Want To Date A Married Man? 4 Things You Must Know

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Want To Date A Married Man? 4 Things You Must Know - From an Infidelity Specialist

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There is so much misinformation and taboo around the subject of dating a married man that women never find out the truth, the "behind the scenes issues" that come with the situation.
Women dating married men are automatically seen as deranged people that should be avoided, but this thinking perpetuates the situation and they never get to understand the "fine print" of what they are getting into.
As an infidelity specialist I have the experience of seeing the cheating, the betrayal dynamic from the perspective of....the betrayed person, the one who is betraying and the person he is betraying with.
I feel it's important to let go of the automatic prejudices that come with the true state of each of these people so that infidelity can be better understood. Only then can it be consciously avoided and thus the damage on all sides prevented.
I am also making a video in this series for the wife and the girlfriend to watch to dispel even more myths and misunderstandings and to empower each of them.
If you are stuck in the hot and cold cycle that quickly develops when dating a married man, do what you can to get out before it gets too late. Once the dependency or the co-dependency sets in women can be stuck in this situation for years and sometimes their whole lives.
If you are trying your best and still end up getting hurt, being taken advantage of, having your heart broken then this is a pattern that is not going to get fixed without clear guidance and conscious effort.
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@deniseduggins8933 Жыл бұрын

I think the bigger question is.....WHY would you want a marriage to end...a REAL woman has EMPATHY.....a woman with that will have a moral compass... she would ask the question....how would I feel if I had a husband running around on me? How would I feel if I had children and their father was going to leave for someone else? Could I hurt someone so deeply and cause such pain to children? A wise woman KNOWS....the right man for her does NOT have a wife .

@BBFLYRISEN 9 ай бұрын

🔥🔥🔥🙅🏿‍♀️

@gayhendrie84 5 ай бұрын

If he cheats on her He will cheat on you

@danatherapist9512 28 күн бұрын

Why would you like a marriage full of infidelity to keep going? This it is the real question. Is nothing to save there once he cheated on you

@kamranhamidfar1725 Жыл бұрын

Married men usually do not leave their wives. They are great manipulators

@brega6286 Жыл бұрын

And some men are kicked to the curb and get stuck with the moron female who dared mess with a loyal wife...aha.haha.....

@conickasparks3746 Жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right ,I didn't know any of this I'm still caught up he was my 1st he loved bomb me at 18years old he was 24 now look 22years later drained, abused verbally, used up it was all A lied he got me young I developed ptsd, anxiety disorder he won't leave me alone

@adminadmin3649 8 ай бұрын

Cowards more than manipulators

@jillmcbain88 4 ай бұрын

Unless they get caught, then they have to keave

@kamranhamidfar1725 4 ай бұрын

@@jillmcbain88 Not necessarily, the mistress usually has to leave.

@ReRe-hh5my 2 ай бұрын

No one wants to date a married man. It happens when you don’t enforce boundaries and before you know it you’re in so deeply, it’s hard to get out.

@noreenramsammy8385 2 ай бұрын

Men always always lie so just stay away from married men because all you have to do is hide it from ppl.

@catherinebrims8986 6 ай бұрын

I met a married man that "I fell in love with" during Covid 19. He told he he was in an open marriage. Sneaking around, secrecy is not being in an open marriage. I ended it felt so much shame as I hurt his family and was living a lie. I was divorced was lonely. We are only human. I agree marriage is sacred and I broke my core values and morals. But for the grace of God I gained my dignity and self respect by ending the "Affair".

@beautylife310 11 ай бұрын

Someone used to say, "The way a man does one thing is the way he does everything." If a man can cheat on his wife now, he may cheat on you later on, because he does not value the trust, commitment and loyalty. You fulfil his unmet needs, physically, emotionally and interculturally. If he really want to be with you, and if he is a man with courage and integrity, he should face the truth, clear things in his end first, then consider to start things with you. Otherwise, he is a man you will not respect or trust, there is no way to build a good relationship without respect and trust, period.

@BAMshazam 6 ай бұрын

And to top it off his unmet needs might not be what you think they are or what he says they are since the infidel is surely a master liar. The infidel's unmet needs might just be his/her need for more sex, especially since a lot of these infidels are porn addicts, sex addicts and alcoholics. Sex with the spouse, then sex watching porn with Rosey Palm or with the favorite dildo, then sex with the adulterous fling partner, then sex, sex, sex and that's all the infidel really wants. And you think that type of person respects you? Or is someone you can trust? If you're "supposed love" is with an infidel, then just know you're sharing your body with a demon. Better run. And better Pray.

@teresai1877 3 жыл бұрын

Dating a married person is terrible. It's saying that you don't mind purposely destroying someone's marriage, family, children's lives, etc. Go find someone single. If this man can cheat on his wife, he can and will cheat on you. It's a matter of time. Besides, infidelity is understood to be bad and sinful in most cultures, traditions, and religions of the world. Why? Marriage is supposed to be a sacred promise between the couple and God.

