Unqualified Relationship Advice, Indian Matchmaking & WAP

Unqualified Relationship Advice, Indian Matchmaking & WAP - SimplyPodLogical #26

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On this episode of SimplyPodLogical, Cristine and Ben talk about the Netflix series Indian Matchmaking, give unqualified relationship advice to their audience, and talk about whether songs like WAP by Cardi B are empowering for women.
0:00 - Hey what’s up holo everyone
1:52 - Indian matchmaking
Your relationship questions:
5:52 - My girlfriend leaves open cereal boxes
6:50 - My boyfriend looks at Instagram models
12:09 - My partner doesn’t give me space when I get home from work
15:04 - Do dishes go in the sink or beside the sink?
16:21 - My partner won’t answer honestly when I ask him if I look good
17:38 - My boyfriend complains about how I do his laundry
18:01 - My boyfriend doesn’t support LGBTQ+
22:57 - My boyfriend hates it when I paint my nails
24:14 - My husband holds on to too much stuff
25:42 - My boyfriend doesn’t want to do “girl workouts” with me
29:33 - My husband thinks out cat is too fat
32:10 - We are remodelling our bathroom, do we need a bathtub?
32:46 - My partner doesn’t want to call our relationship a “relationship”
37:20 - My boyfriend doesn’t like my long nails
38:50 - The guy I’m dating never lets me pay for anything
41:52 - How do you know you’ve met the right person if you never dated other people?
47:37 - My boyfriend wants to start a business but I think his idea is crazy
49:12 - What’s the right way to hang toiler paper?
50:14 - Does maple syrup belong in the fridge?
53:07 - What do Cristine and Ben think about WAP?
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@patrycjakocela2528 3 жыл бұрын

Cristine's and Ben relationship appears healthy. However, Menchie's and Ben relationship has some co-dependency issues:)😻

@masera9233 3 жыл бұрын

Cristine*

@patrycjakocela2528 3 жыл бұрын

@@masera9233 sorry, my bad:)

@wayneessar7489 3 жыл бұрын

Menchie is in a relationship with Ben.

@queengeorgia8594 3 жыл бұрын

@@patrycjakocela2528 You can edit your comment to make it with no H

@carter3774 3 жыл бұрын

@@queengeorgia8594 if you edit a comment that the KZfaq liked the like will be removed automatically, I guessing that's why they didn't edit it

@chanelcreadora6570 3 жыл бұрын

I always ask my husband how I look. In the beginning of our relationship, he would say the typical “you always look good baby.” And sometimes I would get frustrated. And then one day he asked me “why do you ask? Are you trying to fish for a compliment? Just know you look good. Why do you need me to tell you? You don’t need my permission to wear what you want.” And then I realized, he didn’t understand what I was asking. So I explained. And I was like “when I ask you about a skirt, I want to know if it looks too short. If I’m going to accidentally flash someone. If I ask about my hair, I want to know if I look put together. If I’m wearing business attire, I want to know if I would get the job based on my outfit. If I ask about my makeup, I want to know if I blended it well or if I have hard lines or if I have too much blush. I am confident that you are not going to let me leave this house looking unpresentable. I’m not looking for a compliment.” And his whole face was like “ohhhhhhhh” he was like “I get it now. Ok. From now on, I will take you seriously and let you know if you’re good to go.” Now, he’ll ask me to bend over to make sure I can get away with the skirt/dress. (Nothing dirty lol) He’ll ask me to do a slow spin and he’ll tell me if my shirt is untucked in the back. He’ll take a look at my makeup and tell me what color lipstick I should wear. Now, he’s engaged in it.

@jaredmaples1759 3 жыл бұрын

Cute!

@celloafterdark4173 3 жыл бұрын

Communication is so important!! ❤️

@asmabelouettar2938 3 жыл бұрын

Wholesome 🥺❤

@evelinaz1548 3 жыл бұрын

yeah I'm glad I'm surrounded by friends and a boyfriend who always tells me the truth. I also don't ask because I'm fishing for compliments or whatnot, like most people assume. I am asking for a second *honest* opinion because I don't want to go out looking like a sewer rat who did her makeup in her sleep LOL

@grosebud4721 3 жыл бұрын

I LOVE this that is SO CUTE

@shamblingabby 3 жыл бұрын

"My partner doesn't believe in basic human rights." Goodbye to them

@debbienunya9397 3 жыл бұрын

My aunt was married to a MASSIVE homophobic man, he would pour drinks over gay mens heads. She divorced him after she couldn't stand the cruelty anymore and couldn't imagine raising children with a cruel man...it would be a 100% deal breaker for me

@recoil53 3 жыл бұрын

He wasn't just homophobic, he was abusive and seeking out confrontation. That's not just an Archie Bunker "I can't adjust the modern world so easily".

@mg-dy7wm 3 жыл бұрын

As a lesbian... Same XD

@AceOfSpades6699 3 жыл бұрын

I actually think that for a most men it's just big talk, not that they would ever act out on it, hopefully. My husband and I had the same argument until someone we deeply care for came out as gay; and he changed his mind. In normal people the love you feel for someone should be able to overpower social prejudice. And yes, your example is one of aggression and abuse, which for me is a 100% deal breaker too.

@Corn22 3 жыл бұрын

AceOfSpades6699 “just talk” is still homophobic and disgusting

@suebovard-kentner2089 3 жыл бұрын

@@AceOfSpades6699 but can you take the chance that it's just talk? I'm too old to put up with any of that shit. There are plenty of men who aren't assholes (I hope). As for Debbie's aunt, he was just cruel and abusive, and that's his nature. He'd be that way about anyone. Good for her to get out before he could do any more damage to her.

@theryaninwinter 3 жыл бұрын

Why is Menchie patiently awaiting head pats so relatable?

@monicagarcia8686 3 жыл бұрын

😂

@cinderia264 3 жыл бұрын

Cristine looks like a pastel Nintendo switch and I’m here for it

@dearestsaint 3 жыл бұрын

*Cristine

@raetetemanza6660 3 жыл бұрын

I love her hoodie, It'd be cute if they made a version of it for their merch. I'd buy one for sure!

@emmy8495 3 жыл бұрын

The 90s / early 2000 vibes of her outfit is strong

@megenashley 3 жыл бұрын

When I saw her jacket, I was like, "YAAASS"

@brizzuh3995 3 жыл бұрын

definitely not pastel but it is cute

@lalakitty_xo 3 жыл бұрын

As another bisexual woman who has never dated women, I can't say it is a good idea to leave a partner you're happy with to "experience new things." Perhaps I would get more information on my preferences, but I couldn't bear breaking my partner's heart because I want to know what it's like to be in a relationship with a woman. Especially if my actions made me lose him forever, and I spent the rest of my life regretting throwing away what we have. It isn't fair to him to throw away his love and dedication because of curiosity. The idea of "something better" should never be a motivation to break up. If you are happy and growing as a person with your partner, it doesn't matter what else is out there. EDIT: Please don't assume that I haven't worked to find and cherish the partner I have now, or that I don't understand that wandering eyes can come from an unhealthy relationship. My point was, and still is, that if you're in a fulfilling relationship with a person worth the fight, don't give them up for sexual experimentation. Also, please don't use experimentation as a cure for your problems. Breaking up a relationship you aren't happy and fulfilled in has NOTHING to do with dating preferences or sexuality.

@sarahstevens4157 3 жыл бұрын

Agree! I feel like that "desire to experiment" is based on a deeper dissatisfaction or unhappiness

@nectarina3891 3 жыл бұрын

I'm straight so I can't speak to this exactly, however, the only person I've ever dated is my husband (and we're monagomous). I had those same thoughts before we got engaged but just about how I will never date anyone else. But choosing between the man I know I love and can build a life with, and some not currently existent future option of a man? No contest for me. I could wonder all my life if something better is going to come along or I could treasure the relationship that I already know I love!

@atme365 3 жыл бұрын

I agree, but maybe if that curiosity is strong enough, it's a sign you should, if you're already wondering this hard. (And I don't mean YOU, I mean the girl with the question)

@thebrookechantel 3 жыл бұрын

I'm not bisexual - but I did start a relationship in my first year of university. Dealing with the fact that you may miss out on a bunch of dating/sexual experiences is totally something you (and presumably your partner if they're of a similar age) will have to confront at some point. I can't say what the right choice is because It's different for everyone - I obviously decided I would get more fulfillment from my relationship and so did my partner. It's a good idea to address the way you feel though, don't ignore it or feel guilty about it, because that's when it'll start to cause problems in your relationship.

@kieralovesjoxer123 3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. I've been with my husband since we were 15, just came out as bisexual at age 25. Of course I've been curious about what it would be like with a woman, but I love my husband and any "experimenting" wouldn't be worth risking our relationship.

@thelonelyelephant 3 жыл бұрын

the term "locker room talk" is such a red flag...

@GlowstoneWolf 3 жыл бұрын

right like if i hear that im out

@tammyreeves9091 3 жыл бұрын

I agree.

@thelonelyelephant 3 жыл бұрын

@@tammyreeves9091 following hotties on instagram isnt really that big of a deal, and tbh micro-cheating isnt really a thing, but to dismiss your girlfriends concerns by using the term "it's locker room talk" is a pretty big indicator that you're just a piece of shit

@thelonelyelephant 3 жыл бұрын

@@Angie-hi5bt your partner should be able to follow people on the internet, if thats not something you would be comfortable with than you need to have a conversation about it with your partner. I would never ask that of somebody seeing as following people on instagram isnt really a violation of trust imo. so Im not sure if a i see your point. But if she brought something up to her boyfriend and he excused her concerns with "babe its just locker room talk," that is bad. Its disrespectful, and nobody should be using that phrase in this day and age.

