I thought so too with that many failed relationships, there has to be a reason and it seems as though she is not learning any lessons.

@@islandgal500 exactly.

“Most of the men I’ve been with are alcoholics”,

I somehow doubt she's got a collection of seven diamond rings to prove it.

@@andrewphillips470 maybe meets all her princes in bum bars?

She already knew at that point

I'd have told my own husband to go F himself at that point

Completely nuts!

I think the reason that we fall for scams so much now is because so many legit things actually require you to like pay first and provide this, and it actually gets people so confused some people… like seriously tho she literally wants to believe whatever she’s told

Even if he wasn't a scammer and was 100% real, he'd just be a huge jerk. Why would you even want to get with him

Lol

She's okay with it and parting with her money. He fills the empty nest void. All logic and law dictates that the child is 100% HIS RESPONSIBILITY.

Hhahhha let me guess his baby sitter is in Europe or something w nany

Such a great father wow !!!!

Umm no

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I wonder too

Samee I barely wanna give proven people my info.

they just dumb smh

I don't even like giving my phone number to people 🙄

We'd both be debt free and vacationing in Europe for 6 months ..

You forgot the word "Queen"

An my love every two words. And babe. Place tell me what grown azz woman wants a strange man calling them babe

Or they call their prey "queen" red flag

Yeah, but you wouldn’t want to be an oil rig worker or in the US military- they are apparently VERY badly paid

Or a pig... least they can put the right shape in the right place lol

​@@liliacastellanos921😂😂😂😂

Don't insult 2 year olds.

Don’t insult pigs 🐷

Omg even the babysitter was in on scam So many red flags she couldn't see

Hey don't insult my favorite perfume!

I was thinking that too, and to add to it, she refers to how all the other people she has "met" on social media were scammers as well. It paints a picture that she not only chases too much, but she chases after the wrong things. I hope that she can readjust her "wants vs needs" and fit realism in the mix and then, if she keeps her head on straight, I'm sure she could meet a really nice and REAL person to spend time with. There are a lot of authentic people on social media/dating sites and you can meet them if you stay in your lane. If you've chosen to message 5-10 people and they are all younger and more attractive than you are, and they are "all from Lagos" as she said (paraphrase) then it should tell you that you are probably using the wrong criteria and are not using good judgment/self-awareness.

Ikr! I'd block anyone who spoke to me that way immediately.

Because she thought that she probably will be with him,and feel him in real life,but unfortunately he was just an imaginary guy,it's a sad thing to send to someone hard earning money,the parasitic guy in africa will enjoy life for some time by easy earning cash from desperate lonely womeb.

@@vr7317 I couldn't be in love with someone who spoke to me that way (and who I'd never met) I just can't relate to that.

I think she’s used to being treated like that and the scammer knew that based on their conversations so he didn’t have to work as hard. Pretty sad actually.

She thought he was fit!

That cracked me up! HELL NO! I would not be listening to that nonsense. Nope.

She must've done something bad to that friend and that friend is secretly looking for revenge lol

Yep. That is a new one.

I know,,that's a new one. Lol

Probably his wife

He probably has a dozen kids to six different wives so baby sitters are a big part of his life. 😂😂😂

But he said the children were attached to the one babysitter and yet she's sending many to multiple babysitters.

But if he calls her BABE, she's a goner.

​@@ferociousgumby...or my queen, love

Isn’t it hilarious that the scammer is irritated by her?

Lmao. She's driving the scammers crazy.

For real!!!!! Shes still offering him money to talk!

😂😂😂

She reversed scammed them lol, now it's not even worth thousands of pounds anymore.

GURL!!!! I almost choked on my gum hearing her say that so nonchalantly

👍!

Oh my God!!!!!

So engaged 7 times since 2005 which would be an average of every 2.5 years. I'm jealous... I'm 40 and not even one engagement yet 😥. Ok, not jealous but dang where does she find all these men to commit?

@@SarahSmilez8100 it’s not quality she got from these men only quantity !!!

And do it by sending him money 🙈

I know right that's what she gets for catfishing hahah

Good question! Not like she got an accident settlement and that's why she's disabled.

She could have gotten back pay. She could just be on SSI instead of SSDI too but if she is on SSDI she could have gotten 5 years back pay depending on if she could prove her "injury" was going on then. It doesnt make any sense to me that someone would get SSDI just for fibromyalgia either. I have fibro, along with 7 herniated discs, 4 ruptured discs and enough arthritis to make a 90 year old blush. I also have lyme disease and a condition called M.E. and I lost the ability to walk completely yet Ive been denied 9 times. This woman is probably getting retired SSI due to her age and she may be getting maintenance or alimony because of her divorce settlement.