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

Yes absolutely. Many many people hide their marital status or lie and say that their marriage is just a living arrangement... my experience is that most if the people involved with married people have been duped until they start to get emotionally involved. My greatest encouragement is for anyone who is dating to do all they can to confirm whether the person they are dating is married and do all they can to confirm the marriage is over, possibly talk to the wife and ask her... If the marriage is over to the degree you need it to then there should be no objection to this. If they hide you now, they will hide you later. I’ve noticed that people respect you more if you hold yourself to that standard. Once you’re in their love web you loose the chance to negotiate this... set this up upfront... the married person’s response will tell the entire truth of what your status will be as you date.

@AmaLoveGoddessTV 3 жыл бұрын

The married person destroys his or her own marriage.

@Vv-fl2rm 3 жыл бұрын

😂🤣 people cheat. It’s a part of life unfortunately

@sandramoonsamy2314 3 жыл бұрын

@@AmaLoveGoddessTV 100 percent on point

@M.M.24. 2 жыл бұрын

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@vetervgolovy 3 жыл бұрын

Ladies! Don't play with fire. Everyone gets hurt in these situations. I know a man who had an affair, but refused to leave his wife. The mistress tried for 6 months and in the end the she committed suicide.

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

That's terrible. I'm sorry to hear that.

@vetervgolovy 3 жыл бұрын

@@sanyabari yeah.

@patiencepeace1748 3 жыл бұрын

Wah, that is so sad

@TeWandaJoven 2 жыл бұрын

Play devil games get devil rewards.

@carolg7570 2 жыл бұрын

Hahahahahahahaahhahaa

@amydamjanovic9183 2 жыл бұрын

The number one tip for dating a married man: don’t.

@brooklynzoo2810 2 жыл бұрын

@Amy Damjanovic • Absolutely NOT. I will STILL Date a married man. Nothing wrong with that.

@Harvey-Sp 2 жыл бұрын

Let’s see who is going to date a single mother

@ImranKhan-tj3dr 2 жыл бұрын

I m single marriad 👧👧😍😍❤❤🌷🌷

@debbieshaw7628 Жыл бұрын

@daval husen she must be...

@haeliceleste3971 11 ай бұрын

@@brooklynzoo2810until you’re the wife 😅

@griffinina 3 жыл бұрын

OMG...this is 100% true! I’m lucky that I had managed to break up with him. But even now, it is still difficult for me to not care about him.

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

It's definitely not easy so kudos to you💕

@loriblythe6635 2 жыл бұрын

I hear you. I’m currently involved with a married man. He was separated but now he’s back with her but still seeing me. He says he doesn’t want to cheat but he is with me. He says one thing but does another. It’s hard to end it but know that I should.

@griffinina 2 жыл бұрын

@@loriblythe6635 💪🏻💪🏻 end it now before you he hurt you

@debravan1167 2 жыл бұрын

You women have self esteem. How can you wanna be with someone married .

@debravan1167 2 жыл бұрын

No self esteem

@beccaboselli8444 11 ай бұрын

Run girls!! Nothing but heartbreak 💔 Great job explaing this

@lovejoy6710 Жыл бұрын

ppl fall in love with married ppl everyday and married ppl fall in love with a outside person everyday. These KZfaq videos are not everyone’s reality. I’ve seen my mom get left for a side chick.. I’ve seen her talk to different men throughout her marriage. I have friends , homegirls etc that have been dating the same married man for years. Don’t take much. I’m not saying it’s right …. But I’m saying let’s not say married men/women won’t leave because they will! It’s rare .. but they will leave. If anyone is married i say being God in and keep him close. Marriage seems hard & i definitely can’t and won’t do it unless God is involved.

@hayleylewis11 2 жыл бұрын

This is the best and most insightful advice I've ever heard on this subject. Everything you said resonated deeply with me. Thank you so much.

@lotusmccary9365 2 жыл бұрын

Don't do it. It is the most painful experience if you do it because of love. 99 percent of the time they will not divorce their spouse especially if they have children. And the irony is you will be used consciously or unconsciously to improve their marriage. You are last and used by him.

@donnaatienza8001 Жыл бұрын

Your so right indeed.

@BAMshazam 7 ай бұрын

Adulterous flings don’t improve the backstabbing infidel’s marriage. It will blow it up like a bomb. However, you are 100% right about the fling partner being last and used. He’s probably a sex addict who gets off on his wife and can’t get enough, so he gets himself off with porn, then moves on to get himself off on you. The only thing it improves is making his dick happy. Real relationships are built on trust and respect. The betrayer has no respect and people who trespass on another’s “committed” relationship have zero respect for anyone especially not for one’s self. Get a clue… the adulterous infidel is a backstabbing lying devious cheater. Nothing but a creepy snake. You’re “in lust” with a sneaky snakey betrayer and that’s the kind of person you want? Can’t build a house on quicksand without it sinking and you can’t build a successful relationship on adultery. No good relationship can be built without trust and respect.

@patiencepeace1748 3 жыл бұрын

True to that, I've been in that triangle, fell in love deeply, became so emotional dependant on him. A man twice my age, I'm a born again church gal. Fighting everyday with guilt and lust at the same time. I could not compare him to any other guy I've ever had. I refused to have his baby though, I kept asking him why he never left his wife if they never had a happy marriage.. Later I just found he had other 3 side chicks and all are pregnant. Very hurting but an even better reason for me to completely move on. I've been trying to leave over and over again but with no success. This time is for good. NB: he has no idea I know of the other side chicks, my intuition led me to sneak into his phone and boom!!!