@arabbarbiedoll 3 жыл бұрын

@@Angie-hi5bt I agree with the locker room talk, but your partner is able to follow whoever they want. if you have a problem with that, then maybe you need to do some searching and ask yourself why it bothers you. or, TALK TO YOUR PARTNER. they aren't mind readers, you GOTTA communicate. besides, the way it sounds like is how, not all, but a LOT of females, get mad at their boyfriends for talking to other girls. shouldn't you be secure enough in your relationship and trust your partner enough to be able to follow and talk to these females without automatically telling them to stop? or how they aren't hang out with their friends ("go out with the boys") and assume the worst? you should be able to trust your partner and let them make their own decisions. you cannot control them, they are their own person whether you like that or not. and if you can't handle that, don't be in a relationship 🍵🤷🏻‍♀️

@GianaLuna 3 жыл бұрын

I know this would probably never happen, but I would love to see a podcast where you grab a bunch of scenarios from the "Am I The Asshole?" forum on Reddit and pass judgment on the entries 😂

@Crazee108 3 жыл бұрын

Omg thats a great idea!!

@hannaha2399 3 жыл бұрын

I love that subreddit, and I think this is a great idea haha!

@theonlyrealgina 3 жыл бұрын

this is a great ides, id love to see this

@stef.828 3 жыл бұрын

OMG YES

@ashleycooper7686 3 жыл бұрын

There are videos that do this, but I feel like Cristine and Ben would do it better

@shaks.m5555 3 жыл бұрын

the "pay my tuition" line is because Megan Thee Stallion is currently studying for a degree in health-care administration and has plans to open an assisted living facility for the elderly in her home town. its not about wanting the man to pay for it, she's saying her WAP is so good a man WOULD pay her tuition just for the chance to.

@kaylar.5018 3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. I also feel that the line and the following line is a take on society today where women can use their sexuality as a source of income on Only Fans and in strip clubs.

@sydney5463 3 жыл бұрын

Honestly I didn’t find the line to be unempowering in the first place? Like it’s just a line about getting things from men and I think it’s equivalent to men making music about how all their money and status makes women want them. It’s definitely a cool and more nuanced line than they seemed to realize, but I think the idea of like “scamming men” through sex work or like sugar daddies and such is funny and really not a big deal.

@nelle1899 3 жыл бұрын

Kayla R. exactly

@recoil53 3 жыл бұрын

I don't follow celebrities, but that is cool of Megan.

@lolaevergreen9077 3 жыл бұрын

@@kaylar.5018 but how on earth is that good and empowering for women? Can we not exist without being sexualized and sexualizing ourselves for men???

@francescaedwards1482 3 жыл бұрын

6:50- the 'locker room talk' conversation. It's so important that if you are a guy, and hear this stuff and think 'wow that's shitty' or don't agree with it, THAT YOU SAY SOMETHING! The men who talk like this are happy to disrespect women and so if a woman calls them out for it, they don't respect her enough to stop. If another man, who they do clearly have more respect for, calls them out, they are far more likely to listen and change their behaviour.

@riotgrrrl8807 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. I wonder what the world would be like if just half of all men and boys wouldn't tolerate the shitty, sexist behaviour of their peers. A world in which men wouldn't gain anything through degrading women.

@commanderwaddles3483 3 жыл бұрын

Dude, the entire group is just going to clown on the one man. As Cristine said, it's when it's a GROUP that they get ballzy like this. They won't listen to a single man. They're not gonna listen till a group of big ass dudes that could demolish them says something lol

@DM-nw5lu 3 жыл бұрын

Commander Waddles, I don't think they would. Usually there's more than one person in the group who thinks it's shitty. But because they have the same fear as you (fear of being clowned on) they don't say anything. If one person says something the others would gain the courage to tag along and themselves call out such behavior in the future. There is no excuse to not call out sexist shit. If you're too scared to call it out, stop hanging out with that group of guys. Sends a message, too. The smaller the groups of sexist men having sexist locker room get the less validated they'll feel and the more likely they are to realize they're pieces of shit.

@celloafterdark4173 3 жыл бұрын

I think with the girl who’s boyfriend openly looks at Instagram models and talks about them sexually: it’s ok to view that as a red flag. Anytime you view something as a red flag you should be able to discuss it with your partner and resolve it so you both feel ok moving forward. If you can’t discuss something with your partner and feel ok about the outcome of the conversation, it might be time to let the relationship go.

@JoaoIsntJohn 3 жыл бұрын

I'm 28 and eating cereal while watching this so I feel personally attacked 😂😂

@VeginMatt 3 жыл бұрын

Im reading this 4 days later...hope you remembered to close the box!

@joybryant7001 3 жыл бұрын

It's quick and easier to make so yeah

@jordynmarie141 3 жыл бұрын

Same... I love my nightly cereal snack.

@80sGamerLady 3 жыл бұрын

I'm 40 and still eat cereal, fiber cereal like Cheerios, etc. And I also eat oats. So, cereal eaters united!

@kariechaos5382 3 жыл бұрын

I'm 35, I live by myself with my dog, and my idea of a good 3am snack is a nice bowl of froot loops, or chococrispies, with chocolate almond milk. Sorry Cristine and Ben, I guess I don't count as an actual adult. *makes their 3am cereal*

@sydneydholton 3 жыл бұрын

To the girl who is/was dating the guy who never let her pay for anything, just keep this in mind... I know not every person who does this is not li is that, but my ex did that to trap me. He paid for everything and got me a phone he paid for and then turned around like Ben said and made it seem like I was like his property. Overnight, it became emotionally abusive and before I knew it I felt trapped. I would hate for someone to experience that like I did so I hope she’s doing okay!

@KreeZafi 3 жыл бұрын

Definitely something to watch out for!! It's also worth looking out for less severe things. My boyfriend generally pays for more things (for the simple reason that he's got more money than me - he's had a job for years, I'm still a student working towards my degree) and he's not really manipulative about it in the way you describe... However, there are times we have discussions where I express that I feel he's not doing enough for me in terms of supporting me and listening to me and such, to which he'll sometimes respond with something to the effect of "I do so much for you, I take you out to all these places, blah blah blah" which like... Yes of course I'm appreciative of that, but that doesn't make up for a lack of emotional availability, you know? That's like a parent who buys their kids fancy gifts to compensate for how little time they spend together. Not to mention that truthfully I think a lot of what he "does for me" in that regard is almost more for himself. HE really likes to go out to restaurants, and HE wants to go for all sorts of activities (we're long distance and when I'm not around he complains about wanting to do things but not having anyone to do it with). I'd be more than happy to stay home 90% of the time, cook our own meals rather than go out to eat, and have free or cheap activities like a picnic in the park rather than things that cost a bunch of money. So it's very much HIS decision to do those things, and largely it's not really for me - again I am appreciative of it of course, and I know he wants me to enjoy those things too, but it is by no means something completely selfless.

@arabbarbiedoll 3 жыл бұрын

that could be one thing, but from my experience my boyfriend just wants pay because he feels like it's just the right thing to do. tho he does let me pay for things, he just genuinely feels like he should even tho he doesn't need to. but I'm super sorry for the experience that you went through 🥺💞

@UsaretamaImako 3 жыл бұрын

@@KreeZafi Jeezus, I hope he finally understood how much of a dick he's been acting or else RUN GURL RUUUUUUUN!

@xVadRay 3 жыл бұрын

Same happened to me

@veronicaprado6016 3 жыл бұрын

To the girl asking about the boyfriend not wanting to call it a “relationship”: Girl ruuun he is not committing

@sarahg9880 3 жыл бұрын

Right? The whole time I was thinking "People tell you who they are, BELIEVE THEM!" If he says he doesn't want a relationship, take him at his word and quit living in fantasyland that you'll eventually convince him.

@veronicaprado6016 3 жыл бұрын

Sarah G my thoughts exactly!!! Though better expressed by you hahaha

@joybryant7001 3 жыл бұрын

No took me a year to call my relationship a relationship maybe he is not comfortable the wording. If he is telling people they're together. I think is ok.

@sailormf 3 жыл бұрын

From my experience my boyfriend didn’t want to publicly post he was in a relationship because he wanted to cheat on me the whole time and when I asked him about it he got so mad he beat the shit out of me on the front porch. Now I won’t be in a relationship period. I don’t want to be in one and if I ever do it will only be with someone who is comfortable and proud to let everyone know they are happily taken.

@expensivepink7 3 жыл бұрын

it sounded like he was cheating and just wanted to mess around with other girls and like he’s hiding her. i’m surprised they didn’t bring that up lol. RUN GIRL

@chickennuggets7092 3 жыл бұрын

"Can't you just wash a baby like vegetables? Just get the colander out and rinse-" BEN NO 💀😭🤣🤣🤣

@horcruxes77 3 жыл бұрын

JennaJulien ended their podcast but at least we have SimplyPodlogical 🥺🥺

@salosoin 3 жыл бұрын

🥺

@wayneessar7489 3 жыл бұрын

If you remove the words 'at least' I agree 100%!

@congmail7865 3 жыл бұрын

😶🥺💔

@sweet_peas_studio 3 жыл бұрын

As everyone I hope they come back but I do respect what they are doing. 🥺💙

@vanessacortez368 3 жыл бұрын

Wayne Essar I thought of that too but I think they mean like they like em both equally, just sad that one of them is gone

@farrahayuning 3 жыл бұрын

I'm happy that Cristine and Ben cover the "locker room talk" because I'm so grossed out by my male classmates when they talk like that. They always talks about who they wanna bang and how they gonna do it and why they wanna do it. Everytime I heard their talk, it makes me grossed out of all men even though I know that not all men like that. They once talked about me and it's really, really, really gross, I feel like it's more like sexual harassment rather than just "locker room talk".