@@JaimeMesChiens She said she was 60 something in the video, thats why I thought she was probably on SSI but she said she was "disabled" because of fibromyalgia which just makes me mad hearing that so she may claim both. It could have been a divorce settlement of some kind too so shes living off of that, who knows. Either way shes not playing with a full deck.

@@AcousticGString she said she's 56.

@@8ofwands300 Yeah, you're right. She must be on disability with maybe alimony. Anything else would have to be back pay that she got of she applied and was denied before. Either way, shes dumb for giving any amount of money to anyone like that, its crazy.

I thought that too. Kind of weird.

@@sara31773 yes, that’s a red flag no matter where you are at. If someone tells you they got so many people wanting them, you can bet your bottom dollar that person is a narcissist

How about if they say "a lot of people follow me on Twitter "?😉

@@nineteenfortyeight6762 depends of the truthfulness of it.

I'd have said "oh. I'm sorry. Don't want to hold you back. Talk to one of them!! Blocked

Omg! Social security number should be very confidential.. she gave her life to a scammer already, ouuuuuuchhhh!!!

Right!! Not my problem

I think it's almost every women,most of them rather pick a jerk that a man who's a well rounded person!

Immature women looking to either be saved or thinks she's saving a lost cause and will change because of her.

@@rt66vintage16and not every man is going to change for a woman!

@@Sandland113 someone shouldn't be looking to change anyone period. As the commenter stated above it's immature people who think they can change someone or be the one to rescue someone, only to end up disappointed in the end. For this lady I think she enjoys the drama. Her using the money to get this guy to talk to her says a lot about the games she plays as well. I get the feeling her partners weren't the only narcissistic, abusive ones.

People of abuse learn how to function in that type of environment. So when they are not it scares them, not having an idea when the other shoe will fall. Better to be in a relationship that they can understand. Even if they do not understand what they are doing.

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We have relationships with people all day everyday. It may last a couple minutes like with a cashier somewhere. Or a couple hours with restaurant personnel. Each interaction is technically a relationship. Think of the things that you want out of a romantic relationship. Good communication? Yep, that’s important for conveying my needs with service workers. Trustworthy? Yep, I’d like to trust my server to bring me the food that I ordered. Loving? Indeed, I’d like that to be expressed as patience in my interactions with others. Devoted? Uh-huh! Devoted to providing excellent customer service to me. So Lucy, these people are most assuredly in a relationship. Maybe not the kind that you’d have nor want. But they’re in it. Not you! Bow outta others relationships. Nun-ya.

@@hoosierbaddy3052 thats not what i meant...as is blatanly obvious. These people are callling online contacts 'boyfriend', 'girlfiiend'..when theyre are assuredly. They say they ;love' them, when they dont, they may have a very strong fanatsy about them, but they dont 'love' them if they dont know them. Its the social acceptance of that being a real; 'romantic' realtionship that makes it easy for scammers. They are investing these realtionships with expectations that do not exist. Telling me to 'bow 'outta' other peoples relationships is a pretty stupid remark...every single person on this thread is discussing this video...and actually, for a lot of people getting scammed, the more people, freinds & family,that take an interest the better...a lot of them try to avoid letting people know theyre sending money becasue they know what the response would be.

hey lucy.w now we are talking on youtube, maybe i could update my status on facebook to engaged?

@@hoosierbaddy3052 you're comparing a chat with a check out guy to what others class as a loving relationship. None what do ever...and this platform for other people's opinion so it is everyones right to say how they feel, including yours.

​@@hoosierbaddy3052 That's obviously not what they meant. You're just being a contrarian

preach brother!

It woman

And with someone you have never met lmao

It's amazing how people can be so blind to red flags. It's bizarre.

@@aar0n709 what???

I almost think this is fake I can't believe anybody is this stupid

I know right! Why do these people take on the blame the scammers put on them? And babysitter? How old are these babysitters because that terminology makes me think of a teenage girl. You are taking advice about marriage from a teenage girl?? These stories boggle my mind.

I have fun with them too. When they ask me for money I play Poor Folks and ask them for more. I get dumped a lot 😢.

I don't think they have basements in Nigeria.

She should have gotten a male friend to photograph his privates and send it to him and say I'm a man too

Mud huts in Africa , many times dont have a ROOF ! Let alone a basement/cellar 😂 . Her romantic track record leaves a lot 2 B desired 2 🥳

Well it’s not like giving it to local panhandlers is much better. They’ll most likely spend it on booze or drugs too. At least with the scammers she gets a fantasy for her money.

Same. When I was on a dating site and the scammers were like "I'd love you to be mother to my child" I'd be like nope. Not remotely interested in that!

Lonely desperate people will trust anything you say to them.