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

That’s beautiful. Let your intuition guide you. Any guidance that is coming from an urgency, an emergency, a panic, a fear, is not from your intuition it is from your anxious parts or your ego. Intuition comes from a connection with our authentic self which in spirituality is also called soul. Since you are a born-again Christian the more you use the connection with your soul or your authentic self to make your decisions The more you are going to be reinforcing whom you actually are. Dependencies are as hard to break as addictions so I understand. When you look at brain scans of people who are under love addictions and those under substance addictions, they are the same. The only way to break a dependency like this is to go to a higher part of yourself... Your authentic self or your soul If you stay in your ego parts/your anxious parts, you are going to remain dependent and remain in pain. Whatever you practice most becomes your experience . if you live in your fear your fear will multiply if you live in your faith your faith will multiply. Where there is Faith there is no fear... where there is fear there is no faith

@patiencepeace1748 3 жыл бұрын

@@sanyabari thank you so

@lorischellenberg3219 3 жыл бұрын

I too am a Christian, and I know this married guy has been sent by the enemy, the devil himself, to distract me from God’s calling on my life! The enemy wants our commitment to the Lord, and he’ll use our loneliness & need to be appreciated, to distract us. I know all of this in my head, but it still makes it difficult to break this imitation love, off!!! I also believe that ungodly men are attracted to Christian women because of our kindness and godly joy. They, and their dear wives, are searching and in need of, the peace that we have, and are actually attracted to the God within us! I’ll pray for you too. I really need to trust God more, to send the right guy. And you and I both deserve it!!! 😀🌷

@patiencepeace1748 3 жыл бұрын

@@lorischellenberg3219 Amen, I pray for u too. God will heal us and send us our own.

@safiyabeebi833 2 жыл бұрын

I too fallen in love with a married guy...i love him alot and i cant leave without him..i wish to get married to him...but I don’t want him to get divorced to his wife..I want him to accept me as his second wife..But i am scared to discuss about marriage.Because I donno whether he have the intention to marry me..But i knw he loves me..Please help me out to get a solution

@BAMshazam 9 ай бұрын

Marriage is a commitment. The married person has a soul bond with their spouse. And the adulterous partner shares that bond with their infidel’s spouse. So you’re participating in a love triangle or more. He’s probably cheating on you and the spouse with even more people.

@gglin5595 3 жыл бұрын

my Lord ! you are awesome ! you have said everything correctly on this subject ! I am facing this now, my heart is very painful but it is very toxics and abusive to me to be with that married man !

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

It looks like you are already on your way to finding a way out of the pain... the most important thing is realizing you don’t want to put up with the pain anymore... once you set off on the path to finding your liberty from pain, you’ll eventually find it... good luck 💕

@ImranKhan-tj3dr 2 жыл бұрын

I m single marriad ❤❤🌷🌷

@jools726 2 ай бұрын

Met him on a dating app, he said married but lonely and looking for a friend to chat to. So we met after 8 weeks, i fell in love that day, then he said we needed boundaries! He said he and his wife sleep alone and haven't had intimacy since 2007, yet he's still there living in this sham....

@jkkennedy8919 2 жыл бұрын

You shouldn’t be dealing with a married woman or man period

@gulnarcabbarl4141 3 ай бұрын

The best explanation of the issue i have ever heard of anyone.Thanks for your time and integrity😊

@cynthiaholland13 6 ай бұрын

Four words: Girl, don't do it!

@lee-rentiaarnoldus4500 3 жыл бұрын

Much appreciation for your openness 💕

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

My pleasure. 🙏🏽💕

@MuhammadImran-ln4fz 3 жыл бұрын

Hi 😚😙😗😘😍😍❤🙋

@kathleenreece1034 Жыл бұрын

Why does it seem that you think dating a married man is only a problem if the man does not leave his wife? Is his lack of integrity while leaving a committed union not a problem for the other woman? Is the other woman’s lack of integrity also not a problem either? Getting into a relationship based on lies and infidelity is a problem even if he leaves the woman who believed his promises to her.

@Scole23786 Жыл бұрын

Its a question of self respect and integrity. A person with enough self respect, dignity and integrity will not knowingly cheat on their partner, especially when there are kids involved. This includes the person they are cheating with. Clearly they are lowing their self worth to be considered a "side fling"

@Hassanthehorse 2 жыл бұрын

I think that women who knowingly become the other woman should try to reflect on whether some of the temptation associated with being with a married man comes from their own sadistic, destructive and narcissistic impulses that they have (we all do) but refuse to own up to/honestly acknowledge by playing the role of a victim who is being emotionally taken advantage of or tricked. I've noticed that many of them recount the experience in a near child-like way where they come off as having no control or active participation in the affair

@deniseduggins8933 Жыл бұрын

👏👏👏yessssss

@yev791 Жыл бұрын

exactly! I can't even talk about this type of woman's personality. Awful.

@BAMshazam 7 ай бұрын

100% on target. These lying devious snakey cheaters find people who are just like them. They have zero respect for anyone especially not for oneself. The adulterous fling partner is just as disgusting as the demon they’re doing.

