money isn't everything in my life and it never will be a factor in this life.. my sentence is almost over though and I'll have clean karma for the next life...but most people who emulate others... they are usually old souls and certain personalities they emulate is the heart yearning to be the same as they were in their previous life... It's like looking into a broken mirror ...

You are AMAZING !!!

Wow. I identify with Tammy on every point except one. I feel all the same things. And would answer everything the way she did, only I have never inflicted self harm. I really hope I can start myself on a new path.

Oh, I have this... It keeps me from socializing...

I can't speak for myself here, but I'm pretty sure there are people out there in the world that overcome their inferiority complex and gain confidence only to have people tell them they have a superiority complex. They're not even trying to have a superiority complex either, yet people say it any to put them down. This is why it's important to think for yourself.

Thank you very much, very much relaxed

I just found you by chance on KZfaq I used to pay for and listen to your hypnosis audio downloads years ago on my old windows phone they helped me a lot to overcome issues and such a vast library of subjects covered. I subscribed straight away.

Excellent video

Comparing is the thief of joy

I also hurt myself because I feel like i'm not good enough. People always give me compliments about how I carry myself but deep inside I'm inferior towards other people. I don't use social media anymore but I'm still pressured to look a certain way. Thank you so much! 🥺

Great video 🙂🙏

I wish I found this sooner, thanks bro

I mainly feel inferior to my friends who all have careers and high paying salaries. I also feel it’s expected of me to have a high paying job as well.

Thank you, God bless you