@Yazzzledazzzle 3 жыл бұрын

It’s crazy to look back at how these things occurred when I was a lot younger than I am now and how I was ignorant and unaware of how inappropriate it is. I think it’s great how people are learning at younger ages that this isn’t acceptable behavior.

@MsJeanneMarie 3 жыл бұрын

Farrah Ayuning I think they’re mostly showing off to their friends. I agree with you that it’s important to talk about it because it’s really not okay. I bet that felt gross when they talked about you! And maybe some of them don’t really think that way, they’re just showing off, like I said. But some guys are going to hear that and think it’s normal to think of women that way.

@mignonhagemeijer3726 3 жыл бұрын

In the Netherlands there was a sorority that had a list of girls with photo's numbers, addresses and whether they where good in bed. This list got public and was in the news. My dad overheard colleagues that started talking about it in an approving "I would do her too" kinda way. My dad just casually said "lets talk about that once your girl goes to colledge and she gets in ine of those lists" shooting daggers with his eyes. Let's say that made a lasting impact on them after they got over their angry "how do you dare to say that" reaction. I am so freaking happy how my dad refuses to go with the toxicity and openly refutes it.

@tatumward5410 3 жыл бұрын

it’s not even just guys either :/ there’s a lot of girls who just love talking about their sex lives. it’s also so messed up because my friend lost her virginity to a guy who was emotionally and physically abusive because her and her friend made a bet over who would lose their virginity first. not to mention rude comments if they have the same ex as another girl they talk about that guy in bed and “what to expect” and it’s just really frustrating.

@alexjudge8907 3 жыл бұрын

When Ben pull out that "not all men" speech I lost respect, like Cristine said, if we heard that talk, you heard that talk. Don't act like you don't know about it, is sus

@cassandraburns9073 3 жыл бұрын

Really impressed with how eloquently they handled the question of disagreeing views on LGBTQ+, especially in regards to children. The way I see it, if you aren't prepared to love any child you have unconditionally, you shouldn't have children. Their answer was much less polarizing, and, I'm sure, actually helps people who are bigoted see a better view lol Edit: I do also appreciate how well they balance each other's views without being disrespectful. Ben is one of the few men I've heard speak on topics of gender without sounding like his Masculinity^TM is in question, rather he seems like he genuinely wants to offer another point of view.

@alyssaorange771 3 жыл бұрын

To the guy regarding the cereal question: airtight cereal containers on Amazon will fix that real fast!

@jennifervielmas9459 3 жыл бұрын

Or those cereal dispensers

@mirandathepandakitty1630 3 жыл бұрын

Or chip clips

@aliciagraceofficial 3 жыл бұрын

Alternate title to this episode: Menchie wanting pets for 58 minutes straight 😂💜

@kelwel3 3 жыл бұрын

She got so desperate that she turned to the mic stand

@recoil53 3 жыл бұрын

Go back to the older episodes - if Zyler or Menchie are in the room, 98% of the time they want pets from Ben.

@billukat6811 3 жыл бұрын

awww... all i cud notice was poor lil Menchie wanting to be pet... :(

@mksketchms 3 жыл бұрын

Small rant but none of us indians liked the show😂 it's become a full blown meme for us here, the show although does show the reality of our parent's mindset even today, there's barely any of us who agree with any of those notions even though our parents still want to subject us to it. And the fairness obsession has always been an issue here, and recently we collectively got the longest running fairness cream company to change their brand name from fair and lovely to 'glow and lovely' (their choice, still pretty fucked up) just from online resistance and in a way 'bullying' the brand into it. 😂 The mindset of so many people is exactly like that but the majority of it is reserved till the previous generation, and our parents still have this patriarchal and colorist mindset (so much so that much of the bodyshaming many of us face in our lives is done by our parents 🙂🙂🙂😂). Overall, the show has been nothing but a disappointing representation of our lives and although it does depict one side of the the sad reality (just like slumdog millionaire did, hence if you ask any indian about that great film about India, 99% of us would be very disappointed that you think what that movie depicted is all india is, barely any of us like that movie here), the show leaves out the other, more progressive side of the coin and how much us millenialls and gen z protested against this mindset throughout the time the show was recently out and trending. Hopefully it doesn't make people from other countries believe that this is the reality for this generation too lol

@christinabo63 3 жыл бұрын

What about Lagaan? I hope it has a better reputation in India or is at least a better representation of a certain period in time in a certain area. I haven't watched it in a while, but love the soundtrack and keep coming back to it on KZfaq. Greetings from Germany 😊

@brunetteartist2750 3 жыл бұрын

Couldn't have stated that better

@mksketchms 3 жыл бұрын

@@christinabo63 it's a very good movie for sure! It doesn't take away from india and doesn't create a stereotypical mindset in people as far as i know :) The thing that upsets us is that any indian movie that gets traction in other countries always includes mostly the slum and 'poor' parts of it, and although it is a reality, the other side of modernity is never even shown. India is very diverse and here you'll find very expensive buildings/infrastructure on one side of the road and a slum area right in front of it. They're all blended, but mostly only the slum side is shown. Lagaan is a good movie for sure although I'd recommend watching more indian films because indian film making keeps getting better with time. The Lunchbox is a great film if you haven't seen already, it's the most digestible to foreign audiences imo just as an introduction into the beautiful storytelling.

@mksketchms 3 жыл бұрын

@@brunetteartist2750 thanks! Hopefully they take notice as indian shows often create this stereotypical mindset in people through their bad choices in shows for foreign audiences through platforms like netflix lol

@christinabo63 3 жыл бұрын

@@mksketchms I thought I had watched it, but it seems like I only watched the trailer a few years ago, wanted to watch it but forgot about it. Now it will have a sad undertone because of Irrfan Khan's passing. 😢 I have watched quite a bit of Bollywood movies for the last 20 years, but can't bring myself to watch newer ones. I need to re-watch some of them (K3G, Kal Ho Na Ho, Rang de Basanti,...) but boy, they make me cry like a baby 😭

@arianagomez2579 3 жыл бұрын

When the hummus question came up Cristine was like “damn this one hits home” LMAO

@emaleemyer7521 3 жыл бұрын

No one: Ben: I wouldn’t kick her out of bed for eating nachos.

@iloveurgirl 3 жыл бұрын

out of nowhere lol

@beingbeckeroni 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I actually lol’d while listening and washing my dishes.

3 жыл бұрын

And now I need to know who kicked Ben out of the bed for eating nachos

@delaneyreyes8995 3 жыл бұрын

beingbeckeroni I was also washing dishes when he said that 😂😂

@recoil53 3 жыл бұрын

Well yeah - nachos. Not to go all Homer Simpson here, but cheesy goodness.

@_.mikeyx2 3 жыл бұрын

Cristine: I like to hold on to things Also Cristine: *has a bag full of ancient nails*

@Rita_Arya 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah i had that thought too, but at least it doesn't take up a lot of space so i guess it doesn't matter...? 😂

@sciolynerd5517 3 жыл бұрын

As an Indian whose parents and many older relatives who were arranged, I can say that the practice is decreasing in newer generations especially in America but unfortunately still somewhat prevalent. One important thing I would like to say is that the reason that they want someone from “a certain region of India” is probably because different states speak different languages, so I just wanted to maybe clarify that it isn’t entirely superficial. Mostly the show is satire and I got a good laugh from it, but it does express some true concerns about arranged marriages such as the dowry and caste systems

@mandarightnow 3 жыл бұрын

thank you for sharing your insights!

@LolLol-yn8uv 3 жыл бұрын

I would like to disagree on your stance about the different states speak different languages and that's why families don't like to mix. At least based on my experience, families don't like to mix with other cultures within India because they want the bloodline to stay "pure"/ could have a racist view of the other culture, etc.

@samrithas7980 3 жыл бұрын

@@LolLol-yn8uv I respect your opinion,but maybe many are that way,but some are specific about the caste in order to preserve the rich tradition and caste specific rituals they are used to practice. Not blaming them entirely, we all grow up with our older believes, maybe just few changes to the belief,like as mentioned co-existence of both caste or religious practices could be prevelant and we could try to live in harmony,blaming them entirely for trying to hold on to culture wont be right but rather empasize on co-existence would be better. I in no way want to disrespect your opinion,I am just stating mine as well with utmost respect :)

@padmavatichaganti5437 3 жыл бұрын

I don't think arranged marriages are bad as a whole but yes some of them are messed up in India

@samrithas7980 3 жыл бұрын

@@padmavatichaganti5437 exactly

@kerstonhuston540 3 жыл бұрын

I thought what Ben said about the "tuition" line from WAP was interesting, so I just wanted to contextualize the line a little. Female rappers use lines like that to encourage single young women to receive some type of compensation in sexual relationships, a view of sex that isn't, to a significant degree historically or currently, favored and perpetuated. Single women are often thought of as objects to fill men's fantasy specifically in rap culture; men usually are on the acceptable side of the sexual exchange, receiving more from the act. Female rappers do fight for and demand respect. Still, in this situation, it's like if, as a woman, you are going to be used in such a manner, enjoy yourself, and reap some benefits from the activity other than the traditional degrading labels.

@bpuritz 3 жыл бұрын

yesss

@adrianaa2767 3 жыл бұрын

I’d like to add to the first answer: for the microcheating part, talk to your bf and have the “cheating definition” talk, what do you consider cheating, what does he consider cheating and what actions would feel like disrespect to you and the relationship, talk this through. If he ends up doing sonething thats included on those definitions you guys set together, then dump his ass ☺️

@riotgrrrl8807 3 жыл бұрын

Depending on what exactly he's saying during these sessions of looking at the models, it seems like a symptom of disrespecting and objectifying women, which is maybe the most concerning. Rule number one, only date feminists. It helps a lot.