A lot of these women are older and either never had kids or their kids are grown. While some women are more than happy to be done raising kids, some miss being needed like that on a daily basis. And some man telling them that he wants them to help raise their child shows a level of trust that makes them feel more secure and emotionally invested in this mythical future together that these scammers are trying to sell to these women. The more emotionally invested these women feel, the more they are willing to actually invest by sending money to make this future a reality.

The scammers either claim to be widowed. Or it's a sob story that when they were deployed they found out their wife was cheating with their best friend and stole all his money to buy drugs, which is why she can't have shared custody of the kids. The stories they tell don't change because scammers use scripts

I can't even stand when my granddaughter is constantly screeching. No way would I get in a relationship that included a small child

Right. Because I would be like “Bish you KNEW better”. Not to make light of her situation but ijs.

I felt Christine was hoping that, since she did not find the photo during her search, this man was real. The delusion is so hard to get over. SAD!

Exactly. That would make me think you need a parent or guardian, not a love interest.

Understand that very well.

Better yet, she never met him!

I don't even help FAMILY, BLOOD like that. It would be last resort to ask or lend!

I don't understand that either. Also, the really dramatic, gooey, gushy "love" messages/poems the scammers send are so gag-o-rific. Just..... yuck. Those messages aren't sweet.... they're creepy.

Usually it is oil rigs or building a bridge.

Or in the military in Afghanistan.

Totally easy to judge quite awful but easily trapped by bad advice probably due to loneliness!

I agree

From what I've seen, most scammers start to get mean and demanding when the scamee starts to question them.

Awful of HER, yes. She indulged "easy", instead of fighting to be better.

Except, she will divulge her abuse history and will find another loser in person.

Totally sooton

Hey, send me your banking information with PIN number, and your social security number, right now! Oh, and I love you.😂😂

@Livingston Lee ever heard of sarcasm? My comment was simply reiterating her assessment of past failed relationships ....she was dropping some heavy psychological disorders but never once placing the spot light on herself.

Yep. When one can't see a common denominator in a host of bad situations, they likely won't learn or change until they do. It's easier to blame other people than to look inside one's self and examine further. And her little stunt she pulled of using money to get him to talk to her when she _knows_ that is what he wants, speaks to something deeper in her, yet she's busy calling everyone else narcissistic and abusive.

@Livingston Lee your into psychology and you can't figure out the sense it makes is that they will go to any lengths to get money? its all about money? and professional grooming of the victim? study more about online scammers they also post stolen cameo's of models and whatnot as well so they know what they are doing

Well said! 👏

@CANADIAN UKRANIAN Yes, the scammers work with the victim's own narcissism. These women would rather pay out money than face who they really are (ugly, stupid, uneducated, crazy). A lot of them seem to have "fur babies", too.

Oh no, that would be so terrible for him. I'm sure he was just dying to take care of an adult women who expects to be treated like a child for the whole relationship.

Not a cheeseburger 🤣🤣🤣

On one of the other Scamfish episodes, the "military man" in need actually asked his online sweetie-pie to send him money to buy a gun!! And she did! Didn't know your military couldn't afford to supply your soldiers. 😮

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😂😂😂😅😂

AGREED

Agreed. They're in a transactional arrangement.

Some women want to have a boytoy and are willing to spend money to have exclusive access to him.

Or she's lying about all those men being 'abusive '

I hope she will go to therapist.

Yes, when do personal responsibility and accountability finally come in? I can understand being scammed by a fraudster who is in the same room with you and talking to you and interacting with you. But someone you never met in person who often said they are half a world away?

Exactly

@Livingston Lee I understand people get lonely and desperate but still common sense should prevail and rule over it. Rule with your gut intuition and mind and not just emotions and heart.

Do you think that her opening up to the scammer gave him insight that she’s used to abuse and is the type to ignore warning signs?

@@BeliiSpii Most likely. These guys are amateur profilers. Like the FBI studies serial killers, scammers have studied their victims. Considering how many times and how long they have been doing this they have acquired a lot of information- they know what works and what doesn’t with each particular type of woman and tailor their responses based on that. So knowing her background almost certainly gave him an advantage.

You mentioned the psychological and emotional manipulation and abuse, and that is correct. Hundreds of women die each year who remain in abusive relationships. This really is no different. Welcome to the age of social networking, where lonely people become even more lonely and isolated and do not have the benefit of family and friends to warn them of the dangers. Really we have to view social media as another form of isolation used by psychopaths, narcissists and abusers.

She just chose another abuser in a long line of abusers with whom she - self-admittedly - had relationships.

@@sylwiawalks2932 , there is a huge difference between being in a relationship with your abuser who is there with you under the same roof and an abuser online. Just avoid the internet and social media.

@Livingston Lee if you can’t meet a 10 in real life why would it happen online? And 10s want 10s

Yes, Fibromyalgia causes bain fog.