@shannadaraiche227 2 жыл бұрын

The truth is that there's many story of men leaving their wife with who they do not bond anymore for their mistress. And they end up marrying their mistress.

@reasy1978 2 жыл бұрын

Yep. Steve Harvey did.

@kyndalkillebrew5139 2 жыл бұрын

And most of them continue to cheat. Don't be a dumb ass.

@duchessdelarue5983 Жыл бұрын

It’s very rare. I wouldn’t bet on it. Maybe the wife throws them out when she finds out and he goes to the mistress. Then will eventually cheat on the mistress too.

@BAMshazam 7 ай бұрын

When people leave their married partner and get with the disrespectful adulterer, statistics show it only works out 3-5% of the time. So do you really want a person who can’t keep their commitment and lies, cheats, and disrespects in order to seek out their lust filled ambitions and is a backstabbing adulterous infidel. I supposed if you disrespect and become involved in that kind of deception then you’re just like the betrayer. You deserve each other. Hope you don’t develop PTSD like most betrayed spouses do when the snake starts cheating on you with another disrespectful adulterer. Try respecting yourself and others.

@savleensur8670 6 ай бұрын

So? Look what happened to Khloé Kardashian

@lilianmwangi6832 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely true, thank you for that eye opener and a handcuffed key. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

I'm glad to be of service♥️

@340kmusic9 Жыл бұрын

If your trying to date a married person …You need to look into Polygamy

@lydiakiragu6295 Жыл бұрын

Almost everything you said is true-my only biggest deviation is he was honest enough to tell me that he loved his wife and that our relationship and their issues had nothing to do with why he loves me... his love for me was not hinged on their failures and didn't want me to take on the competitive behaviors because he loved us both. And I believe him. (Some context : is that he comes from a polygamous father but had vowed it was not for him until we met. He claims that's what he's working towards. He is a very brillian man - one of the smartest doctors in the country so maybe he's just outsmarted me).. I think with everything you have said about the love unlike any other is where I am, and willing to live in that triangle if we all maintain the boundaries. However I see no effort from him to create the boundaries he claims after 5yrs and 1 son together.) I'm beginning to feel that he never wants to upset the balance at home because his wife is not having it..) he has introduced me to his whole entire family and they all acknowledge our relationship on the one hand but do not want to upset the wife on the other. It is a mess. I keep trying to get out of this situation and find someone who will be my person but what we share is rare

@thomasarmah9226 Жыл бұрын

Hmmm sis mine is same as urs

@BAMshazam 7 ай бұрын

No you just think it’s rare. What’s not rare is the number of disrespectful adulterers that think their fling partner is so special and that they are so in love. Why do you adulterous fling last choice people want a lying, devious, snake who can’t honor commitment and who disrespect the love of his life on the lowest level possible? That’s what you love… a backstabbing adulterous lustful infidel?Why not be in a real relationship? Why do you want to be in a relationship where you get used for sex when it’s convenient for the lying cheating snake? Do you like being used? Or are you just blind from the truth?

@cynthiaholland13 6 ай бұрын

I hope you have left him by now. You deserve more than any man's crumbs and the leftovers from his wife

@cynthiaholland13 6 ай бұрын

Yes she said that this is what the women will think. What we have is so rare. It's not rare.

@mariagramieri9290 2 жыл бұрын

We were both married and wanted to be together. His kids were small, mine were pretty well grown. In the end he couldn’t leave his wife. She found out. We broke up. He stayed I left my husband and moved on. Yet 30 years later I still think of him. Did I really love him. Or did I just to win him or were we mutually co dependent….I think the latter

@humanblockhead5726 2 жыл бұрын

As a man who’s been in a rocky marriage, I’m sure he stayed because of the kids as I am . At least he got to fool around, I’m over here staying faithful and loyal 😅

@moonglow1158 2 жыл бұрын

I have a woman in this situation who will not confess to this . She wants to use me constantly I guess u until she gets the call .. And like I said somewhere else very viscous towards me and I travel 7 hours for her … until I told her I know what she is doing she blocked me and I have moved on I doubt she contacts me again . Sad she couldn’t be truthful , we could have had something but no …. She like to take her extreme hatred out on me . Thats bad ,, anyone know or have a reply on this ? Thanks

@90charim Жыл бұрын

Falling in love with someone isn’t a crime although circumstances aren’t the best

@humanblockhead5726 Жыл бұрын

@@90charim 💯

@BAMshazam 7 ай бұрын

@@90charim Falling in love with a married person should be a crime. It’s called adulterous infidelity. It’s not ok to destroy anyone from the inside out by blowing up their soul. The faithful betrayed partners experience severe PTSD. It is ok to fall in love with a single person and it is ok to be in an open relationship. It is not ok to break the marriage vow. It is not ok to be a lying, deceptive, sneaky snake who disrespect with that type of backstabbing adulterous infidelity. Don’t get married if you want to have sex with anyone anytime anywhere especially if you committed your life to the supposed love of your life. People get taken to court all the time for breaking contracts. Betrayers should be held accountable for breaking their marriage contract and commitment and for destroying their partner. Murdering someone’s soul because they broke their commitment should be a crime. It’s worse than murdering their body because they are alive but dead inside… the walking dead.