@arjaybautista9607 3 жыл бұрын

It's just a picture of a model, I dont get why that's cheating. It sounds like an insecure partner

@kristinelovesjb 3 жыл бұрын

Shaimus Reilly You say this as somebody who probably has never gone through trauma of being cheated on

@horse_stan6007 3 жыл бұрын

@@arjaybautista9607 it really depends on what he's saying. If he's just looking then maybe not, but if he's saying like "ooh she's hot" and stuff like that then 👎

@adrianaa2767 3 жыл бұрын

@@riotgrrrl8807 oh man, yeah i agree, but that seems not enough of a reason for her to dump his ass, SO maybe if she actually sets a cheating definition in her mind and explains it to him, it would do it for her, she can dump him later when he does it again, because it seems he won't stop (she already told him if bugs her and he still does it)

@elincroz 3 жыл бұрын

My ex bf used to hate the smell of nail varnish and would tell me to stop and it bugged me 😟 but the first time I painted my nails in front of my current boyfriend he told me he loved the smell of nail varnish and would sit next to me, watch me paint my nails and advise me on colours and tell me I was doing a good job. From that moment I knew he was the one. 💅🏻😂❤️

@nedabtt7615 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so jealous 😂😭

@Deepseasilence 3 жыл бұрын

Better put a ring on it

@grosebud4721 3 жыл бұрын

So sweet

@sunidhinarula9183 3 жыл бұрын

Never thought I'd ever see Cristine and Ben talking about Indian matchmaking but here we go

@lisha4303 3 жыл бұрын

Same I am surprised

@manyasuresh8340 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@aditijl8 3 жыл бұрын

Same 😂😂

@salosoin 3 жыл бұрын

They had it coming, i love people shitting on that show

@amolpreetkaur3443 3 жыл бұрын

I just want to recommend a few indian shows to them now

@MM-tn5uk 3 жыл бұрын

with respect to WAP: nothing is “empowering” to all women. I think WAP is just Cardi and Megan having fun, and being able to have fun without hand-wringing about whether the song is perfectly feminist or not is kind of a goal that falls under the umbrella of feminism, in a weird way. I think we’re getting closer to the day when female rappers can be evaluated on the quality of their music without everyone clutching their pearls about whether their music is “empowering to women” or not every time they drop a new track, and to me that’s something to celebrate since it marks the death of a double standard. I think there’s some rap/hip-hop that’s clearly meant just to be fun, and some that’s meant to be taken as serious art, and reading too far into music that’s clearly intended just to be fun (like WAP) or clever (like Barbie Dreams, although you could potentially take that one a bit deeper) misses the point and tends to be done in bad faith. That music can exist without negating the existence of more serious music, and too often people treat it as a zero-sum game, especially when the artists are women. Personally, I enjoy hip-hop, I enjoy getting to fuck around in an unserious fashion from time to time, and that’s fine; it doesn’t take away from my work as a researcher. It’s cathartic to be able to listen to someone flout the norm of being “ladylike” so flagrantly, especially because I’m not a particularly ladylike woman myself and I tend to feel like I’m under a microscope in everyday life both because my personality would be more acceptable in a man (if you buy into mbti, i’m the opposite of “the ideal woman” by our cultural standard under that lens) and I work in electrical engineering (where there aren’t a whole lot of other women). Also Megan just has a great flow 💁‍♀️

@jaredmaples1759 3 жыл бұрын

Here here!

@briaravioli3542 3 жыл бұрын

all subjective. it’s empowering to me.

@MM-tn5uk 3 жыл бұрын

Bria ravioli that’s exactly what i’m saying

@ang6872 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly sexual neutrality ftw

@tearsofawaterfall2656 3 жыл бұрын

You dont see this ‘is it empowering to women?!’ When Eminem or Lil Jon drop a track and I dont even like Megan or Cardio but the double standards are real

@BadmintonBombshell 3 жыл бұрын

I stopped dating a guy after a month because of his very narrow minded views of the LGBTQ+ community. Totally a dealbreaker for me - there was no reasoning or compromising on our extremely different views.

@ellebelle86 3 жыл бұрын

"My partner doesn't want to call our relationship a 'relationship'"... I'm with Ben on this one. The partner-who-doesn't-want-to-call-it-a-relationship sounds like someone who doesn't want to be tied down, either in that specific relationship or in ANY relationship. Believe people when they tell you who they are. This person is saying "I don't want to be with you for anything other than convenience", and you deserve better.

@sushmabhandari8584 3 жыл бұрын

Cristine and beyyyn talking about Indian Matchmaking is like my worlds colliding in the most unexpected way 😂😂

@catguardian007 3 жыл бұрын

IKR!! Never would have expected this 😂

@worldsbiggestholdthegirlfan 3 жыл бұрын

same! it must be so weird for them to actually see what some desis go through

@maraudersmap2804 3 жыл бұрын

Lololol saaaaaaame!

@naiwritaborah2092 3 жыл бұрын

It really felt like two diff universes colliding.... like Indian ppl makin insane react videos was one thing... but this ?? Cristine and Beynnnn reacting to Indian matchmaking .... damn 😂😂😂😂😂.... indian matchmaking is truely going places ( super cringe ) Seema Aunty Waah bhai Waah !!!

@sowbarnickhasivarajan4622 3 жыл бұрын

HELL YES

@tanie3543 3 жыл бұрын

I'm Indian and I'm CRYING. Cause I don't wanna ever get into an arranged marriage but I most certainly will be. I wanna run away.

@anushreebelwariar135 3 жыл бұрын

then don't run away or reject the man your parents show

@Ms.Enide0 3 жыл бұрын

Then you will reject the partner.. what if you say no?

@tanie3543 3 жыл бұрын

@@Ms.Enide0 :( Sadly, my parents will keep showing my partners until I do get married. They just want me married by 25... There's no way I can go on rejecting everyone they show.

@commanderwaddles3483 3 жыл бұрын

@@tanie3543 Here's my take as somebody who doesn't agree with arranged marriage. Even when we choose our partners, it's hit or miss & there's trial & error. So I say, if one of them seems decent, give him a chance. Q: Are you allowed to spend some times with them & get to know them a bit before agreeing to marry them? Q: I know culturally with arranged marriage, you are essentially being traded off from the ownership of your parents to the ownership of your new husband. SO, would divorce be an option? Q: Are you still in your country? Ideas that may be ignorant: *If you're not in a first-world, secularism tolerant country, travel to one with a husband. If he's cool, you guys may have a nice life free of further cultural obligation (somewhat at least lol). If he's poop, you are now in a place where women are moreso individuals & you will be legally and socially supported if you choose to divorce. I hope you would be able to have a nice life this way without having to cut contact with your parents, but if they continue to lack respect for you as an individual, I encourage you do cut them off. This is YOUR life, & you deserve to do with it as you please 💙

@tanie3543 3 жыл бұрын

@@commanderwaddles3483 ... I am asexual.. So if this so called husband of mine even touches me before I feel comfortable with him I'll literally RUN away lmfao... And no, no one in my country knows this concept. I only want a romantic relationship without the sexual part of it, and that too with a woman. Not a man at all... So literally anything my parents show won't be my type. I wanna choose my partner because it won't even be of the sex my parents will be choosing lol ... And they're homophobic as fuck. So if I ever ever bring this up, I might as well just get forced into marrying a man. I also like that my parents try their hardest to pay for everything I want and my college but then ... I really need them to NOT make decisions about my life. I might cut them off if I ever have the courage to do what I really want to... Thank you for your words :')

@look_its_jess 3 жыл бұрын

My husband and I started dating at 16 in high school. We went to different colleges about 6 hours away from each other and stayed together throughout. We were together for 10 years before we got married because of school and life and just having met so young. We are now married for a year and a half and have an adorable kitty that adopted us 3 years ago. We got lucky especially that we were mature enough to grow together and work through any issues we had. Like Cristine said, communication is key.

@mailys9475 3 жыл бұрын

i am 19 and my boyfriend and I are about to start our 2nd year of being apart because of college. your message gave me so much hope. I love this guy so much, saying goodbye is so so hard. but we try to keep in mind all the great things we live and will live, especially when he will be finished with his degree. thank you so much for this. I needed it. bless you and your husband

@KreeZafi 3 жыл бұрын

That's lovely! My parents have also been together since they were 16, and had their first child (me) at 26. They have now been together for over 30 years. Never got married - there's less of a social pressure to do so where I live and being in unwed long term relationships is increasingly common - but going stronger than some of our relatives who did marry and are now divorced :P

@VrieChica078 3 жыл бұрын

Ben and Cristine’s response to having a homophobic boyfriend is so elegant. I was raised in a Christian household and am religious and I was basically screaming “Dump his ass!” The whole time. But I likely wouldn’t enter a relationship with someone who didn’t share similar humanitarian values as me.

@Shappire0926 3 жыл бұрын

Same! For me as a Christian I am looking for respect and balance. I say this because I can not and will not force my values on my future husband. I am liberal in alot of things, and so my husband will have to understand that, just like I will have to understand him. But if the concern is a make or break, I will pray first and if there is still no budging, its over.

@janellethereseenriquez2821 3 жыл бұрын

hi! it’s the girl who wrote the comment they responded to, Janelle. i commented more details about what we decided if you want to look into it, thank you for taking the time to respond to my situation

@lillyc9283 3 жыл бұрын

Same, as a Christian even if I don’t go out and support the community, I would never just cut my child out of my life. That’s literally the opposite of what Christianity is.