@@Meira750 Wow 😯

Loneliness can make people do very stupid things. These romance scammers know exactly what to say to hook you in.

I think one clue is also in that she's had abusive relationships before, I've learned it makes you more vulnerable to fall into the same pattern again

Unbelievable!

I have five grown children and none of them have my social security number I wouldn't give it to them

She is daft never send personal information to anyone.

WHY WOULD A BABYSITTER CARE??? Why would he be talking that much about it with the babysitter anyway?

I was saying that sounded creepy as ever.

Right? If he wants money thrown at him...change careers and become a stripper!

Of course it was the scammer. The babysitter didn't exist.

TRUEEEEEEEEEEE

@@diamonds5457 i agree and understand what you mean but we don’t always have to work for the money its two different perspectives on that point

Bingo

Omg yes!!!! Wtf is she doing???? 😣

wow. victim shaming much? she is lonely and she is wanting to be loved. I don't think that is wrong. Intelligent women have been scammed and often kind hearted people are scammed and attract these types of relationships. Yes the common denominator is her kindness and empathy.

@@sylwiawalks2932 wow. enabling much?

@@sylwiawalks2932 Her "kindness" and "empathy" have just gotten her screwed over for the tenth time. These words should not be used to conceal what is actually a form of sloppy kindness and lack of self-respect. This isn't victim shaming, it's a REALITY that has sadly become her reality. If she is comfortable in her skin being a victim time after time then she need only continue to do what she is doing time after time, particularly continuing contact with someone like "Chris" who verbally abuses her time after time. When she gets fed up to the back teeth with being treated like she is worthless she will have taken a first, all-important step, to start to look inside herself and ask herself some hard questions, preferably with the help of a competent, no-nonsense therapist.

Most are not mature enough to be in a romantic relationship in my opinion

I suspect that they interact in their fantasy world with these scammers, getting their ideas and dating education from romance novels.

Neither have I

Well... Ur right. We don't have any extra money to send to scammers. Lol

Blessings in disguise

A surprising number of these people who send money have almost nothing - they sell household goods, get extra jobs, don't eat regular meals, sell homes, take out loans, ask family & friends for "loans" & send regular small amounts when their disability pension pay day arrives! Even small amounts are worth it to the scammers, & sometimes scammers wait months for willing victims to get some money scraped together.

Ladies! It's time to play The Poor Folks Game!! When they ask you for money, you ask for more! 😂

It’s a good way to call him out on his claim, if she followed through.

Agree

@@Alan1234x there’s much less creepy ways to find out if he’s legit

She thought she was in a relationship so of course she’d want to come.

@@Blake1720 she’d want to come meet his daughter before she met him? You think that’s normal?

She has low self esteem, and needs counseling.

I will never understand this kind of people

She's not stupid, she's an abuse victim who keeps seeking out new abusive relationships because she hasn't gotten professional help to work on herself. She's going to keep repeating the cycle until she finds a good therapist who can make her see she needs to love herself first and learn how to set boundaries before she gets into another abusive relationship. And I would guess she probably grew up in an abusive household, so she thinks this type of treatment is "normal" which is why she married 2 and was engaged to 7 other abusive men

Really? I think everyone thought they were all scammers, (rolls eyes).

Cheezzz...really?Cheers...?? 🤣😂🤣😂

India has got them beat that’s for sure!!.

Did you go over there and do a survey by asking them? Who would admit that they are?? I lived there many years ago. Dangerous, dirty place.

@Livingston Lee exactly!!!

@@JaimeMesChiens no,I means he read a book once and now pretends to be an expert.

@@dewilew2137 exactly

I would have replied by telling Lover Boy that I had been kidnapped for ransome on the way to the grocery store because my car broke down and my bank account was frozen, and now the kidnappers and I are sick, hungry and need medicine. I WOULD HAVE ASKED HIM FOR MORE MONEY THAN HE ASKED FROM YOU! 😂

I knowwwwww! 🤣😂

🤣😂😂😂🤣

Thats rast coast #yankee. Yahnkheeeeeee Remember the Pepperidge Farm commercials? The slooooiw talking guy? Maine, Massachusetts, Delaware, RI, they all sound like that.

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She'd suffer in NYC but be ok in Mississippi

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It’s called Trauma

Extremely romantic. He seems quite the catch.

@@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat yeah right ;)

And there are no American troops in Syria.

​@@anne-elizabethmcgeary1023 The Nigerians must have forgotten about that or declared war on them again and the US is there fighting for them, so they can stay at home to continue their scamming.

Yup

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In her own mind

I was thinking that too

You are 1000% right!!!

I think you have been alone with your cats too long.

I always say " not my circus. Not my monkey!"