@HeavyHaul51 Жыл бұрын

Im in this type of situation now. Married my whole adult life and im 72. Wife had grown cold and distant. No intimate contact let alone sex for years. Tried talking to her about it and she just gets pissed. Im ran into my first gf from when i was 13 or 14. She was married 40 yrs and her husband passed. We started talking and meeting for coffee and such One thing led to another and we wound up in the rack. We text all the time talk once in a while and see each other when we can. This has been going on just under 5 years. No matter how many hints I drop she won't let go. If called her right now and asked her to drive to Hell and pick me up, she would pack a bag and leave asap. Thats how deep this goes. If she were to do the same, Id find and excuse not to. My wife is not well and I can't leave after all these years. I thought in the beginning I thought I could. This story runs deeper then i can go without it being a novel. Bottom line is she is Absolutely crazy about me. This started out very fast and only got deeper faster. I do love her but its like the right person but wrong time. I know it has to end because its to deep just to be friends. I promised her at the beginning that any bad news would be in person not in a text. I never expected to this deep in love. I was feeling sorry for myself and it was so easy for this to get out of hand. You are 100% right no matter what I do someone is going to get hurt.. At this age i got myself into a real mess.

@MNikov 4 ай бұрын

You sure did, not feel sorry for you.

@jonbanks653 Ай бұрын

I can relate. Some wives know that since you "got papers" on them they can do as they please and treat you like you are nothing. Then when you do meet someone who cares about you then wife wants to play the victim card

@MariahSincere 15 күн бұрын

Sir your wife doesn’t want you. And you’re going to play the person who actually wants you because you are afraid to leave.

@gglin5595 3 жыл бұрын

your words have saved me in time ..

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

Im so happy to hear that... this was what i was hoping for... feel free to reach out if you wish

@kishanaali8144 2 жыл бұрын

Omg..everything here is so true,I was going through a divorce and went to a lawyer I used to work for,I was vulnerable and he wanted and made me felt special,I have a newborn baby girl for him and it's true what you're saying,he has no integrity,sorry I saw that too late,now he doesn't mine his child but represents people in child support cases,lucky for me I didn't pour out my whole heart otherwise I would have been heartbroken but its my daughter am concerns about,growing up father less. I recently lost my Dad and can't imagine a girl child growing up without their father.

@brega6286 Жыл бұрын

Talk to state Bar association about what happened.

@yev791 Жыл бұрын

Should have thought earlier. Gross behaviour.

@sessionivory 2 жыл бұрын

Keep coming back to this video...Can't break me...

@leesedilee6849 2 жыл бұрын

Wow! Your advice. He asked me out yesterday and today he told me he is married but he loved me at first site. Now we planning our first date. I gave him my contact details because he seemed cute, articulate, clean and decent only to tell me that he is married but he liked me and asked if we should kick it. I agreed and told him as long as his wife don't find out, now i feel like it's WRONG and UNETHICAL of me to participate. This will be my first time engaging with a married guy, on the other hand I'm lonely been single for 4 years. I don't know what to do.

@leesedilee6849 2 жыл бұрын

I wish he never told me he's married. Should i go on this first date?

@bw-dn1wp Жыл бұрын

@@leesedilee6849 imo explore it, why not? especially if he is the one trying to impress and chase YOU. let the man.. just reap the benefits and keep your options open!

@brega6286 Жыл бұрын

Best cut it off while you can before a wife like me destoys your reputation and probably your chances with a nice single guy who will not be willing to get involved with one like you.

@littlelily4 Жыл бұрын

Why do you want to go with him in particular knowing he is married ? I'm not judging I'm just curious A man flirted with me at work he has come a few times he owns a company that has a deal with my employer. Turns out at one point he held the door open for me and I saw he had a wedding ring. I was pretty disappointed because I feel this very strong attraction to him and I think it's mutual. He's a couple years older than me, he has a good situation I suppose, he's super attractive, seems mature. Maybe I would have said yes if he had asked me for coffee or something, not saying I would have slept with him but still. I'm at this point in my life where all the men that I meet are immature, undecisive... i'm starting to have a pretty negative outlook on love, I don't even know if I really want to have kids and get married someday (with all the things i'm hearing about marriage etc). I'm really bummed out he was married I could sense that him and I we would have had a lot in common, which is so hard to find these days I feel. Anyway sorry for the long ass paragraphe I was just wondering why you chose him and not a single guy instead

@bw-dn1wp Жыл бұрын

@@littlelily4 why not both? Who said you have to pick one?

@imaginelovepeaceandhappine3281 2 жыл бұрын

I felt sorry for the female because he lied to her. She didn’t know he was married but when she find out she told him he need to choose and it should be her. WTH!!! The sorry feelings went out the door. I told her she can have him when I’m done with him. How about that!!!

@lotusmccary9365 2 жыл бұрын

Sorry you have pos

@aara8174 2 жыл бұрын

What sucks is that he’s begging to keep it going but I don’t want to hurt myself at the end , he said he wants it forever but I know that’s not reality, it’s barely been a month and he’s hooked , he wants to see me everyday but I only see him once a week bc I don’t want to be attached. So instead he lives his home every just to get in the phone with me , he calls me all times a day when he’s at work. It’s so hard bc he’s becoming a friend too . We tell eachother eveything . He doenst want me to leave but I can’t stand being the other . He going out with her tonight and it made me feel like shit so I’ll end it ASAP.