@AnneliseB23 3 жыл бұрын

My most recent ex was also hesitant to label us as a defined 'relationship' because of childhood trauma, lack of confidence, and abandonment issues so he had some commitment issues. Until one day he came to me and told me he was ready to be my 'boyfriend' and call it a relationship. After that things progressed and he was a great partner in many aspects, but I had to be willing to work with him and we had to go at his pace, which in the end is why we are now only friends (and he moved away so long distance would have been hard). It's possible to make it work with someone who may have communication or commitment issues for one reason or another, but they also have to work with you and meet your needs in a way that is good for you.

@recoil53 3 жыл бұрын

Oof. That does go back to the idea that it can work if you want to make it work, but that sounds so exhausting. More credit to you.

@KJisdope 3 жыл бұрын

Friends mom: “You’re very mature for your age!” Me: “Thanks it’s the trauma.” 🙃

@moonlightcorner1511 3 жыл бұрын

Same Relatable

@mignonhagemeijer3726 3 жыл бұрын

I have such an issue with "lockerroom talk" it would be a dealbreaker. It is just pretty disgusting.

@yeah7848 3 жыл бұрын

this literally made my tuesday a lot better🥺

@oliviat1731 3 жыл бұрын

ina dada it made her Tuesday better cause they posted

@kokonutho9210 3 жыл бұрын

@@inadada1745 quarantine really got to you huh

@amywhitewolf4903 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@kokonutho9210 3 жыл бұрын

@@inadada1745 u got daddy issues or smth?

@inadada1745 3 жыл бұрын

@@kokonutho9210 again, do you care?

@PlugInKali 3 жыл бұрын

Of course "couples therapy" is legit! It's going to therapy with a psychologist but instead of going on your own, both partners attend the session and they open up about their own problems, about what bothers them about their partner and learn communication and problem solving skills. Of course the success of this therapy depends on how serious the problems are, how incompatible the couple is and how much work they're willing to put into their relationship.

@briannaxmai 3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you said this. Lol. I hope he was referring to people who try to give relationship advice without any of the training & licensing

@yliubers 3 жыл бұрын

I was gonna say the same thing. Like relationship and family therapists are very real and legit therapists. I'm surprised they don't know this. Or if they do they could've made a distinction between "relationship coach" and an actual therapist. I've been watching Psychology in Seattle yt channel with Dr. Kirk Honda who is a relationship therapist and he's brilliant. I always recommend it to everyone, specially those who are interested in psychology even a little bit.

@kohlinoor 3 жыл бұрын

@@yliubers Oooh! Goona look him up. I've been binging Esther Perel's podcasts (Where Should We Begin and How's Work) and she's become very inspiring to me.

@mrluvpups 3 жыл бұрын

And that the point of therapy isn't necessarily for the counselor to "fix" the situation. But for the patient to acquire the ability to deal with their situation.

@KreeZafi 3 жыл бұрын

Ahh, so that is indeed legit? I honestly wasn't sure, because I recently learned that "sex therapists" can basically be self-proclaimed and don't need any particular licensing, so I worried it might be similar with relationship therapists.

@moonfox1787 3 жыл бұрын

about the locker room talk thing, I will never forget the day a boy in my science class turned around to his friends knowing that i can hear and said "(my name) shouldn't wear dresses because they don't have tits" it hurt so much, and it hurt even more that no one said anthing to them and that girls also laughed at his comment. I was 14 just trying to dress how I liked but that moment truly ignited some intense anxieties and depression about my looks and worth as a woman and how I dressed because one boy decided to voice his opinion on my body :(

@sharroon7574 3 жыл бұрын

Those comments can really hurt, I relate to this because I didn't have much cleavage until I was in my 20's and yes people made comments ( all other women) . All I can say is own and love your body just the way it is, looking back I think I looked better then than now but I have more confidence now. People that comment on someone elses body are pretty ignorant and immature so don't let it bother you. Honestly the obsession with big boobs is so stupid, I hate the way people get all wierd about it.

@beingbeckeroni 3 жыл бұрын

Cristine questioning Ben about how he hangs toilet paper and her muttering, “No no no no no....” I felt that on a spiritual level.

@izzyl1565 3 жыл бұрын

An alternative title: Menchie wants pets and attention for 58 minutes straight and Ben doesn’t give her any

@AMVilla74 3 жыл бұрын

I have two boys and when they turned about 14 they asked me if I would allow them to cuss. I said that's their choice, but my opinion is that if you start cussing it's an effort and then it becomes the way you think and once that happens then you can lose awareness and start cussing in front of people who get offended. I asked them how they want people to think about them because once you start cussing it becomes how you think and then it will slip out. The same goes for "locker room" talk. If men participate in it then they are degrading women and that's going to be how they think. It promotes male arrogance even if they treat women right in front of them.

@dinodiego5615 3 жыл бұрын

I can’t help myself. If my partner talked like that about Instagram models in front of me... Nope, nope, nope. Absolutely not. That’s just being super disrespectful and soooo unnecessary. Yuck. Like why in the hell would you talk about such things in front of your partner? Trying to make them feel bad? Inadequate? Jealous? Nope. I don’t play those games. No thank you. Like I literally can’t. It feels so passive aggressive or something that I really hate.

@arjaybautista9607 3 жыл бұрын

But he's not doing it in front of his gf, only with his friends.

@dinodiego5615 3 жыл бұрын

Shaimus Reilly If that’s the case that’s fine but maybe I interpreted it differently since his gf was asking the question/she knew about it

@rochelledliu 3 жыл бұрын

To Janelle, and in response to the religious differences: my partner is atheist and I'm Buddhist. When we were first friends, it was very clear that I'm very religious, but that it's a personal, spiritual, philosophical path and committment that I have. My partner is very unreligious, but the core of who we are and the values we hold are the same. So we are very supportive of LGBTAU+, BLM, etc. because at the heart of who we are, we want everyone to have equal, equitable rights. That, for us, was very, very important. Had I still been Buddhist, but had been adamantly against human rights, (or vice versa) we wouldn't be together. And perhaps it's because I'm Buddhist, my beliefs are deeply ingrained on how I live my life, as opposed to how I want others to live it. So I'm vegetarian and my partner eats meat. We've worked out a system where I will cook vegetarian meals, and he'll take care of the meat on the side. It doesn't bother me that he eats meat, and it doesn't bother him that I don't. If your partner interprets his religion as being anti-LGBTAU+, and you believe, at your very core, that all people should be given the same rights, there are deeper values you may need to look into and compare/contrast. Ultimately, it depends on where your priorities and values lie and whether or not they align with your partner's. If they don't, there's a possibility that the relationship cannot last in the long-run. If you both want kids, and you want him to be able to accept your children the way they are, then that's something that you'll need to look at. I hope that was somewhat helpful, hearing a perspective where partners don't have the same religious beliefs, but have the same values/priorities.

@MM-tn5uk 3 жыл бұрын

R Liu to be fair, Buddhism is generally very open-minded and accepting. I’m an atheist myself, but a lot of my values come from Buddhism, which is a school of thought I respect very much. I could probably be happy with someone very Buddhist, but not someone very Evangelical, so I think the specific religion and how it impacts your values is the real crux of the issue: even though I don’t believe in any higher power or any metaphysics in general, if someone were religious but had similar values to mine, I wouldn’t mind much at all.

@Shappire0926 3 жыл бұрын

I am Christian and I am very liberal is alot of things. I believe in choice over a women's body (many heavy debates from my Christian brethens about me not being pro-life.) I believe in equal rights. Now when it comes to procreation, I go with Darwin's theory about survival of the fittest because I think about extending one's generation. If you are not down for that, that is your choice. So if I have a husband who is very traditional, we will have to do some heavy counseling. If I have a husband who is even more liberal than I, we will just have to have discussions about things. I have friends who are Gay, Bi, Les and Trans. I do not avoid them, because I see and pay attention to their personalities. And because I respect them in that sense, they respect my Christianity. It is all about how you interact with people that have different mindviews other than yours. Now having a child who is part of the LGBTQ+ community, that is a private matter and will have to be heavily discussed before we get married.

@janellethereseenriquez2821 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for commenting for me, we decided what was for the best in the long run for us. Though we still Love each other who knows, maybe one day things might change and we will be together again. If you want to know more details then i commented as well. Again, thank you for helping a random girl who needs it most.

@rochelledliu 3 жыл бұрын

@@MM-tn5uk Exactly. I think when it comes to religious ideas, it's not so much the religion part as it is the way in which we practice/interpret/etc. I am very lucky that my beliefs are, in general, quite open and aligns with my partner's beliefs. I have friends who are Catholic/Christian/Jewish who have the same values I do but simply practice a different religion. It definitely depends on the two people in question and whether or not they have similar values/priorities/beliefs.

@rochelledliu 3 жыл бұрын

@@Shappire0926 I respect the idea about interacting with those with different views/beliefs--I think it gets much harder when you are looking to start a life together with someone with different views/beliefs. I can't imagine what it would be like raising children with such opposing beliefs, but I have heard that there are couples that make it work. It definitely depends on the individual, and that individuals within the couple, to determine whether or not a relationship is possible when the beliefs end up opposing each other. I also appreciate that you are also open to counseling as a way of understanding each other if your husband was very traditional--I think we don't raise counseling as an option often enough, and I highly support it!