@Erika29.17 2 жыл бұрын

Did you broke up? It's an awful place to be, when you'r having feelings for him, but somehow, you know he's just playing with you :(

@aara8174 2 жыл бұрын

@@Erika29.17 no we just went to vegas this weekend , first time we spend 3 nights together . Tbh I think I’m starting to like him more each time. It’s insane how can someone married have feelings for someone else .

@aara8174 2 жыл бұрын

@@Erika29.17 this Thursday I guess he kinda got caught by his wife. He had the whole freaking weeknd to fix it I was scared this day and he called and said he fixed things and nothing has to change between us

@Erika29.17 2 жыл бұрын

Omg im trying so hard to finish the relationship, but we haven't. And I feel depressed and regret all the time I accept be "the other". And I feel I can't leave him.

@aara8174 2 жыл бұрын

@@Erika29.17 I mean do you want him to leav his wife ??? Or are you okay with keeping it the way it is ?

@jarenlio8772 Жыл бұрын

Therapists see marriage and relationship problems as their business, making money out of your problems, they will never solve marriage and relationship problems, problems and suffering are part of this existence, you must understand.

@skyepalmer5719 Жыл бұрын

Exactly, it's not always as black and white as this Woman is telling it.

@90charim Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video! Very informative n not condemning

@romans52345-cy3tq 4 ай бұрын

A woman would never date a man who lives with his mother but she would date a man who lives with his wife

@aprilthomas9718 Жыл бұрын

Never date a married man!! He belongs to someone else. Get your own man.

@margaretsmithsmith9092 4 ай бұрын

Very true all the way but very hard to give up if you love them with all your heart.

@brightpage1020 Жыл бұрын

You want to date a married man? Don’t. That is all. Good day.

@roselliebarrera2027 2 жыл бұрын

Getting involve in a married man is really ridiculous i just waist my time and energy i just found out that he is married he intentionally lied to me. but for now i realize how difficult to deal. I walked away realizing no future at all amd limited movements.

@BAMshazam 7 ай бұрын

I applaud you for respecting yourself and for not continuing to live a lie. You freed yourself from a devious snake. You freed yourself from a creepy backstabbing adulterous infidel. He’s a predator. He doesn’t honor or love anything but his penis.

@annengei2814 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks just what I needed find this useful.

@sessionivory 3 жыл бұрын

majority of the time, no matter how much time he spends with you, what he spends on you, or how he proves he doesn't want his wife...you are not worthy, beautiful, ask him to leave his wife...He won't. And be blessed...move on. Thank God you are not the wife he betrayed. You, I deserve BETTER. Men get bored and it's so sad because you knowing he has a family. Honeymoon faze...he will never introduce you to his family.

@michaelkebederak5242 2 жыл бұрын

he need you only for havefun

@sessionivory 2 жыл бұрын

@@michaelkebederak5242 Sad thing is if he does the same things he does for his side piece for his wife she would make sure he had fun...marriage is real life...those extras don't want that...trust me. If they knew what married women go through...

@brooklynzoo2810 2 жыл бұрын

@@sessionivory It just means that the married man is in LOVE with BOTH women, the side chick and the wife.

@sessionivory 2 жыл бұрын

@@brooklynzoo2810 Which is pitiful.

@keishawilson9219 Жыл бұрын

Going through this now

@portalplainsandwich6766 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video.

@sushama4714 8 ай бұрын

Never never date a married man because such a person has two faces .Actually he loves his wife and kids,but will show you that he is unhappy in his married life.If you involve emotionally in him then your life will defenately miserable as he will leave you for one more option.

@Skippy-l6h 2 жыл бұрын

I felt like a kid watching this video. You were talking so slow as if we are in grade school, Thanks for the content.

@brightpage1020 Жыл бұрын

Dating a married man is like saying you don’t respect his commitments any more than he does, and why should you? Because as a potential future stepmom, you’ll need a positive relationship with them and ruining their mothers’ life isn’t the foot you want to start on. Isn’t the best 1st impression.

@BAMshazam 6 ай бұрын

Impossible to have a positive relationship with a devious, deceptive, sneaky snakey liar who can't keep a commitment. The adulterous infidel can never be trusted. The betrayer doesn't respect anyone.

@brightpage1020 6 ай бұрын

@@BAMshazammy 👉 my point exactly. 💯 Thanks for clarifying for the slow pokes ;o) So glad you could read between my lines there. 😀 I worried I might have been unclear. Phew! Thanks for picking up the slack. 🍻 cheers!

@kamranhamidfar1725 Жыл бұрын

The one who is trying harder, is in a weaker position.

@amogelanginnocent2872 2 жыл бұрын

lol without getting to the end of the video i felt in love with you. humble soul . subscribing

@roxyfox9384 2 жыл бұрын

Very helpful thank you so much

@vicp99 6 ай бұрын

Never mind the "moral" question. For many, that's not an issue, or at least not enough of an issue. IT'S a LOSING proposition! I've seen it several times! DO NOT waste your lives on these married men! WTAF!

@tunhidzaimubvumbi7635 Жыл бұрын

Iam in a same situation..iam cofused ..Lord help me to do the right thing

@tamasapatra397 Жыл бұрын

This video is a godsend

@sanya-kaysmith6425 2 жыл бұрын

What if he didnt told you he was married when you guys just and its after intimacy and falling for him that you found out hes married... what do you do then??

@seekgod1st291 2 жыл бұрын

You leave because eventually you will be in the wife shoes ! Know your worth

@brooklynzoo2810 2 жыл бұрын

@Sanya-kay Smith • You stay if you want to continue staying. Either way it is not wrong to continue sleeping with him, as long as you are using protection and don't fall for him either as far as your feelings. Go find yourself a second man so you won't have feelings for the married man.

@lotusmccary9365 2 жыл бұрын

Drop his ass because it will get worse. Ghost hard

@ImranKhan-tj3dr 2 жыл бұрын

Hi ❤❤🌷

@lotusmccary9365 2 жыл бұрын

Just remember he has already lied to you. Don't allow him to do it again and ghost him. He deserves to be ghosted. Can't resolve anything with a liar

@saraoverwinnaar1277 3 жыл бұрын

This is true thank you 💜

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

My pleasure 💕

@amydamjanovic9183 2 жыл бұрын

I know this is off topic, but you could totally do ASMR.

@leataylor9277 2 жыл бұрын

😆

@ThreeBikeMike Жыл бұрын

Need to turn this around and give advice to the married man who is being chased by the immoral woman.

@jlmadd 2 жыл бұрын

That’s not love. Its the opposite

@Njeri79 7 ай бұрын

Lovely voice and you’re right on!

@nitakalisingh9445 2 жыл бұрын

Dont fall in love with a married man.

@Harvey-Sp 2 жыл бұрын

Let’s wait and see you becoming a single mother and will see how that turns. 180 degree not in your favor ladies

@farhathsulthana3863 2 жыл бұрын

love this video

@zz-ic6vy 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! How do i stop to get attached to unavailable men?

@princesslillian5197 2 ай бұрын

My cousin Left his wife and married a side chick. Even made a party and they're still together.

@saritaunni2168 2 жыл бұрын

so so so true Sanya. You have really really spoken the mind of THOSE women..... its the absolute truth..

@saraoverwinnaar1277 3 жыл бұрын

He lie to his wife .....thé Woman at home is thé most Hurt Woman Not thé outside Woman

@wangui9908 3 жыл бұрын

The outside woman will soon be in pain too when she starts to wither and finds out there is another outside woman

@SusieQ1971 3 жыл бұрын

Not when she knows nothing about the other woman. In my case she never found out about me nor did I tell her. I got out I was manipulated and lied to.

@katarina6724 Жыл бұрын

No offence doctor... but I'm never the one they want to show off. It's strange because they tell me I'm so beautiful blah blah blah and yet, it's always another woman they pick to show off or to give the title of "girlfriend" or wife to. I see them posting photos of these women and it really makes me feel like all the negative things I think about myself really are true. Like, "Okay, maybe I really don't deserve to be with a man who doesn't want to keep me a secret".

@Guts318 7 ай бұрын

It's better to date a married man, really. Better to share a successful man than be saddled with a faithful loser.

@ElearningDigest 7 ай бұрын

Amen. I’m the married man with a wife and a gf.

@savleensur8670 6 ай бұрын

Youre trash

@savleensur8670 6 ай бұрын

Sad you think married men are successful

@Guts318 6 ай бұрын

You missed the entire point. Looks like reading comprehension is not your strong suit.@@savleensur8670

@navipillay4363 4 ай бұрын

If takes a heartless man to leave his wife and especially his 3 children

@hippieHawk Жыл бұрын

My husband went back to an old flame , in 6 weeks she did the divorce papers for him because they were madly in love, she taunted me with pics on fb of them together, she bragged to me he was divorcing me, and she was his fiancee ,then after the divorced she bragged he divorced me.

@iloveandcare3128 Жыл бұрын

Wtf jerk. Hope you were not with him for too long. Good riddance

@dianabialaskahansen2972 4 ай бұрын

Rule 1: Don't date married men. Wait until after divorce has been finalized. Do not be a homewrecker.

@theloverevolution_ 2 жыл бұрын

“Codependent “ yes!

@carlel121 10 ай бұрын

No I don’t, but he insisted that he wants to see me, I do like him tough, I’m married too 🙄

@FransceneJK98 3 жыл бұрын

What if I’m not in love with him but just enjoy having fun with him and we are both on the same page? I’m his escape and he’s mine. I don’t see what’s wrong with it. His marriage was in shambles before he met me

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Mausi. These things can be a fun escape in the moment but by their nature they are deep traps of pain all around. If you didn’t have emotional hooks in this relationship then you wouldn’t watch this, or comment here. Please watch out... he’s the one who benefits the most and your the one who has the biggest potential to get hurt. Remember if a marriage is truly in shambles then it doesn’t last... it’s obviously fulfilling some role that he wants to keep getting otherwise he’d leave and be with you. Infidelity shows a high level of lack of courage, it’ll take a lot for him to do the right thing. Good luck to you my friend and so much love.