@macksies420 3 жыл бұрын

I'm not in a relationship, but this is the kind of advice I'd give. "stop washing his clothes" 😂

@adimarzer6432 3 жыл бұрын

Hey an indian here, i'll help clarify what actually happens in india, when arrranged marriages happen, it means they are arranged, there is a difference between arranged and forced marriage. My gen and the earlier gen, mostly millenials and gen z are more into love marriages. But arranged, is just the parents help finding you a guy/girl, you guys talk, try working it out, etc. The more typical arranged marriages are more in the rural areas, which are more forced or where you can't talk usually to them, or sometimes like the way indian matchmaking makes it seem. Just thought i'd put it out there. 😄 Edit: i thought i'd put this is as well, i dont mean to say it isn't in urban areas, but there is more of an open conversation about it, and often if the kid doesn't agree to it, they may get away from teh family, or the family themselves may hesitate towards the marriage, BUT, yes forced arranged marriages may happen in urban areas too. Also, in urban areas, arranged marriage is mostly for people trying to find their own status quo. As in, parents go for arranged as they want to ensure the person their son/daughter may marry should have a good job or be able to ustain their own family and that they may have jobs that are more likely to be suitable timings or appropriate for each other, for more compatibility, and the children don't object to that as such as they can then try to figure out if they actually like the person by ruling out other small basic details.

@bladepanthera 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, a flatmate from uni was part of an arranged marriage, but they met each other and had some time before making it official to actually figure out if they liked the other person. It was pretty interesting to see actually, coming from my very white Western perspective. I wouldn't say it is perfect, but they probably get along better than some of my non-arranged friends' marriages! I actually quite like the idea from a purely match-making perspective. Probably because I've been single for a long time... T_T

@abhipsanayak5128 3 жыл бұрын

Well said

@No1PlutoSupporter 3 жыл бұрын

I’m not Indian but traditionally we also had arranged marriages & in hs we talked about if we’d be willing to agree to an arrange marriage, it was pretty interesting. Ultimately now I don’t think I could do it especially since Ik that my parents and I are very different & the person they’d want me to marry would not be someone that would hold the same values as me. I don’t think arranged marriages are bad but yes the forced ones are terrible

@diyatripathi6994 3 жыл бұрын

I am an indian too and this comment is completely true

@awesomeaayushree 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! It is somewhat same in Nepal as well. The parents or family help finding a guy/girl if their kids want them to and they get to know each other, hangout and only agree for marriage if they're both okay with it

@addangel 3 жыл бұрын

Regarding a man insisting on paying for everything, I think I’d almost consider it a red flag for him having very traditional gender role expectations. I think the same kind of guy would have an issue with me potentially earning more than him or with our future children not choosing a “manly enough” profession. Yes, offering to pay for a date or two is cute, but if you’ve been dating someone for a while and they flat out refuse to let you pull your own weight in the relationship.. yikes? I have an anecdote regarding this topic. In highschool I went on a date with a guy and he happened to be in the bathroom when the waitress brought the check. Now, I don’t mind a guy paying for a first date he invited me to, but I didn’t feel comfortable just sitting next to the check and waiting for him to come back and pay, so i just payed it myself. It was a couple of sodas anyway, not a big deal. However, he proceeded to feel super bad about it and lament that I’d payed for the entire rest of the night, while we drove around. Not even in a cute way of like “oh now you have to go on a second date with me so we’re even”. I get that he was probably feeling like he failed being a gentleman in some way, but it soured the entire experience and really made me question why he was so hung up on it.

@JennSarracenia 3 жыл бұрын

I use it as a litmus test. On first dates with men I will say “let’s split it”. If he insists on paying, I will say “it makes me more comfortable for us to split it”. This way, I can gauge if he’s more invested in making me feel comfortable or more invested in his gender role to the detriment of my experience and comfort. Such an easy, insightful test.

@MM-tn5uk 3 жыл бұрын

yes!!! this isn’t really related, but I think the reason I’ve mainly dated men who are shorter than me is because I can be hard to get to know and with short men, you have a built-in litmus test for their sense of masculinity: if they’re short and not insecure about it, chances are high that they don’t buy into all the crap they’ve been sold their whole lives about what it means to be a Man™️.

@addangel 3 жыл бұрын

screwculture good test! come to think about it, I’ve never dated tall men either 😅

@JennSarracenia 3 жыл бұрын

@@MM-tn5uk I love that. One of my awful BFs was 6'4". My super awesome, hardcore feminist, humanist, all around sweet and very confident dude is 5'7"

@KreeZafi 3 жыл бұрын

Definitely agree!! It's one thing if he pays more because he's got more money (which is the case with my boyfriend, he pays more because he can afford to), but if it's a gender role thing I'm definitely outta there. Another thing that I keep in mind is that even though I don't want children, I think about whether or not my partner would hypothetically be an equal parent. We never will be parents, but it's important to me from a values perspective that he WOULD take on his fair share of work IF we had kids, because I sure as hell don't want to be with a man who think it's a woman's job to care for kids!

@xxsosxx679 3 жыл бұрын

The rules to tell someone ANYONE if they need to fix something about the way they look is (if it's fixable in under 5min tell them about it if not don't) Like mention hair brushing /something in teeth /lipstick not on right But don't talk about waight or outfit after you've left your house etc

@rubytaylor9481 3 жыл бұрын

Not rules, common sense.

@kam.pillay_1113 3 жыл бұрын

“Let’s WAP it up” legit made me choke on my ramen😂

@mansishoress758 3 жыл бұрын

1) Dowry is common. In my area , it goes both ways so no one even think of it as dowry. 2) Arranged marriage are mostly of 2 types in India (I guess?): -Families meet and the guy/girl meet. If they like each other , they marry. If not , they don't (This happens MOSTLY) -Families meet. Doesn't matter what the girl & guy think , they marry. (This happens less. Still a lot for population , but less) 3) Matchmaking is either done through family/friend relations or just love marriage. Rarely anyone hire matchmakers. 4) That show doesn't show EVERYTHING. It's only for mostly rich people who weren't able to find a significant other. Yeah , that's mostly it.

@prachiarora6245 3 жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@nakshatraiyer1512 3 жыл бұрын

your point of they marry eachother only if they like eachother mostly is more common in urban and progressive House holds. in most rural areas women are married off without consent even before the age of consent and the 'options' men and women are presented with are in the bounds of a very rigid and damaging caste and class system .

@kulsoomjawaid6411 3 жыл бұрын

@@nakshatraiyer1512 in my opinion, that's not arranged marriage. That's forced marriage.

@constancemc 3 жыл бұрын

Indeed the show very clearly presents an ultra specific demographic of wealthy, successful people. It would be sad to think it represents an entire nation and culture, that in itself is so multiple, with different traditions across the country. Now the inner conflict between conservativel views and more progressive views will probably speak to a lot of people.

@persephone4053 3 жыл бұрын

Cristine should drop her own single "wet like glossy taco" 😂😂😂

@stefanogomez8529 3 жыл бұрын

the end had me dying... “let’s wap it up” “wet like my glossy taco” Lmao 😂😂

@jonathanlagneforspetersohn7616 3 жыл бұрын

Feel like my cat joins me here every Tuesday just to try and get a shot with Zyler

@awesomeaayushree 3 жыл бұрын

I'm from Nepal and my country also has the system of arranged marriage. I just wanted to let you know that there is a significant difference between arranged marriage and forced marriage. Arranged marriage is when the parents/family help their kid look for a significant other. They meet up, get to know each other, hangout and after sometime if they find that they're the one, they both agree on marriage. It's not that they're against love marriage (which is the regular way in western part of the world), but just a means to help someone find their partner with the help of family. Meanwhile, forced marriage is what it actually states: forced. It could be totally against the bride/groom's choice and totally the parent/family's choice. This is usually prevalent in rural areas but tbh it could be anywhere. Hope this was helpful to some extent

@dom4517 3 жыл бұрын

Can Ben and Cristine giving relationship advice be a reoccurring thing? I know they aren’t professionals, but I really like a lot of the insights they offer. It’s just really wholesome

@kateytaylor1843 3 жыл бұрын

Hearing Christine say “I ****ed her from the back” out loud made me immediately spit my drink out 😂

@evamanral4016 3 жыл бұрын

Lmao you don't even know her name

@Si-is8hp 3 жыл бұрын

The last time I was this early.. corona was just an alcohol 🙃

@smreilly99 3 жыл бұрын

THIS IS THE BEST COMMENT IVE SEEN

@adelledsouza1128 3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@monicagarcia8686 3 жыл бұрын

😂

@brizzuh3995 3 жыл бұрын

it still is

@florabescansaluers 3 жыл бұрын

I mean coronaviruses are also responsible for SARS, MERS and some cases of the common cold but I respect the sentiment and joke

@vasundhra4086 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah😐😐... In India, the stereotype is that the *man has to be elder* (atleast like 3 years), *taller, the marriage should be in the same caste, the parents will be choosing people's life partners etc.* , But these days, many people are breaking those stereotypes are being broken and that is a *REALLY GOOD THING...* 😀😀😀😀

@evamanral4016 3 жыл бұрын

Lmao its kinda less likely for our generation to have arrange marriages now

@samantharockhill1634 3 жыл бұрын

My boyfriend and I both comment on how attractive celebrities are to each other all the time lol is that not normal? Lol it's not a creepy "oh I wanna do x,y,z to them" but like "oh wow shes really beautiful" or "he looks really attractive in that suit"

@LucretiaPearl 3 жыл бұрын

I'd say if you're both cool with it & it's not disrespectful to either of you in the relationship, go for it. It's always good to have a conversation about what is or isn't disrespectful to a relationship. It looks like you two, even if you didn't, at least are being very equal in your response. :)

@sianc7235 3 жыл бұрын

My bf and I are the same - lus I'm bi so we talk about our celeb crushes on women sometimes. I like it and think it's fun. To me, it's a sign that our relationship is secure because we feel comfortable sharing with each other and trust one another not to feel jealous. But I guess everyone has different boundaries re: what they're comfortable with their partners saying about others.

@MartinaGiovese 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I'd say thats different from the way some men look at instagram models. There are a lot of instagram models that post very suggestive content. I'm glad if that empowers them, bc fr they look incredible! But I would absolutely find it cheating if my boyfriend was liking their pictures, following them, talking about their bodies, etc. On the other hand, if my boyfriend was following a celebrity or professional model, I wouldn't mind it at all. Admiring someone's aesthetics is different from admiring them in a romantic/sexual way or fantasizing about them. The way I see it, my boyfriend shouldn't be looking at that content if he is satisfied with me and the relationship. I totally expect to be held to the same standards too. I don't even think about looking at other men when I'm with someone I love. But of course that's where my standards lie, and other peoples can be different!

@Angie-hi5bt 3 жыл бұрын

Well if you guys are fine with it I guess it's fine. But in my opinion it would be a deal breaker

@iqranoor6082 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@LucretiaPearl 3 жыл бұрын

The "You're always beautiful" one is like my husband. I ask his opinion on clothes & he'll say "You're the one wearing it." And I'm just trying to make sure if I have camel toe or something. LOL! He's gotten better now since I've told that's the reason I'm concerned about the clothes, but it's taken a few years.

@ddh71 3 жыл бұрын

Mine, too, lol! I have to be specific, because he always thinks I'm beautiful... Lucky me, but srsly, is this shirt tight on my back fat? 😆😆😆

@KreeZafi 3 жыл бұрын

I'm like that with everything haha. If I ask someone for feedback (whether that's on something relating to my looks or anything else) I want genuine feedback, I'm not just begging for compliments!!

@Bee-nw6df 3 жыл бұрын

I adore these nuanced discussions, & how they’re not afraid to challenge one another lovingly🥺💜

@clarash8608 3 жыл бұрын

Menchie just patiently and calmly sitting there Infront of Ben waiting to be pet is the cutest thing I’ve seen this week. edit:what people dont realize with chloe ting is that she's actually genuine, she has never said "hey just do this workout for a week and boom you got abs" if u see her videos even just for a min or so she says in the start that she has a free schedule filled with diets and workouts that you have to do each day for the 2 weeks to then get abs or slimmer legs or whatever it is u want. so i disagree when everyone hates her just cause she's lying or condoning these "unrealistc" magic workouts just to get clicks.

@madisynalbanes1211 3 жыл бұрын

29:37 menchie turns her head like “did you call me fat?... oh no?... okay”

@jacklynr8926 3 жыл бұрын

You and Ben should research Chloe Ting more. She addresses your concerns. Plus, it's never just one video. She says if you want results you should check out the entire program she puts out for free. It's longer and includes more exercises that would be part of the abs program, arms program etc. She also talks about the importance of diet. She never claims the one vid will give you a 6 pack.

@Cake-um7je 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah! She also has said she creates challenges BC they're easier to get into and could be a gateway to a healthier lifestyle after the challenge :)

@kaitydidkaity6542 3 жыл бұрын

17:20 I once was with my boyfriend for hours went out in public and it was only when I got home and looked in the mirror that I realized I had CHOCOLATE ON MY FACE. Horrible

@jenlovesgreen 3 жыл бұрын

😰😰

@konijnenjoch 3 жыл бұрын

people who are shocked by wap clearly have never heard cupcakke's music

@narnia3026 3 жыл бұрын

lmaoo

@sarahdavis2406 3 жыл бұрын

You always remember your first cupcakke song. For me it was the day of my friends wedding, I was a bridesmaid and we were getting ready in the morning so I put on a random "getting ready" playlist on Spotify, it was pretty much a mix of generic pop until Deepthroat came on. We were crying laughing at just how in-you-face and ridiculous it was. An odd moment but a highlight of the day nonetheless.

@scintilliance5665 3 жыл бұрын

oh my gosh, her songs traumatized me when i was young.

@princesskristan 3 жыл бұрын

THIS! I love her music and I've been bopping to WAP since it came out. I'm trying to learn parts from it

@konijnenjoch 3 жыл бұрын

@@princesskristan this

@ShinjiL1506 3 жыл бұрын

Ben and Menchies relationship is goals

@poopnoodle9563 3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes it bums me out that Cristine says a strong woman’s perspective and ben goes “ehhhhhhhh is it really like that though??” Which is most mens excuses but the woman’s perspective of what’s almost always the truth. I wish he could just automatically say “yeah I understand, men CAN be like that or it could ALSO be.....” instead of just being like “eh idk I don’t think think so here’s a maybe neutral example” but it always kinda brushes off her woman perspective

@fadiltapupovic7720 3 жыл бұрын

Mhm, and I felt that throughout the whole video and honestly I was bit annoyed about it

@Angie-hi5bt 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@emmabrook9691 3 жыл бұрын

I agree. Especially with the Chloe Ting thing, it’s about saying “girls’ workout” not about the actual workout

@Chella972 3 жыл бұрын

I don't agree, I find it more interesting to have both of their perspective to melt up with my own opinion, it gives more than one way to see/think about things (that's also why I'm looking the comments)

@poopnoodle9563 3 жыл бұрын

Levi with V yeah no it’s different when he’s putting down women opinions

@itsjaymie404 3 жыл бұрын

Cristine- is that the Zyler polish?! 👀 can't wait!!! edit: yep, definitely a sneak peek of menchie and zyler polishes!!🥳

@megany2589 3 жыл бұрын

I’m so torn lol cuz I love chloe ting. I can see where Cristine’s coming from but I don’t think chloe’s like that imo. Her workouts are really good and she always says how everyone’s body will have different progress. But Cristine is right in that things can be exaggerated. Anyway I’m so happy it’s tuesday ☺️ loved the new podcast!

@annaotto5537 3 жыл бұрын

I mean almost everybody clickbaits their titles and Chloe Ting does go in depth on how to lose weight, gain muscle, etc; by eating healthy and doing the rest of the program that goes with the certain video. Also that Chloe Ting offers free programs when she could be making big money from it is very appreciated and makes me feel like she actually cares (at least more than a lot of these fitness gurus lol)

@KiloPapaWhiskey 3 жыл бұрын

Right I don't expect to get Chloe's abs especially if my diet is not on track at the moment. I just want to workout and feel the burn because staying active helps me. Plus I've been fighting the whole Chloe Ting craze, but I'm gonna bite the bullet.

@labonihira 3 жыл бұрын

20:40 ben, i think you've given us the most important relationship advice ever. Most people don't know this and they just hope to make do with each other even if they are actually growing differently and hence "toxic" Relationships are born. And children born in such households really grow up in a bad environment. People should know this

@RoarinRachel 3 жыл бұрын

Ben - regarding WAP - I think the tuition line is less serious & more braggadocious. Like "it's so good" all these guys will spend all this money on it. To me, this is emulating the same pride & confidence of male rappers talking about themselves.

@CHackl-ee5ob 3 жыл бұрын

Regarding the "girl workouts". There is a bodybuilder on KZfaq who sometimes does one of Pamela Reif's workouts. In yogapants and a sports bra. And he struggles cause they are not easy, even if they're "just" body weight exercises. I just think it's hilarious.

@DiggandDugg 3 жыл бұрын

I need to see this now 😂

@recoil53 3 жыл бұрын

Who - and it's cool that he shows that these are hard workouts. Except the sports bra part.

@CHackl-ee5ob 3 жыл бұрын

He is called Paul Unterleitner. But he is Austrian and therefore speaks German.

@LadyShiver 3 жыл бұрын

:( I wish I could watch this but my fiancé died less than a month ago and I don't think I'm ready to hear this right now. I'll be back for the next one. Love your podcasts.

@emelycava 3 жыл бұрын

So sorry for your loss 😭💛

@mlsa1925 3 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry for your loss. Sending love your way.

@britishventi7907 3 жыл бұрын

im so sorry😔 R.I.P

@holly._.1 3 жыл бұрын

we’re here for you ❤️

@hollybollybingbong_ 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry. Good on you for doing what's right for your mental health. Stay safe

@chiara_di_giusto 3 жыл бұрын

Solution for the splitting the check: I was in the same situation as the girl who made the question until I got to an agreement. “You pay this one, I pay for the next one” so each of us can treat the other one. Also just thinking about it, it’s a great “pick up line” to go on a second date, right? Idk

@Michelle-js5kh 3 жыл бұрын

Question: Boyfriend won’t do a thing cause it’s a “girl workout” Ben: I don’t think it’s about her being a woman... I think you missed the mark here!

@Anemone_Productions 3 жыл бұрын

Lol yeah maybe he doesn't see it bc he too is a man™ and maybe he doesn't want to believe men are just like that sometimes but Cristine's first response to write down the workout and see if the boyfriend will do the same thing if it was shown by a dude is what the person asking the question should do, I thought that was hilarious 😂

@GlowstoneWolf 3 жыл бұрын

i wish he wouldn’t dismiss sexism like that

@KreeZafi 3 жыл бұрын

Idk I think he made a legit point that it COULD be about the types of workout - but of course it very well might also be about the mere fact the she's a woman, so I like Cristine's idea of seeing if he's down if it's presented by a man. But like, men and women may sometimes (definitely not always though) focus on different things when working out. Women may focus more on achieving a slender toned physique, perhaps with some extra emphasis in the booty area, whereas men may more often want to focus on building visible muscle to achieve the buff look. So that very well CAN be the reason, but I'm not claiming to know. And of course just using the term "girl workout" seems indicative of certain attitudes - would've been better to just say you don't want that type of exercise rather than make it a gender thing.

@jra3978 3 жыл бұрын

@@KreeZafi I agreed with them and what they were saying. I can see how they maybe would prefer a different workout or want to do their own thing. But the fact that her bf said "because he thinks its a girls workout" is a bit of a red flag. There is a stigma within the gym community that womens workouts are not as intense or effective as the majority of mens workouts. Like women doing glute, hip and ab exercises vs. Men doing weightlifting and calestheics. By the way her bf phrased it, it sounds like hes implying that.