@FransceneJK98 3 жыл бұрын

@@sanyabari thank you for your comment. I appreciate it. There’s a lot of truth in what you’re saying but it seems that even after a month, he seems to be the one falling for me and is all over me, and I’m not falling for him. But the second I do start to catch feelings, I know how to back out.

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

All the power to you. Stay safe, stay happy. Love Sanya

@wangui9908 3 жыл бұрын

@@FransceneJK98 it's a tactic they use,,, to boom love you until they completely win your trust... When u start to fall for him, and he starts to pull away, you'll find yourself chasing after him.. He'll make sure that u kinda get addicted to him so that leaving him won't be easy even when he start to show no interest in you.

@trenaj6209 3 жыл бұрын

This is what my ex husband mistress thought, but she was left crying, and yelling because she thought she was above being mistreated by him. How she got him she lost him....

@lindy-anngittens7053 3 жыл бұрын

Wow you nailed it

@christinacottrell6505 6 ай бұрын

Coming from the wife who has been betrayed! Do not date a married man!!!!!!!!

@michaelkebederak5242 2 жыл бұрын

not need ever date or make relation with married man period!

@Odani_Fam 4 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@whatuexpct Жыл бұрын

Where’s the link to bread-crumbing?

@ginataberna19 2 жыл бұрын

Hi mam pls help me,he is my bf for 3 yrs but his family find for him a girl to marry as an arranged marriage,i know he love me but he cannot disobey his mom bec.he is the only son,and we are from different culture and country,we are LDR we never meet yet,he ask me to stay with him he will marry this girl only for his family.we love each other so much ,he get married but still he call me video call everyday,send message.i want to let him go because its hurting me,but he doesnt want to ler me go,now he is already went to work other country and leave the wife in his family,mam shall i stay or ahall i leave ?pls give me advice

@savleensur8670 6 ай бұрын

LMAOOO you can’t love someone you have never met 😂😂

@shaloms6811 2 жыл бұрын

I am gay and my bf is married and we are happy for past 7 years. His wife is happy too 🙂 She is good friend with me and she is aware about it ☺️☺️

@melanieelepen3180 2 жыл бұрын

You are fooling yourself. This is fake happiness. You're fooling no one

@BAMshazam 6 ай бұрын

If it's an open relationship and every knows and that's what you want then go for it. However, don't call it a marriage because it truly is not.

@rosewanjiru2508 3 жыл бұрын

Oh! God what to do???

@teresai1877 3 жыл бұрын

Find a single man. That's what to do. Going for a married one is selling yourself short. Many of them are also deceivers. If they can cheat on their wife, why wouldn't they cheat on you?

@marciabrandon2423 4 ай бұрын

Married men can date???

@derriousfrazier2423 2 жыл бұрын

Why do you have this on youtude about dating a married man thats wrong your not suppose to cheat.

@maripazcorbett2698 2 жыл бұрын

Im on this triangle right now we talk from the time he wakes up video calls while heading to work n in between the day until he go home mon. To fri. Sat n Sunday is not much bcoz shes home. He was my first love a high school love but he is married so im hooked i need ur help to think im from Florida n his in California. Im thinking his far anyways he is consistent i go there 2x a year we spent time together i dont feel like to be together so im ok with this situation

@ranginijeyatharan6665 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@disharajputh9108 2 жыл бұрын

my husband had emotional affairs with his colleague from last 6 months how can I bring him back I don't know how to manage things please help me

@brega6286 Жыл бұрын

Shine the light on it and tell him...NOT ACCEPTABLE !

@littlelily4 Жыл бұрын

Why do you want to stay with a man who has affairs ?

@kaylaferguson6916 Жыл бұрын

Leave him

@Agustina33788 3 жыл бұрын

Is really true 😢

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

😢sad as it is

@leilaniarjonillo9225 3 жыл бұрын

I suggest you improve your sound system. The sound is not too loud enough to be heard

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks... You're right... I'll look into it

@shilpygupta9826 3 жыл бұрын

You are so amazing....

@sanyabari 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Shilpy 🙏🏽

@RainRain-qh9eg Жыл бұрын

What if both of you are married?

@juanitamejia5669 Жыл бұрын

I am in love with a married man long distance he always tells me he can't live without me and that l stole his heart l love him what should l do

@BAMshazam 6 ай бұрын

You're both lying, deceptive, devious adulterous betrayers. Infidels who disrepect and who can't be trusted. Divorce your spouses and get together. You deserve each other.

@90charim Жыл бұрын

Can you share link to your breadcrumbing video

@sherrieshay6173 10 ай бұрын

How about dont just dont hes using you for what he aint getting in his marrage your nothing more than a ten second fly by.Your an emotionl cruch an it not long before hes over it an out the door on both of you.Hes got kids your his convenent babysitter.Dont date a married man just dont it aint worth it.But your not dateing hes just using you for sex litterly.

@BossLady-fh8cj 6 ай бұрын

Delusional people do this. Become mature n if he or she really loves you they will handle what they need to first THEN marry you however you wonder why your not married your deceitful nin your heart your heart myst be right n clean in Gods eyes not man. Then hell givrbyou your OWN MAN NOT SOMEONE ELSE'S. #futureDoctor