@stephaniecrossman2864 3 жыл бұрын

I read the title and thought that WAP was waffles and pancakes because I watched Joana Ceddia's video lol

@mariammuzaffar9117 3 жыл бұрын

I thought I’d give my 2 cents on arranged marriages as I’m in one. I’m a Pakistani Muslim but I’ve lived in Canada my whole life. An Arranged marriage was something I knew was gonna happen for me and so I was prepared and yeah unfortunately there are people that look at heights, skin tones, jobs, areas, as major factors when searching for a partner. I didn’t personally have many restrictions or checkbox lists of things for my parents to look for, however since i am a bit chubby I didn’t get as many offers. it really was a tense subject in my house as I was put on many dieting routines and fitness programs so hopefully gain someone’s interest. Eventually I got a “match” and we’ve been married for 2 yrs. now. I’m very happy with him but I just feel like the whole thing can be toxic for some people and can really put them down if things don’t workout because of their looks or how much they make etc. I would through also like to point out that while my parents were the ones who looked for a husband for me, I wasn’t like I didn’t have a choice. I was completely allowed to say no to anyone and also allowed to present them with anyone I wanted them to look at too. It’s really not the worst if you have a good relation with ur parents but I that some families can be very superficial. Wow.. sorry for that rant🙃🙃

@tariuswatcher 3 жыл бұрын

No, that makes sense. If a person wants to get married, why not reach out to friends or family ? It's a bit daunting to think that a person should take on such a task entirely on their own, and not have open conversations about it! Seeking a partner shouldn't be secretive.

@LucretiaPearl 3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad to hear that you had the choice to say no or present someone you'd met. It's nice to know not all arrangements are going to be scary or end up badly. :)

@yoissmee1244 3 жыл бұрын

Definitely!! Like people were talking about how their families pressured them so much to find someone and and it tore their family apart and the people blaming themselves about it and it wasn't discussed at all in the show

@mariammuzaffar9117 3 жыл бұрын

Sarah C for sure! And in that sense I can also say that I’m lucky to have that cuz I recognize that some people don’t. I was also very comforted to know that should I change my mind after marriage for any legitimate reason, and Ive tried to make it work, i would have my full parent support for any sort of divorce situation.

@mariammuzaffar9117 3 жыл бұрын

rakias agreed! They made it seem very prestigious which makes sense cuz most of the families were very well off and I suppose they wanted to be presented in that sort of way. But you have to keep in mind this is a very common practice in many culture/religions and it’s not only these wealthy and “conventionally pretty/attractive” people that do this but everyone.

@Katielovegood44 3 жыл бұрын

I’m sure ben’s sole purpose is to push the limits and see when he gets “cancelled” haha 😂

@StephanieCanada 3 жыл бұрын

Ben & Cristine: Stop washing his clothes! Me: YES!!!

@lauritsluraboge8607 3 жыл бұрын

Christine’s sweater be poppin’ tho

@laurenasuzano1977 3 жыл бұрын

I’m somewhat newly single for the first time since I was like 14 basically so I realized I spent almost the entirety of my formative years with a long term partner. I’ve been taking this time to be alone and really understand myself because I feel like I’m struggling with this newfound independence. This episode was surprisingly helpful to me as someone trying to understand what my expectations might be when I am ready to get into a relationship again.

@dynasty2x213 3 жыл бұрын

How old are you now ? Out of curiosity

@laurenasuzano1977 3 жыл бұрын

Dynasty 2x I’m 19 still young ik but like 5 years to a teenager is like a quarter of my life lol

@kylieg1497 3 жыл бұрын

Ben- "Cuz we are couple goals." Cristine- "no." Good honesty ahaha

@bk-mg9tw 3 жыл бұрын

thank you for putting the time stamps! i really appreciate it!!

@harininat4526 3 жыл бұрын

me whenever simply podlogical posts: OH ITS TUESDAY?!

@Sia44Singh 3 жыл бұрын

Indian Matchmaking is obviously an exaggerated version of the reality but some of the stereotypes are unfortunately true. However arranged marriages don't mean forced marriage. Parents just set people up..And then it's upto the girl and the guy. If they feel they are compatible after numerous meetings then only it converts into marriage. So instead of friends setting people on date parents do that. It sounds a little weird but in reality it works out pretty well in most cases 🙈 As an Indian I cringed hard watching that show and the messed up beliefs many of them had but it was kinda guilty pleasure 😂🙈 (PS : If u want to know what most of the New Generation feels about the show Watch "Tanmay Bhatt Reacts to Indian Matchmaking " on Netflix India channel. That pretty much sums up our feelings .

@kin4lla934 3 жыл бұрын

Me too! I'm an Indian as well. Hi sister

@Sia44Singh 3 жыл бұрын

@@kin4lla934 Hey ❤

@kin4lla934 3 жыл бұрын

@@Sia44Singh Hey! How are ya? Seeing this video i was like - Cristine, in India marriage system is like that only! Love marriages are very rare in India! I wish that was the opposite.

@Sia44Singh 3 жыл бұрын

@@kin4lla934 True ! Though the positive part is that the situation is improving .

@kin4lla934 3 жыл бұрын

@@Sia44Singh Yeah!! Love that!

@Fiona_fml 3 жыл бұрын

I would just like to say on the locker room talk front that when I was in high school, which was only a couple years ago, it was very bad. I went to a rural mostly-white Republican area and the things I heard in the locker rooms were horrifying and made me not want to come to gym class. Racial slurs, homophobic slurs, and sexist remaeks we’re just thrown around with abandon. I’ll never forget the time I was in class and overheard a boy say that if he found out one of his friends were gay he would shoot them and that his father (the police officer) would protect him. That made me so scared that I left school for the day. Men will say some truly horrendous things when they think no one is around to hold them accountable.

@jaredmaples1759 3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad you made it out of there.

@michaelpencil666 3 жыл бұрын

Spraying down a baby in a collander. Forget couple goals, Ben and Christine are childfree goals.

@caitlinwhisenhunt1341 3 жыл бұрын

I just don't really understand when a partner ALWAYS wants to be around a significant other. That's not healthy, you need to respect your partners needs.

@GlowstoneWolf 3 жыл бұрын

right like -find a hobby -take a nap -eat some soup just find something to do away from me damn

@sianc7235 3 жыл бұрын

I agree with you there. Though I can sympathise with being home all day and not seeing anyone, and then wanting to talk and spend time with your partner. It's a bit of a tricky situation for the both of them tbh and I hope they could work it so they both have their needs fulfilled :)

@MartinaGiovese 3 жыл бұрын

I think it really depends on a couples needs and preferences. Personally I like to spend time with my partner, even if I'm tired and burnt out from work. I'd only date someone with the same perspective bc I know it'd cause problems in a relationship. I'm not the distant type lol

@arabbarbiedoll 3 жыл бұрын

for sure! but maybe all of us just really don't like clingy people 👀😂

@jiyapanchal1844 3 жыл бұрын

When Cristine started talking about Indian matchmaking it made laugh and proud as Indian myself

@jiyapanchal1844 3 жыл бұрын

I actually agree with what they are saying it is pretty messed up, just all of these traditions are very old they have evolved into something that is much more than what the original intentions were

@ox_aishwaryavarma_xo2982 3 жыл бұрын

@@jiyapanchal1844 same

@bananaham1 3 жыл бұрын

The questions on this episode of this podcast specifically are sooo good and I learned a lot of things, thank you Ben and Cristine.

@squidthekid2335 3 жыл бұрын

I just wanna say to the girl who works retail - I mostly work retail management, that's what I usually do (taking a break right now that's why I say usually but anyway) I had to establish a rule with my previous partners when I am working retail I have to get 45 minutes of decompression time when I get home because I realized I was just so snappy and cranky if I didn't get that because it really is non freaking stop talking all day. I think if you lay it out for him he should understand, and if he doesn't and isn't at the very least willing to compromise about it that's not very cool. (IMO) Xoxo

@BlackStarSymphony 3 жыл бұрын

For everyone who follow Cristine on IG... The Ben hair!

@varunhanumanthaiah 3 жыл бұрын

Yea that’s pretty common. Some Indian marriages are arranged in a way where they actually talk to each other after their marriage. 😅😅

@amyy801 3 жыл бұрын

thats messed upppp

@hindranelanko9341 3 жыл бұрын

@@amyy801 it depends tbh. My parents had an arranged marriage and they are a happy couple. So its fully depends on how the couple makes it work.😂😁

@vicktoria4864 3 жыл бұрын

@@amyy801 its not that bad, arranged doesnt inherently mean forced.

@maitreyeenabar1754 3 жыл бұрын

@@hindranelanko9341 in the end relationships are always a gamble

@hindranelanko9341 3 жыл бұрын

@@maitreyeenabar1754 yeahhh it surely is😂😂😂😂😂

@at.8887 3 жыл бұрын

I can listen to you two for hoursssssss plus, thank you for this episode, I have so many "issues" like these you showed in the podcast. They got so big in my head I questioned my relationship too many times, but seeing your reaction to it, realizing many other couples probably has the exact same issues, and you two reveling you have your own and sort of the same, really gave me peace and more confidence, Thank you

@sarahstevens4157 3 жыл бұрын

Hot tip: light a candle while you're painting your nails. Something about it disrupts the vapors. Me husband can't tell I've painted my nails if I light a candle and keep it within a couple feet of where I'm working.

@recoil53 3 жыл бұрын

The stuff that smells is flamable. So light it up.

@sarahstevens4157 3 жыл бұрын

@@recoil53 Note that I said "a couple feet".